Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of The Black Effect
Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Um, how do we
Speaker 1: start about the day? Hello, Hello, everybody. This is another
Speaker 1: episode of Reasonably Shady. I am Gazelle Bryant and I
Speaker 1: am Robin Dixon. I am so excited that you are
Speaker 1: still here with us. Yes, and we're doing We're doing
Speaker 1: a dog on thing and this is a good one
Speaker 1: because this is I'm conceded and I got a reason
Speaker 1: already about you. Yes, yes, But the topic today is
Speaker 1: going to be all about body positivity and on the
Speaker 1: flip side, body insecurities, social media and feeling confident in
Speaker 1: your social media. I think a lot of people have
Speaker 1: hangups on what they put out on social media. I
Speaker 1: know I do. UM and just feeling confident and good
Speaker 1: about yourself and ultimately not giving a damn. Hey hey, hey,
Speaker 1: And it's kind of special because we have a guest,
Speaker 1: Yes we do. We have a guest and she's so
Speaker 1: special and I can't wait for you all to meet her.
Speaker 1: You're gonna learn so much from her. I promise you
Speaker 1: are going to be so confident and you're going to
Speaker 1: be working those pictures and those photos, so stay tuned, Yeah,
Speaker 1: stay tuned. Okay, But before we get into all of that,
Speaker 1: you know, we got we gotta do what we always do,
Speaker 1: which is talking about our reasonably shady moment of the week. Robin,
Speaker 1: you got one. I'm gonna let you go first, Okay, good, alright.
Speaker 1: So Robin and I actually had a party recently, people,
Speaker 1: and the party was at my house and it was beautiful.
Speaker 1: We invited a couple of friends, all girlfriends, and we're
Speaker 1: all sitting down and we were having a great time
Speaker 1: and we were kicking and we were drinking and we
Speaker 1: were eating. And one particular stink faced individual was a
Speaker 1: little mean to me. Okay, and this is my house.
Speaker 1: You can't be meaning me at my house. Now. You
Speaker 1: can be mean to me when I leave my house,
Speaker 1: but you can't be mean to me when you're here, okay,
Speaker 1: at my home. So I asked for her to leave
Speaker 1: in a very nice way. Just leave, just kidding your car.
Speaker 1: You don't need to be here, scadado. And it was
Speaker 1: so shady. This is the shady moment, guys. She she
Speaker 1: decided to stay. She's kept her happy ass up on
Speaker 1: the couch. So I'm confused because I'm like, say, no more.
Speaker 1: What are you telling me to leave peace? I'm out? Yes,
Speaker 1: So that was very shady. That was my very shady
Speaker 1: moment of the week. I hope that you all don't
Speaker 1: experience that because it's not cold. All right. Well, um,
Speaker 1: my week was just as eventful as yours. And I'm
Speaker 1: going to piggyback off that story and that same shady
Speaker 1: person was shady to me as well. What I yes,
Speaker 1: but I mean I don't understand how do you invite
Speaker 1: people on a trip and your rude is hell to
Speaker 1: them in the invite, like insulting and rude as hell,
Speaker 1: like that sounds real shady in a trip. I don't
Speaker 1: think I'm going on like word. I mean at this point,
Speaker 1: I'm friend, I'm afraid for my life, like I don't
Speaker 1: know about that. Yes, so yeah, that is my shady moment. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's just there's so many shady people out here, and
Speaker 1: you know, the reasonable part of me, Yes, I had
Speaker 1: to kind of step back and ask people what did
Speaker 1: I do something wrong? You know, I always want to know,
Speaker 1: like what did I do to contribute to what's going on?
Speaker 1: And you know most people are like, no, you ain't tripping,
Speaker 1: like it's it's you know, it is what it is.
Speaker 1: And Robin just just that, just in case y'all new
Speaker 1: to us, Robin is always the reasonable one. She's always
Speaker 1: looking for the best in people. She's always seeing like
Speaker 1: the bright side of the rock, and I'm just shady.
Speaker 1: So if Robin is called in the shady, it's a problem, right,
Speaker 1: it's a problem. And I really literally was like, well,
Speaker 1: what how would contribute to this or how can I
Speaker 1: make it better? Or well, you know, what could I
Speaker 1: have done differently? Or let me look at it from
Speaker 1: another perspective in all the other perspectives that I asked
Speaker 1: were like, um, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah right, Okay,
Speaker 1: So people, we got to get back to the topic
Speaker 1: at hand, Okay, which is I'm conceded and I got
Speaker 1: a reason. So, like you said, Robin, I mean women,
Speaker 1: black women especially, We've all got insecurities and we all
Speaker 1: look at ourselves in the mirror and which things were different.
Speaker 1: And that's just physical insecurity. We also have emotional insecurity,
Speaker 1: we have spiritual insecurity. Um, people have insecurities with their
Speaker 1: professional career or where they are in their life, just
Speaker 1: insecurities in their relationships with other people or you know,
Speaker 1: some people need or crave more attention than they're getting
Speaker 1: for what ever reason. Um and all that can be
Speaker 1: can stem from just different experiences as a child growing up,
Speaker 1: and it's it's so crazy, Like, as a parent, I
Speaker 1: think I'm a little more aware of the things that
Speaker 1: we say and do to our children because those experience
Speaker 1: that they have can really shape who they are as
Speaker 1: an adult. And you see adults today that have issues
Speaker 1: or hang ups or insecurities and you're like, wow, you know,
Speaker 1: but you're so accomplished and you're so beautiful and you're
Speaker 1: so funny, and and you're like, well, where did this
Speaker 1: come from? And you find out when you dig deeper
Speaker 1: and deeper and deeper that something happened in their childhood
Speaker 1: or their mother was always telling them to put the
Speaker 1: cookies down, or you know just or you know, their
Speaker 1: grandmother was always criticizing their hair something. So there's we
Speaker 1: we as adults have to be careful how we treat
Speaker 1: our children because that stuff sticks with them for real. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I have three girls, teenage girls, so everything with them,
Speaker 1: they wake up in the morning and they're insecure about
Speaker 1: something just because the confidence is not there yet. I
Speaker 1: know that confidence comes with like when they feel confident
Speaker 1: in an accomplishment. Right, So that's not there yet, but
Speaker 1: it's it's getting there. But I do want to tell
Speaker 1: you all a couple of insecurities that I have. Oh
Speaker 1: my goodness, this is breaking new job. Yes it is,
Speaker 1: because she oh here perfect okay, um okay. So when
Speaker 1: I was younger, like and and I remember this because
Speaker 1: my kids are now at the age, that I hated
Speaker 1: my stomach. Like I was a skinny girl with a
Speaker 1: fat stomach, Like who wants that? That's just disgusting, right, right,
Speaker 1: I can relate to that. And I couldn't lose my stomach,
Speaker 1: so my legs were skinny butts. I had no booty, y'all,
Speaker 1: just no booty at all. Um. But I had like
Speaker 1: a fat stomach, and that always made me feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: And even when I dressed really cute and had on
Speaker 1: pretty dresses and heels and all that, I just still
Speaker 1: felt like my body was off and it really made
Speaker 1: me just kind of like I remember when I was
Speaker 1: interested in guys and I would like try to hide
Speaker 1: my stomach, like that's weird, right, And the guys probably
Speaker 1: don't even notice, like anything, they don't notice your stomach.
Speaker 1: They probably think your stomach looks great right right now.
Speaker 1: I had twins, so I got rid of my stomach
Speaker 1: because I sat on the table and the doctor handled that.
Speaker 1: But it's all good now it's flat flat, Okay, she
Speaker 1: on flat flat. But I you know, that really bothered
Speaker 1: me until I had that taken care of. Now, I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that that's how you should take care of insecurities,
Speaker 1: but that's actually how I took care of that one.
