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Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, we got it Strawberry. Subject

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Speaker 1: of this Strawberry letter today is no sex in relationship.

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Speaker 1: Stephen Sureley have a big problem. I'm a thirty one

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Speaker 1: year old woman and my man is thirty six. We

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Speaker 1: both have never been married and have no children. I've

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Speaker 1: been with my man for a little over a year,

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Speaker 1: and our sex life sucks. When we first started dating,

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Speaker 1: it was on and popping. We fell in love instantly.

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Speaker 1: We couldn't get enough of each other, making love two

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Speaker 1: times a day, and the first four months of us

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Speaker 1: dating we both gained thirty pounds. I understand that men

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Speaker 1: are physical, and he did tell me that he doesn't

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Speaker 1: find me as attractive as a use to to me.

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Speaker 1: I didn't care because I fell in love with him.

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Speaker 1: I'm a very physical person and I have expressed to

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Speaker 1: him that I need to have sex. We have fun together,

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Speaker 1: going out of town, dinner, concerts, but no sex. We

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Speaker 1: have had sex four times. I've tried to break with

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Speaker 1: him several times, but he keeps telling me that things

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Speaker 1: will be different. We would have sex that one night

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Speaker 1: and back to the same old, same old, back to

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Speaker 1: the same old same. Uh. He says that once we

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Speaker 1: both lose the weight, things will be back for some

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Speaker 1: strange reason. I don't think he's cheating on me, but

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Speaker 1: no sex sign is there, But my gut is saying no.

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Speaker 1: He told me that he wants to marry me. I

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Speaker 1: can't keep going on like this. I'm I'm getting tired

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Speaker 1: of this no intimacy. I have thought about cheating on him,

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Speaker 1: but it is just not me. What should I do.

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Speaker 1: He's a great guy. My friends and family love him.

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Speaker 1: I love him, but I think if this continues, I

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Speaker 1: will cheat on him and destroy everything. Signed need help, Okay, Uh, dear,

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Speaker 1: need help. You know what, as shallow as it may sound,

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Speaker 1: as as it may be to us sometimes ladies, Um,

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Speaker 1: you know, we know that men are visual creatures. We

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Speaker 1: know that, and physical appearance has changed. Your physical appearance

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Speaker 1: has changed, my sister. Uh, you know, you might still

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Speaker 1: be the same person he fell in love with and

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Speaker 1: all that, but you don't look like her anymore to him.

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Speaker 1: And I got to encourage you at this point to

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Speaker 1: lose the weight. I mean, thirty pounds can alter your

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Speaker 1: appearance dramatically. He told you, I mean he told you.

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Speaker 1: These were words out of his mouth that he doesn't Yeah,

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Speaker 1: just leave it like that. He told you. You know that, Um,

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Speaker 1: he doesn't find you as attractive as he used to.

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Speaker 1: That doesn't mean he doesn't want to be with you,

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Speaker 1: doesn't mean that he doesn't like you for you, It

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Speaker 1: doesn't mean any of that. But you've got to hear

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Speaker 1: what he's saying to you. I mean, every woman wants

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Speaker 1: her man to find her sexy and attractive, and what

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Speaker 1: you're doing now is not working for you. So um,

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Speaker 1: if you want to keep him and keep him interested

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Speaker 1: in you, you need to change some things to get

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Speaker 1: the results you want. Okay. This is about you changing,

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Speaker 1: all right, and at the rate you're going. Uh, you

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Speaker 1: know four months, you gain thirty pounds every four months.

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Speaker 1: If you gain thirty pounds, I mean, come on now,

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Speaker 1: you don't want to do that, okay, Um, so please,

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Speaker 1: I gotta ask you to lose the weight. Do it

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Speaker 1: for yourself, for your health, do it for your sex life.

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Speaker 1: Trust me. I know it's hard, Okay, I know it's hard.

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Speaker 1: But if you want this man to still want you

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Speaker 1: and to bring your sexy back and all that, you've

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Speaker 1: got to step up your game. And that is just

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Speaker 1: the bottom line. And you know what is cheating going

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Speaker 1: to solve you know, I just say, work on the

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Speaker 1: relationship you have with him right now, if that's what

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Speaker 1: you want. And it sounds like you do. Twelve minutes

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Speaker 1: after Cracker, no code no code, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: it's code. Nice answer you gave. But that ain't horse wrong.

