WEBVTT - The Summer Bucket List 0:00:00.600 --> 0:00:06.240 From Hollywood. Thank you for listening to us. On air 0:00:06.400 --> 0:00:15.520 with Ryan Seacrest, Good Morning, Tubbs are engineer. Did you 0:00:15.560 --> 0:00:20.400 get a fresh fade? Did? Wow? I always like it 0:00:20.440 --> 0:00:22.880 when someone comes in with a new cut. You can 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:25.680 see it well. It also inspires me to do something different. 0:00:25.720 --> 0:00:27.680 This is not different for you, but it's very tight. 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:30.720 They went shorter than normal. Did you ask for it? 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:34.360 I said, just go like short on the sides and 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:36.560 faded up. But they went really short. But to the 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:38.559 question is growing in a week? If I ever have 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:41.280 body work done, Like if I ever get a massage 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:45.280 or something and it's not good, I lie and say 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:48.360 I don't say anything, and I'm like laying there for 0:00:50.320 --> 0:00:52.680 I want to be done. Yeah, but I don't have to. 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:56.840 I just don't have the I can't always. Will you 0:00:56.840 --> 0:00:59.080 please let me know if you want more freshures fressure. 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:02.120 I feel like I want everybody to be happy, so 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:04.160 I want them to be happy, even if I'm miserable. 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:10.319 To the questions, did you say anything or not? No? Right? 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:13.600 Same thing I never do. I don't either. I I don't. 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.280 I don't know what it is, but I feel tremendous 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:20.120 guilt if I tell someone something's not going well. That's 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:23.680 interesting that might come from your childhood. Well, I also 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:25.920 do it with food if I order the wrong thing, 0:01:26.280 --> 0:01:28.800 and i'll, you know, talk to myself and say, oh 0:01:28.840 --> 0:01:31.280 this is kind of not great, and then the server 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:33.160 will come and say I was a perfect Thank you, 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:35.800 thank you, thank you so much. It's happy to be here, 0:01:37.480 --> 0:01:42.520 all right. We've got Dodgers Angels game to tonight Dodger Stadium. 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:45.600 They meet again for two games at Anaheim that is 0:01:45.640 --> 0:01:47.960 next month. Today is the last day of school for 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:52.880 Long Beach Unified again with every school district that is 0:01:52.920 --> 0:01:56.480 out for summer, I too get excited for you. Remember 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:58.600 the first day I had so many plans always the 0:01:58.600 --> 0:02:02.520 first day of summer, it was it was sleeping, watch 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:06.320 prices right in order pizza that night. And that was 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:10.320 what I want to do every single first day. And 0:02:10.480 --> 0:02:13.320 it's just and living vicariously through those of you as 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:15.720 you play your first day of summer. So let me 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:19.880 grab summer here in Coasta Mesa, Coasta Mesa. It's nice, 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:22.919 just makes me happy to know you're there summer. Hi, 0:02:23.760 --> 0:02:27.320 Hi there, so are you doing well? Thanks for asking, 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:32.440 I'm doing well. We're all here everybody's happy. Things are 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:35.919 so far on track, so it is a good day. Now. 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:41.800 What's happening with you in Coasta, Mesa? So okay, So 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:44.200 I live with family. I live with my two daughters 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:49.120 and my mom and my aunt and my aunts is 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:53.760 one of those stuck in her ways, super negative. The 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:57.600 energy is just gross, is like a black cloud whenever 0:02:57.680 --> 0:03:02.480 she's around, and it's just really sad, and she can't 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:05.200 afford to live anywhere by herself. So I feel guilty 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:08.120 about you know, I can't kick her out. We just 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:09.560 have to deal with it. We try to make it 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:14.079 more positive, but it just never works. And yeah, that's 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:21.680 where I'm at. So how can we help? And do 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:26.040 you have any advice? Like, with the living cost in 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:30.440 