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Speaker 2: All right, break it down. If you ever have feelings

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Speaker 2: that you just won Amy and Cat got your cove

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Speaker 2: and locking m brother, ladies and folks, do you just

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Speaker 2: stuff to the chill stuff and the m but Swayne.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes the best thing you can do it just stop

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Speaker 2: you feel things. This is feeling things with Amy and Cat.

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Speaker 3: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Cat,

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Speaker 3: and I have two feelings.

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Speaker 1: Of the day. I have two feelings too.

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Speaker 3: I have a little alliteration with mine. I'm feeling accomplished

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Speaker 3: and annoyed.

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Speaker 1: Okay, oh so too. That's so.

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Speaker 3: I just looked at this document and I saw that

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Speaker 3: yours is a pepe my day a and yours is well,

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Speaker 3: you can say your feelings.

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Speaker 1: I feel proud and productive, but I want to hear gosh,

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Speaker 1: we're so simpatico right now, I know, So, okay, tell

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Speaker 1: me about well.

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Speaker 3: I feel accomplished because I've already packed for our trip,

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Speaker 3: which is way ahead of time for me. Normally I

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Speaker 3: I feel good, and I'm like, is this how some

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Speaker 3: And I'm annoyed because my daughter took my salt for

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Speaker 1: Well, say more of why that's annoying.

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Speaker 3: Because I made egg in a hat where you take

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Speaker 1: No, salt salt kind of can make or break a dish,

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Speaker 3: I'm annoyed, I know. And then she goes to her dad.

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Speaker 3: So I'm going to be like, Okay, I'm going to

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Speaker 3: to drop off my pink Himalayan It.

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Speaker 3: I don't know pink Himalayan sea salt is a thing.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. I feel using my copings.

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Speaker 1: I went to UPS and I had about twenty things.

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Speaker 3: This is a segment that Kat invented several months.

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Speaker 1: Back because she loves It's really just asking a question.

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Speaker 3: Questions that don't come up when you get curious about something,

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Speaker 3: I was like, this is crazy, but you might not.

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Speaker 3: Mushroom is a color under cool summer. That is, I

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Speaker 3: I wanted to say, Abba, I haven't been there yet,

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Speaker 3: However, you want to say that it's so cute. I

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Speaker 1: So if they're both single, it's kind of a flirty move.

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Speaker 1: So I get why they might have done that. However,

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Speaker 3: But he's drinking it too.

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Speaker 1: People are tricky. So I think if somebody offered me

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Speaker 3: No, I suppose. I don't really mean, like my kids

440
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Speaker 3: need to go to full blown etiquette school. It's just

441
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Speaker 3: on me, like little things like it's also same dinner,

442
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:31,320
Speaker 3: we're almost done, and my son's like, I have to

443
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Speaker 3: go to the bathroom. Should I do it at home

444
00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:37,800
Speaker 3: or do it here? And you know he meant like

445
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Speaker 3: number two and so I was like, how do we

446
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:44,480
Speaker 3: not announced that to the hut the entire day?

447
00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,879
Speaker 1: I know, but I just thought, wait, what.

448
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:49,920
Speaker 4: Am I doing wrong?

449
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 2: What?

450
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 5: Like?

451
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:52,760
Speaker 4: College?

452
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 1: Was your answer?

453
00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,639
Speaker 3: Home? Okay, like we're leaving, we're close to home, Like no,

454
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Speaker 3: because then he'll be in the bathroom for the next

455
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Speaker 3: fifteen minutes because he's lactose intolerant and he forgot his laptape.

456
00:23:06,359 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 1: And yes, they had cheese on his burrito.

457
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 3: So then I was like, let's just go, let's get

458
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Speaker 3: in the car, let's go home.

459
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Speaker 1: That's funny. Well, okay, whatever you've done, you've given your

460
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,679
Speaker 1: kids great personality. Thanks, you're welcome.

461
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:23,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, speaking of personality, we got a voicemail from a

462
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Speaker 3: listener and when we go over these briefly, we kind

463
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Speaker 3: of give them a topic of where they're going to fall.

464
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Speaker 3: And the topic of this one is silly little star chart,

465
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Speaker 3: So that's the topic. But she's talking about Kat and

466
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Speaker 3: I's upcoming trip to Canyon Ranch. And this is from

467
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Speaker 3: Julia in Wisconsin. She's twenty nine, almost thirty. Shout out

468
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Speaker 3: another twenty year old listening to us, So happy almost birthday, Julia.

469
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Speaker 3: And here's what she had to say.

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Speaker 4: I was really excited to hear about your guys' upcoming

471
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Speaker 4: trip to Canyon Ranch. I'm doing the very a MIDWESTI

472
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Speaker 4: version of that this weekend. I'm going to a summer camp,

473
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Speaker 4: but it's a women's retreat, so it's very yoga and

474
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Speaker 4: meditation and then we also have a lot of journal

475
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Speaker 4: prompts to do. And I was on the committee for

476
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Speaker 4: the event. It's a fundraiser for the nonprofit.