Speaker 1: But anyway, one other, big one, and y'all are going
Speaker 1: to be surprised about this one. I hated to speak
Speaker 1: in public. What I hated it, like, had so many insecurities,
Speaker 1: like got dry mouth, I would start sweating. I'd be like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I have to talk in public, like
Speaker 1: I did. I didn't don't do it. I promised you
Speaker 1: a second. I didn't want to do it. And I
Speaker 1: think the issue, like now that I can look back
Speaker 1: on it, I think the issue was I felt like
Speaker 1: I had to be someone else, like I had to
Speaker 1: create something and be like a dynamic speaker. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: had to jump off the stage and as opposed to
Speaker 1: just like being me, right, But I had to learn
Speaker 1: that and that took I don't know, into my thirties
Speaker 1: to kind of get there for that, which is a
Speaker 1: little pathetic, right, not really, No, public speaking is so uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: and I think one of the things that attracts people
Speaker 1: to a public speaker is their confidence. It's not about
Speaker 1: you know, their their actions and them being you know,
Speaker 1: demonstrative on the stage and and you know, being dramatic.
Speaker 1: It's like, your confidence enough to keep someone in tune
Speaker 1: with what you're saying. Right, And it didn't help that
Speaker 1: I'm married, like Mr public speaker, Like that didn't help either.
Speaker 1: That that made me even have more insecurities because it's
Speaker 1: like I can't measure up to this dude. Um. But
Speaker 1: eventually I just got there on my own. And now
Speaker 1: y'all can't shut my ass. Oh we cannot. I'm speaking
Speaker 1: and speaking and speaking and speaking and speaking. Yes, you know.
Speaker 1: And it's funny. When I've done public speaking events, I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm like it's an outer body experience. It's
Speaker 1: really weird. Like I do really well and people tell
Speaker 1: me like, oh, that was great, and I'm like, really wasn't.
Speaker 1: Like I don't, like, I don't know what. I don't
Speaker 1: remember one thing I said, but it's it's very weird.
Speaker 1: So I almost feel like you know when you have
Speaker 1: when you do speak in public, you have to almost
Speaker 1: like remove yourself from the person that's actually talking. Like
Speaker 1: it's kind of weird. So since you shared two insecurities,
Speaker 1: I'll share two insecurities. One insecurity is my shoulders in
Speaker 1: my back. I'm very broad, okay, and I'm the worst
Speaker 1: because I'm laughing. I'm okay, okay, robb It. I promise you.
Speaker 1: I never thought you were gonna say that. That was
Speaker 1: so weird. It's so random. You're you're you're describing yourself
Speaker 1: like a linebacker, like, but I you're not a football player.
Speaker 1: You've called me a linebacker? I have? Or was that? Yes?
Speaker 1: Do you remember I'm the worst? I want to hide?
Speaker 1: Do you remember season three when um Monique had the
Speaker 1: umbrella up to me? Yes, you say something like you're
Speaker 1: gonna hit her like a linebacker. You something like robbing
Speaker 1: with her line? Or was that someone called me linebacker shoulders? Okay?
Speaker 1: That was it was you roll the tape. I'll take it.
Speaker 1: I called her that. But it's like Carly, did she
Speaker 1: call me? Do you remember? Yes, Carly, who's always with
Speaker 1: us is confirming Okay, she's done some research really quickly
Speaker 1: on her laptop. Unless she confirmed, people like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: she's not your friends. She called you a linebacker and
Speaker 1: so okay. But Robin, I did not know that that
Speaker 1: was an insecurity. Had I known that, I would have
Speaker 1: never said that. Okay, it's not an insecurity where I'm
Speaker 1: crying about it at night, like but still no. But
Speaker 1: when I get dressed, um, you know some certain things
Speaker 1: I don't like the way they look on me. But
Speaker 1: because I'm so broad across the shoulder, so it's like,
Speaker 1: you know, you dress your body according to I don't
Speaker 1: know if you call them your flaws you know, or
Speaker 1: your securities. I don't. I guess it's not really an insecurity,
Speaker 1: but it is something that I'm aware of that I
Speaker 1: if I could change, I would. Well, I think your
Speaker 1: shoulders are beautiful. I'm making up for lost times. Well,
Speaker 1: thank you. Um. And then my second one, and it's
Speaker 1: not a physical one. It's I mean not um seriously physical,
Speaker 1: but my voice. I hate my voice, like I and
Speaker 1: this stems from childhood when I would answer the phone
Speaker 1: at home and like that, you know, they'd be calling
Speaker 1: to talk to my mom and they'd be like, Mark,
Speaker 1: my brother's name is Mark. So they thought you were
Speaker 1: a boy. They thought your voice was a boy, so
Speaker 1: they'll be like Mark, is your mother there? And I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: this is Robin. Okay, now that's funny. Now that's worse
Speaker 1: than linebacker shoulders. I thought you were a board, right.
Speaker 1: And I know that I have a deep voice. I
Speaker 1: know I have, um, I guess it kind of like
Speaker 1: monotone voice maybe, but like I just so, I hate
Speaker 1: my voice, Like I hate listening to myself. So I
Speaker 1: probably will never listen to this podcast guys, because I
Speaker 1: don't want to hear myself. Or I'll just press play
Speaker 1: and like put it on mute, you know what I mean. Okay,
Speaker 1: that that means you didn't hear it if you but
Speaker 1: press play so we could get a so we could
Speaker 1: count oh okay, the fact that someone listened to it. Okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: But I like, I don't on the show. I hate
Speaker 1: hearing myself on the show, and and it's it's kind
Speaker 1: of weird. This is almost like this podcast is really
Speaker 1: out of normal character for me because I'm not long winded.
Speaker 1: I don't like to talk much if you notice, like
Speaker 1: I usually just get straight to the point. I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't tell long stories. I don't hold the floor
Speaker 1: for a very long time because I don't like to
Speaker 1: hear my voice. Oh, Robin, you've made up for that.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know how I got on TV.
Speaker 1: Yes you're not only are you on television? Podcast? And
Speaker 1: yes we have a podcast. So look this podcast we
Speaker 1: we have, we don't have a contract for several more episodes,
Speaker 1: so you got to get over it. Yes, so that
Speaker 1: I mean, so that tells everyone despite your insecurity, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you that my insecurity is my voice, and
Speaker 1: I'm on a podcast and a TV show and I'm
Speaker 1: still here and I'm still you know, confident in what
Speaker 1: I'm doing, and I'm still passionate about what I'm doing.
Speaker 1: And so just because you know it's an insecurity for yourself,
Speaker 1: don't let it stop you from your opportunities. Now is
Speaker 1: a great time to bring in our very special guest,
Speaker 1: because she's like an expert on all things dealing with insecurities,
Speaker 1: getting to your best, confident self. She's gonna talk to
Speaker 1: us a lot about social media and how that could
Speaker 1: be like the devil right, but then it can also
Speaker 1: be like Jesus because it can bring us to um
Speaker 1: a great place. Our first guest to the Reasonably Shady
Speaker 1: Podcast is Robin's girlfriend. So yeah, that's that's great. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so the round of applause. Yeah, and you know, um,
Speaker 1: this a part of what I love about the platform
Speaker 1: that we're on is having the ability to put our
Speaker 1: friends on, you know, to spread the love, to share
Speaker 1: the wealth, and so you know, you guys might hear
Speaker 1: from a lot of our friends first, but it's also
Speaker 1: to show you all that we got some badass friends. Okay.
Speaker 1: I mean we're just not getting picking up anybody on
Speaker 1: the contact okay, because we got some cord of friends.
Speaker 1: These are are badass friends that we're going to be
Speaker 1: introducing you too. Word okay, So without further ado, I'm
Speaker 1: going to introduce our guests, Jennifer, John Pierre. Is it
Speaker 1: is it? Jean Pierre, Jennifer, Jean Pierre. Yes, you ask
Speaker 1: somebody say it again for a people in the back Jennifer,
Speaker 1: Jean Pierre, Jean Pierre not Jean Pierry, right, people always yes,
Speaker 1: love that love it? Ok and you are from Haiti?
