1 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:23,119 Speaker 1: Hey, Hello, Hi Emily. 2 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:23,400 Speaker 2: Here. 3 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:26,080 Speaker 1: Happy five minute Friday. I hope everyone had a good week. 4 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:29,040 Speaker 2: I myself took a second to see some family and 5 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:32,480 Speaker 2: get out of the city earlier this week. They live 6 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:35,840 Speaker 2: out on eastern Long Island, and so spent some time 7 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 2: with Grandma, who is crushing life at ninety five. 8 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: I spear she has a better memory than me. 9 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 2: Got to hang out with my cousin and his wife 10 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 2: and there four and a half year old and just 11 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 2: take some space. 12 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:48,880 Speaker 1: Which felt really good. 13 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:53,600 Speaker 2: I have a confession, however, it made me feel a 14 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 2: little bit anxious that I didn't have a movement plan 15 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 2: for Wednesday morning. 16 00:00:57,520 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 1: It's one day, it's not a big deal. 17 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:03,400 Speaker 2: But I have been so diligent in not only training 18 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,840 Speaker 2: for the Chicago Marathon, which I'm running in October, but 19 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 2: also with my strength work over gosh, you know, as 20 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 2: long as I can remember now for the better part 21 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:15,959 Speaker 2: at least of the last year. And yes, I take 22 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 2: days off. I'm not saying don't take days off. But 23 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 2: I was supposed to do two different things on Wednesday, 24 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:24,039 Speaker 2: and I didn't do them. And I'm here to tell 25 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:26,759 Speaker 2: you that it was fine. 26 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: It was fine. 27 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:30,920 Speaker 2: I am sure in this highlight reel that is life. 28 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 2: You are keeping up with so many people on the 29 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 2: internet who it's like I must do this, and I'm 30 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 2: so hard and hustle culture and like I move my 31 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:42,760 Speaker 2: body because it's me putting my oxygen mask on. I 32 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,399 Speaker 2: move my body regularly because it makes me feel good 33 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 2: in my body. 34 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: And so, despite feeling a little bit anxious on Wednesday, 35 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 1: what I decided to do was reframe this. What if 36 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: I think about this as a beautiful moment to reset 37 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 1: my nervous system in different way. What if I simply 38 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: find the good all around me instead of worrying about 39 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: the things that I am without enjoying my hot cup 40 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: of coffee in this beautiful space with all of this 41 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:16,240 Speaker 1: nature around me, watching the Billie Joel documentary, and then 42 00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:21,360 Speaker 1: ultimately yes, getting in a nice calm walk along the water. 43 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: It was perfect. 44 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 2: It wasn't what was on the plan, let's say, like 45 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 2: the training plan, but it was perfect. And sometimes I 46 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 2: know I need to say this to myself. I've just 47 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 2: got to be a little bit softer And me and 48 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:41,399 Speaker 2: Shana Stevenson on this week's episode. 49 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:43,919 Speaker 1: She's the chief brand officer for the New York Liberty. 50 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 2: We talk about this about romanticizing your life, and there 51 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 2: are going to be days where there are things out 52 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 2: of your control. There are going to be days where 53 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 2: you're out of your element. And so on those days, 54 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 2: I remind myself, and I'm here to share with you 55 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 2: that it's okay. We are the sum of the better 56 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:05,240 Speaker 2: part of our actions. And what I mean by that 57 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 2: is one off day, it doesn't determine who it is 58 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:11,640 Speaker 2: that you are, who it is that you will become. 59 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 2: What are you doing ninety five percent of the time. 60 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:18,640 Speaker 2: So maybe right now you're in a season where you 61 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 2: too need to be a little softer with yourself. Maybe 62 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:25,760 Speaker 2: right now you are confronting that voice that is telling 63 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 2: you that you should be doing X or y. Instead 64 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 2: of caving to that voice, I beckon you to ask 65 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 2: yourself what feels good for me today. I feel a 66 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 2: little silly telling you all this story. I know that 67 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 2: you know there's a lot more serious things going on 68 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:47,560 Speaker 2: in the world, but it's on my mind, and so 69 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 2: I share it with you. My promt for you this week, 70 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 2: what is your gut telling you that you need right now? 71 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 2: What is your gut telling you that you need right now? 72 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 2: Before I get into this week's listener question. I'm putting 73 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 2: out a mass call. If you have never submitted one 74 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 2: before and you love five Minute Friday. You're listening to 75 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 2: this or shaking your head, I know it's you. I 76 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 2: want your question in my inbox. Email hello at Hurdle 77 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:18,720 Speaker 2: dot us with a question that can be featured next 78 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:23,359 Speaker 2: week on the show. And now this week's listener question. 