1 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: All right, guys. 2 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:06,320 Speaker 2: So we were just on to teason a pod, So 3 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:09,719 Speaker 2: if you haven't listened to that yet, go run listen download. 4 00:00:10,080 --> 00:00:12,880 Speaker 3: Yes are so Now we're going to do two Jersey Jays. 5 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:16,279 Speaker 3: I'm Jen Fessler, I'm Jackie Goldschneider, and we all know 6 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 3: who our guest is. Now. Hello, Teddy Mellencamp. 7 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:22,480 Speaker 4: Hi, guys, I'm so happy to be here. 8 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:23,959 Speaker 3: We're so happy to have you. 9 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:27,080 Speaker 4: The Tables of Turn Now I am I. 10 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 5: In the Oh. 11 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're gonna get yours. Yeah, I'm going to rip 12 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:31,280 Speaker 3: you in new I Now ours is not going to 13 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:32,480 Speaker 3: be quite as salacious. 14 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 1: We love you, We love you. 15 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:37,760 Speaker 2: Tamra had to step out for a little bit, but 16 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 2: she's going to be joining us a little bit later 17 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 2: in the episode. 18 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:42,879 Speaker 1: Today we're talking about health, which I know. 19 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 2: That you have so much to say and unfortunately so 20 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 2: much experience with lately. 21 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, but we're also going to talk more specifically about health, 22 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:55,760 Speaker 3: women's health and women of a certain age. And you're 23 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 3: both Jackie and Teddy younger than I am, but focused 24 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 3: on of middle age women and what we go through. Yeah, 25 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:08,720 Speaker 3: And it's constantly like that, It is, it is. I've 26 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 3: always been this reaging hypochondriac. So I've been picturing my 27 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 3: demise since I was in my twenties, and I remember 28 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 3: just getting so freaked out because if I had a headache, 29 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,560 Speaker 3: I had a brain tumor, and then my wish was 30 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 3: I would pray, please God, let me just have kids first, 31 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 3: Let me just get married first. Now it's like, what 32 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 3: about the kids, Like I can't and I don't. We're 33 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:36,040 Speaker 3: not going to get too morbid. But you know, in 34 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 3: terms of health issues, I think that it's so scary 35 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:41,320 Speaker 3: when you get to our age. 36 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I would say the biggest and I've 37 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 5: talked about this before, but I'm hoping that it'll reach 38 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 5: additional people. If you are listening to this right now 39 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 5: and you currently do not have life insurance and you 40 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 5: have not done your last will and Testament and your 41 00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 5: trusts or whatever it is that you need to have 42 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 5: in place, do it now, because it's something I had 43 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 5: not done prior to all of my skin cancer diagnosis 44 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:10,520 Speaker 5: and now I cannot get life insurance. 45 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow, I didn't know that. 46 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:15,560 Speaker 3: Yeah that was testing. 47 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:16,880 Speaker 1: Wow, that's terrible. 48 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 5: Yeah, So before you have you know, like I never 49 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 5: really thought about it, like I was like I don't know. 50 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 5: I mean like me and Edwin know where the kids, 51 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 5: like my sister, you know, like we've talked about that 52 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 5: kind of stuff. But once it started getting more real, 53 00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 5: I was like, oh my gosh, I need to have 54 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 5: like life insurance. And I went through the whole process. 55 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 5: You have to go through multiple different channels to then 56 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 5: get like an email you're rejected. 57 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 3: I can't believe that. 58 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:43,079 Speaker 1: Wow, that's awful. 59 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:46,800 Speaker 3: Wait, Teddy, how old are you I am? I love that. 60 00:02:46,840 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 5: I was about to answer thirty six because like for life, 61 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:50,240 Speaker 5: that's how old I am. 62 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 4: I'm forty two years old. So forty two years old? 63 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 1: And are you your cancer free? Now? 64 00:02:56,880 --> 00:03:00,400 Speaker 5: I'm currently cancer free. 65 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 3: I know. 66 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 4: Such good news. 67 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 5: It's one of those things that I do need to 68 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 5: continue to get checked every three months. I think I was. 69 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 5: I ended up having over fourteen. On December twenty sixth 70 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 5: I had a huge surgery that's essentially my whole back 71 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 5: where they they essentially cut out the entire hole of 72 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:25,760 Speaker 5: like my shoulder and then pulled my excess skin over 73 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 5: my shoulder and now there's like kind of like a 74 00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 5: shark bite surgery. My shirts news did an incredible job, 75 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 5: but all of that could have been avoided had I 76 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 5: not like I'm an anxious OCD diagnosed. I'm not self diagnosing, 77 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 5: but like I am, and mine is not surrounding like 78 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:43,640 Speaker 5: I don't. 79 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 4: I'm not like where you said, Jen, that you. 80 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 5: Like make up in your head, Yeah, those things like 81 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 5: I'm one of those people that avoids going to the 82 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 5: doctor because I want to pretend I'm always okay. 83 00:03:55,520 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 2: Wow, okay. So I want to ask a little bit 84 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 2: of an uncomfortable question. And like the first time that 85 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 2: you went in and they told you that you had cancer, 86 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 2: Like what hearing those words? 87 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 3: What was that like for you? 88 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 5: Well, the first time I went in, truthfully, I didn't 89 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 5: think it was a big deal. I didn't really know 90 00:04:15,680 --> 00:04:18,840 Speaker 5: anybody that had skin cancer. I didn't know anyone that 91 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 5: in my mind that was just something you cut out 92 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:22,160 Speaker 5: and you get right. 93 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 3: I would feel the next right. That's like, I do 94 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,160 Speaker 3: know plenty of people that have had skin cancer, and 95 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:30,160 Speaker 3: it's not you think of it like I get moved 96 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 3: orgery or whatever and never think of Yah. 97 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:36,839 Speaker 5: So I had had these spots on my back for 98 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:39,200 Speaker 5: for a long time, ever since I was a child, essentially, 99 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:41,479 Speaker 5: and they would just change colors from like white to 100 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 5: frecklely to red. 101 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:44,119 Speaker 4: People think skin cancer. 102 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 5: You think it looks like a standard mole for me, 103 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 5: And I never did my first one. I went to 104 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:52,239 Speaker 5: a dermatologist. I hadn't gotten to the oncologist point yet, 105 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:57,200 Speaker 5: and the dermatologist said, this spot looks a little funny. 