the world, it's just outrageous, and people with fixed incomes 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:36.520 there's not much that they can do. I have an idea. 0:03:37.200 --> 0:03:41.160 So actually, um Jen taught me this a very very 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:43.600 long time ago, and I've used it so many times 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:46.720 in my life. But whenever you are around a negative person, 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:50.680 you zip yourself up in this like imaginary cocoon. So 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:52.440 like you pretend like you're in a cocoon and you 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:55.120 actually like zip it up and you're in this cocoon, 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:59.320 so nobody's negative energy can actually infiltrate your skin. And 0:03:59.360 --> 0:04:01.200 then when you leave, like when you leave your house, 0:04:01.240 --> 0:04:06.160 you just unzip your cocoon and like you're free. Movie. 0:04:06.280 --> 0:04:09.000 I like your movie. It works. I'm telling you work. 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:14.880 It's it's a barrier and that energy it's so toxic too. 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:18.760 It just wears you down and actually sick. That cocoon 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:21.680 doesn't allow it to infiltrate. So can you pick what 0:04:21.760 --> 0:04:24.640 colors your cocoon summer? And can you picture the zipper? 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:26.560 Is it a double zippers? It go both ways one 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:30.240 way and picture that yourself into the body bag and 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:34.480 just deflect. Yeah, it's definitely hot pink, and uh, there's 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:39.000 at least a couple of zippers. I'm going to start doing. Yeah, 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:43.640 that's a really good idea. Alright, let's see if it works. 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:45.440 Let us know and thank you summer, good luck, Thanks 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:48.599 for Cornic Coast to Masa this morning. Any other tricks 0:04:48.640 --> 0:04:52.120 or games you play that's fun, Like you just you 0:04:52.200 --> 0:04:56.119 just have your force field up that no negativity impacts you. Yeah, 0:04:56.160 --> 0:04:58.480 like they could. People can be doing all kinds of 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:00.680 things and it just like it just bounces off my 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:05.120 cocoon to make sure you take it off. People's negative 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:08.440 energy is their own issue. It's like stuff that's going 0:05:08.440 --> 0:05:14.000 on with them. Yeah. Are you familiar with pressure points listening? Um? Yeah, 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:16.880 So this hack has been going around on TikTok and 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:20.640 promises to put you right to sleep. To rub the 0:05:20.680 --> 0:05:24.839 inner part of your wrist in a circular motion for 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:28.520 a few minutes. The inner part of your wrist doing 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:31.440 it in a circular motion for a few minutes. Acupunctures 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:33.480 say it's one of the four pressure points along your 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:37.880 inner forearm that will calm the mind and alleviate stress. Honestly, 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:41.240 is making me really relaxed. I don't feel anything. There 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:43.920 is that bad. No, I like it, Like my fingers 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:46.880 are starting to like curling and I'm feeling it right. 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:52.920 I don't feel that. I feel what you feel? Numb? Yeah, 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:57.440 I feel nothing. You don't feel a tickle? Weird? We 0:05:57.520 --> 0:06:02.640 might have your cocoon on zip your I mean, try it. 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:06.800 This is awesome. You know, we in this nation have 0:06:06.960 --> 0:06:09.960 such sleep issues. No, it takes me so long to 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:12.280 fall asleep. I have to play a game. I have 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:16.880 to tell myself stop thinking, stop worrying about tomorrow, stop 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:20.880 rehashing today, and like just turn your brain off into 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:23.880 this one tunnel eye and don't see your feeling. And 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:26.440 it's really hard to control to do. I went to 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:29.920 bed the other night at eight. Now it is a victory, 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:32.320 and I'm so excited to be in beded eight fifteen. 