477
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Speaker 5: That owns this camp that it has a mission of

478
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Speaker 5: connecting you Swiss nature, and this is just.

479
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Speaker 4: A women's fundraiser and I'm so so excited to go.

480
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Speaker 5: And it really just like resonated that you guys are

481
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Speaker 5: kind of on your own women's retreat with just the

482
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Speaker 5: two of you to Canyon Ranch, so not quite so glamorous.

483
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:35,879
Speaker 5: I will be laying at a lake, not a pool.

484
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 5: But do have another good book lined up. And yeah,

485
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Speaker 5: I'm so excited for you guys. But one thing I

486
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 5: wanted to talk about kind of on my mental health

487
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:47,760
Speaker 5: and wellness journey right now is I bought this thing

488
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Speaker 5: called a Silly Little Star Chart, and if you google it,

489
00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 5: it comes up, but it essentially allows you to create

490
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Speaker 5: your own seventy five day challenge and I've really been

491
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Speaker 5: enjoying it because it comes with little stickers or you

492
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Speaker 5: can do which is a downloadable version, and just challenge

493
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Speaker 5: yourself to new things. So I started on May first,

494
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Speaker 5: so July fifteenth will be my seventy five days, and

495
00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 5: I feel like they've made so much progress and so

496
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Speaker 5: many aspects of my life and I'm just really excited.

497
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Speaker 5: So I'm feeling excited, and I hope you guys have

498
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Speaker 5: the day you need to have. I'm Julia from Wisconsin

499
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Speaker 5: and I'm twenty nine, almost thirty. Hope you guys have

500
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Speaker 5: a great trip to kinder Grant and thanks for all

501
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Speaker 5: the joy and smiles you bring.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Julia, thank you for that. We love this idea.

503
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,719
Speaker 3: And I bet so many people listening right now are

504
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 3: googling silly little star chart so they can get started.

505
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,480
Speaker 3: I mean definition of whimsy.

506
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

507
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Speaker 3: I love this so cute. So thank you so much

508
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Speaker 3: for this voicemail.

509
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Speaker 1: I'm looking at the website right now for this. I've

510
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 1: never heard of this. And you can do like silly

511
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:53,199
Speaker 1: little workouts, silly little quit I think that's like if

512
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:55,720
Speaker 1: you want to quit something, it's like a start. This

513
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 1: is adult star charts like you know, like you don't

514
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Speaker 1: beat the bed star chart you had as a kid,

515
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:04,200
Speaker 1: like this is this is so whimsy. I love this,

516
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:08,440
Speaker 1: and there is something so motivating about sticker. So I

517
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:10,719
Speaker 1: might I don't, I might order this, but I might

518
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:11,880
Speaker 1: just buy some stickers.

519
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you can just make your own chart. I

520
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:15,920
Speaker 3: don't think there's any rules about it.

521
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,359
Speaker 1: We could even do silly little go to the bar

522
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:20,840
Speaker 1: alone and get somebody to talk to me chart.

523
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Speaker 3: And maybe I can do a chart for my nineteen

524
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Speaker 3: and fifteen year old.

525
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,639
Speaker 1: Kids to be like silly little, don't talk about the

526
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Speaker 1: bathroom while we're at the table. You get a star.

527
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:32,879
Speaker 3: Don't eat your taco before everybody gets their food, You

528
00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 3: get a star. Speak kindly of other people's friends at

529
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 3: the dinner table, you get a star.

530
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Speaker 1: Or there's a silly little chores you can do, silly

531
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Speaker 1: little etiquette.

532
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:44,880
Speaker 3: See, I could see myself doing this. Like laundry I love,

533
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 3: so that's not really a chore that I hate. But

534
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:49,400
Speaker 3: if there's like a I've got to organize my bathroom,

535
00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be like, oh, I'm gonna go tackle my

536
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 3: silly little bathroom.

537
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Speaker 1: So little Amazon return Oo. There you go and there's

538
00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 1: a silly little breakup, I wonder, but that's if you're

539
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:04,280
Speaker 1: like doing positive things after a breakup. Silly little books,

540
00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 1: silly little chores. Yeah, there's all kinds of cute things

541
00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 1: on here. This is a great idea. Whoever invented this?

542
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 2: I like it?

543
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 3: Well, not that Julia is the one that invented it,

544
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 3: but will credit her because she let us know about it.

545
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 3: So yeah, thanksgirl, shout out. We have another email that

546
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 3: was a voicemail, but we do have an email from

547
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 3: Lindsay to share with you. Hey, my name is Lindsay

548
00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 3: and I'm listening from Austin, Texas. In your episode this week,

549
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 3: Kat talked about her fear around giving birth, and I

550
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,439
Speaker 3: just wanted to say that I know exactly how she feels.

551
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,120
Speaker 3: I had never had the desire to give birth because

552
00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:43,639
Speaker 3: it honestly terrified me, but I accepted that it was necessary.