106 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:01,920 Speaker 5: Do you want me to biopsy or just cut it out? 107 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 5: It's small enough that I could just cut it out 108 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 5: right now. I know you don't want to come back. 109 00:05:06,160 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 5: And I was like, oh, cut it out. She's like, 110 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 5: it might not look great. I'm like, don't care, cut 111 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 5: it out, send the whole thing in. Let's you know whatever. 112 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:18,680 Speaker 5: And then that one, you know, turned into thirteen more so, 113 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 5: it really the first one I didn't think was ever 114 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 5: going to really turn into another one. And then it 115 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:26,840 Speaker 5: was the constant cycle for someone like me who likes 116 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 5: to control everything, the constant cycle of the unknowns, and 117 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 5: then going to that place of what if I don't 118 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 5: make it, what if I do die? And then like 119 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 5: the things in my head that I would really go through, 120 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 5: like it was like I had real conversations with Edwin 121 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 5: where I was like, honey, I want to talk about 122 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:46,600 Speaker 5: who you're going to marry when I die. 123 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:48,880 Speaker 3: And I she would like to pick her, I'd like 124 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 3: to pick them to my children, Like I. 125 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 5: Really want to go through this because I don't trust 126 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:56,839 Speaker 5: your picker, like you went through a lot before you 127 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:59,720 Speaker 5: got to me, and like I'm still not even the best. 128 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:03,520 Speaker 5: Let's really narrowed down, like my non negotiables for what 129 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:05,720 Speaker 5: I want. And I even told my best girlfriends the same. 130 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 5: I'm like, guys, if I don't make it, please do 131 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:12,359 Speaker 5: not let edwin. I don't mind if the girl's prettier 132 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 5: than me, but she needs to be funny, a good mom, 133 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:18,279 Speaker 5: be supportive, show up to my kids' sporting events, like 134 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 5: she needs. 135 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 4: To be with it. 136 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:21,839 Speaker 5: Yeah, and if she can't be with it, I'm not 137 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:24,600 Speaker 5: interested and she has to know. It sounds crazy, but 138 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:26,919 Speaker 5: like one of the jokes we got when I was 139 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 5: on the show is people said what do you love 140 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 5: most about Teddy and he said that she's organized, and 141 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:34,599 Speaker 5: everyone was like, oh, grow, but he is the most 142 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:36,600 Speaker 5: unorganized human in the world. 143 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:39,160 Speaker 4: So like, you need that yin and yang, I think 144 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 4: in a relationship. 145 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 2: So I've heard that that Kyle Richards was actually the 146 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:47,279 Speaker 2: one who spotted the first like street cooking, spot. 147 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:49,040 Speaker 1: That's that's insane. 148 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:52,480 Speaker 5: Tell us, Well, we were on a run and I thought, 149 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 5: you know, I guess. I mean, this was after I'd 150 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 5: already gotten fired, so she'd she'd seen the back of 151 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:00,960 Speaker 5: my You know, we've been working out together since I 152 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 5: got hired on the show, and I would always wear 153 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 5: just like a sports for our tank top or whatever. 154 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:08,479 Speaker 5: But my shoulders were always exposed, so people always saw it. Plus, 155 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:10,680 Speaker 5: you know, like all those dresses that we wear, you 156 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 5: kind of always show it. I was always in the sun, 157 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 5: and you know, it wasn't the world's best about putting 158 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 5: sunscreen on. And something that I learned, just to go 159 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 5: back on it for a second, is people constantly ask me, 160 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 5: you know, what sunscreen should we use? What? 161 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:29,720 Speaker 4: And what my like board This is key board certified 162 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 4: dermatologists told me was the best sunscreen that you can 163 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:34,680 Speaker 4: use is the one you. 164 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 3: Will actually put on? 165 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 5: Yeah, Because if I don't you feel if this, Yeah, 166 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 5: if the sunscreen feels lucky on you, or you don't 167 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 5: like it, or you don't enjoy putting it on, you're 168 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 5: not going to reapply it and you're not going to 169 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 5: you know, so find one that. 170 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 4: You like to use. 171 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 3: This use spray. It's just easier. Sometimes I use spray. 172 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 5: I mean, I'm always using different things because you know, 173 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 5: with that, I have like textural stuff, so I don't 174 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 5: like the way it feels on my hands blah blah blah. 175 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:02,640 Speaker 5: But so either way, I was on a run with Kyle. 176 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 5: I was in a sports raw and she was like, Teddy, 177 00:08:06,840 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 5: that spot on your back. 178 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 4: It doesn't look good. 179 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 5: And I had gone years, probably like ten years before 180 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 5: to a dermatologist to get it checked, and they said 181 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 5: it looked like dermat dermatitis, like sometimes after you have 182 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:22,360 Speaker 5: kids you get dermatitis like whatever it was. And they 183 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 5: gave me like a steroid cream and a shrunk and 184 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 5: I just ignored. 185 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 4: It since then. 186 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 5: But yeah, so at that moment, she goes, I'm gonna 187 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 5: call my dermatologist right now. So she called her, and 188 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:36,320 Speaker 5: on our run we ran. 189 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 4: To the dermatologist's office. And that was the first time I. 190 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 3: Went to wow, did you like have When if anybody 191 00:08:42,080 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 3: ever says these like, I remember if I'm getting like 192 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:48,599 Speaker 3: my hair washed and like I've had my haird a 193 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 3: kind of look kind of move my hair and look 194 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 3: at and I'm like, what the fuck, Like, did you 195 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 3: have that sinking feeling when she when Kyle sort of 196 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 3: picked up on it. 197 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:00,560 Speaker 5: No, I mean, but it was those things that like 198 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 5: my husband had told me probably a thousand times to 199 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:07,439 Speaker 5: go get checked. But it's like something about just in 200 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 5: that moment, I was like, you know, I'm such a 201 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 5: know at all, but like I was like, Okay, you're right, 202 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,040 Speaker 5: I should go. And then when that first spot came, 203 00:09:14,160 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 5: and then the beauty of I think sharing vulnerability is 204 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 5: normally in my life, I'm one of those people that 205 00:09:21,040 --> 00:09:23,680 Speaker 5: don't tell people what I need. I'll more just like 206 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 5: pull back and maybe go into like a state of 207 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:29,600 Speaker 5: like depression or anxiety or whatever it may be, because 208 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 5: I don't ever want to get the feeling of being 209 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 5: rejected or somebody telling me they can't do something, so 210 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:38,680 Speaker 5: I just don't ask for help. But with this entire journey, 211 00:09:38,720 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 5: I really opened up to my family and my friends 212 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:44,480 Speaker 5: and essentially people on Instagram too, but and just shared 213 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 5: what I was going through and it gave me so 214 00:09:47,080 --> 00:09:49,920 Speaker 5: much peace because I didn't feel like I was carrying 215 00:09:49,920 --> 00:09:50,559 Speaker 5: it alone. 