WEBVTT - Two Jersey Js: Check Yourself with Teddi and Tamra 0:00:02.240 --> 0:00:03.120 All right, guys. 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:06.320 So we were just on to teason a pod, So 0:00:06.400 --> 0:00:09.719 if you haven't listened to that yet, go run listen download. 0:00:10.080 --> 0:00:12.880 Yes are so Now we're going to do two Jersey Jays. 0:00:13.360 --> 0:00:16.279 I'm Jen Fessler, I'm Jackie Goldschneider, and we all know 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:19.200 who our guest is. Now. Hello, Teddy Mellencamp. 0:00:20.320 --> 0:00:22.480 Hi, guys, I'm so happy to be here. 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:23.959 We're so happy to have you. 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:27.080 The Tables of Turn Now I am I. 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:27.440 In the Oh. 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:29.600 Yeah, you're gonna get yours. Yeah, I'm going to rip 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:31.280 you in new I Now ours is not going to 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:32.480 be quite as salacious. 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:35.720 We love you, We love you. 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:37.760 Tamra had to step out for a little bit, but 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:39.360 she's going to be joining us a little bit later 0:00:39.360 --> 0:00:40.120 in the episode. 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:42.879 Today we're talking about health, which I know. 0:00:42.840 --> 0:00:46.040 That you have so much to say and unfortunately so 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:47.600 much experience with lately. 0:00:48.000 --> 0:00:52.120 Yeah, but we're also going to talk more specifically about health, 0:00:52.520 --> 0:00:55.760 women's health and women of a certain age. And you're 0:00:55.800 --> 0:00:59.680 both Jackie and Teddy younger than I am, but focused 0:00:59.680 --> 0:01:05.160 on of middle age women and what we go through. Yeah, 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:08.720 And it's constantly like that, It is, it is. I've 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:14.080 always been this reaging hypochondriac. So I've been picturing my 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:18.160 demise since I was in my twenties, and I remember 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:21.560 just getting so freaked out because if I had a headache, 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:24.560 I had a brain tumor, and then my wish was 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:28.360 I would pray, please God, let me just have kids first, 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:31.200 Let me just get married first. Now it's like, what 0:01:31.280 --> 0:01:33.880 about the kids, Like I can't and I don't. We're 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:36.040 not going to get too morbid. But you know, in 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:38.760 terms of health issues, I think that it's so scary 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:41.320 when you get to our age. 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:43.520 Yeah, I mean, I would say the biggest and I've 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:46.440 talked about this before, but I'm hoping that it'll reach 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:50.000 additional people. If you are listening to this right now 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:53.480 and you currently do not have life insurance and you 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:56.640 have not done your last will and Testament and your 0:01:56.680 --> 0:01:58.960 trusts or whatever it is that you need to have 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:02.960 in place, do it now, because it's something I had 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:07.840 not done prior to all of my skin cancer diagnosis 0:02:07.920 --> 0:02:10.520 and now I cannot get life insurance. 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:13.880 Yeah. Wow, I didn't know that. 0:02:13.960 --> 0:02:15.560 Yeah that was testing. 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:16.880 Wow, that's terrible. 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:20.720 Yeah, So before you have you know, like I never 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:22.480 really thought about it, like I was like I don't know. 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:24.600 I mean like me and Edwin know where the kids, 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:27.960 like my sister, you know, like we've talked about that 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:31.280 kind of stuff. But once it started getting more real, 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:32.680 I was like, oh my gosh, I need to have 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:36.720 like life insurance. And I went through the whole process. 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:39.600 You have to go through multiple different channels to then 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:41.240 get like an email you're rejected. 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:42.120 I can't believe that. 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:43.079 Wow, that's awful. 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:46.800 Wait, Teddy, how old are you I am? I love that. 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:49.480 I was about to answer thirty six because like for life, 0:02:49.560 --> 0:02:50.240 that's how old I am. 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:53.720 I'm forty two years old. So forty two years old? 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:55.960 And are you your cancer free? Now? 0:02:56.880 --> 0:03:00.400 I'm currently cancer free. 0:03:00.960 --> 0:03:01.240 I know. 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:02.320 Such good news. 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:04.120 It's one of those things that I do need to 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:07.680 continue to get checked every three months. I think I was. 