553
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,000
Speaker 3: When I was pregnant with my first I would tell

554
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Speaker 3: people I wanted a twilight birth, which is what they

555
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 3: used to do in maybe the fifties or sixties, where

556
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 3: they would put the mother to sleep and then deliver

557
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Speaker 3: the baby. Obviously I was joking, but a little part

558
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 3: of me was wishing it could be that easy. I'm

559
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,400
Speaker 3: here to tell you that both my babies were born

560
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 3: without complications, and when you finally go into labor, you

561
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:09,040
Speaker 3: will accept that there's only one way the sins with

562
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 3: the baby coming out, and you just do it vaginal

563
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,119
Speaker 3: or C section. I can't really explain the mental shift

564
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:17,720
Speaker 3: that happened, but I hope it's the same for you

565
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 3: have the day you need to have. Lindsay, Okay, so

566
00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 3: when we got this email, I would say that the

567
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,640
Speaker 3: highlight and theme of this email is twilight birth. Yeah.

568
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:26,120
Speaker 1: Who knew?

569
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:28,959
Speaker 3: Because Kat and I did not know that was a thing.

570
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 3: So then we started reading about it, and that is

571
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Speaker 3: a real thing.

572
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 5: Yep.

573
00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: That should not have probably ever happened, but it did happen.

574
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Speaker 3: It was developed in Germany in the early nineteen hundreds

575
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Speaker 3: and it provided women with a quote painless childbirth experience.

576
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 3: Morphine was used to blunt physical pain. Scopolamine. Did I

577
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 3: say that right?

578
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 1: I was going to say, good job on that. I

579
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: have no idea.

580
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 3: I can't say, but I can say Scoplamine induced a

581
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 3: semicon just drowsy state and crucially amnesia.

582
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 1: Saying like that was the most important part.

583
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 3: Okay, got it. The goal mothers would thrash and labor

584
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 3: in a semi delirious state, but wake up hours later

585
00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 3: with absolutely no memory of the event of the pain. Okay. Obviously,

586
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 3: there's many many reasons why this is no longer done, isn't.

587
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 3: I've never given birth, But even though it is painful

588
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 3: and awful, isn't, it's so empowering and like you want

589
00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:39,200
Speaker 3: to remember that experience, like I did this.

590
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Speaker 1: I think so, but I just read something. Okay, what

591
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Speaker 1: that sets I'm reading about the like the complications of this.

592
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 1: Like obviously there's you're talking about, like you're missing this

593
00:29:49,960 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 1: like magical experience that people love. But also one of

594
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Speaker 1: the issues is because they were like delirious and I

595
00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 1: don't know, not like fully present, the couldn't push, They

596
00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 1: couldn't actively push because they weren't, you know, aware, So

597
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 1: it increased the need for forced four steps delivery, which

598
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Speaker 1: I guess that's.

599
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Speaker 3: Like sticking the thing in there and pulling it out,

600
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Speaker 3: So then that's fetal like distressing the baby.

601
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, Yeah, I don't. I don't think. I

602
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 1: think one of the reasons they don't do this is

603
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 1: it definitely was not good for the baby, right women

604
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:27,719
Speaker 1: suffocation upon delivery?

605
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 3: Oh okay, yeah, I wonder so this just to make

606
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 3: you feel good, like you're not having a twilight birth,

607
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Speaker 3: so this is so beautiful you.

608
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Speaker 1: Can use I was gonna say, this wasn't that long ago.

609
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Speaker 1: So I wonder if we know anybody who experienced a

610
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Speaker 1: twilight birth like this has nineteen developed in nineteen oh six.

611
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Speaker 1: I don't know when they stopped doing it, but like it.

612
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:53,520
Speaker 3: Was highly popular in the nineteen tens and nineteen twenties.

613
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 3: Now Lindsay said something about fifties or sixties, so I

614
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Speaker 3: don't know how many decades it was going on.

615
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Speaker 1: But I wonder if, like my grandma was delivered via

616
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Speaker 1: twilight birth. I cannot ask her, but crazy Okay, Well,

617
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 1: so yeah that does make me feel Yes, this is

618
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 1: like it could be worse. This could be what I would.

619
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Speaker 1: I guess people when they did it, they thought it

620
00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 1: was good. I think I'm getting more excited about that

621
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 1: process depending on the day, depending on also what TikTok

622
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 1: videos I've seen that day.

623
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Speaker 3: Yeah, we have another email, and the topic of this one,

624
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Speaker 3: I'll just put it is crying And let me tell

625
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 3: y'all we are sitting at my kitchen counter. I'm eating

626
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 3: my saltless egg in a hat, and Kat and I

627
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 3: are going over the episode and reading emails and looking

628
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 3: through voicemails and talking. And Kat's like, oh my gosh,

629
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 3: this email and she starts reading it. At first she's

630
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 3: smiling and kind of fine, and then all of a sudden,

631
00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 3: Kat starts crying. And she was like, I don't know

632
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 3: why I'm crying. This email isn't sad, it's the email

633
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 3: is about crying. But just an email about crying was

634
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 3: making Cat cry. It was ridiculous, Like, are you going

635
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:10,560
Speaker 3: to cry right now because I'm telling the story about

636
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:11,160
Speaker 3: how you cried?

