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Speaker 1: going together for Stu. I don't joy. You gotta turn you,

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Speaker 1: It only Steve Harvey's got a radio show. Yeah, man boy,

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Speaker 1: God has been good to me. Man, I can't really

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Speaker 1: count at all. You can't either, you know, it's all

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Speaker 1: in perspective. You really can't count all that God has

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Speaker 1: It's unbelievable the things He's done for us. How many

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Speaker 1: to him about it. He just he just blessed us

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Speaker 1: with it. How many you know? It's just it's so

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Speaker 1: much that the fact that you wake up in the morning,

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Speaker 1: the fact that you know may be struggling out here,

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Speaker 1: but guess what, You're still going to work you. You know,

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Speaker 1: you live in check the check, but but you're making

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Speaker 1: it all. You got all the plates spinning. You know,

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Speaker 1: it's hard. You got a lot of plate spinning, but

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Speaker 1: you keep him up there somewhere. Every now, I near

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Speaker 1: you got a lot of people who just can't seem

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Speaker 1: We talked about this oftentimes, but I want to try

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Speaker 1: another angle with you today. You know, maybe it's you.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever thought about that? Maybe it's you. Maybe

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Speaker 1: it's no external force that's at fault, like you keep

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Speaker 1: making the excuse to be You know, so many people

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Speaker 1: I hear, well, if this hadn't have done this, if

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Speaker 1: he hadn't have done that, if she hadn't have done that,

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Speaker 1: I would have been further along. I wasted all my time,

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Speaker 1: my years with this man, and he did this, and

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Speaker 1: I could have been here, and I could have been there,

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Speaker 1: and this woman she did this to meet them. She

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Speaker 1: hadn't have done that. I could have been here, and

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Speaker 1: I could have been there. Maybe it's you. Maybe it's

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Speaker 1: not really that external force that you keep making it

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Speaker 1: out to be. See, I've done this to myself before.

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Speaker 1: Once again, I'm talking to you about something I know about.

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Speaker 1: I've done this to myself before. I've had the reason

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Speaker 1: if you don't ever let it go, it's gonna be

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Speaker 1: I was listening to Bishop td Jake's one day, and

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Speaker 1: Revenge is poor to you, you know, if hatred is

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Speaker 1: you got to avoid them. Stay over here, Oh here

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Speaker 1: at the barbecue, staying, oh lord, I don't want a barbecue.

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Speaker 1: if you it would simplify your life, if you would

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Speaker 1: Because you won't let it go, you won't move forward.

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Speaker 1: Look at this, ladies. Let's say you've been in a

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Speaker 1: for whatever the reason, it just didn't work out. I

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Speaker 1: what he did. I got all of that, YadA, YadA YadA.

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Speaker 1: When you get through, did not God get you through it?

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Speaker 1: Did not he allow you to survive it? I got you,

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Speaker 1: little bit bruised. But did he not get you through it? So,

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Speaker 1: trying to get it right now. But you're sitting there

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Speaker 1: Oh man, you're drinking the poison, waiting on your enemy

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Speaker 1: Forgiveness is not for the other person. Forgiveness is for

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Speaker 1: you to show. Ladies and gentlemen, let me have it

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Speaker 1: you undivided attention. Papa was who rolling stone. Wherever he

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Speaker 1: that was my part right there, Hey mama. Any of

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Speaker 1: the harding heard some folks talking about Papa doing some

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Speaker 1: Shelly Strong Bay, how are you doing that? Hey, good morning, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Good morning, tripping too hard? Calling for real? Never on

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Speaker 1: the temptations, never baby, Mama, what you know about that

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Speaker 1: that Junior? Not too much. But I'm waiting for that.

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Speaker 1: Never I never got mine, never had a chance to

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Speaker 1: see him, never heard nothing but bad things about him. Mama.

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Speaker 1: Mama just hold her head down and said, nephew Tommy.

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Speaker 1: But the checking, okay, because that's Papa doing grad Folks say,

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Speaker 1: Papa with bag babroo Steve to pay his bills. Did

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Speaker 1: anybody hit that note that's walking around right now? They

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Speaker 1: Bana don't forget oh sing as you name it now,

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Speaker 1: get up there, all them singers you name it? Yeah, yeah, Junior, huh,

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Speaker 1: give me one verse of that Jodice Cup. Come on, boy, hey,

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Speaker 1: taking my mother it's the same sing boy my house

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Speaker 1: and my hit up you you didn't have it all

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Speaker 1: good is worse than drum coming Maddy, drive me crazy? Okay,

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Speaker 1: leave youllo. Hey, Julie make a fraid you got me?

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Speaker 1: Fien said, I'm fiening. That's how we wanted to start

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Speaker 1: out day off for y'all. Come on, Julie's can't help it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's the cut. I'm sorry, I feel like that about you.

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Speaker 1: You feel about tim taste. You're listening Morning show right now.

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Speaker 1: The nephew in the building would run that brank back

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Speaker 1: what you got for his nephew were out of here?

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Speaker 1: Ie Man Productions, let's go cat Dog. Hello, Hello, I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to reach Jay Karee. Yes, how are you doing?

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Speaker 1: I'm fine? Are you good? Girl? Good listen. My name

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Speaker 1: is ice Man with Ice Man Productions. Uh, I got

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Speaker 1: my own record label. I've stumbled up on a CD here.

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming this is your demo. You have a demo

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Speaker 1: that's out right now? Yes, all right, with a couple

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Speaker 1: of songs on it, right, Yes, okay, hey listen, I

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Speaker 1: am actually putting together a female group one of my

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Speaker 1: employees gave me your stuff and I've been listening to it.

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Speaker 1: I liked the tune. I liked the vibe and wanted

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Speaker 1: to see if if that's something of interest to you,

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Speaker 1: if you'd like maybe being a in a female group.

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Speaker 1: What kind of female group? Four females in one group.

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Speaker 1: How do you feel about that? I think that could

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Speaker 1: be workable. Okay, okay, um, hold on, I want to say, Okay,

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Speaker 1: who is that? That's Diddy Diddy. I'll call him back,

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Speaker 1: tell him I'm working on this group I talked him about. Okay,

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Speaker 1: sorry about that. Hello, Okay, yeah, you listening to them? Yes?

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Speaker 1: Are you okay? Good deal? So listen if you don't mind,

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Speaker 1: could you? Uh? And I know I'm catching you off

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Speaker 1: gods like this here, you know ice man, Really, I

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Speaker 1: really don't know. Only get on the phone and call people.

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Speaker 1: But I'm heavy about this group and getting it out.

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Speaker 1: I got puffed at he on my butt about it,

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Speaker 1: and uh, you know, he's one of the producers on

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Speaker 1: this thing, and I'm trying to really bring this thing

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Speaker 1: to a head. So why don't you too me in

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Speaker 1: favor if you can, If you don't mind, I take

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Speaker 1: it right, Yes, could you could you possibly maybe uh

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Speaker 1: you know, I just want to hear straight from the

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Speaker 1: straight from your your mouth to my ear. If you

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Speaker 1: Is it realistic to expect not to ever go to bed? Man? Now?

421
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 1: I don't think it is. That's what he's saying. But

422
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 1: that show ainclude to go to bed man. We're gonna

423
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 1: be up all night, or you wake up mad. You

424
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 1: let me tell you something that you know. I hate that.

425
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 1: If you let a woman go to bed mad, she

426
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 1: wake up, she's gonna be just as mad or mad

427
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: because she'd thought about some most stuff. Yeah, now dude's

428
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,959
Speaker 1: wake up and go, hey, baby, how you doing? How

429
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: the hell you think? How was our last night? When

430
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 1: you shut your eyes exactly? Yeah? So no, I think

431
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 1: he's wrong about it's not healthy. All right? Doctor clip

432
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 1: House says you can change them. He says it's a

433
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: romantic idea, the old cliche you can change them. But

434
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 1: he points out it's not your responsibility to change anyone, right.

435
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:47,080
Speaker 1: I agree with it's not your job to change anyone.

436
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 1: Nor don't you nor do you have the ability? Right?

437
00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 1: That's something that women have I mean we may as

438
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: well admit that we're always trying to change. And I

439
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: think it's the nurturer in us. We always Yeah, we

440
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 1: all change him. Yeah change. I know he's like that

441
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 1: right now. But once he gave me six months, Yeah, yeah,

442
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 1: let me work on him. Yeah, I got this. You're

443
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 1: gonna have to work it every day, though, every day

444
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 1: I change, you do it everything. Yeah, but by women

445
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 1: are of that, all right. Here's another one. Some people

446
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 1: never change. That's the cliche, the old school cliche. Doctor

447
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 1: clip Howe says, on the flip side, the suggestion that

448
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: someone is incapable of changing is wrong, and it ignores

449
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:33,560
Speaker 1: the fact that we all have control over our choices.

450
00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 1: So I absolutely agree with that. That's one. Yeah, he's

451
00:30:38,920 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 1: only said one thing I didn't agree with, and that

452
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 1: was the first one. Yeah. I agree with that. You

453
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 1: don't go to bed will change. Yeah, people change man

454
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 1: all right all the time. Here's another one, old school.

455
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: Love will keep you together. Love keep you together. He says,

456
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 1: this works in an old romantic movie, but in real

457
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:01,760
Speaker 1: life it takes a lot more than love to make

458
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 1: it work. WHOA what love got to do? Yeah? Got

459
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:16,320
Speaker 1: to do? What love? But a second handed move shot,

460
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: try to take it off. Gotta do it. Ain't got

461
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 1: nothing to do with it. Many. Yeah, you gotta honor

462
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 1: that commitment. You got to compromise, love, understanding, take the blame,

463
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 1: not be right all the time. Yeah, it never worked

464
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 1: for me never. All right, here's junior. It's that love thing.

465
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 1: I told her I love her, But my replacement was

466
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:52,800
Speaker 1: at the dog when you I'm just like, who is this?

467
00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 1: Oh this Chris? We're going to dinner? You ain't Chris.

468
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 1: I love you though. To the love to the life

469
00:31:57,160 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: and get the lad through. You've been play hard. Yeah,

470
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 1: it's almost like what but you've grown up now, you're

471
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: for now. Yeah, you're good now. Yeah that was back.

