1 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 1: Let's be honest. Life is stressful, its work, its relationships 2 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:09,200 Speaker 1: and the state of the world. But there's a way 3 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:12,760 Speaker 1: to bring that stress level down. Calm. It's the number 4 00:00:12,760 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: one app for mental wellness, with tons of content to 5 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: manage anxiety, promote concentration, and help you unwind. There's music, meditation, 6 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:23,840 Speaker 1: a more Calm makes it easy to de stress. You 7 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: can literally do a one minute breathing exercise. Personally, I 8 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 1: love the soundscapes. Nothing like a little rain on leaves 9 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:34,840 Speaker 1: to help soothe my nervous system. I've actually been working 10 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:36,920 Speaker 1: with Calm for a couple of years now, and I'd 11 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: love for you to check out my series on reducing 12 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:44,600 Speaker 1: overwhelm eight short practices Quick Relief. Right now, listeners of 13 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 1: On Purpose get forty percent off a subscription to Calm 14 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:52,159 Speaker 1: Premium at Calm dot com. Forward slash j that's c 15 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: LM dot com. Forward slash jay for forty percent off. 16 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: Calm your Mind, Change your Life. No one says I 17 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: love money, but everyone agrees that they appreciate what money 18 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 1: brings them peace of mind, diminished anxiety. Most of us 19 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 1: are rightly worried about what will happen in the future, 20 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 1: and if nothing else, money gives us the false confidence 21 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: to believe that what happens good or bad will probably 22 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 1: be okay. But absent the concept of money, what else 23 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: can rich mean? What does it mean, for example, to 24 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,280 Speaker 1: live a rich life? The Number one Health and Wellness 25 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:35,800 Speaker 1: Podcast Jay Setty Jay Shetty, Hey everyone, welcome back to 26 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: On Purpose. I'm Jay Shechetty, and as always, I'm so 27 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: grateful you're taking the time to be with me here 28 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: for our latest episode. If you've been listening recently, you 29 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: know we've had some incredible guests, incredible workshops for our 30 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: fridays and it just keeps getting better. Whenever any of 31 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: you tell me when I bump into you that you've 32 00:01:57,680 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 1: been listening, you've left a review that you or enjoying 33 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 1: and appreciating the guests and the conversations. I truly appreciate 34 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:07,400 Speaker 1: the depth of what you share with me. So if 35 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 1: you ever see me, let me know it means the 36 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:11,920 Speaker 1: world to me and I'm so grateful to have you 37 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 1: here today. As we talk about this theme of defining wealth, 38 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: defining success, not chasing and pursuing the things that other 39 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:27,720 Speaker 1: people are important, but actually focusing on the things that 40 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: we believe are a priority, living our lives on our terms, 41 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: focused and fixated on our goals that are truly ours. 42 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: Right when someone tells me their dream, the first thing 43 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: I asked them if their dream is really their dream? 44 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: Or is it their mothers or fathers, their sisters or brothers, 45 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 1: their family members, their teacher in school, whatever it may be. 46 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:57,600 Speaker 1: So many of us use our time chasing a dream 47 00:02:57,720 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: that isn't even ours. And in order to take us 48 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: on this journey today, I want to ask you a question. 49 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 1: And when I ask you this question, a lot of 50 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:09,960 Speaker 1: you may see it as a simple matter of math, 51 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:13,920 Speaker 1: and the question can be easily answered by plugging it 52 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 1: into Google or chat GPT. The question is who's the 53 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 1: richest man in the world. Now, it's probably safe to 54 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 1: say that most of us to find the word rich 55 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 1: in exactly the same way money. Who has the most 56 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: assets or resources or stuff. Who has the greatest number 57 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:37,360 Speaker 1: of houses around the world, a supercar collection, maybe horses, artwork, 58 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 1: wine collection, swimming pools, tennis courts, whatever it may be. 59 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: Maybe they own a football team. Now, if you go online, 60 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 1: the answer comes up at once. Right now. In the 61 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: latter part of twenty twenty four, when I'm recording this. 62 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: The richest man in the world is the tech entrepreneur 63 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 1: Elon Musk, who owns X, which used to be known 64 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:03,119 Speaker 1: as Twitter, and companies like tech SpaceX and Starlink. If 65 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: online estimates can be believed, today Elon Musk has a 66 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 1: net worth of two one hundred and sixty three billion dollars. 