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:12.040 I ended up having over fourteen. On December twenty sixth 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:16.520 I had a huge surgery that's essentially my whole back 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:21.080 where they they essentially cut out the entire hole of 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:25.760 like my shoulder and then pulled my excess skin over 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.160 my shoulder and now there's like kind of like a 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:31.480 shark bite surgery. My shirts news did an incredible job, 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:34.720 but all of that could have been avoided had I 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:39.200 not like I'm an anxious OCD diagnosed. I'm not self diagnosing, 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:43.160 but like I am, and mine is not surrounding like 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:43.640 I don't. 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:46.960 I'm not like where you said, Jen, that you. 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:49.400 Like make up in your head, Yeah, those things like 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:51.760 I'm one of those people that avoids going to the 0:03:51.760 --> 0:03:55.200 doctor because I want to pretend I'm always okay. 0:03:55.520 --> 0:03:58.920 Wow, okay. So I want to ask a little bit 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:01.600 of an uncomfortable question. And like the first time that 0:04:01.640 --> 0:04:04.560 you went in and they told you that you had cancer, 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:06.400 Like what hearing those words? 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:07.400 What was that like for you? 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:11.880 Well, the first time I went in, truthfully, I didn't 0:04:11.920 --> 0:04:15.320 think it was a big deal. I didn't really know 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:18.840 anybody that had skin cancer. I didn't know anyone that 0:04:19.400 --> 0:04:21.480 in my mind that was just something you cut out 0:04:21.480 --> 0:04:22.160 and you get right. 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:24.880 I would feel the next right. That's like, I do 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:27.160 know plenty of people that have had skin cancer, and 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:30.160 it's not you think of it like I get moved 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:32.640 orgery or whatever and never think of Yah. 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:36.839 So I had had these spots on my back for 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:39.200 for a long time, ever since I was a child, essentially, 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:41.479 and they would just change colors from like white to 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:42.599 frecklely to red. 0:04:42.920 --> 0:04:44.119 People think skin cancer. 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:46.120 You think it looks like a standard mole for me, 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.120 And I never did my first one. I went to 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:52.239 a dermatologist. I hadn't gotten to the oncologist point yet, 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:57.200 and the dermatologist said, this spot looks a little funny. 0:04:58.600 --> 0:05:01.920 Do you want me to biopsy or just cut it out? 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:03.760 It's small enough that I could just cut it out 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:06.080 right now. I know you don't want to come back. 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:08.320 And I was like, oh, cut it out. She's like, 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:10.240 it might not look great. I'm like, don't care, cut 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:13.400 it out, send the whole thing in. Let's you know whatever. 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:18.680 And then that one, you know, turned into thirteen more so, 0:05:18.839 --> 0:05:22.320 it really the first one I didn't think was ever 0:05:22.360 --> 0:05:24.360 going to really turn into another one. And then it 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:26.840 was the constant cycle for someone like me who likes 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:31.520 to control everything, the constant cycle of the unknowns, and 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:34.000 then going to that place of what if I don't 0:05:34.000 --> 0:05:36.680 make it, what if I do die? And then like 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:39.520 the things in my head that I would really go through, 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:42.080 like it was like I had real conversations with Edwin 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:44.920 where I was like, honey, I want to talk about 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:46.600 who you're going to marry when I die. 0:05:47.000 --> 0:05:48.880 And I she would like to pick her, I'd like 0:05:48.920 --> 0:05:52.280 to pick them to my children, Like I. 0:05:51.960 --> 0:05:54.200 Really want to go through this because I don't trust 0:05:54.240 --> 0:05:56.839 your picker, like you went through a lot before you 0:05:56.920 --> 0:05:59.720 got to me, and like I'm still not even the best. 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:03.520 Let's really narrowed down, like my non negotiables for what 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:05.720 I want. And I even told my best girlfriends the same. 0:06:05.760 --> 0:06:09.320 I'm like, guys, if I don't make it, please do 0:06:09.440 --> 0:06:12.359 not let edwin. I don't mind if the girl's prettier 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:15.440 than me, but she needs to be funny, a good mom, 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:18.279 be supportive, show up to my kids' sporting events, like 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:18.960 she needs. 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:19.400 To be with it. 