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Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of The Black Effect

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Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Um, how do we

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Speaker 1: start about the day? Hello, Hello, everybody. This is another

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Speaker 1: episode of Reasonably Shady. I am Gazelle Bryant and I

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Speaker 1: am Robin Dixon. I am so excited that you are

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Speaker 1: still here with us. Yes, and we're doing We're doing

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Speaker 1: a dog on thing and this is a good one

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Speaker 1: because this is I'm conceded and I got a reason

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Speaker 1: already about you. Yes, yes, But the topic today is

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Speaker 1: going to be all about body positivity and on the

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Speaker 1: flip side, body insecurities, social media and feeling confident in

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Speaker 1: your social media. I think a lot of people have

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Speaker 1: hangups on what they put out on social media. I

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Speaker 1: And it's kind of special because we have a guest,

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Speaker 1: Yes we do. We have a guest and she's so

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Speaker 1: special and I can't wait for you all to meet her.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna learn so much from her. I promise you

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Speaker 1: are going to be so confident and you're going to

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Speaker 1: be working those pictures and those photos, so stay tuned, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: stay tuned. Okay, But before we get into all of that,

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Speaker 1: you know, we got we gotta do what we always do,

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Speaker 1: which is talking about our reasonably shady moment of the week. Robin,

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Speaker 1: you got one. I'm gonna let you go first, Okay, good, alright.

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Speaker 1: So Robin and I actually had a party recently, people,

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Speaker 1: and the party was at my house and it was beautiful.

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Speaker 1: We invited a couple of friends, all girlfriends, and we're

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Speaker 1: and we were kicking and we were drinking and we

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Speaker 1: were eating. And one particular stink faced individual was a

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Speaker 1: little mean to me. Okay, and this is my house.

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Speaker 1: You can't be meaning me at my house. Now. You

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Speaker 1: can be mean to me when I leave my house,

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Speaker 1: but you can't be mean to me when you're here, okay,

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Speaker 1: at my home. So I asked for her to leave

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Speaker 1: in a very nice way. Just leave, just kidding your car.

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Speaker 1: You don't need to be here, scadado. And it was

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Speaker 1: so shady. This is the shady moment, guys. She she

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Speaker 1: decided to stay. She's kept her happy ass up on

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Speaker 1: the couch. So I'm confused because I'm like, say, no more.

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Speaker 1: What are you telling me to leave peace? I'm out? Yes,

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Speaker 1: So that was very shady. That was my very shady

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Speaker 1: moment of the week. I hope that you all don't

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Speaker 1: experience that because it's not cold. All right. Well, um,

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Speaker 1: my week was just as eventful as yours. And I'm

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Speaker 1: going to piggyback off that story and that same shady

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Speaker 1: person was shady to me as well. What I yes,

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Speaker 1: but I mean I don't understand how do you invite

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Speaker 1: them in the invite, like insulting and rude as hell,

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Speaker 1: like that sounds real shady in a trip. I don't

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Speaker 1: think I'm going on like word. I mean at this point,

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Speaker 1: know about that. Yes, so yeah, that is my shady moment. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's just there's so many shady people out here, and

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Speaker 1: you know, the reasonable part of me, Yes, I had

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Speaker 1: to kind of step back and ask people what did

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Speaker 1: I do something wrong? You know, I always want to know,

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Speaker 1: like what did I do to contribute to what's going on?

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Speaker 1: And you know most people are like, no, you ain't tripping,

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Speaker 1: like it's it's you know, it is what it is.

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Speaker 1: And Robin just just that, just in case y'all new

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Speaker 1: to us, Robin is always the reasonable one. She's always

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Speaker 1: looking for the best in people. She's always seeing like

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Speaker 1: the bright side of the rock, and I'm just shady.

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Speaker 1: So if Robin is called in the shady, it's a problem, right,

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Speaker 1: it's a problem. And I really literally was like, well,

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Speaker 1: what how would contribute to this or how can I

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Speaker 1: another perspective in all the other perspectives that I asked

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Speaker 1: So people, we got to get back to the topic

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Speaker 1: a reason. So, like you said, Robin, I mean women,

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Speaker 1: And that's just physical insecurity. We also have emotional insecurity,

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Speaker 1: And I have three girls, teenage girls, so everything with them,

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Speaker 1: not saying that that's how you should take care of insecurities,

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Speaker 1: but that's actually how I took care of that one.

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Speaker 1: But anyway, one other, big one, and y'all are going

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Speaker 1: And it's funny. When I've done public speaking events, I

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Speaker 1: I'll share two insecurities. One insecurity is my shoulders in

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Speaker 1: my back. I'm very broad, okay, and I'm the worst

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Speaker 1: because I'm laughing. I'm okay, okay, robb It. I promise you.

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Speaker 1: I never thought you were gonna say that. That was

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Speaker 1: You've called me a linebacker? I have? Or was that? Yes?

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Speaker 1: Do you remember season three when um Monique had the

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Speaker 1: I called her that. But it's like Carly, did she

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Speaker 1: she's not your friends. She called you a linebacker and

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Speaker 1: so okay. But Robin, I did not know that that

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Speaker 1: never said that. Okay, it's not an insecurity where I'm

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Speaker 1: crying about it at night, like but still no. But

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Speaker 1: when I get dressed, um, you know some certain things

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Speaker 1: I don't like the way they look on me. But

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Speaker 1: because I'm so broad across the shoulder, so it's like,

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Speaker 1: if I could change, I would. Well, I think your

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Speaker 1: shoulders are beautiful. I'm making up for lost times. Well,

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Speaker 1: thank you. Um. And then my second one, and it's

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Speaker 1: but my voice. I hate my voice, like I and

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Speaker 1: this stems from childhood when I would answer the phone

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Speaker 1: to talk to my mom and they'd be like, Mark,

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Speaker 1: some graphics, yes, yes, yes, yes, so people watching this

423
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 1: on on the video that we record, Yeah, we have

424
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 1: some graphs. We have graphics, and it's all about us.

425
00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,160
Speaker 1: They're beautiful. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Saw when

426
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:32,399
Speaker 1: I walked in. Thank you. I don't mean going to

427
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 1: cut you off. Okay, So this is what we would

428
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:36,119
Speaker 1: love for y'all to do since we now have a

429
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,439
Speaker 1: new tip. It's called phone flip to take the picture.