216 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 3: I love that. I love that What about your kids 217 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:55,679 Speaker 3: were you able to did they know any better to 218 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:56,040 Speaker 3: have this? 219 00:09:57,280 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 5: You know, I've always been, not that this is a compare, 220 00:10:00,320 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 5: but people are like, how could you be scared of 221 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:03,800 Speaker 5: a doctor, but you went and got a neck lift. 222 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 5: I'm like, because that was I chose to two hundred percent, 223 00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:10,079 Speaker 5: I'll im in trolassic surgery seven. 224 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 3: Days a week. I told, well, yeah, well yeah, like yes, 225 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:13,920 Speaker 3: so I will. 226 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 5: I had always you know, and I wasn't one of 227 00:10:16,040 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 5: those moms that like didn't tell my kids that I 228 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:20,200 Speaker 5: got a necklift, Like I was like, I have, this 229 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:22,440 Speaker 5: has been something that's bothered me in my entire. 230 00:10:22,240 --> 00:10:23,280 Speaker 4: Life, blah blah blah. 231 00:10:23,280 --> 00:10:27,400 Speaker 5: So like they had known about surgeries prior because of that, 232 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 5: and Slay was always kind of like my nurse, Like 233 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:31,920 Speaker 5: she would come in and be like, oh, is there 234 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:32,400 Speaker 5: a stitch? 235 00:10:32,679 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 3: Can I get that? 236 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 4: You know, like she'd clean everything. 237 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:38,320 Speaker 5: So I just kind of kept the open conversation here 238 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 5: and made it more of like, guys, first and foremost, 239 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 5: I want to tell you that if in these next 240 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:48,360 Speaker 5: couple of months, why we're figuring this all out, if 241 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:50,679 Speaker 5: I'm not in the best mood, it's not about you. 242 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:55,120 Speaker 5: It's not because I'm mad at you, it's not because 243 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 5: you're doing something wrong. It's because I am struggling. It 244 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 5: doesn't mean that I'm not going to get better, but 245 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 5: I don't want you to take that on. But also, 246 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:07,079 Speaker 5: do you guys want me to tell you as everything happens? 247 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:10,240 Speaker 5: And they were like, yes, please tell us, like and 248 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 5: they all have different responses, like Dove's always asking like 249 00:11:13,360 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 5: can I have a band aid? Because I want to 250 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 5: be like mommy, I want to have a boo bloo, 251 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 5: you know, like and Cruise is more of like the 252 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:23,560 Speaker 5: cuddler the lever, and Slate is like the caregiver, you know, 253 00:11:23,679 --> 00:11:25,000 Speaker 5: she really goes. 254 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:25,440 Speaker 4: Out of her way. 255 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:29,640 Speaker 5: And I think the only times that it was hard 256 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 5: is like post surgery, Like once I would think that 257 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:35,440 Speaker 5: I was coming out of it and then I'd get 258 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 5: another hit and then my emotions didn't know how to 259 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:38,719 Speaker 5: handle like that. 260 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:40,559 Speaker 1: So was this is this genetic? 261 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:42,200 Speaker 2: Or is this fri I know you said you had 262 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 2: them since you were a child, but did they get 263 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:47,560 Speaker 2: worse with sun exposure or or was this bound to happen? 264 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:51,719 Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I think they don't actually know. I mean, 265 00:11:51,760 --> 00:11:54,320 Speaker 5: I like winning things. But when my oncologists told me 266 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:57,079 Speaker 5: that I have the most amount of melanomas they'd ever 267 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,199 Speaker 5: seen at our hospital, It wasn't. 268 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 4: Something that I wanted to do, and I was like, Okay, 269 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:02,320 Speaker 4: we're going. 270 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 3: To congratulate you on that. There'll be no prizes for that. 271 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 5: Yeah, but no, I mean, I now, after the fact, 272 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 5: I did learn that there's something called Castle Sciences that 273 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 5: I wish I would have done at my first mole 274 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 5: or my first skin cancer. 275 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:19,199 Speaker 4: But what they do is they take. 276 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:22,440 Speaker 5: Your biopsy and after they diagnose you know what stage 277 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 5: you are, then you can send it to Castle Sciences 278 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:28,840 Speaker 5: and then it can tell you your chances of getting 279 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:33,040 Speaker 5: more and it's spreading because that would have been key 280 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:35,480 Speaker 5: information for me to have because then I could have 281 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:37,560 Speaker 5: I could have gone one way or the other. But 282 00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 5: at least then I would have known these are going 283 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 5: to keep coming up. But yes, I had tons of 284 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 5: sun exposure growing up. 285 00:12:45,520 --> 00:12:48,440 Speaker 4: I put bayboil on. I did these things. Is that 286 00:12:48,520 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 4: the cause of it? I have no idea. I also 287 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:52,120 Speaker 4: was in a tanning bed when I was younger, but 288 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:54,440 Speaker 4: something that was I mean. 289 00:12:54,360 --> 00:13:08,080 Speaker 2: The wedding, forget it. So how's your shoulder now? Was 290 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:10,920 Speaker 2: that a painful recovery? I imagine stretching the skin like that. 291 00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 4: I mean, I'll give you guys a little. I'll give 292 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:15,920 Speaker 4: you a viewing. It's not this isn't for our only 293 00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 4: fans page. 294 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:17,079 Speaker 1: Guys. 295 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:20,640 Speaker 3: I remember seeing it at it's a lot teddy looks. 296 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 3: So that does not look like it was easy. No, 297 00:13:23,400 --> 00:13:26,200 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, but I love how you're still backless and 298 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 3: you're still sometimes right without like you wear it with 299 00:13:29,679 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 3: your ride. 300 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:33,079 Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I don't. Definitely, like people are like, 301 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:34,560 Speaker 5: what do you want to would you want to go? 302 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:37,600 Speaker 5: And I'm like no, for me, like all the shitty 303 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 5: things that I've done in my life, at least I can. 304 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 4: Feel like I'm helping people in this regard that. 305 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 5: Like people are saying, yeah, I went to go get 306 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 5: check because it can be a bigger deal. We think 307 00:13:49,720 --> 00:13:51,160 Speaker 5: in our head, you know, the two big things with 308 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 5: skin cancer is one it's not a big deal, or 309 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:55,719 Speaker 5: two you caused this yourself. 