67 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 1: Others on the Richest Man in the World list, which 68 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:20,599 Speaker 1: is heavy on fortunes derived from technology, are in second 69 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:24,719 Speaker 1: place Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon dot Com with 70 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:29,159 Speaker 1: two hundred and twenty four billion dollars, and down the 71 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:33,039 Speaker 1: list Larry Ellison of Oracle, Bill Gates, the founder of Microsoft, 72 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:37,279 Speaker 1: and Mark Zuckerberg, the founder of Meta. But today I 73 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:40,040 Speaker 1: want to challenge us to look at wealth and richness 74 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 1: through a different lens. Now, I've never been one to 75 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 1: say money doesn't buy happiness. I think money can solve 76 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:49,359 Speaker 1: lots of problems, and I actually believe that learning to manage, 77 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:54,560 Speaker 1: invest and grow our financial stability is a really important skill. 78 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:57,840 Speaker 1: And we have other episodes with experts on the show 79 00:04:57,880 --> 00:05:00,479 Speaker 1: about that. But today I really want to focus on 80 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:03,719 Speaker 1: this idea of how we define wealth, what we think 81 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:08,480 Speaker 1: of as rich, and the truth is rich is personal? 82 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:13,039 Speaker 1: Two years ago, the financial services firm Charles Schwab conducted 83 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,599 Speaker 1: a survey of one thousand Americans from twenty one to 84 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:20,080 Speaker 1: seventy five. What does it take to be considered wealthy 85 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:24,280 Speaker 1: or rich? Respondents were asked. When the results were crunched, 86 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:28,479 Speaker 1: the somewhat random answer came in at around two point 87 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:33,360 Speaker 1: two million dollars. Now why that particular figure, No one 88 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:36,279 Speaker 1: has a clue, especially since the net worth of the 89 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 1: average American household is approximately one hundred and twenty thousand dollars, 90 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:43,719 Speaker 1: all of which goes to show that if your net 91 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: worth exceeds one hundred and twenty thousand dollars, you may 92 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,360 Speaker 1: not be rich in the sense of having two point 93 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 1: two million dollars, but you're better off than most of 94 00:05:52,080 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: your fellow Americans. Now why even ask this question? Partly 95 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 1: because in the US, at least, we live in a 96 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:03,360 Speaker 1: culture that's preoccupied with the making, spending, and sometimes flaunting 97 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:06,760 Speaker 1: of money. One of the greatest privileges of being able 98 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:10,680 Speaker 1: to work, live and travel abroad is the recognition that 99 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 1: what we assume to be universally true is in fact 100 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:16,440 Speaker 1: more of a function of where you grew up and 101 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:19,560 Speaker 1: where you live. As listeners to this show, you know 102 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: I was born in London, lived in India for some 103 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 1: time while I was a monk, and across the UK 104 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 1: during that time, and moved to the US nearly a 105 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: decade ago. It's been around eight years now. One of 106 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 1: the first things I noticed is that in America, one 107 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 1: of the most common questions I was ever asked is 108 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: what do you do for a living? And it's really 109 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:42,120 Speaker 1: interesting if you think about it. All of us at 110 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:44,240 Speaker 1: an event are asked, what do you do? What do 111 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 1: you do for work? Our work has become our identity, 112 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:53,159 Speaker 1: right what we do as our career has defined our personalities. 