430
00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 1: So tag us, you know, tag reasonably shady when you

431
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 1: post your phone flip pictures. Yes, yes, and then we

432
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 1: might we post them. Okay, I love that idea. Yeah, absolutely,

433
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:55,640
Speaker 1: tag Jen John oh boy, yes, yes, yes, So how

434
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:58,399
Speaker 1: do you feel How do you remain so confident because

435
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 1: clearly from your social media play age, you're killing it. Um,

436
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:07,600
Speaker 1: you know, if I gained four point eight pounds, my

437
00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 1: confidence is like on into the trash. Can I can

438
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:14,920
Speaker 1: say that you're not like size six? And what side?

439
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 1: What's that? Do you my sharing to share everything? Let's

440
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:21,240
Speaker 1: let's just rewind a little bit, because it's funny that

441
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: you say that because I lost sixty four pounds when

442
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:26,919
Speaker 1: I was pregnant, because I was so sick when you

443
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 1: were pregnant. Yeah, so after I gave birth, I was

444
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:33,800
Speaker 1: like sixty four pounds and I was like, yes, even

445
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:35,880
Speaker 1: though I was sick. I was like, yes, I'm back

446
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 1: to what I feel like. And it was funny. On

447
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:40,760
Speaker 1: my way here, I was like, none of my jeans fit?

448
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 1: What happened? What happened? What happened? Covid? Covid? Yes, the panorama,

449
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 1: you know all of that, damn demmit. Like I was like,

450
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 1: but at the end of the day, I'm just like,

451
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 1: am I healthy? Yes? Okay? Can I move? Yes? And

452
00:25:57,440 --> 00:26:01,439
Speaker 1: I still gonna look cute in my clothes. Solutely okay,

453
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 1: But so the question you said, it depends on the brand.

454
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:08,000
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm a twill, sometimes I'm a sixteen. That it

455
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 1: really depends on the brand. Because that's something we can

456
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:12,639
Speaker 1: talk about too, is like brands have no idea what

457
00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 1: they're doing when they comes to sizing. I'm sure you've

458
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 1: you've you know, kind of dealt with that. Yeah, yeah,

459
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,920
Speaker 1: that's you know, it's so cool. It's like, um, you

460
00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:25,119
Speaker 1: you've already you've told me many times that, like, you

461
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:30,639
Speaker 1: don't like shopping, but yes, but if you look at

462
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 1: your feed, like you find the best clothes that complement

463
00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 1: your body and make you look even more amazing, so

464
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 1: you gotta like, I mean, come on now, you can't

465
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:43,639
Speaker 1: not like shopping and have this amazing feed full of

466
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 1: cute looks um, so fashionable. It's so fresh. But it's also,

467
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 1: like I said, not thirsty. You know, it's like you

468
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 1: don't look like everyone else, very unique in individual like

469
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:59,639
Speaker 1: I live by Inhale fashion Exhale style liked hold on

470
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:04,399
Speaker 1: hold on Inhale fashion Exhale Style. Yep, hell does that

471
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:07,400
Speaker 1: mean that means you take what, like the trend forecast

472
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 1: tell you you Inhale It and then you exhale it

473
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,119
Speaker 1: and make it your own. You put your own stink

474
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:15,320
Speaker 1: on it. I like the sting. I'm talking right now, y'all.

475
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 1: I like this dying around like a walking mannequin. You

476
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 1: gotta add your little zest to it, like I owe it.

477
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:25,439
Speaker 1: The way that I see it is the streets are

478
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 1: my runway, and I'm gonna struck no matter what. Okay,

479
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 1: So that's how I operate every single day in life.

480
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 1: I love it. I'm but I'm feeling like this is

481
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 1: coming from you internally. Yeah, okay, so yes, you're fashionable,

482
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 1: you're killing the social media game. But like, talk to

483
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 1: me about like how you got as confident as you

484
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 1: are right now, because that's really what exudes your page,

485
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 1: your social media page. You're like your confidence than um.

486
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 1: It's funny because I would have to say my Haitian parents,

487
00:27:57,080 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 1: and Carly is probably like but but honestly, there's patient

488
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,920
Speaker 1: parents are the most judgmental people you will ever meet.

489
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:10,440
Speaker 1: And Virgos. I was raised by a Virgo mother terryus mother.

490
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 1: That ain't that um, but they were just so judgmental

491
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:17,360
Speaker 1: and they have something to say about every little thing

492
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: you do. So you can either become a people pleaser

493
00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 1: or you can just be like, forget it. I am me,

494
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 1: I'm going to own it. I just chose the ladder. Okay.

495
00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 1: My mother doesn't like it. Still to this day, she'll

496
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 1: send me a message like I think that scirpt is

497
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:33,919
Speaker 1: too short and that isn't too big for that, And

498
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, did you like it? Do you

499
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: want me to send that to you? I bet you

500
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:38,560
Speaker 1: would be cute on you, Like I just flipped the

501
00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: script on her. So I think it was just a

502
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 1: choice for me. It was either I was going to

503
00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 1: drown in insecurities and everything that was kind of being

504
00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 1: put on me, or I was just gonna own it

505
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 1: and have fun and realized life is love that too.

506
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 1: And that goes back to what I was saying about

507
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 1: parents really shaping their kids as adults. So you know

508
00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 1: there's parents that I mean, there's there's kids who take

509
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 1: that stuff to heart and it becomes insecurities and by

510
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: the time they're an adult, it's like way too late

511
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 1: to change. So you know, good for you for I know, well,

512
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: I like my like just like you said about your mom, Like,

513
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:16,959
Speaker 1: my mother called me last week and she was like,

514
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 1: just that that broad wasn't working on TV, like get

515
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: rid of it. One boob was higher than the Wait

516
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 1: a minute, my mother called me one day, was on

517
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: TV and was like she was like she was like, yeah,

518
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 1: the same thing that your mom said. She was like,

519
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: one boob was higher and bigger. And I was like, Mom,

520
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 1: you've got to be kiddy right now. She's okay. So

521
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 1: apparently my mother was not the only one. They need

522
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 1: each other. You know what, my mother needs your mother's

523
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 1: phone number, so she because I don't she gonna call me,

524
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like, go somewhere else with that. That's hilarious.