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:34.120 I got so excited to be in bed I couldn't 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:39.279 fall asleep. You actually fall asleep? No, well, I don't 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:41.360 know if it's sent thirty eight, but it was. And 0:06:41.400 --> 0:06:44.000 this was laying in bed with no TV, not looking 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:47.400 at your phone's black, no phone, tossing and turning, and 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:50.560 then it's so frustrating. But I'll tack on my wrist. Now, yeah, 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:54.880 the circular motion done. Do you realize this is today's quote? 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:58.200 All right? Once you realize that almost everyone is projecting, 0:06:58.279 --> 0:07:04.080 it becomes easier to stop making things so personally. On 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:12.200 air with Ryan Seacres headlines, so Elon Musk will address 0:07:12.240 --> 0:07:15.360 Twitter employees finally for the first time since he offered 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:19.280 what forty four billion dollars to buy the social media platform. 0:07:19.280 --> 0:07:23.560 Twitter's CEO announced an all hands meeting to employees in 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:25.560 an email on Monday, saying that they'd be able to 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:30.960 submit questions in advance. So long Internet Explore Explorer. The 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:34.800 browser retires today. Yeah, it is the end of an era. 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:38.200 As of today, Microsoft will no longer support the once 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:41.560 dominant browser that we all used. The twenty seven year 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:45.160 old application now joins what I guess, BlackBerry phones, dial 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:49.600 up modems, and Palm pilots and the dustbin of tech history. 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:52.680 A year ago. Microsoft said that it was put in 0:07:52.720 --> 0:07:56.520 an end to Internet Explorer on June fifto. Well, here 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:59.840 we are pushing users now to its Edge browser, which 0:07:59.880 --> 0:08:04.160 was launched in and just days after dropping a three 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:10.320 disc career retrospective compilation, proof Bts shocked the Army Nation 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:13.160 yesterday with the surprise announcement that they are taking a 0:08:13.240 --> 0:08:16.960 break to focus on solo projects, but say that they're 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:20.040 not taking a hiatus all right. Well, they talked about 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:22.920 their future in a video posted yesterday celebrating the nine 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:28.400 year anniversary of their debut release on air with Ryan Seacrest. 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:31.680 You know we're talking about sleep. Earlier, I was just 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:34.200 reading that some of the best foods to eat if 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.120 you're hungry at night, I don't, I mean for me, 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:39.839 cheese and they say cheese and crackers. But that would 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:43.760 excite me. Ok, why do they say this stuff is good? 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:48.959 It's like it's not gonna it contains protein, fiber, vegetables, 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:51.080 and hummus. Again, that seems like a lot to do. 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.959 Oh I can't have hummus anymore? Is it really bad? 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:58.480 In your so garbanzo beans are bad? Yeah? Steamboat Sally comes? 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:02.280 What about have you we tried like p hummus? No 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:06.000 where do you find that? You gotta make it? NA 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:12.400 go to your guard and get your peas. Oh my gosh, 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:15.840 bananas and nut butter good as well. Okay, I can 0:09:15.920 --> 0:09:17.719 do that, but I'm trying to get myself not deep 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:19.760 before I go to sleep. That's the whole point. You're 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:25.400 not supposed to the little snack. I love snacks. My 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:31.679 favorite meals snack. All right, Michaela is here one of 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:33.880 our newest members to the team. Mikhaela. What is your 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:41.480 official title? I'm a producer, a producer, space producer. So listen, 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:47.120 this is what's fascinating. So she's single, dating, meets this guy, 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:49.400 doesn't like short guy. She gave him a shot. He's 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:52.280 not showing that she's a priority, is not making time 0:09:52.320 --> 0:09:54.120 for her. A lot of red flags throughout the relationship, 0:09:54.200 --> 0:09:56.199 by the way, even the like what he was blowing 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.000 you off for you got a hole in one playing golf, 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:02.400 She's gotta go out drink with his buddies, like slag exactly. 