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Speaker 2: Uh, let's go. Let's go Papa John, because that's where

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Speaker 2: I'm at right now. Let's go, Papa John.

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Speaker 1: Papa John. What's going on with you?

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Speaker 2: H nothing much, man, I'm just at work right now,

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Speaker 1: What'd you want to talk about today, Papa John?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I just want to talk about So. I have

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Speaker 2: a girlfriend of about four years now, and oh my fuck,

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Speaker 2: it's gonna sound so bad saying this, but I just

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Speaker 2: can't stop but.

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Speaker 3: Like cheating.

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Speaker 2: I can't stop cheating.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, it says here you said I can't stop

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Speaker 1: cheating on my girlfriend and I think it's my dad's

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Speaker 1: fault because he fucks hookers.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's what I mean. Listen to your a

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Speaker 2: lot of your podcasts. I like asked myself the same

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Speaker 1: Okay, So, but here's the thing. How can how can?

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Speaker 1: Why do you? Why do you say that you cheating

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Speaker 2: Hmmm? Well okay, So so my dad fucks hookers and

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Speaker 2: he's he's still with my mom. They're like together, right,

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Speaker 2: we all live together.

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Speaker 2: And it's kind of weird. Me and him never really had.

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Speaker 4: A relationship, so I guess to relate with me, he

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Speaker 4: talked about having sex with with girls younger than him,

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Speaker 2: But anyway, Yeah, so I think he growing up. He

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Speaker 2: just always talked so much shit about being in a

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Speaker 1: How old are you, Papa John? I am twenty, you're twenty,

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Speaker 1: You're twenty? Okay, Well, Papa John. Here's the thing. I've

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Speaker 1: you know, things in my life that I don't like

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Speaker 1: why am I the way I am? And I look

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Speaker 1: at my parents and I think about their their lives

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Speaker 1: and their situations and and and it is it is informative, right,

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Speaker 1: and looking your parents is a good way to inform

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Speaker 1: you of how you guys be where you are. But

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Speaker 1: here's the kicker, and here's the thing, And it actually

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Speaker 1: can be helpful because, like, here's the thing. You saying,

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Speaker 1: Is this way of like alleviating responsibility for your actions

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Speaker 1: and putting it on your dad. Now here's the thing

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Speaker 1: to understand why you are the way you are, and

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Speaker 1: it's not my fault necessarily that my brain has been

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Speaker 7: A week break or so, so and this I don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's definitely I mean, well, I mean it's

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Speaker 1: And and also you need to reframe it because to say,

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Speaker 2: So should I try to like abstain then or abstain

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Speaker 8: No, I'm asking you should I because should you should

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Speaker 8: Yes, but after okay, so after that's dealt with and

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Speaker 1: What then? What then? Uh? Well, if I were you,

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Speaker 1: That's probably a good idea. Go see a real therapist

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Speaker 1: Geck, Papa John, Well, I'm gonna let you go go

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Speaker 2: Yep, yep, you know it's actually perfect timing. It's that

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Speaker 1: Cool? Any what anything else do you want to you

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Speaker 1: wanna you sound like you have a band? You want

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Speaker 2: Listen and listening to a lot of Title Fight recently.

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Speaker 1: What's your name? John Well? John Good? Good to hear

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Speaker 1: from you. What's up? How's life? How can I get

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Speaker 5: So?

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Speaker 6: Pretty much? My life has been crazy for the past year.

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Speaker 6: Long story short. I paid my rent this month and

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Speaker 6: all my other bills are unpaid and I door dash now.

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Speaker 6: I'm a veteran. I was in the Army for three

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Speaker 6: and I have a broken engine mount for like three

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Speaker 6: I have a little two year old and stand for

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Speaker 1: Mhm, Yeah, that sucks.

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Speaker 6: It does suck.

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Speaker 1: I sorry to hit you with Sorry to hit you

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Speaker 1: with the damn that sucks. No, I mean se it's

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Speaker 6: Yeah? I was a military police officer.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, seventeen people February fourteenth, twenty eighteen.

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Speaker 6: I'm looking for a job, but it's it's so hard,

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Speaker 6: Yeah, Anti my brothers and ficks my car.

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Speaker 6: The only reason I haven't done that is because I

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Speaker 6: Yeah, my mom and my brother A little extra twist

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Speaker 6: I mean I've talked to them, like you know, like

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm actually sitting next to one of my best friends.

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Speaker 9: Here you go, Hi, Lyle, I'm so excited.

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Speaker 1: Oh hey, what's all you sound? You know, you sound

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 9: Yes, I'm a pastry chef. My name is Vanessa.

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Speaker 6: Pretty much.

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Speaker 9: We've known each other for sixteen years and it's just

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Speaker 7: Are you?

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Speaker 1: How's your life going?

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Speaker 9: It's going good. I work at a job that's been stable.