525
00:29:55,920 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 1: But you know, I I appreciate my mother is feedback

526
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 1: at this point, but I only appreciate it now because

527
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 1: I am so confident, right, But that comes I'm fifty

528
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 1: years old, so that comes over time. And I know

529
00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: I can speak for myself and I know that with accomplishments,

530
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:17,479
Speaker 1: confidence bills. Um. I can look at my kids. You know,

531
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:21,880
Speaker 1: just the other day, UM adore my daughter. She had

532
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: to try out for the lacrosse team. She made it,

533
00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 1: and now she's like walking around the house like her

534
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 1: shoulders popping, like she didn't done something so great. And

535
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, girl, you just made the team. I mean,

536
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: you know it's not that, but for her, that gave

537
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 1: her like a boost of confidence. Um, and I know

538
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 1: that with sometimes when you know, especially women, because we

539
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 1: put so much on ourselves. If we don't get what

540
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 1: we're striving for, that knocks us and derails us and

541
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 1: we can't get back up. Yeah, I feel like small

542
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 1: victories really help boost our confidence. It doesn't have to

543
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 1: be you know, some groundbreaking development, It just has to

544
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 1: be small victories. But then we have to look at Okay,

545
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 1: when we do have our setbacks, how do we deal

546
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 1: with them? How do we bounce back? Or how do

547
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 1: we absorb them and learn from them or let them

548
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 1: roll off of our back? You know that's kind of Um,

549
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like, yeah, that's a tough one. Like

550
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: it's it's it's easier said than done. Do you pull

551
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 1: from something that your mother taught you when when your

552
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 1: face with that, yeah, actually probably not what she taught me.

553
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:30,720
Speaker 1: With my grandmother, Like for me, my grandmother is like

554
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: my legacy. She's like the top notch, Like nobody can

555
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: touch my grandmother just because she was able to raise

556
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 1: like six kids in a third world country, put them

557
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:43,160
Speaker 1: all through college in the United States. She's just like

558
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:49,800
Speaker 1: to me, I'm like, yeah, Grandma, she wore heels every day, okay,

559
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 1: like she was dressed to the nines. All her clothes

560
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 1: were tailor made for her because I still have them.

561
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 1: And for me, I was like, Okay, she has brains,

562
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: she has you, and she's presenting herself a certain way

563
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 1: every single day. No one's gonna know that there's that

564
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:08,920
Speaker 1: she's struggling because that's how she presented it, but not

565
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 1: in like a fake like oh yeah, I'm doing it,

566
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 1: but more so because it made her feel good. So

567
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 1: I kind of just kind of keep that legacy going.

568
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 1: I love that. And then it's funny you made me

569
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 1: think of my grandmother, because my grandmother, she's she was amazing,

570
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 1: She was very special. She kind of said whatever the

571
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 1: hell was on her mind, you know, in a in

572
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 1: a very kind of comical but fourth right way. But

573
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 1: she never wore pants, like not a day in her life.

574
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:41,480
Speaker 1: And what you're right, So so it's funny that. So

575
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:44,320
Speaker 1: so I'm thinking, like her personality was one of very

576
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 1: old fashioned, very traditional, so being able to be myself today,

577
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 1: but having a grandmother that never wore pants. It's like,

578
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:57,000
Speaker 1: you know, it's kind of like we've come into our

579
00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 1: own while honoring our grand parents and the people before us,

580
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 1: but we've still been able to confidently move to the

581
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:08,160
Speaker 1: beat of our own drums, no matter how much they

582
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: hated it. You know, like, what are you wearing? What?

583
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 1: Like can you imagine like to a grandmother that never

584
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 1: wore paints, never wore pants, like what a sweatsuit looks

585
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 1: like to them? You know what I mean? Like, I

586
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 1: can take you one distressed gene. Oh. When I came

587
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 1: home with distressed gene, that's like on right now? Okay.

588
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 1: My grandmother was like, well, baby, do I need to

589
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:37,120
Speaker 1: give me some food because she thought that you ripped them.

590
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 1: She didn't know that this is the style. She didn't

591
00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 1: know what style because to her it was like why

592
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 1: would you do this? Yes, And my father to this

593
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 1: day still would be like, you got holy you got

594
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 1: holy gene. I'm like, oh my god, do I thank

595
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 1: you for letting me know? I didn't see it. On

596
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 1: a more serious note, my mother would away and I

597
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:58,480
Speaker 1: try to instill this in my kids. My mother would

598
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: always try to look at She always ask me like,

599
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 1: what is the learning lesson. What did you learn? What

600
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 1: was God trying to tell you? Like, I will never

601
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 1: forget I stayed out, um until three o'clock in the morning.

602
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:12,359
Speaker 1: I might have had too many drinks. I was trying

603
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:14,960
Speaker 1: to eat fried chicken in my lap because somebody gave

604
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 1: that to me on the way out the club and

605
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 1: I was driving home and I literally like told with

606
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 1: my car right, and I was like. My mother next

607
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 1: day was like, what did God teach you that I

608
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: was hungry, that I was don't drink and drive. I'm confused.

609
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 1: I was like, but the but it really was like

610
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:38,680
Speaker 1: order French floating free down, don't ever do this again.

611
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 1: You could have killed yourself. Um that's a huge example.

612
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:46,320
Speaker 1: But you know, my mother has always been just the

613
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:48,280
Speaker 1: voice in the back of my head that's like, Okay,

614
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,759
Speaker 1: you got knocked down today, But what did you learn

615
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 1: from it? And if you didn't learn anything from it,

616
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:56,839
Speaker 1: then shame on you. Yes, all right en, Let's get

617
00:34:56,920 --> 00:35:00,879
Speaker 1: to like something that people most people really really really

618
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:04,480
Speaker 1: want to know is how to take great pictures. So

619
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:07,480
Speaker 1: much fun Yeah, because like I have like girlfriends so

620
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:10,360
Speaker 1: funny you know that, aren't you know? In they're not

621
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 1: public figures and we when we go to take a

622
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 1: group picture, they'll be like, okay, Robin, how should I stand? Okay, okay,

623
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,319
Speaker 1: shut I put my my leg out up out, my

624
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 1: hand on my hip. What should I do? And I'm like,

625
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:22,839
Speaker 1: I feel like we just need a like we need

626
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:26,759
Speaker 1: like a girl's night where somebody comes. I actually did

627
00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 1: that with my friends. Can you do yea? It was funny,

628
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:32,799
Speaker 1: like like, no, I should charge for that, seriously, like

629
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 1: you know how bad I am? No, I know, but no,

630
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:37,839
Speaker 1: this is a bit. I'm starting a business for you.

631
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:44,799
Speaker 1: Robin is always starting businesses. Always this seriously because now

632
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,799
Speaker 1: like people want to find more things to do in

633
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 1: the house because you know, the pandemic blah blah blah.