637
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Speaker 1: No, I might cry if I read. Do you want

638
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 1: me to read this? I think? Or do you want

639
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:15,400
Speaker 1: to think?

640
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 3: You could try? But you should try, so let's see

641
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 3: if you can get through it. And if not, no judgment.

642
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 3: This is a safe space, thank you.

643
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 1: And I also need no judgment around. I get out

644
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 1: of breath really easily these days. So if you can

645
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: hear my labored breathing as I read, so tell everybody

646
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 1: how far along you are twenty seven weeks?

647
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 3: What fruit is the baby?

648
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 1: I would have to look last week I was a

649
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 1: spaghetti squash, A small one. Well it's remords. We learned

650
00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 1: it's the length.

651
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's right.

652
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 1: So yeah, I don't I think maybe is next time eggplant?

653
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: Maybe I know that feels smaller.

654
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I just bought a real large

655
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 3: spaghetti squash the other day, and did do we talk

656
00:32:57,640 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 3: about this?

657
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Speaker 1: My dog ate it? Oh yeah, I saw that.

658
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:03,640
Speaker 3: I was like my dog's goat raw. She got it

659
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:06,719
Speaker 3: off the counter with her grubby little palls and somehow

660
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 3: got it open, like I can barely get a spaghetti

661
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:10,760
Speaker 3: squash open myself with a very sharp knife.

662
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 1: But that's also like a yicky I mean dogsy.

663
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 3: Yes, speaking of going the bathroom like it was like

664
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:21,760
Speaker 3: seeds for days. She was having a good old time

665
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:26,480
Speaker 3: with that. But so baby is we've said the sex

666
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 3: or no? Yeah, it's a girl, A baby girl.

667
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:28,720
Speaker 4: I didn't.

668
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,000
Speaker 3: I couldn't remember. I get so nervous. I don't want

669
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 3: to ruin anything. So baby girl is a little the

670
00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 3: next thing after a spaghetti squash, and you are due

671
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 3: in September and your baby shower is in August.

672
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:44,400
Speaker 1: Yes, everything's coming up.

673
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 3: Cat texted me the other day she was like Hey,

674
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 3: my sisters are gonna text you in case you want to.

675
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,400
Speaker 3: If you still want to help with the baby shower,

676
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 3: with no pressure, you don't have to do And I

677
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 3: was like, what, Well, first of all, I've told you

678
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:59,320
Speaker 3: multiple times I want to be a part of helping

679
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 3: with the baby shower, and why I just replied, of

680
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 3: course I want to.

681
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:05,600
Speaker 1: I just didn't want you to get a text from

682
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 1: my sisters and you'd be like, this is weird that

683
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:11,920
Speaker 1: they're asking me to do it, even though I know

684
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:13,920
Speaker 1: we talked about I don't know. I just needed to

685
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 1: put that out there that like, you might get a

686
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 1: text from them, but also if you've changed your mind,

687
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 1: it's also okay. But like if you did change your mind,

688
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:22,279
Speaker 1: I would be kind of like, why did you change

689
00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:25,320
Speaker 1: your mind? What will cause somebody?

690
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 3: Although I will say in couch talks this week, So

691
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:31,279
Speaker 3: on Thursday, we have an email from one of you

692
00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:36,839
Speaker 3: about a rocky friendship, like a friend that says really

693
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:40,360
Speaker 3: or does and says really bizarre things that is making

694
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 3: this listener of ours like step back and be like

695
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 3: what why why am I friends with this person? So

696
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 3: we'll be sharing that email, and I feel like this

697
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 3: will fall into that category, like if I were to

698
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:52,880
Speaker 3: do that, that would be really weird.

699
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 1: It would be weird.

700
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 3: It would just be weird because of how many times

701
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:58,919
Speaker 3: I brought it up. And then also, why why would

702
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 3: I change my I mean even if I was going

703
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 3: to be out of town, which that could be a possibility,

704
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 3: because I've got a vacation around the same time, and

705
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 3: I remember being at your house one night I stopped

706
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:12,360
Speaker 3: by it. I don't know, you and Patrick were having dinner.

707
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 3: I don't know if maybe I ate a few of

708
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 3: your nuggets, but we were talking and you were like, oh, well,

709
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:20,359
Speaker 3: don't that's your vacation, Like, don't want change your vacation

710
00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 3: because it's a shower. But in my mind, I'm like, well,

711
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,399
Speaker 3: I probably would like your shower. That's a big deal.

712
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 3: This is your first baby. But let's say if I

713
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,439
Speaker 3: had an opportunity to go to Paris, like I've always

714
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 3: wanted to go. Like I was really thinking this through.

