1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:04,280 Speaker 1: Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority Life with 2 00:00:04,320 --> 00:00:07,280 Speaker 1: your hosts me Gia Judice. 3 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:13,000 Speaker 2: Davey Kent, and Jennifer Kessler. Hi, guys, welcome back to 4 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 2: another episode of Dirty Rush. Today I have on a 5 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:18,960 Speaker 2: special guest who was very much involved in sorority life 6 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:22,920 Speaker 2: at a school in the Midwest. She's a good friend 7 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,480 Speaker 2: of mine and also in a new season of The Valley. 8 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 2: Janet Caperna. Welcome to Dirty Rush. Hi my friend you guys. 9 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 2: So Janet and I met. It was the BMA's right, 10 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:32,720 Speaker 2: I think it was. 11 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:33,479 Speaker 1: I heard awards. 12 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 2: Oh it was I heeard awards. Excuse me, excuse me, 13 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 2: Yes it was. We sat next to each other, right, yes, 14 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 2: and we had the best time. I was like, who 15 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:46,200 Speaker 2: is this lovely, lovely woman? And we had a couple 16 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 2: of the other cast members from about from the Valley 17 00:00:48,520 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 2: next to us as well. Right, that was a fun night. Yeah. 18 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: Yeah. It was Britney's date for that, so always a 19 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 1: fun night to get to be Britney's date. 20 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah. So all right, so I want to talk 21 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:02,120 Speaker 2: a little valley. But first, since this is Dirty Rush, 22 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:04,400 Speaker 2: tell me where you went to school or tell us 23 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 2: where'd you go to school. What sorority were you in 24 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 2: all of that? 25 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay, So I went to Ohio University, not to 26 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: be mistaken with the Ohio State University, which is like 27 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: the buck wise. Ohio University is like an hour and 28 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 1: a half southeast, a smaller school. And I was an 29 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:24,760 Speaker 1: English major there, and I was a Kiomega there, so 30 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:28,839 Speaker 1: it's a Tao Alpha chapter of Kiomega there. 31 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 2: So I was an English major too. I don't know 32 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:36,520 Speaker 2: that I ever used that degree for anything maybe you know. No, 33 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 2: it did not really serve me. I just like to read. 34 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, that was me too. I was like it was 35 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:44,680 Speaker 1: nice actually, the balance between also being a sorority girl 36 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 1: and kind of having that social aspect of something and 37 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 1: then getting to go like be with all my like 38 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:51,880 Speaker 1: nerd English majors. Yes, read and write. 39 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 2: It was like just a balance, yep, yep. So okay, 40 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 2: first of all, well let me just go back just 41 00:01:57,560 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 2: for a minute. Where did you grow up. 42 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: I grew up in Dublin, Ohio, so just outside of Columbus, 43 00:02:02,640 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: where the Ohio State University is. So I never wanted 44 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 1: to like go to Ohio State because it was too 45 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:10,800 Speaker 1: close to home. It was like fifteen minutes from my 46 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: mom's house, So Ohio University was like an hour and 47 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: a half drive. I was like, if I'm that far away, 48 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 1: my mom won't be able to like pop in every 49 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,920 Speaker 1: day if she was, Yeah, I have to plan a 50 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:23,960 Speaker 1: trip down to visit me. So Hire University was like 51 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:26,519 Speaker 1: known as being a party school, and at the time 52 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: in high school, I was like, that sounded really nice. 53 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I hear you. Well, did you have friends from 54 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:32,840 Speaker 2: your high school that went with you? 55 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 1: Yeah? It wasn't, as a lot of my high school 56 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:37,240 Speaker 1: went to Ohio State, but I would say there was 57 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:40,640 Speaker 1: probably like fifteen or so kids from my high school 58 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 1: that went to OU and but not a lot of 59 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: them ended up in Greek life. So that was kind 60 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: of like my separate thing that I could do. That 61 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: just kind of separated me to from like having a 62 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 1: break from like my high school friends. 63 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, what made you want to rush? 64 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:01,079 Speaker 1: Honestly, I just thought it would interesting. It felt very 65 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 1: college like, and I was excited for college. I wanted 66 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 1: like to be able just to start over. High school 67 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 1: was fine and like, you know, fun for me, but 68 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: I really liked the idea of like having a fresh 69 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 1: start and like being able to kind of I don't know, 70 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:16,480 Speaker 1: carve my own path have like, yeah, I don't know, 71 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: a new chapter in life. Yeah, every time I felt 72 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: like I saw, you know a lot of stuff about 73 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:25,200 Speaker 1: sorority fraternity greek life in movies, and so I was like, okay, 74 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: you know like ell Woods and legally of course, of 75 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 1: course of my generation. So I felt like, I was like, 76 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: this is just what you do in college, you like, 77 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: find your sorority house. And it just felt very very 78 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: college to me. 79 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:40,320 Speaker 2: You know, it's so funny that you say that, because 80 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:44,000 Speaker 2: I started out at Boston University and I transferred from Texas. 81 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 2: I transferred back to University of Texas, and I think 82 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 2: a lot of that was about that. I just didn't 83 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:53,880 Speaker 2: feel like I was having that kind of college experience 84 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 2: that that hole the fun of greek life and big campus. 