WEBVTT - Featuring Meghan Trainor 0:00:02.880 --> 0:00:06.120 Megan, I am so happy about this interview, especially since 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:09.600 you are our first reoccurring guest on the podcast. So 0:00:09.960 --> 0:00:13.440 thank you so much for coming back. So things are 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:16.120 having me back. I'm so excited. So much has happened 0:00:16.120 --> 0:00:19.040 since we last saw each other a pandemic, You had 0:00:19.079 --> 0:00:21.840 a baby. I was in high school, now in college. 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:25.239 There's so much to catch up on. First of all, 0:00:25.320 --> 0:00:29.560 how's being a mom. It's the greatest thing ever. Um. 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:31.720 I always wanted to be a mom, so I knew 0:00:31.720 --> 0:00:33.200 would be good, but I didn't know beat this good. 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:35.680 And he recently got glasses and he's just I didn't 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:39.199 think he could get cuter, and he's so cute it hurts, 0:00:39.400 --> 0:00:41.440 and I just keep going, Oh, I want more, you know, 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:45.880 I want four babies. Four that's a very specific number. Yes, 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:48.040 it's a lot. We're like trying to name the rest 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:50.680 of them already, and everyone's like, are you gonna do 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:52.479 like our names? Are you going to change it up? 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:54.480 That's what I was like, We we have to figure 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:56.200 this out right now, because we either have to do 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:59.080 all ours or we have to go right. He's Lali's 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:00.840 you know, like they all of this sound the same 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:03.320 or something. Our biggest thing is we don't want to 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:06.800 name him after anybody or name our babies after anyone. 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:09.320 And we don't like if you know someone who's like 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:13.680 a bad person with that name name, it ruins a name. 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:16.240 So I'll be like, oh my god, what about this name? 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:18.520 And Daryl's like I hate that guy. I'm like, okay, 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:21.760 you know, so we have to both not know anyone 0:01:21.800 --> 0:01:23.880 in the world with that name. Do you go through 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:27.319 the baby books? Oh, I go through the websites that 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:30.560 are like unisex names, and like, I like names that 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:32.280 could be for a boy or a girl. That's my 0:01:32.319 --> 0:01:35.280 favorite too, so I'm really narrowing it down, like Dylan 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:38.440 or Sean or Ryan Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. My 0:01:38.480 --> 0:01:41.240 brother's name Ryan. So I'm like, I already lost that one. 0:01:41.400 --> 0:01:46.039 That's an our name too. I know it's perfect rip. 0:01:46.600 --> 0:01:49.400 I might deserve it for like a daughter, so cute, 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:52.560 for a daughter that couldn't be nuts for a redheaded 0:01:52.560 --> 0:01:55.520 spy kid, that's it. Yeah, it would break your name 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:58.440 after rule, but because it's a girl, it doesn't count. Yeah, 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:00.360 Like we knew, right, I wanted a girl name Riley, 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:02.640 but then and we knew the name, and then that 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:04.080 they were like at the boy, and I was like, 0:02:04.240 --> 0:02:06.480 we're keeping the name. Was it a surprise? Did you 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:09.280 know the gender? They called me at ten weeks they 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:12.000 could do a blood test now sick. I was like, 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:14.440 I need to know now, and she was like, actually 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:18.600 it's a boy. And I was like, oh oh, I'd 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:23.480 be the exactly anticipation of not knowing for nine months. No, 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:26.600 I have no. I think people are crazy that they 0:02:26.639 --> 0:02:29.400 can achieve that patience. My mom did that with both 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:33.399 of us, and I was like, how no, no, no, 0:02:33.400 --> 0:02:35.680 no no. And then when people are like, you just 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:37.240 have to see the baby's face and then you'll know 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:41.440 the name. Wrong. Baby looks completely every week. That baby changes, 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:43.880 like you have a whole brand new baby every week. 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:47.919 Newborns looks so different than the baby. Oh yeah, especially 0:02:47.960 --> 0:02:50.080 if you push it out there aliens for at least 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:53.920 a couple of weeks. Like ruly, yeah, really was having 0:02:53.919 --> 0:02:59.119 a C section scary, terrifying. I've never had stitches. I've 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:01.760 never had You're right, dude. I was like, I've had 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.320 vocal surgery, but I was asleep this you have to 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:07.160 be awake, you have to be awake, and they come 0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:11.000 out in seven minutes. But you hear everything, you smell everything. 0:03:11.880 --> 0:03:13.800 You I was like, am I going to be moving? 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:17.800 They're like no, bit, I was on a rollercoaster. I 0:03:17.840 --> 0:03:21.640 was like okay. And then he came out and he 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:25.200 wasn't breathing. I was like, where's that cry wasn't breathing. 