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Speaker 1: Um, So I'm thinking about what marriage is and why

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Speaker 1: people get married. Some young people get married they want

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Speaker 1: someone to take care of them. They're looking for a

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Speaker 1: partner who will take care of them. Some men and

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Speaker 1: women want the right partner to have a child with.

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Speaker 1: You know, it's almost like a baby MoMA or a

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Speaker 1: baby daddy. A person would be a good parent, a

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Speaker 1: good father. I mean, there are different reasons, and as

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Speaker 1: we get older, I think about what does marriage mean?

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Speaker 1: So what does marriage mean? I was just talking to

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Speaker 1: a friend of mine and she has a girlfriend who

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Speaker 1: was married to a fairly a wealthy man who passed away,

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Speaker 1: left her money. She has a child, and she's in

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Speaker 1: a relationship. And I guess the guy was in a

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Speaker 1: previous relationship which wasn't that positive, and he felt like

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Speaker 1: he didn't really know the person until they got married

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Speaker 1: and then all the truth came out and they are divorced.

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Speaker 1: And I guess in this relationship, one of the two

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Speaker 1: parties doesn't want to get married again. And my friend

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Speaker 1: was saying, like, why does that person keep saying that

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Speaker 1: in their relationship? But I'm like, why wouldn't they say

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Speaker 1: that it's not something that they want? You're allowed to

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Speaker 1: not want to get married in particularly if you have

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Speaker 1: kids and you've been and you've been divorced. And why

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Speaker 1: because getting married as a contract, you're getting into a

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Speaker 1: legal agreement with someone. If you're smart, you are getting

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Speaker 1: a pre nup. You're getting into another legal agreement with someone.

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Speaker 1: Some people have postnups, getting into another legal agreement with someone.

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Speaker 1: And in many cases, the person getting married wants to

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Speaker 1: protect either their wealth or whatever they might make Another

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Speaker 1: person White Mott might want to protect that they would

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Speaker 1: they might not get anything they've raised. I don't want

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Speaker 1: to like make this man and women because this could

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Speaker 1: be in a gay relationship. This could be the woman

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Speaker 1: could be the moneyed spouse. I'm just saying traditionally, uh,

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Speaker 1: it's more common that the man is the moneyed spouse.

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Speaker 1: For other reasons in the world that are problematic. The

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Speaker 1: man is the moneyed spouse, and then the woman sometimes

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Speaker 1: and be a stay at home mom, and then they

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Speaker 1: can get lot left with nothing. This is a big topic.

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Speaker 1: This is a separate topic, but I'm talking about um.

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Speaker 1: If people have kids and are divorced, is there a

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Speaker 1: reason to get legally married. Is it because someone is

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Speaker 1: legally bound to you? Is it because of what it?

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Speaker 1: What you're showing everyone. For example, Theresa Jude married the

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Speaker 1: guy Louie, no pre nup. They seem like a great partnership.

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Speaker 1: They seem happy for whatever reason. Maybe it's because she's

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Speaker 1: Catholic or Italian, like, if you're gonna have sex, you

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Speaker 1: should be married. I don't know the reasons, but some

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Speaker 1: people really believe him, and I wonder um as people

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Speaker 1: are getting older, what their goals are for a marriage

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Speaker 1: versus a relationship. I also see a lot more non

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Speaker 1: traditional relationships. I know people. I was at someone's house

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Speaker 1: recently where she had a dinner in one room and

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Speaker 1: her girlfriend's over. And they lived together, so they have

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Speaker 1: a base together, and they're always together. So they do

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Speaker 1: something separately, and they travel sometimes separately, and they have

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Speaker 1: separate interests. That doesn't mean they're not an amazing relationship.

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Speaker 1: It just means that that's less what you think of

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Speaker 1: when you're twenty four getting married, when you think of,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, I want a partner and a soulmate,

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Speaker 1: and you want to sort of be a little codependent

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Speaker 1: and what are we doing and what are we eating?

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Speaker 1: And where we going? And then the wheels come off

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Speaker 1: and you realize you're actually two different, living, breathing human beings.