113 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 1: But if you look at around the globe, asking another 114 00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:58,760 Speaker 1: person what they do for a living might be actually 115 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 1: a bit more rare, and we might find that bizarre 116 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 1: because we don't even know of a place like that. 117 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: Cultures like Scandinavia are intensely private, to the point where 118 00:07:07,920 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 1: entering an elevator and saying hello to the other passengers 119 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:15,920 Speaker 1: is seen almost as personal trespass. Now, I'm not proposing 120 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: one or the other, and making the point as to 121 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: how much our identity gets wrapped up in the work 122 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: we do. I remember having the fortune of sitting down 123 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:28,120 Speaker 1: with the late Kobe Bryant, and what I was amazed 124 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 1: by was that he was an athlete who is at 125 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: peace in retirement, which is very rare because naturally, so 126 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 1: much of your identity becomes about playing the sport. It 127 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: becomes about being known as one of the best athletes 128 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 1: of all time. But he was able to detach and 129 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 1: disconnect from that and create a new identity at the 130 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: fortune of interviewing Tom Hanks recently, just a couple of 131 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 1: weeks ago on the podcast, and what I sensed from 132 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: him was that he was peace in his career. And yes, 133 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:59,559 Speaker 1: you could say he's had a largely successful career. Of course, 134 00:07:59,560 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: he has sort of phenomenal career, but it was also 135 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 1: that he wasn't hanging on to it, he wasn't chasing it. 136 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: There was a peace around him. And that's what I 137 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: was trying to understand. What's the difference between someone who 138 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 1: achieves and has peace. So it's almost like someone who 139 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: achieves and receives peace versus someone who achieves and then 140 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,800 Speaker 1: just needs to keep achieving. And what do we define 141 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 1: as an achievement? So has rich always been linked to money? 142 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:31,000 Speaker 1: Is a really interesting question to look at, and the 143 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:33,080 Speaker 1: answer is yes, And he goes all the way back 144 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: to the Middle Ages. The original Old English word rice 145 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:41,559 Speaker 1: spelled exactly like the carbohydrate led to the word rich. 146 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: Even back then, rice referred directly to how much money 147 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:50,040 Speaker 1: a person had, and was also connected to power, strength, 148 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,120 Speaker 1: and high social status. So from early on in our 149 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: evolution as humans, there has been a strong link between money, power, rulership, 150 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 1: and the attendant regard of others. Arguably the same is 151 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 1: true today. Now, what I'm interested in this episode to 152 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:10,559 Speaker 1: do is not to discourage you from having financial ambitions. 153 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:14,439 Speaker 1: I don't believe that that's the point. What I've realized 154 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 1: actually is that it's not whether you have something or 155 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 1: don't that makes you happy when it comes to material, 156 00:09:19,960 --> 00:09:23,319 Speaker 1: physical things, it's what you don't have. So, for example, 157 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 1: if you have money and envy, that will ruin you. 158 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:30,880 Speaker 1: If you have money and ego, that will ruin you. 159 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 1: If you have money and a lack of gratitude, that 160 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 1: will ruin you. And if you have money and no envy, 161 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: that's beautiful. If you have money and no ego, that's beautiful. 162 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: If you have money and gratitude, that's incredible. 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So today, 179 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 1: what I want to explore is different ways in which 180 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: we can be rich, different ways in which we can 181 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:59,239 Speaker 1: be wealthy, because I really believe that part of it 182 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 1: is creating an abundance mindset. That's what this episode is 183 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 1: really about. How do we create a rich, abundant mindset 184 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:10,679 Speaker 1: as opposed to this scarcity mindset. The poverty in our 185 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:16,440 Speaker 1: mind is contagious, right, so how do we change that? 186 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:20,240 Speaker 1: Experience has always told me that no matter who you are, 187 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 1: humans want to feel a sense of contentment, a sense 188 