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Speaker 9: I'd like a hotel. It's like a resort. I make

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Speaker 1: You're going to become a bagel?

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Speaker 8: Yeah?

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Speaker 9: My goal in life?

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Speaker 5: Your life continue?

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Speaker 9: Oh no, my goal in life is own an edible bakery.

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Speaker 1: Aren't all bakeries theoretically edible?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 9: But with more like with cannabis.

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Speaker 1: Medical hmm, can you get can you get our friend

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Speaker 1: Hear a job making the cakes? Yeah, let's do that.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you guys make cakes together? That could be

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Speaker 9: Succom No, it would be we could be like two

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Speaker 9: Through elementary school?

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Speaker 6: We hated each other.

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Speaker 9: It was really funny, but then we ended up being

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Speaker 1: Now. What was it that made you guys realize that

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Speaker 6: I think it was just it was.

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Speaker 9: There's just something about like her and me, like we

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Speaker 9: It was kind of funny. It was like a moment.

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Speaker 1: That's nice. Some of the best friendships begin that way

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Speaker 9: Yeah, that's pretty much.

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Speaker 6: That was That was it.

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Speaker 1: That's nice. How what do you It sounds like she's

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Speaker 9: Yeah, it's been good. We've been door dashing. But I

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Speaker 2: That's my perspective on life.

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Speaker 1: I like that. It's true, right, it's true. I'm happy

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Speaker 1: My water, My water is legs.

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Speaker 5: Mm hmmm.

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Speaker 9: Uh, you got her?

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Speaker 6: Hello?

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Speaker 1: Hi Sky? Where are you guys right now? Are you

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Speaker 9: Uh?

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Speaker 6: No, Actually we're parked outside of a Wendy's.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, that's nice. That's a great event. And is

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Speaker 6: Baby daddy has them tonight?

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Speaker 6: No, but everything is good. It's very cordial, thankfully good. Good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because that can that can be a nightmare sometimes. Well,

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you have your friends that you can go

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Speaker 1: That's one of the great pleasures of life. I liked

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Speaker 6: Yeah, there's water. There's water.

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Speaker 9: Good.

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Speaker 6: Thank you for hearing me out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, let me do this. I does the

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Speaker 1: chat have any questions any questions from the chat for

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Speaker 1: One person wants to know if you guys are stoned.

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Speaker 9: No, I am what the cookie has been through?

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Speaker 2: If you've never been baked?

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Speaker 1: Are you getting any help? Someone wants to know, are

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 1: Is that a thing you can do?

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Speaker 6: So I've tried in the past, but it takes like

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Speaker 6: So there's big Everyone thinks that there's so many resources

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Speaker 6: But it's okay. We're doing amazing.

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Speaker 1: What are their favorite kind of bagels?

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Speaker 6: What's your favorite type of babel?

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Speaker 9: I love a poppy seed bagel, which sounds crazy, but

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Speaker 9: So I like to put like flavorful cream cheese on

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Speaker 9: my bagels, like strawberry.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll take one more. Give us one more question, chat,

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Speaker 1: give us one more question. Uh, have you someone wants

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Speaker 1: to ask if you've thought about putting your baby in

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Speaker 1: a mind to make extra money.

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Speaker 8: Oh no, I don't.

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Speaker 6: I don't think so. I mean, I don't think that

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Speaker 1: You know what, you're a good mother, John. If any

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Speaker 1: because you didn't put your child in a mine.

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Speaker 6: Yep, no, we're not doing that.

447
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Speaker 1: If I had a child and somebody knocked on my

448
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Speaker 1: door and I was like, you could make a lot

449
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Speaker 1: of money by putting him to work in the mines,

450
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Speaker 1: he'd be he'd be in the minds, But thank you

451
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Speaker 1: so much. Is there anything else either of you want

452
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Speaker 1: to say to the people of the computer before we go?

453
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Speaker 8: We love you?

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Speaker 1: Oh thanks guys, Stay safe, stayed liar. I'm gonna try.

455
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna try you guys as well. Have a good

456
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Speaker 1: night you as well. You know what, maybe I'll go

457
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Speaker 1: into the mines. The minds don't sound that bad. The

458
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Speaker 1: minds don't sound that bad. I can handle the fucking

459
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Speaker 1: stupid minds. Hey, folks, this is Lyle. I am very

460
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Speaker 1: excited to announce that I am going back on tour

461
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Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four to do Therapy Gecko Live all

462
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Speaker 1: across the country. If you've never been to one of

463
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Speaker 1: my live shows before, they're basically like giant group Gecko

464
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Speaker 1: therapy sessions where people from the audience come on stage

465
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Speaker 1: to talk to a gecko about whatever they want, just

466
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Speaker 1: like we do right here on the podcast. Plus I

467
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Speaker 1: mix in a few stories and presentations and little tidbits