310 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, And so I think there's that guilt that it's. 311 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:02,200 Speaker 5: Kind of and I remember feeling that same guilt when 312 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:04,640 Speaker 5: I couldn't get pregnant naturally the first time. 313 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 3: That's same, like sh I'm wrong. 314 00:14:08,200 --> 00:14:10,679 Speaker 4: People would say, well, maybe you're too stressed or maybe 315 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:12,719 Speaker 4: you're this, and then it became that guilt again, and 316 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:15,680 Speaker 4: I'm like, why am I punishing myself for something that's 317 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:17,120 Speaker 4: completely out of my control? 318 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:19,960 Speaker 3: At this point, I hate when people say, like I've 319 00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:22,880 Speaker 3: been gone through, like we all have very stressful times 320 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 3: and people say, you have to relax, You're gonna give 321 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:27,920 Speaker 3: yourself cancer. That's how I'm like, So now you think 322 00:14:27,920 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 3: that helps me to relax. So now I think I'm stressed, 323 00:14:31,480 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 3: that I'm stressed. 324 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 1: But I don't think that's cancer. It doesn't come from stress. 325 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:37,400 Speaker 3: They say it they well, listen, people have to say 326 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:39,120 Speaker 3: of it. They say it all the time. Yeah, like 327 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 3: or they'll I've had people say, you know, she whatever 328 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:45,600 Speaker 3: one of my friends. Some Yeah, I've had a couple 329 00:14:45,640 --> 00:14:47,680 Speaker 3: of friends got cancer and they say, well, she was 330 00:14:47,680 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 3: in like the hardest time in her life and she 331 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:52,280 Speaker 3: was so stressed. I personally like to believe that one 332 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:55,000 Speaker 3: does not affect the other, but a lot of people 333 00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 3: disagree with me. 334 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 5: Wow, well, I mean, I can't even remember what franchise 335 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:03,640 Speaker 5: on of housewives, but somebody said, like, you like said 336 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:04,520 Speaker 5: it public. 337 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:05,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, because I remember that she. 338 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 5: Got cancer something along those I remember that, I can't 339 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:12,000 Speaker 5: totally remember that it was. And the person ended up 340 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 5: having to like release a statement saying like you know 341 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 5: that I didn't mean it like that, And I think 342 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 5: that's also we say things in just sometimes you know, 343 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 5: I mean, we even saw it. I know you guys 344 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 5: talk about this often, but like I even saw it. 345 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:27,480 Speaker 4: Who was it? 346 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 5: Maybe it was Barbara streisand commented on the ozempic thing publicly. 347 00:15:34,560 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 5: She didn't realize it, But like sometimes we say things 348 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 5: and we don't realize what the magnitude their impact will 349 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:43,280 Speaker 5: mean from that, you know, I have a. 350 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:46,600 Speaker 3: Question, Teddy, after now that it's gone forever, we're gonna 351 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 3: go with it's gone forever, how has it changed you? 352 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 3: And guys, I'm gonna I think that like it wouldn't. 353 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:55,440 Speaker 3: It's not just skin cancer, right, I would think, and 354 00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 3: I haven't had cancer, but that it just changes you. 355 00:15:58,000 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 3: Whatever it is, has it well? 356 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 5: I would say one regardless of if it's skin cancer, 357 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 5: whatever kind of cancer it may be, is you need 358 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 5: to get all of your checks. It doesn't mean you 359 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 5: just need to go to the dermatologists. You also need 360 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:12,760 Speaker 5: to go to the gaynocologist. You need to get your 361 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 5: eyes checked. It can be glaucoma. You need to get 362 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:18,960 Speaker 5: like every your colonoscopy's like all of those things, just 363 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:21,760 Speaker 5: do it, book them, like do it once and just 364 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 5: like book out two days and make that a priority. 365 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:28,800 Speaker 5: But how it has changed me is I've really shifted 366 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:31,520 Speaker 5: my focus on things that I really love to do. 367 00:16:32,040 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 5: You know, A big part of my self worth has 368 00:16:34,400 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 5: always been, you know, like, am I going to be approved? 369 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:41,440 Speaker 5: Like I was always like searching for that you know, 370 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 5: outside approval, whether that started with my parents or whatever 371 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:48,040 Speaker 5: may happen. So I've always been a really hard worker, 372 00:16:48,360 --> 00:16:50,840 Speaker 5: but I wasn't really thinking about what do I love doing? 373 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:53,160 Speaker 5: And now I really focus on it. I'm back to 374 00:16:53,240 --> 00:16:56,360 Speaker 5: riding horses a lot. I invest my money like the 375 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:58,960 Speaker 5: like I'm tight with my money, but like with that 376 00:16:59,080 --> 00:17:01,040 Speaker 5: kind of stuff, I'm like, this is something my daughter 377 00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:02,800 Speaker 5: and I love doing, and I'm going to invest in 378 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:06,560 Speaker 5: that because this is about enjoying my life that I've created. 379 00:17:06,680 --> 00:17:08,879 Speaker 1: I love that. Can we transition to mental health for 380 00:17:08,920 --> 00:17:09,880 Speaker 1: a few minutes. 381 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:12,199 Speaker 3: Yeah, of course, did you? So? 382 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 2: You said that you struggle with anxiety, which I do too, 383 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:19,480 Speaker 2: and I do too. We talked a lot together about 384 00:17:19,520 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 2: mental health, but we don't talk about it on here yet. 385 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:27,160 Speaker 2: I'm curious if you feel like being on the show 386 00:17:27,560 --> 00:17:28,920 Speaker 2: you were three years full time? 387 00:17:29,119 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 1: Right? Yes? How was that for your mental health? 388 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:39,680 Speaker 5: The being on the show was fine, Like, it wasn't 389 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 5: necessarily like being on the show. I had some of 390 00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:44,920 Speaker 5: my you know, I just saw Renna and Kyle and 391 00:17:45,119 --> 00:17:47,280 Speaker 5: Erica and it was like no time had passed and 392 00:17:47,320 --> 00:17:49,560 Speaker 5: we laughed and we enjoyed it and like we can 393 00:17:49,600 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 5: talk about the good times because just like anything in life, 394 00:17:53,080 --> 00:17:55,080 Speaker 5: you kind of like block out the bad times and 395 00:17:55,119 --> 00:17:57,080 Speaker 5: remember the good It's like going back to that ex 396 00:17:57,119 --> 00:18:00,040 Speaker 5: boyfriend after you know you shouldn't like it's still like 397 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:02,879 Speaker 5: you're like you forget the parts that weren't great. I 398 00:18:02,880 --> 00:18:06,920 Speaker 5: didn't love being pregnant and filming because I didn't feel 399 00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:09,400 Speaker 5: as engaged. 400 00:18:09,720 --> 00:18:11,960 Speaker 3: I guess, of course, like I've I was. 401 00:18:11,920 --> 00:18:14,120 Speaker 4: Somebody that drank on the show. 402 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 5: I mean, I'm a person that I don't I don't 403 00:18:17,680 --> 00:18:19,159 Speaker 5: need to drink to live, but if I'm going to 404 00:18:19,200 --> 00:18:20,720 Speaker 5: go out to a birthday party, I'm going to have 405 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:21,359 Speaker 5: a couple of drinks. 406 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:23,679 Speaker 4: Yeah, Like it loosens me up. 407 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:26,560 Speaker 5: So not being able to do that my last year 408 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:30,760 Speaker 5: and then having it be a really heavy season that 409 00:18:30,960 --> 00:18:31,720 Speaker 5: was difficult. 