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:08.760 So you have been composing the breakup text and I 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:13.400 actually can't believe I'm gonna say this. I never thought 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:21.080 I would break up or do um big things via text, 0:10:21.920 --> 0:10:26.280 but I will, and that may not be great. I 0:10:26.320 --> 0:10:28.599 think you have to feel it out for the relationship. 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:32.079 I just think people break up with text. I mean, 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:35.360 everybody's gotten that text. That's all. A long text is 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:37.000 not great. You ever had that text come in that 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:41.880 you just keep scrolling and scrolling down. I don't, you can't. 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:43.960 That's just too much. So this needs to be brevity, 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:47.880 A little brevity, I think, kind and direct. What'd you 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:51.640 come up with, Michael? So I have? Hey, I hope 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:53.480 you had a great day. I've just been thinking about 0:10:53.559 --> 0:10:54.959 us and how we haven't seen each other in a 0:10:55.000 --> 0:10:57.360 while because of our schedules. So I'm not sure if 0:10:57.400 --> 0:10:59.720 this is working out between us right now. I also 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:01.560 hate then I'm saying this over text, and I'm sorry 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.200 about that. I just won't see you I don't know 0:11:04.200 --> 0:11:05.679 what I'm going to see you next. The timing just 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:09.240 isn't working out. You're a great guy, and I'm sorry great, 0:11:09.480 --> 0:11:12.320 I was very good. Sent that sent it right, okay? 0:11:12.480 --> 0:11:15.319 And did he respond? So he didn't respond until like 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:18.400 eleven thirty at night last night? Yeah, oh my, okay, 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:20.320 you want to think about it? Well, when did you 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:24.240 send it? I sent it like right after I left. Okay. 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:31.800 She's like, yeah, so he what did he say? So? Remember, 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:35.080 this is a guy that she thinks is too short 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:38.319 looking past that thirty at night when he knows that 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:42.920 she asleep because she works mornings. That is disrespectful. Okay, 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:44.640 you guys, no, no, no, no, it's mine. But she 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:46.760 just broke up with the guy. Need to deal with it. 0:11:46.840 --> 0:11:49.319 And this was almost like a spy. He's working all 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:51.400 day and then he can't really think about it until 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:53.280 he gets home from work, which could be eight o'clock, 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:56.880 and by then he has to eat. Do you know him? 0:11:56.920 --> 0:12:04.800 I don't. He talks to watch an episode of Grays Mikayla. 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:07.560 What did he say back? So he said, Hey, I've 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:09.439 had some time to think now, and I apologize for 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:12.160 taking so long. Yeah, I get it. We've barely gotten 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:13.720 to see each other this whole time, and it sucked. 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:15.640 I honestly wanted to see you every day since we 0:12:15.760 --> 0:12:18.360 first met. You're right, the timing just isn't good. I 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:20.800 guess you make me feel some sort of way. I'm 0:12:20.840 --> 0:12:22.920 gonna miss you. Have a great time. I'll be here 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:27.440 if you change a good time. Wait now, he seems 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:31.559 so sweet. No, I have a great time. Like people, 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:33.679 they have a great life. It's like when he said, 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:36.000 come on, guys, have a little heart. When he said 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:38.760 I wanted to see you every day, he's lying. I 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:41.120 know I did feel bad. I always feel bad, but 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:46.280 I don't know. I feel that that was a I 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:49.920 think that was a great reply. That was a clean 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:56.080 breakup makes me feel some kind of way cut really cute. 0:12:56.520 --> 0:13:04.400 It is really cute. I have a timelines weird. Dating sucks. 