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: of ease in their lives. They seek a sense of purpose, 189 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:29,640 Speaker 1: which they often find in their work, and they seek 190 00:11:29,679 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 1: social bonds in love. If you're a man whose biological 191 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:35,560 Speaker 1: goal it is to provide for and protect your family, 192 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:38,840 Speaker 1: your happiness can derive from the job you do and 193 00:11:38,920 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: the positive feelings you derive from making sure your loved 194 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:44,800 Speaker 1: ones are safe and attended to. But let's also be 195 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 1: very clear. Money, even though no one likes to talk 196 00:11:47,800 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 1: about it, matters. Money is important. No one says I 197 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:55,000 Speaker 1: love money, but everyone agrees that they appreciate what money 198 00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 1: brings them peace of mind, diminished anxiety. Most of us 199 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 1: have rightly won worried about what will happen in the future, 200 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:04,559 Speaker 1: and if nothing else, money gives us the false confidence 201 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:07,520 Speaker 1: to believe that what happens, good or bad, will probably 202 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:11,199 Speaker 1: be okay. But absent the concept of money, what else 203 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 1: can rich mean? What does it mean, for example, to 204 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 1: live a rich life. A few years ago, I read 205 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:20,720 Speaker 1: a wonderful article in the newspaper where the writers spoke 206 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:26,440 Speaker 1: about the difference between resume virtues and eulogy virtues. In 207 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:30,040 Speaker 1: the first category are those abilities and credentials that people 208 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 1: bring to their workplace, and in the second category are 209 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 1: those qualities that people discuss and get emotional about and 210 00:12:37,280 --> 00:12:41,720 Speaker 1: remember once you're gone. These are known as eulogy virtues. 211 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:45,560 Speaker 1: And while there may occasionally be some overlap between the two, 212 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:49,160 Speaker 1: it's striking that in the second category are the words 213 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:52,800 Speaker 1: such as honest and loyal, and a good friend and 214 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: a loving husband and parent, and a great number of 215 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:59,839 Speaker 1: our community. But as the article i read pointed out, 216 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:03,640 Speaker 1: if we focus exclusively on our resume virtues, there will 217 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:06,320 Speaker 1: inevitably come a time in our lives when we begin 218 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:09,320 Speaker 1: feeling a little bit hollow, as though we've missed the 219 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:12,560 Speaker 1: point of life. This was what it was all about 220 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 1: all along, getting another promotion, earning a bigger paycheck, staying 221 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:20,760 Speaker 1: at high end hotels. Suddenly you consider friends of yours 222 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:23,720 Speaker 1: who maybe haven't made the same investment in their careers 223 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:27,880 Speaker 1: as you have, who've lived quieter, steadier lives, filled with children, 224 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:31,360 Speaker 1: good meals, the occasional vacation, and the effort to make 225 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 1: a difference in the worlds they inhabit. Maybe they haven't 226 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 1: won an award, maybe they haven't gone close to earning 227 00:13:37,280 --> 00:13:42,840 Speaker 1: millions of dollars, but they've lived a rich life as well, learning, growing, 228 00:13:43,160 --> 00:13:46,800 Speaker 1: and being. This isn't again to discourage you. It's to say, 229 00:13:47,240 --> 00:13:50,400 Speaker 1: what parts of your wealth do you want to expand 230 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 1: what parts have you not invested in? Rich then has 231 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:57,080 Speaker 1: a lot to do with the choices we make about 232 00:13:57,080 --> 00:14:00,920 Speaker 1: what is meaning and what doesn't. What does it mean 233 00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 1: to lead a rich and meaningful life? It's a question 234 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:06,400 Speaker 1: nearly everyone confronts at some point in their own journey, 235 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: and one that great thinkers and philosophers have been wrestling 236 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:13,480 Speaker 1: with since the beginning of time. 