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Speaker 2: I want to divorce my husband after I cheated on him.

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Speaker 3: Oh think that's fair right?

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Speaker 2: My husband thirty four mail, let's call him John, and

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Speaker 2: I forty three female, have been married for four years

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Speaker 2: and together for five. To explain the whole story, I'll

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Speaker 2: start at the beginning. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 2: Storytime Separate it. So, before our wedding, I asked John

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Speaker 2: if he had any debts, and he said no. I

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Speaker 2: also asked if he had a driver's license and he

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Speaker 2: said yes. However, three months before our wedding in July,

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Speaker 2: I learned from his landlord that he hadn't been paying

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Speaker 2: rent and had a court order to pay up since

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Speaker 2: he wasn't honoring the payments. We arranged to cover what

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Speaker 2: he owed to keep him out of trouble. This upset

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Speaker 2: me and I started having doubts and feeling bad vibes.

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Speaker 2: I should mention that I am a Christian, although much

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Speaker 2: if my family is Muslim. When I met John, he

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Speaker 2: assumed that being half Moroccan, I would automatically be Muslim. However,

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Speaker 2: I made many changes in my life to become a

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Speaker 2: better person and embrace my Christian faith. John, who was

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Speaker 2: raised Catholic, had converted to Islam.

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Speaker 3: You guys swap, Wow, they really did.

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Speaker 2: I never pressured him to change religions, but after many

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Speaker 2: discussions comparing the Bible and the Koran, he expressed a

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Speaker 2: desire to return to Christianity and started Bible study.

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Speaker 3: Okay, three things. Yes, he's gonna he has no debts. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: he has a driver's license or like I guess legal dodcasts,

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Speaker 3: And he's gonna convert back Christianity. What I can already

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Speaker 3: see here is one he's a liar into equal yoke

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Speaker 3: as a Christian. That's kind of like one of the things,

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Speaker 3: like before you get into it, it's important like not

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Speaker 3: like on this same page about certain things, but like

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Speaker 3: you kind of have the same mindset towards things. You

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Speaker 3: guys work like hard at the same things.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: See if this happens, Yeah, because I already see a

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Speaker 3: lot of setting self up for failure here. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: After learning about his debt and dishonesty, I was ready

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Speaker 2: to call off the wedding. I suggested we spend some

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Speaker 2: time apart to work on ourselves and our faith. I

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Speaker 2: have a dark past, and my faith has freed me

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Speaker 2: from it. John knew how important this was to me.

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Speaker 2: He begged me not to leave, saying he wanted the

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Speaker 2: same things in life and felt he had finally found

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Speaker 2: purpose and truth. He promised to quit smoking and make

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Speaker 3: Oh no, these are uh, you gotta pray about it.

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Speaker 3: Both of you gotta pray about it.

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Speaker 2: Eventually I gave in today. I knew this was a mistake,

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Speaker 2: but I've always put out those needs before my own.

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Speaker 2: That's my biggest flaw. We got married in October and

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Speaker 2: for a while things seemed okay. Then in January, his

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Speaker 2: salary was garnished for debts he had forgotten about. He

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Speaker 2: always had explanation, blaming the system or saying he was

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Speaker 2: a victim of circumstances.

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Speaker 3: But now circumstances.

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Speaker 2: Before the wedding, I had purchased a BMW for myself.

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Speaker 2: He often argued over the car because I've always been independent,

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Speaker 2: going where I need to. As a single mother of three, John,

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Speaker 2: who previously relied on public transport, started insisting that he

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Speaker 2: couldn't waste time on a two hour commute from work,

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Speaker 2: pressuring me to let him use my car. In April,

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Speaker 2: my daughters wanted to start driving lessons, and I learned

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Speaker 2: I was pregnant. I asked John to be their driving instructor.

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Speaker 2: In Belgium, an experienced driver can teach students to drive

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Speaker 2: after passing a small test. John signed up, but when

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Speaker 2: complete the paperwork, they discovered John had no registered license.

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Speaker 2: My ex husband called me to break the news. When

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Speaker 2: I confronted John, he admitted, I didn't know how to

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Speaker 2: trouble for lending John my car when he didn't even

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Speaker 3: Honest, she didn't know. He just said I hadn't.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, that's what I was saying. That's the

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Speaker 2: or maybe not the first thing, but like you asked

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Speaker 3: He was like, yep, doesn't have sucked the downgrade from

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Speaker 2: Yeah? What? Still he hadn't considered the risk. He only

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Speaker 2: thought about himself. Meanwhile, I was studying to be a

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Speaker 2: paying off his debts. Then I found out he'd spent

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Speaker 2: three hundred dollars gambling online. I was furious because I

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Speaker 2: do it again, and I forgave him, reminding him of

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Speaker 2: his promise to quit spoking before our baby was born.

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Speaker 2: Despite repeatedly swearing he wasn't smoking, I kept catching him

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Speaker 2: was living in a social housing arrangement that offered stability,

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Speaker 2: especially if John lost his job, our rent would decrease,

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Speaker 2: but he pressured me, and five months after our daughter

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Speaker 3: Oh boy, get at uh, get at question? We bought

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's got all that debt. Not long after I

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Speaker 2: started suspecting he was hiding something. I asked if he

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Speaker 2: My instincts told me to check his phone, and in

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Speaker 2: was gambling our mortgage payments on casino games. ERL let's leave,

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Speaker 3: My brother. Don't you understand those are rigged?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, rigged. To try to cover it up, he took

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Speaker 2: He has put our family at risk. Oh, John is

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Speaker 2: an easy way of washing off his guilt, and the

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Speaker 2: only thing that brings some joy is booze. Many times

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Speaker 2: he has crossed the line due to heavy consumption, like

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Speaker 2: pulling on the emergency brake while I'm driving with our

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Speaker 3: Bro, you gotta put yourself first in front of him.

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Speaker 2: Leave this man. She was driving, and he just yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry with your baby. Bye. All the doors upstairs

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Speaker 2: are broken in because of his outbursts. He never considered

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Speaker 2: my needs. If I wanted to cut my hair, I'll

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Speaker 2: tell me things like, we don't have the money for that.

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Speaker 2: Yours fine, even if it's been in year since my

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Speaker 2: last cut. But he cuts his hair every month, and

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Speaker 2: when I tell him that, he has the audacity to say, well,

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Speaker 2: it's not the same budget, so one hundred dollars a

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Speaker 2: when he knows that I used to be pampered head

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Speaker 2: other three children's needs. You had three kids with his man.

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Speaker 3: She had three kids before. She had two kids before,

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Speaker 2: Kids and then one with him. You need to leave.

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Speaker 2: But as long as he and our daughter are taken

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Speaker 3: Or I think she had three before and then one

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Speaker 2: Girl leave him. He's like off. He offers nothing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah he does. He offers stress, and he's a money hole. Yeah, honestly,

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Speaker 3: you've got too much money. You got to get one

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Speaker 2: Around you, got it. Yeah, you can't have all this money.

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Speaker 2: Almost a year after the gambling episode and the many

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Speaker 2: fights over his drinking habits and the lying about his

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Speaker 2: me crazy, says I persecute him. He finally admits it

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Speaker 2: when I find a pack of SIGs in our new car.