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:09.520 So what's next? MICHAELA back on the apps. Yeah, that's it. 0:13:09.559 --> 0:13:12.880 You're not gonna heard it or like it, or like 0:13:13.400 --> 0:13:16.559 I haven't responded, so yeah, you should have heard it, 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:18.719 so he knows you got it, like received. Thank you. 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:23.240 You're really going to be off track if you keep 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:26.000 listening to all of our advice over the years, you 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:28.240 have to listen to everybody's advice member. When I was 0:13:28.400 --> 0:13:32.240 talking to Josh Grobin and I listened to all of y'all's, y'all's, 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:37.880 I can't say I'm not from the South. I can't 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:41.560 say all I was listening to all of yours. Uh, 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:47.400 I don't even know what we're talking about. You guys, 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:50.360 we're feeding me lines to say to him. But Josh 0:13:50.440 --> 0:13:53.640 grob yes, And then the one I didn't never went 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.720 out with him because I got left on my own 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:58.360 over the weekend. And I responded, and then he never 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:01.000 responded back. Because do you respond to something that we 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:04.200 were in the very part of the shot with Josh grows, 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:11.160 you were like thinking about it. Yeah, well, I just 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:13.280 don't know if I'm like seeing the match between the 0:14:13.360 --> 0:14:17.839 two of you. But listening to other people in the 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:22.560 beginning is like the way to go. All right, thank 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:25.560 you and good luck on the next adventure. All right. 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:29.360 I liked his tex Oh my gosh, get over him. 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.520 I'm not I would think for short guys, I'm with you, 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:34.960 not with you because I'm average height. But I'm with you. 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:39.680 I'm not short. King's average height? What is average height? 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:44.960 Five ten? I think it's five eight or five nine. 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:48.200 When we google average height for man, five nine is 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:51.600 average height according to googlege. Yeah, thank you. I've always 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:53.720 wanted to be just average. Thank you. What is it? 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:56.680 If it's not average, then it's just tall and short. 0:14:56.800 --> 0:15:01.080 Now you're below average? You not Davy Michael. I'll tell 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:11.040 you that. I'm gonna take you on a tangent. Now 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:16.000 you guys are gonna meet Barrett Paul in San Diego. 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:23.920 So Barrett Paul is a salagamist. He is practicing salagami. 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:30.720 Salagamy or what is that? I've never said it before 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:33.920 my life because I didn't know what it sounds like. 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:42.080 I wanted spicy, like I want it. Yeah, plate, So 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:48.240 monogamy we know that, right. Monogamy is commitment to one person, 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:53.160 but salagamy is a commitment to you yourself. He married himself. 0:15:53.560 --> 0:15:58.200 This is a real word self. Yes, he married himself. 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:03.080 So I don't know. We're gonna find out now. And 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:07.480 is that narcissism or is it self love? No? This 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:09.640 is great. This is what you should You should want 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:12.200 to marry yourself before you marry somebody else. And I 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:13.880 don't think he has plans to marry someone else is 0:16:14.000 --> 0:16:16.440 just Barrett marrying Barrett Barrett, good morning, How are you? 