410 00:18:31,800 --> 00:18:33,840 Speaker 4: But I wouldn't say that was being on the show. 411 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 2: Well, the only reason I ask is because it's actually 412 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:38,480 Speaker 2: been fine for both of us as far as I know. 413 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:42,560 Speaker 2: But I have seen people whose mental health was shaky 414 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:43,920 Speaker 2: completely spiral. 415 00:18:44,200 --> 00:18:47,840 Speaker 3: Well, I mean also I think, yes, I think, well, 416 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:50,400 Speaker 3: I think the show has affected my mental health. If 417 00:18:50,440 --> 00:18:54,119 Speaker 3: mental health means anxiety, I mean anxiety levels have definitely 418 00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:57,879 Speaker 3: they've gotten higher. Doesn't mean I'm not you know, I'm 419 00:18:57,920 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 3: okay to function and I'm still having fun. But anyway, 420 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:03,600 Speaker 3: I think also I'm interested in mental health when you 421 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:07,320 Speaker 3: were younger because I have had mental health issues since 422 00:19:07,800 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 3: my twenties and they've certainly changed forms and I handle 423 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:17,120 Speaker 3: it way better now than I did when I was younger. Oh, 424 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:19,040 Speaker 3: here's camera, Hi, Tam. 425 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 1: Hi Camra. 426 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:23,639 Speaker 2: We were talking about health, and we talked all about 427 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:26,520 Speaker 2: Teddy's skin cancer journey and we were just delving a 428 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:28,119 Speaker 2: little bit into mental health. 429 00:19:28,160 --> 00:19:30,960 Speaker 3: But like, also how different it is because we're trying 430 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:33,720 Speaker 3: to We're try you know, you guys obviously you are 431 00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 3: producers of our show, so you know, we don't really 432 00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 3: do talk a lot about housewives, but we do talk 433 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:41,480 Speaker 3: a lot about women of a certain age. And you guys, 434 00:19:41,560 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 3: your spread is Tam, how old. I mean I think 435 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:45,080 Speaker 3: you're younger than me. 436 00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:47,400 Speaker 6: Maybe, Yeah, I think I'm older. 437 00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:50,560 Speaker 3: I'm fifty six, I'm fifty five, same idea. Yeah, but 438 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:56,080 Speaker 3: what happens between, like, for instance, Jackie's age forty seven 439 00:19:56,359 --> 00:19:59,640 Speaker 3: and fifty five and Teddy you're even younger. But as 440 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:02,879 Speaker 3: your me mental health, because mine has definitely changed. I 441 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:06,679 Speaker 3: handle my mental health issues way better now. But you know, 442 00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:09,320 Speaker 3: as we're going through these different stages of our life, 443 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:12,359 Speaker 3: what is affecting you in terms of mental health? 444 00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:15,440 Speaker 4: Well, I think people talk about mental health now. 445 00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:19,199 Speaker 5: I when we were younger, it was something to be 446 00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:23,880 Speaker 5: ashamed of, or that like that one crazy person over 447 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 5: there had that, so you couldn't ever have that, you know, 448 00:20:26,359 --> 00:20:30,080 Speaker 5: or it was these where now it's so spoken about. 449 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:34,359 Speaker 5: I think, even especially post COVID because all of our kids' 450 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:36,640 Speaker 5: mental health was starting to be affected from not being 451 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:37,440 Speaker 5: able to go to. 452 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 4: School and all this, Like we are all more comfortable. 453 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:44,120 Speaker 5: Speaking about it now, So I think that really sheds 454 00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 5: so much more light on the discussion around mental health. 455 00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:50,280 Speaker 4: But yeah, I mean, you you go on to CHAM but. 456 00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:53,320 Speaker 6: I think for me, it's just getting older in experience 457 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:56,160 Speaker 6: and things I've gone through before. I had a really 458 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,959 Speaker 6: hard time just dealing with things, just dealing with anything. 459 00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:02,520 Speaker 6: And now I've just learned that, you know, everything passes, 460 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:06,959 Speaker 6: Everything passes, So whatever I'm so stressed out over and 461 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 6: I'm I'm just in my head. I'm like, okay, give 462 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:13,760 Speaker 6: it up to God, Like God take over. I'm going 463 00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,720 Speaker 6: to be okay. I am always okay. It's going to 464 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:20,280 Speaker 6: be okay. And it's just a process of just talking 465 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:21,600 Speaker 6: yourself yourself through. 466 00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:23,879 Speaker 2: My therapist always says to me, she's like Jackie, slowed 467 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:26,720 Speaker 2: down and let life unfold. And I always remind myself 468 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:28,960 Speaker 2: of that because I don't. I'm always anxious about what's 469 00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:32,560 Speaker 2: coming next, if nothing's coming next, or how to make 470 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:35,280 Speaker 2: things happen, and like, I always have to remind myself 471 00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 2: to slow down a little. 472 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:39,479 Speaker 3: I mean I discovered prozac later in life, so that 473 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:41,679 Speaker 3: has certainly helped. Yeah, I was. 474 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:44,720 Speaker 5: Gonna say, Zoloft has really taken things to the better 475 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:45,399 Speaker 5: place for me. 476 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:47,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I remember I went that route. 477 00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:49,439 Speaker 6: Yeah, I went that route when I was younger. 478 00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:52,400 Speaker 3: I was younger, i'd gotten off of it, and yeah, 479 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:52,880 Speaker 3: I've been. 480 00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:54,960 Speaker 6: On it in years, but I've had children that I've 481 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:58,040 Speaker 6: had to put on many too for me too, anxiety 482 00:21:58,119 --> 00:21:59,600 Speaker 6: and stuff inciting. 483 00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:02,399 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I'm a big fan. Not everyone agrees 484 00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:06,080 Speaker 3: with that, but I'm a big fan of SSRIs, not 485 00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:07,920 Speaker 3: necessarily like the ones what are they called, like the 486 00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:10,679 Speaker 3: Xanax and the although at times when it's I've had 487 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,520 Speaker 3: bad anxiety, I use those two. But like SSRIs, I 488 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:17,600 Speaker 3: I always say to people that are hesitant, you're still you. 489 00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:20,800 Speaker 3: You know, it doesn't change your personality. It doesn't change 490 00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:22,720 Speaker 3: at least for me, it doesn't change my E. 491 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:25,840 Speaker 6: Well, I think it's different for everybody. 492 00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:26,080 Speaker 5: I think. 493 00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:29,560 Speaker 6: I don't think everybody can. Like I had one child 494 00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:32,400 Speaker 6: that gained twenty pounds and was staring at the wall. 495 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:34,400 Speaker 3: So fair, It's like. 496 00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:37,400 Speaker 6: Yeah, that one, maybe another one might have worked who 497 00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 6: We ended up leaning her off of it and just 498 00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:42,760 Speaker 6: got her into working out, and she's gotten older. 499 00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:46,000 Speaker 3: It's very better, right right, Well, talk to us a 500 00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:49,080 Speaker 3: little bit tammer about health issues. I mean that's the 501 00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 3: topic today. It's kind of heavy. 502 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:54,760 Speaker 2: But you had your own melanomas, correct, Yeah, I had melanoma. 