1 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:11,399 Speaker 1: Welcome to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Hi, Susan, We're bad, 2 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: We're bad. Thanks for joining us. Everybody. 3 00:00:15,400 --> 00:00:18,040 Speaker 2: Hey, and if you're not listening to our episodes and 4 00:00:18,079 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 2: you didn't hear the one from Wednesday, you're crazy. 5 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:23,680 Speaker 3: It was a good one. You had to hear. Kathy 6 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:24,680 Speaker 3: and I go at it. 7 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 2: So we have another solo episode and it's going to 8 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 2: be a lot of fun. 9 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: Okay, let's talk about what's new with you, what's new 10 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:36,519 Speaker 1: with me? What's going on in your life? Susan, wooh. 11 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 3: I had a fierce couple days. 12 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 2: Actually, Kathy, I was in New York and I heard 13 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 2: that the Goldens from our show, plus the ones from 14 00:00:46,280 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 2: Night one, they were all meeting at Carmines. I was 15 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 2: in Soho meeting people from a different show that I 16 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 2: did and having dinner. So I said to the girl 17 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 2: that was with me, come on, we're going to go 18 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 2: surprise them. 19 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 3: You know car Mines. 20 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 2: You've been in a car Mines, right, They're loud, it's Italian. 21 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:07,959 Speaker 3: Well, here we go. There's screams that came out. 22 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 2: If I were sitting there did I probably would have 23 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 2: left well, but it was great to surprise everybody. 24 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:16,039 Speaker 1: I would have loved to have been there, but I 25 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 1: couldn't be there because I've been spending an extended time 26 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: here in Canada visiting my sister, and I just got 27 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: to say, first of all, have you ever been to Canada? Susan? 28 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 3: Absolutely? Okay, so you know several times. 29 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: Canadians are the nicest, the friendliest of people. Hello to 30 00:01:33,200 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: all my Canadian friends out there. But here's the thing. 31 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: People talk about how Canadians are so friendly and polite, 32 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:43,759 Speaker 1: Honest to god, we are. My sister and I are 33 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: standing and there's a there's a red light and the 34 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 1: for us and a green light for the cars, and 35 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 1: the cars are stopping and they're knowing. They're like go 36 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: and I'm like, it's not a pedestrian walkway, and they're going, 37 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 1: go ahead, go ahead, No you go, no you go? 38 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: Oh please in Austin will run. But the point here 39 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: is everyone is so dog one polite it is crazy. 40 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: And then we were shopping and I am, you know, 41 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 1: when I'm traveling and I go incognito. I had on 42 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: a bucket hat and dark glasses and someone came up 43 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: to me. I was in a store and said, it's you, 44 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:23,800 Speaker 1: isn't it. Well? But Susan, if you'd seen me, I 45 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:24,519 Speaker 1: look like something. 46 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 2: The dog dragged in and I said, tell anybody that, 47 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 2: oh I did, I had no makeup. 48 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 1: She goes, I could just tell it was you. I 49 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: love you know, went through the whole thing, how much. 50 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: So I love Canada. I love Canadians. They are so polite, 51 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: so friendly. And you know what, it's a little cooler 52 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 1: here than Austin, Texas. 53 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 3: Not when I was just there. God, they had a 54 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:44,799 Speaker 3: heat wave. 55 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 2: I packed hoodies because everybody knows it's cooler at night 56 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:51,120 Speaker 2: in Canada. I was outside of Toronto and they had 57 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 2: a heat wave. It was one hundred and four. 58 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 3: I was dying. 59 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 2: But Kathy, were you surprised when I sent you the 60 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 2: text from all the Gold as they were going. 61 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 1: Hi, Kathy Hire And you know, I knew I was 62 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:05,080 Speaker 1: trying to get there, but I had been in New 63 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: York on vacation and then I left New York to 64 00:03:07,520 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: come here. But I would have loved to have surprised him. 65 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: That was really great you. 66 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 2: But I'm just saying, your girlfriend here thought of you 67 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:16,239 Speaker 2: and said let's everybody say hi. 68 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 3: You know what, that's just a thoughtful friends and is 69 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 3: just the. 70 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: Best she does my hair. She's just Susan's all that? 71 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: All right? Today we are going to answer more of 72 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 1: your fan questions, and you all know we love to 73 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:31,959 Speaker 1: answer these. 74 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 2: And don't forget. If you guys have a question for 75 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 2: either one of us, send them in. Just go to 76 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 2: bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour and we're going to 77 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 2: read them, yep, and. 78 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: Send us some advice, reviews, anything. We'd love to answer it. 79 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: But before we get to those questions, we're going to 80 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: go with our question of the day, and here it is, Susan, 81 00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 1: what is the number one piece of advice you would 82 00:03:56,360 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: give your younger self if you could when it comes today? 83 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 3: We already know that one. That's a no brainer. 84 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: What is it? 85 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 2: A red flag? Is a red flag? It took me 86 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 2: sixty years. That would have been my advice. If you 87 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 2: see something they're not going to change. 88 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 1: Okay, I'll drink to that. I also though, would. 