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Juni has zero sugar and only five 262 00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:49,240 Speaker 1: calories per can we believe in nurturing and energizing your 263 00:15:49,240 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 1: body while enjoying a truly delicious and refreshing drink. So 264 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:58,160 Speaker 1: visit Drinkjuni dot com today to elevate your wellness journey 265 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: and use code on Purpose to receive fifteen percent of 266 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:07,200 Speaker 1: your first order. That's drink Jauni dot com and make 267 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:11,800 Speaker 1: sure you use the code on Purpose. Some psychologists define 268 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 1: meaning as being about coherence and purpose, the understanding we 269 00:16:16,640 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 1: have of our lives and the direction where we hope 270 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:23,240 Speaker 1: they're going. Others argue that significance is just as important 271 00:16:23,280 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 1: as coherence and purpose, that we need to have a 272 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:29,200 Speaker 1: sense of our lives intrinsic value. But regardless of what 273 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 1: you believe, meaning in the search for meaning will always 274 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:35,720 Speaker 1: be a personal endeavor. There are no right answers. The 275 00:16:35,720 --> 00:16:37,720 Speaker 1: way I found meaning in my life may not be 276 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:40,360 Speaker 1: how you find meaning in yours. That doesn't mean that 277 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 1: one is better or worse. This isn't a competition, and 278 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:46,120 Speaker 1: there are no prizes awarded at the end. It just 279 00:16:46,240 --> 00:16:49,120 Speaker 1: means that meaning and the search for meaning is an 280 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:52,840 Speaker 1: individual as people are. That said, a rich and meaningful 281 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 1: life tends to have a few things in common. The 282 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:59,280 Speaker 1: first is that it involves passion, caring deeply about what 283 00:16:59,320 --> 00:17:01,160 Speaker 1: you do for a living or even the hobbies in 284 00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:05,679 Speaker 1: your life. Making and sustaining strong social relationships is another 285 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:08,840 Speaker 1: important factor, as there is a connection among the strength 286 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:11,840 Speaker 1: of our friendships, our sense of belonging in our perception 287 00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:15,720 Speaker 1: that our lives are full and meaningful. Finally, there's our 288 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:18,800 Speaker 1: overall positivity. The more positive our mood and the more 289 00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:21,919 Speaker 1: we feel in control of our environments will also enhance 290 00:17:21,960 --> 00:17:25,240 Speaker 1: our sense of meaning. Let me give you another way 291 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:28,240 Speaker 1: to look at the richness of life. As humans, we're 292 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:32,000 Speaker 1: all given two things, time and energy. We use both 293 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:35,920 Speaker 1: to foster experiences and create social interactions in our lives. 294 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:39,960 Speaker 1: Time in varying measures is one of the foundations of 295 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 1: being born and of being human. It's when our personal 296 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:47,359 Speaker 1: clock starts ticking. We all know we have time, we 297 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:50,040 Speaker 1: just don't know how much or when that time will 298 00:17:50,119 --> 00:17:52,760 Speaker 1: run out. If we're privileged to be in good health 299 00:17:53,080 --> 00:17:55,440 Speaker 1: and we live it an era in a culture where 300 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 1: life is relatively peaceful, chances are good that we will 301 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:02,160 Speaker 1: live a normal life lifespan, which today in the US 302 00:18:02,280 --> 00:18:05,520 Speaker 1: at least is eighty years for women and nearly seventy 303 00:18:05,560 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 1: five years for men, averaging out between the two sexes 304 00:18:09,240 --> 00:18:13,320 Speaker 1: at seventy seven years. We're also given energy or vitality, 305 00:18:13,760 --> 00:18:17,240 Speaker 1: physical and mental power, the capacity to engage in work, 306 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:21,359 Speaker 1: and to exert ourselves together. Time and energy form the 307 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:24,600 Speaker 1: basis of every one of our lives. What does it 308 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:27,520 Speaker 1: mean then, when we ask ourselves who's the richest man 309 00:18:27,520 --> 00:18:29,960 Speaker 1: in the world, and of course ultimately who's the richest 310 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:32,919 Speaker 1: person in the world? Only focused on the male gender 311 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 1: for the perspective of asking this question. But what makes 312 00:18:36,400 --> 00:18:39,440 Speaker 1: us feel the richest. We've talked about money, We've talked 313 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:42,919 Speaker 1: about qualities, but it leaves us with the greatest gift. 314 00:18:43,359 --> 00:18:46,160 Speaker 1: It's how we use our time and energy. Someone can 315 00:18:46,200 --> 00:18:48,919 Speaker 1: be time rich because they have lots of time. We 316 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 1: often talk about feeling time poor. These days, we're running 317 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: from meeting to meeting, running from this to that, So 318 00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:58,400 Speaker 1: we're time poor and maybe money okay, But what about 319 00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:02,360 Speaker 1: being time rich? That's value? What about being energy rich? 320 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:04,800 Speaker 1: We take care of our energy, We manage our energy. 321 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 1: I want us to expand our definition of rich so 322 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 1: that time and energy are also there. Tris like money. 