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Speaker 1: from my own life. Tickets are available right now at

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Speaker 1: Therapy geckotour dot com, or you can find the link

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Speaker 1: in the episode description. I'm announcing many more cities in

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Speaker 1: the second half of the year, but right now. Tickets

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Speaker 1: are on sale four Phoenix, Arizona, Louisville, Kentucky, Saint Louis, Missouri, Orlando, Florida, Tampa, Florida, Miami, Florida, Boston, Massachusetts, Denver, Colorado, Syracuse,

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Speaker 1: New York, Albany, New York, Hartford, Connecticut, Las Vegas, Nevada,

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Speaker 1: Salt Lake City, Utah, Nashville, Tennessee, Huntsville, Alabama, Chicago, Illinois, Milwaukee, Wisconsin,

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Speaker 1: San Jose, California, San Francisco, California, Portland, Oregon, and Seattle, Washington.

476
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Speaker 1: And you can get tickets for all of those cities

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Speaker 1: at therapy geckotour dot com. If you didn't hear me

478
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Speaker 1: say your city, you can still go to the link

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Speaker 1: and hit the RSVP button to get notified for when

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Speaker 1: I do come to your city in the second half

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Speaker 1: of the year. This is my third tour so far,

482
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Speaker 1: and I think it's gonna be sick, so I hope

483
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Speaker 1: to see you there. Thanks, Hello, Hi.

484
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Speaker 2: There, Oh shitke I wasn't ready for this.

485
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Speaker 1: How you doing, man, I'm doing good man. How are you.

486
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Speaker 1: I'm going to give you a name, I'm going to

487
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Speaker 1: call you. I'm gonna call you Jonathan.

488
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Speaker 3: John, Jonathan sounds good.

489
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Speaker 1: John. All right, you texted me something. I thought it

490
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Speaker 1: was interesting. You said, my name is John, I'm twenty eight.

491
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Speaker 1: I'm from Puerto Rico. Is that true or is that

492
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Speaker 1: where you're calling from?

493
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Speaker 2: No, that is true. Yeah, I'm here, I'm born and

494
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Speaker 2: race here.

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Speaker 1: Very cool.

496
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Speaker 3: It might be one of the few.

497
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Speaker 2: You got it, but they're not a lot of us,

498
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Speaker 2: but you got a few.

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Speaker 1: It's okay, Okay, Hello, I'm about to sound extremely ignorant

500
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Speaker 1: right now. San Juan is in Puerto Rico.

501
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Speaker 5: Right, that is correct?

502
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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I got I got Puerto Rico and Costa

503
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Speaker 1: Rica because they're but they're they're both reeks. Yeah, so

504
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,879
Speaker 1: I got them confused a lot. Uh. Yeah, I might.

505
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Speaker 1: I might go to San Juan. I might go to

506
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Speaker 1: San Juan. I have a little gap in my touring schedule.

507
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Speaker 1: I might go to San Juan.

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Speaker 2: Please do please come.

509
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Speaker 9: Show.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm in San Juan.

511
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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, cool. Maybe you can help me find

512
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:42,119
Speaker 1: the best butter fingers in San Juan, Puerto Rico. You

513
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:48,719
Speaker 1: said to me, I recently found out why I cry

514
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Speaker 1: every time I see a duck.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I know it sounds insurd, but that is correct, Greg.

516
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Speaker 3: I mean, may I start the story because went to Okay,

517
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Speaker 3: so I was in in one of the hotels were

518
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Speaker 3: having someone area and I was there and then they

519
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Speaker 3: have this pond with like the coy fish and like

520
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Speaker 3: ducklings and whatnot. And I started crying. And this had

521
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Speaker 3: happened from like the last fourteen years of my life,

522
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Speaker 3: but for me it was always like a happy like

523
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Speaker 3: happy years, like oh, there's some cute little ducklings and whatnot.

524
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Speaker 3: But my mom told me that. She was like, oh,

525
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Speaker 3: having you got over that?

526
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Speaker 2: And I was like, over what.

527
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Speaker 3: And she was the one that told me and recalled me,

528
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Speaker 3: and I was like, oh my god, you're kidding the mom.

529
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Speaker 3: That really happened, and it was true. Okay, let's go back.

530
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Speaker 3: When I was about four, my mom got us some

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Speaker 3: ducklings for Easter, and living here in Puerto Rico, especially

532
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Speaker 3: by that time, I lived like it was running in

533
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Speaker 3: the mountain area, so I didn't have like ponds or

534
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Speaker 3: anything like natural rivers. And with my little duckling, I

535
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Speaker 3: wanted him to swim. As the four year old, the

536
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Speaker 3: first place that I thought of was a toilet, and well.

537
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Speaker 1: You know what, happened from here, you flushed the duck

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Speaker 1: down the toilet.

