1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:02,720 Speaker 1: Let's go buckle up and hold on time. We got 2 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:05,960 Speaker 1: it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. All right, subjects, 3 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:10,200 Speaker 1: stop wandering all over my house, Dear Stephen Shirley. My 4 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: in laws make me very uncomfortable in my own home. 5 00:00:14,880 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: My husband's family was cool before I married my husband, 6 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:20,360 Speaker 1: and I didn't get to see how uncouth they were 7 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:23,799 Speaker 1: until I moved in with my husband after the wedding. 8 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: They basically have no home training and feel like our 9 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 1: house is their house, so they're welcome to anything we have. 10 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:35,199 Speaker 1: My mother in law thinks it's okay to walk freely 11 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 1: all over my house when they visit. It's like she 12 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: has lost something and can't find it, so she goes 13 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:44,880 Speaker 1: from room to room. My father in law goes into 14 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 1: my refrigerator without asking and will heat up leftovers if 15 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:51,559 Speaker 1: there's anything in there he wants. I often cook for 16 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:53,959 Speaker 1: the week for my husband and I, and more than 17 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: once his dad has come in and fixed himself a plate. 18 00:00:57,760 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: We have a guest bathroom on our main but my 19 00:01:00,680 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: in laws always use the guest bathroom that is upstairs. 20 00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 1: It's very disrespectful to wander all over our house like 21 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:11,160 Speaker 1: that without asking. My husband was raised by these no 22 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:14,959 Speaker 1: manners having people, so he doesn't see it as a problem. 23 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 1: He said, he's so glad they're comfortable in our home 24 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:21,639 Speaker 1: when they're visiting. Now, when they come over, I close 25 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:25,279 Speaker 1: our master bedroom door and our home office door because 26 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: those areas are off limit. It became an issue and 27 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:32,600 Speaker 1: my inlaws asked if everything was okay because it seemed 28 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 1: like we had something to hide. They can't seem to 29 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,679 Speaker 1: take a hit. How can I get this under control 30 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: before it gets worse. We're a newly married couple and 31 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:45,760 Speaker 1: this is my biggest problem thus far. And this is 32 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: a major problem. Jay Anthony Brown. Look, I know this 33 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: has got to be a crazy situation for you. I'm 34 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: really sorry because I mean really, like you said, if 35 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 1: you can't feel comfortable in your own home, where can 36 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: you be comfortable? I mean, really, this is your house. 37 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:07,560 Speaker 1: People walk around naked in their house. Okay, you can't 38 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:10,920 Speaker 1: do that. You cannot do that because you never know 39 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:13,080 Speaker 1: when your in laws are going to pop up and start, 40 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 1: you know, walking through the house and going through your 41 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 1: refrigerator and your things. It's a good thing you closed 42 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:21,640 Speaker 1: off your master bedroom door. It's a good thing you 43 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:24,320 Speaker 1: closed off your home office door. How about let's getting 44 00:02:24,320 --> 00:02:28,120 Speaker 1: that bathroom, that guest bathroom upstairs. Let's close that door now, 45 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:31,280 Speaker 1: and then you know, when you go downstairs, close some 46 00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: of those doors too. Maybe then they will take a 47 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: hint to stop this. This is crazy, and your husband 48 00:02:39,040 --> 00:02:41,799 Speaker 1: is the problem because he doesn't see anything wrong with it. 49 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:43,919 Speaker 1: But you have to let him know how you feel. 50 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 1: There's going to have to be a family meeting. Your 51 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: husband's going to have to align with you, unite with 52 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 1: you his wife. You know, you leave and cleave your 53 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: family and then you join with your wife. That's how 54 00:02:57,040 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: a marriage is supposed to go phyblically. Okay, uh, you 55 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 1: know if we if we follow that, but you guys 56 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:06,360 Speaker 1: have to have a family meeting and just tell them, 57 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:09,959 Speaker 1: tell them nicely, respectfully. I say, they can't wander through 58 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 1: your house. This is your home, or you know, I mean, 59 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 1: they can't do this. This is wrong, it's disrespectful. It's 60 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:21,800 Speaker 1: all of that. Have a family meeting as soon as possible. 