323 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:16,800 Speaker 1: According to one survey, We'll spend twenty eight years of 324 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: our lifetime sleeping, fifteen years engaged in work, thirteen years relaxing, 325 00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:28,360 Speaker 1: seven years performing everyday household chores, five years socializing, and 326 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:31,320 Speaker 1: four years eating and drinking. Over the course of an 327 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:34,919 Speaker 1: average lifetime, we'll work a dozen jobs and interact with 328 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:39,080 Speaker 1: roughly eighty thousand people. Our heart will beat two point 329 00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:42,920 Speaker 1: nine two billion times, or one hundred thousand beats a day, 330 00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:46,600 Speaker 1: and our eyes will blink four hundred and twenty million times, 331 00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:50,560 Speaker 1: or around five point three million blinks per year. We'll 332 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 1: take six hundred and seventy two million breaths and walk 333 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:58,439 Speaker 1: roughly sixty three thousand miles. That's what it means to 334 00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:03,920 Speaker 1: be alive, and it's so important that we figure out 335 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:09,439 Speaker 1: how we want to use that time alive. So let's 336 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:14,040 Speaker 1: really look at richness as beyond money. When we're thinking 337 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:17,160 Speaker 1: about our lives and think about is this a year 338 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:20,520 Speaker 1: where I want to be wealthy and travel? Is this 339 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:23,159 Speaker 1: a year where I want to be wealthy in experiences. 340 00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 1: I remember speaking to our friend the other day and 341 00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:27,520 Speaker 1: he was like, you know, the last couple of years, 342 00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:30,000 Speaker 1: I haven't made as much money as I you know, 343 00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:32,480 Speaker 1: usually do. And I said to him, but you fell 344 00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:35,520 Speaker 1: in love, You found the greatest wealth of all, you 345 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:38,480 Speaker 1: found a life partner that you've proposed to you're going 346 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:42,679 Speaker 1: to get married to. Like, what an incredible investment. And 347 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:44,480 Speaker 1: I think it's a really interesting thing that we have 348 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:46,639 Speaker 1: to think about where it's like there are going to 349 00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:50,880 Speaker 1: be seasons in our life. Some seasons are all about 350 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:55,720 Speaker 1: financial growth, some seasons are all about family growth, some 351 00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:58,879 Speaker 1: seasons are all about relationship growth. And I think what 352 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:02,160 Speaker 1: makes our life hard and complicated is either when we're 353 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:05,840 Speaker 1: trying to do all of them all at once, or 354 00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:10,359 Speaker 1: we feel bad that we're prioritizing one. Right, there's a 355 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:17,360 Speaker 1: feeling that when we're prioritizing our financial health and our 356 00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: financial wealth, that we're some way we feel guilty that 357 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:23,399 Speaker 1: we're not investing in the other things. And guess what 358 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:27,479 Speaker 1: it takes away from the joy from building your financial position. 359 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:29,879 Speaker 1: And then when you're spending time with friends and family, 360 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 1: you're then feeling guilty that you're not building your company. 361 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:35,040 Speaker 1: And so what we do is we actually let our 362 00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:40,040 Speaker 1: internal state be clouded by shame and guilt for what 363 00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 1: we're focused on. So I'm here to remind you. Let's 364 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:46,560 Speaker 1: take away that shame and guilt. Let's take away that judgment. 365 00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:53,200 Speaker 1: Let's focus in on the real thing, the real growth, right, 366 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:57,440 Speaker 1: let's focus in on going. Okay, what season am I in? 367 00:21:57,520 --> 00:21:59,800 Speaker 1: What year am I in? Is this a year where 368 00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 1: I'm really focused on my career or is this a 369 00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:05,119 Speaker 1: year where I'm really really focused on my family? Or 370 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 1: is this a year that I really need to focus 371 00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:09,159 Speaker 1: on love? And I think so many of us are 372 00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:11,639 Speaker 1: trying to do everything all at the same time, that 373 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:15,360 Speaker 1: we don't achieve anything, and then we feel worse, And 374 00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:18,760 Speaker 1: I think often we're made to feel guilty and judged 375 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 1: for focusing, for prioritizing, but we all know it's so 376 00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:26,719 Speaker 1: hard otherwise, Right, what have you ever achieved when you 377 00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 1: weren't focusing. I know there was a part of my 378 00:22:28,640 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 1: work that I kept trying to outsource for the last 379 00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:34,840 Speaker 1: few years. It's been something I'm really passionate about, but 380 00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:36,399 Speaker 1: I haven't had the time because I've been working on 381 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 1: so many other things. In the last twelve months, I 382 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,119 Speaker 1: decided to put so much more focus on it, and 383 00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, it was transformative. It shifted, it moved. 