503 00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:57,600 Speaker 6: I've had multiple skin cancers. I've had everyone you can 504 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,960 Speaker 6: think of. And then I was getting a miss during 505 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:05,359 Speaker 6: a filming and in Iceland, and this MASSU said you 506 00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:08,400 Speaker 6: should check that little dot on your butt. I'm like, okay. 507 00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,280 Speaker 6: And I was going to my normal dermatology appointments and 508 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:16,680 Speaker 6: she's as I was walking out the door is all done. 509 00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:18,359 Speaker 6: I go, oh, you know what, can you look at this? 510 00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:22,440 Speaker 6: And she goes, oh my god, why didn't you show 511 00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:24,399 Speaker 6: me this before? And I go, I totally forgot. It 512 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:27,240 Speaker 6: had been months. She goes me, buy upstate, Buy upstate. 513 00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:28,880 Speaker 6: It was stage one melanoma. 514 00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:33,680 Speaker 3: Wow, it sucks. And we're talking to Teddy just about 515 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:36,959 Speaker 3: how that has affected you. I mean, I'm obviously I'm 516 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:39,080 Speaker 3: sure your heart sank when you heard that. 517 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,280 Speaker 6: Oh yeah, it's a scary, scary, scary feeling because I 518 00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:44,440 Speaker 6: was so used to having things burn off of me, 519 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,760 Speaker 6: cut off of me because I'm just I'm irish, I'm 520 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:51,679 Speaker 6: white and freckly, and all the damage I did to 521 00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,960 Speaker 6: my skin in my twenties and thirties. You know, the 522 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:57,320 Speaker 6: tanning beds. I used to work for a tanning salong 523 00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,480 Speaker 6: salon out of high school, so I would bake in 524 00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:02,480 Speaker 6: those tanning beds, right, And now the dermatologist is like, 525 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:04,600 Speaker 6: this is what I'm seeing. You know, women in their 526 00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:07,199 Speaker 6: forties and fifties that did this in the eighties and 527 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:10,479 Speaker 6: nineties now have multiple skin cancers. 528 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. And ps, my twenty one year old kids soon 529 00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,680 Speaker 3: to be twenty two is still doing it and we 530 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 3: fight about it. It doesn't matter. I mean, she's she 531 00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 3: doesn't give a shit, you know, she's. 532 00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:20,800 Speaker 6: It needs to be out lawed. 533 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,320 Speaker 3: I know I can't. I mean, either Tanny beds or 534 00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:25,959 Speaker 3: just she just bakes in the sun. And she always 535 00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:28,000 Speaker 3: I say to her the first day, at least put 536 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,280 Speaker 3: on sunscreen. No, she has a Listen, she burns and 537 00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:33,800 Speaker 3: she peels. I'm like, Rachel, you're gonna regret this, dude. 538 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:37,560 Speaker 3: She's not good, not God forbid skin cancer. But even 539 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:39,760 Speaker 3: just you know, esthetically. 540 00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:42,919 Speaker 6: Just premature aging and rankling and all that that comes 541 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:46,520 Speaker 6: from from the sun. Like my daughter will not even 542 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,320 Speaker 6: go in the sun while she actually has like a 543 00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:50,920 Speaker 6: little allergic reaction to the sun, so if she goes 544 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:52,520 Speaker 6: in she breaks out in a rash. 545 00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:55,119 Speaker 5: But also it's the products our kids are using, like 546 00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,000 Speaker 5: the fact that we have like ten year olds that 547 00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:01,359 Speaker 5: want like drunk elephant with anti aging blah blah blah, 548 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:04,200 Speaker 5: like they go you can't even go to a Sephora 549 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:08,920 Speaker 5: on Saturday with like every like pro's purchase for them. 550 00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 1: My daughter's obsessed to thirteen. Oh it's bad for them. 551 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:14,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, because think about it. 552 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,199 Speaker 5: If you're using products on your on your skin that 553 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:21,640 Speaker 5: you don't need yet, you're creating your body to get 554 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:23,760 Speaker 5: used to something. I'm not a doctor, but like I've 555 00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,719 Speaker 5: gone down the talk rabbit hole, right, like you're creating 556 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:27,480 Speaker 5: TikTok you. 557 00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:29,680 Speaker 4: Know you're Yeah, I'm a TikTok doctor. 558 00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,919 Speaker 5: So like I I have to tell Slate, like, no, 559 00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:35,359 Speaker 5: I'm going to look through the back and see, like, 560 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:38,120 Speaker 5: what are the things inside of here that like are 561 00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:40,960 Speaker 5: absolutely unnecessary for an eleven year old? 562 00:25:41,040 --> 00:25:43,720 Speaker 3: Right? Can you imagine drunk elephant at eleven? 563 00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:46,760 Speaker 1: I mean, my daughter's got more products than I have thirteen. 564 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,119 Speaker 1: They're all over the place. 565 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,359 Speaker 3: The kids are like in my way at support. It's annoying. 566 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:51,919 Speaker 6: Way, what is drunk elephants? 567 00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:56,959 Speaker 3: It's like camera. I mean I love it. 568 00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,600 Speaker 4: I have it on today. At least you see this glow. 569 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,000 Speaker 6: Face, right, Yeah, Okay, I'm gonna google it. 570 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:04,880 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, it's I need it too. 571 00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:05,960 Speaker 6: Can I get on Amazon? 572 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:10,760 Speaker 5: Well? The packaging is really enticing to children, especially, and 573 00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,359 Speaker 5: they all do their like get ready with me, and 574 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:14,800 Speaker 5: they're you know, that's. 575 00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:16,760 Speaker 4: Also the thing for mental health. 576 00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:20,640 Speaker 5: Social media, Like I had to download this app called 577 00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:24,520 Speaker 5: q Q Studio where I can track how long my 578 00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,360 Speaker 5: kids are on each thing. So like I'm like, what 579 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:30,119 Speaker 5: are you doing at not like your phone supposed to 580 00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:32,480 Speaker 5: be outside of your room. Why can I see that 581 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:34,919 Speaker 5: you were on Amazon or you were playing Roadblocks or 582 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,640 Speaker 5: Fortnite or whatever at ten thirty after. 583 00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 4: We said good night? 584 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:41,240 Speaker 5: You know, like we have to be aware because our 585 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:42,840 Speaker 5: parents weren't. I mean, we're not gonna be able to 586 00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:44,960 Speaker 5: micromanage everything. I mean, heck like. 587 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 3: We' I mean, yes, a for effort, but no, you can't. 588 00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:58,600 Speaker 3: Have you had other health issues? 589 00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:03,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, te had you struggled with intestinal obstruction. 590 00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:05,719 Speaker 6: Right, Yeah, I still struggle with intestinal issues. I've had 591 00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:09,639 Speaker 6: intestinal issues my entire life. They I had go on 592 00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,320 Speaker 6: medication for a while. I mean when I was with Simon, 593 00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,359 Speaker 6: I don't think my stress helped it, but I had 594 00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:18,879 Speaker 6: severe irritable bow syndrome, so I could barely pick the 595 00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:22,000 Speaker 6: kids up from school. I knew where every bathroom was 596 00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:23,880 Speaker 6: from here to the mall, which the mall is only 597 00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:24,919 Speaker 6: two miles from my house. 