79 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:27,160 Speaker 2: Hey Emily, my name's Tammy. I'm a long time listener 80 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 2: of the show. I'm super interested about working for myself, 81 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 2: and although I think that I could be really good 82 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 2: at it, I'm actually really concerned about feeling really alone. 83 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 2: How do you stave off loneliness when you're working alone? 84 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:44,599 Speaker 2: Does it ever get tiring? With love your input? Thanks 85 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 2: so much, Tammy. Oh, this is a good one. It 86 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 2: gets lonely, for sure. I think what I love about 87 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:55,719 Speaker 2: the last few years is that I have really dove 88 00:04:56,320 --> 00:05:01,279 Speaker 2: headfirst into events, and all of those events are a better. 89 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:05,039 Speaker 2: Part of those events include collaborating with different individuals and 90 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 2: different companies, and I get really excited about that opportunity 91 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 2: for collaboration. So while I yes am often building alone 92 00:05:14,960 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 2: and thinking alone and spending time on my own, I 93 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 2: look forward to the opportunity of how can I create 94 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:29,240 Speaker 2: something that enables and empowers me to collaborate with others 95 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:32,280 Speaker 2: bigger than that. Though, when I do feel really lonely, 96 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:35,279 Speaker 2: I make it a point to spend time with people 97 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 2: that I care about and make plans in advance. So 98 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 2: by Tuesday, you ask me what I have on deck 99 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:44,839 Speaker 2: for the weekend, and I have at least one to 100 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 2: two things that I'm looking forward to. 101 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 1: When I think. 102 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 2: About my morning routine, I love to give back to myself. 103 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 2: I love that time for myself, but I'm often linking 104 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 2: up with friends just to spend some quality time before 105 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 2: going into a day of solo work. I am fortunate 106 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:04,600 Speaker 2: that with podcasting I get to talk with a lot 107 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 2: of really great people, but yes, it is predominantly a 108 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 2: solo act over here. I think it's also really important 109 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 2: to reflect on your feelings and be honest about your feelings. 110 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: So if I notice that. 111 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:21,000 Speaker 2: I am feeling a bit overwhelmed, usually that's because I'm 112 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 2: not vocalizing how I'm feeling or what I'm dealing with, 113 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:25,279 Speaker 2: and I'm. 114 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:26,479 Speaker 1: Just trying to take it on solo. 115 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 2: A good friend said this to me last year, just 116 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 2: because you're a single member LLC does not mean that 117 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 2: you need to be doing this all by yourself. 118 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: And it's so true. 119 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:40,280 Speaker 2: So I would say, get honest with where you're at, 120 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 2: make sure you've got really great people in your corner 121 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 2: that support you and are there to listen, and then 122 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:50,599 Speaker 2: when the opportunities arise, collaborate solo. 123 00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: Work, doing your own thing. 124 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:55,279 Speaker 2: It's not for everyone, and that's the last thing I'll 125 00:06:55,279 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 2: say as a part of this answer. It's not there's 126 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 2: nothing wrong if you are the kind of person that 127 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:06,279 Speaker 2: actually thrives with having the structure that comes with working 128 00:07:06,400 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 2: for another company. 129 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: However, if it. 130 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 2: Is for you, it can really open a lot of 131 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 2: doors in terms of flexibility and opportunity. You've just got 132 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 2: to really want it. So that's what I will say. 133 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 2: Make sure you are following along with Hurdle over on 134 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:27,040 Speaker 2: social It's at Hurdle Podcast. I'm over at Emily Abadi 135 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 2: another Hurdle conquered. Don't forget to some of your listener questions. 136 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 2: Talk to you next week.