Speaker 1: I am okay. Nice Okay, okay. So. Jennifer Jean Pierre
Speaker 1: is a widely recognized and award winning fashion and lifestyle
Speaker 1: blogger with vast expertise and experience directing social media and
Speaker 1: digital campaigns. Jenn has been featured in the New York
Speaker 1: Times Style section, Essence, and in Style magazines. She effortlessly
Speaker 1: and authentically blurs the lines between personal style, health and wellness,
Speaker 1: and body positive messaging in a transparent, yet very personable way.
Speaker 1: Oh god, this is a big word, Jesus, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: this is this is none of your insecurities? Was reading?
Speaker 1: Was that reading out loud? Is that one of your insecurities?
Speaker 1: How do you say this? Eponymous? It's basically like my
Speaker 1: I know what it means, yourself, you're, you're, you're, You're
Speaker 1: named it after yourself, But I cannot I know what
Speaker 1: it means. I can't bring up then, and neither does
Speaker 1: anyone listen to this podcast like her name okay okay,
Speaker 1: and I think her introduction is done. I think we
Speaker 1: need keep it going. Okay okay, and her popular in
Speaker 1: herself name blogged I have a story about this too, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'll share it later, okay, and popular Instagram page She
Speaker 1: has a massed a community of faithful followers, which are
Speaker 1: no doubt a testament to her relatable personality. When she's
Speaker 1: not sharing advice with fellow bloggers, Jen spends time working
Speaker 1: on her budding photography career. Jen is also constantly constantly
Speaker 1: thinking outside of the box to keep her community of
Speaker 1: fans engaged. She's extremely passionate about making the world a
Speaker 1: better place and makes it a point to champion for
Speaker 1: social injustice. Born in Haiti and raised in Michigan, Jen
Speaker 1: currently resides in Maryland with her husband to bonus children
Speaker 1: and a star in her own right, her adorable daughter Teagan.
Speaker 1: Moved by the way loves me, she loves Okay, so
Speaker 1: give us, give us share social media handles first, so
Speaker 1: people can like at John here, so people can look
Speaker 1: it up. Now, so you can look you can look
Speaker 1: her up now as we're talking. Yes, absolutely so. If so, Jenn.
Speaker 1: If there's like a post you want to want to
Speaker 1: refer to, people can follow along. But I just want
Speaker 1: to personally speak to why I thought Jen would be
Speaker 1: a fantastic guest for this podcast. I won't. I'm not
Speaker 1: destined and that we're not that deep. Rob and I
Speaker 1: are really nothing sace, no joking, Okay, So um Jen
Speaker 1: I met just through gosh, just being around d C.
Speaker 1: I used to work in PR. Actually that's maybe yes.
Speaker 1: So I used to work for a PR agency, and
Speaker 1: you know, our eyes are always open to okay, you
Speaker 1: know bloggers and what's going on in the you know,
Speaker 1: who's popping in the local area and who could you
Speaker 1: know come make a post for one of our clients
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. So I think I've known about
Speaker 1: you for a very long time since gosh, maybe two
Speaker 1: thousand twelve or something. Um and I started and her
Speaker 1: content is so authentic without being thirsty. Yeah you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. I mean I do have some thirst traps,
Speaker 1: thirst traps. I've seen some skin on their and some
Speaker 1: little sex, but it's not like thirsty, thirsty traps. It's
Speaker 1: not like um nasty thirst traps. It's just it's I'm confident, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I do it when when I actually do it, when
Speaker 1: I'm feeling insecure, I'm like, you know what, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: put on this outfit and I'm going to show it
Speaker 1: off because it helps me, right, and it helps you.
Speaker 1: But so it helps your your followers, the people who
Speaker 1: are seeing these posts that they're saying, Wow, she's so confident,
Speaker 1: she looks so happy. What you know what's holding me back?
Speaker 1: And so so I've known Jim for a while. Her
Speaker 1: content has been amazing. I struggle with my own social
Speaker 1: media presence, um just because it's funny. I saw a
Speaker 1: post the other day that that it just came across
Speaker 1: and the girl was saying, you know, why aren't my
Speaker 1: pictures good enough? Why do I stop and not post
Speaker 1: something because it's not perfect? Or you know why am
Speaker 1: I over analyzing everything? Like I should just put it
Speaker 1: out there? And I'm like, like, I literally I have
Speaker 1: thousands of pictures on my phone and I don't post
Speaker 1: them because they're not perfect. The lighting is not perfect,
Speaker 1: my my my hair is not perfect. Well perfect to you,
Speaker 1: isn't perfect to your audience. Well I know, but we're
Speaker 1: under scrutiny a little bit more than the average person.
Speaker 1: And so and it's kind of sad because I am
Speaker 1: instead of embracing the ninety point nine percent of people
Speaker 1: who love me for me and who are you know,
Speaker 1: nice and supportive and positive, I'm holding myself back because
Speaker 1: at that point zero one that is going to have
Speaker 1: something to say So, for instance, and I'm telling somebody
Speaker 1: else's business, I have a picture of One and I
Speaker 1: that we took the other day and I want to
Speaker 1: post it, but One gained a few pounds, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: his face looks fat, and you know what I want
Speaker 1: people to talk about. Face is fat. One space is
Speaker 1: not fat. And I'm probably looking at it closely because
Speaker 1: I know that he like, you know, did he say
Speaker 1: his face was fat? Are you thinking his face in
Speaker 1: the gain weight? Okay? But did he say I'm not No,
Speaker 1: I didn't point out to him. He didn't say it,
Speaker 1: but do you let me? Okay? And as you're pulling
Speaker 1: that up, Jen, I want you to think about a
Speaker 1: couple things. So one, I want you to share also
Speaker 1: your insecurities. I'm looking at your social media page right
Speaker 1: now and I'm borderline like I don't like you anymore
Speaker 1: because it's actually, I mean easing like this this No,
Speaker 1: it's amazing, And the reason why it's amazing it was
Speaker 1: everything is like clean, right, it's so clean, it's purposeful.
Speaker 1: You you're like killing it like mine is like my
Speaker 1: social media My i G page is like junkie. It's
Speaker 1: just like I feel like I post everything too. This
Speaker 1: is so clean and fresh and like your backgrounds are perfect.
Speaker 1: So I need to we need talking to school that
Speaker 1: I go to every day. Oh so you go to
Speaker 1: a place alright, alright, alright, So we're gonna stay focused
Speaker 1: because first I wants not so Jen is going to
Speaker 1: share like tips on just you know, how to put
Speaker 1: out great And it's not about being perfect. It's about
Speaker 1: being engaging if if you want engagement on your page,
Speaker 1: and I guess people have to ultimately decide like what
Speaker 1: is their personal social media for That's what I want
Speaker 1: to talk about. Yeah, okay, Okay, his face is I'm
Speaker 1: so mad at you right now. Okay, so one I'm
Speaker 1: your friend, Robin is not. And the picture that she
Speaker 1: is going to post because we're sitting here talking about it,
Speaker 1: you look like the same amazing wine that you always
Speaker 1: look and your girlfriend slash fiance slash white is being
Speaker 1: a little shady and that should actually have been her
Speaker 1: shady moment. Okay, I'll take that, so Jim lad us
Speaker 1: all right, all right, Well, first let's talk about that picture. Okay.