715
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 3: In my mind, I was like, Kat would want me

716
00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:34,920
Speaker 3: to go to Paris.

717
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 1: So the anxiety I would have over like making sure

718
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: you had a really good time at my baby shower.

719
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:44,279
Speaker 1: Do you guys, I did it right?

720
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:45,959
Speaker 3: Well, now we don't have to worry about that because

721
00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 3: our vacation is No, it's not near your baby shower.

722
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:52,919
Speaker 3: It's same month but weeks apart. And also I thought

723
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 3: about it and I was like, okay, she would want

724
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 3: me to go, so I would still go somewhere on

725
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 3: my trip, but I would want to contribute to helping,

726
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 3: like get the shower ready however I could, because I

727
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 3: would want to be.

728
00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 1: A part of the part of it. Did they text

729
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:07,800
Speaker 1: you not yet? I'm like, did they not want me

730
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 1: to be a part of it?

731
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 3: I don't think so unless I miss their text, which

732
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 3: could happen. I just missed a text from Bobby yesterday

733
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 3: and he had to hit me up with a double

734
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 3: tap question mark, and I was like, how did I

735
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 3: miss that? Because I missed text a lot, but not

736
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 3: from if it's work, Like I have this weird hyper.

737
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 1: Like I have to Yeah, I wonder if maybe because

738
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:31,800
Speaker 1: there's three of them, they don't know like who's texting

739
00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 1: Amy because that's weird.

740
00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 3: So yeah, they're soul. I'll check in on they maybe

741
00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:37,560
Speaker 3: think the other person is.

742
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 1: They definitely think you're helping though, because we were having

743
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 1: a conversation and I was like, well, I'll pay for this,

744
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:45,160
Speaker 1: or I'll do this or all whatever. And no, well

745
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,000
Speaker 1: they were like, we have like plenty of people helping,

746
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 1: so I think they assume you're helping me.

747
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 3: That's like whenever, what were we doing for your bachelor whatever?

748
00:36:55,480 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 1: I paid for the house. No you didn't. I know

749
00:36:57,920 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 1: you paid me back for it because I was like,

750
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 1: you're not paying for that, it's your No. I feel

751
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 1: weird about that though, because I'm asking people to come

752
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,799
Speaker 1: spend a lot of When you have a wedding, you're

753
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 1: asking a lot of people, especially if you're in the wedding.

754
00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:12,839
Speaker 1: You have to buy a dress, you have to Maybe

755
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:15,120
Speaker 1: people had to take off work for my wedding because

756
00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 1: says on a Friday, like and then you're going on

757
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 1: this Batcherett trip. We had did a we didn't do

758
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 1: a lauderie shower. We did a company pajama shower. But

759
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,839
Speaker 1: I don't want people to waste their money. And yeah,

760
00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 1: you're spending money at a place. Some people had to

761
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:32,759
Speaker 1: buy plane tickets. Yeah, I get it. You don't need

762
00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:35,480
Speaker 1: to pay for my stuff like this. It's a lot,

763
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 1: so I do. I did appreciate that a lot, but

764
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 1: I also don't I'm not somebody who expects like to

765
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 1: have that stuff.

766
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 3: That's true, I don't either. For me, I get the

767
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 3: same thing, like I would be like.

768
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: Totally the same way you'd be paying for the batch

769
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:49,040
Speaker 1: att party for everybody.

770
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 3: I get that I would be, but I was like, no,

771
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 3: I don't want you paying for that, and I I

772
00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:57,879
Speaker 3: guess to that point, I'll say, I guess, I'm just thankful. Yeah,

773
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 3: we're in a position where we can do that. But okay,

774
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:02,400
Speaker 3: do you want me to read the email from Julie.

775
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 3: Circling back to the email about crying. Kat is gonna

776
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:09,880
Speaker 3: give it a go and if she if she's unable.

777
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 1: You can take over.

778
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:11,399
Speaker 3: Finish, I will take over.

779
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 1: I think I can do a sense. I've already read

780
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:14,439
Speaker 1: it one. Are you sure?

781
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 2: Okay? Here we go.

782
00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 1: I think I can do a sense. I've already read

783
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 1: it one. Are you sure?

784
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:31,240
Speaker 2: Okay?

785
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 1: Here we go? Hey, girls, keep me. I like really

786
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: feel like I'm not giving a speech right now. I

787
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:43,560
Speaker 1: can do this. I've been listening to the Bobby Bone

788
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:46,239
Speaker 1: Show for well over ten years, and so I've heard

789
00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 1: just about every episode of Four Things, Fifth Thing, and

790
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:54,880
Speaker 1: every episode of Feeling Things. I totally understand. Okay, hold on,

791
00:38:57,920 --> 00:39:00,040
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna cry. I just think I feel a

792
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 1: lot of pressure.

793
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 3: So, okay, if Julie is listening, and y'all will hear

794
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:07,359
Speaker 3: this email, Julie's the person that said the sin. If

795
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 3: she's listening right now and you start crying, we know

796
00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:12,239
Speaker 3: for a fact Julie's crying. Oh she's gonna start crying.