634
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: But that is a great girl's night in hire someone

635
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:57,360
Speaker 1: to help you, you know, teach them how to pose.

636
00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:00,840
Speaker 1: They can take pictures. I don't girl. Okay, So we

637
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:03,239
Speaker 1: got we got to turn, we got to flip down. Okay,

638
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: so what else? And that's more for the photographer. Okay,

639
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:08,239
Speaker 1: now this is about you. My number one thing is

640
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 1: I rarely ever take a picture like straight on. Like

641
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,399
Speaker 1: when I say that is like you're just squared right

642
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:19,440
Speaker 1: at the camera because the camera is gonna widen you.

643
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:21,840
Speaker 1: You don't want to be So that's number one. So

644
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 1: you're saying, like I always tilt your body just a

645
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 1: little bit, like have one hit maybe more towards it.

646
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 1: If you're going to do one that you're squared at

647
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:36,840
Speaker 1: the camera, then you gotta have like your superhero power stance,

648
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:42,440
Speaker 1: like either you're like hand under your chin, really handed

649
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:48,400
Speaker 1: to chick. I'd be like this, yes, can you a reference? Um,

650
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:51,400
Speaker 1: can you reference like something on your page maybe for

651
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 1: people to refer to. Let me say, I actually on

652
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:57,279
Speaker 1: my reels, I have like how to pose. I have

653
00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 1: a whole so in your not your high but I

654
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:05,000
Speaker 1: don't know it's reel. Yeah, okay, that's the new Instagram

655
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:08,400
Speaker 1: feature where they kind of bid off of TikTok. Excuse me,

656
00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 1: So so jens supposed to be happening with me with

657
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 1: my Instagram. I got to get them. But okay, so

658
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:17,759
Speaker 1: I did a whole bunch of like just going through

659
00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 1: a bunch of um poses. But I'm actually going to

660
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 1: have one on my YouTube, which is slower after you

661
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 1: go through your your superhero power woman pose. Another thing

662
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 1: is definitely tilting one hip, putting one leg slightly in

663
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,239
Speaker 1: front of the other, so that way you get that

664
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 1: long and lean that leg lengthening that I love so much.

665
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:40,439
Speaker 1: And then your arms. Never put your arms too close

666
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 1: to your body because it's just gonna make them look

667
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 1: fat matter what you do. I kind of um like

668
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:50,879
Speaker 1: something that does where she always does this, like it's

669
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 1: not like trying. Hands are not on her hips. It's

670
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 1: more like her hands are on her thighs, and it's

671
00:37:57,680 --> 00:38:01,279
Speaker 1: like making her arms go out a little bit. You

672
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 1: never want to hunt your shoulders either, Like this is

673
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 1: when posture. Really I have bad posture because I have scolosis,

674
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 1: so I always have to be like, okay, so you

675
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:13,719
Speaker 1: don't want to punch, but do you want to pull

676
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:15,480
Speaker 1: them back? Yeah, you want to pull them back and

677
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 1: then pull them down, okay back and because then it's

678
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:22,319
Speaker 1: going to make your neck look longer. And when you're

679
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,920
Speaker 1: I mean, but speeding up neck, what do you do

680
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 1: with your chin down? Chin slightly up? Because at the

681
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,399
Speaker 1: end of the day, like you want you don't want

682
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 1: the shadows from the photography because it looks like you

683
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 1: have bags in your eyes, I know, So you want

684
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 1: to kind of look look up to the light. Source

685
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 1: wherever the light sources. But it also depends if the

686
00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 1: photographer is really really low. You don't want to be

687
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 1: like this because then they're just gonna go up your

688
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 1: nostrils like you were mentioning before, So up slightly, up

689
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 1: slightly to okay, just a little bit, just enough to

690
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:57,879
Speaker 1: get that longly neck um because that always looks really good.

691
00:38:57,880 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 1: If you really think about models, most of the one

692
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:02,440
Speaker 1: to make the most money have the long next you

693
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:06,640
Speaker 1: don't even realize it, yes, because it's like Bellade, that's

694
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: so beautiful, Yes she is. So those are some some

695
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:14,799
Speaker 1: things that till head straight on Till depends on what

696
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:17,759
Speaker 1: the message you're trying to evoke, you know, like if

697
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 1: you want to do it till that's more like you

698
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 1: like me, you know what, like is it a stink?

699
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 1: Is it's like I'm a pet my favorite. But you

700
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:35,760
Speaker 1: can also do that with my favorite with the hands

701
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 1: under the channel. Now, let's talk about smile during a picture.

702
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 1: I feel like that feeling though, what do you want

703
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 1: the picture and tell about you? But I feel like

704
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:52,560
Speaker 1: when I when I smile, like my face just gets

705
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 1: like I don't know, like I don't know, I don't

706
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:58,959
Speaker 1: really speaks get all yeah, so I is it better

707
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 1: to like do that like fa laugh. I am all

708
00:40:01,520 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 1: about the fake right, you know, like you just do that,

709
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:08,759
Speaker 1: you know, like just a little. But you see how

710
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:10,640
Speaker 1: like my chin is still kind of up because you

711
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 1: don't want to do the fake laugh and be like

712
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 1: then you're going to get double chick, you know, so

713
00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 1: like you kind of want to angle it out, like okay, alright,

714
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 1: so angle up out fake lap okay, or you could

715
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:26,959
Speaker 1: have the person who's taking the picture just say something

716
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:30,880
Speaker 1: fuddy right. Okay, alright, So one leg in front of

717
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 1: the other. What do you think about legs crossed if

718
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:36,480
Speaker 1: you do it at the ankles, like, don't cross it

719
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:40,920
Speaker 1: like your knees over, just a slight at the ankles.

720
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:43,919
Speaker 1: And I believe that the legs crossed should really only

721
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 1: be when you're sitting nice and then you also want

722
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 1: to cross them. But have what I'm doing it right now?

723
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:54,160
Speaker 1: I don't know why one leg further out, okay, like

724
00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 1: that front of the other. Body angled a little bit,

725
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:02,600
Speaker 1: just a little bit, shoulders down, back and down, arms

726
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 1: not squished at your side. Yeah, you can just like

727
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:08,479
Speaker 1: form like triangles, um and then don't press them too

728
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:10,759
Speaker 1: much to your body, because then you're gonna you know,

729
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 1: squish right, okay, chin slightly up, slightly up, okay, love

730
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:19,760
Speaker 1: what else was it? Oh? And if you're looking dead

731
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: onto the camera, give like a little you know, the

732
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 1: chin action, some sort of power post something otherwise, or

733
00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 1: look away. If you're not comfortable looking right at the camera,

734
00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 1: look away, look away. You know what about the whole

735
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: like smies your eyes. I'm terrible. It's smizing, are you.