472
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 1: Yeah I had We've all been through some things. Yea

473
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 1: up to the game. Yeah all right, old school love

474
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 1: will keep. I mean, know your role in the relationship.

475
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 1: That's old school. Doctor Clappal says, forget this old gender

476
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 1: stereotype and remember there's not a required way for you

477
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 1: to act. Your role in a relationship shouldn't always be

478
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:41,480
Speaker 1: the same. It's constantly shifting. Mist No, your role in

479
00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:44,840
Speaker 1: the relationship, that's old school thinking. Okay, Doctor clip How

480
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 1: says forget this old gender stereotype and remember there is

481
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 1: not a required way for you to act. That's new

482
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 1: school thinking. He says. Your role in a relationship isn't

483
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:59,719
Speaker 1: going to be the same all the time. It's constantly changing,

484
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:03,320
Speaker 1: and that's a good thing, that's what he's saying. He says,

485
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 1: it'll shift organically. Yeah, yeah, and that's a good thing.

486
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 1: You think your roles should stay the same in a relationship, Well,

487
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:17,560
Speaker 1: I mean I think I think your roles have to

488
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 1: be defined so that everybody has an understanding of positioning.

489
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:26,959
Speaker 1: And then I think there has to be some type

490
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 1: of alved give and take where sometimes the other person

491
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: can do that. I'm not saying, like roles like you

492
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 1: do all the cleaning eye, I'm not talking about that. Yeah,

493
00:33:37,840 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 1: but if you're good with money, yeah, do anything. Yeah,

494
00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:43,840
Speaker 1: I mean you know that. And if you either side,

495
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: if you roll playing, then your roles change. Like you know,

496
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 1: I might be bad man one night, you know what

497
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 1: I'm saying, but then next night I might be in

498
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 1: credible hook. You know what I'm saying. Your roles do change.

499
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 1: I have to know that organically right now for and

500
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 1: organic or ganty and realistically, you're neither one. All right,

501
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 1: here's old school. You should stay with them for better

502
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:14,239
Speaker 1: or for worse, he says. He says. We all want

503
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 1: to think our partner will stick around no matter what.

504
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:20,239
Speaker 1: But if a relationship is unhealthy, you don't. You don't

505
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:26,520
Speaker 1: need to stick it out. Out get out, all right,

506
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:32,839
Speaker 1: we do have to get out. You're listening to? All right?

507
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 1: It is time for a round of would you rather

508
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:39,399
Speaker 1: let's jump right in. Would you rather silent treatment from

509
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:43,160
Speaker 1: your mate? Or would you rather argue with your mate?

510
00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 1: Just solve it with an argument? All right? Would you

511
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 1: rather silent silent treatment? Give me silent? I knew you

512
00:34:54,200 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 1: won't anyway, all right? Would you rather your mate initiate

513
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 1: sex every time? Or would you rather skip sex for

514
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:08,960
Speaker 1: a year? Your mate initiates sex every time? Or you

515
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 1: skip sex? Raise up against me, whatever it takes, yes,

516
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:25,080
Speaker 1: come on, all right, all right? Would you would you

517
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:31,800
Speaker 1: rather give an X five hundred thousand dollars? B okay?

518
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 1: All right? Or listen? Would you rather give an X

519
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 1: five hundred thousand dollars? Or would you rather sleep with

520
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 1: an X just one more time? Hey, nobody want to

521
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:51,880
Speaker 1: go back to that? You were so sure though, Steve

522
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 1: initiate for a reason. Boy, Hey here, congratulations by house,

523
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 1: get the McDonald's or whatever you need to do McDonald's. Jay,

524
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 1: haven't heard from you. Uh, if we could lower that price,

525
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 1: we might have work that man. And if you can

526
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 1: come down on that price, that that folds right now,

527
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:23,840
Speaker 1: you feel to sleep little. That's what you're leaning towards.

528
00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to work out a price as reasonable

529
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 1: the price. Tell you what? I tell you what? Jay? Who? Whatever?

530
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: How was you out there to consider going old back? Boy?

531
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 1: That what came through Jake drafted it brown in the

532
00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 1: build was nice. Who would you rather be kissed on

533
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 1: the lips by a complete stranger? Or would you rather

534
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: be licked on the lips by a dog? I ain't

535
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 1: doing it. I don't do dog. No, no, you can

536
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 1: go give me that stranger. Just let me pick up

537
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:17,439
Speaker 1: franger in COVID. Hey that dog, that dog stay. Dog

538
00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 1: mouths are cleaner than he who told you that told

539
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 1: you that. I've seen the dog licks some things. And

540
00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:29,000
Speaker 1: if he lick your lips you wake up in the morning,

541
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 1: your lips will be on the pillow. Just fall off,

542
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 1: all right? Thank you? That is our round of would

543
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 1: you rather for today. You're listening to show. All right,

544
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:52,680
Speaker 1: Steve your man, your boy in nineteen eighty six, as

545
00:37:52,680 --> 00:38:02,640
Speaker 1: you told us earlier, not staying hit though, Junior and Tommy,

546
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 1: all you guys are here for what you say, what

547
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:07,759
Speaker 1: you say you're gonna do. You tell them Jay, what

548
00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 1: you say you're gonna You know everybody roped rounding about

549
00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 1: this time. People make plans or I'm gonna do this.

550
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:15,200
Speaker 1: It's gonna be a new year. I'm gonna start off friends,

551
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:17,399
Speaker 1: But I got it right here. What you say you're

552
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: gonna do and what you're really gonna do. Now, you

553
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,399
Speaker 1: say you're gonna go to the gym and work out,

554
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:26,759
Speaker 1: but what you're gonna do is joining membership, go one

555
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 1: day with your big ass, and then you're gonna complain

556
00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 1: that machines is nasty and you ain't going back. That's

557
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:35,360
Speaker 1: what you don't do. That's what you really donna do.

558
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 1: You say you're gonna save some money this year, that's

559
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:42,800
Speaker 1: what you say you gonna do. I'm saving money saving

560
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 1: You didn't save about five hundred. As soon as that

561
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 1: sale come around, it's all ye. That's what you say

562
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 1: you're gonna do, But what you're really gonna do. You

563
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,719
Speaker 1: say you're gonna be nicer to your mother in law.

564
00:38:56,000 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 1: You're gonna call on the phone trying to be nice.

565
00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 1: You're gonna about three minutes into this damn conversation, it

566
00:39:03,040 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 1: ain't worth talking to her ass at all. That's what

567
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:11,760
Speaker 1: you'll say you're gonna do. And what you're gonna do, ladies,

568
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 1: you said everywhere, I'm getting rid of him. He's useless,

569
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 1: he ain't no good, he ain't doing nothing but taking

570
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:20,799
Speaker 1: me down. And I'm gonna be about me this year.

571
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 1: But what you're gonna do is let him hit it

572
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 1: one more time and then you're gonna break it up.

573
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 1: That's what you do. Wow, I wasn't expecting that. You

574
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 1: don't let you gonna let it get it one? You

575
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 1: gonna do that? What you're really gonna do? You say,

576
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop smoking that stuff. I ain't smoking no

577
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 1: mote because it ain't good for you. But dude, gonna

578
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 1: look at that big stash you got of this hit. Well,

579
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:52,759
Speaker 1: I got to clean that up. I got to get

580
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 1: rid of all of that. Yeah, let that go away. Jay,

581
00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 1: got one? You got one. Let me know you do

582
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 1: don't do? And what you do you make your New

583
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 1: Year's resolution that you ain't gonna cuss no more. You

584
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 1: headed to your best friend. Hey, man, I ain't gonna

585
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 1: custom more. He said, Well, your fat ass should have

586
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:25,319
Speaker 1: said you're gonna lose some weight instead. Man, just right

587
00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:31,960
Speaker 1: the man, kiss my kiss money. That's what you're really

588
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:39,040
Speaker 1: gonna do here, money. Yeah, that's a resolution, as he

589
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:43,319
Speaker 1: said about your weight, do some way. What you can

590
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 1: do is kiss my you know what? Right right off?

591
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 1: Black ass. Yeah, now that's go. Oh you say you're

592
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 1: gonna spend more time with your grandkids because you love them.

593
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: You don't get to see him much. They're gonna come

594
00:40:57,360 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 1: over that one day. You're gonna figure out it's just

595
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:02,320
Speaker 1: better to sitting there as five dollars in a card

596
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 1: and call it a damn gating. I don't need him

597
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:13,799
Speaker 1: over here at all, but not least I'm gonna read

598
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:19,359
Speaker 1: the Bible more. Come on God, because I need him

599
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 1: in my life. Out Joel Osten, come on in the morning,

600
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 1: and I got this. I got to read a damn

601
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 1: that's what's gonna do. And what you're gonna do that, Jake,

602
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:46,759
Speaker 1: how about this, Jake? You got one? You got one.

603
00:41:47,080 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 1: I ain't eating pork no more. Yes, I gave it up.

604
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 1: Pork every year. I'm giving it up right after first.

605
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna have January first, sausage bason all on

606
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:03,279
Speaker 1: the same plate with eggs. Grif you wouldn't gonna give up,

607
00:42:03,960 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 1: that's what you're really gonna do. You decided that you

608
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:14,400
Speaker 1: gonna pay your ties this year. I'm playing all my

609
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:17,920
Speaker 1: tish this year. Next Sunday passed to pull up in

610
00:42:17,960 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 1: the new ride. I'm not helping him make payments now,

611
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:26,719
Speaker 1: That's what I'm not. Hell, no, I'm not giving it

612
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 1: all right, guys, thank you so much. Coming up next

613
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 1: the nephew in the building with the frank phone call

614
00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:40,880
Speaker 1: for today. Right after this, you're listening to the Steve

615
00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show coming up in the top of the hour,

616
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:48,240
Speaker 1: right about four minutes after. It's my strawberry letter for today.