89 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 2: We're not drinking yet. It's coming, but I'm not yet. 90 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:25,040 Speaker 1: I can wish right, I can wish no. I agree 91 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:26,720 Speaker 1: with that. But the piece of advice I would give 92 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 1: myself is just be confident. I wasn't as confident that 93 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 1: nobody is right. No, but that you said, what advice 94 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:39,040 Speaker 1: it would just be believe in yourself, because if you 95 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:41,840 Speaker 1: believe in yourself, everybody else will believe in you. I 96 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 1: didn't know that when I was young. 97 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:45,600 Speaker 2: I just did which I preach right now. I mean 98 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 2: I say it all the time. 99 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:49,839 Speaker 1: I tell my kids, well, of course my kids aren't 100 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 1: that young. They're and they're married. 101 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 2: Don't you think it's hard at that age, like you're 102 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 2: you know, you're self checking all the time, or you're 103 00:04:57,800 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 2: not amounting. You want to be the best at some 104 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 2: then and you're not. You're good, but you always have 105 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 2: selped down. But like you said, yeah, but if they 106 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 2: would listen, that'd be great advice. 107 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:10,159 Speaker 1: It would be. But you know what it's like. Do 108 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 1: you remember, like when I went off to college, when 109 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 1: you went off to beauty school, Like everybody's in it 110 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 1: for the first time, right, so you're scared, I'm scared. 111 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:22,599 Speaker 1: Just realize that everyone's in the same boat. That's the advice. 112 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 2: But when you look at some confident people that you 113 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 2: grew up with, you never would think that that's right. 114 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:30,840 Speaker 1: But now I know better. They were just faking. They 115 00:05:30,839 --> 00:05:32,480 Speaker 1: were faking it. They were faking it. 116 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 3: Damn, that would be our advice for sure. 117 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: I know, alrighty wait when I get questioned what I 118 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:40,719 Speaker 1: say when it comes to dating. 119 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, I have thread flags. 120 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: Why aren't we I don't know. 121 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:50,680 Speaker 2: Maybe kats were busy and but I'm out there. You're 122 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 2: out there, we're traveling, We're meeting people. I meet people 123 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 2: every day. 124 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: Listen. I've met a woman in a department story. I 125 00:05:58,120 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 1: met a woman in the department store in Canada said 126 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: her uncle wants to meet me. I said, all right, 127 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 1: we can do a trans continental whatever it's called. We 128 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:06,880 Speaker 1: can do that. I haven't heard from that. 129 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 2: It's not that far. It's not that far at all, 130 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 2: not for me anyhow. Canada is right up the street. 131 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: It's just customs. I hate going. All right, let's get 132 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: go with our questions. 133 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:20,719 Speaker 2: We've got our Q and a's okay, So Alex asks, Hi, ladies, 134 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:22,919 Speaker 2: I love your podcast and listen weekly. 135 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:24,039 Speaker 3: Thanks Alex. 136 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 2: I am twenty seven about to move in with my 137 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 2: boyfriend of three years. We're super excited, although I am 138 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:34,040 Speaker 2: sad to say goodbye to my apartment and give up 139 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 2: that independence. I've never lived with a roommate or partner before, 140 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 2: So what advice do you have to help us have 141 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 2: a smooth transition to this new chapter. We both work 142 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:50,839 Speaker 2: two jobs and I anticipate us not seeing each other 143 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:53,039 Speaker 2: a whole lot during the week work week. 144 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 3: I would love to hear your advice on this topic. 145 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 3: Thanks a ton. 146 00:06:57,440 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 1: Okay, this to me is may be one of the 147 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: easiest questions we've ever had. Alex, here's the deal. You're 148 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: not giving up your independence. If you don't think you're 149 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 1: giving up your independence, you are well. I don't think, 150 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't know if Alex is a 151 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: boy or girl, but either way, a girl a girl, 152 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: I thinks. Okay, here, here's the thing. It doesn't really matter. 153 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:26,520 Speaker 1: What you guys have to do is make day time 154 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:30,760 Speaker 1: for each other and and and have a consciously you know, 155 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: put a time on the calendar, a schedule appointment where 156 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: you guys spend time together. And that's going to be 157 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 1: the transition, is having your alone time. I don't think 158 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: that's going to be that big a problem because you're 159 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 1: two jobs, right, so the transition is going to be, 160 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 1: you know, set up choresless. Who's going to do the 161 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: grocery shopping, who's going to do the laundry? If you know, 162 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 1: communicate on those things and said, don't you're not going 163 00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 1: to be a mind reader. That's a mistake. I think 164 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 1: a lot of people make. Why didn't he know that 165 00:07:58,640 --> 00:08:01,080 Speaker 1: he was supposed to have dinner for me? Or you know, 166 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 1: why didn't she have my clothes waiting? Whatever it is? 167 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 1: Why didn't you pick up my dry cleaning? I don't know. 168 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 2: Maybe I didn't say, but something that she said struck 169 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 2: home with me. It is your independence, it's your place. 170 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 2: You when you come home, it's exactly like you left it. 171 00:08:20,480 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 2: That might not be the case. I'm not saying he's 172 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 2: going to be a slob or not. And sometimes it's 173 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 2: like being in a fairy tale. It works out so perfectly. 