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Speaker 3: Dude.

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Speaker 2: The car was also a big source of arguments. I

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Speaker 2: didn't want us to buy a car over fifteen thousand dollars,

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Speaker 2: but he argued every day about how he knows it

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Speaker 2: to fix BMW's in that their quality cars.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, sorry for everyone that has a BMW.

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Speaker 3: I have never heard any other car it gets brought

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Speaker 2: I just think this man is stupid?

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Speaker 3: Is he is? He said that about BMW's, not saying

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Speaker 3: require a lot of maintenance with oil and things like that.

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Speaker 2: Well, I know they're good cars. I mostly drove BMW's

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Speaker 2: So my mistake. I finally gave in. We bought a

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Speaker 2: twenty eight thousand dollars car on credits. The credit is

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Speaker 3: I am shocked how this woman got with this man.

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Speaker 3: I don't understand why you were still with him.

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Speaker 2: And that's when he started to change. He was what

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Speaker 2: do you mean he started to change? Okay, before me,

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Speaker 2: John had debts, was about to be evicted from his place,

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Speaker 2: had no car, nor license, no friends or family close

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Speaker 2: to him except his father, who always pulled him out

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Speaker 2: glass of booze in his hand. Yikes, girl, girl again,

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Speaker 2: my lanterns lit up. I knew another woman was behind

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Speaker 2: this making him smile. I definitely wasn't the one making

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Speaker 2: him so cheerful. Our daughter never made him this happy.

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Speaker 2: I felt so angry because he would never hug me

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Speaker 2: sleep twice a month, max, and I never pushed him

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Speaker 2: away to spy all the deceptions and lies. The problem

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Speaker 2: in our spicy sleep life again is him. But even

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Speaker 2: if he neglected me, I never would have let some

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Speaker 2: other man get closer to me. So anyways, I know

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Speaker 2: something is up again. And he casually talks about this

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Speaker 2: was being pestered. We'll call her nas thirty three female.

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Speaker 3: Oh boy, don't worry about her now.

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Speaker 2: I know my husband. He doesn't give a dang about anyone,

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Speaker 2: and he was all poor girl about her. I knew

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Speaker 2: she was the reason for him smiling so much. Anyway,

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Speaker 2: to make a long story short, he denied doing anything

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Speaker 3: Hey, coaches don't play.

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Speaker 2: We knew that a relationship would be complicated because our

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Speaker 3: He's gambling sue for John.

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Speaker 2: Soof how is he into dirty money? John's literally gambling

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just physically dirty. We have a twelve year

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Speaker 2: even though we were divorcing, and he felt hurt. How

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Speaker 3: It's just the state didn't see you guys.

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Speaker 2: I told him I only felt guilty in front of God.

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Speaker 2: Friends and family were telling me about seeing John on TikTok,

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Speaker 2: So he finally begs me to give him one last chance. Girl.

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00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:07,320
Speaker 2: If you do this, I'm gonna be mad at you.

440
00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:08,680
Speaker 3: Don't give him another chance.

441
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:10,320
Speaker 2: I've gotta be mad at you. If you give him

442
00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:14,199
Speaker 2: another chance, please, He said, he would do anything to

443
00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:17,320
Speaker 2: get me back. Everything is his fault. He wants a

444
00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:20,159
Speaker 2: Bible study. He wants us to get help for our marriage,

445
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:21,880
Speaker 2: and he promises to quit smoking.

446
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:25,000
Speaker 3: Like how you got married? He's just telling you things

447
00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:25,840
Speaker 3: you want to hear.

448
00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:29,680
Speaker 2: At the beginning of October, I finally agree and decide

449
00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:30,680
Speaker 2: to see what he'll do.

450
00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:35,640
Speaker 3: I can't. I can't, I can't. I you lost. Here

451
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:37,080
Speaker 3: is on you man?

452
00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:37,680
Speaker 2: You suck.

453
00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:41,040
Speaker 3: You were as dumb as he is. Who's dumber? Come on,

454
00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:41,879
Speaker 3: she's dumber.

455
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:45,520
Speaker 2: I mean they're dumb in different ways. Like she's she

456
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:48,399
Speaker 2: just can't see I don't know. She can't, like she

457
00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:52,679
Speaker 2: can't get out of this attached mindset him. She feels

458
00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:53,760
Speaker 2: stuck or something.

459
00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 3: I think the big question here technically he is dumber. Yeah,

460
00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:01,360
Speaker 3: but if you keep seeing yourself being her and these situations,

461
00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:04,000
Speaker 3: do you keep putting yourself in these situations and now

462
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:05,400
Speaker 3: removing you or your family?

463
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 2: Yeah?

464
00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:07,879
Speaker 3: But who who actually is number?

465
00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 2: I just think that. I just think that, like you can't.

466
00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 2: Like obviously there's a manner of you know, there's matters

467
00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:16,320
Speaker 2: of like abuse kind of going on here where he's

468
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,159
Speaker 2: pulling her up back in love bombing, et cetera, et cetera.

469
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:25,320
Speaker 2: But don't settle for this behavior. Yeah, leave, go find sooth.

470
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:28,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, be a soooth man like. Even if you guys

471
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:30,399
Speaker 3: disagree on some things, your life will be one hundred

472
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:31,600
Speaker 3: times more easier than this.

473
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 2: He knows I'm not fond of TikTok, but I didn't

474
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:37,120
Speaker 2: tell him straight out to stop. One month goes by

475
00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:40,120
Speaker 2: and no Bible study. Not once did we look into

476
00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:44,160
Speaker 2: marriage counseling. He's obsessed with TikTok, spending his spare time

477
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 2: in his car doing live battles. He even spends money

478
00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:51,960
Speaker 2: on TikTok. But the electricity bill wasn't paid for four months,

479
00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:55,320
Speaker 2: his insurance wasn't paid for three But I'm supposed to

480
00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:58,280
Speaker 2: not judge him. He who is trying to make money

481
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:01,639
Speaker 2: on TikTok, don't like how he talks to me. He

482
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:04,760
Speaker 2: says that he likes TikTok, that the time for dictatorship

483
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,440
Speaker 2: is over, that he's not scared of me, and that

484
00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 2: I can't ask for divorce just because he doesn't care

485
00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:12,879
Speaker 2: about religion. Yes you can. You can ask for divorce

486
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 2: for anything. And also I'm asking you to listen to

487
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 2: full episodes of stories just like this. Just go to Spotify,

488
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:22,200
Speaker 2: Apple Podcast or iHeartRadio and search up okay story time, dude.

489
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Speaker 3: So if we're playing divorce in like you know, the

490
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:30,320
Speaker 3: Christian Confounds, Yeah, one of the things that divorce has

491
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:34,159
Speaker 3: like got the green light for is unfaithfulness. Yep. I

492
00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 3: would argue in some scenarios that on faithfulness also means

493
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 3: with money as well.

494
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he's stolen your money. Yeah, he's literally already

495
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 2: cheated on you.

496
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 3: So within the my within the Christian confounds, he was unfaithful.