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:21.839 Yeah, and if she can't be with it, I'm not 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:24.600 interested and she has to know. It sounds crazy, but 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:26.919 like one of the jokes we got when I was 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:28.880 on the show is people said what do you love 0:06:28.920 --> 0:06:31.200 most about Teddy and he said that she's organized, and 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:34.599 everyone was like, oh, grow, but he is the most 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:36.600 unorganized human in the world. 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:39.160 So like, you need that yin and yang, I think 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:40.120 in a relationship. 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:43.440 So I've heard that that Kyle Richards was actually the 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:47.279 one who spotted the first like street cooking, spot. 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:49.040 That's that's insane. 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:52.480 Tell us, Well, we were on a run and I thought, 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:55.760 you know, I guess. I mean, this was after I'd 0:06:55.760 --> 0:06:58.560 already gotten fired, so she'd she'd seen the back of 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:00.960 my You know, we've been working out together since I 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.680 got hired on the show, and I would always wear 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:05.560 just like a sports for our tank top or whatever. 0:07:05.600 --> 0:07:08.479 But my shoulders were always exposed, so people always saw it. Plus, 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:10.680 you know, like all those dresses that we wear, you 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:12.600 kind of always show it. I was always in the sun, 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:16.200 and you know, it wasn't the world's best about putting 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:19.560 sunscreen on. And something that I learned, just to go 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:22.840 back on it for a second, is people constantly ask me, 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:24.720 you know, what sunscreen should we use? What? 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:29.720 And what my like board This is key board certified 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:33.720 dermatologists told me was the best sunscreen that you can 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:34.680 use is the one you. 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:35.680 Will actually put on? 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:39.080 Yeah, Because if I don't you feel if this, Yeah, 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:41.720 if the sunscreen feels lucky on you, or you don't 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:43.600 like it, or you don't enjoy putting it on, you're 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:46.640 not going to reapply it and you're not going to 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:48.160 you know, so find one that. 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:49.320 You like to use. 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:53.040 This use spray. It's just easier. Sometimes I use spray. 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:56.240 I mean, I'm always using different things because you know, 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:58.200 with that, I have like textural stuff, so I don't 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:00.000 like the way it feels on my hands blah blah blah. 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:02.640 But so either way, I was on a run with Kyle. 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:06.760 I was in a sports raw and she was like, Teddy, 0:08:06.840 --> 0:08:08.400 that spot on your back. 0:08:09.200 --> 0:08:10.200 It doesn't look good. 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:13.760 And I had gone years, probably like ten years before 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:16.520 to a dermatologist to get it checked, and they said 0:08:16.560 --> 0:08:19.720 it looked like dermat dermatitis, like sometimes after you have 0:08:19.840 --> 0:08:22.360 kids you get dermatitis like whatever it was. And they 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:24.240 gave me like a steroid cream and a shrunk and 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:25.320 I just ignored. 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:25.720 It since then. 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:30.800 But yeah, so at that moment, she goes, I'm gonna 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:34.120 call my dermatologist right now. So she called her, and 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:36.320 on our run we ran. 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:39.240 To the dermatologist's office. And that was the first time I. 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:42.000 Went to wow, did you like have When if anybody 0:08:42.080 --> 0:08:44.240 ever says these like, I remember if I'm getting like 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:48.599 my hair washed and like I've had my haird a 0:08:48.720 --> 0:08:50.800 kind of look kind of move my hair and look 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:53.320 at and I'm like, what the fuck, Like, did you 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:56.360 have that sinking feeling when she when Kyle sort of 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:57.240 picked up on it. 0:08:58.400 --> 0:09:00.560 No, I mean, but it was those things that like 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:03.680 my husband had told me probably a thousand times to 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:07.439 go get checked. But it's like something about just in 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:10.040 that moment, I was like, you know, I'm such a 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:11.920 know at all, but like I was like, Okay, you're right, 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:14.040 