Speaker 1: The reason why we're not supposed to do Okay, it's
Speaker 1: the lighting. No, it's because of the camera angle. Okay,
Speaker 1: so whatever you haven't because it was probably tilted up
Speaker 1: and going down, whatever is closest to the cameras was
Speaker 1: gonna look bigger. Your head's always gonna look bigger. If
Speaker 1: you notice when I take my picture is you never
Speaker 1: have a high angle for me, and I'm short and
Speaker 1: I'm squatty. Okay, so this number one, you gotta get down,
Speaker 1: down and lean see Okay. See. I feel like there's
Speaker 1: like levels to that because I feel like people have
Speaker 1: heard that advice and I've had you know, I say, oh,
Speaker 1: can you take a picture? They like, okay, I gotta
Speaker 1: get down and you know what you're doing? Yeah, And
Speaker 1: then I look at the picture, I'm like, what the hell?
Speaker 1: Like I'm looking up my nostrils and you got my knees?
Speaker 1: Why knees? So there's a couple of tricks if you're
Speaker 1: doing with the iPhone, Like if you're going to take
Speaker 1: it higher, you want to just be slightly eye level, okay,
Speaker 1: so not like over where you're looking down on somebody
Speaker 1: with the phone. And then when you're taking any iPhone
Speaker 1: picture where you're doing the full body, what I do
Speaker 1: is actually flip the iPhone around horizontally upside down. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I usually take a lot like this because then
Speaker 1: it's not going to get a whole bunch of like
Speaker 1: weird ground. You're gonna get more like sky or ceiling.
Speaker 1: Oh kay. So she's flipping her phone with like the
Speaker 1: lens on the bottom with somebody else, because then it
Speaker 1: gives you more body, more top instead of whole ground.
Speaker 1: Have you ever had somebody take your picture and it's
Speaker 1: like all this ground and then half your head is Yeah,
Speaker 1: people take horrible will be a phone flipping, honey, be
Speaker 1: phone flipping. I am so excited. I'm sorry. We got
Speaker 1: some graphics, yes, yes, yes, yes, so people watching this
Speaker 1: on on the video that we record, Yeah, we have
Speaker 1: some graphs. We have graphics, and it's all about us.
Speaker 1: They're beautiful. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Saw when
Speaker 1: I walked in. Thank you. I don't mean going to
Speaker 1: cut you off. Okay, So this is what we would
Speaker 1: love for y'all to do since we now have a
Speaker 1: new tip. It's called phone flip to take the picture.
Speaker 1: So tag us, you know, tag reasonably shady when you
Speaker 1: post your phone flip pictures. Yes, yes, and then we
Speaker 1: might we post them. Okay, I love that idea. Yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: tag Jen John oh boy, yes, yes, yes, So how
Speaker 1: do you feel How do you remain so confident because
Speaker 1: clearly from your social media play age, you're killing it. Um,
Speaker 1: you know, if I gained four point eight pounds, my
Speaker 1: confidence is like on into the trash. Can I can
Speaker 1: say that you're not like size six? And what side?
Speaker 1: What's that? Do you my sharing to share everything? Let's
Speaker 1: let's just rewind a little bit, because it's funny that
Speaker 1: you say that because I lost sixty four pounds when
Speaker 1: I was pregnant, because I was so sick when you
Speaker 1: were pregnant. Yeah, so after I gave birth, I was
Speaker 1: like sixty four pounds and I was like, yes, even
Speaker 1: though I was sick. I was like, yes, I'm back
Speaker 1: to what I feel like. And it was funny. On
Speaker 1: my way here, I was like, none of my jeans fit?
Speaker 1: What happened? What happened? What happened? Covid? Covid? Yes, the panorama,
Speaker 1: you know all of that, damn demmit. Like I was like,
Speaker 1: but at the end of the day, I'm just like,
Speaker 1: am I healthy? Yes? Okay? Can I move? Yes? And
Speaker 1: I still gonna look cute in my clothes. Solutely okay,
Speaker 1: But so the question you said, it depends on the brand.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm a twill, sometimes I'm a sixteen. That it
Speaker 1: really depends on the brand. Because that's something we can
Speaker 1: talk about too, is like brands have no idea what
Speaker 1: they're doing when they comes to sizing. I'm sure you've
Speaker 1: you've you know, kind of dealt with that. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's you know, it's so cool. It's like, um, you
Speaker 1: you've already you've told me many times that, like, you
Speaker 1: don't like shopping, but yes, but if you look at
Speaker 1: your feed, like you find the best clothes that complement
Speaker 1: your body and make you look even more amazing, so
Speaker 1: you gotta like, I mean, come on now, you can't
Speaker 1: not like shopping and have this amazing feed full of
Speaker 1: cute looks um, so fashionable. It's so fresh. But it's also,
Speaker 1: like I said, not thirsty. You know, it's like you
Speaker 1: don't look like everyone else, very unique in individual like
Speaker 1: I live by Inhale fashion Exhale style liked hold on
Speaker 1: hold on Inhale fashion Exhale Style. Yep, hell does that
Speaker 1: mean that means you take what, like the trend forecast
Speaker 1: tell you you Inhale It and then you exhale it
Speaker 1: and make it your own. You put your own stink
Speaker 1: on it. I like the sting. I'm talking right now, y'all.
Speaker 1: I like this dying around like a walking mannequin. You
Speaker 1: gotta add your little zest to it, like I owe it.
Speaker 1: The way that I see it is the streets are
Speaker 1: my runway, and I'm gonna struck no matter what. Okay,
Speaker 1: So that's how I operate every single day in life.
Speaker 1: I love it. I'm but I'm feeling like this is
Speaker 1: coming from you internally. Yeah, okay, so yes, you're fashionable,
Speaker 1: you're killing the social media game. But like, talk to
Speaker 1: me about like how you got as confident as you
Speaker 1: are right now, because that's really what exudes your page,
Speaker 1: your social media page. You're like your confidence than um.
Speaker 1: It's funny because I would have to say my Haitian parents,
Speaker 1: and Carly is probably like but but honestly, there's patient
Speaker 1: parents are the most judgmental people you will ever meet.
Speaker 1: And Virgos. I was raised by a Virgo mother terryus mother.
Speaker 1: That ain't that um, but they were just so judgmental
Speaker 1: and they have something to say about every little thing
Speaker 1: you do. So you can either become a people pleaser
Speaker 1: or you can just be like, forget it. I am me,
Speaker 1: I'm going to own it. I just chose the ladder. Okay.
Speaker 1: My mother doesn't like it. Still to this day, she'll
Speaker 1: send me a message like I think that scirpt is
Speaker 1: too short and that isn't too big for that, And
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, did you like it? Do you
Speaker 1: want me to send that to you? I bet you
Speaker 1: would be cute on you, Like I just flipped the
Speaker 1: script on her. So I think it was just a
Speaker 1: choice for me. It was either I was going to
Speaker 1: drown in insecurities and everything that was kind of being
Speaker 1: put on me, or I was just gonna own it
Speaker 1: and have fun and realized life is love that too.
Speaker 1: And that goes back to what I was saying about
Speaker 1: parents really shaping their kids as adults. So you know
Speaker 1: there's parents that I mean, there's there's kids who take
Speaker 1: that stuff to heart and it becomes insecurities and by
Speaker 1: the time they're an adult, it's like way too late
Speaker 1: to change. So you know, good for you for I know, well,
Speaker 1: I like my like just like you said about your mom, Like,
Speaker 1: my mother called me last week and she was like,
Speaker 1: just that that broad wasn't working on TV, like get
Speaker 1: rid of it. One boob was higher than the Wait
Speaker 1: a minute, my mother called me one day, was on
Speaker 1: TV and was like she was like she was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: the same thing that your mom said. She was like,
Speaker 1: one boob was higher and bigger. And I was like, Mom,
Speaker 1: you've got to be kiddy right now. She's okay. So
Speaker 1: apparently my mother was not the only one. They need
Speaker 1: each other. You know what, my mother needs your mother's
Speaker 1: phone number, so she because I don't she gonna call me,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like, go somewhere else with that. That's hilarious.