85 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 2: Although you was big, but it's a whole different scene. 86 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 2: It's the city school, right, and sports and football and 87 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 2: all of that. And I think that was you know 88 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 2: a lot of why I transferred from you. I wanted 89 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 2: I wanted all of that traditional stuff, right. 90 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I want a typical college life, which honestly, 91 00:04:17,360 --> 00:04:19,280 Speaker 1: like I know, I've listened to a couple episodes of 92 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: this podcast, and I feel like there's two kind of 93 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: routes that people have with their opinions of greek life. 94 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:27,600 Speaker 1: And I feel like the bigger schools and especially the 95 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: more southern schools where greek life is like seventy percent 96 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:34,159 Speaker 1: of campus is in a fraternity or sorority, rightybe, I 97 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:36,719 Speaker 1: feel like the more negative experience and like the high 98 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 1: pressure circumstances. Then, Like my school was a smaller school. 99 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 1: I mean we had like sixteen thousand students I think 100 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:46,240 Speaker 1: when I was there, and I think like ten or 101 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: fifteen percent were in Greek life. So it wasn't like 102 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 1: those pressure campus. Yeah, it wasn't like everyone did it. 103 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 1: It was sort of a little like niche group. It 104 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 1: was sort of like, all right, if you're not doing 105 00:04:56,640 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 1: a sport, if you're not in a club, like greek 106 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:00,840 Speaker 1: life would be kind of a thing you could do. 107 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:03,599 Speaker 1: But it wasn't like a mandatory thing and there wasn't 108 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:06,360 Speaker 1: a lot of pressure to do it. So I had 109 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:09,039 Speaker 1: a really good experience with it, and like I put 110 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:12,159 Speaker 1: back on my sorority days fondly. But I know a 111 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:13,200 Speaker 1: lot of people don't. 112 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, well, I mean I was talking about this 113 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 2: with another guest, but the pressure of it, we were 114 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:22,680 Speaker 2: actually talking a lot about. She was saying that she 115 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:25,919 Speaker 2: felt a little bit less than she didn't have a 116 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:28,600 Speaker 2: lot of the girls, and she was also into a 117 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 2: southern school, but they had the money to get decked 118 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 2: and the outfits were over the top. And I felt 119 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 2: that way as well. Physically, I just didn't feel like 120 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:41,040 Speaker 2: I measured up. I don't know how you felt going 121 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:44,039 Speaker 2: through it. I mean, your beautiful, you know woman, and 122 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 2: I'm sure you were just as beautiful then, but like 123 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:49,839 Speaker 2: in terms of like outfits that you wore or just 124 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:51,600 Speaker 2: the physical piece of it, how did you feel about 125 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 2: all that? 126 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: It was not the high pressure thing. We were not 127 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: getting glam for this, like he was getting professional makeup done. 128 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 1: I mean we cared about, like, you know, what dresses 129 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 1: and stuff we were wearing. We wanted to look cute 130 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 1: for everything. It was like we were going to forever 131 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:08,360 Speaker 1: twenty one and getting like whatever color. I feel like 132 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 1: each of our days Because I like Gia talked about 133 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: her experience, I feel like mine was very similar. And 134 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:16,920 Speaker 1: then it took like three weekends where you were spending 135 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 1: your Saturday and Sunday rushing, and there were different nights 136 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 1: and we had like different colored outfits. So like one 137 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 1: of the nights they want us to wear a black dress, 138 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 1: one of them they wanted a red dress. But it 139 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 1: was really low stakes and that we weren't buying like 140 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 1: designer stuff by any means. We weren't spending any more 141 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:34,719 Speaker 1: time getting ready for this than we would any other 142 00:06:35,080 --> 00:06:36,719 Speaker 1: you know day going out in college. 143 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:38,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. 144 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:40,760 Speaker 1: Really low stakes. To me, it felt it felt fun 145 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,880 Speaker 1: and there were definitely like you know, reputations for each 146 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 1: sorority house, like the one I ended up joining was 147 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 1: like more like the blonde sorority house with like we 148 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: had the best grades, which honestly now I credit to 149 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:58,919 Speaker 1: like graduating on time and having good grades in college 150 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:02,200 Speaker 1: because I wasn't the greatest student in high school. But 151 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:05,679 Speaker 1: in the sorority, if you if your GPA dropped below 152 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:08,320 Speaker 1: a certain point, you couldn't go to any reprobation right 153 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: right and then or you would get kicked out if 154 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 1: you were you know, had multiple semesters in a row 155 00:07:13,320 --> 00:07:17,040 Speaker 1: where you weren't making grades. So it really like that 156 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 1: motivated me. I was like, I want to go to 157 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: all the parties I don't want to be put on 158 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: social probation, so my is always number one in grades, 159 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: and I really like I think that had a bit 160 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: of big effect on me. 161 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 2: Oh my god, I have to say at least not 162 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 2: I don't remember time talking with one of my guests 163 00:07:33,880 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 2: them saying that beinging to Soorty help so much with 164 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:40,640 Speaker 2: their grades. I think that is really interesting. And to 165 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:43,480 Speaker 2: a lot of our listeners who are considering rushing or 166 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:48,640 Speaker 2: already like that is that's a fabulous, you know advantage. 