I should go. And then when that first spot came, 0:09:14.160 --> 0:09:18.920 and then the beauty of I think sharing vulnerability is 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:20.880 normally in my life, I'm one of those people that 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:23.680 don't tell people what I need. I'll more just like 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:26.640 pull back and maybe go into like a state of 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:29.600 like depression or anxiety or whatever it may be, because 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:32.000 I don't ever want to get the feeling of being 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:34.600 rejected or somebody telling me they can't do something, so 0:09:34.640 --> 0:09:38.680 I just don't ask for help. But with this entire journey, 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:41.160 I really opened up to my family and my friends 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:44.480 and essentially people on Instagram too, but and just shared 0:09:44.600 --> 0:09:46.920 what I was going through and it gave me so 0:09:47.080 --> 0:09:49.920 much peace because I didn't feel like I was carrying 0:09:49.920 --> 0:09:50.559 it alone. 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:53.040 I love that. I love that What about your kids 0:09:53.200 --> 0:09:55.679 were you able to did they know any better to 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:56.040 have this? 0:09:57.280 --> 0:10:00.000 You know, I've always been, not that this is a compare, 0:10:00.320 --> 0:10:01.800 but people are like, how could you be scared of 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:03.800 a doctor, but you went and got a neck lift. 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:06.600 I'm like, because that was I chose to two hundred percent, 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:10.079 I'll im in trolassic surgery seven. 0:10:09.880 --> 0:10:13.080 Days a week. I told, well, yeah, well yeah, like yes, 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:13.920 so I will. 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:16.000 I had always you know, and I wasn't one of 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:18.040 those moms that like didn't tell my kids that I 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:20.200 got a necklift, Like I was like, I have, this 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:22.440 has been something that's bothered me in my entire. 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:23.280 Life, blah blah blah. 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:27.400 So like they had known about surgeries prior because of that, 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:30.520 and Slay was always kind of like my nurse, Like 0:10:30.559 --> 0:10:31.920 she would come in and be like, oh, is there 0:10:31.920 --> 0:10:32.400 a stitch? 0:10:32.679 --> 0:10:33.240 Can I get that? 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:34.760 You know, like she'd clean everything. 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:38.320 So I just kind of kept the open conversation here 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:43.160 and made it more of like, guys, first and foremost, 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:45.640 I want to tell you that if in these next 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:48.360 couple of months, why we're figuring this all out, if 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:50.679 I'm not in the best mood, it's not about you. 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:55.120 It's not because I'm mad at you, it's not because 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:59.120 you're doing something wrong. It's because I am struggling. It 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:01.000 doesn't mean that I'm not going to get better, but 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:04.320 I don't want you to take that on. But also, 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:07.079 do you guys want me to tell you as everything happens? 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:10.240 And they were like, yes, please tell us, like and 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:13.040 they all have different responses, like Dove's always asking like 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:15.040 can I have a band aid? Because I want to 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:16.600 be like mommy, I want to have a boo bloo, 0:11:16.679 --> 0:11:19.360 you know, like and Cruise is more of like the 0:11:19.440 --> 0:11:23.560 cuddler the lever, and Slate is like the caregiver, you know, 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:25.000 she really goes. 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:25.440 Out of her way. 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:29.640 And I think the only times that it was hard 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:33.920 is like post surgery, Like once I would think that 0:11:33.960 --> 0:11:35.440 I was coming out of it and then I'd get 0:11:35.480 --> 0:11:38.200 another hit and then my emotions didn't know how to 0:11:38.200 --> 0:11:38.719 handle like that. 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:40.559 So was this is this genetic? 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:42.200 Or is this fri I know you said you had 0:11:42.240 --> 0:11:44.040 them since you were a child, but did they get 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:47.560 worse with sun exposure or or was this bound to happen? 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:51.719 Yeah, I mean I think they don't actually know. I mean, 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:54.320 I like winning things. But when my oncologists told me 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:57.079 that I have the most amount of melanomas they'd ever 0:11:57.160 --> 0:11:59.199 seen at our hospital, It wasn't. 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:01.160 Something that I wanted to do, and I was like, Okay, 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:02.320 we're going. 