617
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 1: Subject my husband's drinking is no longer a secret. But

618
00:42:53,960 --> 00:42:56,120
Speaker 1: right now it is the nephew where we know who

619
00:42:56,160 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 1: this letter, but we don't know who wrote it. Steve

620
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 1: right now, never you tell me is here with today's

621
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:14,880
Speaker 1: praying phone call. Now, Oh god, I'm going to be

622
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 1: stow it up to be st know welcome to the

623
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 1: stupid universe. Oh y'all, man, let me tell yallself. Man,

624
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 1: if you got a seatbill, put it on you know,

625
00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 1: if you if you, I don't know, see what else

626
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 1: can you put on on the Seatbill? Seabill? Uh? If

627
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 1: your kids got to call seat in the back, you know,

628
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 1: lock dad and make this like all lady in there? Okay,

629
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Speaker 1: Uncle Steve. This right here is Lester Tuckle. That's what

630
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 1: this is. Now though, let me kiss the climate for

631
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 1: leicster Tucker. You sure, oh this is gonna be the climate?

632
00:43:56,160 --> 00:43:59,799
Speaker 1: But less Tucker, what's wrong with the claim? Y'all think

633
00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 1: you're about the literal weather? It's a little too testy? Okay?

634
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:10,759
Speaker 1: What yes? What Wester? Read it right now? Play it,

635
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:16,719
Speaker 1: cat dog, play it right now. Yes, I'm trying to

636
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:20,279
Speaker 1: reach a Lester Tucker. This is Tucker all right, miss Tucker?

637
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:22,399
Speaker 1: How you doing? This? Is our Curtis Walking soul brother

638
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 1: number nine. I'm with the BP of A and H

639
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:30,840
Speaker 1: the BP of A Black People of America. What the okay? Listen,

640
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: we are we're doing a survey today. We're calling a

641
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 1: lot of white households and we're trying to figure out

642
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:38,439
Speaker 1: have y'all been using the N word in your house?

643
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:40,879
Speaker 1: And if you have, how many times are you using

644
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:42,879
Speaker 1: the N word on a daily basis in your house?

645
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 1: The N word? What is said? I don't use the

646
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:49,439
Speaker 1: N word in my house. I got youngest. We don't

647
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: do that around my house. Have you been using the

648
00:44:51,640 --> 00:44:54,759
Speaker 1: N word at your job? Ahead? Know what kind of

649
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 1: sh No? Back to hell? Up? What did you just say?

650
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:01,239
Speaker 1: You got what at your job? I got black? Look?

651
00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 1: Why this is yours? If I you see N word,

652
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 1: I paid the rent in this trailer, organ says, MA word. Hey,

653
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:13,800
Speaker 1: hold on, hold wait a minute, brother, Now look minute

654
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:16,279
Speaker 1: you called me. Hey, hey, let me explain some something

655
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:20,360
Speaker 1: to you, sir. We're we're doing. All we're doing is

656
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,840
Speaker 1: a survey. Now, I will tell you this. We do

657
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:26,080
Speaker 1: have surveillances at your place, and we will be trying

658
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:29,719
Speaker 1: to figure out if you and my trailer. We will

659
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 1: be taking dictating. We will be trying to figure out

660
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 1: if you're using an N word. Let me tell if

661
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:37,560
Speaker 1: I won't say the N word, I say words I

662
00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:40,400
Speaker 1: don't want to say. If I find some surveillor to

663
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 1: my trailer, I will come and keep kill Black People

664
00:45:43,320 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 1: Association didn't hear me. You know who you? Uh? Just

665
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:51,440
Speaker 1: you must the tuck? Ain't you? You got right? I'm

666
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 1: must the tucker. Do you want to know how many

667
00:45:53,920 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 1: times I said say the N word. We're trying to

668
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 1: get a survey on it, sir, That's what we're trying to,

669
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 1: just trying to starting I'm with I'm Curtis walking with

670
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:04,439
Speaker 1: Black people of America. Don't give the hell I'm giving

671
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 1: who you are Curtis walking? Sir? Why are you calling

672
00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:09,719
Speaker 1: my house? Sir? I'm just here to ask have you

673
00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: been using it? And have you been using it at

674
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 1: your job? Why did I tell you I don't use

675
00:46:14,080 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 1: to to my house because I got kids. I don't

676
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 1: use at the job because I got black people to

677
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:21,040
Speaker 1: work for me. Okay, I don't want to run them

678
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:23,840
Speaker 1: off my calling them names. Okay, Well, when you go

679
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 1: down to the club by yourself, are you guys in

680
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 1: there using it? Look? Come on, now, be honest with me.

681
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 1: Are you guys in there using it? Man? Let me

682
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 1: tell you something I don't know what about, but it's

683
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 1: sounding me like you. Look, I got black neighbors, all right,

684
00:46:37,440 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 1: I ain't. I ain't like that. I ain't like that. Okay, Well,

685
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:41,319
Speaker 1: let me ask you this when you just when it's

686
00:46:41,360 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 1: just you and them, them good old boys, when it's

687
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:46,880
Speaker 1: just y'all, are you using that in word? Well, let

688
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: me ask you this when it's just you and you're

689
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: and you're hoodling a little buddy, do you? I mean, what,

690
00:46:51,440 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 1: what the hell do you call white people? You use it?

691
00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 1: I am not used the words, sir. I don't want

692
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 1: to get like. I tell you who the hell you are? Sir.

693
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 1: I'm doing the time. I'm doing the survey here. I

694
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 1: don't all right, why will white people of America? How

695
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:11,879
Speaker 1: about that? See we can't have her home association? Oh

696
00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:16,320
Speaker 1: hell no calling me up, call me, ask me question. Okay,

697
00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 1: I just got one more thing to tell you. Are

698
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:23,680
Speaker 1: you familiar Williams. Yeah, he works for me. This nephew

699
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 1: tim Me from the Steve Harvey Morning Show. You just

700
00:47:25,880 --> 00:47:32,920
Speaker 1: got pranked by william You all right, man? You got

701
00:47:33,080 --> 00:47:36,719
Speaker 1: kind of ribbed up? Man? Well man, you you w

702
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 1: U see that? Brother? He told me, he said, he said,

703
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 1: this white guy is gonna go off. He said, trust me,

704
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:45,120
Speaker 1: he does not use the N word, but just act

705
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 1: like he's been using it and he's gonna go to

706
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:53,240
Speaker 1: hell offa see that man tells me money anyway. Hell,

707
00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:58,319
Speaker 1: all right, let's the cab. I gotta ask you, man,

708
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 1: what's the baddest radio your show in the land. Let

709
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 1: me tell you if the Steve Harvey Morning Show, and

710
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 1: you know how I know some black guys it work

711
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 1: for me. Have that? Then you have it? Baby, Wow,

712
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: what's wrong? Call? Call it? Don't fix the climate of

713
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 1: what were in right now? My nerves? A man, can't

714
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:28,319
Speaker 1: you play way too much? I mean you just can

715
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:31,200
Speaker 1: you draw the line anywhere? I drew the line and

716
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:34,680
Speaker 1: then I called less the duck went over the edge.

717
00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:38,120
Speaker 1: But well, it's the bp A call. It's the black

718
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:41,440
Speaker 1: people that number middle. Now, you took that line from

719
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 1: your uncle, that lesson from your uncle. You don't how

720
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 1: do you know when you go over the edge. Unless

721
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 1: you go over, you got to go there. And that's

722
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 1: yea yeah, the bp A baby, the black people are

723
00:48:53,680 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 1: the middle. Hello. That was my dude right there. He

724
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:02,520
Speaker 1: had a good spirit, thank God, because he was cool.

725
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:07,239
Speaker 1: You know, he was real right? Yeah? Yeah, I played

726
00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:11,040
Speaker 1: written news here trailer. I say what I won't Shay

727
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:17,719
Speaker 1: Freed where they called white people what about that? Yeah?

728
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 1: But we can't why I'm from the association wiping neck.

729
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:34,359
Speaker 1: We can't have a camera. Boy, he understood race relationship perfectly. Yeah, man,

730
00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:37,280
Speaker 1: how did you come up with this crazy stuff? Tommy?

731
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, sure to check us out. So this

732
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:42,279
Speaker 1: is let me tell you what I just I just

733
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 1: I just put this down. Oh my god, let me

734
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:46,360
Speaker 1: show it to you. Check us out here on my

735
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:48,399
Speaker 1: here on my next list, right here, y'all, y'all tell

736
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:52,200
Speaker 1: me if y'all like this. Okay, okay, that's what I

737
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:55,839
Speaker 1: got coming up. Come on, Tommy, where's the word? Okay? Uh,

738
00:49:56,040 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 1: this is called no No. I'm with the U Triple

739
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:05,120
Speaker 1: A Bell Buns. Eric asked me to call you to

740
00:50:05,280 --> 00:50:09,319
Speaker 1: help pay his fifty thousand dollar bun. I'm gonna need

741
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:11,880
Speaker 1: you to bring five k in the morning. When should

742
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:15,160
Speaker 1: I expect y'all? That's that's that's that there's a dude

743
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:17,600
Speaker 1: in jail. I'm working on that prank. Y'all ain't read

744
00:50:17,640 --> 00:50:20,879
Speaker 1: it for that one? Okay, how about this right here?

745
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:24,920
Speaker 1: But why why would he do any of these pranks?

746
00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 1: These are a good pranks right here. Check this out.

747
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:30,080
Speaker 1: I overheard you give your number to the clerk at

748
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:33,439
Speaker 1: the stop. So I decided to call you what you're doing?

749
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 1: Try to haul out the clerk at the store. Man,

750
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 1: you overheard my number? Okay, watch this. Watch so I

751
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:50,400
Speaker 1: got somebody that gave me this information out here. It's

752
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:52,440
Speaker 1: a it's a it's a guy to work at the

753
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 1: work at the Pittstough. All right. I called this bird

754
00:50:55,600 --> 00:50:58,880
Speaker 1: talk Um. I'm gonna call the Pittstow and ask him

755
00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 1: can I speak to one of the parrots? All right?

756
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:03,759
Speaker 1: And that's going to determine if I want to buy

757
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 1: the bird or not. I need to speak to the parents. Y'all.

758
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:14,759
Speaker 1: Tommy working over you, okay, just to keep you up

759
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 1: at night? Do you think of this stuff at night?