167 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 2: I don't know that a lot of people would would 168 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 2: credit their sorority with good grades, but I guess that's 169 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 2: you know, it happens. I don't. 170 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:58,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, we also went We had a computer lab, which 171 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: now I'm looking back is like so out with like 172 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: actual desktop computers. And we had a filing cabinet that 173 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 1: had all of the former girl's notes from classes. So like, 174 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: if you were taking ECON one oh one, right, go 175 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: to the filing cabinet, pull up all of the ECON 176 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:16,080 Speaker 1: professor's names, and then you could pull all the notes 177 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 1: that the girls took previously in that class. 178 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 2: She eat your ass off, And it wasn't cheating. 179 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: It was more like study guides or like if you 180 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: missed a day of class, it was like, all right, well, 181 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: I can just go and get somebody else's notes. I 182 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 1: don't have to like be worried about taking the best 183 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: notes the entire tay. And then if you did take 184 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: like really good notes on a class, you would drop 185 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 1: them in the filing cabinet and be like, all right, 186 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 1: the girls after me, you're going to love those. Wow. 187 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 1: That also was like a big help, like being like, okay, 188 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 1: I can at least like go look at somebody else's 189 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: notes if I'm like not doing well in the class. 190 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so because I don't remember my daughter really 191 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,959 Speaker 2: even talking about not being able to go to parties 192 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 2: if her grades were I know my son talked about that, 193 00:08:56,440 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 2: and I want to say there was one semester where 194 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 2: he was close to getting put on probation and it 195 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:05,439 Speaker 2: definitely kicked his ass because we don't talk about that 196 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:10,200 Speaker 2: a lot on the pod about how can actually give 197 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:12,559 Speaker 2: you that, you know, motivate you a little bit in 198 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 2: terms of. 199 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:16,320 Speaker 1: Your curly I got put on social probation once I 200 00:09:16,320 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 1: think freshman or sow you do okay, not for grades. 201 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 1: This was so bad looking back our swordyhouse. Actually we 202 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 1: did not bring guys back to the house. You could 203 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:27,199 Speaker 1: have guys in the main areas, like in the living 204 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:30,400 Speaker 1: room like until I don't know, nine pm or something, 205 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:33,520 Speaker 1: and like till maybe eleven or something on the weekends, 206 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 1: but other than that, like guys were never upstairs in 207 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:41,560 Speaker 1: the hallways or in people's bedrooms ever. And I was like, 208 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 1: I always liked that, Like when I lived in the house, 209 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 1: it felt safe. You could walk around a towel or 210 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 1: bathrobe and you weren't worried about like bumping into somebody's 211 00:09:48,800 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 1: boyfriend or hooking up. But before I lived in the house, 212 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: I didn't. I was like, oh, that can't be like 213 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:58,199 Speaker 1: a real rule. And we had a rooftop deck that, 214 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 1: like you we would like lay out and like suntan on. 215 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:04,920 Speaker 1: And one of the fraternity guys that I met freshman 216 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 1: year was like, let's go smoke pot on the kyo 217 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 1: deck and I was like, yeah, sure, I'm sure, Like 218 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:12,480 Speaker 1: that's probably what they do every weekend. I bet they're 219 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 1: like smoking all the time. And so me, not even 220 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:19,320 Speaker 1: living in the house, snuck a guy in the house 221 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 1: up to the rooftop and we were like smoking to 222 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:23,320 Speaker 1: joint up there. 223 00:10:23,320 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 2: You and I had been best friends in college. 224 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:28,360 Speaker 1: I was in college. It was a big, big stoner 225 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: and so the older girls were like, what are you 226 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: What do you think you're doing? Like this was so ballsy? 227 00:10:34,080 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 2: Oh dare you truly? 228 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: They were like, we don't even bring our boyfriends here, 229 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 1: and you're going to bring some random guy freshman over 230 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:44,400 Speaker 1: to smoke pot. Like good for you you're doing. And so 231 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 1: I got put on social probation, which now to this 232 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 1: day I credit a marriage and three kids too. Because 233 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: we were I missed our like yearly uh date party, 234 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:58,400 Speaker 1: which was Uncle Buck's, which was like a like you 235 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:00,880 Speaker 1: dressed up in cowboy themed stuff and it was like 236 00:11:00,920 --> 00:11:02,680 Speaker 1: in a barn in the middle of nowhere with a 237 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 1: DJ and we would just like dance and everybody brought 238 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 1: a date. And I was supposed to bring one of 239 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: my guy friends who was in the same fraternity as 240 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 1: the boy I snuck in to smoke weed. I was like, Jimmy, 241 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:16,320 Speaker 1: I can't bring you to the date party. I'm on 242 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:18,840 Speaker 1: social probation, and he was like, man, I really wanted 243 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 1: to go, Like that's it was like one of the 244 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 1: hot date parties of the year. Everybody. 