174 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,840 Speaker 2: I don't know what I could tell you, besides, like 175 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 2: Kathy just said, communicate with him and decide who's going 176 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 2: to be responsible for what so it goes smoothly. I've 177 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 2: moved into a boyfriend's one time. We had these conversations. 178 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:51,120 Speaker 2: When my moving truck came. I thought the man was 179 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 2: going to have a heart attack. He lost the closet 180 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:54,959 Speaker 2: he lost. 181 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 3: I brought furniture. 182 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:04,320 Speaker 1: With your guy. Yeah, this, Alex, sounds like she's going 183 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:08,120 Speaker 1: to prison. I mean, forget about it. You have the 184 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:13,840 Speaker 1: right experience, I get it, but it's not your place anymore. 185 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: I had friend. 186 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 3: Wait are they getting a place together? Right? She's not 187 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 3: moving into his place? Who cares? 188 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:26,480 Speaker 2: Ah, that's big, that's huge. If you two went and 189 00:09:26,520 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 2: got it's not huge. His ship goes to the curb 190 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 2: and you friendship the way. 191 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:32,200 Speaker 3: You want to. 192 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 2: But goat if someone if you were to move into 193 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:37,560 Speaker 2: some man's home. 194 00:09:37,880 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: I had a guy his home. 195 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 3: He didn't do it. 196 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:41,720 Speaker 1: I didn't. 197 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 3: You didn't do it. 198 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:42,960 Speaker 1: I didn't do it. 199 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:47,200 Speaker 2: If somebody moved into your home and you do your 200 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:51,840 Speaker 2: thing the way you do, there's going to be stuff. 201 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:54,320 Speaker 1: Okay, okay, that's fair. That's fair. 202 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:57,960 Speaker 2: But I think the best scenario is get a place together, 203 00:09:58,240 --> 00:09:59,319 Speaker 2: I start fresh. 204 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:01,960 Speaker 1: Start fresh. But also I think when Alex is talking 205 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:04,880 Speaker 1: about independence, maybe Alex likes to go out with her 206 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:08,800 Speaker 1: girlfriends or boyfriends. Whatever you have to say. You know what, 207 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 1: I'm We're moving in together, but I still go out 208 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:15,600 Speaker 1: with my girlfriends, or I still play pickleball on Fridays. 209 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 1: Don't give up everything in your life. That's not what 210 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:19,560 Speaker 1: makes a good relationship. 211 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:22,440 Speaker 2: And hopefully she'll have already have been doing that and 212 00:10:22,480 --> 00:10:23,360 Speaker 2: he's aware of it. 213 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:25,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, and if he's not the brand news, if he's. 214 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: Not make them away. Now that we live together, I'm 215 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 1: going out three times a week, he or she might 216 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 1: have to Good luck, Sweetie. 217 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:34,560 Speaker 3: I think it's going to be fine. 218 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 1: All right, let's and let us know. Good luck. By 219 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: the way moving in it can be great. We wish 220 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: you all the best in your move. Okay, Maggie writes, Hi, 221 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 1: Susan and Kathy, big fan of you both. Your podcast 222 00:10:57,120 --> 00:11:00,200 Speaker 1: always makes me smile and has been my happy outlet 223 00:11:00,400 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 1: during a really hard time in my life. I really 224 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 1: need your advice, so I hope you answer my question. Well, Maggie, 225 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:08,440 Speaker 1: we're about to here we go. 226 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:08,800 Speaker 2: We are. 227 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:11,600 Speaker 1: I'm thirty years old and have been with my boyfriend 228 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:16,000 Speaker 1: for over ten years. He's definitely the one. Our favorite 229 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:20,560 Speaker 1: thing to do together is eat cooking together, trying new cuisines, 230 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:23,000 Speaker 1: and checking out new restaurants and bars in our. 231 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:24,440 Speaker 3: City I might find. 232 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was just going to say, Susan can identify. 233 00:11:27,600 --> 00:11:30,960 Speaker 1: I had to have brain surgery very unexpectedly in June, 234 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 1: and one of the postop side effects has been temporary 235 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 1: inability to swallow due to nerve damage. I currently can't 236 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 1: eat or drink anything by mouth, which has not only 237 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 1: been a huge challenge for me personally, but has also 238 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 1: put a damper on our relationship. We miss cooking and 239 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:51,560 Speaker 1: eating out together so much. My boyfriend has been so 240 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: incredibly supportive, but I know he's having a hard time 241 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 1: with this too. How do I keep positive and find 242 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:02,000 Speaker 1: other non food related active vities to keep our relationship 243 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:05,760 Speaker 1: alive and fun? Thank you so much? I love you, ladies. 244 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 3: That sucks. I am the sitting girl. 245 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, but Susan, she's had unexpected brain surgery and she's yeah, and. 246 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 3: She'm worried about him. God blessed. 247 00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:25,800 Speaker 2: Really, really, she's worried about He's super supportive. 248 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:28,239 Speaker 3: I mean, it sounds like a good relationship. 249 00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: It does. He's having a hard time to you know what, 250 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 1: I say, Maggie, tell your boyfriend to go out and 251 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: have a great dinner by himself, or Maggie, go with 252 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 1: him and just don't need and have the company. 253 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 2: But you know what, Sweetie, you'd still do do cooking 254 00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:45,319 Speaker 2: together even though you can't eat. 255 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 1: It'll be the most important thing. Maggie. You getting better, 256 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:52,160 Speaker 1: That's where you're That's where you need to focus right now, sweetie, 257 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:53,680 Speaker 1: on getting better. 