Speaker 1: But you know, I I appreciate my mother is feedback
Speaker 1: at this point, but I only appreciate it now because
Speaker 1: I am so confident, right, But that comes I'm fifty
Speaker 1: years old, so that comes over time. And I know
Speaker 1: I can speak for myself and I know that with accomplishments,
Speaker 1: confidence bills. Um. I can look at my kids. You know,
Speaker 1: just the other day, UM adore my daughter. She had
Speaker 1: to try out for the lacrosse team. She made it,
Speaker 1: and now she's like walking around the house like her
Speaker 1: shoulders popping, like she didn't done something so great. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, girl, you just made the team. I mean,
Speaker 1: you know it's not that, but for her, that gave
Speaker 1: her like a boost of confidence. Um, and I know
Speaker 1: that with sometimes when you know, especially women, because we
Speaker 1: put so much on ourselves. If we don't get what
Speaker 1: we're striving for, that knocks us and derails us and
Speaker 1: we can't get back up. Yeah, I feel like small
Speaker 1: victories really help boost our confidence. It doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be you know, some groundbreaking development, It just has to
Speaker 1: be small victories. But then we have to look at Okay,
Speaker 1: when we do have our setbacks, how do we deal
Speaker 1: with them? How do we bounce back? Or how do
Speaker 1: we absorb them and learn from them or let them
Speaker 1: roll off of our back? You know that's kind of Um,
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like, yeah, that's a tough one. Like
Speaker 1: it's it's it's easier said than done. Do you pull
Speaker 1: from something that your mother taught you when when your
Speaker 1: face with that, yeah, actually probably not what she taught me.
Speaker 1: With my grandmother, Like for me, my grandmother is like
Speaker 1: my legacy. She's like the top notch, Like nobody can
Speaker 1: touch my grandmother just because she was able to raise
Speaker 1: like six kids in a third world country, put them
Speaker 1: all through college in the United States. She's just like
Speaker 1: to me, I'm like, yeah, Grandma, she wore heels every day, okay,
Speaker 1: like she was dressed to the nines. All her clothes
Speaker 1: were tailor made for her because I still have them.
Speaker 1: And for me, I was like, Okay, she has brains,
Speaker 1: she has you, and she's presenting herself a certain way
Speaker 1: every single day. No one's gonna know that there's that
Speaker 1: she's struggling because that's how she presented it, but not
Speaker 1: in like a fake like oh yeah, I'm doing it,
Speaker 1: but more so because it made her feel good. So
Speaker 1: I kind of just kind of keep that legacy going.
Speaker 1: I love that. And then it's funny you made me
Speaker 1: think of my grandmother, because my grandmother, she's she was amazing,
Speaker 1: She was very special. She kind of said whatever the
Speaker 1: hell was on her mind, you know, in a in
Speaker 1: a very kind of comical but fourth right way. But
Speaker 1: she never wore pants, like not a day in her life.
Speaker 1: And what you're right, So so it's funny that. So
Speaker 1: so I'm thinking, like her personality was one of very
Speaker 1: old fashioned, very traditional, so being able to be myself today,
Speaker 1: but having a grandmother that never wore pants. It's like,
Speaker 1: you know, it's kind of like we've come into our
Speaker 1: own while honoring our grand parents and the people before us,
Speaker 1: but we've still been able to confidently move to the
Speaker 1: beat of our own drums, no matter how much they
Speaker 1: hated it. You know, like, what are you wearing? What?
Speaker 1: Like can you imagine like to a grandmother that never
Speaker 1: wore paints, never wore pants, like what a sweatsuit looks
Speaker 1: like to them? You know what I mean? Like, I
Speaker 1: can take you one distressed gene. Oh. When I came
Speaker 1: home with distressed gene, that's like on right now? Okay.
Speaker 1: My grandmother was like, well, baby, do I need to
Speaker 1: give me some food because she thought that you ripped them.
Speaker 1: She didn't know that this is the style. She didn't
Speaker 1: know what style because to her it was like why
Speaker 1: would you do this? Yes, And my father to this
Speaker 1: day still would be like, you got holy you got
Speaker 1: holy gene. I'm like, oh my god, do I thank
Speaker 1: you for letting me know? I didn't see it. On
Speaker 1: a more serious note, my mother would away and I
Speaker 1: try to instill this in my kids. My mother would
Speaker 1: always try to look at She always ask me like,
Speaker 1: what is the learning lesson. What did you learn? What
Speaker 1: was God trying to tell you? Like, I will never
Speaker 1: forget I stayed out, um until three o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 1: I might have had too many drinks. I was trying
Speaker 1: to eat fried chicken in my lap because somebody gave
Speaker 1: that to me on the way out the club and
Speaker 1: I was driving home and I literally like told with
Speaker 1: my car right, and I was like. My mother next
Speaker 1: day was like, what did God teach you that I
Speaker 1: was hungry, that I was don't drink and drive. I'm confused.
Speaker 1: I was like, but the but it really was like
Speaker 1: order French floating free down, don't ever do this again.
Speaker 1: You could have killed yourself. Um that's a huge example.
Speaker 1: But you know, my mother has always been just the
Speaker 1: voice in the back of my head that's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you got knocked down today, But what did you learn
Speaker 1: from it? And if you didn't learn anything from it,
Speaker 1: then shame on you. Yes, all right en, Let's get
Speaker 1: to like something that people most people really really really
Speaker 1: want to know is how to take great pictures. So
Speaker 1: much fun Yeah, because like I have like girlfriends so
Speaker 1: funny you know that, aren't you know? In they're not
Speaker 1: public figures and we when we go to take a
Speaker 1: group picture, they'll be like, okay, Robin, how should I stand? Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: shut I put my my leg out up out, my
Speaker 1: hand on my hip. What should I do? And I'm like,
Speaker 1: I feel like we just need a like we need
Speaker 1: like a girl's night where somebody comes. I actually did
Speaker 1: that with my friends. Can you do yea? It was funny,
Speaker 1: like like, no, I should charge for that, seriously, like
Speaker 1: you know how bad I am? No, I know, but no,
Speaker 1: this is a bit. I'm starting a business for you.
Speaker 1: Robin is always starting businesses. Always this seriously because now
Speaker 1: like people want to find more things to do in
Speaker 1: the house because you know, the pandemic blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: But that is a great girl's night in hire someone
Speaker 1: to help you, you know, teach them how to pose.
Speaker 1: They can take pictures. I don't girl. Okay, So we
Speaker 1: got we got to turn, we got to flip down. Okay,
Speaker 1: so what else? And that's more for the photographer. Okay,
Speaker 1: now this is about you. My number one thing is
Speaker 1: I rarely ever take a picture like straight on. Like
Speaker 1: when I say that is like you're just squared right
Speaker 1: at the camera because the camera is gonna widen you.
Speaker 1: You don't want to be So that's number one. So
Speaker 1: you're saying, like I always tilt your body just a
Speaker 1: little bit, like have one hit maybe more towards it.
Speaker 1: If you're going to do one that you're squared at
Speaker 1: the camera, then you gotta have like your superhero power stance,
Speaker 1: like either you're like hand under your chin, really handed
Speaker 1: to chick. I'd be like this, yes, can you a reference? Um,
Speaker 1: can you reference like something on your page maybe for
Speaker 1: people to refer to. Let me say, I actually on
Speaker 1: my reels, I have like how to pose. I have
Speaker 1: a whole so in your not your high but I
Speaker 1: don't know it's reel. Yeah, okay, that's the new Instagram
Speaker 1: feature where they kind of bid off of TikTok. Excuse me,
Speaker 1: So so jens supposed to be happening with me with
Speaker 1: my Instagram. I got to get them. But okay, so
Speaker 1: I did a whole bunch of like just going through
Speaker 1: a bunch of um poses. But I'm actually going to
Speaker 1: have one on my YouTube, which is slower after you
Speaker 1: go through your your superhero power woman pose. Another thing
Speaker 1: is definitely tilting one hip, putting one leg slightly in
Speaker 1: front of the other, so that way you get that
Speaker 1: long and lean that leg lengthening that I love so much.