497
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:52,520
Speaker 3: That's calls for divorce for some interpretations of it. He

498
00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 3: was also on faithful with you with the money situation,

499
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:58,880
Speaker 3: so you can divorce, okay if that's what's holding your back.

500
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:04,160
Speaker 2: And also he's only with you for your money, Oh yeah,

501
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:06,159
Speaker 2: because he knows that you're gonna pay off his debts.

502
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:06,720
Speaker 3: Yep.

503
00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 1: Yep.

504
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 3: You're You're luck is that you just keep balling him

505
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:13,439
Speaker 3: out of things, keep giving into this behavior. Yep.

506
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:15,639
Speaker 2: But uh, there's a little bit more to the story.

507
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:18,240
Speaker 2: We had an agreement that he would help me put

508
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 2: aside ten thousand dollars, and I'm sure her that agreement.

509
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:26,159
Speaker 2: So you can gamble whether be divorced or not, just

510
00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:28,639
Speaker 2: as security because I have zero trust in him and

511
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 2: his word. In case of doors, I would leave with

512
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 2: the ten thousand dollars and let him out of the house.

513
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 2: But he's been saying things like why should I give

514
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 2: you money if we're not divorcing. He keeps zero promises,

515
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 2: So now I want to take him to court and

516
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 2: try to get the house. I have three kids, strays.

517
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 2: I gave up everything for him and gave into everything,

518
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:51,400
Speaker 2: and he has just been a deceitful husband. But am

519
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 2: I the ale for asking for the divorce trying to

520
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 2: take the house, even if I technically am the cheater,

521
00:24:56,720 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 2: You're literally not. I have no proof of him having

522
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,879
Speaker 2: an affair, Yes you do. You have so many of

523
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:07,040
Speaker 2: these chats and never will. He will lie to till

524
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 2: his last, lying, stinking breath. Okay, folks, that's the end

525
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 2: of that story.

526
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Speaker 3: I have some math that I did here. Yeah, so

527
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:16,919
Speaker 3: one earlier in the story, we saw that he had

528
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 3: eleven thousand dollars in debt that he accumulated for gambling.

529
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 3: Yeah to a house payment. Let's just say you got

530
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:24,399
Speaker 3: a house for like one hundred and fifty thousand dollars

531
00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:26,679
Speaker 3: and split it. That's seventy five grand. And then on

532
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:28,639
Speaker 3: top of the ten Granny wasted with the car. He

533
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:31,919
Speaker 3: is ninety six dollars one hundred thousand dollars minimum in

534
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 3: debt here. Yeah, I understand that you seem to put

535
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 3: on a lot of yourself because earlier you said that

536
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 3: you put other people before yourself. Yeah, clearly, it seems

537
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:44,360
Speaker 3: that you're putting this guilt that you cheated on him

538
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 3: as the biggest thing because you want to keep your

539
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 3: conscious clear. But we're also missing that he cheated on

540
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:52,200
Speaker 3: you in an emotional and probably physical sense.

541
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,679
Speaker 2: While you guys were actually still together, and then you

542
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:58,120
Speaker 2: were separated, and then you got with someone else while

543
00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:59,200
Speaker 2: you were separated.

544
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 3: So let's lie these facts up here. Get rid of

545
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:04,160
Speaker 3: this self guilt that you have about yourself. See how

546
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 3: it is, take a step back. Yes, you can forgive

547
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 3: yourself if that's what you need to do. Divorce him,

548
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:12,159
Speaker 3: get out of here. Divorce You're as stupid as he is.

549
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,520
Speaker 3: If you're gonna stay in this, I'm gonna keep saying it,

550
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:17,480
Speaker 3: you need to leave. Goodness gracious, But folks, that's the

551
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Speaker 3: end of that story. Got another one. Yep, Hey, it's

552
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 3: johny og Host here. We're gonna get back to the stories.

553
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Speaker 3: But he's a quick three minute break of ass from

554
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Speaker 3: our sponsors. My wife invited her ex to my birthday

555
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:29,639
Speaker 3: party without asking me.

556
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:32,360
Speaker 2: I'm on inviting you to my birthday party.

557
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:35,160
Speaker 3: I'm twenty nine male and my wife is thirty female.

558
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:37,479
Speaker 3: We have been together for five years. We met each

559
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:40,160
Speaker 3: other during a seminar and we clicked and started dating.

560
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:44,399
Speaker 3: It eventually got married. My wife already had told me

561
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,199
Speaker 3: that she was in a very serious relationship with her

562
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 3: school friend. It was one of her female friends brothers.

563
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 3: They were planning on getting married, but she fell out

564
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:55,920
Speaker 3: of love with him and they broke up when he

565
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 3: went for education and a job in a foreign country

566
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Speaker 3: and hasn't met him for the past nine years. By

567
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,199
Speaker 3: the way, this comes from Throwaway twenty nine. If you

568
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:06,879
Speaker 3: want to spite your own stories, what are the r

569
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Speaker 3: slashow okay stories? I'm suburn. So enough backstory. Five days ago,

570
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 3: it was my birthday. We wanted to do something special,

571
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 3: so we were planning for it for a month. We

572
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 3: were on a tight budget as well, so we discussed

573
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,880
Speaker 3: on who we were inviting. Basically, we agreed on both

574
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 3: of our families or invited even extended and some of

575
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:29,679
Speaker 3: our neighbors and our friends and colleagues. Only those we know,

576
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 3: though on that day I didn't know if my wife

577
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:35,720
Speaker 3: invited her ax as well, which was a shock to me.

578
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:39,160
Speaker 3: When I saw him, I was really shocked. I called

579
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 3: my wife to meet me upstairs. I asked her what

580
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 3: he's doing here. She said he came with her sister.

581
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 3: I said, we will have a discussion later.

582
00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:49,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, why wouldn't she have said that, like, Hey, my

583
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:50,640
Speaker 2: ex is gonna.

584
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:52,879
Speaker 3: Be here with your sister. Are they are him and

585
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 3: the sister together or very good question. On my party,

586
00:27:56,760 --> 00:28:00,239
Speaker 3: I saw mug a my wife and he greeted and

587
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 3: hugs me as well. He's just hugging everybody.

588
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:04,919
Speaker 2: He was hugging everybody.

589
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 3: We talked justice formality, and my wife was spending time

590
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 3: with her friends and he also joined. I guess because

591
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 3: he's from the friend circle. Anyway, after the party, I

592
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:17,360
Speaker 3: confronted my wife and asked her what she was thinking.

593
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 3: She asked me what. I asked her, Why was her

594
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:23,880
Speaker 3: ex here when I never met him before? And why

595
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 3: did you not tell me? She said he came back

596
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 3: for a few months on holidays and her friends told

597
00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 3: her and urged my wife to invite him.

598
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 2: It's like the thing is that she totally could have

599
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 2: invited him if she had told her partner about this,

600
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 2: like literally, just say, hey, I found out my axes

601
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 2: in town. I haven't seen him in nine years. Is

602
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 2: it okay if he comes to the party.

603
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,360
Speaker 3: It's a few words there, I counted thirteen.

604
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 2: Yeah.

605
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 3: I told my wife she should have discussed this with me.