61 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: Let your husband lead if he can, let him know 62 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: how uncomfortable you are, how unhappy you are, and if 63 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:29,399 Speaker 1: he wants a happy life, he knows that he has 64 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: to make his wife happy. So hopefully this will work. 65 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 1: If if that doesn't work, then you're gonna have to 66 00:03:35,040 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: get locks on your refrigerator and all this other stuff 67 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: so they won't get through. This is terrible, This is really, 68 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: this is real. This is your home. This is your home, 69 00:03:43,760 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: all right? All right? Come on, Jay, what you can 70 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: I talk to the two people. It's your turn in 71 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:53,480 Speaker 1: the house right now, the oldest people here. That would 72 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 1: be you two right here right now. Follow me. We're 73 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: gonna walk through the house and I'm gonna lay down 74 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: some ru. Now, this is my refrigerator. Okay, if you 75 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: didn't put nothing in there, don't take your ass in there. Okay, 76 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: all right, I walk with me. Walk with me, now, 77 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:08,240 Speaker 1: walk with me. We're going somewhere. Okay, we're going somewhere, 78 00:04:08,520 --> 00:04:11,000 Speaker 1: this lindry room. I don't want your ass roaming around 79 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:14,000 Speaker 1: up in here. Okay, I got everything straighten out. Don't 80 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: go in there, all right, Walk with me, Walk with 81 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: me walking. I'm gonna keep up, keep up. We're gon 82 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: we're going upstairs, all right, this room, this room, in 83 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: this room. In fact, y'all stay downstairs and you're not 84 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,479 Speaker 1: allowed to take your butt upstairs. Okay, when you come 85 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 1: over here. Look at me, old people, look at me. 86 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: Look at my eye, Look at my eyes. When we 87 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 1: come over. I'm sitting in these two chairs right here. Grandpa, 88 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 1: you sit here, My mom, you sit over there, all right, 89 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: and that's gonna be it. I don't want to hit 90 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:43,160 Speaker 1: nothing else. No, no, no, no nothing, that's it. I 91 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: like zip it, zip it. Okay. I'm not trying to 92 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:51,839 Speaker 1: be disrespectful, but I don't need you to old people 93 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:55,480 Speaker 1: roaming your ass all around my damn house. Okay, now 94 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:57,600 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say it no more. I've said it. 95 00:04:57,720 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 1: No you ain't done with it. I'm done. Okay, yeah, okay, 96 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: it's all to say. J all right, thank you, Jay, 97 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: Come on, junior. Job. You know this, this, this, this 98 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: lady here that this is the best advice I have. 99 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:17,040 Speaker 1: I've seen people like this, but um, pretty much what 100 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:20,080 Speaker 1: she needs really is a traumatic experience at her house. 101 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 1: You see, something traumatic got to happen over the control. 102 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:26,159 Speaker 1: You know, trauma keep people away. And so what I 103 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 1: suggest is you stage a robbery. Stage a robbery at 104 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:36,520 Speaker 1: your house. Now. Now, now, I got some cousins you 105 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 1: can hide, and they real teeth. They're not expensive, but 106 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: they fount one hundred twenty five. We can get these 107 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:48,280 Speaker 1: family members gone. They have they have three packages they offer. Uh. 108 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 1: They have one call the close encounter. That that's where 109 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 1: they meet you out in the driveway and you just 110 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 1: had a close encounter. Secondly, they could come out at 111 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: and meet up with them. That's called scared straight. But 112 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 1: the one I recommend is damn near Dan. That package 113 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,840 Speaker 1: that's where y'all leave a house they come in. This 114 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:16,920 Speaker 1: involves tape. Uh, it involves being bound duct tape left 115 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:20,760 Speaker 1: in that threefold day. Hold on Junior, hold on, hold on, 116 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:24,560 Speaker 1: and uh come on with and wrap up with Junior's 117 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:26,840 Speaker 1: part two responds, and then of course we have to 118 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 1: get to the nephew. The subject is stop wandering all 119 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,840 Speaker 1: over my house. We all thought Jannathony Brown wrote this letter, 120 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:39,280 Speaker 1: but this was from a new wife, newly married, young lady. Uh. 121 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 1: She's upset about her in laws. She's very uncomfortable uh 122 00:06:43,120 --> 00:06:46,480 Speaker 1: in her own home because when they come over, they 123 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:49,600 Speaker 1: wander through the house like it's theirs. They're all in 124 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 1: the refrigerator fixing food, leftovers, food that she's cooked for 125 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,920 Speaker 1: her and her husband. They're all upstairs using the guest 126 00:06:57,040 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 1: bathroom when there's a perfectly fine gas bathroom down downstairs. 127 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:03,479 Speaker 1: The mother in law things, it's okay just to walk 128 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 1: through freely through like she's lost something and can't find it. 129 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:12,200 Speaker 1: The dad's all up in the refrigerator fixing himself. Plate um, 130 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,920 Speaker 1: it's very disrespectful, she's saying, uh, And they do it 131 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 1: without asking. They don't see it as a problem that 132 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: her husband doesn't see it as a problem because this 133 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: is how he was raised. So she's just trying to 134 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:28,239 Speaker 1: figure out, uh, you know, what should she what should 135 00:07:28,280 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: she do? She's tried to close off doors upstairs to 136 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 1: the master bedroom and to the home office, but they 137 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: still haven't taken a hint. Uh. She wants to know 138 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 1: how can she get it under control before it gets worse? Junior, 139 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:45,120 Speaker 1: we left off with him saying he has some cousins 140 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 1: and they can fix it if they stage robbery. Go ahead, 141 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:51,040 Speaker 1: finish your friends now. These cousins of mind have packages 142 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 1: that they need get purchased. Now. They got the first 143 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 1: package that you need. You need a traumatic experience at 144 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: your house with these in laws. Came down the first package. 