Speaker 1: And then your arms. Never put your arms too close
Speaker 1: to your body because it's just gonna make them look
Speaker 1: fat matter what you do. I kind of um like
Speaker 1: something that does where she always does this, like it's
Speaker 1: not like trying. Hands are not on her hips. It's
Speaker 1: more like her hands are on her thighs, and it's
Speaker 1: like making her arms go out a little bit. You
Speaker 1: never want to hunt your shoulders either, Like this is
Speaker 1: when posture. Really I have bad posture because I have scolosis,
Speaker 1: so I always have to be like, okay, so you
Speaker 1: don't want to punch, but do you want to pull
Speaker 1: them back? Yeah, you want to pull them back and
Speaker 1: then pull them down, okay back and because then it's
Speaker 1: going to make your neck look longer. And when you're
Speaker 1: I mean, but speeding up neck, what do you do
Speaker 1: with your chin down? Chin slightly up? Because at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, like you want you don't want
Speaker 1: the shadows from the photography because it looks like you
Speaker 1: have bags in your eyes, I know, So you want
Speaker 1: to kind of look look up to the light. Source
Speaker 1: wherever the light sources. But it also depends if the
Speaker 1: photographer is really really low. You don't want to be
Speaker 1: like this because then they're just gonna go up your
Speaker 1: nostrils like you were mentioning before, So up slightly, up
Speaker 1: slightly to okay, just a little bit, just enough to
Speaker 1: get that longly neck um because that always looks really good.
Speaker 1: If you really think about models, most of the one
Speaker 1: to make the most money have the long next you
Speaker 1: don't even realize it, yes, because it's like Bellade, that's
Speaker 1: so beautiful, Yes she is. So those are some some
Speaker 1: things that till head straight on Till depends on what
Speaker 1: the message you're trying to evoke, you know, like if
Speaker 1: you want to do it till that's more like you
Speaker 1: like me, you know what, like is it a stink?
Speaker 1: Is it's like I'm a pet my favorite. But you
Speaker 1: can also do that with my favorite with the hands
Speaker 1: under the channel. Now, let's talk about smile during a picture.
Speaker 1: I feel like that feeling though, what do you want
Speaker 1: the picture and tell about you? But I feel like
Speaker 1: when I when I smile, like my face just gets
Speaker 1: like I don't know, like I don't know, I don't
Speaker 1: really speaks get all yeah, so I is it better
Speaker 1: to like do that like fa laugh. I am all
Speaker 1: about the fake right, you know, like you just do that,
Speaker 1: you know, like just a little. But you see how
Speaker 1: like my chin is still kind of up because you
Speaker 1: don't want to do the fake laugh and be like
Speaker 1: then you're going to get double chick, you know, so
Speaker 1: like you kind of want to angle it out, like okay, alright,
Speaker 1: so angle up out fake lap okay, or you could
Speaker 1: have the person who's taking the picture just say something
Speaker 1: fuddy right. Okay, alright, So one leg in front of
Speaker 1: the other. What do you think about legs crossed if
Speaker 1: you do it at the ankles, like, don't cross it
Speaker 1: like your knees over, just a slight at the ankles.
Speaker 1: And I believe that the legs crossed should really only
Speaker 1: be when you're sitting nice and then you also want
Speaker 1: to cross them. But have what I'm doing it right now?
Speaker 1: I don't know why one leg further out, okay, like
Speaker 1: that front of the other. Body angled a little bit,
Speaker 1: just a little bit, shoulders down, back and down, arms
Speaker 1: not squished at your side. Yeah, you can just like
Speaker 1: form like triangles, um and then don't press them too
Speaker 1: much to your body, because then you're gonna you know,
Speaker 1: squish right, okay, chin slightly up, slightly up, okay, love
Speaker 1: what else was it? Oh? And if you're looking dead
Speaker 1: onto the camera, give like a little you know, the
Speaker 1: chin action, some sort of power post something otherwise, or
Speaker 1: look away. If you're not comfortable looking right at the camera,
Speaker 1: look away, look away. You know what about the whole
Speaker 1: like smies your eyes. I'm terrible. It's smizing, are you.
Speaker 1: I need to learn. I need to learn how to
Speaker 1: smize like Tyra. Tyra has it down. Yeah, but that's
Speaker 1: why I always just give the you know, the angry
Speaker 1: woman that's me every single time. Um. For me, I
Speaker 1: do a squint. Okay, that doesn't work for everyone, it
Speaker 1: just works for me. Um. I know when I was
Speaker 1: taking your pictures, Rob and I up telling you close
Speaker 1: your eyes, and then right before I took the picture,
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, open them now, because you were
Speaker 1: automatically like closing them. Um. So that actually works too.
Speaker 1: If you're not comfortable in front of the camera, just
Speaker 1: close your eyes and then right when the photographer tells
Speaker 1: you you just open and you can smile right then
Speaker 1: and there because then You're not gonna have a forced
Speaker 1: smile on your face for so long waiting for the picture.
Speaker 1: Do you recommend that if you're like feeling a little
Speaker 1: low that day, to bust out with like amazing flick,
Speaker 1: like just to make yourself feel better. Okay, So definitely
Speaker 1: when you're feeling bad, I think, so get your pictures on.
Speaker 1: That's when you like you can do with selfies, and
Speaker 1: that's when you practice. I mean, at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, it's always about the practice. Practice makes perfect, okay,
Speaker 1: because I find like I'll ask someone to take a
Speaker 1: picture of me, and you know, they give me the
Speaker 1: phone back and they walk away and the pictures are horrible.
Speaker 1: So so like, what tips can we give our photographers
Speaker 1: or the people who are taking our pictures are amateur
Speaker 1: ione pictures, so that we make sure that we get
Speaker 1: good pictures. Put them where you want your picture to
Speaker 1: be taken. Take the picture how you want it, Show
Speaker 1: it to them, be like this is how I want it.
Speaker 1: Did you see where I was standing? Did you see
Speaker 1: how I held the phone? This is how I wanted Okay,
Speaker 1: but these are random strangers on the street that we
Speaker 1: pull out. Okay, what do we tell the waiter. Yes,
Speaker 1: we're at a restaurant, group of friends, and we want
Speaker 1: the way to take a picture. Is it a group picture?
Speaker 1: Like it's a group you don't care? Well, we we care.
Speaker 1: I mean because if it's a group picture and you're
Speaker 1: kind of sitting sitting at the restaurant, or more we're sitting,
Speaker 1: we're sitting at the table with a group, I would
Speaker 1: say later to take a cute picture. Take it landscapes
Speaker 1: so that it's wide and you've got a lot of
Speaker 1: you know, environment, because then you can always just crop
Speaker 1: it Instagram, because if you take it vertical, they always
Speaker 1: crop someone out or somebody's half of their bodies out.