0:12:02.160 --> 0:12:04.640 To congratulate you on that. There'll be no prizes for that. 0:12:05.679 --> 0:12:10.480 Yeah, but no, I mean, I now, after the fact, 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:13.280 I did learn that there's something called Castle Sciences that 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:15.320 I wish I would have done at my first mole 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:17.600 or my first skin cancer. 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:19.199 But what they do is they take. 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:22.440 Your biopsy and after they diagnose you know what stage 0:12:22.440 --> 0:12:24.880 you are, then you can send it to Castle Sciences 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:28.840 and then it can tell you your chances of getting 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:33.040 more and it's spreading because that would have been key 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:35.480 information for me to have because then I could have 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:37.560 I could have gone one way or the other. But 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:39.760 at least then I would have known these are going 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:43.560 to keep coming up. But yes, I had tons of 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:45.240 sun exposure growing up. 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:48.440 I put bayboil on. I did these things. Is that 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:50.480 the cause of it? I have no idea. I also 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:52.120 was in a tanning bed when I was younger, but 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:54.440 something that was I mean. 0:12:54.360 --> 0:13:08.080 The wedding, forget it. So how's your shoulder now? Was 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:10.920 that a painful recovery? I imagine stretching the skin like that. 0:13:11.760 --> 0:13:13.480 I mean, I'll give you guys a little. I'll give 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.920 you a viewing. It's not this isn't for our only 0:13:16.000 --> 0:13:16.760 fans page. 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:17.079 Guys. 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:20.640 I remember seeing it at it's a lot teddy looks. 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:23.160 So that does not look like it was easy. No, 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:26.200 I'm sorry, but I love how you're still backless and 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:29.640 you're still sometimes right without like you wear it with 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:30.880 your ride. 0:13:31.160 --> 0:13:33.079 Yeah, I mean I don't. Definitely, like people are like, 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:34.560 what do you want to would you want to go? 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:37.600 And I'm like no, for me, like all the shitty 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:40.040 things that I've done in my life, at least I can. 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:43.400 Feel like I'm helping people in this regard that. 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:46.000 Like people are saying, yeah, I went to go get 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:49.680 check because it can be a bigger deal. We think 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:51.160 in our head, you know, the two big things with 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:53.640 skin cancer is one it's not a big deal, or 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.719 two you caused this yourself. 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:59.480 Yeah, And so I think there's that guilt that it's. 0:13:59.400 --> 0:14:02.200 Kind of and I remember feeling that same guilt when 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:04.640 I couldn't get pregnant naturally the first time. 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:07.720 That's same, like sh I'm wrong. 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:10.679 People would say, well, maybe you're too stressed or maybe 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:12.719 you're this, and then it became that guilt again, and 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:15.680 I'm like, why am I punishing myself for something that's 0:14:15.720 --> 0:14:17.120 completely out of my control? 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:19.960 At this point, I hate when people say, like I've 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:22.880 been gone through, like we all have very stressful times 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:25.120 and people say, you have to relax, You're gonna give 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.920 yourself cancer. That's how I'm like, So now you think 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:31.120 that helps me to relax. So now I think I'm stressed, 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:32.680 that I'm stressed. 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:35.120 But I don't think that's cancer. It doesn't come from stress. 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.400 They say it they well, listen, people have to say 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:39.120 of it. They say it all the time. Yeah, like 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:43.640 or they'll I've had people say, you know, she whatever 0:14:43.720 --> 0:14:45.600 one of my friends. Some Yeah, I've had a couple 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:47.680 of friends got cancer and they say, well, she was 0:14:47.680 --> 0:14:49.480 in like the hardest time in her life and she 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:52.280 was so stressed. I personally like to believe that one 0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:55.000 does not affect the other, but a lot of people 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:55.720 disagree with me. 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:59.760 Wow, well, I mean, I can't even remember what franchise 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:03.640 on of housewives, but somebody said, like, you like said 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:04.520 it public. 