760
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:21,120
Speaker 1: I wake up and text myself and make show I

761
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:23,920
Speaker 1: got my stuff. You do what? You wake up and

762
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 1: do what I text myself. You don't talk to you, y'all. Y'all, y'all,

763
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:33,759
Speaker 1: don't see the stupivity shining through here. What if you

764
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:38,439
Speaker 1: don't text you, who's gonna talk to you? Food? All right? Look,

765
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:41,960
Speaker 1: just let that marinate. Let it here, all right? Thank you, nephew.

766
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:44,800
Speaker 1: We got a girl coming up. Strawberry letter. Next subject,

767
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 1: my husband's drinking is no longer a secret. We'll get

768
00:51:49,520 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 1: into that right after this. You're listening to the String Show.

769
00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: Right now, it's time for the Strawberry Letter. If you

770
00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, on data, on sex, on parenting,

771
00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:05,400
Speaker 1: on work, and more, Please submit your Strawberry Letter to

772
00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:09,359
Speaker 1: Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. Please

773
00:52:09,400 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 1: tell him Steve Man today, where she's saying, where she

774
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:23,160
Speaker 1: had just say? She being mean everything, and we could

775
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:25,000
Speaker 1: be reading your letter on the air live, just like

776
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:28,799
Speaker 1: we're reading this one right now. Let's go, nephew, buckle up,

777
00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 1: hold on tight. Here it is the straw Dary. My

778
00:52:33,239 --> 00:52:37,640
Speaker 1: husband's drinking is no longer a secret. Dear Stephen Shirley,

779
00:52:37,800 --> 00:52:40,480
Speaker 1: My husband and I have been married for fifteen years

780
00:52:40,600 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 1: and we have two children. My husband is a functioning alcoholic.

781
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:49,279
Speaker 1: He can work a full day without drinking, but as

782
00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:52,960
Speaker 1: soon as he's off the clock, he starts drinking. He

783
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:56,520
Speaker 1: drinks in private. He doesn't leave his alcohol out where

784
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:59,200
Speaker 1: I can see it, but I can always smell it

785
00:52:59,400 --> 00:53:03,120
Speaker 1: in his up. This started shortly after we got married,

786
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 1: and I allowed it and never confronted him. I can

787
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 1: always tell when he's been drinking by the changes in

788
00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:12,680
Speaker 1: his behavior and how he treats me and the kids.

789
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 1: It's gotten worse recently, and I brought it to his attention.

790
00:53:16,960 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 1: I told him that I know exactly what he's up to.

791
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:23,520
Speaker 1: He says that he drinks too unwind every now and then. Well,

792
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:26,200
Speaker 1: a few weeks ago, he left work early for a

793
00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 1: doctor's appointment, and later that evening he came home in

794
00:53:29,760 --> 00:53:33,640
Speaker 1: an uber and he was totally wasted. He could not

795
00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 1: stand up, and he was talking so much trash that

796
00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:38,759
Speaker 1: I had to tell the kids to leave the room.

797
00:53:39,200 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 1: He called me all kinds of names and told me

798
00:53:42,480 --> 00:53:47,759
Speaker 1: that he was miserable in our marriage. The next day,

799
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:51,320
Speaker 1: I took the kids and left him. I've been staying

800
00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:53,799
Speaker 1: with my mom for three weeks, and during that time

801
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:57,239
Speaker 1: I encouraged him to get some help. My husband is

802
00:53:57,320 --> 00:54:00,319
Speaker 1: great when he's sober, but he needs some professional help

803
00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:03,400
Speaker 1: with his drinking. I have checked out, and I'm no

804
00:54:03,520 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 1: longer trying to keep our marriage going. He visits me

805
00:54:06,800 --> 00:54:09,080
Speaker 1: and the kids and we still do some things as

806
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 1: a family, and he's always sober when we see him.

807
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:15,400
Speaker 1: He wants more, but I don't. Neither of us can

808
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 1: afford to live on our own. What should I do? Well,

809
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:23,800
Speaker 1: I mean, the obvious thing is there's no kind of marriage.

810
00:54:24,200 --> 00:54:27,239
Speaker 1: If you're just staying together because you can't afford to

811
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:29,640
Speaker 1: live on your own, you can't afford to live apart,

812
00:54:30,000 --> 00:54:33,279
Speaker 1: that's no marriage. I mean, what about real love and

813
00:54:33,440 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 1: real relationship and a real marriage. I mean, you're absolutely right,

814
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 1: as his wife and as his friend hopefully to encourage

815
00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:45,000
Speaker 1: him to get some help, because that and the Lord himself,

816
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 1: it seems, are the only things that can make this

817
00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:52,080
Speaker 1: situation better and work this situation out. You know you've

818
00:54:52,480 --> 00:54:55,840
Speaker 1: allowed it. You've been married for fifteen years. You've allowed it.

819
00:54:55,920 --> 00:54:58,480
Speaker 1: He started drinking shortly after you got married, and you

820
00:54:58,600 --> 00:55:00,960
Speaker 1: say you did allow it and never confronted him about it.

821
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:04,400
Speaker 1: You can always tell when he's drinking because you can

822
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:07,799
Speaker 1: smell it. This thing has blown up. It's blown out

823
00:55:07,840 --> 00:55:10,759
Speaker 1: of proportion. Now he's stumbling drunk when he comes in.

824
00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:13,000
Speaker 1: He can't even drive home. At least he has a

825
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:16,759
Speaker 1: wherewithal to know that he shouldn't be driving when he's

826
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:21,720
Speaker 1: that wasted. So I encourage you to continue to encourage

827
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:23,480
Speaker 1: him to get some help. And if he doesn't get

828
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:26,600
Speaker 1: any help, it does look like this marriage is over.

829
00:55:27,680 --> 00:55:30,880
Speaker 1: And that's unfortunate because you guys have kids. But he

830
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:37,439
Speaker 1: says he's been miserable since the very beginning. What, Steve, Yeah,

831
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 1: he says he's been miserable since since the very beginning.

832
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:44,200
Speaker 1: And you're not willing, you don't want anymore either. But

833
00:55:44,960 --> 00:55:47,160
Speaker 1: the part about you can't afford to live on your own,

834
00:55:47,360 --> 00:55:49,879
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to work that out, Get a second job,

835
00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:52,200
Speaker 1: do whatever you have to do, because it looks like

836
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:55,479
Speaker 1: this marriage is doomed, especially if he doesn't get any

837
00:55:55,560 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 1: help and change his behavior. Steve, let me, let me

838
00:55:59,480 --> 00:56:02,880
Speaker 1: let me just read something to y'all. Okay, my husband

839
00:56:02,920 --> 00:56:07,480
Speaker 1: and I have been made fifteen years. We have two children.

840
00:56:08,160 --> 00:56:11,640
Speaker 1: My husband is a functioning alcoholic. He could work a

841
00:56:11,760 --> 00:56:14,359
Speaker 1: full day without drinking, but as soon as he get

842
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:18,239
Speaker 1: off the clock, he starts drinking. Do that sound for me?

843
00:56:20,600 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 1: I don't know what you're saying, Steve. I hope, I hope.

844
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 1: I don't know. Fifteen years, got two kids. No one

845
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 1: we know wrote this letter, Steve. I didn't ask you,

846
00:56:34,719 --> 00:56:37,239
Speaker 1: do you know who wrote it? I asked you that

847
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:43,839
Speaker 1: this part right here sound familiar to anybody other than me? No? Well?

848
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:48,400
Speaker 1: To me, no, well, it sounds familiar to me. What

849
00:56:48,520 --> 00:56:57,480
Speaker 1: are you saying? Just say it anyway? He started. Here's

850
00:56:57,480 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 1: another one. This started shortly. I'll say it again. This

851
00:57:04,800 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 1: started shortly. Oh, the word and everybody that that sounds

852
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:14,360
Speaker 1: like anybody? We know why because of the word shortly, shortly.

853
00:57:16,760 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 1: This letter is full of clues. It is not a

854
00:57:20,840 --> 00:57:23,800
Speaker 1: mystery that we're trying to solve. We're trying to help

855
00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:26,280
Speaker 1: this lady. And this is what she said. I can

856
00:57:26,400 --> 00:57:29,880
Speaker 1: always tell when he'd been drinking by the changes in

857
00:57:30,080 --> 00:57:38,720
Speaker 1: his behavior. Who the hell can't everybody? Everybody knows somebody

858
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:42,920
Speaker 1: when they start drinking. She's sitting up here like she

859
00:57:43,080 --> 00:57:46,600
Speaker 1: the head a damn revolution or revelation comes in here

860
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:49,560
Speaker 1: talking about No, I can always tell when he's been drinking.

861
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:55,080
Speaker 1: Who can't. I'll be back, yeah, with part two of

862
00:57:55,160 --> 00:58:00,080
Speaker 1: your response. Today's subject is my husband's drinking is no

863
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:03,479
Speaker 1: longer a secret? Will be back at twenty three after

864
00:58:03,600 --> 00:58:09,960
Speaker 1: the hour you're listening, All right, Steve, let's go. Let's recap.

865
00:58:10,480 --> 00:58:15,480
Speaker 1: The subject is my husband's drinking is no longer a secret. Well,

866
00:58:15,640 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 1: here's a dude who this woman claims as a functioning alcoholic.

867
00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:24,600
Speaker 1: He drinks in private, he never leave alcohol out where

868
00:58:24,600 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 1: they could see it. This started after they gotten married. Yeah,

869
00:58:28,320 --> 00:58:32,800
Speaker 1: and she never confronted him. She can always tell when

870
00:58:32,840 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 1: he's been drinking because it changes any behavior, and the

871
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 1: way he treat me and a kid has gotten worse recently.