598 00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:26,639 Speaker 1: So that means you always have to go to the 599 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,679 Speaker 1: bathroom where you never go away. I can. 600 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:32,480 Speaker 6: I would drink even to this day, like, I mean, 601 00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:36,800 Speaker 6: this is disgusting, but I I pooped like probably seven times. 602 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:37,760 Speaker 1: I'm so jealous. 603 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:41,320 Speaker 3: I'm actually no, you're not jealous. I'm jealous. 604 00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:46,800 Speaker 2: I'm not jealous of an illness of you know, yeah, direction. 605 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:47,640 Speaker 1: I'm on lindsay. 606 00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:54,639 Speaker 6: I had abdominal surgery ten or eleven years ago. I 607 00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:58,359 Speaker 6: had a strangulated hernia. So I had a hernia. I 608 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,320 Speaker 6: hate al hernia. There was beach my ribcage. I didn't 609 00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,480 Speaker 6: know it, and my intestines had grown through the my 610 00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:05,960 Speaker 6: stomach wall and were dying. 611 00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 612 00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:08,919 Speaker 6: I would get this really really bad pain. And it 613 00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:10,760 Speaker 6: was going on for quite a few months, and then 614 00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:13,840 Speaker 6: my stomach bloat really big. And then one day and 615 00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:15,280 Speaker 6: I was going to see a doctor and they couldn't 616 00:28:15,280 --> 00:28:17,240 Speaker 6: figure it out. I was having MRIs done at the 617 00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:19,959 Speaker 6: hospital everything, and then one day I was sitting at 618 00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:21,879 Speaker 6: home and it started and I said, okay, here it 619 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 6: goes here it goes like, get the toms out. I'm 620 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:26,640 Speaker 6: doing everything, and this time it was beyond I called 621 00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:28,520 Speaker 6: Terry de brow. I go, Terry, it's happening. He goes, 622 00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:31,040 Speaker 6: get to the hospital now, so I called. I had 623 00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:34,239 Speaker 6: to call nine one one. The hospital is literally two 624 00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:37,520 Speaker 6: miles from my house Mission hospital, and by the I 625 00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:39,320 Speaker 6: had to have like three shots of morphine by the 626 00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:39,960 Speaker 6: time I got there. 627 00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:42,040 Speaker 3: Wow, and wow they had. 628 00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:45,840 Speaker 6: They did emergency surgery. They cut open my stomach vertically 629 00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:50,800 Speaker 6: and they had to like dissect my intestines off my stomach. 630 00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:51,960 Speaker 3: Wall wow wow. 631 00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:54,680 Speaker 6: But while they were doing that, they found that part 632 00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:56,720 Speaker 6: of my intestines were torn, and they think that that's 633 00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:58,920 Speaker 6: what was causing me all the stomach problems. So it 634 00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:02,920 Speaker 6: was kind of a blessing. And then then I was 635 00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:05,360 Speaker 6: I mean, it was horrible recovery. Horrible recovery. 636 00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,200 Speaker 2: Now I think we have to rap soon. But how 637 00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:11,600 Speaker 2: are you doing today? Like health wise me? 638 00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:13,720 Speaker 6: I mine, I have to keep on top of it. 639 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,000 Speaker 6: My intestines. I always have to get scoping done. My 640 00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:19,560 Speaker 6: grandmother died of intestinal problems, so I mean it's really scary. 641 00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:23,840 Speaker 3: Like ladies and gentlemen, welcome to aging. Yeah, not easy 642 00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:24,720 Speaker 3: and not easy. 643 00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:27,680 Speaker 6: I just yeah, So I was when I was doing Traders, 644 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:29,320 Speaker 6: I got severely sick and they put me on a 645 00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:32,080 Speaker 6: very strong antibiotic to get me through it. Will it 646 00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:36,880 Speaker 6: cause intestinal inflammation in my intestines. So by the time 647 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,160 Speaker 6: I got home from Traders, I was in the hospital 648 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:42,680 Speaker 6: for three days down my Yeah, I'm so. I always 649 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:44,640 Speaker 6: joke with my mom, I've had more health issues in 650 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:45,760 Speaker 6: my mom house. 651 00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,400 Speaker 3: No one would know that we're watching you on I mean, 652 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,280 Speaker 3: I know, I think you shared some stuff on Housewives, 653 00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,200 Speaker 3: But how do you guys feel in terms of like, 654 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:56,400 Speaker 3: I at least and again, I'm a horrible hypochondriac, so 655 00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:59,520 Speaker 3: at any on any given day, death is knocking. But 656 00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:02,560 Speaker 3: some times the only two part you too, totally too 657 00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:05,960 Speaker 3: really well, the only good part of that is that 658 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:08,120 Speaker 3: when I go, because I do, I'm at the doctor 659 00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:10,560 Speaker 3: every other day, and when I find out that I 660 00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:14,840 Speaker 3: am okay, I feel like I have different perspective, like, 661 00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:20,000 Speaker 3: oh wait a second. You know, whatever happened yesterday on 662 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:24,120 Speaker 3: social media is not quite as important, right, And I 663 00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 3: don't know, I mean, it doesn't always last. But this 664 00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,240 Speaker 3: kind of stuff, I don't think. There's certainly nothing good 665 00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:32,960 Speaker 3: about cancer, you know, or having intestinal problems or any 666 00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,120 Speaker 3: kind of illness, but sometimes it does give you perspective. 667 00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,760 Speaker 3: I mean, here about that a little. I mean, Tom, 668 00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:39,240 Speaker 3: I don't know if you felt like if you kind 669 00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:39,880 Speaker 3: of feel like that. 670 00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,760 Speaker 6: I'm so petrified of cancer. I had a premio vos 671 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:46,080 Speaker 6: kan recently. Well it's been a year. I'm going back 672 00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:48,960 Speaker 6: for a recheck, and they found like four spots on me. 673 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 6: Two of them were one is a pre cancer a 674 00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 6: spot on my pancreas. Oh, come on, that's something you 675 00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:57,560 Speaker 6: just don't want tok around with. And it's it's very 676 00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:00,840 Speaker 6: very small. So I'm going back to get rechecked. And 677 00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:04,719 Speaker 6: stupid me, I haven't even in a year, haven't been 678 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:05,840 Speaker 6: to the doctor to. 679 00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:08,280 Speaker 3: Even Yeah, Tim, that's that is stupid. I can't take 680 00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:12,240 Speaker 3: that away from you. That is just stupid. Total yep yep, 681 00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:13,320 Speaker 3: teddy make But. 682 00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:15,640 Speaker 6: They told they told me it was very very small. 683 00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,640 Speaker 6: It was like point four million meters. 684 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,800 Speaker 4: But that's why I said, have you gone for your 685 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:20,479 Speaker 4: follow up? 686 00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:23,720 Speaker 6: I'm going, yeah, next week, I'm going for a follow up. 687 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:26,920 Speaker 4: But yeah, I mean I think there's that. 688 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:29,400 Speaker 5: And I think also as women, we have so many 689 00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:33,080 Speaker 5: hormonal issues that come and go, and like for me example, 690 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:35,080 Speaker 5: I remember being like put on birth control when I 691 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:37,400 Speaker 5: was like fifteen years you know, like it was like 692 00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:39,240 Speaker 5: something you did. You like went to your first appointment, 693 00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,360 Speaker 5: you got put on birth control, and then like I 694 00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:45,600 Speaker 5: stayed on that forever and it wasn't probably the right 695 00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,360 Speaker 5: one for me, or my body changed or like still 696 00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:51,240 Speaker 5: the same things. It's just more when it comes to 697 00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:55,840 Speaker 5: your health, no matter what it is, hormones, cancer, intestinal issue, 698 00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,040 Speaker 5: you have to be an advocate for your own health 699 00:31:58,080 --> 00:31:59,880 Speaker 5: because you bought. 