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:27.720 They took him to the nikki and they're like, dad, 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:29.400 do you want to stay here with wife or do 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:31.040 you want to go to a baby? And I was 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:33.920 like you stay and the doctor was like you should 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:37.360 go with a baby, and I was like, you betrayed me. 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:39.120 And so he left and I was alone for forty 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:41.960 five minutes getting so back up and you didn't get 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:45.240 to meet him right now. I got to see him 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:46.760 for one second and they took him away and I 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:49.440 was like, wow, that didn't go. I was so drugged 0:03:49.480 --> 0:03:52.119 up though that I was like, hey, he's fine. Were 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:55.640 the drugs so great? But yeah? Yeah, I mean I 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:57.880 was at ease. Like my mom was like crying on 0:03:57.880 --> 0:03:59.560 the phone because she couldn't be with me because of COVID, 0:03:59.600 --> 0:04:01.480 So she was are you okay? And I was like 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:05.280 he's good, Like I'm chilling, yeah, And then I talked 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:07.480 about it like weeks after with my therapist and she's like, 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:10.200 so you definitely have some PTSD, Like we have a 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:11.840 little trauma. We're gonna work on that. That was a 0:04:11.840 --> 0:04:17.760 traumatic birth and I was like, oh for that to happen. Um, 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:19.920 he was planning for a c session because he was breached, 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:22.080 like he was not in any kind of position to 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:24.720 be pushed out and he flipped right at the end. 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:28.400 And I was like, did you know so? And I 0:04:28.440 --> 0:04:30.600 was like watching every video on how to give birth. 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:32.280 I watched my aunt give birth twice. I was like, 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:34.320 I'm ready and then they're like C section. I was like, 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:38.200 I haven't seen these videos yet, like my research. Yeah, 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:41.080 I would get an epidural. I have nothing to please. 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:44.320 Uh no, you need it. I need it. I need 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:47.599 that epidural. My friend Hilary Duff has home births, which 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:50.160 you can't have any drugs for that. She's a hero. 0:04:51.200 --> 0:04:53.200 I want to be. I want to be around doctors 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:56.200 just for like my anxiety. Me too. Write I was like, 0:04:56.200 --> 0:04:58.920 I want to be tubed up. I want the oxygen clothes, 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:02.080 I want the nicky right everything just in case, because 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:04.839 I feel like the worst case scenarios. Oh yeah, I 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:07.320 go to death every time if I say good bye 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:08.840 to my it's a problem working on. When I say 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:10.400 good bye to anyone, I'm like, you'll probably get in 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:11.960 a car accident. I'll never see you. Get it. That's 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:14.680 how let's go by. It's a real thing I'm working on. 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:17.240 That is actually really funny you say that, because I 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:20.559 used to have horrific separation anxiety, and I would always 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:23.160 I couldn't do sleepovers, and I would always think if 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:24.760 I want to sleep over that I would either die 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:30.320 or my parents would die. Wow. Yeah, and therapy helped, 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:36.600 see and now I don't have those Wow, that's amazing. 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:39.960 We have a lot in common, Megan, we do. I 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:45.000 feel you girl, stay in that therapy. It's amazing. Really. 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:48.760 What's the hardest part about having a kid that no 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:52.320 one told you about? I guess I wasn't warned a 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:55.279 lot of like when they fall, like you have to 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:58.359 You're gonna just watch it happen, you know, and you 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.000 have to try to not go what baby, you know, 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:04.080 which I do, and Daryl's like, calm, come, you know, 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:07.599 they look how you react to Yeah, no one really 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:10.320 talks about, like, I don't know, when they fall it 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:12.640 hurts if they're in any pain, if he has a cold, 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:15.000 You're just like, oh my god, you're as happy as 0:06:15.000 --> 0:06:17.240 your least happy as kid, which is real. What has 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:21.200 been the most interesting part of seeing your son grow? 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:23.960 That is just like, oh my goodness, he's like a human. Aw. 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:27.880 I guess like the eyesight part, Like I didn't realize 0:06:27.880 --> 0:06:30.240 too when they're infants there like they can only see 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:33.599 a certain distance, So that was bizarre, Like they're literally 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:36.919 learning how to see and breathe and eat and swallow. 