539
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Speaker 3: In my four year old mind, I didn't. I thought

540
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Speaker 3: only poop flushed down the toilet.

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Speaker 2: I didn't.

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Speaker 3: I didn't think other from that, I didn't think that

543
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Speaker 3: anything else would right down.

544
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you thought there was a scanner in there that

545
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: would reject anything that wasn't shad.

546
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Speaker 3: I don't know, a mesh field or something. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Wow, man, I mean, I hope this. I hope it

548
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Speaker 1: doesn't make you feel any better, But I hope this

549
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Speaker 1: might not make you feel better. But that duck died

550
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Speaker 1: a just a horrible death. It died drowning, and.

551
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Speaker 3: I the thing is, I really hope it was quick.

552
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 2: But the saddest part of the story that my.

553
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Speaker 3: Mom's recalls, I spent like four days after that feeding

554
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Speaker 3: him bread through the toilet because I apparently thought he

555
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Speaker 3: was stuck down the pipe and still alive.

556
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Speaker 1: That's actually very sweet of you, I know, right.

557
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Speaker 2: About also cruel.

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Speaker 3: That's what I That's what I told the caller in

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Speaker 3: the text. I was like, it's really like a terrible story,

560
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Speaker 3: but the same way, it's like really funny, and as

561
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Speaker 3: you said, it has a little.

562
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Speaker 2: Droplets off wholesome inside of it.

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Speaker 10: Do you.

564
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Speaker 1: What do you think you can do to repent for this?

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I thought about maybe getting a little dockling for myself,

567
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Speaker 3: of course, keeping it away from the toilet, but I

568
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Speaker 3: recently like thought about it, and here in Puerto Rico

569
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Speaker 3: you have, like it's really easy to get a little

570
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Speaker 3: dockling for yourself. So I was thinking about getting something

571
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Speaker 3: from the thing is, I have a husky and I

572
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 3: don't know how they're gonna get along.

573
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Speaker 1: I mean, that would be horrible if you bought a

574
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Speaker 1: duck to make up for the one you killed and

575
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Speaker 1: then it just got killed again by your dog. Yeah,

576
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 1: it's gonna maybe they'll maybe they'll be friends. Like like

577
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to what's the dog like? Woods Woodstock? Woodstock

578
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 1: is a Is he a duck? What the fuck is he?

579
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Speaker 1: He's a bird?

580
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Speaker 8: Oh?

581
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Speaker 3: Is that like that? I think that it's a geese.

582
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Speaker 3: But like the one line, no that.

583
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Speaker 1: The wood snoopy and woodstock, the Charlie Brown guys.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh oh yeah, yeah, you mean like okay that

585
00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 3: gut Yeah, sorry, I got a little confused because I

586
00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 3: know there's a geese that's like trending on the web,

587
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Speaker 3: like online or something.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, did you just say that like geese? I'm sorry,

589
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 1: do you say that geese are trending on the web.

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Speaker 3: I mean, not geese, just one geese that I've seen

591
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 3: like around the internet that he's like an indoor geese

592
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Speaker 3: and he lives like inside the house, and it's like

593
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Speaker 3: really friendly with like the cats that also lives in

594
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Speaker 3: that side the house.

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Speaker 1: Here's what you do. You get a duckling and you

596
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: raise it to be an internationally famous social media influencer,

597
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 1: brand deals from all kinds of duck apparel websites, and

598
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:25,600
Speaker 1: you just give this duck the most rock star lifestyle

599
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: it could possibly dream of, and that will make up

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Speaker 1: for drowning the other one in diarrhea.

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Speaker 2: H I I'll think about it.

602
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 3: So Noise Tolate's involved with this new duckling.

603
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Speaker 1: There was a guy on TikTok who he had a

604
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 1: monkey that would like open presents and the monkey died.

605
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 1: It was sad.

606
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:52,960
Speaker 2: That sounds horrible.

607
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 3: That sounds really horrible.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why I told that story. It didn't

609
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Speaker 1: really add to the conversation. But is there anything else

610
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Speaker 1: that you want to say to thank you for telling

611
00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 1: this story. I I where should it's if I go

612
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Speaker 1: to San Juan and I want to interview people and

613
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:09,760
Speaker 1: and and find out what's what the word is on

614
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:14,440
Speaker 1: the street is in Puerto Rico. They speak Spanish there, right, Yeah.

615
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 3: Mostly Spanish, but we have like eighty percent of people

616
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 3: very lingual.

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00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 1: By now, I can speak a little the poco.

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Speaker 2: I see a little bit of here, A little bit

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Speaker 2: of that.

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Speaker 3: I got you. But like I told you, over here

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Speaker 3: now about eighty nine percent of ninety percent of people

622
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Speaker 3: ready by lingual.

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Speaker 1: All right, cool, I'll go down there. I want to

624
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Speaker 1: see what's going on.