700 00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:03,800 Speaker 6: Like I can diagnose you Teddy right now, what you 701 00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:07,880 Speaker 6: are a bundle of nerves and stress constantly. I am too, 702 00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:10,520 Speaker 6: not as bad as you. You have high anxiety. When 703 00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:13,160 Speaker 6: you have all that, it hurts you. 704 00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:14,640 Speaker 3: We were talking about that earlier. 705 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:16,560 Speaker 1: We are just just thinking about that. 706 00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:20,560 Speaker 5: But when people say that to you, it hurts you too, because. 707 00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:23,000 Speaker 3: What am I going to do? 708 00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:24,880 Speaker 6: But what did I tell you have to get your 709 00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:28,240 Speaker 6: cancer diagnosed? I said, you have to find a way 710 00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,880 Speaker 6: of processing shit. And then you know you now you 711 00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:34,720 Speaker 6: are really into horses again, So I think that that's 712 00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:37,680 Speaker 6: a good outlet. You don't you don't have time. I 713 00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,800 Speaker 6: know for me because I'm a worrier that if I'm 714 00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:43,320 Speaker 6: not busy, my mind is very destructive. 715 00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:44,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, so. 716 00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:47,200 Speaker 4: Please sense he kills my joy, Yes for sure. 717 00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,480 Speaker 6: Yeah, and I know and you worry way more than 718 00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:50,720 Speaker 6: I do. 719 00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:54,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think there's like a moral to the story. 720 00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:57,640 Speaker 3: One of them today is that like, as scary as 721 00:32:57,640 --> 00:32:59,800 Speaker 3: it is, especially I think as you're getting older, go 722 00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:03,480 Speaker 3: to the frickin' doctor. Like like Teddy, you were saying 723 00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:06,160 Speaker 3: that too, right, like get and I don't enjoy it. 724 00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:09,160 Speaker 3: There's there's a day with a mammogram is like not 725 00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:12,680 Speaker 3: a good day, and but you know, I do it. 726 00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:15,920 Speaker 3: It's my friend. I had one of my best friends, Denise, 727 00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:20,200 Speaker 3: died of ovarian cancer, and she would say to us 728 00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:22,680 Speaker 3: all the time, like because she went for a year, 729 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:26,440 Speaker 3: she didn't feel well and it didn't get diagnosed, and 730 00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:28,040 Speaker 3: they would say to her at one point they thought 731 00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:31,920 Speaker 3: she should go on antidepressants and she was just so 732 00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:34,360 Speaker 3: tired all the time. But she would let it go. 733 00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:39,000 Speaker 3: But she said, like towards the end, especially, but she 734 00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:40,720 Speaker 3: would tell us the people that she loved, you got 735 00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:41,719 Speaker 3: to listen to your body. 736 00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,320 Speaker 2: And Teddy, I love your idea of just taking two 737 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:47,880 Speaker 2: days and making all your appointments and just dedicating those 738 00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:48,720 Speaker 2: two days to it. 739 00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:49,400 Speaker 1: I love that. 740 00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:52,800 Speaker 5: I mean I think that that And then also knowing, 741 00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:56,440 Speaker 5: like for me, because I am such like a stressed person, 742 00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:59,040 Speaker 5: like I will go, go, go, go go, But then 743 00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:01,280 Speaker 5: I finally gotten too the place of my life where 744 00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:04,800 Speaker 5: I also will give myself permission to crash, and like 745 00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:07,920 Speaker 5: It'll be a random like Monday or something, and I'll 746 00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:10,120 Speaker 5: be like, you know, I just always think that. Like 747 00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:11,960 Speaker 5: I'll even have to say to Edwin, even though he 748 00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:14,120 Speaker 5: wouldn't judge me, I have to be like, listen, I've 749 00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:16,680 Speaker 5: been working NonStop and then I had the weekend horse 750 00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:18,239 Speaker 5: show with the kids and blah blah, and I just 751 00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:20,920 Speaker 5: I'm gonna sit here and watch like women who kill 752 00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:23,480 Speaker 5: on blah blah blah and zone out. 753 00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:25,279 Speaker 4: And he's like, you do you bo? 754 00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:29,160 Speaker 5: You know, like, but sometimes you need that to just decpress. 755 00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:31,680 Speaker 4: I mean, some people murder doesn't relax them, but it 756 00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:32,279 Speaker 4: relaxes me. 757 00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:34,719 Speaker 3: Well, you also have little kids. It's harder to take 758 00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:37,319 Speaker 3: that time. I mean, I take that time every day 759 00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:41,000 Speaker 3: I crash, you know, but little kids, it's like you're 760 00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:41,720 Speaker 3: kind of screwed. 761 00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:44,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I love this conversation. 762 00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:46,640 Speaker 2: I think it was really like in lightning and I'm 763 00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:48,000 Speaker 2: sorry for all you guys have gone through. 764 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:50,239 Speaker 1: But it looks like you come out the other side stronger. 765 00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:52,200 Speaker 3: I have to say that, like, like the idea of 766 00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:53,959 Speaker 3: people getting to know this, I don't know how much. 767 00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:55,799 Speaker 3: I mean, I've watched, I've been a fan for years 768 00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:58,520 Speaker 3: and years, but like how much people get to see 769 00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:01,200 Speaker 3: you as people not just housewives? Know and like the 770 00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:02,200 Speaker 3: struggles real. 771 00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:05,120 Speaker 6: That's a good thing about our podcast that people do 772 00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:06,200 Speaker 6: see us in a different light. 773 00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:08,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, just. 774 00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:11,960 Speaker 6: Screaming, not just screaming lunatics on reality show. 775 00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:16,399 Speaker 1: This to you guys for coming on. We love being 776 00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:17,520 Speaker 1: a part of your team too. 777 00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:19,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, we do. 778 00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:21,200 Speaker 5: We appreciate it really proud of you, guys, and we're 779 00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:23,840 Speaker 5: excited to see where the rest of the season goes. 780 00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:29,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, you guys look thrilled. Oh my god. 781 00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,240 Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you guys for listening. 782 00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:35,480 Speaker 3: We are two Jersey Jays. Thank you, Tammer and Teddy. 783 00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:38,760 Speaker 3: What a pleasure, what an honor. Bye guys, Bye guys. 784 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:39,800 Speaker 6: Thank you guys.