258 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:59,800 Speaker 2: Your boyfriend is supportive, That's what incredibly is supportive. Is 259 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:03,600 Speaker 2: that not beautiful right there? And you know he misses it, 260 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 2: but he loves you more. 261 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:07,680 Speaker 1: Yes, And she says it's a really hard time in 262 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:09,960 Speaker 1: her life. You know what I'm guessing, Susan it is. 263 00:13:10,160 --> 00:13:13,560 Speaker 1: You know what I'm guessing. It's a whole lot harder 264 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: for her than it is for him. She feels bad 265 00:13:16,559 --> 00:13:21,200 Speaker 1: and she's missing literally eating and having that swallowed, literally 266 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 1: swallowing the delicious. 267 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 3: What were make kats? You know how i'd be? 268 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:25,560 Speaker 1: You know how would I be? 269 00:13:26,400 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 3: I couldn't live. She wouldn't miss a beat this one. 270 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:31,319 Speaker 3: Don't eat? Are you getting? Don't even do it? Cooking? 271 00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:34,960 Speaker 1: I mean he likes the going out for Susan. I 272 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:37,360 Speaker 1: scrambled eggs this morning for my sister. I take offense 273 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:40,720 Speaker 1: at that I did. I scrambled eggs and I buttered toast. 274 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:43,920 Speaker 3: I was at her house. Let me tell you she 275 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:46,480 Speaker 3: had the things she said there It is, guys. 276 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:49,920 Speaker 1: I have a fully a quick kitchen, truly everything I 277 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:53,920 Speaker 1: need it. I was chef's kitchen and it's just like, uh. 278 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:57,920 Speaker 2: It was the best kitchen ever to maneuver around this 279 00:13:57,960 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 2: one wants to get it catered. I said, I'm here, 280 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:02,720 Speaker 2: Why are we doing that for my sister? 281 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:05,480 Speaker 1: She keeps saying to me every day, what do you 282 00:14:05,480 --> 00:14:07,320 Speaker 1: want for lunch? What do you want for dinner? I'm like, 283 00:14:08,040 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: I don't care. 284 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:10,600 Speaker 3: Like she passes that meal. 285 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 1: But come on, people out there, not everybody. I love 286 00:14:14,320 --> 00:14:16,959 Speaker 1: the the fun of going out with people, but it's 287 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:20,240 Speaker 1: the camaraderie, it's the friendship. It's the standing with sis. 288 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 1: Why she's cooking for me and I love to do dishes. 289 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:25,840 Speaker 3: She will do the dish, she will lean dishes. But 290 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:28,720 Speaker 3: so see, that's a partnership right there. It takes two. 291 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:32,960 Speaker 1: But Maggie, honey, we're praying for you. Yeah, but just 292 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 1: one last thing before we move on. How do I 293 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:39,160 Speaker 1: keep positive? I'll tell you, Maggie, every day, just be 294 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,760 Speaker 1: grateful that you're getting better and you will swallow soon 295 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:45,480 Speaker 1: and you'll be able to do those things. Non food 296 00:14:45,520 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 1: related activities. Oh my heavens, take a walk, go kayaking, 297 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:54,840 Speaker 1: you know, go for a swim, go bowling. I mean, 298 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:57,920 Speaker 1: there's so many activities that don't relate to feet. 299 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 2: Go to the beach, hold hands, old hands, go watch 300 00:15:01,120 --> 00:15:01,840 Speaker 2: the sunset. 301 00:15:02,040 --> 00:15:05,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know it's about you too. It's about you 302 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:09,520 Speaker 1: two together. It's not if your relationship. Guys, Maggie, let 303 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:11,400 Speaker 1: me say this, and it's I don't mean it to 304 00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:16,680 Speaker 1: be funny, but if your relationship is totally about food 305 00:15:16,800 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 1: and cooking and eating together, you better rethink your relationship. Right, 306 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 1: It's got to be more than that. 307 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 3: And there's other things, That's what I'm saying. 308 00:15:24,560 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 2: So that's their fun thing, that's the thing they enjoy, 309 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:31,920 Speaker 2: but don't make that the thing the worst. You couldn't 310 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 2: help what happened to you. He is there for you, Yes, 311 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 2: he kind of misses it. Like I said, every now 312 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:40,720 Speaker 2: and then splurge and cook with him, even though you 313 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:43,479 Speaker 2: can't enjoy it. But God bless you both. 314 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:45,880 Speaker 1: And hopefully you'll be back to eating soon. And when 315 00:15:45,880 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: you do, Maggie, invite Susan and me. We'd love to come. Please, 316 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 1: I'll come. 317 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:52,680 Speaker 2: I'll eat with him, trust me, Kathy, and you can 318 00:15:52,800 --> 00:15:54,880 Speaker 2: just get all you want and I'll eat with him. 319 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:55,680 Speaker 3: Work. 320 00:15:55,720 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: We can suck milkshakes with a straw. Maggie will have 321 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:01,640 Speaker 1: a blast. Okay, Maggie, thanks for reaching out. Feel so 322 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:03,360 Speaker 1: glad you did okay. 323 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:08,160 Speaker 2: The next one is from Jamie as an older dater, 324 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:12,000 Speaker 2: I feel like I'm having to give up on some 325 00:16:12,160 --> 00:16:15,480 Speaker 2: of my quotation things I'm looking for in a man, 326 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 2: oh boy, because the pool of eligible men is shrinking. 327 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:24,600 Speaker 2: I know when I was younger, we always said, don't 328 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 2: change your standards and expectations, but there were many more 329 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:32,560 Speaker 2: effish in to see at that time. How do you 330 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:37,880 Speaker 2: ladies feel about it, Jamie, I wrote the book, I mean, 331 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:41,440 Speaker 2: you are so right. 332 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:42,760 Speaker 3: Well, but go ahead. 