606
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 3: It's my birthday party and I should have the right

607
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 3: to decide who joins and who doesn't. And it isn't

608
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 3: just some random guy, it's your x. She said, it

609
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 3: wasn't that big of a deal. It was only for

610
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 3: a few hours. She said she didn't tell me because

611
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 3: I would object it because she knows me, and she

612
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 3: wanted all of her friends to be invited, so she

613
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 3: knew he was gonna say no.

614
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 2: She knew you were going to say no. She wants

615
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 2: all of her friends to be invited to your birthday.

616
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 2: It's your birthday.

617
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 3: I completely lost my crap when she said that. So

618
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 3: I said, you choose your friends over your own husband,

619
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 3: I said in my anger. Does she have any idea

620
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 3: how it feels to see your partner's ex on your

621
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 3: special day, especially when it's for the first time.

622
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:38,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you didn't know.

623
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,240
Speaker 3: Would you like it if I invite my ex to

624
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 3: your birthday party without telling you, and my ex is

625
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 3: hugging me and laughing with me. Would you be okay

626
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 3: with it? It was supposed to be in my special

627
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 3: day and you ruined it by inviting your ex. Okay, okay,

628
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 3: ruined it?

629
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I mean ptent, potentially dramtic. However, I still

630
00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 2: think he's one hundred percent in the right. I absolutely

631
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 2: should not have invited the X without asking him, and

632
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 2: then and then kind of downplayed him. But Louke, it's

633
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 2: not a big deal. It's a big deal to him.

634
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 3: If it was that big of a deal to me,

635
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:11,040
Speaker 3: I would go up to the X. Thanks for coming.

636
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 3: I would like it if you left what.

637
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 2: It seems like he didn't want to create a scene

638
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 2: because he went up to her.

639
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 3: We're to talk about this later, pulled him aside. I

640
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 3: was constantly thinking about how he did you for years,

641
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 3: and god knows what he actually did to you.

642
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, dude, that now we're yer.

643
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 3: Know you're going to cut that to yourself. Would I

644
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 3: be thrilled to see a man who f my own

645
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 3: wife on my special day? It would be one thing.

646
00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 3: If it were on friendly terms and we knew each other,

647
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 3: if he was my bro, would be different. If we

648
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 3: were asking O bros, we'd be totally different. She started sobbing, said,

649
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 3: I'm blowing out of proportion and it's not that serious,

650
00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 3: and I'm hurting her with my words. We aren't talking

651
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 3: to each other for the past couple of days. She

652
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 3: told her parents and sister, and they said that I'm

653
00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 3: overreacting and it's not that big of a deal. I

654
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:00,720
Speaker 3: simply told him that if I I invite one of

655
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 3: my exes on her birthday party without telling her, would

656
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 3: she like it. They said that I would just be

657
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:09,520
Speaker 3: taking revenge. I said, I wouldn't hurt her, but she

658
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 3: should have thought multiple times and discussed with me and

659
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 3: just simply have thought that it might hurt me and.

660
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 2: Then listen to him when he said it did hurt him.

661
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 3: So why am I the a hole here?

662
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 2: No, she's the a hole. Yeah, only did she not

663
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 2: tell you that he was coming. She just will not

664
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 2: listen to you after you say hey, didn't appreciate that.

665
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 2: She could have just said, oh my god, I really

666
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:35,880
Speaker 2: didn't think it was gonna be that big of a deal.

667
00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 2: But I'm so sorry. I'll make sure in the future,

668
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:44,240
Speaker 2: I'll always ask you in these situations.

669
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 3: Smell it. What an old candle we're kindling?

670
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 2: Ooh, little flame starting up?

671
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 3: Looks like rosemary, maybe even a lavender.

672
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 2: M mmmmm.

673
00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 3: Yeah. I don't.

674
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't don't trust that anyone in

675
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 2: the story. She's she's making excuses, her family's making excuse.

676
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:07,560
Speaker 3: For I don't think, Like, what does the ex doing there?

677
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:10,560
Speaker 3: I bet he has the best intentions. Yeah, right after

678
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 3: nine years, he's probably like mandabe, like, I'm back with me.

679
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 3: I can take it, Uh, take it on my foreign land,

680
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 3: and you'd be living like a queen. Yes, sure right day.

681
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 3: First of all, I think everyone for their advice. I

682
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 3: tried my best and not overthink, but after reading the comments,

683
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:29,719
Speaker 3: I couldn't brush off the feeling that something is wrong here.

684
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 3: I tried so hard to deny it, but I just

685
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 3: couldn't because she didn't really apologize.

686
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 2: I apologized.

687
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 3: I went to my wife today and asked her to

688
00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:42,240
Speaker 3: unlock her phone and give it to me.

689
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 2: I mean, yikes, but like, at least you're not snooping

690
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 2: through it.

691
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 3: There's probable cause here, Well, it's not even probable, cause.

692
00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 2: Here I'm just glad that he's not like doing it secretly.

693
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 3: Secretly. Yeah. She asked me multiple questions, like it was

694
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 3: an integregation or something, and why do I want to

695
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:01,520
Speaker 3: check her phone? Or do I not trust her? Or

696
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 3: did I go crazy because of my jealousy? And many more.

697
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:07,960
Speaker 3: But the more I think about it, the angrier I get. She,

698
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 3: after pressuring her for a while, gave me her phone.

699
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 3: I checked her texts, social media messages, but kind of

700
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 3: fine anything at all. But I went to her group

701
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 3: text chat and found out that my wife and her

702
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 3: ex met each other alone quite frequently ever since he

703
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 3: came back.

704
00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:29,000
Speaker 2: Ooh, big old lie, big old lie.

705
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 3: And he was also invited whenever she went out with

706
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 3: her friends.

707
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:38,320
Speaker 2: But she never told me crazy that she would have

708
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 2: gotten away with this had she not invited him to

709
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 2: your party.

710
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 3: Yep, like we said, criminals are dumb.

711
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I just want to I'm wondering if she wanted.

712
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:51,160
Speaker 3: To get caught like what, Yeah, the thrill is cheating,

713
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah.

714
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:55,720
Speaker 2: She was meeting with her ex boyfriend for a while

715
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 2: without letting you know.

716
00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 3: I could get if I haven't seen my ex that

717
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:01,280
Speaker 3: I thought I was gonna marry one day and we

718
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 3: ended things amicably. I could get maybe asking my wife, Hey,

719
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 3: do you mind if I go meet them in a

720
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:09,840
Speaker 3: totally different for coffee?

721
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:12,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, in a group session, group kind of situation. Yeah,

722
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:16,319
Speaker 2: totally different if he if she had asked.

723
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 3: Op if you grew up as like family, friends and

724
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 3: things like that? Okay, that makes sense.

725
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, is though alone without your partner's knowledge, out.

726
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 3: With your friends and her friends didn't say anything suspicious?

727
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:32,480
Speaker 3: Your friends didn't say.

728
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 2: Nothing, and then your friend tells you to invite him

729
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 2: to his birth to Opie's birthday.

730
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:40,880
Speaker 3: And gets so comfortable that you actually do it. Yikes,

731
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 3: she's just now, she's just flown her stuff.

732
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 2: She's like, well, it's gonna come out eventually, it might

733
00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 2: as well. Kind of.