872
00:58:38,920 --> 00:58:40,600
Speaker 1: I bought it to his attention. I told him I

873
00:58:40,720 --> 00:58:43,320
Speaker 1: know exactly what he's up to. He says he drinks

874
00:58:43,520 --> 00:58:47,320
Speaker 1: unwind every nine need well. A few weeks ago, he

875
00:58:47,520 --> 00:58:51,720
Speaker 1: left work early for doctor's appointment. Later that evening, he

876
00:58:51,880 --> 00:58:54,880
Speaker 1: came home in an uber and was totally wasted. This

877
00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:58,240
Speaker 1: when you drunk, when you leave your car anywhere, and

878
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:02,000
Speaker 1: you don't leave your car telling some people after the

879
00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:07,120
Speaker 1: ball go hey hey you can't drive alright, Hell right,

880
00:59:07,680 --> 00:59:10,240
Speaker 1: we're calling you an uber and let's thank God for

881
00:59:10,320 --> 00:59:14,160
Speaker 1: stuff like that. He couldn't stand up. He was talking

882
00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:16,080
Speaker 1: so much trash. I had to tell the kids to

883
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:18,920
Speaker 1: lead the room. He called me all kinds of names.

884
00:59:19,640 --> 00:59:22,960
Speaker 1: See when you get drunking, come out. And finally he

885
00:59:23,160 --> 00:59:26,000
Speaker 1: told me, this is what I was thinking the drinking

886
00:59:26,160 --> 00:59:30,600
Speaker 1: was about. He was miserable in our marriage. Yeah, that's

887
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:34,640
Speaker 1: what he said, miserable. But let me share something with you,

888
00:59:34,760 --> 00:59:38,480
Speaker 1: th old lady, you've been miserable too, if you honestly

889
00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:40,440
Speaker 1: think about it, and I'll show you why. I know

890
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:43,040
Speaker 1: you've been miserable because the next day you took the

891
00:59:43,160 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 1: kids and you left. I've been staying with my mom

892
00:59:45,360 --> 00:59:48,240
Speaker 1: for three weeks, and during that time I've encouraged him

893
00:59:48,280 --> 00:59:50,800
Speaker 1: to get some help, and he need help. My husband

894
00:59:50,920 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 1: is great when he's sober, but he needs some professional

895
00:59:53,520 --> 00:59:56,080
Speaker 1: help with his drinking. I checked out and I no

896
00:59:56,240 --> 00:59:58,760
Speaker 1: longer trying to keep our marriage going. That's because you've

897
00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:01,200
Speaker 1: been through for a long time. This was just the

898
01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:03,800
Speaker 1: tip of the iceberg. This was just the straw that

899
01:00:03,920 --> 01:00:07,640
Speaker 1: broke the camel's back. You got sick of it. This

900
01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:12,160
Speaker 1: was the last time. See, you've been miserable too, So

901
01:00:12,360 --> 01:00:15,280
Speaker 1: don't wear this just because this drunk dude and came

902
01:00:15,320 --> 01:00:17,560
Speaker 1: in here and had a revelation in front of you

903
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:21,080
Speaker 1: and a kid. I've been miserable in the marriage. You

904
01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:24,520
Speaker 1: went soberly. You went, well, i'll be dam I have

905
01:00:24,920 --> 01:00:28,240
Speaker 1: to and me and the kids is over mama's house.

906
01:00:28,840 --> 01:00:30,200
Speaker 1: Now you're gonna have to go on the act like

907
01:00:30,280 --> 01:00:32,240
Speaker 1: a girl. Now he the one got to move. You

908
01:00:32,320 --> 01:00:35,520
Speaker 1: go back to the house. Let him move. She put

909
01:00:35,640 --> 01:00:37,920
Speaker 1: up with it for a long time. Yeah, he visits

910
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:40,880
Speaker 1: me and the kids. We still do some things together

911
01:00:41,040 --> 01:00:44,800
Speaker 1: the family, and he's always sober when we seen. He

912
01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:47,800
Speaker 1: wants more, but I don't. Neither of us can afford

913
01:00:47,840 --> 01:00:50,560
Speaker 1: to live on our own. What should I do? Well?

914
01:00:51,560 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 1: You fit to be roommates with alcoholic. You ain't got

915
01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 1: the money to go nowhere. He ain't got enough money

916
01:00:58,040 --> 01:01:01,240
Speaker 1: to put you out something. You're fit to live with

917
01:01:01,320 --> 01:01:07,880
Speaker 1: an alcoholic as a roommate, telling kids quick calling him daddy,

918
01:01:07,920 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 1: started calling him Jerome. Yeah, let's telling kids and hit

919
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:17,120
Speaker 1: your daddy no more. He's a roommate. Don't do nothing

920
01:01:17,160 --> 01:01:19,520
Speaker 1: together as a family no more. When he come in

921
01:01:19,600 --> 01:01:22,280
Speaker 1: the room, y'all cut the TV off in league, But

922
01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 1: he's sober when they see him. When they go out

923
01:01:24,600 --> 01:01:27,360
Speaker 1: on family outing, he gonna get drunk less he gets

924
01:01:27,400 --> 01:01:30,160
Speaker 1: some help, Yeah, yeah, he definitely needs and if he

925
01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:33,160
Speaker 1: wants more, he gonna drink when he gets off work,

926
01:01:33,440 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 1: and you're gonna have another episode. My suggestion to you

927
01:01:37,160 --> 01:01:40,840
Speaker 1: is follow your heart. He has to get help before

928
01:01:40,920 --> 01:01:43,000
Speaker 1: he can come back. He's probably a great guy, like

929
01:01:43,120 --> 01:01:46,320
Speaker 1: you say, But after he gets help and completes the

930
01:01:46,400 --> 01:01:50,000
Speaker 1: program twelve step and every Wednesday, probably had to go

931
01:01:50,120 --> 01:01:55,440
Speaker 1: on in every time. I'm Jerome, I'm an alcoholic because

932
01:01:55,480 --> 01:01:57,200
Speaker 1: they make you say that at the meetings. I ain't

933
01:01:57,200 --> 01:01:59,200
Speaker 1: never been to the meetings before. I've seen it on

934
01:01:59,320 --> 01:02:02,360
Speaker 1: TV in movies, like I had to go into. I

935
01:02:02,480 --> 01:02:04,560
Speaker 1: was in a group one time that was, you know,

936
01:02:04,720 --> 01:02:07,960
Speaker 1: with physical disadvantages. I was in the group one time

937
01:02:08,040 --> 01:02:10,280
Speaker 1: when you had to stand up and admit your flaw.

938
01:02:10,640 --> 01:02:13,200
Speaker 1: What I've had to do that before? And what did

939
01:02:13,280 --> 01:02:15,760
Speaker 1: you stand up? Ad met? Tom Steve and I have

940
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:20,840
Speaker 1: big limps. I've had to say that big limpidonymous. Yeah.

941
01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 1: And then but the ladies standing next to me, how

942
01:02:23,760 --> 01:02:26,200
Speaker 1: I'm class and I have a huge nose. And I

943
01:02:26,280 --> 01:02:29,760
Speaker 1: looked at her and I went, damn, man, you should

944
01:02:29,760 --> 01:02:32,760
Speaker 1: have been in this class where you be. I don't

945
01:02:32,800 --> 01:02:35,600
Speaker 1: know how you deal with that. Can you see anybody

946
01:02:35,720 --> 01:02:41,720
Speaker 1: on your right limp with your other such a group?

947
01:02:41,920 --> 01:02:45,040
Speaker 1: Is there that problem is? You know I was looking

948
01:02:45,080 --> 01:02:47,360
Speaker 1: at getting into him. You know what I'm saying. I

949
01:02:47,480 --> 01:02:49,440
Speaker 1: just try to stay abreast to these type of help

950
01:02:49,520 --> 01:02:51,840
Speaker 1: groups cases. People out there listening to straw bed letter

951
01:02:52,040 --> 01:02:54,520
Speaker 1: that need help. You know, they got they got class

952
01:02:54,600 --> 01:02:59,680
Speaker 1: with high Yeah, I'm harold and I'm uggled that class

953
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:05,320
Speaker 1: waiting lists though that hasn't waiting waiting to get in that. Yeah,

954
01:03:06,920 --> 01:03:08,920
Speaker 1: how do you get help for that? Though? I mean

955
01:03:09,360 --> 01:03:11,600
Speaker 1: from being ugly? No, what you do, you can't get

956
01:03:11,760 --> 01:03:15,360
Speaker 1: help from being ugly? You have you heard? You learn coping? Coping, y'all?

957
01:03:15,400 --> 01:03:17,600
Speaker 1: How to deal with it? Like you know, don't don't

958
01:03:17,640 --> 01:03:20,360
Speaker 1: stay in the mirror longer than ten seconds, because you

959
01:03:20,720 --> 01:03:24,160
Speaker 1: can't at of time ten seconds? Just do your hair

960
01:03:25,000 --> 01:03:27,080
Speaker 1: and get on. Don't you brush your teeth in the

961
01:03:27,120 --> 01:03:29,440
Speaker 1: mirror and stuff? And I don't. I'll be in my

962
01:03:29,560 --> 01:03:33,360
Speaker 1: calls at brushing my teeth because I know, not standing

963
01:03:33,400 --> 01:03:35,320
Speaker 1: there and look at it, because I'm gonna see something wrong.

964
01:03:35,760 --> 01:03:37,880
Speaker 1: Because if you stat yourself long enough, you know one

965
01:03:37,920 --> 01:03:40,360
Speaker 1: of your eyes ain't the same size as the other one. Well,

966
01:03:40,360 --> 01:03:42,920
Speaker 1: you just kept it too. Yeah, one of my lips

967
01:03:43,160 --> 01:03:45,320
Speaker 1: is bigger than the other one, which one top or

968
01:03:45,360 --> 01:03:51,480
Speaker 1: bottom or the bottom? I can't easily to bottom that

969
01:03:51,600 --> 01:03:55,680
Speaker 1: thing got some weight, like some canny bottom lip around

970
01:03:55,720 --> 01:03:57,640
Speaker 1: like walking around with a five pound bag of sugar

971
01:03:58,120 --> 01:04:04,480
Speaker 1: on your face. To do that, You're crazy? All right, Well, listen,

972
01:04:04,560 --> 01:04:07,040
Speaker 1: we gotta go. Thank you, for that, Steve. Uh, you

973
01:04:07,120 --> 01:04:09,280
Speaker 1: know I'm here for you. Yeah, I see. You can

974
01:04:09,400 --> 01:04:12,640
Speaker 1: email us or instagram us your thoughts on today's Strawberry

975
01:04:12,760 --> 01:04:14,920
Speaker 1: Letter at Steve Harvey FM, or you can go to

976
01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:18,919
Speaker 1: My Girls Shirley. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.