736
00:41:39,760 --> 00:41:41,360
Speaker 1: I need to learn. I need to learn how to

737
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 1: smize like Tyra. Tyra has it down. Yeah, but that's

738
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 1: why I always just give the you know, the angry

739
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 1: woman that's me every single time. Um. For me, I

740
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:56,400
Speaker 1: do a squint. Okay, that doesn't work for everyone, it

741
00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:58,800
Speaker 1: just works for me. Um. I know when I was

742
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 1: taking your pictures, Rob and I up telling you close

743
00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 1: your eyes, and then right before I took the picture,

744
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,319
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, open them now, because you were

745
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 1: automatically like closing them. Um. So that actually works too.

746
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 1: If you're not comfortable in front of the camera, just

747
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:15,399
Speaker 1: close your eyes and then right when the photographer tells

748
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,400
Speaker 1: you you just open and you can smile right then

749
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,879
Speaker 1: and there because then You're not gonna have a forced

750
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 1: smile on your face for so long waiting for the picture.

751
00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 1: Do you recommend that if you're like feeling a little

752
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 1: low that day, to bust out with like amazing flick,

753
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:41,400
Speaker 1: like just to make yourself feel better. Okay, So definitely

754
00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 1: when you're feeling bad, I think, so get your pictures on.

755
00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 1: That's when you like you can do with selfies, and

756
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 1: that's when you practice. I mean, at the end of

757
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: the day, it's always about the practice. Practice makes perfect, okay,

758
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 1: because I find like I'll ask someone to take a

759
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 1: picture of me, and you know, they give me the

760
00:42:56,520 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 1: phone back and they walk away and the pictures are horrible.

761
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 1: So so like, what tips can we give our photographers

762
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,400
Speaker 1: or the people who are taking our pictures are amateur

763
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 1: ione pictures, so that we make sure that we get

764
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:11,360
Speaker 1: good pictures. Put them where you want your picture to

765
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:14,479
Speaker 1: be taken. Take the picture how you want it, Show

766
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:16,359
Speaker 1: it to them, be like this is how I want it.

767
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 1: Did you see where I was standing? Did you see

768
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 1: how I held the phone? This is how I wanted Okay,

769
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 1: but these are random strangers on the street that we

770
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 1: pull out. Okay, what do we tell the waiter. Yes,

771
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:28,560
Speaker 1: we're at a restaurant, group of friends, and we want

772
00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:30,840
Speaker 1: the way to take a picture. Is it a group picture?

773
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 1: Like it's a group you don't care? Well, we we care.

774
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:37,399
Speaker 1: I mean because if it's a group picture and you're

775
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:41,720
Speaker 1: kind of sitting sitting at the restaurant, or more we're sitting,

776
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:43,919
Speaker 1: we're sitting at the table with a group, I would

777
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 1: say later to take a cute picture. Take it landscapes

778
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:48,840
Speaker 1: so that it's wide and you've got a lot of

779
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 1: you know, environment, because then you can always just crop

780
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 1: it Instagram, because if you take it vertical, they always

781
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:58,359
Speaker 1: crop someone out or somebody's half of their bodies out.

782
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 1: And then I would go right back to that that

783
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 1: flip the phone. Yes, everybody, Okay, I know we have

784
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 1: to practice that, we have to try that. So along

785
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:12,880
Speaker 1: those lines, like what are some apps that you recognize

786
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 1: it for people, you know, for amateurs like us to

787
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 1: use to kind of look like professionals, or just to

788
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 1: have an engaging feed, like you know, it's I know

789
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:24,800
Speaker 1: some people, it's like your social media is really literally

790
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:28,240
Speaker 1: just for your friends and family, but you still want

791
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:31,880
Speaker 1: it to be engaging. So the first thing is you

792
00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:35,239
Speaker 1: got to determine what your aesthetics are, Like, what do

793
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:38,400
Speaker 1: you want your feed to look like? So? Do you

794
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:41,439
Speaker 1: want a dark and gritty, moody feed? Do you want light,

795
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 1: bubbly and happy? Do you want to follow like a

796
00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 1: plan where it's like picture quote, picture quote, Like you

797
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:50,759
Speaker 1: got to determine that first. People doing that. I'm the

798
00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 1: only one that just throws anything up. But I think

799
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 1: what you're saying, I think that's what holds me back

800
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:06,360
Speaker 1: from putting stuff because I'm like, oh, like what, I

801
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 1: don't have a theme. I don't have like a like

802
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:11,560
Speaker 1: a consistent appearance on my page, Like what does it

803
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: need to be? And so instead of just posting because

804
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:17,600
Speaker 1: I want to shock yourself out of it, Yeah, yeah,

805
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 1: can it be a mix? Like let's say, right, so

806
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 1: let's say you want to be gritty, but then you

807
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:24,719
Speaker 1: want to be light and airy. So that's where I

808
00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 1: would say, like filters or presets come in. And so

809
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:31,840
Speaker 1: presets are basically filters that you've made, and so that

810
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,360
Speaker 1: comes to app So light room, light room is my

811
00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:37,839
Speaker 1: favorite room I don't even know people made, but yeah,

812
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 1: you can buy them. You can buy presets on like

813
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:44,839
Speaker 1: let's see of however, you want your photo to look

814
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 1: and you throw it in the light room and it'll

815
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 1: just edit it. Yeah. Yeah, so like I have, like

816
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:56,319
Speaker 1: I have a couple of mine that way, even though

817
00:45:56,360 --> 00:45:59,120
Speaker 1: I have it maybe like a dark photo, the color

818
00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:01,000
Speaker 1: is kind of the same in the same So that way,

819
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:03,359
Speaker 1: when the eye is looking at my feed kind of

820
00:46:03,400 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 1: just all flows right. And I think it's more it's

821
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 1: it's more important to have a consistent feed for when

822
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: someone goes to your actual page exactly and they're seeing,

823
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 1: you know, the whole grid, do that anymore, but actually

824
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:21,479
Speaker 1: go to your whole feed to look they're just because

825
00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 1: if they're already that's I mean, y'all are like figures,

826
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:30,160
Speaker 1: So it would be nice. So it's not about like, oh,

827
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,759
Speaker 1: this one picture has to match the last picture the

828
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 1: last week. But it's like, oh, when people look at

829
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 1: my feed and its entirety, you don't want it to

830
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:40,239
Speaker 1: be all over the place. Okay you wait, wait, you

831
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 1: did not say what app that is a pencil? Why

832
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:48,799
Speaker 1: he's about at light room? Yes, okay, I'm going to add,

833
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 1: but you could also um tessa um. So she's a blogger.