0:06:37.360 --> 0:06:40.320 Something that's so refreshing about Like what you post in 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:43.600 your content is just that it's honest and you're not 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:46.839 showing the easy parts, which I feel like is what 0:06:47.000 --> 0:06:49.479 social media is off in a highlight reel. So what 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:51.680 made you want to get more into social media? Because 0:06:51.920 --> 0:06:56.360 you're you have the podcast now pick talk with social 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:59.760 media expert. How what made you open up more and 0:06:59.760 --> 0:07:03.520 not those platforms? Um? I mean, I think like the 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:06.560 pandemic showed me that we can work from home. And 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:09.279 I enjoy working from home because usually we're on the 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:12.000 road constantly, and now with a baby, I'm trying to 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:14.160 do more work from home so I could see him 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:17.000 and be with him. So I think a podcast with 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:19.559 my brother too. Was just like a fun extra way 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:24.400 to have therapy with him. And we've had many family breakthroughs. 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.880 So if you ever, like are struggling with a family member, 0:07:28.000 --> 0:07:30.480 just start a podcast and you just talk for an 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:33.520 hour a day. It's great. What's the biggest thing? Being 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:37.600 on a podcast has taught you? Um that there's other 0:07:37.640 --> 0:07:40.480 people out there that feel exactly how you feel. It's 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:44.720 very nice. It's very nice. And it's like watching Ryan 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:48.080 talk about his sobriety and how many people comment like, Yo, 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:50.480 I'm going through the same thing and you talking about 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:53.240 it really helps me. Like watching him see how his 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:57.640 words impact others out there is a beautiful thing and 0:07:57.680 --> 0:07:59.200 it's like something and not a lot of people get 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:01.960 to experience. So that was the best part. And I'm 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:04.120 so beyond proud of him. I think he's the coolest. 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:07.640 He's like my favorite person ever. So watching him become 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:10.680 a better person because he's been working on it has 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:13.800 been the best part of our lives. How is the podcast? 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:15.880 Has it made you guys closer or has it brought 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:18.080 some tension? Because I know working with family can bring 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:22.080 some Oh, it's definitely made us closer. Well, I always 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:24.680 worked with my family, so we're not like that luckily 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:27.560 think thank god. Um, but he used to be my 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:29.800 camera guy forever and he never was like I want 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:31.840 to take pictures. I just like threw a camera in 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:34.160 his hands and he was like okay, and he was 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:36.959 like I'm not even looking, but sure. And I think 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:39.320 over years of that, he wanted to quit and we 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:41.559 got into a big blow up. Um, and that was 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:44.480 like the last time we drank. So that was him 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:46.080 trying to say I want to quit, but not like 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:47.719 upset you. And I was like, I want you to 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:51.480 quit and not freak out. So it was, um, this 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:54.040 is a new lane where he's like working and he's 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:57.360 in front of the camera and he is really honest 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:00.160 with himself and it's helped him a lot. It's like 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:02.840 the best therapy. He just becomes such a nice person, 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:05.960 a nicer person because it was already great. I love that. 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.840 And I think there's something about the podcast format where 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:12.120 there's no like three minute videos where you have to 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:14.400 like get him points. You can just kind of show 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:17.600 your personality and for yourself. Oh yeah, I'm always like 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:19.520 you do want to plan something, It's like, nah, we'll 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:22.760 wing it. I'm like, okay, and we do just because, 0:09:22.800 --> 0:09:25.120 like we're best friends, so we can just chat all 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:28.120 day long. Yeah. I love working on a podcast. I 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:30.760 love your podcast. You're amazing. Thank you so much. I 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:33.480 feel like you're just talking about how human you are. 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:35.880 We need more of that. Yeah, we're like working on it. 