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Speaker 3: Of course, John, I would recommend the old San Juan district,

626
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 3: a really close to yeah, really close to the airport

627
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Speaker 3: and a lot like super busy.

628
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Speaker 1: John, is there anything else you want to say to

629
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Speaker 1: the people of the computer before we go?

630
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Speaker 3: Uh well, I wasn't even I wasn't even thinking about

631
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 3: getting called tonight because it's my first time calling. But

632
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 3: uh well, anybody that's trying to call here to talk

633
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 3: to the GEK is not that hard. And I also

634
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 3: want to appreciate you GEK.

635
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 2: For anything that you do.

636
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 1: Thanks man, thank you. I'm trying my best out here.

637
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:19,319
Speaker 1: I'm no, I'm no duckling, but I'm geking as hard

638
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:19,799
Speaker 1: as I can.

639
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,200
Speaker 3: Of course, you would swim down up the stream of

640
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Speaker 3: the toilet if you were with duckling. I know you.

641
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Speaker 1: I drowned and pissed. Thanks for calling, John.

642
00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:35,399
Speaker 3: Of course, I'll be the first one at your show

643
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 3: if you come here to Puerto Rico, oh, at public questioning,

644
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:39,239
Speaker 3: I'll be there.

645
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, I'm gonna do it. I don't know

646
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:43,040
Speaker 1: if I'll do a show, but I'll definitely come down

647
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 1: there to fuck around.

648
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:45,879
Speaker 3: Please, I'll be honest.

649
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 1: It's awesome, beautiful, Take care man, you too.

650
00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 2: Have a great night.

651
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 8: Hello.

652
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Speaker 6: Yeah, Hi, I'm gonna call myself.

653
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 1: Veronica, Veronica, Veronica, What is going on with you this evening?

654
00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:08,760
Speaker 1: How may how might I get you today?

655
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:15,040
Speaker 6: Well, I've been seeing for a while on Instagram, so

656
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:17,720
Speaker 6: I was like, I made a little bit of help

657
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:23,919
Speaker 6: from somebody outside my circle with my current situation. I'm

658
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 6: thirty two and I'm married. I've been married for a

659
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 6: while now, we're going on ten years. I got married

660
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:38,800
Speaker 6: relatively young, I would say, but I'm Latina, so usually

661
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:44,400
Speaker 6: we kind of get married pretty young. And I was

662
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 6: like twenty six basically or less. I think basically it's

663
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 6: been almost two years that our relationship has basically changed

664
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Speaker 6: the dynamic. Like I met him being students, and we

665
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 6: met literally because we smoked weed when we had like

666
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 6: the same crew, and one night we basically drank too

667
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 6: much and from that night on we never slept apart.

668
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 6: So you know, it was fun. It was very fun.

669
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 6: But then when we moved back to my home country,

670
00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:30,439
Speaker 6: things has really changed, Like he became this I would say,

671
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 6: sexist type of guy, like controlling, boring. We used to

672
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 6: go on hikes and into the beach and now it's

673
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:44,040
Speaker 6: like it's very boring. And I consider myself young, and

674
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 6: you know, I'm a doctor also, so I want to

675
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:52,120
Speaker 6: enjoy as much as I can my life, right, So

676
00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:56,360
Speaker 6: a lot of things have been happening from this, respecting

677
00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 6: my friends and my family, and I permitted it unconsciously.

678
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 6: I would call him manipulation. And on October he called

679
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 6: me unfaithful, like I was unfaithful that I was with

680
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 6: another man, and that that's not true. I've been I

681
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 6: mean back then it wasn't true, you know. So when

682
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:21,760
Speaker 6: he called me that, I just decided to go ahead

683
00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 6: and cheat on him, and I did, and I mean,

684
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 6: I don't feel the same way. Even prior to that event,

685
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 6: I haven't felt the same way sexually towards him. You know,

686
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 6: I don't want to be with a person, but I

687
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:40,040
Speaker 6: don't feel attractive to anymore. And now that I've had

688
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:45,640
Speaker 6: other experiences, it's like even harder decision if I should

689
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 6: divorce him or now. I mean, not only that he

690
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:52,600
Speaker 6: accused me of being unfaithful, he literally denegrated me, like

691
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 6: he said that he doesn't like me. On more than

692
00:37:56,200 --> 00:38:00,839
Speaker 6: one occasion, he called me that I was the wife ever,

693
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:06,279
Speaker 6: that I was a horrible person, and I even left

694
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 6: my own home, which is mine actually, and you know,

695
00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 6: it just felt like I had to get away. And

696
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:16,840
Speaker 6: it's been a little bit hard to decide if I

697
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:18,839
Speaker 6: really want to get a divorce or out because it's

698
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 6: so much years with this person, and then there's this

699
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 6: other guy, this thing I a cheated with, which I