797
00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:15,920
Speaker 1: I totally understand Cat's tear eyed feelings. I have always

798
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 1: been a pretty sensitive person. My grandma used to tell

799
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 1: me that I wore my feelings on my sleeves. But

800
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:25,320
Speaker 1: since having children, I have figured out that I cannot

801
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:35,480
Speaker 1: allow this is what called me. Okay, I cannot allow

802
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:39,000
Speaker 1: anyone to cry alone in my presence. As Dolly Parton says,

803
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 1: and steal Magnolias, and this is me talking. I just

804
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 1: think that is so sweet. It is sweet. Even just

805
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 1: listening to tear up on the podcast get tears in

806
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: my eyes too. Okay, I could keep going, though, I

807
00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:55,080
Speaker 1: also want are you crying?

808
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 5: No?

809
00:39:56,239 --> 00:40:00,760
Speaker 1: Okay, I mean you're you're letting me cry, Lone, You're crying.

810
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 3: I know I'm not like Jewel. I mean, I'm not pregnant,

811
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:06,360
Speaker 3: and I'm also not like Julie, I think that's very sweet.

812
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:06,879
Speaker 1: Yeah.

813
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:12,319
Speaker 3: I sometimes might be moved by someone crying, but we've

814
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 3: tried to read this email multiple times, even before, and

815
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 3: you're still Cat's legit crying right now. I no, it's okay,

816
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 3: you can let it out.

817
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 1: Is not sad.

818
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 3: It's really sweet because this is sweet.

819
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is sweet. Yes, it's touching. And I don't

820
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 1: know if you guys remember, but I cried watching a

821
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: video about somebody packing a hospital bag, like I've been

822
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:37,960
Speaker 1: crying at things that aren't emotional. Anyway, carry on, I

823
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 1: can do this. I feel good about it. I also

824
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 1: want to give you the best advice that I got

825
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:46,160
Speaker 1: for labor. Unfortunately, it was advice that I got when

826
00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: I was pregnant with my second child, but it helped

827
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 1: me realize that it was a perfect simulation since I

828
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:56,160
Speaker 1: had already experienced it. You want to get some crunchy ice,

829
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 1: like a bag from Sonic and grab a big handful

830
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 1: in your hand and squeeze it for one minute. Your

831
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 1: hand will hurt, It hurts a lot, But the thing

832
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,440
Speaker 1: that makes the simulation so perfect is that when you

833
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 1: let go, your hand goes completely back to normal. That

834
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 1: is very much how a contraction feels. It hurts so

835
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 1: bad when it's happening, but as soon as it's over,

836
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 1: you feel completely back to normal.

837
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:24,399
Speaker 3: Wait, what's sad now?

838
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 1: It just is like I just think it's sweet, like

839
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:29,440
Speaker 1: that sentiment like you can do it. Like that's what

840
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: I've been telling myself, like labor is going to be

841
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 1: really scary, but you can do it. Now.

842
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 3: I feel awful because you're crying and I'm laughing.

843
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 1: I'm crying more now than I was before. This is

844
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 1: just really sweet. I'm guys, I'm stable. If any of

845
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 1: my clients are listening, like I am stable.

846
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 3: Oh's it's definitely stable.

847
00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:56,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, it just I mean, I've cried with my clients

848
00:41:56,400 --> 00:42:02,120
Speaker 1: more lately too, but it's been appropriate, okay, who carrying

849
00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 1: on the Other thing that helped me with labor is

850
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 1: knowing that my body just knows what to do. My

851
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 1: job is literally to relax. That's it. That's my only job.

852
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 1: Just relax and let my body do what it needs

853
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 1: to do. That helped me feel a lot less pressure,

854
00:42:15,719 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 1: and I hope it helps you too. I am a

855
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:22,479
Speaker 1: crazy labor lover, and when I had my third child,

856
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 1: I cried because I knew it was the last time

857
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: I would get to experience it. I think this is

858
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 1: the most I've ever.

859
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:30,279
Speaker 3: Cried on this podcast, for sure.

860
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 1: Praying that you also find joy and not just the

861
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 1: beautiful times of motherhood, but the painless, the painful times

862
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: as well. Have the day you need to have your

863
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 1: friend Julie from Kansas and she's fifty five and Julie,

864
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:43,240
Speaker 1: I wish I could give you a look.

865
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:48,399
Speaker 3: I know, and it's on It's it's hearing her say

866
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:51,840
Speaker 3: when I had my third child, I cried because I

867
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 3: knew it would be the last time I get to

868
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:59,680
Speaker 3: experience it. For me, I feel like a part of

869
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:07,400
Speaker 3: me hasn't ever experienced it, and I've accepted that I won't.