245 00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 2: Right. 246 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:26,439 Speaker 1: I was like, my friend Jess just got dumped. Why 247 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: don't I see if she can bring you and you guys, 248 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:31,040 Speaker 1: you know you might actually like her, and that they 249 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 1: started dating after that, end up getting married and now 250 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 1: they have three kids together. So thank god that I 251 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:38,920 Speaker 1: ended up being put on social probation because I like, 252 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 1: set up this couple that's like now been together for 253 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:42,600 Speaker 1: like fifteen years. 254 00:11:43,080 --> 00:11:46,640 Speaker 2: Look at you go. I thought you were going to 255 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 2: say that it was the reason that you got buried 256 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 2: and had three kids, and I'm like trying to I 257 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 2: was like, wait a second, I have to configure everything 258 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:55,199 Speaker 2: for right, Okay, Because I. 259 00:11:55,160 --> 00:11:56,839 Speaker 1: Was in trouble and I couldn't bring him as my date, 260 00:11:56,880 --> 00:11:58,520 Speaker 1: I set him up with my friend and they're still 261 00:11:58,520 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 1: together till this day. 262 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 2: Doing good, doing God's work. Baby. Yes, absolutely, So tell 263 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 2: me a little bit about in terms of the parties, 264 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:25,559 Speaker 2: like what were they wild? Was everyone getting wasted? Was 265 00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:27,360 Speaker 2: because now there's so many rules around them? 266 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 1: Right? 267 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:32,319 Speaker 2: And yeah, so was it? Did you have any experiences 268 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:35,280 Speaker 2: that you want to share a party girl A little bit? 269 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:38,560 Speaker 1: Yeah? I was social chair, my I want to say 270 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 1: jun and that the whole thing about social Chair was 271 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:46,120 Speaker 1: like we weren't allowed to use the social budget on alcohol, 272 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,480 Speaker 1: so we had to like find they would give us 273 00:12:48,559 --> 00:12:51,040 Speaker 1: a check or like cash and that we could take out, 274 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:53,840 Speaker 1: but we had to like account for what we were 275 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:56,280 Speaker 1: using it for. So really the job of social chair 276 00:12:56,440 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 1: was like I don't know exactly what laundering money is, 277 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:02,240 Speaker 1: but I feel like that's what I was doing, being like, oh, 278 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:06,040 Speaker 1: we're like using this is like cups and decorations and 279 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:10,120 Speaker 1: food and this. You would just like make a list 280 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:12,520 Speaker 1: and like write out the accounting for what we were 281 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:16,079 Speaker 1: using the money for. You like two hundred dollars a party, 282 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 1: which now looking back and wow, why a party for 283 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: like I mean, this was like almost one hundred girls 284 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:25,200 Speaker 1: in my sorority one hundred fraternity guys, so like under 285 00:13:25,240 --> 00:13:28,559 Speaker 1: five hundred bucks between the two, you know, sorority fraternity 286 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:31,920 Speaker 1: like to throw like a party for that many people 287 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:34,360 Speaker 1: and cover the booze for that many people is kind 288 00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 1: of insane, but yeah, we would throw it would all 289 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:39,800 Speaker 1: all the money would end up going to like Natty Light. 290 00:13:39,920 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 1: It was like the gross beer that we would get. 291 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:45,840 Speaker 2: Oh right, Natty Right, that's who said I just learned 292 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:51,640 Speaker 2: with that list, there's a Morgan wallin song. Oh it's yeah, yeah, yeah. 293 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:53,200 Speaker 1: So it always it all ended up. I think you 294 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:56,040 Speaker 1: could get a thirty pack of Natty Light back in 295 00:13:56,080 --> 00:13:59,640 Speaker 1: my college is for eleven ninety nine, we could get 296 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:03,160 Speaker 1: like a couple hundred dollars worth of Natty Light and 297 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,160 Speaker 1: all the parties we would do themes, so we would 298 00:14:05,200 --> 00:14:08,320 Speaker 1: do like sports themes where everybody's in jerseys. One night 299 00:14:08,400 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 1: we would do like can you think of some of 300 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:12,959 Speaker 1: the other good ones we did, but we all we 301 00:14:13,160 --> 00:14:17,640 Speaker 1: do like the like boat Hose and something like golf 302 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 1: pros and boat Hose would be like one of them 303 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:21,640 Speaker 1: where like all the guys would dress up in like 304 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:24,200 Speaker 1: polos and golf stuff and we would be in like 305 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 1: basically bikinis. Right, We would all do like theme parties. 306 00:14:28,200 --> 00:14:30,960 Speaker 1: It would almost always be in a gross fratthouse basement 307 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:33,400 Speaker 1: and we would just hug in Natty. 308 00:14:33,160 --> 00:14:34,960 Speaker 2: Lights the whole day. It's hilarious. 309 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:37,440 Speaker 1: It's like my mom was ended up paying for my 310 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 1: beer budget because you know, she made the sorority dues 311 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:42,720 Speaker 1: that then ended up going to the social fund that 312 00:14:42,800 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 1: I was then you know, like sneaking ways to find 313 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:46,800 Speaker 1: to buy Natty Light with. 314 00:14:47,080 --> 00:14:50,560 Speaker 2: Anything like about just being the social chair that our 315 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:53,040 Speaker 2: listeners may be interested in, or would you do it again? 316 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:54,680 Speaker 2: Would you want to be social chair again? Was? I mean, 317 00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:55,720 Speaker 2: it's still a lot of work. 318 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:58,480 Speaker 1: I thought it was the most fun of the jobs, 319 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:01,520 Speaker 1: like president vice president, because you had to like get 320 00:15:01,560 --> 00:15:03,760 Speaker 1: people in trouble and be in people's. 321 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:04,560 Speaker 2: Like appropriation meetings. 