700
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:30,239
Speaker 6: got lucky. I would say, I used bumble and I

701
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 6: met this person and we kind of clicked, you know,

702
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 6: and we didn't know anybody around each other, and he's

703
00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 6: also in a relationships, so it starts like for me,

704
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 6: it's only sexual, but now I feel that this guy,

705
00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:52,279
Speaker 6: the side guy, is kind of getting a little bit

706
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:56,719
Speaker 6: of feelings towards me. So I feel now I have

707
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:58,560
Speaker 6: like a double trouble, Like I don't know if I

708
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:04,440
Speaker 6: want to stay with my husband and like miss out

709
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 6: on life opportunities that I've been missing out for two

710
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 6: or three years, or just start meeting people, like I

711
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:13,879
Speaker 6: don't know if this is just part of my friends.

712
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 6: I don't know if it's just because I'm I'm horny

713
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:20,160
Speaker 6: right now, like I want to know other people, or

714
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:22,680
Speaker 6: if it's generally that I'm not in love with my

715
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 6: husband anymore because he literally denegated me, Like, so.

716
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:29,839
Speaker 1: I'm completely said you said two different things, and maybe

717
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 1: they're both true. But you said your husband is being manipulative,

718
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 1: but you were also saying that you were mainly upset

719
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 1: because he became boring. Was it just a combination of

720
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 1: those Yeah.

721
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:46,120
Speaker 6: No, yeah, yes, a combination completely, completely, completely like he

722
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 6: he wasn't like this at all at all, you know,

723
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 6: I did. I would say grow up a little, but

724
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:54,840
Speaker 6: you know I was. I'm always the type of girl

725
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 6: to have a lot of guy friends and and literally

726
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 6: be a guy like you know, I'm a game where

727
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 6: I am a nerd and whatnot. And you know when

728
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 6: once we moved to my hometown, I feel that, you know,

729
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 6: and again I am a doctor. So he caught. I

730
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 6: think he got like intundated with the whole situation. But

731
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:19,839
Speaker 6: you know, that's not my problem. Like you know, at

732
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 6: the end of the day, I don't even like he

733
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,560
Speaker 6: tried to even like buy me at a point, like

734
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,359
Speaker 6: trying to spoil me, and that's not even it.

735
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: What's what's your name again, Veronica? Remember that? Well, Veronic?

736
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to. It's very hard to answer these

737
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 1: without telling people what to do, but I'll try my best.

738
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 1: I mean, it sounds like you're unhappy with your husband's Yeah, yeah.

739
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:54,719
Speaker 6: That's and I do love him, but I'm not in

740
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:57,680
Speaker 6: love with him and I'm not and I feel and

741
00:40:58,520 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 6: it sounds.

742
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:02,279
Speaker 1: Like he is, like and I he doesn't know that

743
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:03,640
Speaker 1: you cheated on him with this guy.

744
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 6: I mean, he knows I did it once.

745
00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 1: That's time more than one, So he knows you did

746
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 1: it once, but it's been more than.

747
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 6: Once because he because he chucked my phone like like

748
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:15,840
Speaker 6: this is.

749
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 10: This is very long, you know, Veronica, Like I mean

750
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:27,759
Speaker 10: this I mean I was always loyal, like Ronikay, you.

751
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:29,839
Speaker 1: Don't, I don't. I don't even know. I don't even

752
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: know if you called in to hear my perspective, because

753
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 1: you ever, there's nothing I'm going to say to you

754
00:41:34,160 --> 00:41:34,759
Speaker 1: that you don't know.

755
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 6: That's the thing. I don't know. I do know when

756
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 6: I don't know. I do know when I don't know.

757
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 6: That's the thing, like like even the other day, but

758
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 6: you know he did. I forgave him on October partially,

759
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 6: not really.

760
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:58,799
Speaker 1: And then let's let's let's let's slow down, slow down

761
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 1: for a second, because you can keep adding detail. You can,

762
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:03,319
Speaker 1: you can keep adding detail after detail after detail, but

763
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:09,360
Speaker 1: it's not going to actually really like so like, so

764
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: you've been with this guy for ten years, yeah, okay,

765
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:15,440
Speaker 1: so since you were twenty two years old.

766
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:23,160
Speaker 6: Yeah, he's a one, you're less than me. He's thirty one,

767
00:42:23,680 --> 00:42:25,840
Speaker 6: all right, So.

768
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:30,319
Speaker 1: You've been in this relationship for you've you've been you

769
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 1: have really very no experience being single as an adult exactly, okay,

770
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:41,880
Speaker 1: And you're unhappy with this this guy that you're currently

771
00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 1: with so much so that you're cheating on him and

772
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 1: seeking our relationships with these other guys and you're like, oh,

773
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:51,320
Speaker 1: is it because I'm horny or because it's going to connect?