834
00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 1: She well, she's a photographer who turned into a blogger.

835
00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:57,839
Speaker 1: And she made her own app, which I love too.

836
00:46:57,880 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 1: And she's got a whole bunch of already just put

837
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 1: in presets. You just put in your photo. You can

838
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 1: go through each presetz. T e z z Az has presets. Yeah,

839
00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:16,880
Speaker 1: those two I really really love them. Yeah you should.

840
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:19,360
Speaker 1: But the other thing is is what we've found in

841
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:22,480
Speaker 1: the photography world is a lot of these presets aren't

842
00:47:22,480 --> 00:47:25,919
Speaker 1: made for us our skin tone. You know, sometimes it wash.

843
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:28,479
Speaker 1: This is out. So that's where a lot of black

844
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:30,640
Speaker 1: bloggers came and said we're going to create our own.

845
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:35,200
Speaker 1: So you know, there's Chasing Denise. She's got Chase some Denise, Okay,

846
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:39,640
Speaker 1: Chasing Denise. There's Um Massani that's who I use. I

847
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:43,319
Speaker 1: love hers. Um. Who else? There? Mayor of Evans m

848
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 1: O S S O N y I. So do you

849
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:49,719
Speaker 1: find these on Instagram or is this an app? Um

850
00:47:49,760 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 1: you can find them? I believe they sell him on

851
00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 1: Etsy Creative Market. So this isn't like I go to

852
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: the app. Well you can do it, Tessa is an app, okay,

853
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:02,239
Speaker 1: but if you wanted the precess that we're really made

854
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:09,360
Speaker 1: for our yeah, there's a lot, right and so um

855
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:14,760
Speaker 1: I thought Etsy was just buying jewelry. I am people

856
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:19,719
Speaker 1: out here selling amazing things. Um, we don't have a

857
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:21,080
Speaker 1: whole lot of time. Now, we don't have a whole

858
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:23,200
Speaker 1: lot of time, so we have so I would like

859
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:27,400
Speaker 1: to kind of pull like the top thing that we

860
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:29,799
Speaker 1: got out of this today because I feel like there's

861
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 1: so many things right well, oh no, when we have

862
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 1: our questions, we have our social media, our reasonable shape. Yes, yeah,

863
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 1: we got a little bit more to cover. So before

864
00:48:40,080 --> 00:48:43,319
Speaker 1: we wrap up, Jin, is there anything so so you've done?

865
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:45,840
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people should realize, like

866
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:51,239
Speaker 1: almost everyone can monetize their Instagram somehow. So that's why

867
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:56,600
Speaker 1: it's important to put out great content, great pictures, great photos. Um,

868
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:59,239
Speaker 1: and you've done an awesome job and being able to

869
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 1: do that for yourself and so you know, just people

870
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:04,719
Speaker 1: who it's not just about looking cute on Instagram, it's

871
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:09,280
Speaker 1: about monetizing. So I suggest everyone please go to Jen's page,

872
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:14,719
Speaker 1: visit her blog, Instagram at Jen Jehan Pierre. Yes I

873
00:49:14,760 --> 00:49:19,279
Speaker 1: do www Jen jihon Pierre dot com. You can learn

874
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 1: a lot from her. And even if it's like you're

875
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 1: making a few bucks off of an Instagram post, you

876
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:26,600
Speaker 1: know why not? Why But that's why you want to

877
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 1: build a nice presence on Instagram. Yes, and you don't

878
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: want to leave any money on the table. And that's

879
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:36,360
Speaker 1: going to tie into helping with your confidence because you

880
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:38,080
Speaker 1: make a couple of couple of dollars a couple of

881
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:41,320
Speaker 1: coins and trust and believe your confidence is going to

882
00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:44,560
Speaker 1: increase absolutely. So do you have do you have any

883
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:47,960
Speaker 1: other important things that you want people to know to

884
00:49:48,160 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 1: hear anything that we didn't touch on. So when it

885
00:49:50,760 --> 00:49:52,799
Speaker 1: comes like social media, the one thing is I think

886
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:54,520
Speaker 1: a lot of people are like, well, this is what

887
00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 1: I like, so I'm going to post it. I do

888
00:49:56,360 --> 00:49:59,239
Speaker 1: that too, but I also have been doing it so long,

889
00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: I know what my audience like. At the end of

890
00:50:01,160 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 1: the day, it's what your audience wants to see. Because

891
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:07,200
Speaker 1: if you're posting things that nobody wants to see, it's

892
00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:09,640
Speaker 1: not going anywhere, especially if you're thinking that this is

893
00:50:09,680 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 1: going to be a business. So for me, it is

894
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:13,520
Speaker 1: a business, So I have to be marketable. I have

895
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:16,719
Speaker 1: to constantly do an audit of my insights, kind of

896
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 1: take a look and see what my demographics are, what

897
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 1: are people you know, enjoying. I mean, there's there's so

898
00:50:21,800 --> 00:50:24,399
Speaker 1: much to this like it's a whole other conversation. It's

899
00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 1: like a whole job. It really, I mean it really is.

900
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:31,879
Speaker 1: Use that's my full time job too. Um. But yeah,

901
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:33,800
Speaker 1: you have to do the audit. You have to really

902
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 1: take a look and see what are people engaging with,

903
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:38,359
Speaker 1: what do they want to see from you, and then

904
00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:41,600
Speaker 1: give them more of whatever it is that But then

905
00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 1: don't they get that? Change it? You can switch it up, Okay,

906
00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:47,920
Speaker 1: like I did. Um this morning, I had to do

907
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 1: a shoot for Amazon Groceries. But I was like, if

908
00:50:51,880 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 1: I put some groceries on my feet, people are only like,

909
00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: I'm not liking this some food, Like I'm not a

910
00:50:57,200 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 1: food block like food I post, I post some good food.