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:38.120 The concept is like we're just working on being better 0:09:38.320 --> 0:09:42.320 humans in every category of our life. So we get really, 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:46.360 really open and really honest. And I like that. I 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:49.280 think it's harder to pretend to be somebody when you're 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:53.600 in this business. It's like it's exhausting. So being myself 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:56.400 people enjoy that, and that's wonderful because I don't have 0:09:56.440 --> 0:09:59.679 to pretend to be anybody else. Do you think showing 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:02.520 more yourself on social media has allowed you to be 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:05.160 more open in your songwriting and your music or they 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:10.320 two separate things in your mind? Oh yeah for sure. Um, 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:13.640 especially like this album I'm might come out. I came 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:16.720 out with Bad for Me, which is like, um, a 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:19.560 slower song, but a real situation that I had with 0:10:19.679 --> 0:10:22.800 my therapist with a family member and had to write 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:26.160 a letter and send it to him and and that 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:28.840 stuff is real and I wrote it the next day, 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:31.679 and a lot of people I've seen on TikTok relate 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:33.640 to that, and they they'll even say I needed this 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:38.280 like ten years ago, like this song is me right now, 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:42.160 and it's it's really cool to relate with other others 0:10:42.200 --> 0:10:44.480 like that. And I've been writing a lot about being 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:47.480 a mom because I feel like moms aren't supposed to 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:51.840 complain or cry online, and you know, and it's like, well, 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:54.040 it's a lot of stuff is hard and scary. Like 0:10:54.080 --> 0:10:56.560 we just found out he's not using his left eye 0:10:56.720 --> 0:11:00.520 because it's like, yeah, because his eyesight is that bad 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:03.360 that he just wasn't using it. And when we discovered that, 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:05.400 Darryl and I were like heartbroken because we're like, we 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:09.040 had no idea this poor boy like couldn't see. So 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:11.719 there's a lot of crazy emotions that come of being 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:14.120 a parent, and I want to talk about it because 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:15.640 it helps a lot of people out there and it 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:18.080 makes me feel like I'm normal. I actually had a 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:21.040 similar experience when I was about four. My left I 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:23.920 used to cross and I couldn't. Yeah, I had to 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:26.400 use the eye patch and everything on my right eye 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:29.439 to make it stronger. I had my little red glasses 0:11:29.480 --> 0:11:32.320 so I know the struggle. Yeah, there, and they find 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:34.160 it younger now, so they can find it at six 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:36.800 months old. So when he's a year and a half, 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:40.079 he's a baby and he has glasses, and they were like, well, 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:41.960 at least you caught it now, And I was like, what, 0:11:42.120 --> 0:11:44.480 I feel like, he's so young. They're like, well, nowadays, 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:46.360 we can catch it earlier. But my brothers didn't get 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:49.200 glasses untill they were like four, so they lived their 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:52.280 life like walking into walls. That was me. I would 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:54.360 literally My brother used to make fun of me. I 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:56.200 would walk when we're in a hotel room and they 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:59.000 were clear doors, I couldn't tell that they were closed, 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:01.800 so I would just walk into the door because I 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:05.320 just could not have that depth perception. It's so heartbreaking, 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:09.040 and your parents, like they must have felt so bad. 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:12.160 We just felt so bad. My brother was cracking up. 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:14.800 He was cracking up, and I was just crying on 0:12:14.800 --> 0:12:17.400 the floor. But that's what siblings are for, that's what 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:20.960 we're he for. Yeah, that's what they're here for. But 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:23.720 I feel like growing up can be really hard, and 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.079 I think it's really cool how you're documenting the struggles 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:30.400 of being a parent because again, it's just not happening much. Yeah, 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:31.920 I don't know if I'm even allow to talk about it, 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:33.080 but I want to do it for you because I 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:36.040 love you. I'm writing a book about pregnancy and like 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:38.600 how bizarre it is and like things no one told me, 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:41.520 you know, So what's the strangest see the open No 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:43.560 one told you about pregnancy because I'm very cure. Um, 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:48.280 I knew like you could have different skin like pimples 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:52.439 and stuff, but I straight up got um perioral dermatitis 0:12:52.679 --> 0:12:55.599 where it's like dry rough patches kind of like rosatia. 