734
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:54,320
Speaker 3: Yeah. I asked her what this is? She asked me why.

735
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 2: He's like you meeting up with your ex? She's like, no,

736
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 2: is that? I literally I see things that say you

737
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 2: meet you met up with them?

738
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 3: No, no habla espanol, no habla ingles oh man that she.

739
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 2: Doesn't speak English or Spanish, she speaks no language.

740
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:15,800
Speaker 3: I ask her, why did you meet him alone? And

741
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 3: why did you never tell me about any of this.

742
00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 3: Why did you not tell me that you and your

743
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 3: friends invited your ex and you all hung out together.

744
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 3: My wife said, it's not what I think it is.

745
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 3: She said, it's not just a rex, but a long

746
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 3: time friend. They've known each other for years, even before

747
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 3: she met me. And I'm just being jealous controlling man.

748
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:44,840
Speaker 3: And there's nothing suspicious other than we just met and

749
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 3: hung out.

750
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:47,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, and didn't tell your partner.

751
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 3: There's a lot of things you can do when you

752
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 3: meet and hang out.

753
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 2: Didn't tell your partner suspicials?

754
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 3: I said, I love and trust you, but do not

755
00:35:57,480 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 3: take me for a fool. There's no reason for you

756
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 3: to be alone with your ex and behind my back. Especially.

757
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 3: I don't even know who the f this guy is.

758
00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 3: Who the f he is even? And why is he

759
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,800
Speaker 3: talking to my wife behind my back? And why is

760
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 3: my wife meeting him and my own wife defending her ex.

761
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:20,240
Speaker 3: I said, I'm leaving and we're getting a divorce.

762
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 2: WHOA dang, that was boo. That was quick.

763
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:27,719
Speaker 3: I would think of separation perhaps, Yeah, I thought there

764
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:31,279
Speaker 3: was gonna be like, maybe a little bit more conversation,

765
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 3: but I guess not. Is this enough evidence for a

766
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:35,840
Speaker 3: cause of divorce.

767
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 2: I don't know.

768
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 3: I guess for a piatas I would need to know

769
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,799
Speaker 3: if they did anything physically and emotionally, I.

770
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:44,800
Speaker 2: Would I would want to have more conversations of like

771
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 2: why did you not tell me this? But it feels

772
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 2: like maybe he's asking about and she's like playing dumb

773
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:52,240
Speaker 2: and he's like, I'm sick of this divorce.

774
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, because if your relation has been going down here

775
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 3: for a while, and you've noticed some thing's changed within

776
00:36:56,719 --> 00:37:00,800
Speaker 3: the past couple of like past month, yeah, I've started crying.

777
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 3: Said I don't trust her and it's not what I

778
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 3: think it is. I wanted to calm her down, but

779
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 3: I just started walking to the door. My wife held

780
00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:12,160
Speaker 3: me and got angry and said we can talk and

781
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 3: fix the misunderstanding. But I said, I'm not ready to

782
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:19,160
Speaker 3: talk and I'm running out of patience, so please just

783
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,399
Speaker 3: let me be, and if she wants to be with him,

784
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:24,480
Speaker 3: I wouldn't object, and I will pray for a happy

785
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:27,320
Speaker 3: life for you. I went to live with my sister

786
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 3: for a bit. I told her everything that happened. I

787
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 3: must have ran it for a long time. She just

788
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 3: listened and said nothing, But in the end she said,

789
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 3: my wife is definitely hiding something, and my suspicion is correct.

790
00:37:41,160 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 3: She hugged me and sold me and I was drowning

791
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 3: in my own thoughts and my sister noticed it. I guess.

792
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 3: My sister said that if she can feel it, that

793
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 3: I want to cry, and if I want to, I

794
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 3: can cry on her and vincent her instead of bottling

795
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:58,000
Speaker 3: it up inside, and she herself started crying.

796
00:37:58,560 --> 00:37:59,839
Speaker 2: Oh, here's belly.

797
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 3: To be honest, I really do, but I'm too proud

798
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 3: to show the weaker side of me, and I have

799
00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 3: come here on the internet anonymously. I did so much

800
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 3: for my wife. She always threw lavish parties, but when

801
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 3: I wanted to do the same after years, she betrayed

802
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 3: me in the worst possible way. Okay, I don't know

803
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:22,960
Speaker 3: if this is about the party anymore, Dude, Loki, he's

804
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:24,600
Speaker 3: probably just still upset about this party.

805
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:26,720
Speaker 2: I yeah, he's just like my party was just supposed

806
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 2: to be really cool. She ruined it, and I'm divorcing

807
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:31,480
Speaker 2: her because of it.

808
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:35,839
Speaker 3: As she cheated, just ruined my birthday. Oh man, there

809
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 3: were a thousand different ways to hurt me. She chose

810
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,920
Speaker 3: the worst way to hurt me or I am drinking

811
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 3: and thinking about what went wrong and where I was

812
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 3: lacking and living with my sister like a loser in

813
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 3: his thirties. Well, dude, he's taking the hard route here.

814
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:54,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do, Okay. I don't think that he is

815
00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 2: necessarily wrong for divorcing her. I think that's his right,

816
00:38:58,640 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 2: like she has betrayed his truss yep. I do think

817
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:03,000
Speaker 2: he could ask a couple more questions.

818
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 3: I feel like, you're curious about the situation.

819
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like he was like she was like I can explain,

820
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:11,360
Speaker 2: and he was like nope, bye, like they're married at

821
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 2: least like talk about the situation. I don't know, Like

822
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 2: if we had confirmation that she had cheated on him emotionally,

823
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,879
Speaker 2: physically or whatever, like we had confirmation that they were

824
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 2: seeing each other and we're in love blah blah blah,

825
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:29,960
Speaker 2: then I'd be like, yeah, but I feel like, maybe

826
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:33,279
Speaker 2: just have one conversation where you guys are a little

827
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:38,479
Speaker 2: bit like emotionally kind of more chill, and then after

828
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:42,320
Speaker 2: that conversation, if you're like, yep, she has either continued

829
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 2: to lie to me or she tells me the truth,

830
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 2: and it's that she's been cheating on me and then

831
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:48,440
Speaker 2: you can go.

832
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 3: Oh, man, I would need more evidence.

833
00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I would just want a little like I don't

834
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 2: even know if it's evidence. I just would want to

835
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 2: have like one more like proper conversation before I went

836
00:39:57,719 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 2: through this.

837
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:02,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, did that have kid? No they don't. Well, that's

838
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:04,399
Speaker 3: good update too, hey's John og Hoist.

839
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but a quick

840
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 1: three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

841
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:10,200
Speaker 3: I'm sorry if this is too long. I'm just suffering

842
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 3: and overthinking so much. I can't even think properly. But

843
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 3: I try my best to keep it as short as possible,

844
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 3: so we get a summary here now. Yesterday my wife

845
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 3: called me and asked to meet me. I said no,

846
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:23,840
Speaker 3: one told her say whatever she wants on the phone.