911
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:03,480
Speaker 1: I gotta look at your food. Okay, maybe not don't

912
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 1: don't please, You're gonna judgement, no judgment, no judgment, it's

913
00:51:07,320 --> 00:51:11,160
Speaker 1: no judgment. But I had to change it up. I

914
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 1: had to make it editorial. So I was in my

915
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:16,840
Speaker 1: kitchen with a fancy dress on, cutting up some vegetables

916
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:19,759
Speaker 1: because at the same way, I can tie in that

917
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,319
Speaker 1: this is about food, but it's going to stop them

918
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:24,799
Speaker 1: in their scroll. That makes sense. Yeah, that makes sense. Okay,

919
00:51:24,840 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 1: So so people need to be a little bit more

920
00:51:26,600 --> 00:51:30,120
Speaker 1: thoughtful when they're posting these pictures. So if they want

921
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 1: this to be a business, right, yes, So don't do

922
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:34,920
Speaker 1: what galla. So if you'll look at my page, just

923
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:36,319
Speaker 1: don't do what I do because I just throw up

924
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 1: any old thing. Um. You know you influenced me to

925
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:42,160
Speaker 1: buy something once though. Oh what did I do? That

926
00:51:42,360 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 1: leather body suit that has the biggest I bought that

927
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 1: after I saw Really Okay, I'm an influencer, y'all, it's all.

928
00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:54,400
Speaker 1: Did you take me? Did you make me feel good

929
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:57,400
Speaker 1: about myself? No, you didn't. You didn't want to help

930
00:51:57,440 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 1: me with my confidence. My confidence could have been low

931
00:51:59,640 --> 00:52:02,200
Speaker 1: that day. You tagging me would made me feel like, well,

932
00:52:02,480 --> 00:52:07,280
Speaker 1: I openness and I tagged you're right, right, right exactly exactly.

933
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:09,560
Speaker 1: But yeah, I remember I saw that on you and

934
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:13,200
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I need that. Yeah yeah, so

935
00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:17,360
Speaker 1: cutet fit me right now? But it was, um, yeah, So,

936
00:52:17,600 --> 00:52:20,840
Speaker 1: Jim John Pierre, you have been an amazing guest. You

937
00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:23,719
Speaker 1: have so much to share. It has been so fun. Um.

938
00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:26,720
Speaker 1: I love just talking to you because you do inspire

939
00:52:26,800 --> 00:52:30,640
Speaker 1: me to you know, you you let me know, like Robin,

940
00:52:30,760 --> 00:52:32,840
Speaker 1: people want to know what's going on. They want to

941
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:35,240
Speaker 1: see you more. You need to, you know, put stuff

942
00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:38,919
Speaker 1: out there and I'll get there one day. You're gonna

943
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:41,359
Speaker 1: get there because I'm gonna be still on you about it. Yeah.

944
00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 1: And to know that Robin, you know, especially you and

945
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:48,080
Speaker 1: I have the ability to brighten up somebody's day. I

946
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:50,759
Speaker 1: get anybody a little push, a little boost, and so

947
00:52:51,040 --> 00:52:52,440
Speaker 1: we have to be a little more conscious of it

948
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:54,919
Speaker 1: and and do it because if we can help others,

949
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:57,480
Speaker 1: that's what it's all about. You got that so right,

950
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:00,799
Speaker 1: and it could be so much. Yeah, So absolutely yes,

951
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:04,080
Speaker 1: and we just have to tune out the haters. I'm

952
00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 1: thankful that I don't have that. It's not I've gotten

953
00:53:08,560 --> 00:53:13,120
Speaker 1: something always I'm sure. I'm like, well, yeah, I know girl, yes,

954
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:17,359
Speaker 1: crooked thing because I left my retainer after a basketball tournament, right, yeah,

955
00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 1: but that but that makes unique. I was like, okay, alright,

956
00:53:22,840 --> 00:53:27,799
Speaker 1: So we have covered a whole lot, and you know, yes,

957
00:53:27,880 --> 00:53:29,880
Speaker 1: and we thank you so much. Jen, You're you're amazing

958
00:53:29,920 --> 00:53:32,879
Speaker 1: and we'll have you back. So don't don't go too far. Um.

959
00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:35,839
Speaker 1: But we have a new segment guys that we want

960
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:40,240
Speaker 1: to introduce to night and it is called Reasonable Talk

961
00:53:40,600 --> 00:53:44,279
Speaker 1: with our shadesters, okay, And we like to do a

962
00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 1: whole lot of social media interaction. We'll throw questions out,

963
00:53:48,480 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 1: always prepared to be prepared to listen and give us feedback. Yes,

964
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 1: And we love just asking people on the spot a

965
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:59,680
Speaker 1: question and we get such great feedback. Yes. So to

966
00:54:00,280 --> 00:54:03,920
Speaker 1: question was in line with the topic the episode. What

967
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:07,680
Speaker 1: are your physical insecurities? And I think this is such

968
00:54:07,719 --> 00:54:11,959
Speaker 1: a great question because you listeners are going to realize, Wow,

969
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:15,279
Speaker 1: most people have the same insecurities that I do, and

970
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:20,239
Speaker 1: so to hell with our insecurities, y'all insecurities be gone exactly.

971
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:22,759
Speaker 1: So I want to just share um a lot of

972
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:27,280
Speaker 1: the responses. Okay, So stomach is number one. Stomach, stomach,

973
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 1: and you said that absolutely foopa, yes, poopa, that's it.

974
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 1: So that food, but that's it. And I mean and

975
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 1: I and I feel like, you know, I have a

976
00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:42,520
Speaker 1: little foopa to um. Yeah, yah, I mean that that

977
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:45,200
Speaker 1: that thing is it is hard to get rid of, right,

978
00:54:45,400 --> 00:54:47,279
Speaker 1: you see, if you're super thin, you're still going to

979
00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:50,160
Speaker 1: have that a little something. So so the answer to

980
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 1: all of that is because we all have it, don't

981
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:56,800
Speaker 1: be insecure about it, right, Yeah, let it go? Absolutely, Yeah, absolutely,

982
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:59,479
Speaker 1: because and even though we know we have a food,

983
00:54:59,520 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 1: but like other people won't even notice it, right, you know,

984
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:09,279
Speaker 1: so skin, so whether it's discoloration under eye, you know,

985
00:55:09,520 --> 00:55:15,040
Speaker 1: dark under eyes, moles um skin was a big response.

986
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:18,960
Speaker 1: So everyone, you know you're you're not alone. Well, no

987
00:55:19,040 --> 00:55:21,279
Speaker 1: one's skin is perfect. That's just it is what it is.