322 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 1: Social chair everybody loved, like there wouldn't be your party girl. Yeah, 323 00:15:09,520 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 1: I would be like, oh, thanks, like you got you 324 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:13,960 Speaker 1: managed to get the beer covered, so it would be 325 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 1: a really fun job. And I would say, like if 326 00:15:16,520 --> 00:15:19,560 Speaker 1: if you don't take things too seriously, that's like the 327 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:20,480 Speaker 1: position for you. 328 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:22,880 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, I didn't feel like it didn't feel like 329 00:15:22,920 --> 00:15:25,400 Speaker 2: work as much for you, right, I don't. 330 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:26,720 Speaker 1: Think there was. I mean I had to go to 331 00:15:26,800 --> 00:15:30,720 Speaker 1: like the executive board chapter meetings with like the president, 332 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 1: vice president, you know, accounting chair. I'm trying to think 333 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:35,680 Speaker 1: of some of the other positions we had, but like 334 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:38,480 Speaker 1: you know, mine was just like everybody knew that, like 335 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:41,720 Speaker 1: my main job was like making sure that our advisors 336 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 1: didn't find out what you're spending the money on beer. 337 00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's definitely what I would want. That would 338 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:49,520 Speaker 2: be the role that I would be interested in absolutely. 339 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:52,200 Speaker 2: How did you get it? How did you become social chair? 340 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 2: I think we. 341 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 1: Voted for people, and you know, I think I got it. 342 00:15:55,920 --> 00:15:57,680 Speaker 1: This is like I said, I was like a stoner 343 00:15:57,720 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: in college. That was like like my and my sorority 344 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 1: was like, you know, we were the good grades. Like 345 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:05,360 Speaker 1: I was like kind of like the odd man out 346 00:16:05,360 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 1: in that sense, like not a lot of my other 347 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:09,840 Speaker 1: sorority girls like were like smoking weed with me. I 348 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: would like, go, I was like friends with a lot 349 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:13,320 Speaker 1: of the frat guys, and we would like I would 350 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:16,080 Speaker 1: like be like their bro and like smoke points with them. 351 00:16:16,480 --> 00:16:20,280 Speaker 1: But there was one what was it a really important 352 00:16:20,600 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 1: ceremony that we were doing. I think it was, Oh 353 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:27,000 Speaker 1: it was our initiation when we were bringing in new members. 354 00:16:27,400 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 1: And this was like a really serious ceremony where we 355 00:16:29,600 --> 00:16:31,200 Speaker 1: were all in the basement. We were all wearing like 356 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 1: white robes, and we would read from like the scripture 357 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:38,200 Speaker 1: of the sorority. So it's like it looks like a 358 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 1: church service. And the initiation ceremony happened to fall on 359 00:16:44,080 --> 00:16:46,160 Speaker 1: four twenty one year, which is like you know the 360 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:49,360 Speaker 1: stoner results right right, And I was like, oh, man, 361 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:51,200 Speaker 1: like I remember like begging my friend. 362 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:54,320 Speaker 2: I'm sorry I don't because I know I only learned 363 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:56,000 Speaker 2: about it through my kids. What it is like the 364 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 2: pot It's like pot National Pot Day or something. 365 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's like Bob Marley's birth is the 366 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:03,920 Speaker 1: drum or something like that. But like four twenty has 367 00:17:03,960 --> 00:17:08,800 Speaker 1: like always been like the weed pot holiday, right, And 368 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:11,679 Speaker 1: so I was like, I was like begging the president. 369 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:13,879 Speaker 1: I'm like, you have to move it from four twenty, 370 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:17,280 Speaker 1: like we're not going to do this, and instead they 371 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:19,920 Speaker 1: wouldn't move it. I was like I got really into 372 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:22,760 Speaker 1: baking in college with weeds, so I would like make 373 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:26,119 Speaker 1: weed butter and like all this stuff and on. So 374 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:29,080 Speaker 1: like the day before four twenty, I made one hundred 375 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:31,080 Speaker 1: weed funfetti cupcakes. 376 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:33,440 Speaker 2: Oh you would have been my best friend. I would 377 00:17:33,480 --> 00:17:36,359 Speaker 2: have been I would have I mean still I feel 378 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:39,240 Speaker 2: like you and I just just definitely clicked. But oh 379 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 2: my god, you and I would have been. 380 00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:44,200 Speaker 1: Like this right right. So I was like I may 381 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:47,320 Speaker 1: have these little green funfetti cupcakes. And the main thing 382 00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:49,800 Speaker 1: was like I was gonna like the frack guys had 383 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:51,280 Speaker 1: given me a bunch of pot and they're like and 384 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:53,960 Speaker 1: then sell them for like five bucks a pop. Okay, 385 00:17:54,400 --> 00:17:57,280 Speaker 1: get the sorority girls who want them for initiation. Every 386 00:17:57,320 --> 00:17:59,600 Speaker 1: single girl was like, I want one. I kind of 387 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:01,440 Speaker 1: want to try, like if I'm going to be stuck 388 00:18:01,480 --> 00:18:04,040 Speaker 1: at home on four to twenty in this initiation ceremony, 389 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 1: And half of these girls had never smoked in their life, 390 00:18:06,240 --> 00:18:08,239 Speaker 1: so they were like, all right, here's five bucks. I'm 391 00:18:08,280 --> 00:18:11,160 Speaker 1: gonna try pot for the first time, like right whatever. 392 00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 1: So every like, I think almost everybody in the sorority 393 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:18,880 Speaker 1: bought a pot cupcake off of me, and we all 394 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 1: ate them right before this ceremony that again is like church, 395 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:25,679 Speaker 1: like we're in like white robes. It's like like like 396 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 1: looking back, like not the place you want to be 397 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 1: stoned for, and so everybody's like eating them. We're all 398 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:33,359 Speaker 1: like what. They're all like, what's gonna happen. I'm like, 399 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:35,480 Speaker 1: you know, give it like thirty forty five minutes, you're 400 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:39,879 Speaker 1: gonna feel great, giggly. Halfway through the ceremony, everybody loses 401 00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:43,000 Speaker 1: their mind. Everybody is cracking up. All of the girls 402 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 1: who are like having to read from like the scripture 403 00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 1: are like getting like through like a half a sentence 404 00:18:48,520 --> 00:18:52,560 Speaker 1: and like unable to like control themselves like just and 405 00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:55,399 Speaker 1: once one person cracked and like sort of think the 406 00:18:55,520 --> 00:18:58,520 Speaker 1: whole room would start laughing. We like barely got through it. 407 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:00,720 Speaker 1: I don't think any of the new girls who were 408 00:19:00,720 --> 00:19:03,240 Speaker 1: like going through the initiation knew what was going on. 409 00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:05,480 Speaker 1: They were like, why are they all right? 