847
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 3: She could not possibly have chosen a worse time to

848
00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 3: call and piss me off. I was wasted and crying

849
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:35,840
Speaker 3: as heck, though I do not blame her because it

850
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 3: was only eleven o'clock in the morning. Hey, sometimes you

851
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 3: got to get the day started early, you know, you

852
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 3: know what I mean? My sober friend. Yes, she started

853
00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:49,239
Speaker 3: off with saying she's sorry and we'll do anything to

854
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:52,400
Speaker 3: win me back, and she swore she didn't talk to

855
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:55,320
Speaker 3: him until he got back and her friends introduced me

856
00:40:55,440 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 3: to her again, which led to reminiscing. She proposed to

857
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 3: me that we should get back and fix our marriage,

858
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:05,800
Speaker 3: and she promised me that she will never talk to

859
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 3: him again. We should move to a different state and

860
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:12,760
Speaker 3: live her life and forget whatever happened. Now. I really

861
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 3: really wanted to just forgive her and divorce her and

862
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 3: didn't want to expose her, but this pissed me off.

863
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:24,400
Speaker 3: I started calling her so many names, cursed her like

864
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 3: it's rainfall, and everything I held up inside of me

865
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 3: came out. I called her a lie, cheating, manipulative, which

866
00:41:31,360 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 3: even after all this I did for you, you want

867
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 3: to isolate me for my family and have me in

868
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:41,480
Speaker 3: your purse. I work so hard for you, sacrificed everything

869
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:45,239
Speaker 3: for you, and you are with your ex Effingham, just

870
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 3: because I loved you and too we have a conversation

871
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:50,520
Speaker 3: and you took advantage of me. Yeah, I don't know.

872
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:53,879
Speaker 3: I swear to the heavens above even if I go broke,

873
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 3: start begging on the street, I will expose you and

874
00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 3: divorce you. If it was something else I would have

875
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 3: forgiven you in a heartbeat, but you are with your

876
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:07,320
Speaker 3: ex fiance while I'm working for you and giving you

877
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 3: most of my money, which made you think I'm a pushover. Wait,

878
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:15,000
Speaker 3: I need to understand the dynamic working dynamic. Ear is

879
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:17,399
Speaker 3: he like, is she a stay at home mom? They're

880
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 3: not parents, so she stay at home wife I have?

881
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 3: I don't really know, but just what it sounds like.

882
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 3: I feel like he's making a lot of I don't know.

883
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:29,400
Speaker 3: I hung up on her after ranning and she was crying,

884
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,799
Speaker 3: I'm done with her nerbs. I immediately told everyone what's

885
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 3: going on, which I think, after getting cheated on, is

886
00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:39,279
Speaker 3: a smart thing to do, because you don't want her

887
00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:41,880
Speaker 3: to start as I do think that.

888
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 2: Like, it seems like he's kind of implying that he

889
00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:47,400
Speaker 2: does have confirmation that she cheated, in which case like

890
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:51,400
Speaker 2: definitely divorce her. But I feel like she hasn't said

891
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 2: that yet, but maybe he's just assuming. Yeah, it's definitely

892
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:56,280
Speaker 2: at least emotionally cheated though.

893
00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 3: Which is much too embarrassing for her. I told him

894
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 3: what I saw on text, and many of her family members,

895
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 3: mostly cousins, called me and reassure me that they will

896
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:07,719
Speaker 3: help me. They said they were as shocked as I

897
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 3: was when they saw him, and that they could see

898
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:12,680
Speaker 3: it on my face, but they didn't say anything, but

899
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 3: they will help me. Except her mom. She's even worse.

900
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:18,839
Speaker 3: She started saying in our family chat that I am

901
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:22,319
Speaker 3: lying and being jealous and ruining her daughter's life in many,

902
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 3: many more ways. Her father called me and said he

903
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:27,400
Speaker 3: was sorry, and he knows that I'm not lying, and

904
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:29,879
Speaker 3: he's disappointed with how my mother in law and wife

905
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:32,800
Speaker 3: are acting. But he said he has to take his

906
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:36,440
Speaker 3: family's side, but he will stay neutral and won't help

907
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 3: me legally. But I said, to understand, it.

908
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 2: Seems like she did physically cheat on him, which in

909
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:43,600
Speaker 2: that yeah, in that case, you got your proof. It

910
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:45,280
Speaker 2: seems like everyone's kind of on your side.

911
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:48,400
Speaker 3: Would going on a date with your ex be physically.

912
00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:51,759
Speaker 2: Cheating, No, but it is there physically, and they have

913
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 2: this emotional cheating. Wasn't clear what they were doing on

914
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:55,879
Speaker 2: those dates, which is why I was like, oh, maybe

915
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 2: have that conversation. But it seems like everyone's pretty clear

916
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:01,800
Speaker 2: on what was happening, So like, yeah, and get therapy

917
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:05,360
Speaker 2: because you seem really really in a bad place.

918
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 3: Yeah. My sister hugged me when I told her what

919
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:10,840
Speaker 3: I said. She hugged me for what I think is

920
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:13,799
Speaker 3: like ten hours. She cried and said that she had

921
00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 3: failed as a sister. You should have run background checks

922
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 3: on her instead of trusting her and kept kissing me. What.

923
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:23,840
Speaker 2: No, you shouldn't have Who does that run background you

924
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:26,239
Speaker 2: even have found? What would you have found in the

925
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:30,720
Speaker 2: background check? She cheated on her partner? You can't find

926
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:32,919
Speaker 2: future cheating on a background check.

927
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 3: I think this is an older sister, you know, just sister.

928
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:37,160
Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm assuming older sister.

929
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:38,800
Speaker 2: I don't know what.

930
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:41,840
Speaker 3: Whenever you get your heart broken, whenever you see your siblings,

931
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 3: whenever you see a siblings of heartbroken, you're like, I

932
00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 3: wish I could have done. I wish something to prevent this. Yeah, sure, sure,

933
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:51,320
Speaker 3: I said. It's not her fault. He told me, the

934
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 3: next time, she will find a very good woman for me.

935
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:55,880
Speaker 3: You hugged me up with one of her friends, and

936
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 3: women will be lining up for me. For how good

937
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:00,760
Speaker 3: of a man I am that even though I'm suffering

938
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:03,319
Speaker 3: so much, I still wanted to defend my wife, which

939
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:06,319
Speaker 3: is rare. I don't know if that's true or if

940
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 3: she's just kind.

941
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 2: He did not want to defend his wife.

942
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 3: I mean, like little Carvan probably did, but I.

943
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 2: Mean it's fair, but like he definitely was like, she's

944
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 2: she's a bee, I'm exposing her. I don't know if

945
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:19,320
Speaker 2: that's defense.

946
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 3: There's a little little guy and I'm like, but chan's

947
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 3: your wife. That's probably what he's talking about. I don't

948
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:28,239
Speaker 3: know if that's true or she was just confiding me.

949
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 3: But dating or getting remarried is the least of my concern.

950
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:32,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it takes some time.

951
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 3: I'm just glad my sister was with me, helping me.

952
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 3: Otherwise I wouldn't be typing here. My sister said that

953
00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 3: she already had talked to a lawyer, a very good one,

954
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 3: and she's her friend, but didn't tell me because I

955
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 3: wasn't in the right place. Told me that in our

956
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:51,760
Speaker 3: country there's a mandatary year cool off period and mandatary

957
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 3: counseling at least two times a month, and if I

958
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 3: don't appear for counseling, the judge might think I'm being unreasonable.