333 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:45,880 Speaker 2: He might not be as gorgeous like I know my 334 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:48,520 Speaker 2: cousin Donna when she goes on the daties. Oh, I 335 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:51,720 Speaker 2: don't like that picture of gor Donna. We're over sixty now. 336 00:16:51,800 --> 00:16:53,480 Speaker 2: They don't have the looks they used to have, so 337 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 2: it's not just about a physical appearance or look. I 338 00:16:57,080 --> 00:16:59,920 Speaker 2: like tall men. I don't mind short men anymore, you know. 339 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 2: I mean, I used to be stuck on that. It's 340 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 2: about what's inside. But you're right, there's not a ton 341 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:10,439 Speaker 2: of fish still swimming in the city. I believe that 342 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 2: men pass before women, so I also believe there's more 343 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:17,200 Speaker 2: women in the world than there are men. 344 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:20,240 Speaker 3: So I feel you, I don't know, Caath, what can 345 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:20,840 Speaker 3: we say. 346 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:25,119 Speaker 1: Well, I think I'm not sure what Jamie's standards and 347 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 1: expectations are. But one thing either, as certain standards and expectations, 348 00:17:30,840 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 1: I'm never changing. 349 00:17:32,320 --> 00:17:33,240 Speaker 3: I don't settle. 350 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:36,440 Speaker 1: Well, I think you have to settle on some things. 351 00:17:36,480 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 1: But you know, I want to be respected, I want kindness, 352 00:17:41,520 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: I want to be loved, I want to be cherished 353 00:17:43,880 --> 00:17:46,960 Speaker 1: all those things, and Jamie, I've never I've never given 354 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:49,920 Speaker 1: up on those. Susan's right. If the guy's a little shorter, 355 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:51,880 Speaker 1: so I'll look over his head, you know, I can. 356 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:54,199 Speaker 1: You know, I can polish his bald spot for him. 357 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 1: I don't care about that. Where when I was younger, 358 00:17:56,840 --> 00:17:58,480 Speaker 1: I did. They had to be a certain tight I 359 00:17:58,480 --> 00:17:59,480 Speaker 1: don't really care that much. 360 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:00,720 Speaker 3: Is that what she means? 361 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:02,720 Speaker 1: I don't know that, but I will say. 362 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:04,200 Speaker 3: She's looking for in the man. 363 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:06,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, it depends what's the most important thing to you. 364 00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 1: But don't give up on quality standards. And you know what, 365 00:18:11,680 --> 00:18:14,160 Speaker 1: that's a lot of us. Susan and I we've talked 366 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:16,600 Speaker 1: about this. That's why I have so much fun. Susan, 367 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:20,920 Speaker 1: we get together, we have a great time, and honestly, 368 00:18:21,080 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 1: I'd rather hang with my girlfriends and have a great time, 369 00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 1: then put up with a guy and say, yeah, this 370 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:30,359 Speaker 1: is the best it's out there. I'd rather not have 371 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:31,639 Speaker 1: a guy. So there you have. 372 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:35,119 Speaker 2: So, Jamie, you're not alone, but like Kathy said, you 373 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 2: do want somebody to treat you nice. 374 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:39,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, and don't ever give up on that, Jamie. 375 00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:43,199 Speaker 2: Right, absolutely not, because you're better off alone. Then yeah, Susan, 376 00:18:43,280 --> 00:18:44,640 Speaker 2: thank you for sharing it with us. 377 00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:47,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, Susan treats me nicely. She cooks for me, of course. 378 00:18:48,280 --> 00:18:51,919 Speaker 1: All right, here's the next one. Anonymous rights. Hi, Kathy 379 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:55,280 Speaker 1: and Susan. Staying anonymous because I really don't want this 380 00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 1: to come out in my personal life. I found out 381 00:18:58,040 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: this week that my dad is having an a face 382 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:03,080 Speaker 1: with my old babysitter, and I don't know how to 383 00:19:03,119 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 1: tell my stepmom. I was visiting home this week. I'm 384 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:09,200 Speaker 1: in college and stay in my apartment over the summer 385 00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:11,480 Speaker 1: as well, but I came home just to get some 386 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:15,399 Speaker 1: family time. I ended up arriving earlier than expected, so 387 00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 1: when I got home, I saw my dad and my 388 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:22,680 Speaker 1: old babysitter kissing on our couch. She immediately left, blushing 389 00:19:22,760 --> 00:19:25,480 Speaker 1: like crazy and refusing to make eye contact with me. 390 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:28,840 Speaker 1: My dad just sighed and stayed on the couch me. 391 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:33,480 Speaker 1: I was in total shock. I was just frozen. As 392 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:36,639 Speaker 1: for my stepmom, I really like her. I moved away 393 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:39,760 Speaker 1: for college around the same time she moved in after 394 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:42,280 Speaker 1: their wedding, so I haven't been able to get super 395 00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:45,720 Speaker 1: close to her. However, I really like her and respect her, 396 00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:49,040 Speaker 1: especially because she gets along really well with my mom. 397 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:51,919 Speaker 1: I really don't want to tell my mom because I 398 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:54,879 Speaker 1: know it'll be triggering. My dad cheated on her with 399 00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:58,359 Speaker 1: an old coworker and that led to their divorce. This 400 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:00,439 Speaker 1: is such a weird position for me to be in. 401 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:03,719 Speaker 1: After I caught them and the girl left, I finally 402 00:20:03,760 --> 00:20:07,879 Speaker 1: started to basically yell WTF, which is we all know 403 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 1: what that means at my dad. He said he had 404 00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:15,640 Speaker 1: to go quote clear his head, which I'm sure men 405 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:19,159 Speaker 1: track down the babysitter to reconcile. He went for a drive, 406 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:21,960 Speaker 1: and I went to my room to talk to my 407 00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:25,240 Speaker 1: best friend. My stepmom is getting back from a girl's 408 00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:27,080 Speaker 1: trip in a couple of days, and I still have 409 00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:29,639 Speaker 1: no idea what I'm going to do. My dad and 410 00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:33,040 Speaker 1: I have silently been avoiding each other as well. I 411 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:35,199 Speaker 1: know I have to tell my step mom, but I 412 00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 1: have no idea how to. She deserves to know the treuth, 413 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,680 Speaker 1: to know the truth, but I'm honestly scared my dad 414 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:44,639 Speaker 1: will never talk to me again. Any advice would be 415 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:51,120 Speaker 1: so appreciated. Love you, ladies. Do not tell the step mom. 416 00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:55,240 Speaker 1: Get out of there, honey, go back to call Bob. 417 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:56,320 Speaker 1: Do you know what. 418 00:20:56,440 --> 00:20:59,600 Speaker 2: Unfortunately, once a cheat, always a cheat. I know that's saying, 419 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:03,159 Speaker 2: but people do change. But your father is showing his 420 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:07,200 Speaker 2: true colors and he is shitting himself right now. 421 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 3: Worry that you're going to tell. Don't tell your mom. 422 00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,440 Speaker 2: Maybe on one day if your mom's trusting your dad 423 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:15,520 Speaker 2: feeling Yeah, Mom, you're right, he did it again, you know. 424 00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:16,960 Speaker 3: But no, I would stay out. 425 00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:19,080 Speaker 1: Stay out of it's, sweetie, because here's the thing. 