410 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:06,280 Speaker 2: Right? 411 00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:09,879 Speaker 1: Everybody just ended up getting so stoned in the middle 412 00:19:09,920 --> 00:19:12,679 Speaker 1: of this ceremony. So I think that that after that 413 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:13,359 Speaker 1: I got elected. 414 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,640 Speaker 2: Yeah there, I think that that makes absolute sense. If 415 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:19,360 Speaker 2: I was there, I would have thought Janet for social chair, 416 00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:22,359 Speaker 2: I would have one hundred percent campaigned for you. It 417 00:19:22,400 --> 00:19:25,040 Speaker 2: was a natural fit, right, Yeah, it felt. 418 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:26,240 Speaker 1: Like a natural fit, and it was just this like 419 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:29,000 Speaker 1: funny thing. And I still get texts from friends now 420 00:19:29,040 --> 00:19:31,360 Speaker 1: who are like, oh, my kids are in bed, it's 421 00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:34,040 Speaker 1: four twenty. My husband and I like got edibles, we're 422 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:36,120 Speaker 1: gonna whatever. Do you remember the time that we all 423 00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:39,080 Speaker 1: took those weed cupcakes? And like, I will never forget that. 424 00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:41,159 Speaker 2: Are you still good friends with a lot of the girls. 425 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:43,960 Speaker 1: I have a couple, So I I probably have ten 426 00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:46,360 Speaker 1: girlfriends from my sorority that I stay in touch with 427 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:49,240 Speaker 1: and four that I like, we do like a yearly 428 00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:50,320 Speaker 1: trip together every year. 429 00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:52,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so we're all. 430 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:53,960 Speaker 1: In different parts of the country, but we make a 431 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:55,800 Speaker 1: point we have a group chat, and then we try 432 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:58,640 Speaker 1: like once a year to do like a vacation together somewhere. 433 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:15,400 Speaker 2: That's fun. I love that. Okay, so this is a 434 00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:18,119 Speaker 2: little CORNBALI question whatever, but I have to ask do 435 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:22,000 Speaker 2: you feel like being social chair prepared you for I 436 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 2: don't did to prepare you for anything? Did you take 437 00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:28,520 Speaker 2: it with you, you know, into your actual life. Do 438 00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:31,280 Speaker 2: you feel like it's a role that translates into anything 439 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:34,359 Speaker 2: you're doing now? I mean, obviously we'll talk a little 440 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 2: bit about the valley, but right do you see any similarities. 441 00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:40,120 Speaker 1: It made me want to be a host, Like I 442 00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 1: liked the idea of like hosting the parties, sending out 443 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:47,359 Speaker 1: the patients, Okay, picking a theme, like you know, just 444 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 1: having it be like my party, like like like that aspect, 445 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:53,159 Speaker 1: and I now like my favorite thing is to like 446 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:56,520 Speaker 1: throw a dinner party. I feel like we get stuck 447 00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 1: having to do a lot of the theme parties like 448 00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:02,160 Speaker 1: on Bravo shows. Yeah, so some of those, I'm like, man, 449 00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:04,159 Speaker 1: I like got that out of my system in college. 450 00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:06,080 Speaker 1: There's times where I'm like Brittany, if you pick a 451 00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:09,239 Speaker 1: theme for this part and tell you can't we just 452 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:12,719 Speaker 1: like have a normal night. But I will say, like 453 00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:15,360 Speaker 1: I think it maybe like jump started the host in 454 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:18,960 Speaker 1: me and like enjoying like planning and setting up a 455 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:21,600 Speaker 1: party and and then like you know, the praise of 456 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:23,760 Speaker 1: like everybody having a good time. Wow. 457 00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:26,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's I could see how that would translate. I mean, 458 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:28,880 Speaker 2: the last thing I ever want to do is throw 459 00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 2: a party, really dinner. Oh my god. I like to 460 00:21:31,840 --> 00:21:33,879 Speaker 2: go to a party. Specific I'd like to go to 461 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:37,199 Speaker 2: one of your parties, but no, like figuring out a 462 00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:38,919 Speaker 2: menu that would not be for me. 463 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:42,440 Speaker 1: Love that. That's my favorite thing is having everybody over, cooking 464 00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:44,760 Speaker 1: a big dinner, like having a twelve person dinner party 465 00:21:44,800 --> 00:21:45,960 Speaker 1: is my favorite thing on earth. 466 00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:50,320 Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yeah. Okay, So got to talk a 467 00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:53,000 Speaker 2: little bit about season three of The Valley, which is 468 00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:58,520 Speaker 2: premiering April April first, April first, Okay, so very very exciting. 469 00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:02,200 Speaker 2: Tell me a little bit about how filming this season 470 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:03,919 Speaker 2: was compared to last season. 