959
00:45:58,360 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 3: And since I have no proof of her, a fair

960
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:03,360
Speaker 3: divorce might even take years or even a decade. And

961
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:05,920
Speaker 3: even if we prove her infidelity, she will get alimony.

962
00:46:05,960 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 3: Because cheating doesn't revoke her rights from alimony from her

963
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:12,680
Speaker 3: husband in our country, which pissed me off even more.

964
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:15,600
Speaker 3: But what I'm glad of is that my sister said

965
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 3: her friend has a loophole. She will charge us a

966
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:22,160
Speaker 3: very huge amount, and considering how many months or years

967
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:25,560
Speaker 3: we might fight and sessions, it will drain ninety percent

968
00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:28,800
Speaker 3: of my money. Ooh wow, oh my gosh. And she

969
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 3: will either give us back later or give us cash

970
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:34,880
Speaker 3: if needed. I'm so glad I have a sister who

971
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 3: loves me so much and is so smart and surrounds

972
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:40,480
Speaker 3: herself with people like herself. But I'm in the pain.

973
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 2: I just think it's funny because he's like, yeah, my

974
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 2: sister found this great solution where I have to pay

975
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:46,800
Speaker 2: like ninety percent of my funds.

976
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 3: Well, she said she'd pay for it, Okay, okay, get

977
00:46:50,320 --> 00:46:52,960
Speaker 3: paid for it up cash, upfront cash. But the pain

978
00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 3: I am feeling is not going anywhere and going to

979
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 3: stay with me for a long time. And the worst part,

980
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 3: even if you drink all day, you'll keep overthinking unless

981
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:04,080
Speaker 3: you drink till you pass out.

982
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:07,600
Speaker 2: Oh boy, you need to get some therapy big time.

983
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 3: Bud, or just keep drinking so you pass out. No, No,

984
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:12,680
Speaker 3: I don't know. He seems like you got a solution here.

985
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 2: Terrible advice, man, I mean just think it like, good

986
00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:21,600
Speaker 2: riddance to your wife. Cheat it on you. Please get

987
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 2: some therapy, get some help. You have a support system

988
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 2: when you're in your family. Focus on that and take

989
00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:29,280
Speaker 2: some time for yourself.

990
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:32,560
Speaker 3: Seem a little too soon, like maybe should he separate

991
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:34,720
Speaker 3: and see this because I think he's.

992
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 2: Already passed that. I think he's like full convinced that

993
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:42,279
Speaker 2: she is cheated. I do really want to, like, I

994
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 2: do think that she's probably has cheated emotionally at the

995
00:47:45,560 --> 00:47:48,960
Speaker 2: very least, But I do want to hear, like what

996
00:47:49,239 --> 00:47:51,880
Speaker 2: her explanation would have been, Like I want to hear

997
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 2: what her excuse was, yeah, because I feel like we

998
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:59,560
Speaker 2: never heard her say, oh I didn't do that, So

999
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:03,120
Speaker 2: either or she did it and she just didn't want

1000
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 2: to lie anymore, or you know, try and defend yourself

1001
00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:07,240
Speaker 2: with lies.

1002
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 3: But evidence pro evidence. Edit think. I love you for

1003
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:14,920
Speaker 3: your help and time, So glad you're well. Wishes and

1004
00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 3: I hope that none of you go through what I

1005
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 3: went through. I wish you all good luck. I will

1006
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:22,760
Speaker 3: start focusing on myself and go to sleep, stop drinking,

1007
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:25,360
Speaker 3: and start thinking about my future. Uh wait, what are

1008
00:48:25,400 --> 00:48:27,400
Speaker 3: you doing after this? I don't know what, because you

1009
00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:31,120
Speaker 3: should listen to Okay Storytime on your favorite freaking podcast platform.

1010
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 3: All you gotta do is go to Apple, iHeart Radio,

1011
00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:36,719
Speaker 3: Spotify and stars up what sofia Okay story Time? And

1012
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:38,480
Speaker 3: that's what she's gonna do after this one, just like

1013
00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 3: you should.

1014
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 2: Invite me somewhere what to listen to.

1015
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 3: Okay Storytime with me? We can go anywhere. We can

1016
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:45,959
Speaker 3: literally go in the car, go to the grocery store,

1017
00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 3: listen to Okay storytone, Okay story time, just like you can. Everyone,

1018
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 3: you right there? You Yes, what do you think? Please

1019
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:55,800
Speaker 3: put in the comments? Yeah? Should hear her out a

1020
00:48:55,840 --> 00:48:56,120
Speaker 3: little bit?

1021
00:48:56,200 --> 00:48:58,399
Speaker 2: The thing is, though, piece already like long gone, He's

1022
00:48:58,400 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 2: already like divorce. We're in the process. Yes, blah blah

1023
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 2: blah bye. He's already like exposed her to everyone in

1024
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 2: her family. It's way too late to turn you know,

1025
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:10,480
Speaker 2: the breaks and put the brakes on. I I do

1026
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 2: feel like we don't know a lot about the situation though,

1027
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,960
Speaker 2: and maybe that's because Ope hasn't told like is withholding

1028
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 2: information from us. I I just want to know more,

1029
00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 2: not because I don't think that OP like shouldn't have divorced.

1030
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:25,279
Speaker 2: I think it's I mean, OP has evidence that she

1031
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 2: at least emotionally JETD. Yeah, but I just want more information.

1032
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 2: In general, I want to.

1033
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 3: Catch some red handed.

1034
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:31,319
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1035
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:35,000
Speaker 3: I just want to partners cheating on you. No matter

1036
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:38,160
Speaker 3: what country you're in, you just should have the right

1037
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:41,800
Speaker 3: to divorce immediately. I read some meltal online. Isn't it

1038
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:44,399
Speaker 3: crazy how easy it is to get married and how

1039
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 3: hard it is to get divorced? Yeah, you think it

1040
00:49:46,640 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 3: should be harder to get married and easy to get divorced.

1041
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:51,359
Speaker 3: What do you think? Maybe just the same, You think

1042
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:55,800
Speaker 3: the same? Yeah, okay, equal, I'm pro marriage counseling before.

1043
00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. Same.

1044
00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 3: But it's a story. Blood. As glad as I'm getting

1045
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 3: support from hundreds of strangers, it also makes me think

1046
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:05,759
Speaker 3: that there are hundreds of strangers willing to support me

1047
00:50:06,000 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 3: and help me. The only woman I ever desired this

1048
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:11,840
Speaker 3: from and was my everything, been my whole life with

1049
00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 3: her didn't support me and betrayed me. I will come

1050
00:50:16,280 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 3: back here to read the text to find comfort every

1051
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 3: time I need some an update. After my divorce, which

1052
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 3: might take years. And I read someone said about an

1053
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:28,160
Speaker 3: emotional affair. Even if it is just an emotional affair,

1054
00:50:28,520 --> 00:50:31,360
Speaker 3: I cannot tolerate it, and I have no way to

1055
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 3: prove or make sure of it. She's cheating on me

1056
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 3: because she is with him alone or with her friends.