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:20.840 Good morning? I'm doing well, how are you excellent? Thank 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:24.120 you for coming on with us. Now people are really 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:29.680 talking about your selogamy and yes, can you define it 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:33.080 for you? What does it mean to you? Yeah? You know, 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:35.840 for me, it's all about leaning into self love and 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:39.520 self compassion and doing the things that I wish we 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:41.960 had people telling us as kids we should be doing 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:45.000 for ourselves, not just for someone else. One day. You know, 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:48.280 we tell we tell kids at a young age that 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:50.200 you know, they should grow up and sign someone and 0:16:50.240 --> 0:16:52.840 then take these vows that are about you know, taking 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:55.080 care of someone through sickness and health rich or report 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:57.800 till death do you part. And it's like, why aren't 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:02.040 we doing that for ourselves first? You know? So does 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:06.359 that mean you will ever commit to someone else? Absolutely? 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:09.480 You know. I am actually in a relationship now, um. 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:12.920 But it wasn't until I really took those vows to 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:15.399 heart for myself that I was able, I think, to 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:19.320 find the healthiest version of a relationship and really lean 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:23.600 into not looking for someone to kind of complete that 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:27.040 missing part in me, but find someone that I don't 0:17:27.119 --> 0:17:29.840 need and it doesn't need me and be really grateful 0:17:29.920 --> 0:17:32.040 to have each other. For as long as that goes on, 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:36.000 it's like a bonus. Did you have a self weight exactly? Um? 0:17:36.160 --> 0:17:37.960 I didn't have a full self wedding, but I did 0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:40.399 have a self ceremony. I found a ring that I loved. 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:45.119 I wear it every day. Um. Yeah, it's like a 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:47.520 great reason to get yourself another little present. We all 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:51.959 love that, right. And I sat in Brooklyn looking at 0:17:51.960 --> 0:17:53.600 New York City. I lived New York City at the time, 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:55.680 and just like looked at the city and was like, 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:57.960 you know, I think I need to do this, And 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:00.399 it just happened organically. And it's been one of the 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:03.840 greatest things to remind myself every day, because we're not 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:08.520 always the nicest to ourselves either. Self loading. Self loading 0:18:08.840 --> 0:18:11.320 is crazy, the concept of self marriage. It's gained so 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:14.240 much popularity. There's even self wedding kits on the morning. 0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:16.919 What do they have been that I gotta google with mirrors? 0:18:17.000 --> 0:18:26.720 I don't know. Wedding so fascinating to me, Like all 0:18:26.800 --> 0:18:29.359 this stuff about and I know it's all wrong, but 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:32.280 all this about you gotta, you know, be good with you, 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:34.720 be good alone before you can be with someone else. 0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:37.399 I hate being alone. I don't want be alone with me. 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:40.159 I know you're kind of a monkey brancher. What is 0:18:40.200 --> 0:18:43.479 that when you go from one relationship to the next. Oh, 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:46.560 you do monkey branch? Do not monkey branch? Yes you 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:50.720 do monkey branch. Is like is when you go from 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:55.880 run branch to the like you're hardly ever single? Yeah right, 0:18:58.880 --> 0:19:04.240 maybe I'm gonna get a selogamy plate. All right, well done. 0:19:04.440 --> 0:19:06.320 Thank you for the motivation. It really is great and 0:19:06.400 --> 0:19:07.800 nice to meet you. By the way, you can follow 0:19:07.840 --> 0:19:10.439 him at Barrett Paul p a l L on TikTok 0:19:10.480 --> 0:19:13.800 and Instagram. You take care. Thank you so much. By 0:19:14.119 --> 0:19:16.520 like do you like being I guess it's different views, 0:19:16.520 --> 0:19:18.760 isn't because you are? You have a lot going on 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:21.080 at home, so it's nice to be alone. Oh when 0:19:21.119 --> 0:19:23.240 I have alone time, it's the best? Are you kidding me? 0:19:23.760 --> 0:19:28.159 Do you like being alone? You know what's interesting? Um? No? 0:19:29.080 --> 0:19:31.120 But I was alone and single for many, many years. 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:33.480 I started to really appreciate that season of my life 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:36.320 because I would have married women that just had babies 0:19:36.560 --> 0:19:38.920 message me saying they would give anything to be doing 0:19:38.960 --> 0:19:41.320 what I'm doing. In the afternoon. I get it. I 0:19:41.560 --> 0:19:45.600 find I find like going home after a work day 0:19:46.320 --> 0:19:48.600 and standing up at the counter and eating out of 0:19:48.640 --> 0:19:53.719 a container to be severely depressing alone. Yeah, but now 0:19:53.720 --> 0:19:55.719 if I'm with somebody, I don't have to talk to them. 0:19:55.760 --> 0:19:59.280 But somebody's there is It's a companionship, it's a partnership. 