384 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,880 Speaker 1: And so if we don't move our energy towards something 385 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:56,120 Speaker 1: it won't move. And if we're trying to equally perfectly 386 00:22:56,240 --> 00:22:59,840 Speaker 1: divide up our energy across a couple of areas, across 387 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:04,879 Speaker 1: a couple of things, we you know, recognize that that's 388 00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:07,400 Speaker 1: all we're going to ever get back from it, right, 389 00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 1: That's all we're ever going to get back from it. Now. 390 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:14,159 Speaker 1: When you look at Bronnie wears beautiful book about the 391 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:18,919 Speaker 1: five Regrets of the Dying, she says they are, I 392 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 1: wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings tell them. 393 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:27,720 Speaker 1: If you've got someone that you need to open your 394 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,520 Speaker 1: heart to this week, you want to open your heart 395 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:34,879 Speaker 1: to tell them. The second is I wish I'd stayed 396 00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:40,600 Speaker 1: in touch with my friends. Call that person, reach out, 397 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:45,600 Speaker 1: don't hold back. The third is I wish I'd lived 398 00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:48,840 Speaker 1: a life true to myself, not the life that other 399 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:52,320 Speaker 1: people expected of me. That's what I was talking about earlier. 400 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 1: What is rich for you? Define rich, Define wealthy, Define 401 00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:59,960 Speaker 1: wealth this year. Don't be pulled and pushed around by 402 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,840 Speaker 1: the opinions of others. The fourth is I wish I 403 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:05,240 Speaker 1: hadn't worked so hard. And I think that's a challenging 404 00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:09,080 Speaker 1: one because we all have to work to survive, and 405 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,960 Speaker 1: I think we'll all feel that way. But I also 406 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,320 Speaker 1: want to give us grace to not have that regret 407 00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:16,800 Speaker 1: and recognize we had Some of us may have felt 408 00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:20,359 Speaker 1: like we had to, we needed to. And the fifth 409 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:22,399 Speaker 1: is this is the more important side of it. I 410 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:25,920 Speaker 1: think I wish I'd allowed myself to be happier. It's 411 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:29,600 Speaker 1: so beautiful. I wish I'd allowed myself to be happier. 412 00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 1: How could you be happier today? How could you be 413 00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,440 Speaker 1: richer today because you choose to be, You allow yourself 414 00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 1: to be. How could you be more abundant today because 415 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,640 Speaker 1: you choose to be, you allow yourself to be. How 416 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:43,960 Speaker 1: could you be wealthier today because you choose to be, 417 00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:47,960 Speaker 1: You allow yourself to be. You look in that direction, right, 418 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:52,280 Speaker 1: you look in that direction, you amplify that, you bring 419 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:55,679 Speaker 1: it to life. I'm so grateful for your time and 420 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:59,719 Speaker 1: energy today. I hope this leaves you feeling lighter, richer, wealthier, 421 00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:02,000 Speaker 1: recordgizing that there is so much wealth in your life, 422 00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,520 Speaker 1: and I hope it allows you to create more financial 423 00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:10,280 Speaker 1: wealth as well. With that abundance mindset, take care of yourselves. Remember, 424 00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:12,879 Speaker 1: I'm forever in your corner and always rooting for you. 425 00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:16,399 Speaker 1: If you love this episode, you love my conversation with 426 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:21,440 Speaker 1: Dr Joe Dispenser on why stressing overthinking negatively impacts your 427 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:24,479 Speaker 1: brain and heart and how to change your habits that 428 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 1: are on autopilot. Listen to it right now. How many 429 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:31,760 Speaker 1: times do we have to forget until we stop forgetting 430 00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,879 Speaker 1: and start remembering. That's the moment of change. Who cares 431 00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 1: how many times you fell off the bicycle if you 432 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:38,720 Speaker 1: ride the bicycle. Now you ride the bike.