426 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 3: You'll get the blame. 427 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:23,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not going to change the thing if your dad, 428 00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 1: I mean, once a cheater, always a cheater. I don't 429 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 1: know about that, but I do know that your dad 430 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:32,439 Speaker 1: has at least shown a pattern of cheating. And I 431 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:35,479 Speaker 1: don't care if she's your babysitter or the librarian or 432 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 1: the cook next door. It doesn't matter. Yeah, it really 433 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:41,679 Speaker 1: doesn't matter. Go back to your college life, and you 434 00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 1: know what, I hope you take this lesson of what 435 00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:48,680 Speaker 1: it means to be loyal and honest and live your 436 00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:52,120 Speaker 1: own life when you have a family better than your dad. 437 00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:55,280 Speaker 3: Did, and it's sad that your dad can't look in 438 00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:56,439 Speaker 3: the eye you know. 439 00:21:57,680 --> 00:22:00,879 Speaker 2: Well again, I would probably say, Dad, just you and 440 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:04,240 Speaker 2: your father, Why do you bother like living with somebody 441 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:06,160 Speaker 2: if this is what you want to do, like I'm 442 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:08,520 Speaker 2: losing respect, but it is your father. 443 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:14,440 Speaker 1: You're swimming you would I would so say nothing. I 444 00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:17,120 Speaker 1: would say, you know what, Dad, I'm not even going there. 445 00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:19,440 Speaker 1: I go live your life and I'd go back to 446 00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:22,399 Speaker 1: college and live mine. Because you can already tell she 447 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:26,480 Speaker 1: doesn't respect him. She may deserve to know the truth, Anonymous, 448 00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:31,720 Speaker 1: but here's the thing, it's not your job to tell 449 00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:33,680 Speaker 1: her the truth. So good luck with that. 450 00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:35,840 Speaker 3: I wish you didn't see that. 451 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: Oh, I know some things can never be unseen. Okay, 452 00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:52,800 Speaker 1: Susan favorite time of the day for me. It's time 453 00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,520 Speaker 1: for moral quandary, and I'm going to get to start 454 00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:57,359 Speaker 1: with the first one. So here we go go. 455 00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:58,080 Speaker 3: Ahead. 456 00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:01,639 Speaker 1: Your best friend has gotten a lot of filler and boatox, 457 00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:05,800 Speaker 1: but she's significantly happier do you suggest trying to use 458 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:08,240 Speaker 1: less or let her do what she wants even if 459 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:15,159 Speaker 1: it doesn't look great? What would I do? Since you 460 00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:17,240 Speaker 1: and I both get filler and botox, you shouldn't have 461 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:18,639 Speaker 1: to think too long on this one. 462 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,280 Speaker 2: I mean, if you think something doesn't look great, you're 463 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:23,359 Speaker 2: going to tell me. You're not going to tell me 464 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 2: to use less? 465 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 3: Or you're going to. 466 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,920 Speaker 2: Say, Susan, when did they do that? Maybe you should 467 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:30,760 Speaker 2: have that adjusted? Because we're friends, I would tell you. 468 00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:34,159 Speaker 1: What eyebrows and it's up here, it says your best 469 00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:37,800 Speaker 1: friend and tell them you tell them. We both agree 470 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 1: on that. I can't even believe it. We're there, all right, 471 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:40,640 Speaker 1: Let's go to the next us. 472 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:41,280 Speaker 3: Look at us go. 473 00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:45,200 Speaker 2: You're at a friend's party and you totally clog the toilet. 474 00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:50,040 Speaker 3: It's happened to me? Is it a quiet corner to 475 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:53,040 Speaker 3: the house and the one saw you go in or leave? 476 00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:56,399 Speaker 2: Do you slip out and pretend it wasn't you? Do 477 00:23:56,520 --> 00:24:00,440 Speaker 2: you inform the host of the house anything? 478 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: Oh? What would I do? 479 00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:05,080 Speaker 3: Slip out? 480 00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:08,840 Speaker 2: Oh, Susan, First of all, I courtesy plush. 481 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:12,040 Speaker 1: Wait a minute, you've clunk the toilet? You think I 482 00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:16,600 Speaker 1: would walk out? Now? Oh my gosh, you do. You're 483 00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:20,720 Speaker 1: so wrong. I would quietly go to the host and say, 484 00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:25,040 Speaker 1: I have toilet where is Could you please tell me 485 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:27,359 Speaker 1: whether it's a plunger. I'm so embarrassed. 486 00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:30,240 Speaker 2: And you know what, it depends on my age, because 487 00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:32,359 Speaker 2: I probably did it as a youngster, and I would 488 00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:34,280 Speaker 2: never tell Now today I would do the same. 489 00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:37,359 Speaker 3: And we're saying, and just did it again? 490 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:37,879 Speaker 1: I did it? 491 00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 3: Why do I have to play this game every week? 492 00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:41,160 Speaker 1: Hey? 493 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:44,640 Speaker 3: Callers listeners, one of you call and you play the game. 494 00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:47,120 Speaker 3: I'll read the questions. How about that? Because I can't 495 00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:47,880 Speaker 3: play this game. 496 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,080 Speaker 1: Okay, we're moving on to the next one to see 497 00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:53,159 Speaker 1: I do, Susan, this is a test. Let's see if 498 00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:53,440 Speaker 1: you can do. 499 00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 3: I'm trying, all right, zip it? 500 00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,680 Speaker 1: No that I don't want you to zip it telling 501 00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:04,639 Speaker 1: me to all right, You're on a sixth date, a 502 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:07,399 Speaker 1: picnic in the park with who you hope will be 503 00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 1: your new boyfriend. I'm sorry, If you're on a sixth date, 504 00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:11,880 Speaker 1: isn't he probably your boyfriend? 