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:05.680 Yeah, because I remember that she. 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:09.200 Got cancer something along those I remember that, I can't 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:12.000 totally remember that it was. And the person ended up 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:14.560 having to like release a statement saying like you know 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:16.640 that I didn't mean it like that, And I think 0:15:16.680 --> 0:15:21.120 that's also we say things in just sometimes you know, 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:22.760 I mean, we even saw it. I know you guys 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:25.880 talk about this often, but like I even saw it. 0:15:26.760 --> 0:15:27.480 Who was it? 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:34.360 Maybe it was Barbara streisand commented on the ozempic thing publicly. 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:37.440 She didn't realize it, But like sometimes we say things 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:40.960 and we don't realize what the magnitude their impact will 0:15:41.080 --> 0:15:43.280 mean from that, you know, I have a. 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:46.600 Question, Teddy, after now that it's gone forever, we're gonna 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:50.240 go with it's gone forever, how has it changed you? 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:53.640 And guys, I'm gonna I think that like it wouldn't. 0:15:53.640 --> 0:15:55.440 It's not just skin cancer, right, I would think, and 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:57.920 I haven't had cancer, but that it just changes you. 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:00.360 Whatever it is, has it well? 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:04.640 I would say one regardless of if it's skin cancer, 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:06.560 whatever kind of cancer it may be, is you need 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:08.640 to get all of your checks. It doesn't mean you 0:16:08.760 --> 0:16:10.520 just need to go to the dermatologists. You also need 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:12.760 to go to the gaynocologist. You need to get your 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:15.440 eyes checked. It can be glaucoma. You need to get 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:18.960 like every your colonoscopy's like all of those things, just 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:21.760 do it, book them, like do it once and just 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.840 like book out two days and make that a priority. 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:28.800 But how it has changed me is I've really shifted 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:31.520 my focus on things that I really love to do. 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:34.240 You know, A big part of my self worth has 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:37.520 always been, you know, like, am I going to be approved? 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:41.440 Like I was always like searching for that you know, 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:45.000 outside approval, whether that started with my parents or whatever 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:48.040 may happen. So I've always been a really hard worker, 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:50.840 but I wasn't really thinking about what do I love doing? 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:53.160 And now I really focus on it. I'm back to 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:56.360 riding horses a lot. I invest my money like the 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:58.960 like I'm tight with my money, but like with that 0:16:59.080 --> 0:17:01.040 kind of stuff, I'm like, this is something my daughter 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:02.800 and I love doing, and I'm going to invest in 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:06.560 that because this is about enjoying my life that I've created. 0:17:06.680 --> 0:17:08.879 I love that. Can we transition to mental health for 0:17:08.920 --> 0:17:09.880 a few minutes. 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:12.199 Yeah, of course, did you? So? 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:15.359 You said that you struggle with anxiety, which I do too, 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:19.480 and I do too. We talked a lot together about 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:21.720 mental health, but we don't talk about it on here yet. 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:27.160 I'm curious if you feel like being on the show 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:28.920 you were three years full time? 0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:32.560 Right? Yes? How was that for your mental health? 0:17:35.920 --> 0:17:39.680 The being on the show was fine, Like, it wasn't 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:42.000 necessarily like being on the show. I had some of 0:17:42.040 --> 0:17:44.920 my you know, I just saw Renna and Kyle and 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:47.280 Erica and it was like no time had passed and 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:49.560 we laughed and we enjoyed it and like we can 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:53.040 talk about the good times because just like anything in life, 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:55.080 you kind of like block out the bad times and 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:57.080 remember the good It's like going back to that ex 0:17:57.119 --> 0:18:00.040 boyfriend after you know you shouldn't like it's still like 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:02.879 you're like you forget the parts that weren't great. I 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:06.920 didn't love being pregnant and filming because I didn't feel 0:18:07.240 --> 0:18:09.400 as engaged. 0:18:09.720 --> 0:18:11.960 I guess, of course, like I've I was. 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:14.120