774
00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 1: And maybe it's a combination of all those things. And again,

775
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: I don't want to tell you what to do, because

776
00:42:56,719 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 1: you know you. I'm just on the phone with you here,

777
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:01,840
Speaker 1: and this is a ten year relationship, and everything is uh,

778
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 1: you know, for as much as red, for as much

779
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:07,640
Speaker 1: as Reddit and and the internet and whatever have their

780
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 1: their thoughts about things. You know, everyone feels differently about

781
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:16,239
Speaker 1: their own individual situation. But but look, you know, I

782
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:22,040
Speaker 1: don't think you need to hate yourself for having the

783
00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 1: feelings of wanting to explore that which you have not explored.

784
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 1: But the way that you're doing it right now is

785
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 1: not going to be helpful to anyone, and including you,

786
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:42,080
Speaker 1: you know, yeah, and you and you know that again,

787
00:43:42,120 --> 00:43:43,839
Speaker 1: I'm not telling you anything that you don't know.

788
00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 6: It's just as tough to I'm scared of just like

789
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 6: leaving him and then like in a way being alone.

790
00:43:55,120 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 10: I don't know, I don't know, yeah, yeah, yeah.

791
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 6: And and and and I don't know. The streets are

792
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:10,480
Speaker 6: not the best, neither you know, what's the best, like

793
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 6: what's available neither you know, I'm always going to be

794
00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 6: in a hospital. I'm always occupied. I'm never home. You know,

795
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:18,960
Speaker 6: I'm not. I'm not going to be.

796
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:21,839
Speaker 1: Here's the thing, why, Here's what I don't understand. Why

797
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:24,440
Speaker 1: is being with something? Why is being in a relationship

798
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 1: that you're unhappy with better than being alone?

799
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:33,560
Speaker 6: I know, I know, I know, I'm so like, I'm

800
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 6: so scared of.

801
00:44:35,760 --> 00:44:38,800
Speaker 1: And also and also like for his like if you

802
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 1: really love this guy, like for his sake, I mean,

803
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 1: you're throwing this guy for a fucking I don't know

804
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:45,799
Speaker 1: what his deal is and I don't know why he's

805
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:48,080
Speaker 1: going crazy because I'm not talking to him right now,

806
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: and wise I wouldn't know. But you know, I mean

807
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 1: for you're throwing this guy for a loop too.

808
00:44:56,200 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I mean I I weren't honest. I We're

809
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 6: actually on like a break or like I asked for

810
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 6: a break. But you know, we're married, so I'm just

811
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 6: living my house kids. Oh no, thank god, No, I

812
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 6: can't right.

813
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:14,000
Speaker 2: No.

814
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:20,440
Speaker 6: We do have a dog though, but you know, and

815
00:45:20,600 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 6: literally the dog is almost the same age as our relationship.

816
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 6: He's nine years old, you know, So.

817
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 1: That would be funny that that actually is funny because

818
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:32,880
Speaker 1: there's the idea of staying I've heard of I've heard

819
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:35,320
Speaker 1: of people staying together for the kids, but never staying

820
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:36,360
Speaker 1: together for the dog.

821
00:45:37,320 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 6: It is something that I did speak to him, you know,

822
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:43,440
Speaker 6: because I did tell him that I wanted this break.

823
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 6: And I don't know how long it's going to be,

824
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:48,839
Speaker 6: and I don't know if it's gonna like, I don't

825
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:50,560
Speaker 6: know the end results. I don't know if I want

826
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:55,440
Speaker 6: to leave him or if I am going to stay

827
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 6: with him. And I feel it's like you said, like

828
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 6: I feel unstaying with him because of the history and

829
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 6: not the present. It's just such a hard decision.

830
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:13,359
Speaker 1: Like yeah, so so you you again, We're not like

831
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 1: this is This is not a decision that requires the

832
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 1: discovery of new information. This is a decision that requires

833
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:24,800
Speaker 1: a little bit of faith, a little bit of courage.

834
00:46:26,160 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 5: You know, everybody, I'm not I'm not.

835
00:46:32,040 --> 00:46:34,320
Speaker 1: An expert in either of them.

836
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:36,879
Speaker 6: No, of course, of course, no, no, no, no no.

837
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:39,440
Speaker 6: But you know, I wanted to because you know, I

838
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 6: have a lot of people around me that know him,

839
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:43,719
Speaker 6: and it's like, oh, you know, you should.

840
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:47,480
Speaker 1: Tell me, tell me this what. Okay, you have clearly

841
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 1: talked about this with your friends and family who are

842
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 1: familiar with you and your relationship and what do they

843
00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 1: have to say?

844
00:46:55,360 --> 00:46:58,640
Speaker 6: You know, I haven't told him completely what he did,

845
00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 6: what he did to me, because it would just be

846
00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:07,759
Speaker 6: like leave him. They would definitely be like leave him.

