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Speaker 1: Get your hand us together and we're going to start

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Speaker 1: to party.

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Speaker 2: And the start I'm running a party.

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Speaker 3: See Elvis Duran After Party.

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Speaker 2: All the After Party podcast County Love It talking on

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Speaker 2: the show about people who give up the thought of

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Speaker 2: a massive wedding with all the family and all the

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Speaker 2: to the courthouse and get married, or maybe run away

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Speaker 2: to another state just to get away from everyone and

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Speaker 2: just get married with the one you love. I got

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Speaker 2: Amanda from Akron. So, Amanda, is this you? Is this

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Speaker 2: really you? Amanda? Yes, Amanda's getting married in secret and

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Speaker 2: then running away to Tennessee. Are you getting married in Tennessee?

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Speaker 2: Or are you're running away to Tennessee after you get

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Speaker 2: married in secret? Tell us everything both.

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Speaker 4: I'm running away to Tennessee to get married.

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Speaker 2: Wow, Now why have you decided to oh do it?

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Speaker 4: So?

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Speaker 2: Why have you decided to do this rather than you know,

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Speaker 2: inviting everyone to the wedding and the big hoopla.

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Speaker 4: Honestly, so the whole process of this whole thing has been, honestly,

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Speaker 4: so much easier listening to you guys every morning. Oh,

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Speaker 4: thank you, you guys are wonderful.

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Speaker 2: Oh thank you, You're welcome.

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Speaker 4: But serious. Okay, So I got divorced recently. I know

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Speaker 4: this sounds crazy. Okay, I got divorce a year ago.

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Speaker 4: The guy that I married was my high school crush.

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Speaker 4: Twenty two years later, here we are getting married.

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Speaker 2: You know, you hear the story every once in a while,

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Speaker 2: people got married to someone, they divorced them and they

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Speaker 2: end up going back to someone they knew a thousand

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Speaker 2: years ago. And I think that's awesome. That's a great story,

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Speaker 2: a full circle story, it really is.

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Speaker 4: But the so the kicker is who I was. I

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Speaker 4: was married to a female prior to.

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Speaker 2: All of this.

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Speaker 4: We were together for seven years and it was a

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Speaker 4: very controlling relationship, like very narcissistic. I actually I've been

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Speaker 4: on air with you guys quite a few times. I

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Speaker 4: actually won a cruise with you guys, and I wasn't

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Speaker 4: allowed to take that cruise.

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Speaker 2: What wow, Yeah, because she was toxic and controlling.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, well goodbye. But now you're getting married. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but why did you have this on the down low?

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Speaker 4: It's just people probably haven't a lot to think about

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Speaker 4: the sacon that I'm getting married directly a year after

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Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with that, But you don't think there's

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Speaker 2: anyone in your circle that's happy for you, that would

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Speaker 2: love to celebrate with you.

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Speaker 4: I mean there is, Like my mom knows, his mom knows,

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Speaker 4: Like it's just the rest of everyone that we know

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Speaker 2: Okay, you know what, that's your business. It's your decision.

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Speaker 2: I always hate when people decide to get married and

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I understand the importance maybe having parents there,

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Speaker 2: especially if they're praying for it, But you know what

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Speaker 2: I'm saying, it's just like, it's your decision. Gandhi, what

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Speaker 1: I have so many questions? Okay, So what is the

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Speaker 1: reason that you are doing it exactly a year after

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Speaker 1: you got Is there like significance to you in that?

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Speaker 4: So we have kids, and my daughter has never had

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Speaker 4: healthy relationship that I've been in. And she looks up

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Speaker 4: to him. She's fifteen, and she looks up to him

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, what a lovely story.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. So, I don't know if it's across the board,

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Speaker 4: but in Ohio you have to be married for six

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Speaker 1: My other question was gonna be do you think, like,

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Speaker 4: Girl? Literally, as soon as it happens, then we're going

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Speaker 1: You just don't want people to try to talk you

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Not only that, but I don't want to hear

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Speaker 4: any kind of negative feedback. I guess you know, we're

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Speaker 4: We've always kept in touch. It was either I was

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Speaker 4: It was never the right time, and it's finally the

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Speaker 4: hear any kind of negative feedback from anyone to discourage that.