505 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:13,439 Speaker 3: Okay, okay, I learned that. 506 00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:17,400 Speaker 1: Oh that's right, you did. Never mind. Okay. After the picnic, 507 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:21,160 Speaker 1: he starts walking away with a trail of garbage behind him. 508 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:24,280 Speaker 1: Do you confront him about leaving his trash? Just clean 509 00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,520 Speaker 1: it up and say nothing? Or leave the trash bind 510 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:27,920 Speaker 1: as well? What would I do? 511 00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:30,520 Speaker 3: Susan got more twins here we are? 512 00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:31,560 Speaker 1: What tell me? 513 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:34,800 Speaker 3: Are you kidding me? You want to leave trash? Now? 514 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,320 Speaker 3: You're gonna call him on? Yo, dude, help me pick this? 515 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,919 Speaker 3: Somebody going to leave it? This is how you like 516 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,359 Speaker 3: to live? Oh no, no, no, that's okay again. 517 00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:46,359 Speaker 1: You blew it. You were right now, Sammy, would both 518 00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 1: do the same thing you were just supposed to say. 519 00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:54,119 Speaker 1: I'm telling you friends, that's friends. 520 00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:55,720 Speaker 3: Call in play this game. 521 00:25:56,440 --> 00:26:00,800 Speaker 1: Playing this, she insists on playing. We're not going to 522 00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:03,480 Speaker 1: have any guests for the next six months. We're just 523 00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:05,719 Speaker 1: going to play moral quandary and see if you hit 524 00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 1: the guests. All right, Coke to the next one? 525 00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:10,800 Speaker 3: God help me. 526 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 2: You're at a concert with all your closest friends and 527 00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 2: you're having a great time. You get approached by security 528 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:22,160 Speaker 2: and they offer to bring you backstage, but you can 529 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:25,560 Speaker 2: only bring one other friend. Do you choose someone and 530 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:29,440 Speaker 2: go or decline and stay with all your friends? You're 531 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:33,560 Speaker 2: all equally huge fans of this artist, so feelings would 532 00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,919 Speaker 2: definitely be hurt if they didn't get chosen to go along. 533 00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:39,120 Speaker 1: What would I do? 534 00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:46,680 Speaker 3: Take one and go? You wouldn't you would? You would 535 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:47,240 Speaker 3: give it up? 536 00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:48,600 Speaker 1: If I were there with you. 537 00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:51,520 Speaker 3: I don't know Kathy at all, really, I mean, honestly, I. 538 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,720 Speaker 1: Would say, you know what, I'm here with my best friends. 539 00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:56,960 Speaker 1: I would love to do it, but I don't. I 540 00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:00,200 Speaker 1: would absolutely not go and take one. If we all 541 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:02,520 Speaker 1: love the artist, I wouldn't do it, I'd say. And 542 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:05,639 Speaker 1: there were seven of us, I'm sorry, just one person 543 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:08,920 Speaker 1: who's coming now? Well, and I don't I think I 544 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:11,160 Speaker 1: don't think. I don't think you would do it either. 545 00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:13,639 Speaker 1: I think you'd want to, but I don't think you 546 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:15,360 Speaker 1: would just say come on, Kathy. 547 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:17,720 Speaker 3: Maybe not at my age now? 548 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:21,879 Speaker 1: Oh well, Susan, we're the moral quandary is where we 549 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:23,800 Speaker 1: are now, not when we were ten years I hate 550 00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:24,160 Speaker 1: the game? 551 00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 3: Cat Have I told you? I hate game? 552 00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:31,360 Speaker 1: Okay? Friends, if I'm saying in your life right now, Susan, 553 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 1: you would not take one friend and do it. But 554 00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:37,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to say to you if you do, if 555 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 1: you were going to do it, did you bloody well 556 00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:40,840 Speaker 1: better take me or you're dead? To me? 557 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:43,480 Speaker 3: You see what I'm up a good scol. 558 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:47,160 Speaker 1: Your friend that owns a bakery really wants to make 559 00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:51,240 Speaker 1: your daughter's wedding cake. Even though she's really talented, she's 560 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,639 Speaker 1: terrible with time management. Do you let her bake the 561 00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:57,639 Speaker 1: cake and be really stern with her about deadlines? Or 562 00:27:57,680 --> 00:27:59,840 Speaker 1: do you opt to not take a chance and go 563 00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:03,360 Speaker 1: with the different baker. What would you do? It's no brainer. 564 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:04,919 Speaker 1: You would have your friend do it because you're so 565 00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:07,200 Speaker 1: loyal to your friends and family. You'd have her doing it, 566 00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,359 Speaker 1: and you'd lay down the law. Am I right? Okay? 567 00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:10,960 Speaker 1: What would I do? 568 00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 3: I don't know anymore. I don't even know you. 569 00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:15,640 Speaker 1: Who are you? 570 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:18,440 Speaker 2: You're going to make me miss the opportunity to meet 571 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:19,360 Speaker 2: the artist? 572 00:28:19,800 --> 00:28:24,720 Speaker 1: No? Actually no, actually, Susan, I would miss it and 573 00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:26,840 Speaker 1: you would miss it. But when you get the chance, 574 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:28,560 Speaker 1: you're taking me. It's a win win. 575 00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:34,160 Speaker 2: No, Kathy, it's your good friend. You would definitely stay 576 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:35,480 Speaker 2: on them and let them make it. 577 00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:37,800 Speaker 1: Oh my god, ding ding ding, she got one right, 578 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:41,840 Speaker 1: I got one right, ladies, gentlemen, I hate to go on. 579 00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,440 Speaker 1: We've got one more because I'd like to end on. 580 00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:46,440 Speaker 3: Isn't the time up yet? 581 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:48,440 Speaker 1: I mean, all right? 