988
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:25,480
Speaker 1: So understand that and why why are you trying to

989
00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:29,040
Speaker 1: reach for this perfection of skin? Right? Like God gave

990
00:55:29,080 --> 00:55:31,920
Speaker 1: you some skin, and be comfortable with the skin you in, right,

991
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:33,960
Speaker 1: And I just say, you know, I mean, I don't know.

992
00:55:34,040 --> 00:55:36,600
Speaker 1: I don't have like the magic pill for perfect skin.

993
00:55:36,719 --> 00:55:38,640
Speaker 1: But drink more water, you know, I think a lot

994
00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:42,440
Speaker 1: of times our skin does not look great or because

995
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:45,839
Speaker 1: we're not drinking enough. Water always comes from inside. Yeah,

996
00:55:45,920 --> 00:55:48,920
Speaker 1: absolutely so, so you know that. So we have stomach

997
00:55:49,000 --> 00:55:51,480
Speaker 1: number one? Skin was number two? What's the number three?

998
00:55:51,800 --> 00:55:58,200
Speaker 1: Just wait? Overall in general and yes, yes, especially after COVID,

999
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 1: I think you know a lot of us are not

1000
00:56:01,280 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 1: happy with our weight, but that is something very common.

1001
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 1: So but with the weight, I always feel like it's

1002
00:56:08,200 --> 00:56:10,000
Speaker 1: not necessarily about the weight, but you always want to

1003
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:14,439
Speaker 1: be be mindful of it because it's about your health,

1004
00:56:15,040 --> 00:56:19,120
Speaker 1: and it's about being healthy, living a healthy lifestyle, and people,

1005
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 1: you cannot continue to complain about your weight. But you're

1006
00:56:21,480 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 1: eating fried chicken. Um, you're not eating healthy. You're drinking

1007
00:56:25,400 --> 00:56:27,240
Speaker 1: a whole lot because you're hanging out with your girlfriends

1008
00:56:27,239 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 1: and y'all like talking about nonsense, like understand what you're

1009
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:32,480
Speaker 1: doing to your body. And I'm not saying don't do

1010
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:35,400
Speaker 1: those things, but just do things in moderation exactly. And

1011
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 1: it's not easy. It's not easy to be disciplined and

1012
00:56:39,160 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 1: to eat all the right things. But like you said,

1013
00:56:41,640 --> 00:56:45,279
Speaker 1: everything in moderation. So weight is a is a big one. Um.

1014
00:56:45,360 --> 00:56:49,520
Speaker 1: I thought I heard from some men saying, so the

1015
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:53,880
Speaker 1: men are insecure about their chesty. Okay, they want you know,

1016
00:56:53,960 --> 00:56:56,000
Speaker 1: they want to have a bigger chest. You know, maybe

1017
00:56:56,040 --> 00:56:57,680
Speaker 1: they have some man boobs that they want to get

1018
00:56:57,800 --> 00:57:00,480
Speaker 1: rid of, so that's an insecurity. Their hair are line,

1019
00:57:00,719 --> 00:57:03,960
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's the man. Oh yeah, yeah, you can

1020
00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:09,080
Speaker 1: get you know, theles or whatever it is. You just

1021
00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:12,959
Speaker 1: cut it off, just cut it off. I mean, bald

1022
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:16,400
Speaker 1: men are sexy, so I would rather And this is

1023
00:57:16,520 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 1: like every other week conversation in my house because one

1024
00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:22,040
Speaker 1: is like, oh it looks like my hair's going back,

1025
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 1: and I'm like, nah, you know what I mean. So,

1026
00:57:27,160 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 1: so it's that is definitely a big struggle. And then

1027
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:37,080
Speaker 1: we just have you know, nose crooked teeth, smiling, yeah yeah,

1028
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:41,960
Speaker 1: and arm yes, I have arm jiggle on here m aging.

1029
00:57:42,480 --> 00:57:46,240
Speaker 1: So I have one person that responded about aging. It

1030
00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:48,120
Speaker 1: was probably more than people, but but her response said,

1031
00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:50,880
Speaker 1: it used to be aging, but now I don't care.

1032
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:55,960
Speaker 1: And I love that if you're aging, you're living. So

1033
00:57:56,560 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 1: but it's also you should be grateful that you're aging.

1034
00:57:59,160 --> 00:58:02,760
Speaker 1: We're not dead, right right, absolutely absolutely so, and we're

1035
00:58:02,880 --> 00:58:06,920
Speaker 1: all going to age, all of us, and so you

1036
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:09,000
Speaker 1: know that's one thing. It's like, you know, we just

1037
00:58:09,440 --> 00:58:11,120
Speaker 1: I think we should just feel blessed that we are

1038
00:58:11,160 --> 00:58:16,919
Speaker 1: aging and get botox. Yes, but people should know, like, look,

1039
00:58:17,280 --> 00:58:19,680
Speaker 1: if you feel you're feeling insecure about something, do something

1040
00:58:19,720 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 1: about it, Like, don't just wallow in your insecurities, do

1041
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:25,680
Speaker 1: something about it. Strive. I always say that I strive

1042
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:30,240
Speaker 1: for my greatest self and that is a daily personal

1043
00:58:30,560 --> 00:58:33,960
Speaker 1: struggle and strive that I that I have for myself

1044
00:58:34,040 --> 00:58:36,200
Speaker 1: and I try to instill it in my kids. So

1045
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 1: you know that's my recommendation, just strive for greatness, right,

1046
00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 1: but they're not perfection. Yeah, I agree, but there's some

1047
00:58:42,000 --> 00:58:45,160
Speaker 1: things that maybe are hard to change or can't be changed.

1048
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:49,120
Speaker 1: I eat my big shoulders, right, so I don't see

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Speaker 1: is never going down. So you know, just focus on

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Speaker 1: the other things that you are confident of every single day.

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Speaker 1: Look at yourself in the marriort might sound cheesy, would

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Speaker 1: just be like, wow, my shoulders are beautiful. It's like

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Speaker 1: the perfect hanger for so strong. But if you think

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Speaker 1: about it, mannequins always have like hanger shoulders, so technically

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Speaker 1: you're like the perfect mannequin. Yes, Robin you okay, I'll

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Speaker 1: take it. Thank you all right, I think that might

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Speaker 1: be our show. That is our show. I hope you

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Speaker 1: all enjoyed it, and I hope you tune in next week. Yes,

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Speaker 1: And next week, yep, we'll be here being reasonable and shady.

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