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:58.200 And I just thought I kept like burning my skin 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:01.040 on products or like the cup brushes I were using 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:03.520 where I was allergic to, so I'd have these dry 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:05.839 patches and it was miserable and itchy, and I was 0:13:05.920 --> 0:13:08.559 like what is this? And later I found out like, oh, 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:10.560 it can come with your hormone and balance, and I 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:14.760 was like, oh, so there's like there's really strange stuff 0:13:14.800 --> 0:13:17.080 that I'm going to get into in the book. The 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:22.360 women's body is crazy. It's crazy. We're amazing. We're the greatest. 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:26.920 We're the greatest. I grew eyelids. Eyelids, did you know? 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.520 Fun fact? That always like blew my mind. You grow 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:31.680 the taste buds and the eyelashes and the third trimester, 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:36.880 whoa sick? Did you ever feel the pressure of bouncing 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.280 back after having a kid, because I feel like there's 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:42.600 this big pressure on like snapping back into your same body, 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:45.400 but no, like your body changes. I knew like I 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:49.720 had a goal of snapping back because I also was 0:13:49.800 --> 0:13:52.600 my heaviest when I got pregnant. I was like in 0:13:52.800 --> 0:13:56.040 COVID gained a fift you know, like I was up. 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:58.480 I was a hundred and eighty five pounds and that 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:01.280 was my heaviest, and and I got pregnant and I 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:04.400 went up to like to twenty and so when I 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:06.920 after I gave birth, he los like ten pounds because 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:11.000 that's the baby. But I got a dietitian after I 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:12.920 was trying to do it myself and I wasn't succeeding 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:14.480 because I didn't know how to work out right or 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:17.360 eat right, and I tried to count calories and it 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:18.880 was miserable, and I was like, I don't want to 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:21.720 hate this. So I got a dietitian and she taught 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:24.120 me like the beauty of healthy food and how few 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:28.080 does food is fuel. It's not just like yeah, it's 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:30.160 it could be a beautiful thing. She taught me how 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:34.520 like we're all burning fires, right, and if your fire 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:36.520 goes out, like you don't eat for a long time, 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:39.120 you're gonna feel angry and miserable. And if you try 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:41.400 to throw a fat log on that fire, like eat 0:14:41.400 --> 0:14:44.160 a fat, huge meal, it's not going to make the 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:47.280 fire go up. You're just gonna like give yourself a 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:49.560 tummy ache. So she taught me, like, you have to 0:14:49.560 --> 0:14:52.520 eat snacks all day and you have to like always 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:54.360 eat when you're hungry. And I was like, wow, I 0:14:54.400 --> 0:14:57.280 thought it was like starve, you know. So she taught me, 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:00.640 I love healthy food and I lost like sick steve pounds. 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:03.960 Now I'm like, I'm like one, wait, I weigh one 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:07.200 fifty seven now and when I was when I got 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:10.120 practice five. So I'm like the healthiest I've ever been. 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:12.400 As long as you feel good, that's what matters. And 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:17.200 something I never thought I would struggle with was food. Yeah, 0:15:17.320 --> 0:15:19.240 I would go through those cycles. I think being on 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:23.320 social media really exacerbated it, where I was like, Okay, 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:25.560 I'm gonna work out, I'm gonna eat right, and then 0:15:25.560 --> 0:15:27.080 it would get to the point where I also go 0:15:27.200 --> 0:15:30.520 c D, which I think dieting for me not good, 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:33.040 and I would be like, oh my goodness, there are 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:36.120 too many calories and strawberry and right when that happened, 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:40.120 I was like, I think we have an issue. Yeah, 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:43.360 it's scary and it's it's it can really mess with 0:15:43.400 --> 0:15:45.560 your mind. So my dietician taught me, She's like, we're 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:47.320 not going to weigh this week, it doesn't matter, Like 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:49.160 do you feel good? And I'd be like, yeah, I 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:52.520 feel great. Yeah, And that's how we do it. And 0:15:52.600 --> 0:15:56.400 she's just so good. She also specializes with like teenagers 0:15:56.560 --> 0:15:59.200 or anyone with a eating disorder. Um. But she told 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:01.840 me to that like a ten year old boy came 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:07.000 in with like anorexia, Like it's it's kind of spiking 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:10.920 again and I think it's social media and it's heartbreaking. 