471 00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:08,040 Speaker 1: Honestly, last season was so dark because we were all 472 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:11,040 Speaker 1: kind of right in the center of Jackson Brittany's separation, 473 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:15,240 Speaker 1: looming divorce, and I feel like Jack's kind of sucked 474 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:17,239 Speaker 1: the air out of the room a lot. It was 475 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:19,919 Speaker 1: like just very heavy. A lot of the topics that 476 00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:24,160 Speaker 1: we were having to deal with because of Jack's were 477 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:27,240 Speaker 1: just really dark, and it just it felt like anytime 478 00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:29,320 Speaker 1: we were having fun, it would be like Brittany would 479 00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:30,840 Speaker 1: be like, guess what he just did or guess what 480 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:33,560 Speaker 1: he just texted me? Right, And that kind of was 481 00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:37,720 Speaker 1: like this dark cloud around last season, And I feel 482 00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:40,560 Speaker 1: like this season was It's the most I've ever laughed. Like, 483 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:43,639 Speaker 1: while I feel like, yeah, it's had the most fun, 484 00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:46,080 Speaker 1: I feel like and it just felt a lot lighter 485 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 1: and more fun. Granted there's still drama, like there's a 486 00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:51,640 Speaker 1: bunch of us, like you know, don't like each other, 487 00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:54,520 Speaker 1: don't get along over certain things, so there's still all 488 00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:58,359 Speaker 1: of that, but it just felt normal, like bullsh that 489 00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:02,240 Speaker 1: happens in life, not like really dark, heavy topics all 490 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 1: the time. 491 00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:06,080 Speaker 2: That's so interesting because in terms of like the two 492 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:09,800 Speaker 2: seasons I did on Housewives on New Jersey, the first 493 00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:13,520 Speaker 2: season thirteen was so much fun and we had so 494 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:15,639 Speaker 2: I mean, it was again there was drama, but it 495 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:18,679 Speaker 2: was like we still we had so many laughs. The 496 00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:22,119 Speaker 2: cast trip was like amazing, and then season fourteen it 497 00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:28,000 Speaker 2: turned into a lot of just heaviness and darkness, and 498 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:29,960 Speaker 2: now we've been on pause for a couple of years. 499 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:33,840 Speaker 2: So I if I'm picking, I would definitely prefer then 500 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:37,119 Speaker 2: season three to season two of The Valley. I'm so 501 00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:37,960 Speaker 2: excited to watch it. 502 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're also going to see Lala on Schwartz join, 503 00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:42,520 Speaker 1: which I'm so happy about. Like, Lala's been one of 504 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:45,760 Speaker 1: my best friends for years now, and so it is right. 505 00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:47,560 Speaker 1: I feel like one of the things that like The 506 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,960 Speaker 1: Valley really like nailed in, Like in picking all of 507 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:52,760 Speaker 1: us is like all of us are real friends in 508 00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,639 Speaker 1: real life, right, you know, Lala popped in she was 509 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,879 Speaker 1: like at my birthday season one, and she filmed a 510 00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:00,879 Speaker 1: little bit season two and she was pregnant and so 511 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:02,960 Speaker 1: you saw little bits and pieces of her because it 512 00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:05,040 Speaker 1: would have been strange for her not to be a 513 00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:08,720 Speaker 1: part of it. Otherwise she and Schwarts are full time 514 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:11,240 Speaker 1: with us, which it just feels like right and like 515 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:13,720 Speaker 1: you know, all this stuff anytime she wasn't at like 516 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:16,360 Speaker 1: a party or an event, and like this wouldn't how 517 00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:18,359 Speaker 1: this wouldn't be how it is like if we didn't 518 00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 1: have cameras up, so it feels like cameras are like 519 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 1: now at the things that we would have off camera. God, 520 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,240 Speaker 1: it's all like lining up the way it's supposed to. 521 00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:30,159 Speaker 2: And they have a best friends next to you. It 522 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:31,640 Speaker 2: definitely changes everything, right. 523 00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:36,159 Speaker 1: A sober best friend like Lala is sober, so like 524 00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:38,359 Speaker 1: days after when all of us are like lit and 525 00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:40,880 Speaker 1: having the time of our lives on camera and people 526 00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:43,280 Speaker 1: are like, well, this person said this, and then this happened. 527 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:46,639 Speaker 1: Lala's like, uhh, that's not how I said this first. 528 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:49,159 Speaker 1: Then she said this, then this happened, and I'm like, 529 00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:52,720 Speaker 1: thank god. I'm like, we have somebody sober in the 530 00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:56,080 Speaker 1: group who can like fully just like recount everything as 531 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,280 Speaker 1: it happens and tell the truth. 532 00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:01,439 Speaker 2: The Greek chorus. That's awesome. Yeah, I cannot wait to 533 00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:07,440 Speaker 2: watch fun. So can you compare the valley and your 534 00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 2: experience on it with being in a sorority? Is it? 535 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:12,400 Speaker 2: Does it feel like at all the same? 536 00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:15,400 Speaker 1: I think you know what's similar? I feel like it's 537 00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:18,080 Speaker 1: sort of like, yeah, I feel like in we all 538 00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:21,639 Speaker 1: have like our individual like groups, like you know, Brittany, Lala, 539 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:23,879 Speaker 1: Michelle and I, Like we have a group chat. We 540 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:26,040 Speaker 1: talk all the time. So I feel like in the 541 00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,440 Speaker 1: sorority life, like you had your best friends or your room. 542 00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:31,080 Speaker 1: Then you had like the big group that you would 543 00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:33,359 Speaker 1: see like at all the socials. So that's like you 544 00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:35,520 Speaker 1: know people that are like maybe we're not as close 545 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,720 Speaker 1: with but like you know, we're still in the friend group, 546 00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:41,199 Speaker 1: or you don't like that you have this anyway, right, 547 00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,560 Speaker 1: And it's almost sort of like the Bravo world too, 548 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:47,000 Speaker 1: is like other shows are sort of like other sororities. 549 00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:49,560 Speaker 1: Like I remember talking to Gina from Orange County and 550 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,000 Speaker 1: being like we're basically like, you know, sorority sisters, just 551 00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:53,000 Speaker 1: in different sororities. 552 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:53,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. 