145 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 1: Close encounter them, meet him in the driveway. You know, 146 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 1: scam a little bit. Second one is uh scared straight. 147 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: That's what they're show up at night and meet him 148 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: outside dacre. But the one we recommend is the damn 149 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 1: near dead. When they damn near died at your house, 150 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 1: they won't come back. See all these places they like 151 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: to roam. My cousins will be all in these rooms. 152 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 1: So you know she liked to go upstairs. You're the bathroom. 153 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 1: Got a cousin gonna come out there, Grab her, tie 154 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 1: hu up, bring her down to the living room. Then, daddy, 155 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: I got a cousin just talked up to fit in 156 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: a refrigerator. He pop out soon, Take him down and 157 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 1: tie him up, bring him all out of the living room. 158 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: Day anybody in there now? They leave him. Then they 159 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:41,079 Speaker 1: fire two times at the house. That way they will 160 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: ever come back. When you come back off vacation, like 161 00:08:44,160 --> 00:08:46,120 Speaker 1: what happened, they're gonna say, girl, we got to go 162 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 1: this old Do you fire a warning shot? That's the 163 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:55,320 Speaker 1: shot that let them know you get when you find 164 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:58,079 Speaker 1: they're gonna have tears coming down they face. You need 165 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:02,839 Speaker 1: all of that. I like you all right, thank you, 166 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:06,400 Speaker 1: thank you, all right, here we go, nephew, stop wandering 167 00:09:06,520 --> 00:09:09,240 Speaker 1: all over at my house. Help this young lady out 168 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 1: them all right if if you don't want to kill them. 169 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:16,360 Speaker 1: From Junior's perspective, I'm gonna scare you a different way. 170 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you a different way. Put that naked 171 00:09:19,240 --> 00:09:24,520 Speaker 1: on them, naked on them when they come over, greet 172 00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:27,600 Speaker 1: him at the front door, but ass naked. Hey, y'all, 173 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:29,959 Speaker 1: come on it. We wanted to go coming by today. 174 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: Come on in lit room, stay naked, don't change, Go 175 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:36,679 Speaker 1: to the frigerator, pull out something, form neckt throw some 176 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 1: on the stove. Form naked. When they come to the bathroom, 177 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 1: dobe wide open. You're sitting there naked. Let them see 178 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:46,839 Speaker 1: you in your nakedness and just run it up and 179 00:09:47,160 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 1: run it on them all over the house. Ass naked, 180 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:53,360 Speaker 1: and I promise you this, or run them all but 181 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 1: get up close to him. You're talking to him like 182 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: you damn thee up on them naked touch the naked 183 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 1: touch Jemmy, huh. Family meeting, Family meeting. Na. I want 184 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:09,520 Speaker 1: to talk to y'all about the man. Spread time me 185 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 1: with the man's bread. Don't don't you put your knees together, 186 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 1: bring them out, bring over when you sit down. You 187 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:24,079 Speaker 1: don't have that cloth or your knee like you out 188 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:29,080 Speaker 1: that put that naked all hey, reach set your glass 189 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 1: down next? Yes, yes, drop something on the floor in 190 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:34,839 Speaker 1: front of and been over to pick it up and 191 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: wait wait it okay to scratch while you talk. You 192 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: can scratch. You can scratch, you can do anything. Just 193 00:10:43,800 --> 00:10:46,240 Speaker 1: keep it naked when you when you're talking to somebody, 194 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:48,240 Speaker 1: go over and throw your arm around. Come over here 195 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 1: and let me talk to you boys, let me tell 196 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 1: you something, and just just hit them with it naked. 197 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:56,679 Speaker 1: But Jay, after that, after that, will the laws ever 198 00:10:56,800 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: come over? And what will they say? Oh my god, 199 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 1: we had time. The boy came to the dope, but 200 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:11,760 Speaker 1: as naked had snatched and nigked. I could not believe it. 201 00:11:12,040 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 1: Unbelievable that naked right there, gonna do it, I'm telling you. Yeah, yeah, wow. 202 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 1: Well listen, that's what we had for you today. Okay, 203 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 1: three different ways right now. If yeah, before that naked 204 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 1: don't work, I got three, I got my cousin three 205 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 1: feet goon and Tyree take care of right away. Surely. 206 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:40,720 Speaker 1: Yours was the family meeting. Huh. Jay's was the tour 207 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:44,439 Speaker 1: of the house, walked through. The walk through Junior was 208 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 1: what just damn near deadly a robbery and then mine 209 00:11:51,200 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: was just ass naked. I guess all right, guys, you 210 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 1: can leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram 211 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: and Steve Harvey FM. Don't forget to check out the 212 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter podcast. That's right, it's on demand. You're listening 213 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 1: to the Stay of Harvey Morning show.