847
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:11,759
Speaker 6: It was basically besides, it was a manipulative behavior that

848
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 6: I don't understand how I didn't notice it. You know,

849
00:47:14,480 --> 00:47:17,320
Speaker 6: Like he would tie me. If I would be in

850
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:20,160
Speaker 6: my dad's house, he would be like, how long are

851
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 6: you gonna stay there? And I'm like, I'm my dad's house.

852
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:27,719
Speaker 6: I can stay as long as I want. Or you know,

853
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 6: he would be very jealous of my friends and and

854
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:33,360
Speaker 6: told me that my best friend was controlling and that

855
00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:35,960
Speaker 6: my other best friend was a whore and then my

856
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:38,799
Speaker 6: other good best like male best friend. He knew that

857
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,279
Speaker 6: I was going to leave him for my best friend.

858
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:44,040
Speaker 6: I'm like, you know, and I don't understand how I've

859
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 6: permitted all that. I don't know how.

860
00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 5: He yeah, yeah, and there's even more.

861
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 6: I that's the worst part, Like.

862
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 1: You can, really you can, you can. I'm I'm this

863
00:48:09,200 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: stuff is so hard because I'm no expert on relationship,

864
00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 1: navigating relationships and on navigating like but but but Veronica,

865
00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 1: and and and I'm maybe being hypocritical saying this, but

866
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 1: like it's Vernica, it's like being it's so, life is

867
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 1: too short for you to be this fucking miserable. You

868
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:32,879
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Life is, life is too short

869
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 1: for you to be this fucking miserable. And so you

870
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:37,600
Speaker 1: can either sit on the fence and and just keep

871
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 1: being miserable, or like do what you gotta do to

872
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: to to progress your life forward and not be living

873
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:50,839
Speaker 1: in constant anxiety and constant fear and constant guilt and

874
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:54,040
Speaker 1: constant all this ship, you know, and and I don't know,

875
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:56,480
Speaker 1: and I don't know what's going on with this guy,

876
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 1: and I don't know what his problems are. But that's

877
00:48:58,320 --> 00:48:59,920
Speaker 1: what this is where I'm on the phone with you

878
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Speaker 1: right now. So like just just I'm not gonna tell

879
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Speaker 1: you what decisions to make, but just like you you know,

880
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Speaker 1: you know, I don't I'm not gonna you know what's

881
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Speaker 1: going on with you right now. There's no further information

882
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Speaker 1: that you need right Like you're unhappy. What decisions in

883
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Speaker 1: your are gonna make you more happy? I think you

884
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Speaker 1: know the answer to those things. And all it takes

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Speaker 1: is you that have the courage to to act. Uh huh.

886
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Speaker 1: It's a good thing because you don't want to stay

887
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Speaker 1: trapped and unhappy forever. People do that, and they'd be cool.

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Speaker 6: If you and I don't want to do that.

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Speaker 1: So you don't want to do that for him to

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Speaker 1: and for him to because if you love if you

891
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Speaker 1: love this guy here, this is the other fucking thing

892
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Speaker 1: about relationships. If you love this guy, if you really do,

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Speaker 1: if you mean that, if you love this guy, you'll

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Speaker 1: make the decision that's best for his happiness too.

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Speaker 6: So and I think that I'm.

896
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Speaker 1: Will probably be the one that's best for years as well.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know what that decision is. I'm not

898
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Speaker 1: going to tell you what to do with your life,

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Speaker 1: but you know, just just think about all this ship

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Speaker 1: Veronica Okay has that is like, is any of this

901
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Speaker 1: helpful for you? Is any of this resonate with you?

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Speaker 6: And no, no, yes, no, he's definitely because it's crazy

903
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Speaker 6: because I do know what I want. But then when

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Speaker 6: I spoke to him, I was very sincere. When I

905
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Speaker 6: spoke to him, he did like he does trye like

906
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Speaker 6: I feel either him and every living in me again,

907
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Speaker 6: or he really wants me back or both and and

908
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Speaker 6: it's a little bit scary. It's very scary, like it

909
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Speaker 6: just it throws you off. I mean it throws me off,

910
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Speaker 6: like that's that's how. And it's sad because we were

911
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Speaker 6: we were a really beautiful couple, like we were we

912
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Speaker 6: were again. I was faithful for almost the whole time years, right,

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Speaker 6: you know I would, I wouldn't, Yeah, I would. I

914
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Speaker 6: don't know.

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Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the

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Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go, Yeah, look for happiness.

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Speaker 6: We don't get married, Thank you by anything too.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know how I think. I

919
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Speaker 1: don't know how life works. Never goes on the line

920
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Speaker 1: thinking your phone calls every night.

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Speaker 3: Everything goes to what his eye's teaching you aloud your life.

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Speaker 7: But he's not really an expert.