977
01:04:19,640 --> 01:04:23,400
Speaker 1: All right, guys, time for a comedy roulette. Today's categories

978
01:04:23,560 --> 01:04:27,760
Speaker 1: are things you say to people to help you move. Lies,

979
01:04:27,880 --> 01:04:31,880
Speaker 1: men tell to get out of the house, lies women

980
01:04:31,960 --> 01:04:35,480
Speaker 1: tell to get out of the house, the warm uh huh.

981
01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:38,560
Speaker 1: And lastly, stuff white people say to black people that

982
01:04:38,680 --> 01:04:42,200
Speaker 1: they think is really cool. All right, Oh yeah, let's

983
01:04:42,200 --> 01:04:51,360
Speaker 1: spend the wheel, spun it. Okay, come on, come on,

984
01:04:51,800 --> 01:04:54,640
Speaker 1: come on, getting out the house, come on, let's go.

985
01:04:54,960 --> 01:04:58,480
Speaker 1: Oh it stopped. And stuff white people say to black

986
01:04:58,560 --> 01:05:01,600
Speaker 1: people that they think is really cool. Let's let's get

987
01:05:01,680 --> 01:05:04,160
Speaker 1: right into it. Let's get right into it. Here we go.

988
01:05:04,720 --> 01:05:07,800
Speaker 1: We just sliced up a whole lot of watermelon. I'm

989
01:05:07,880 --> 01:05:17,600
Speaker 1: sure you like it. I'm sure you like it. So um,

990
01:05:17,800 --> 01:05:22,960
Speaker 1: do all of you all know the hip hop thing? Oh?

991
01:05:23,040 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 1: Y'all know hip hop? Don't you? White people say the

992
01:05:25,600 --> 01:05:29,439
Speaker 1: black people that they think it's really cool. I really

993
01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 1: want my I really want my lips to look like yours. Really,

994
01:05:35,520 --> 01:05:51,120
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Niggie wasn't small at all. White people

995
01:05:51,200 --> 01:05:54,080
Speaker 1: say the black people that they think is really I

996
01:05:54,160 --> 01:05:55,960
Speaker 1: don't really mean to be out of line, but could

997
01:05:56,040 --> 01:06:06,640
Speaker 1: I just touch your ass? Just touch? Let me ask

998
01:06:06,680 --> 01:06:08,680
Speaker 1: you something. I don't really know you guys that well,

999
01:06:08,720 --> 01:06:14,560
Speaker 1: but do you all have chicken farms? Hey? Dude, listen,

1000
01:06:14,640 --> 01:06:16,280
Speaker 1: if you ever really want it, you know, I can

1001
01:06:16,360 --> 01:06:30,640
Speaker 1: teach you how to swim. People, they think, Yeah, I'll

1002
01:06:30,680 --> 01:06:39,040
Speaker 1: tell you this first lady doesn't compare to yours. I

1003
01:06:39,200 --> 01:06:46,360
Speaker 1: know that was a deep one. Yeah, so let me

1004
01:06:46,440 --> 01:06:48,560
Speaker 1: get this right. You went to college, but not on

1005
01:06:48,680 --> 01:06:59,040
Speaker 1: a basketball scholarship? All right, Steve, who's the daddy? Yeah,

1006
01:07:00,000 --> 01:07:04,400
Speaker 1: I'll just tell you I'm perfectly fine with another African

1007
01:07:04,440 --> 01:07:13,520
Speaker 1: American president. Yeah, I have a problem with the one

1008
01:07:13,600 --> 01:07:22,600
Speaker 1: we had. All right, Thanks, guys, you're listening to all right?

1009
01:07:22,720 --> 01:07:26,760
Speaker 1: Yahoo is reporting, guys, a new pole that finds fifty

1010
01:07:26,840 --> 01:07:30,600
Speaker 1: nine percent of couples say that they suspected their partner

1011
01:07:30,680 --> 01:07:33,760
Speaker 1: of cheating. If they suspected them, they would discuss the

1012
01:07:33,880 --> 01:07:37,400
Speaker 1: matter with them rather than jumping to conclusions. I'm going

1013
01:07:37,440 --> 01:07:40,960
Speaker 1: to say that again for the lateies. Okay. Fifty nine

1014
01:07:41,000 --> 01:07:43,400
Speaker 1: percent of couples say that if they suspected their partner

1015
01:07:43,440 --> 01:07:46,840
Speaker 1: of cheating, they would discuss the matter with them rather

1016
01:07:46,960 --> 01:07:50,080
Speaker 1: than jumping to conclusions. Okay, cool, Let me ask you

1017
01:07:50,120 --> 01:07:53,439
Speaker 1: a question, Shirley and call them now. Let me ask

1018
01:07:53,480 --> 01:07:57,880
Speaker 1: you a question. Just listen to this question. If you

1019
01:07:58,160 --> 01:08:03,440
Speaker 1: suspected a husband of cheating and it was not on

1020
01:08:03,560 --> 01:08:07,520
Speaker 1: the internet, nobody knew, none of your co workers, it

1021
01:08:07,720 --> 01:08:11,480
Speaker 1: was not it wasn't made public. If you suspected your

1022
01:08:11,600 --> 01:08:15,840
Speaker 1: husband of cheating, would you bring it up calmly? Would

1023
01:08:15,880 --> 01:08:19,559
Speaker 1: you bring it up with anger? How would you do it? Probably?

1024
01:08:19,680 --> 01:08:22,920
Speaker 1: All of the above for me without the calm though

1025
01:08:25,479 --> 01:08:29,560
Speaker 1: you're already nowhere on the coming bigger all of it.

1026
01:08:32,120 --> 01:08:34,799
Speaker 1: All of the above for me, without the calm anger.

1027
01:08:35,040 --> 01:08:38,040
Speaker 1: If I suspected that not yet? No, well, I mean,

1028
01:08:38,280 --> 01:08:42,200
Speaker 1: if you had suspicious, you ain't had no proof, You ain't,

1029
01:08:42,560 --> 01:08:45,960
Speaker 1: you ain't heard nothing, you ain't got no pictures, ain't no,

1030
01:08:46,400 --> 01:08:49,160
Speaker 1: ain't on internet, and none of that. But Steve, you

1031
01:08:49,280 --> 01:08:55,320
Speaker 1: know we have intuition. You know we have intuition. Disappointing

1032
01:08:55,360 --> 01:08:57,800
Speaker 1: to you, mister Harvey, I don't know. I'm just trying

1033
01:08:57,880 --> 01:09:02,160
Speaker 1: to see what y'all would do. I don't really and

1034
01:09:02,640 --> 01:09:05,240
Speaker 1: and the word discussion I have a problem with. There

1035
01:09:05,320 --> 01:09:08,080
Speaker 1: will be no discussion. Well all you gonna just find

1036
01:09:08,120 --> 01:09:10,680
Speaker 1: out on your own first, liked you little c s.

1037
01:09:10,760 --> 01:09:15,200
Speaker 1: I let me ask you a question. Suppose you discovered

1038
01:09:15,720 --> 01:09:21,599
Speaker 1: that you were wrong about him and that he wasn't cheating.

1039
01:09:22,640 --> 01:09:25,320
Speaker 1: What happens at that point? All, then I'm apologizing and

1040
01:09:25,439 --> 01:09:28,919
Speaker 1: begging to his forgiveness, begging for his forgiveness and threatening

1041
01:09:29,000 --> 01:09:31,960
Speaker 1: him he better not do it. You see what happens? Yeah,

1042
01:09:36,960 --> 01:09:39,040
Speaker 1: God in the tart, you gotta do that. Yeah, you

1043
01:09:39,160 --> 01:09:43,479
Speaker 1: apologize for your wrongdoing, but you know, make it up

1044
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Speaker 1: to him, you know all of that. Wow, that's any

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01:09:48,880 --> 01:09:54,439
Speaker 1: more questions? We're here for it. No, y'all's answers, Yeah

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01:09:55,160 --> 01:09:59,639
Speaker 1: and truthful, And there's no one. There's no one in between,

1047
01:10:00,040 --> 01:10:02,800
Speaker 1: ain't no? You know that's I don't like talking to y'all.

1048
01:10:04,320 --> 01:10:07,320
Speaker 1: Were you expecting something else? I don't know what I expected,

1049
01:10:07,439 --> 01:10:11,360
Speaker 1: but that wasn't it. You've obviously been through this before.

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01:10:13,200 --> 01:10:15,639
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what I found out, though, Uh, what's

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01:10:15,840 --> 01:10:17,479
Speaker 1: I'm fine out? I ain't fired up to have a

1052
01:10:17,520 --> 01:10:21,160
Speaker 1: discussion once they fired out. I'll cheat this, it's all

1053
01:10:22,800 --> 01:10:27,680
Speaker 1: you're ugland sitting up here. Got the need cheat? No,

1054
01:10:27,880 --> 01:10:30,599
Speaker 1: you didn't know, but Junior, don't you know that money

1055
01:10:30,720 --> 01:10:36,719
Speaker 1: changes things? Yeah? How you get the nerve that was before?

1056
01:10:37,360 --> 01:10:40,360
Speaker 1: Look at you now? But see Tommy saying, dang Junior

1057
01:10:40,479 --> 01:10:45,400
Speaker 1: like you can't believe Junior called himself ugly. Tommy, you're ugly. No,

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01:10:45,560 --> 01:10:48,320
Speaker 1: I am not, am not gonna let you break. Stop

1059
01:10:48,400 --> 01:10:51,320
Speaker 1: doing that. You go listen twenty eighteen. You're not gonna

1060
01:10:51,360 --> 01:10:54,400
Speaker 1: do this. I'm not. I'm gonna tell the truth in

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01:10:54,439 --> 01:10:57,840
Speaker 1: two thousand and eighteen. Are you fine? No, I'm not

1062
01:10:57,960 --> 01:10:59,680
Speaker 1: no fine, and I'm not out. But I ain't just

1063
01:10:59,800 --> 01:11:02,519
Speaker 1: been to be ugly little No, I'm not doing that. Dog.