870
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:12,760
Speaker 3: I'm just accepted that I won't. However, could I maybe

871
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:16,759
Speaker 3: maybe as a part of you. Maybe I think there's

872
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:18,800
Speaker 3: a part of me that really wants to know what

873
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 3: it would be like to carry a baby and deliver

874
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:27,680
Speaker 3: it and have that bond. So you know, that's a

875
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:31,279
Speaker 3: part I've had to grieve and let go, and so

876
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,120
Speaker 3: I can't imagine having experienced it and you know exactly

877
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:36,920
Speaker 3: what it's like, and you're having to grieve that it's

878
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 3: it's over.

879
00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:40,919
Speaker 1: Like for her, I think they're both hard.

880
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're both hard. I mean, I'm not even really

881
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:46,919
Speaker 3: comparing them. It's just that all of us are having

882
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 3: different feelings around someone's labor, like there might be someone's

883
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 3: like yep, I delivered three.

884
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: Never want to do it again.

885
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:55,439
Speaker 3: You know. There's just it's that true.

886
00:43:55,560 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 1: Don't have any I don't need that. Okay, Well, thanks

887
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:04,560
Speaker 1: for sticking with me through that. I didn't.

888
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 3: I'm proud of you.

889
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 1: I'm stable. I just have a lot of feelings. And

890
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:11,360
Speaker 1: this email to me felt like a hug like it

891
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:14,719
Speaker 1: was it almost felt like something like a mom would

892
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 1: say to somebody, you know.

893
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 3: And she quoted Steel Magnoius, which is one of my

894
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:20,919
Speaker 3: top three favorite movies of all time.

895
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:21,800
Speaker 1: I've never seen it.

896
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:25,600
Speaker 3: Oh, we're watching that on our should Yes?

897
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:26,360
Speaker 1: Should we?

898
00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:31,239
Speaker 3: Yes? You are gonna we'll both cry. We'll both cry,

899
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 3: you'll laugh. That's the thing about Steel Magnoius is you laugh,

900
00:44:36,239 --> 00:44:43,080
Speaker 3: you cry. There's joy, family all the feels. There's pain, like,

901
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 3: there's anger.

902
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 1: Okay, hmm, you think I can handle it. We might

903
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:50,440
Speaker 1: need like to watch an episode of Shit's Creak or

904
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:51,320
Speaker 1: something in between.

905
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:56,239
Speaker 3: Sure, we can. No it's the palette. But wait, but

906
00:44:56,360 --> 00:44:58,719
Speaker 3: there is humor, so you are laughing in the movie too.

907
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 1: Did you ever watch that movie with Elizabeth Olsen? It

908
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 1: just came out. I can't think of the name of it,

909
00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 1: but it's about when she goes to heaven. Let's look

910
00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 1: it up, because if you haven't watched that, we're watching

911
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:16,280
Speaker 1: that it's recent.

912
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:18,719
Speaker 3: Yes, well, then I don't think I have seen it

913
00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:21,279
Speaker 3: because I feel like I would oh eternity, Yes, you

914
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:23,480
Speaker 3: haven't seen that. Oh, it's so, it's funny. It says

915
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:25,600
Speaker 3: it's here, it's a comedy. Draw I haven't seen it.

916
00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:31,360
Speaker 1: I boohooed his like was hysterically crying during that movie.

917
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:36,880
Speaker 3: But it says it's a comedy. It is so, But

918
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 3: now are you gonna cry during Shit's Creek?

919
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 1: There is an element to this. If if anybody listening

920
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 1: has not watched this movie, I will say you, I

921
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 1: don't want to say what it's about. Well does it?

922
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:50,640
Speaker 1: I don't know? Okay, it's a hard I don't want

923
00:45:50,680 --> 00:45:51,359
Speaker 1: to give anything away.

924
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:54,600
Speaker 3: I think if as long as you read what's on IMDb,

925
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 3: it's fine, which says it says here in an afterlife

926
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 3: where souls have one week to decide where to spend eternity.

927
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 3: Joan is faced with the impossible choice between the man

928
00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 3: she spent her life with and her first love, who

929
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:13,240
Speaker 3: died young and has waited decades for her to arrive.

930
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:21,080
Speaker 3: Oh man, yeah, that sounds hard. You're crying. You're crying.

931
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 3: I read the I just read the plot of the movie.

932
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 1: It's a really good movie, and I really we're gonna

933
00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 1: watch it. I'm good. I'm just gonna say I'm gonna cry.

934
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 1: I don't know that you will, but I think you'll

935
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:36,319
Speaker 1: like the movie. I don't want to say anything else

936
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:40,279
Speaker 1: about it, but okay, that's my recommendation. Then I'll watch

937
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:43,440
Speaker 1: Still Magnolias for you. Unless you are against watching this movie.

938
00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 1: I don't want to force you.

939
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 3: No, I want to watch it. This looks good.

940
00:46:45,680 --> 00:46:46,719
Speaker 1: I'm okay checking it.

941
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:49,000
Speaker 3: I mean it's yeah, PG thirteen.

942
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 1: Let's see what Steel if it was our would do?