0:16:11.000 --> 0:16:14.120 But she's like having her specialized in that too really 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:17.120 helps me out because she makes sure like are you happy, 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:20.080 are you talking to your therapists? Is everything okay? How 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:22.880 is your week been? So she changed my life. Her 0:16:22.920 --> 0:16:27.240 name is Christie Christie. She changed my life forever and 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:30.680 changed my bad habits. I wasn't taking care of myself 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:32.840 and now I am that's so important and it's it's 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:35.760 really hard to get yourself to that point to fully 0:16:35.800 --> 0:16:38.320 love yourself. And I feel like we're also on that journey. 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:41.240 What advice do you have for little tips and tricks 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:45.320 to get through the day to stay more positive and confident? Oh? Man, 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:47.920 I have I've heard so many things, but I mean 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:50.800 self talk, like being positive. I know it's hard, but 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:53.760 so hard. The more negative, the negative you are, like, 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:56.880 the more your brain heres that like fourteen thousand times 0:16:56.920 --> 0:17:00.000 over and over again, so you're just bullying yourself. Um. 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:02.960 And my therapist had me look in the mirror for 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:06.639 five minutes a day naked and just look at myself, 0:17:06.680 --> 0:17:09.000 and I was like, I hate this, Like it was 0:17:09.000 --> 0:17:11.640 the hardest. Day one was the hardest thing ever. Day 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:17.560 three I was like, huh, yeah, you start, it starts 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:20.880 turning and you see the that it's working. So Um, 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:24.600 it's all starts with you working on yourself and it's 0:17:24.720 --> 0:17:26.480 very hard to do, but it's a thing. I'm working 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:29.080 on it every day. That sounds like what I used 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:32.760 to do exposure therapy, where it's essentially just doing your 0:17:32.800 --> 0:17:36.000 biggest fears and then just going straight into it. And 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:40.200 it's a fact Oprah Toppy that one. Yeah, whatever scares 0:17:40.240 --> 0:17:42.960 you, you you should probably do it, like okay, And I 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:45.320 had to do a TV show right after I gave birth. 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:49.480 I had like, um three months off and which is 0:17:49.520 --> 0:17:51.399 like the normal of what they have now because America 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:53.800 is crazy. But I was like, I'm gonna be on 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:57.240 television that like gains ten pounds no matter what. And 0:17:57.320 --> 0:17:59.400 it was a food program, so I had to eat 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:01.159 food all day. Top set failed me style to check 0:18:01.200 --> 0:18:04.040 it out, and I'm like, I was like pumping during 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:06.399 breaks and then I was like eating their food and 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:08.800 I was like, oh, I was really on a like 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:11.280 on on a program and I was really looking forward 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.560 to not doing this. But I'm the only woman in 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:16.840 history who's lost weight on that show. Because it's all 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:19.199 about moderation. That's what that show taught me, is like 0:18:19.200 --> 0:18:21.200 I can eat whatever I want as long as it's whittle. 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:26.400 That's a fun fact. Fun fact. Yeah, everything moderation. Yeah. Well, 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:28.840 actually on set, it was like all women and they 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:30.800 were so they took care of me, and one was 0:18:30.840 --> 0:18:33.560 pregnant like literally every day. I was like, oh girl, 0:18:33.680 --> 0:18:38.439 you're a hero. Okay, let's take a quick break, but 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:40.520 when we come back, I'm going to talk about being 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:43.199 a woman in America these days, all the different thousands 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:46.000 of music you're bringing in your new album, how hard 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:48.679 but beneficial it is, cutting out toxic relationships out of 0:18:48.680 --> 0:18:51.120 your life, and so much more. We'll be right fact 0:18:56.200 --> 0:18:59.920 and we're back. It's really hard to be a woman nowadays, 0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:03.679 especially in America, And I just want to thank you 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:08.520 also for posting and talking on social media about what's 0:19:08.560 --> 0:19:11.720 happening with the Supreme Court and Ruby Wade, because it's 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:14.160 more people should talk about it, and it's a really 0:19:14.160 --> 0:19:16.639 hard thing. So thank you for saying something. I know. 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:20.160 Thank you. Thank you for saying that I got a lot. 0:19:20.280 --> 0:19:22.119 I don't get a lot of hate comments or I 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:24.560 don't look for them, but that one I got a 0:19:24.600 --> 0:19:29.080 lot of nasty stuff. And it's not even like hate comments. 0:19:29.119 --> 0:19:31.080 This this ship was evil. It was like, well, at 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:32.919 least you didn't abort your beautiful song. And I was like, 0:19:32.960 --> 0:19:35.960 oh my goodness. So I turned off the comments and 0:19:36.080 --> 0:19:38.240 life is much better. But at that day, I was 0:19:38.280 --> 0:19:40.520 releasing my song that day, so I was like, oh, 0:19:40.600 --> 0:19:43.520