0:19:59.440 --> 0:20:04.200 It's used to have somewhere. It's monkey branching, and it's 0:20:04.240 --> 0:20:07.080 monkey branching. But then maybe this is where it stops. 0:20:07.240 --> 0:20:10.360 Maybe you should marry yourself. Maybe you should be slogamous. 0:20:11.000 --> 0:20:13.159 It sounds so niciss. By the way, it kind of 0:20:13.280 --> 0:20:16.119 is in a weird way. If I'm gonna tell people, ah, 0:20:16.600 --> 0:20:22.480 what a great weekend, I wait, my honeymoon next weekend, 0:20:22.520 --> 0:20:25.560 just gonna be me. And by the way, someone's making 0:20:27.640 --> 0:20:30.360 four hundred and forty dollars for this I married myself 0:20:30.480 --> 0:20:33.040 wedding box that comes with the fourteen care of goold 0:20:33.200 --> 0:20:36.560 ring and affirmation cards. That part maybe a little ridiculous. 0:20:37.119 --> 0:20:42.399 A two seven Here Avery is on the phone, Avery, 0:20:42.480 --> 0:20:45.800 good morning, how are you doing? Good morning? I'm okay, 0:20:45.880 --> 0:20:48.760 how are you doing. We are hanging in there. We 0:20:48.840 --> 0:20:52.520 are definitely hanging in there. So tell me what's happening 0:20:52.640 --> 0:20:57.560 in North Roots. You're dating someone in your friend group? Yeah, okay, 0:20:57.600 --> 0:20:59.600 So I have this group of friends. It's like seven 0:20:59.680 --> 0:21:02.920 people like for girls, including me and then three other guys, 0:21:03.119 --> 0:21:06.000 and oh my gosh, we were so close, like within 0:21:06.080 --> 0:21:09.440 fronts ever since college. And we you know, we maybe 0:21:09.480 --> 0:21:11.040 don't like hang out every day like we used to, 0:21:11.119 --> 0:21:13.040 but we still get together like at least two or 0:21:13.080 --> 0:21:15.520 three times a month, and I just I love them 0:21:15.600 --> 0:21:18.119 so much. They're like my family. And one of the 0:21:18.160 --> 0:21:20.840 guys in the group, like we kind of realized that 0:21:20.920 --> 0:21:23.080 we had feelings for each other, and so we started 0:21:23.160 --> 0:21:26.680 dating and it was great, like it was perfect for 0:21:27.080 --> 0:21:28.600 you know, at least the first six months, and we 0:21:28.680 --> 0:21:33.040 were so happy. Everybody was so happy for us, you know, 0:21:33.200 --> 0:21:35.560 they kept saying we were the perfect couple. Everyone was like, 0:21:35.640 --> 0:21:38.800 oh my god, you're like the Monica and Chandler you know, 0:21:39.000 --> 0:21:41.840 of our group, and they were just like, it's so 0:21:42.119 --> 0:21:46.520 excited for us. And I thought it was. I thought 0:21:46.560 --> 0:21:50.000 it was really, you know, that was it, that it 0:21:50.119 --> 0:21:52.200 was great that we were going to be together. But 0:21:52.320 --> 0:21:55.520 then the last few weeks since have been like a 0:21:55.600 --> 0:21:58.879 little bit rocky. And then a few days ago he 0:21:59.000 --> 0:22:01.800 said that he actually he wants to start seeing other people, 0:22:03.640 --> 0:22:09.359 and I'm just so I was so devastated. I really 0:22:10.240 --> 0:22:12.080 I thought he was the one I was going to 0:22:12.200 --> 0:22:15.360 be with. I was imagining this whole future with him. 0:22:15.520 --> 0:22:17.920 But I mean, I mean that's not even the point. 0:22:18.000 --> 0:22:20.040 Like now I don't know how to even be around 0:22:20.200 --> 0:22:23.560 our friends if he's going to be there, I don't 0:22:24.200 --> 0:22:26.200 I don't know how to act around him, and so 0:22:26.280 --> 0:22:28.600 I feel like it's either lose my whole group of 0:22:28.720 --> 0:22:31.800 friends or just like try and pretend to be normal 0:22:31.880 --> 0:22:35.719 while he talks about his days and his new girlfriend. Avery. 0:22:36.000 --> 0:22:40.800 It's so interesting because at the onset here I was 0:22:40.920 --> 0:22:45.720 really excited because it's great to have that friendship and 0:22:45.800 --> 0:22:49.240 then the electricity of some intimacy afterwards because you already 0:22:49.280 --> 0:22:52.800 know each other right, and then until it goes wrong 0:22:53.040 --> 0:22:58.240 and then it's really really awkward. My guidance would be, 0:22:58.760 --> 0:23:03.000 you don't want to cut out your friends. You want 0:23:03.000 --> 0:23:05.400 to be in a friend group, and it's probably gonna 0:23:05.440 --> 0:23:08.960 be difficult. I mean, maybe the friend group is sensitive 0:23:09.000 --> 0:23:12.240 to your dynamic while it's fresh, and they don't create 0:23:12.359 --> 0:23:16.879 any awkward moments, and certainly hopefully he doesn't broadcast is 0:23:17.520 --> 0:23:20.359 other dates and other people just to give you some time. 0:23:20.800 --> 0:23:24.000 But I think when you look back, eventually you'll be 0:23:24.320 --> 0:23:26.280 happy you stayed with the friends and hopefully you'll still 0:23:26.280 --> 0:23:30.920 be friends with him. Yeah, thank you. I hope so, 0:23:31.080 --> 0:23:33.240 I hope that you and I are able to be friends. 0:23:33.480 --> 0:23:36.040 And eventually it's just gonna take time and then you're 0:23:36.080 --> 0:23:39.399 gonna start dating somebody new, and that's going to be 0:23:39.920 --> 0:23:43.440 It's not always that way. It is broken for long, 0:23:43.560 --> 0:23:46.720 long periods of time, seven years. As soon as you 0:23:47.280 --> 0:23:54.200 find somebody, it's gonna be a lot better. Yea, are 0:23:54.240 --> 0:23:56.920