943
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:52,560
Speaker 1: Not watch it?

944
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 3: Now? I guess I'm just used to looking at ratings.

945
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 3: Let's see PG Steel Magnolius's PG.

946
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 1: So okay, so we're good. But that's interesting.

947
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 3: I feel like some of it would actually be do

948
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:09,799
Speaker 3: you think thir it was? Like maybe I mean you're

949
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:14,680
Speaker 3: dealing with like there's some yeah, harsh comments from some

950
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 3: of the characters death okay. It says a young beautician

951
00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 3: newly arrived in a small town in Louisiana. She finds

952
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:27,840
Speaker 3: work at a local salon where a small group of

953
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:30,920
Speaker 3: women share a close bond of friendship and welcome her

954
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 3: into the fold. And that definitely doesn't give anything away.

955
00:47:34,600 --> 00:47:35,720
Speaker 1: No, I have no idea what it's.

956
00:47:37,520 --> 00:47:40,959
Speaker 3: But you know that, Dolly says in the movie. Yeah,

957
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:44,040
Speaker 3: I cannot allow anyone to cry alone in my presence.

958
00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:49,720
Speaker 3: They all have accents, and she she has she has babies,

959
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:55,360
Speaker 3: and you're having a baby, and she's getting married and

960
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:59,719
Speaker 3: you got married. There's a lot of hilarities. You've gotten

961
00:47:59,719 --> 00:48:03,959
Speaker 3: your hair done before they have a hair salon. There's

962
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:06,719
Speaker 3: a line in the movie where she's her colors are

963
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:08,960
Speaker 3: pink and pink, and I think it's her mom so

964
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 3: that says something like, your colors are pink and pink,

965
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:14,800
Speaker 3: and she goes, my colors are blush and bashful.

966
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: Oh what does she mean?

967
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,120
Speaker 3: Very specific? Those are her specific pink colors.

968
00:48:19,200 --> 00:48:21,359
Speaker 1: They're not just pink and pink. Oh, can I give

969
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 1: an update on my pink color? For my baby room.

970
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:27,440
Speaker 1: Now I've said that absolutely. So you know how we

971
00:48:27,520 --> 00:48:31,120
Speaker 1: talked about hushed auburn and people have been invested in this,

972
00:48:32,280 --> 00:48:34,840
Speaker 1: uh well about three or four people that have messaged

973
00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 1: me about it.

974
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 3: Hushed auburn is a pink color.

975
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:40,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, Hush auburn is a pink color from Sherwin Williams.

976
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:45,480
Speaker 1: It is a color that looks when you see it online,

977
00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:49,080
Speaker 1: it kind of looks like a mauve color, but it's

978
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:54,520
Speaker 1: actually a more brownie orange. So update you had convinced

979
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:56,600
Speaker 1: me to use it, because then if I have a boy,

980
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:59,840
Speaker 1: I don't have to repaint the room because it was

981
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:05,600
Speaker 1: actually pink. Well, I did a little testing. I learned

982
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:09,000
Speaker 1: a great lesson. Do not just paint your house the

983
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:12,279
Speaker 1: color because it looked good in a TikTok. Paint it

984
00:49:12,360 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 1: in that specific, specific room, because depending on the light

985
00:49:16,239 --> 00:49:19,440
Speaker 1: or whatever, it might look different. This hushed auburn in

986
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 1: my in the nursery room looked I mean, I don't

987
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:23,960
Speaker 1: know if I sent you the pictures I think I did.

988
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 1: It looked like a rust, like just straight up rust,

989
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:33,880
Speaker 1: which what's the vibe? So I ended up going this

990
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 1: very this surprised me. I ended up going with an

991
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:39,160
Speaker 1: actual pink It's called Dressy Rose, and it's a like

992
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:42,439
Speaker 1: a subtle pink color, and it actually looks really good.

993
00:49:43,160 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 1: I like it. I didn't think I would like a

994
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,399
Speaker 1: pink room. But if you're looking for a pink color

995
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:51,439
Speaker 1: for your nursery, I suggest look at dressy Rose.

996
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 3: Dressy Rose, dressy Rose.

997
00:49:54,600 --> 00:49:54,920
Speaker 1: Okay.

998
00:49:55,360 --> 00:49:57,200
Speaker 3: And then I mean for your son you if you

999
00:49:57,320 --> 00:49:58,960
Speaker 3: have a boy, you can just well.

1000
00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:02,040
Speaker 1: I think I decided I'm making this room super cute.

1001
00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:05,600
Speaker 1: She's going to stand in there, okay, and then we'll

1002
00:50:05,680 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 1: just also I hear second, kids, you like here.

1003
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:12,719
Speaker 3: I go here. Here's a closet. I think a crib

1004
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 3: will fit in here.

1005
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:18,960
Speaker 1: The room's painted gray already, so it's fine. Okay.

1006
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:21,560
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1007
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:23,279
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1008
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1009
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Speaker 3: ups to stuff we talked about before on feeling things.

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