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01:11:02,640 --> 01:11:06,280
Speaker 1: You're not fine, and I'm not ugly. But listen to me.

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01:11:06,479 --> 01:11:10,680
Speaker 1: If you're not fine, then by a long ship? What

1066
01:11:10,920 --> 01:11:13,320
Speaker 1: you think that is? Why you do that to him?

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01:11:14,840 --> 01:11:17,000
Speaker 1: I don't know why Tommy keep thinking he cute, but

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01:11:17,200 --> 01:11:19,880
Speaker 1: you're not cute. I didn't say I was cute. I'm

1069
01:11:19,920 --> 01:11:23,240
Speaker 1: just saying I'm not listen to me. Listen to me.

1070
01:11:23,720 --> 01:11:27,880
Speaker 1: You look strang I'm decent. I don't look strang man.

1071
01:11:28,400 --> 01:11:41,040
Speaker 1: You do not looks great. Get a mirror and look

1072
01:11:41,080 --> 01:11:45,839
Speaker 1: at yourself from the side. You're strange. Look I'm not strange.

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01:11:46,240 --> 01:11:49,120
Speaker 1: Don't tell me you are. You look strange all everybody,

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01:11:49,200 --> 01:11:51,720
Speaker 1: all the men in our family, we're strange. Looking from

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01:11:51,800 --> 01:11:54,880
Speaker 1: the side. Look't have fun with the time when you

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01:11:54,960 --> 01:11:58,920
Speaker 1: accepted Tommy, He's never going to accept that. You guys

1077
01:11:59,040 --> 01:12:11,960
Speaker 1: know that I'm not doing it. You're listening to all right, Steve,

1078
01:12:12,080 --> 01:12:14,760
Speaker 1: It is time for a quick health and wellness shout out.

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01:12:15,320 --> 01:12:18,000
Speaker 1: Give some um. You know you want. You want to

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01:12:18,160 --> 01:12:22,519
Speaker 1: keep healthy thoughts and people being healthy, and you're launching

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01:12:22,560 --> 01:12:25,200
Speaker 1: a brand new product, So tell us about your elevation

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01:12:25,360 --> 01:12:28,439
Speaker 1: well On January third, I have a new product coming out.

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01:12:28,640 --> 01:12:32,280
Speaker 1: It's called Elevate You by Green by Steve Harvey. It's

1084
01:12:32,320 --> 01:12:36,800
Speaker 1: a green Vitality daily green drink that I have a

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01:12:37,000 --> 01:12:39,400
Speaker 1: special composition that I had put in here to help

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01:12:39,479 --> 01:12:44,479
Speaker 1: cover your mitochondracts. And what that is it It it

1087
01:12:44,680 --> 01:12:47,760
Speaker 1: helps you from the cellular level. What a lot of

1088
01:12:47,800 --> 01:12:50,280
Speaker 1: people don't understand is you take vitamins and stuff that

1089
01:12:50,640 --> 01:12:55,360
Speaker 1: never reach your cellular level when you drink greens. Greens

1090
01:12:55,560 --> 01:13:00,360
Speaker 1: especially are designed to go straight to your cellular level

1091
01:13:00,920 --> 01:13:04,280
Speaker 1: and make you feel better on the cellular level, helps

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01:13:04,479 --> 01:13:08,880
Speaker 1: give you better mental capacity, increases your energy where you

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01:13:09,080 --> 01:13:12,280
Speaker 1: can work out more. It's not a workout product, it's

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01:13:12,320 --> 01:13:15,240
Speaker 1: not protein. It gives you the energy, so you have

1095
01:13:15,360 --> 01:13:18,280
Speaker 1: the energy to go for your walks, the energy to

1096
01:13:18,520 --> 01:13:21,799
Speaker 1: work out, you know, the energy to think more. Clearly,

1097
01:13:22,360 --> 01:13:24,360
Speaker 1: it's a lot of energy and it does wonders for

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01:13:24,479 --> 01:13:26,800
Speaker 1: your digestive system. And that's so the things I've been

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01:13:26,840 --> 01:13:29,160
Speaker 1: working on. People say, Steve, you look young man, and

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01:13:29,320 --> 01:13:31,280
Speaker 1: I do, and I feel young because I take care

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01:13:31,320 --> 01:13:34,400
Speaker 1: of myself on the cellular level. So on January third,

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Speaker 1: and the launch is called Elevate You by Steve Harvey's

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01:13:37,680 --> 01:13:41,800
Speaker 1: a daily vitality green drink and it's just the thing

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01:13:41,920 --> 01:13:45,280
Speaker 1: to make you feel absolutely wonderful. It's a great problem.

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01:13:45,439 --> 01:13:47,960
Speaker 1: Thank you, all right, congratulations, Steve, can't wait for it.

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Speaker 1: January third, coming up in thirty three minutes after the hour,

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01:13:51,160 --> 01:13:53,280
Speaker 1: we'll play a round of would you rather? Right after

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01:13:53,400 --> 01:13:58,679
Speaker 1: this you're listening to show, all right, it is time

1109
01:13:58,720 --> 01:14:01,400
Speaker 1: for a round of would you rather? Let's jump right in.

1110
01:14:01,600 --> 01:14:06,360
Speaker 1: Would you rather silent treatment from your mate? Or would

1111
01:14:06,400 --> 01:14:09,120
Speaker 1: you rather argue with your mate? Just solve it with

1112
01:14:09,240 --> 01:14:14,599
Speaker 1: an argument? All right? Would you rather silent silent treatment?

1113
01:14:16,479 --> 01:14:23,280
Speaker 1: Give me silent? I knew you won't anyway? All right?

1114
01:14:24,200 --> 01:14:27,360
Speaker 1: Would you rather your mate initiate sex every time? Or

1115
01:14:27,400 --> 01:14:30,880
Speaker 1: would you rather skip sex for a year? Your mate

1116
01:14:30,960 --> 01:14:41,559
Speaker 1: initiates sex every time? Or you skip sex? What raise

1117
01:14:41,680 --> 01:14:47,720
Speaker 1: up against me? Whatever it takes? Yes, come on, all right,

1118
01:14:48,400 --> 01:14:51,320
Speaker 1: all right? Would you would you rather give an X

1119
01:14:51,680 --> 01:14:59,360
Speaker 1: five hundred thousand dollars? Okay, all right? Or listen? Would

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01:14:59,400 --> 01:15:02,280
Speaker 1: you rather give X five hundred thousand dollars? Or would

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01:15:02,320 --> 01:15:06,360
Speaker 1: you rather sleep with an X just one more time? Hey?

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01:15:12,560 --> 01:15:15,040
Speaker 1: I don't nobody want to go back to that. You

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01:15:15,160 --> 01:15:19,320
Speaker 1: were so sure though, Steve initials for a reason for

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01:15:20,360 --> 01:15:26,560
Speaker 1: Hey here, congratulations, buy house, getter McDonald's or whatever you

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01:15:26,640 --> 01:15:34,400
Speaker 1: need to do McDonald's getting friends. Jay, haven't heard from you. Uh,

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01:15:34,800 --> 01:15:37,519
Speaker 1: if we could lower that price, we might go work

1127
01:15:37,640 --> 01:15:40,679
Speaker 1: that mount. And if you could come down on that price,

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01:15:40,840 --> 01:15:44,400
Speaker 1: that that five hundred dollars right now? You feel to

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01:15:44,400 --> 01:15:51,599
Speaker 1: sleep little, that's what you're leaning towards. I'm just trying

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01:15:51,640 --> 01:15:55,120
Speaker 1: to work out a price as reasonable. The price tell

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01:15:55,160 --> 01:16:02,800
Speaker 1: you what, I'll tell you what old ja whatever? How

1132
01:16:02,840 --> 01:16:08,040
Speaker 1: would you out there to consider going old back boy

1133
01:16:08,120 --> 01:16:12,840
Speaker 1: who that one came through drafted the brown in the

1134
01:16:12,960 --> 01:16:20,240
Speaker 1: bull was nice boiler. Would you rather be kissed on

1135
01:16:20,320 --> 01:16:23,240
Speaker 1: the lips by a complete stranger? Or would you rather

1136
01:16:23,360 --> 01:16:29,240
Speaker 1: be licked on the lips by a dog? I ain't doing.

1137
01:16:29,320 --> 01:16:32,799
Speaker 1: I don't do dog. Now you're gonna give me that stranger?

1138
01:16:33,160 --> 01:16:38,800
Speaker 1: Just let me pick stranger in Covid. Hey that dog,

1139
01:16:39,600 --> 01:16:46,120
Speaker 1: that dog stay dogs mouths than he who told you

1140
01:16:46,240 --> 01:16:50,120
Speaker 1: that told you that. But I've seen a dog lick

1141
01:16:50,280 --> 01:16:53,240
Speaker 1: some things. And if he licked your lips you wake

1142
01:16:53,360 --> 01:16:55,920
Speaker 1: up in the morning, your lips would be on the pillow,

1143
01:16:57,720 --> 01:17:04,599
Speaker 1: just fall off. All right, thank you. That is our

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01:17:04,720 --> 01:17:07,599
Speaker 1: round of would you rather? For today? Coming up at

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01:17:07,640 --> 01:17:10,240
Speaker 1: forty nine minutes after the hour, it's our last break

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01:17:10,400 --> 01:17:13,920
Speaker 1: of the day and we'll have some closing remarks from

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Speaker 1: the one and only Steve Harvey right after this. You're

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01:17:17,040 --> 01:17:21,920
Speaker 1: listening to all right, guys, this is our last break

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01:17:22,000 --> 01:17:25,479
Speaker 1: of the day and it is time or some closing

1150
01:17:25,560 --> 01:17:29,800
Speaker 1: remarks from the one and only Steve Harvey. Well, it's

1151
01:17:29,840 --> 01:17:32,000
Speaker 1: been a good day. Let me ask you, guys a

1152
01:17:32,080 --> 01:17:36,080
Speaker 1: question just off the top of your head. What do

1153
01:17:36,200 --> 01:17:39,120
Speaker 1: you all and anybody can answer this question. What do

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01:17:39,240 --> 01:17:44,519
Speaker 1: you think is probably the number one calls that gets

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01:17:44,600 --> 01:17:49,200
Speaker 1: in the way of people moving forward or what has

1156
01:17:49,320 --> 01:17:52,559
Speaker 1: gotten in the way of you over the years from

1157
01:17:52,960 --> 01:17:55,880
Speaker 1: moving forward? Come? I mean, it happens to all of us,

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01:17:56,080 --> 01:17:59,160
Speaker 1: myself included. I'm just asking the question to the cruit

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01:17:59,280 --> 01:18:11,519
Speaker 1: ye fear of failure, sometimes trying to fix the past, wow,

1160
01:18:12,720 --> 01:18:18,800
Speaker 1: lack of faith. Well, okay, let me address three things.