1057
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 3: But the way she and her friends hid it all,

1058
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:45,440
Speaker 3: I can only assume he loves her ex fiance, otherwise

1059
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:47,920
Speaker 3: she wouldn't hide it from me. And nobody should tolerate

1060
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:51,439
Speaker 3: emotional affairs. There's no justice wherever it's a man or one.

1061
00:50:52,000 --> 00:50:54,359
Speaker 3: I thought all of this was just stereotypical, but now

1062
00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:56,400
Speaker 3: I know my country has hated on for a reason.

1063
00:50:56,840 --> 00:51:00,279
Speaker 3: Good luck to everyone, and I truly truly appreciate every

1064
00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:03,719
Speaker 3: single one of you. Have you seen Nathan for you? Yeah,

1065
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 3: the second season. Have you seen the rehearsal? No, it's

1066
00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 3: from Nathan.

1067
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:08,279
Speaker 2: I know about it.

1068
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:12,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's this one part of the thing where he's

1069
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:15,040
Speaker 3: like doing this exercise with the pilot and the pilot

1070
00:51:15,080 --> 00:51:18,839
Speaker 3: invites his girlfriend over to help him out, and come

1071
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:24,920
Speaker 3: to find out, the girlfriend's pilot is a barista at

1072
00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:27,879
Speaker 3: a very famous barista place where barista's work.

1073
00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 2: I mean the pilot's girlfriend.

1074
00:51:29,239 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, the bibot's girlfriend, very famous barrista, and they're long

1075
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:38,480
Speaker 3: long distance. She meets up with the guy, goes out

1076
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:41,960
Speaker 3: for coffee with him, and she has an anklet that

1077
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:44,440
Speaker 3: the guy gave to her, and he brings her flowers

1078
00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 3: and stuff. And while they're in the cockpit doing this exercise,

1079
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:49,839
Speaker 3: she's like explaining that to him, and you can see

1080
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:52,799
Speaker 3: how visibly upset he is, but she can see like, oh,

1081
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 3: there's nothing wrong with that. That's just like a like

1082
00:51:55,680 --> 00:51:59,759
Speaker 3: a friend, doesn't me anything. If you bring flowers to

1083
00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:01,919
Speaker 3: someone on a date, that a friend.

1084
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:04,279
Speaker 2: What is it a date? You just said on a date.

1085
00:52:04,360 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 2: If it's a date, then it's not a friend. Do

1086
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Speaker 2: you just mean if you bring flowers to someone?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So like for example, you and I, Yeah, we

1088
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:13,440
Speaker 3: go to get coffee, you bring me flowers. Is it

1089
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:14,439
Speaker 3: a date or we just friends?

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00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:15,080
Speaker 2: We're just friends?

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00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 3: I bring you flowers, you've gotten me flowers? Yeah, but

1092
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:20,840
Speaker 3: like that's different. Okay, okay, anyways, anyways separate. Let's do

1093
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 3: a different one. Let's do it different. Angie and I

1094
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 3: are long distance. Yeah, Angie works out a barista place.

1095
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:28,560
Speaker 3: This guy starts talking to her. Yeah, he's like, hey,

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00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 3: let's go get coffee sometime, brings her flowers. Date it

1097
00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 3: doesn't work because, yeah, okay, our relationship is different. I

1098
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:36,759
Speaker 3: over got Yeah this is I think the wife used

1099
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:40,160
Speaker 3: it that way. Yeah, just a longtime friend. Yeah, you

1100
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:42,040
Speaker 3: need to know each other. I knew you wouldn't like it.

1101
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 3: That's why I didn't say anything.

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Speaker 2: Which is a breach of trust. I don't I don't

1103
00:52:47,040 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 2: know if she cheated. We don't have He's really always

1104
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:53,239
Speaker 2: working off of like zero evidence, not to say that

1105
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 2: he's not wrong.

1106
00:52:54,400 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, she was selfish.

1107
00:52:55,719 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 2: Though she was selfish, she still broke his trust, all

1108
00:52:58,680 --> 00:53:03,239
Speaker 2: grounds for you know, breaking off the marriage. But I

1109
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:06,160
Speaker 2: do think the only thing I would say to him

1110
00:53:06,719 --> 00:53:09,960
Speaker 2: is that he seemingly has told everyone in her family

1111
00:53:10,040 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 2: that she cheated on him, And it seems like he

1112
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 2: said physically cheated on which we don't know.

1113
00:53:15,400 --> 00:53:16,880
Speaker 3: We don't know. We don't know if she did that,

1114
00:53:17,239 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 3: I don't know. I think it's fine because he she

1115
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:21,279
Speaker 3: wouldn't have stopped bothering him about it, though.

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00:53:21,440 --> 00:53:23,399
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I think it's fine that he like broke

1117
00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:24,120
Speaker 2: up and stuff.

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00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 3: I just think, wait, do you think it's fine that

1119
00:53:26,280 --> 00:53:27,600
Speaker 3: he messaged everyone in the family.

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Speaker 2: That's the only thing is that I feel like he

1121
00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:34,799
Speaker 2: assumed a lot of things and messaged them about all

1122
00:53:34,840 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 2: of his assumptions as if they were fact. That is

1123
00:53:37,760 --> 00:53:40,680
Speaker 2: the only thing I'm like, Eh, it's like, yeah, you

1124
00:53:40,719 --> 00:53:43,240
Speaker 2: could absolutely message them and be like, hey, we're breaking

1125
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:45,920
Speaker 2: this off because of this and this reason. This is

1126
00:53:45,960 --> 00:53:46,880
Speaker 2: the information I have.

1127
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 3: That's why I think more evidence comes into play.

1128
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:50,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I feel like it's a I don't know

1129
00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:54,920
Speaker 2: the literally, like he is total right to divorce her

1130
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:57,440
Speaker 2: if he wants to tell the family why he's divorce

1131
00:53:57,480 --> 00:54:00,719
Speaker 2: and her. Sure, However, I think to say that she

1132
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:03,520
Speaker 2: physically like it seems like he's implying that he told

1133
00:54:03,560 --> 00:54:07,759
Speaker 2: them that she physically cheated with this guy, as if

1134
00:54:07,800 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 2: it's fact, when he doesn't know that.

1135
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Speaker 3: We could have make it constructed a better.

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00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:14,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the only thing.

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00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:16,799
Speaker 3: I'm like, you need screenshots at that point, you need

1138
00:54:17,200 --> 00:54:20,960
Speaker 3: time stamps, you need all that kind of things. M Yeah,

1139
00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:23,839
Speaker 3: there's got to be a job that someone creates these

1140
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 3: messages for people. Yeah, Hey, can you send a mass

1141
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 3: email out to my family that my wife cheated on me.

1142
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 3: Here's all the evidence I have. Can you make it

1143
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:29,719
Speaker 3: look pretty.

1144
00:54:29,600 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 2: Partifle my wife cheated on me, group text or group

1145
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:33,640
Speaker 2: last text.

1146
00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 3: Last definitely a chat GBT plug in that does that thing.

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 3: Guys, that's the end of that story, oh dang yep,

1149
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Speaker 3: and the end of this episode. So if you love us,

1150
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