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Speaker 1: So how do you make your own journey and a

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Speaker 1: relationship while being a good partner? How do you get

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Speaker 1: everything or not everything? How do you get what you

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Speaker 1: want out of a relationshship within a partnership? I think

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Speaker 1: that's something that people struggle with. Why I like this

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Speaker 1: and this person doesn't like that. I have a girlfriend

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Speaker 1: when they dating the guy, I wanted to go out

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Speaker 1: all the time they've been married all these years, that

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Speaker 1: know he's a dud. Does that mean they're a bad

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Speaker 1: she's supposed to find other places to find that outlet?

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Speaker 1: What does a relationship me? And it means? Is it

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Speaker 1: someone who you think of it's just your family. Is

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Speaker 1: supports you financially, someone that supports you emotionally, someone that's

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Speaker 1: a great parent, even though you're not maybe connected to

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Speaker 1: them anymore, but they're just a good parent. Like, what

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Speaker 1: are the different reasons that make people get into relationships,

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Speaker 1: stay into relationships, and actually feel that they need to

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Speaker 1: be legally married? That's what I want to get into.

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Speaker 1: I really want to hear a lot more about that

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Speaker 1: from you. Where white after Labor Day? Just how stupid

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Speaker 1: could we be? A color is associated with a goddamn holiday?

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Speaker 1: Where white? Whatever you want? Where white any day except

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Speaker 1: for a funeral? Where white anytime you want? Where it

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Speaker 1: in the dead of winter? Do what the funk you want?

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Speaker 1: White after labor Day? What a stupid rule? Cares? Oh

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Speaker 1: my god. I recently had an assistant in interviewing me, Hey,

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Speaker 1: so how much in person is it actually? And I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, like feeling now all of us like

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Speaker 1: I'm Caterine, I'm being interviewed, like I don't I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Um a lot. So what we used to call job

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Speaker 1: in person and you actually have to go to it.

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Speaker 1: I know that sounds weird and creepy in this day

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Speaker 1: and age, but yeah, it's like a lot. Well what

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Speaker 1: percentage is it? Is it a hybrid. What's the model?

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Speaker 1: Is it a hybrid model? Like, it's not a fucking

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Speaker 1: electric vehicle. It's a job. Is it a hybrid model? Um,

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Speaker 1: it's a job. What are the hours exactly late? You

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Speaker 1: think Linda Bruckheimer when I was sorting, sorting fucking vitamins

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Speaker 1: And think about how Jerry Bruckheimer was gonna want his

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Speaker 1: to like know exactly what he was gonna want at

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Speaker 1: each restaurant, called the restaurant ahead, It's time to tell

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Speaker 1: the movie theater seats waiting for him to come. I

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Speaker 1: got the popcorn. At the Jerry Brooke, I'm his ass

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Speaker 1: fucking Christmas gifts and I was working for Jerry Brockheimer morning,

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Speaker 1: noon and fucking night. I was really working for Linda.

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Speaker 1: But a couple of things would be for Jerry morning, noon,

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Speaker 1: and motherfucking night. You know what, when does the job start?

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Speaker 1: Whenever you goddamn want me there? What time? What are

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Speaker 1: the hours exactly? Oh so that means I'm gonna be

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Speaker 1: on a train for forty minutes. I'm like, yeah, there

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Speaker 1: are actually there are people that bill there that have

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Speaker 1: people that get on the goddamn train. The businessman, grown

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Speaker 1: up businessmen that run millions of dollars of people's portfolios

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Speaker 1: getting on a train. No, the twenty four year old

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Speaker 1: wants to know exactly in you know, in a syllabus

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Speaker 1: of exactly how many hours it's going to be, how

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Speaker 1: many are on TikTok, and many are when when they're

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Speaker 1: you know, swiping. I was like, get the funk outta here.

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Speaker 1: A board. You know what I said to my person

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Speaker 1: I work with on my team, the president my company,

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Speaker 1: who was on this interview A board A board I

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