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Speaker 2: I get that good.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it's so easy to get I want to say, Gandhi,

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Speaker 4: this is my first time being on air and actually

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Speaker 4: being able to speak with you. I'm so excited.

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Speaker 2: Oh I love you.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for calling.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I love you too.

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Speaker 2: You should marry Gandhi Oh yeah yeah, to get them.

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Speaker 4: I am from Ohio.

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Speaker 2: She's not the marrying time now. It's so easy to

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Speaker 2: give advice to people like like like you, Amanda, like, well,

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Speaker 2: you know, who cares what people say? You know, there's

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Speaker 2: screw them. It's not about them. It's about you and

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Speaker 4: Absolutely. I mean, honestly, I feel like being in my thirties,

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Speaker 4: it's a little different. Like I don't want to spend

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Speaker 4: Because that's really, honestly, what it's all about. It's not

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Speaker 2: I agree. What about you, Daniel, what are you thinking?

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Speaker 3: I think that it's what she wants to do, and

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Speaker 3: she's in love and she didn't care what anybody else thinks.

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Speaker 3: I think, you know, and especially if she thinks it's

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Speaker 3: she said, you know, coming out of a crappy situation,

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Speaker 3: this is an amazing situation. And the fact that your

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Speaker 3: I feel like kids also know things, like they have

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Speaker 2: You know, it is a great story. I'm glad you

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Speaker 2: shared that with us, by the way, and.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, and you guys, honestly, you guys have helped

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Speaker 4: me so much, Like when I was in the marriage

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Speaker 4: in the morning, it helped me so much because there

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Speaker 4: would be days some days I was like I can't

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Speaker 4: like I'm just miserable. And I've listened to you guys,

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Speaker 4: and you guys were your phone taps, like I just

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Speaker 4: love everything. And and when you guys hurt, I hurt, Like,

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Speaker 4: I'm very empathetic. So I just you guys are like family.

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Speaker 4: And like I said, I've been on air a few

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Speaker 4: different times, like I've won the phone taps and played

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Speaker 4: match game, i won the Cruise, I did the Brooklyn betting,

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Speaker 4: you guys a ton of times.

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Speaker 2: Wow, you've been here more than we've been here.

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Speaker 4: I literally love you guys so much.

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you. You got to have questions, Karry, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I just want to know what's it like from going

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Speaker 4: So absolutely it's.

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Speaker 2: Like a big old honker. I'm kidding. I mean, what

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Speaker 4: I'm just gonna explore my options. And I found her

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Speaker 4: and we got married and it did not work out,

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Speaker 4: and I was stuck for about seven years and I

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Speaker 4: dipped literally January second, right after New Year's It was

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Speaker 4: literally a new year last year for me. Wow, and

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Speaker 2: Good for you, you know what you made that decision, you know,

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Speaker 2: and don't don't ever look at it like, oh, seven

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Speaker 2: years of my life wasted. No, it was all necessary

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Speaker 2: to get you on this journey that you're doing. For

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Speaker 2: whatever reason, the universe wanted you there in that relationship.

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Speaker 2: But now look where you are now. Good for you.

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Speaker 2: We're happy for you, Amanda. Good, good for you and

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Speaker 2: your family.

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Speaker 4: Yes, thank you so much. I mean, we're counting down.

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Speaker 4: We're literally weeks away. We leave on the twenty eighth,

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Speaker 4: and we're getting married on the thirty first and getting close.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations.

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Speaker 2: You know sometimes sometimes you can live happily ever after.

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Speaker 2: Go do it. And thanks for listening to us. Amanda

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Speaker 2: very happy.

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Speaker 4: Thank you guys so much.

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Speaker 2: Have a beautiful day to Hey you

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Speaker 3: Too, See Elvis da Ran after party