Speaker 1: And then I would go right back to that that
Speaker 1: flip the phone. Yes, everybody, Okay, I know we have
Speaker 1: to practice that, we have to try that. So along
Speaker 1: those lines, like what are some apps that you recognize
Speaker 1: it for people, you know, for amateurs like us to
Speaker 1: use to kind of look like professionals, or just to
Speaker 1: have an engaging feed, like you know, it's I know
Speaker 1: some people, it's like your social media is really literally
Speaker 1: just for your friends and family, but you still want
Speaker 1: it to be engaging. So the first thing is you
Speaker 1: got to determine what your aesthetics are, Like, what do
Speaker 1: you want your feed to look like? So? Do you
Speaker 1: want a dark and gritty, moody feed? Do you want light,
Speaker 1: bubbly and happy? Do you want to follow like a
Speaker 1: plan where it's like picture quote, picture quote, Like you
Speaker 1: got to determine that first. People doing that. I'm the
Speaker 1: only one that just throws anything up. But I think
Speaker 1: what you're saying, I think that's what holds me back
Speaker 1: from putting stuff because I'm like, oh, like what, I
Speaker 1: don't have a theme. I don't have like a like
Speaker 1: a consistent appearance on my page, Like what does it
Speaker 1: need to be? And so instead of just posting because
Speaker 1: I want to shock yourself out of it, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: can it be a mix? Like let's say, right, so
Speaker 1: let's say you want to be gritty, but then you
Speaker 1: want to be light and airy. So that's where I
Speaker 1: would say, like filters or presets come in. And so
Speaker 1: presets are basically filters that you've made, and so that
Speaker 1: comes to app So light room, light room is my
Speaker 1: favorite room I don't even know people made, but yeah,
Speaker 1: you can buy them. You can buy presets on like
Speaker 1: let's see of however, you want your photo to look
Speaker 1: and you throw it in the light room and it'll
Speaker 1: just edit it. Yeah. Yeah, so like I have, like
Speaker 1: I have a couple of mine that way, even though
Speaker 1: I have it maybe like a dark photo, the color
Speaker 1: is kind of the same in the same So that way,
Speaker 1: when the eye is looking at my feed kind of
Speaker 1: just all flows right. And I think it's more it's
Speaker 1: it's more important to have a consistent feed for when
Speaker 1: someone goes to your actual page exactly and they're seeing,
Speaker 1: you know, the whole grid, do that anymore, but actually
Speaker 1: go to your whole feed to look they're just because
Speaker 1: if they're already that's I mean, y'all are like figures,
Speaker 1: So it would be nice. So it's not about like, oh,
Speaker 1: this one picture has to match the last picture the
Speaker 1: last week. But it's like, oh, when people look at
Speaker 1: my feed and its entirety, you don't want it to
Speaker 1: be all over the place. Okay you wait, wait, you
Speaker 1: did not say what app that is a pencil? Why
Speaker 1: he's about at light room? Yes, okay, I'm going to add,
Speaker 1: but you could also um tessa um. So she's a blogger.
Speaker 1: She well, she's a photographer who turned into a blogger.
Speaker 1: And she made her own app, which I love too.
Speaker 1: And she's got a whole bunch of already just put
Speaker 1: in presets. You just put in your photo. You can
Speaker 1: go through each presetz. T e z z Az has presets. Yeah,
Speaker 1: those two I really really love them. Yeah you should.
Speaker 1: But the other thing is is what we've found in
Speaker 1: the photography world is a lot of these presets aren't
Speaker 1: made for us our skin tone. You know, sometimes it wash.
Speaker 1: This is out. So that's where a lot of black
Speaker 1: bloggers came and said we're going to create our own.
Speaker 1: So you know, there's Chasing Denise. She's got Chase some Denise, Okay,
Speaker 1: Chasing Denise. There's Um Massani that's who I use. I
Speaker 1: love hers. Um. Who else? There? Mayor of Evans m
Speaker 1: O S S O N y I. So do you
Speaker 1: find these on Instagram or is this an app? Um
Speaker 1: you can find them? I believe they sell him on
Speaker 1: Etsy Creative Market. So this isn't like I go to
Speaker 1: the app. Well you can do it, Tessa is an app, okay,
Speaker 1: but if you wanted the precess that we're really made
Speaker 1: for our yeah, there's a lot, right and so um
Speaker 1: I thought Etsy was just buying jewelry. I am people
Speaker 1: out here selling amazing things. Um, we don't have a
Speaker 1: whole lot of time. Now, we don't have a whole
Speaker 1: lot of time, so we have so I would like
Speaker 1: to kind of pull like the top thing that we
Speaker 1: got out of this today because I feel like there's
Speaker 1: so many things right well, oh no, when we have
Speaker 1: our questions, we have our social media, our reasonable shape. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: we got a little bit more to cover. So before
Speaker 1: we wrap up, Jin, is there anything so so you've done?
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people should realize, like
Speaker 1: almost everyone can monetize their Instagram somehow. So that's why
Speaker 1: it's important to put out great content, great pictures, great photos. Um,
Speaker 1: and you've done an awesome job and being able to
Speaker 1: do that for yourself and so you know, just people
Speaker 1: who it's not just about looking cute on Instagram, it's
Speaker 1: about monetizing. So I suggest everyone please go to Jen's page,
Speaker 1: visit her blog, Instagram at Jen Jehan Pierre. Yes I
Speaker 1: do www Jen jihon Pierre dot com. You can learn
Speaker 1: a lot from her. And even if it's like you're
Speaker 1: making a few bucks off of an Instagram post, you
Speaker 1: know why not? Why But that's why you want to
Speaker 1: build a nice presence on Instagram. Yes, and you don't
Speaker 1: want to leave any money on the table. And that's
Speaker 1: going to tie into helping with your confidence because you
Speaker 1: make a couple of couple of dollars a couple of
Speaker 1: coins and trust and believe your confidence is going to
Speaker 1: increase absolutely. So do you have do you have any
Speaker 1: other important things that you want people to know to
Speaker 1: hear anything that we didn't touch on. So when it
Speaker 1: comes like social media, the one thing is I think
Speaker 1: a lot of people are like, well, this is what
Speaker 1: I like, so I'm going to post it. I do
Speaker 1: that too, but I also have been doing it so long,
Speaker 1: I know what my audience like. At the end of
Speaker 1: the day, it's what your audience wants to see. Because
Speaker 1: if you're posting things that nobody wants to see, it's
Speaker 1: not going anywhere, especially if you're thinking that this is
Speaker 1: going to be a business. So for me, it is
Speaker 1: a business, So I have to be marketable. I have
Speaker 1: to constantly do an audit of my insights, kind of
Speaker 1: take a look and see what my demographics are, what
Speaker 1: are people you know, enjoying. I mean, there's there's so
Speaker 1: much to this like it's a whole other conversation. It's
Speaker 1: like a whole job. It really, I mean it really is.
Speaker 1: Use that's my full time job too. Um. But yeah,
Speaker 1: you have to do the audit. You have to really
Speaker 1: take a look and see what are people engaging with,
Speaker 1: what do they want to see from you, and then
Speaker 1: give them more of whatever it is that But then
Speaker 1: don't they get that? Change it? You can switch it up, Okay,
Speaker 1: like I did. Um this morning, I had to do
Speaker 1: a shoot for Amazon Groceries. But I was like, if
Speaker 1: I put some groceries on my feet, people are only like,
Speaker 1: I'm not liking this some food, Like I'm not a
Speaker 1: food block like food I post, I post some good food.
Speaker 1: I gotta look at your food. Okay, maybe not don't
Speaker 1: don't please, You're gonna judgement, no judgment, no judgment, it's
Speaker 1: no judgment. But I had to change it up. I
Speaker 1: had to make it editorial. So I was in my
Speaker 1: kitchen with a fancy dress on, cutting up some vegetables
Speaker 1: because at the same way, I can tie in that
Speaker 1: this is about food, but it's going to stop them
Speaker 1: in their scroll. That makes sense. Yeah, that makes sense. Okay,
Speaker 1: So so people need to be a little bit more
Speaker 1: thoughtful when they're posting these pictures. So if they want
Speaker 1: this to be a business, right, yes, So don't do
Speaker 1: what galla. So if you'll look at my page, just
Speaker 1: don't do what I do because I just throw up
Speaker 1: any old thing. Um. You know you influenced me to
Speaker 1: buy something once though. Oh what did I do? That
Speaker 1: leather body suit that has the biggest I bought that
Speaker 1: after I saw Really Okay, I'm an influencer, y'all, it's all.