582 00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:51,600 Speaker 3: While meeting your friend's new boyfriend. 583 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,200 Speaker 1: Well that we neither of us have one, So this 584 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,720 Speaker 1: is this is coulda be tough to do? 585 00:28:56,760 --> 00:29:02,120 Speaker 2: You realize almost everything they told this guy is a lie. 586 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:02,959 Speaker 3: Oh God. 587 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:06,240 Speaker 2: Later in the evening, the boyfriend confides in you that 588 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,280 Speaker 2: he thinks he might already be falling in love with 589 00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:09,920 Speaker 2: your friend? 590 00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:11,240 Speaker 3: How do you proceed? 591 00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:13,200 Speaker 1: Oh? What would you do? 592 00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:14,360 Speaker 3: Read that again? 593 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:18,840 Speaker 1: Read it basically? Basically? Let me paint this really clearly, Susan. 594 00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:22,720 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm meeting your new boyfriend. You've lied 595 00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:26,080 Speaker 1: to him all night long. He comes up to me 596 00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:30,040 Speaker 1: and thinks he's fallen in love with you, except he's 597 00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 1: in love with the not real Susan. How would I proceed? You? 598 00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:37,480 Speaker 3: Pull me by the ear, hit me in the room. 599 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:39,959 Speaker 3: Are you crazy, Susan? Why are you lie? And this 600 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:41,960 Speaker 3: man's falling in love with you? How could you do that? 601 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:46,760 Speaker 1: Is that? I swear to God? We do you know me? 602 00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 3: Hello? 603 00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:51,360 Speaker 1: Do you know what I would do, Susan? What I 604 00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:53,880 Speaker 1: would say, Sam. 605 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:55,040 Speaker 3: Don't fall in love with her? 606 00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,840 Speaker 1: No, I would say, Sam, I'm so happy I love 607 00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 1: her too. She's such a wonderful person. I'm glad you're 608 00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:02,680 Speaker 1: getting to know her, and as you get to know 609 00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:04,360 Speaker 1: her more, you're going to fall in love with or 610 00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:06,960 Speaker 1: more you say the nice thing. You don't. 611 00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:08,240 Speaker 3: That's what I said. 612 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 1: You said, and I would not not him. 613 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,680 Speaker 3: I didn't say him. I was right. People, ladies and 614 00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:17,200 Speaker 3: gentlemen to write to do write. 615 00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:18,000 Speaker 1: You know what? 616 00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:20,840 Speaker 3: Yes, I think we're going to say anything to me, lady. 617 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 1: You know we're going to start playing on this pin 618 00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:26,000 Speaker 1: the tail on the donkey, because that's about the level 619 00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:27,040 Speaker 1: I think you're at here. 620 00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:32,480 Speaker 2: You know, rudeness will not be accepted here. No, seriously, 621 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:34,440 Speaker 2: you wouldn't say anything to me. 622 00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,120 Speaker 1: Absolutely knew, Susan. 623 00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:40,560 Speaker 2: If you knew, listen, if you knew I was lying 624 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,040 Speaker 2: to him. And then this man told you that Later 625 00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:45,640 Speaker 2: when we hang out that night he leaves, you're going 626 00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:48,719 Speaker 2: to say, Susan, why did you lie to him? This 627 00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:51,880 Speaker 2: man's falling for you? Did you read it right? 628 00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:55,680 Speaker 1: Oh? I read it right. You know why? Because Susan, 629 00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:57,800 Speaker 1: you and I have talked about this. You are who 630 00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:00,640 Speaker 1: you are and I am who I am. And you know, 631 00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,600 Speaker 1: for everybody out there, Susan and I love each other. 632 00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:07,040 Speaker 1: We're really good friends. Not everything that Susan does I 633 00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:10,560 Speaker 1: agree with. Not everything I do, not everything I do. 634 00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 1: But here's the deal. We're adults and we're pretty well baked, 635 00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:18,080 Speaker 1: so we're not going to change. So no, Susan, I 636 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,880 Speaker 1: wouldn't tell you that you're going to do what you're 637 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:21,560 Speaker 1: going to do. And I love you, You're my friend 638 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,719 Speaker 1: and I wish you, you know, godspeed in the relationship. 639 00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:26,640 Speaker 3: So you keep that to yourself. 640 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:30,040 Speaker 1: You wouldn't, Yeah, I would not. You're right all right? 641 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,800 Speaker 1: On that happy note? Friends, that does. 642 00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:35,760 Speaker 3: I want you to know what I would do? 643 00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:38,360 Speaker 1: No one cares, Susan. You fail. Go pick the tell 644 00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:39,280 Speaker 1: on the market. 645 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,840 Speaker 2: Whatever that does it for this episode of Happy Hour, 646 00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:46,160 Speaker 2: Thank goodness and thank you guys for joining us. 647 00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:48,120 Speaker 3: I hope you had as many laughs as we did. 648 00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:50,520 Speaker 1: And you know what, we love these questions, even though 649 00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:53,520 Speaker 1: Susan struggles to answer some of them. Just go to 650 00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:57,880 Speaker 1: Bachelor nation dot com slash Golden Hour, Write us a question, 651 00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:01,200 Speaker 1: write a comment. We love hearing what's on your mind. 652 00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:04,040 Speaker 1: We love hearing your comments. Who reviews, Just please keep 653 00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:04,840 Speaker 1: them coming. 654 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:07,520 Speaker 3: Yes, because without you, we wouldn't be here. 655 00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:12,080 Speaker 2: There you Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio 656 00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:15,400 Speaker 2: app or wherever you listen to your podcast, Kat, that 657 00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:15,840 Speaker 2: was fun. 658 00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:17,520 Speaker 1: It was so fun to see you next time.