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Speaker 1: You're absolutely right, horse wrong. Crying. But I know if

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Speaker 1: you're saying this more and there's a couple of lies

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Speaker 1: being told in this letter. Spotted both of them. Alright,

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Speaker 1: let's go with part two of today's Strawberry Letter. No, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and we said about nothing, Well, she need help. Really,

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Speaker 1: you don't need help. You need to quit eating. That's

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Speaker 1: what you really need to do. You and your fat

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Speaker 1: man need to quit eating. Both of y'all didn't realize

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Speaker 1: that what you hold up in the letter, it's a

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Speaker 1: Steve and Shirley. See can you know Steve? So once

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Speaker 1: you ask me, I don't feel nothing. Nah, Tommy, they

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Speaker 1: need to quit eating. You ain't your fat man. Now

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Speaker 1: you have set up and see here's what they have

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Speaker 1: no excuses for this. She only thirty one years old.

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Speaker 1: He ain't but thirty six. And the woman has had

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Speaker 1: no kids, so she blowing up for what reason. At

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Speaker 1: least women who bad children, they get that baby weight.

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Speaker 1: It's hard to get it off. Man, they have another

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Speaker 1: child compacts the problem. They get stuck at home, they're pregnant,

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Speaker 1: they're laying around, it's hard to walk. They have act problems.

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Speaker 1: I got that part. But you're sitting up in here

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Speaker 1: one shot and you're sitting a pendant sitting now listen

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Speaker 1: to this. Right here, they first met, Their life was

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Speaker 1: their sex life was great, had sex twice a day,

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Speaker 1: couldn't keep their hands off each other. Foul months into dating,

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Speaker 1: here's where the lies. We both gained fatty pounds. Then

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Speaker 1: she immediately says, I understand that men are physical, and

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Speaker 1: he did tell me that he doesn't find me as

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Speaker 1: attractive as he used to. In in four months, you

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Speaker 1: picked up fatty pounds and he did too. But you

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Speaker 1: ain't saying nothing about being displeasured with his weight loss.

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Speaker 1: I mean with his weight game or him contributing to

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Speaker 1: your weight game. That's why I think this is a

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Speaker 1: little one sided life. I think she's righting in. Really,

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Speaker 1: she the one that then blew up because homeboard and

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Speaker 1: had the audacity see me and ain't stupid. He would

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Speaker 1: don't find you as attractive? How how hurtful of a

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Speaker 1: comic can you make to a woman unless you don't

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Speaker 1: really care? Then about how she feels. But he trying

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Speaker 1: to shock her because she didn't picked up thirty pounds

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Speaker 1: or more. In her letter, she wants us to believe

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Speaker 1: that both of us have gained thirty pounds. Well, I

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Speaker 1: don't think to do game thirty pounds. I think it's

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Speaker 1: just her. But she tried to get some help with

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Speaker 1: how to handle this. He but see no, no big

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Speaker 1: girls set up there and got on swow by her

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Speaker 1: damn self. Now she want to drag the man into

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Speaker 1: it to make it look like it's a unified problem.

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Speaker 1: It ain't a unified problem. It's a one sided problem.

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Speaker 1: He don't find you as attractive as he used to.

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Speaker 1: You ain't said you don't find him as attractive. Steve

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Speaker 1: wants look at this, then listen to this. She said

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Speaker 1: with him. That's weak. That don't say nothing to me

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Speaker 1: to me, I didn't care for She trying to say

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Speaker 1: don't care about gaining the way, or he didn't gain

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Speaker 1: some way. The man ain't gained thirty pounds. Two people

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Speaker 1: have set up there got thirty. She lying behind and

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Speaker 1: got wide by her damn self. The man ain't wrote

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Speaker 1: a letter in and asked nobody for help. The problem

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Speaker 1: is her. She didn't picked up this way. I got proof.

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Speaker 1: I'm a very physical person, and I've expressed that to him.

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Speaker 1: I need to have sex. Okay, well, a little hornything.

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Speaker 1: Then she said, we have fun together, going out of town, dinner, concerts.

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Speaker 1: All of that is evolved around eating. Eating. All y'all

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Speaker 1: doing is eating. When you go out of town, you eat.

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Speaker 1: You go to dinner, on the way out of town,

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Speaker 1: eating up everything on the plane, You're stopping at all

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Speaker 1: the fast foods. Then after the concert, you gotta go

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Speaker 1: to dinner again. Thank you, Steve. You know we gotta

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Speaker 1: go join me today. Today is the day at one

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Speaker 1: thirty pm Eastern Time for the after show Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: Live on Facebook. We will talk more about today's crazy

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Speaker 1: the Letter and uh we'll do my fresh Strawberry Pick

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Speaker 1: of the week. We'll talk about some trending topics. But

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Speaker 1: right now