Speaker 1: Did you take me? Did you make me feel good
Speaker 1: about myself? No, you didn't. You didn't want to help
Speaker 1: me with my confidence. My confidence could have been low
Speaker 1: that day. You tagging me would made me feel like, well,
Speaker 1: I openness and I tagged you're right, right, right exactly exactly.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I remember I saw that on you and
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I need that. Yeah yeah, so
Speaker 1: cutet fit me right now? But it was, um, yeah, So,
Speaker 1: Jim John Pierre, you have been an amazing guest. You
Speaker 1: have so much to share. It has been so fun. Um.
Speaker 1: I love just talking to you because you do inspire
Speaker 1: me to you know, you you let me know, like Robin,
Speaker 1: people want to know what's going on. They want to
Speaker 1: see you more. You need to, you know, put stuff
Speaker 1: out there and I'll get there one day. You're gonna
Speaker 1: get there because I'm gonna be still on you about it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And to know that Robin, you know, especially you and
Speaker 1: I have the ability to brighten up somebody's day. I
Speaker 1: get anybody a little push, a little boost, and so
Speaker 1: we have to be a little more conscious of it
Speaker 1: and and do it because if we can help others,
Speaker 1: that's what it's all about. You got that so right,
Speaker 1: and it could be so much. Yeah, So absolutely yes,
Speaker 1: and we just have to tune out the haters. I'm
Speaker 1: thankful that I don't have that. It's not I've gotten
Speaker 1: something always I'm sure. I'm like, well, yeah, I know girl, yes,
Speaker 1: crooked thing because I left my retainer after a basketball tournament, right, yeah,
Speaker 1: but that but that makes unique. I was like, okay, alright,
Speaker 1: So we have covered a whole lot, and you know, yes,
Speaker 1: and we thank you so much. Jen, You're you're amazing
Speaker 1: and we'll have you back. So don't don't go too far. Um.
Speaker 1: But we have a new segment guys that we want
Speaker 1: to introduce to night and it is called Reasonable Talk
Speaker 1: with our shadesters, okay, And we like to do a
Speaker 1: whole lot of social media interaction. We'll throw questions out,
Speaker 1: always prepared to be prepared to listen and give us feedback. Yes,
Speaker 1: And we love just asking people on the spot a
Speaker 1: question and we get such great feedback. Yes. So to
Speaker 1: question was in line with the topic the episode. What
Speaker 1: are your physical insecurities? And I think this is such
Speaker 1: a great question because you listeners are going to realize, Wow,
Speaker 1: most people have the same insecurities that I do, and
Speaker 1: so to hell with our insecurities, y'all insecurities be gone exactly.
Speaker 1: So I want to just share um a lot of
Speaker 1: the responses. Okay, So stomach is number one. Stomach, stomach,
Speaker 1: and you said that absolutely foopa, yes, poopa, that's it.
Speaker 1: So that food, but that's it. And I mean and
Speaker 1: I and I feel like, you know, I have a
Speaker 1: little foopa to um. Yeah, yah, I mean that that
Speaker 1: that thing is it is hard to get rid of, right,
Speaker 1: you see, if you're super thin, you're still going to
Speaker 1: have that a little something. So so the answer to
Speaker 1: all of that is because we all have it, don't
Speaker 1: be insecure about it, right, Yeah, let it go? Absolutely, Yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: because and even though we know we have a food,
Speaker 1: but like other people won't even notice it, right, you know,
Speaker 1: so skin, so whether it's discoloration under eye, you know,
Speaker 1: dark under eyes, moles um skin was a big response.
Speaker 1: So everyone, you know you're you're not alone. Well, no
Speaker 1: one's skin is perfect. That's just it is what it is.
Speaker 1: So understand that and why why are you trying to
Speaker 1: reach for this perfection of skin? Right? Like God gave
Speaker 1: you some skin, and be comfortable with the skin you in, right,
Speaker 1: And I just say, you know, I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't have like the magic pill for perfect skin.
Speaker 1: But drink more water, you know, I think a lot
Speaker 1: of times our skin does not look great or because
Speaker 1: we're not drinking enough. Water always comes from inside. Yeah,
Speaker 1: absolutely so, so you know that. So we have stomach
Speaker 1: number one? Skin was number two? What's the number three?
Speaker 1: Just wait? Overall in general and yes, yes, especially after COVID,
Speaker 1: I think you know a lot of us are not
Speaker 1: happy with our weight, but that is something very common.
Speaker 1: So but with the weight, I always feel like it's
Speaker 1: not necessarily about the weight, but you always want to
Speaker 1: be be mindful of it because it's about your health,
Speaker 1: and it's about being healthy, living a healthy lifestyle, and people,
Speaker 1: you cannot continue to complain about your weight. But you're
Speaker 1: eating fried chicken. Um, you're not eating healthy. You're drinking
Speaker 1: a whole lot because you're hanging out with your girlfriends
Speaker 1: and y'all like talking about nonsense, like understand what you're
Speaker 1: doing to your body. And I'm not saying don't do
Speaker 1: those things, but just do things in moderation exactly. And
Speaker 1: it's not easy. It's not easy to be disciplined and
Speaker 1: to eat all the right things. But like you said,
Speaker 1: everything in moderation. So weight is a is a big one. Um.
Speaker 1: I thought I heard from some men saying, so the
Speaker 1: men are insecure about their chesty. Okay, they want you know,
Speaker 1: they want to have a bigger chest. You know, maybe
Speaker 1: they have some man boobs that they want to get
Speaker 1: rid of, so that's an insecurity. Their hair are line,
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's the man. Oh yeah, yeah, you can
Speaker 1: get you know, theles or whatever it is. You just
Speaker 1: cut it off, just cut it off. I mean, bald
Speaker 1: men are sexy, so I would rather And this is
Speaker 1: like every other week conversation in my house because one
Speaker 1: is like, oh it looks like my hair's going back,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, nah, you know what I mean. So,
Speaker 1: so it's that is definitely a big struggle. And then
Speaker 1: we just have you know, nose crooked teeth, smiling, yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: and arm yes, I have arm jiggle on here m aging.
Speaker 1: So I have one person that responded about aging. It
Speaker 1: was probably more than people, but but her response said,
Speaker 1: it used to be aging, but now I don't care.
Speaker 1: And I love that if you're aging, you're living. So
Speaker 1: but it's also you should be grateful that you're aging.
Speaker 1: We're not dead, right right, absolutely absolutely so, and we're
Speaker 1: all going to age, all of us, and so you
Speaker 1: know that's one thing. It's like, you know, we just
Speaker 1: I think we should just feel blessed that we are
Speaker 1: aging and get botox. Yes, but people should know, like, look,
Speaker 1: if you feel you're feeling insecure about something, do something
Speaker 1: about it, Like, don't just wallow in your insecurities, do
Speaker 1: something about it. Strive. I always say that I strive
Speaker 1: for my greatest self and that is a daily personal
Speaker 1: struggle and strive that I that I have for myself
Speaker 1: and I try to instill it in my kids. So
Speaker 1: you know that's my recommendation, just strive for greatness, right,
Speaker 1: but they're not perfection. Yeah, I agree, but there's some
Speaker 1: things that maybe are hard to change or can't be changed.
Speaker 1: I eat my big shoulders, right, so I don't see
Speaker 1: is never going down. So you know, just focus on
Speaker 1: the other things that you are confident of every single day.
Speaker 1: Look at yourself in the marriort might sound cheesy, would
Speaker 1: just be like, wow, my shoulders are beautiful. It's like
Speaker 1: the perfect hanger for so strong. But if you think
Speaker 1: about it, mannequins always have like hanger shoulders, so technically
Speaker 1: you're like the perfect mannequin. Yes, Robin you okay, I'll
Speaker 1: take it. Thank you all right, I think that might
Speaker 1: be our show. That is our show. I hope you
Speaker 1: all enjoyed it, and I hope you tune in next week. Yes,
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