1161
01:18:19,720 --> 01:18:21,519
Speaker 1: This is inture. I'm gonna try to do this quickly.

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01:18:22,160 --> 01:18:26,800
Speaker 1: Let's talk about fixing the past. Let's talk briefly about fear,

1163
01:18:27,320 --> 01:18:31,160
Speaker 1: and let's talk about the fear of being successful. Let's

1164
01:18:31,200 --> 01:18:35,680
Speaker 1: start with the fear of being successful. A lot of

1165
01:18:35,800 --> 01:18:40,680
Speaker 1: people have a fear of becoming successful because they're not

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01:18:41,000 --> 01:18:46,720
Speaker 1: sure of the requirements that will be placed on them

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01:18:47,120 --> 01:18:54,120
Speaker 1: once they become successful. Some people think that they won't

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01:18:54,200 --> 01:19:01,519
Speaker 1: be able to handle the regiment of being successful, and

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01:19:01,760 --> 01:19:05,799
Speaker 1: that right there is you're not understanding how God works.

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01:19:07,040 --> 01:19:11,280
Speaker 1: God never puts you someplace, He doesn't prepare you to be.

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01:19:12,840 --> 01:19:16,000
Speaker 1: Do you understand that as you become successful that you're

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01:19:16,040 --> 01:19:19,760
Speaker 1: going to be tested, You're going to be challenged, You're

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01:19:19,800 --> 01:19:23,360
Speaker 1: going to be faced with all types of situations that

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01:19:23,479 --> 01:19:26,240
Speaker 1: will better you, equip you and become make you the

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01:19:26,360 --> 01:19:29,479
Speaker 1: experienced person that you need to be to be in

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01:19:29,560 --> 01:19:32,280
Speaker 1: the place that you're going to finally wind up in.

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Speaker 1: Stop being afraid of success and understand that God is

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01:19:36,720 --> 01:19:38,320
Speaker 1: not going to put you in a room that you're

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01:19:38,400 --> 01:19:42,479
Speaker 1: not qualified or equipped to be in. That's for starters. Now,

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01:19:42,600 --> 01:19:48,799
Speaker 1: let's talk about fixing the past. You're ready. You can't.

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01:19:50,479 --> 01:19:56,320
Speaker 1: You can't. You get no duovers in life. The problem

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01:19:56,640 --> 01:19:59,320
Speaker 1: that people have when they try to fix the passages

1183
01:19:59,400 --> 01:20:02,800
Speaker 1: because they're are surrounded by people who are constantly reminding

1184
01:20:02,880 --> 01:20:05,280
Speaker 1: them of the past and telling them you're not this,

1185
01:20:05,479 --> 01:20:07,759
Speaker 1: and you're not that, and you can't do this because

1186
01:20:07,800 --> 01:20:09,720
Speaker 1: you did that and I remember when you did that.

1187
01:20:10,320 --> 01:20:13,519
Speaker 1: When you remove those people from your life who are

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01:20:13,680 --> 01:20:17,280
Speaker 1: constantly retrying to remind you of your past, you will

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01:20:17,360 --> 01:20:22,760
Speaker 1: then lose the need to have to fix it. See,

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01:20:22,960 --> 01:20:25,559
Speaker 1: but you have to fix it when there are people

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01:20:25,640 --> 01:20:29,240
Speaker 1: in your life and including you, who keep bringing the

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01:20:29,439 --> 01:20:32,479
Speaker 1: past to the forefront to put it in your presence.

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01:20:32,920 --> 01:20:36,760
Speaker 1: That's why the Lord's prayer is simple, give us this

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01:20:37,200 --> 01:20:43,720
Speaker 1: day our daily bread. The Bible very rarely talks to

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01:20:43,840 --> 01:20:49,280
Speaker 1: you about your past, because it's been forgiven, it's done.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I haven't read a whole lot of scriptures

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Speaker 1: to help me with my past. I read a lot

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Speaker 1: of scriptures that talk about now. I read a lot

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Speaker 1: of scriptures that talks about faith, the belief in things

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01:21:09,080 --> 01:21:13,599
Speaker 1: that you cannot see, trusting in his word, holding onto

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01:21:13,720 --> 01:21:18,639
Speaker 1: his unchanging hand, realizing that all things are possible through him.

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01:21:19,080 --> 01:21:23,120
Speaker 1: I read a lot of scriptures about that. But nothing

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01:21:23,360 --> 01:21:26,880
Speaker 1: is more prevalent in our life today than the Lord's prayer,

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01:21:27,000 --> 01:21:31,160
Speaker 1: which clearly says, give us this day our daily bread.

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01:21:31,960 --> 01:21:35,920
Speaker 1: Because tomorrow you have no control over now. You can

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01:21:36,000 --> 01:21:38,879
Speaker 1: have hopes for tomorrow, you can have plans for tomorrow,

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01:21:39,160 --> 01:21:42,639
Speaker 1: you can have visions and aspirations for tomorrow. But everything

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01:21:42,760 --> 01:21:47,559
Speaker 1: about tomorrow, which I have finally learned, should be tempered

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01:21:47,640 --> 01:21:52,559
Speaker 1: with the remark if it's God's will and in God's timing.

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01:21:53,160 --> 01:21:57,240
Speaker 1: That way it releases me from having to be worried

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01:21:57,280 --> 01:22:00,960
Speaker 1: about the timing of an event because it's just because

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01:22:01,040 --> 01:22:05,439
Speaker 1: it's been denied. Just because it's been delayed does not

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01:22:05,760 --> 01:22:09,400
Speaker 1: mean that it's been denied. I had to learn that.

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01:22:10,280 --> 01:22:14,800
Speaker 1: So fixing your past can't be done. What's done is done.

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01:22:15,680 --> 01:22:17,880
Speaker 1: First thing you want to do about fixing the past,

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01:22:18,000 --> 01:22:20,680
Speaker 1: remove people from your life who are constantly reminding you

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01:22:20,760 --> 01:22:25,280
Speaker 1: of your past. And then secondly, forgive yourself, just as

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01:22:25,400 --> 01:22:28,599
Speaker 1: God has done. I used to do it to myself

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01:22:28,720 --> 01:22:32,599
Speaker 1: all the time. Even at my daughter's wedding, I made

1220
01:22:32,640 --> 01:22:36,439
Speaker 1: the statement, I said, I've spent all of my adult

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01:22:36,560 --> 01:22:39,680
Speaker 1: life trying to fix the mistakes I made as a

1222
01:22:39,800 --> 01:22:42,200
Speaker 1: young man. You know what Bishop Jakes told me, who

1223
01:22:42,280 --> 01:22:44,400
Speaker 1: was at my daughter's when he said, you're too hard

1224
01:22:44,439 --> 01:22:48,280
Speaker 1: on yourself. He said, you're too hard on yourself. You

1225
01:22:48,360 --> 01:22:51,280
Speaker 1: need to stop doing that to yourself, Steve, And he

1226
01:22:51,479 --> 01:22:55,000
Speaker 1: was right because I keep trying to do that and

1227
01:22:55,120 --> 01:22:58,760
Speaker 1: I had to stop at last, but not least, Let's

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01:22:58,800 --> 01:23:03,680
Speaker 1: just talk about fear itself. The majority of us have

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01:23:03,840 --> 01:23:08,840
Speaker 1: a fear of success and a fear of failure because

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01:23:08,960 --> 01:23:14,760
Speaker 1: we don't have a strong enough relationship with God. I'm

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01:23:14,840 --> 01:23:18,360
Speaker 1: telling you, man, God erases fear. God put you in

1232
01:23:18,400 --> 01:23:21,519
Speaker 1: a comfort zone. I mean, if you think about it

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01:23:21,640 --> 01:23:25,760
Speaker 1: just for a second, Everybody, everything that you've ever gone through,

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01:23:25,800 --> 01:23:27,439
Speaker 1: and I've said this, I can't tell you how many

1235
01:23:27,479 --> 01:23:31,280
Speaker 1: times on the show, everything you've gone through, every challenge,

1236
01:23:31,320 --> 01:23:36,240
Speaker 1: you've ever had every setback, every hardship, You've managed somehow

1237
01:23:36,360 --> 01:23:39,679
Speaker 1: to this point to get past all of them. Your

1238
01:23:39,720 --> 01:23:43,320
Speaker 1: track record for surviving rough days and challenges is one.

1239
01:23:44,479 --> 01:23:46,840
Speaker 1: Why would God not continue to do that for you?

1240
01:23:47,479 --> 01:23:52,599
Speaker 1: Lose your fear because God is near. Lose your fear

1241
01:23:53,120 --> 01:23:57,080
Speaker 1: because God is near. Those are the three things I

1242
01:23:57,160 --> 01:23:59,839
Speaker 1: wanted to address. Thank you for giving me those closing remarks,

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01:24:00,000 --> 01:24:01,519
Speaker 1: I have a great day. Talk to you, ally, love

1244
01:24:01,560 --> 01:24:15,040
Speaker 1: to hear from you. For all Steve Harvey contests, no

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01:24:15,120 --> 01:24:18,599
Speaker 1: purchase necessary, void where prohibited. Participants must be legal US

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Speaker 1: residents at least eighteen years old, unless otherwise stated. For

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Speaker 1: complete contest rules, visit Steve Harvey FM dot com. You're

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Speaker 1: listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.