553 00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, And Bravocon is like, you know, getting to bring 554 00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 1: all that together, which is so much fun. It's sort 555 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:02,480 Speaker 1: of like mirror that, like that that sorority group. Like 556 00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:06,240 Speaker 1: there's different clubs and different different groups, but everybody kind 557 00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: of has the same understanding of like you know, like 558 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 1: you can you can bitch with another sorority girl who's 559 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:13,600 Speaker 1: in a different storty about like oh I have to 560 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:17,320 Speaker 1: go to like initiation today, and they understand like oh, 561 00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:20,160 Speaker 1: chapter meetings are like you know, so annoying on Sundays 562 00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 1: and now you have the same understanding for how things work. 563 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:25,679 Speaker 2: I have a confessional, I have a cast trip. 564 00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:26,840 Speaker 1: Yeah. 565 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:32,160 Speaker 2: That's interesting because I definitely clicked with people at Bravo 566 00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:35,520 Speaker 2: con and and I've unlike a lot of people that 567 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:38,639 Speaker 2: go on reality TV, I am a fan. I've been 568 00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:43,320 Speaker 2: a fan. I've watched every Housewife episode ever, so it's 569 00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:46,199 Speaker 2: a little bit of my first one, especially like I 570 00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:50,879 Speaker 2: get I got a little starstruck. Yeah, and but this 571 00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:54,200 Speaker 2: last year, I was like, it was just so easy 572 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:56,280 Speaker 2: to connect with people because there's there's just a shared 573 00:26:56,320 --> 00:27:01,440 Speaker 2: experience there. I think that probably applies right to sororities 574 00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:04,560 Speaker 2: in terms of just you know, your goal and especially 575 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:08,400 Speaker 2: like the sisters that you pledge with. Yeah, right, it's 576 00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:10,880 Speaker 2: just sort of this shared experience which is really fun 577 00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:14,400 Speaker 2: and very unique in terms of I think friendships life, 578 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,640 Speaker 2: you know, long friendships, and you know, to be able 579 00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:20,920 Speaker 2: to have that, to have that history together, it kind 580 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:22,359 Speaker 2: of bonds you, right, totally. 581 00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:25,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, that shared experience like yeah, like sharing your life, 582 00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,520 Speaker 1: like getting love and hate online, like yep, you know, 583 00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,000 Speaker 1: it's something all of us. You know, no matter if 584 00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:33,320 Speaker 1: what show you're on or what you're doing, it's like 585 00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:36,679 Speaker 1: everybody experiences like those highs and lows, you know, like 586 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,200 Speaker 1: the having to be in the glam chair so much. 587 00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:40,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, there is a lot. 588 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:42,720 Speaker 1: Of like shared experience. I feel like that all of 589 00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:45,280 Speaker 1: us have. And yeah, Bravo con I have been such 590 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 1: a big fan of so many Bravo shows for a 591 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:50,399 Speaker 1: long time now. Chris Cody gave me for it on 592 00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:53,280 Speaker 1: our show and was like, you're a fan, and I'm like, 593 00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:55,639 Speaker 1: I'm a proud fan. I love a one hundred percent, 594 00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 1: Like I think it's so much fun and so yeah, 595 00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,280 Speaker 1: same thing like getting to meet people from shows that 596 00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,160 Speaker 1: I've watched for years. In your Housewife so cool, right, 597 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:07,240 Speaker 1: I find so iconic you getting to sit next to you. 598 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,920 Speaker 1: I heard awards and be like, oh my god, Jenfestler's 599 00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:14,320 Speaker 1: next to me. Like it's just like, yeah, it's a 600 00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:15,639 Speaker 1: really exciting fun world. 601 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. I remember this past time. I'd met her before, 602 00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:21,800 Speaker 2: but I was in the bathroom Bravo Khan and Kathy 603 00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:25,480 Speaker 2: Hilton and Nikki Hilton came out and Kathy, who has 604 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 2: said this to me at other events, and I'm bragging 605 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:30,399 Speaker 2: a little bit, but I can't help it. She's like, 606 00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:32,439 Speaker 2: I love what you are wearing. 607 00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:34,280 Speaker 1: She gave it. 608 00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:37,399 Speaker 2: She it was I thought I would die. She's like, 609 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,320 Speaker 2: you look, you look so chic. She goes, you really 610 00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:43,600 Speaker 2: don't look like a housewife, which I thought, which I 611 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:44,760 Speaker 2: thought was hilarious. 612 00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:47,160 Speaker 1: She probably thinks of the housewife fashion is like so 613 00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:48,920 Speaker 1: over the top and like extra. 614 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:52,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I never really I'm old, so I'm 615 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:57,280 Speaker 2: never like you know, tits out for harambie. So that's 616 00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:01,400 Speaker 2: the expression, right, I love that. Yeah, that's good, good, good, 617 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,560 Speaker 2: all right, my friend. I loved having you here. You're 618 00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:08,240 Speaker 2: du so much fun. It was really fun. You're the best. 619 00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:11,120 Speaker 2: You're the best. Okay you guys, April first, Jannet, I 620 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:13,720 Speaker 2: really am. I'm psyched. I love that. It's going to 621 00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:15,600 Speaker 2: be a little more fun, a little less dark. 622 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:16,760 Speaker 1: It's going to be good. 623 00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:18,680 Speaker 2: I know those are always the best seasons. 624 00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,800 Speaker 1: Yeay, my love, Thank you so much having me. 625 00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:26,520 Speaker 2: Thank you, bye bye bye. All right, guys, so we 626 00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:29,320 Speaker 2: will see you next time on another episode of Dirty Rush. 627 00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:32,760 Speaker 2: Follow us on Instagram and TikTok at Dirty Rush Podcast.