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Speaker 1: My ex husband just got cancer and now he wants

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Speaker 2: I don't think I should let him. Am I the

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Speaker 2: a hole? Babe?

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Speaker 3: I'm dying to get inside of your house and maybe

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Speaker 1: Oh goodness, babe, you're looking so good. It's like I

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Speaker 2: I got a bulging.

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Speaker 3: Mass with me and one may be for you.

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Speaker 2: Oh goodness. God. On that note, let's get into the story. God.

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Speaker 1: For most of our marriage, my husband thirty nine male,

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Speaker 1: and I thirty seven female, had a very happy relationship.

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Speaker 1: We had good jobs, decent money, two kids, and we

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Speaker 1: loved each other.

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Speaker 2: Oh, we're getting set up for a failure, right.

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Speaker 1: We're getting you know, you know when you're ready for

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Speaker 1: perhaps about And it's sad. But then he got diagnosed

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Speaker 1: with a rare form of cancer and we went through

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Speaker 1: years of painful treatments and recovery together.

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Speaker 2: Oh it's awful.

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Speaker 1: We moved to a small house to be close to

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Speaker 1: the research center where he underwent treatment. His parents paid

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Speaker 1: half of the down payment on the house. The other

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Speaker 1: half was from our savings and investments. In the divorce,

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Speaker 1: he gave me the house and took all of his

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Speaker 1: medical debt. Wow, dang, so his parents paid for the

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 3: Maybe maybe it's because he's like just not maybe the

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Speaker 3: outlook is not looking good and he doesn't want to,

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe we have been divorced a year. But now

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Speaker 1: his cancer came back and he needs treatment again at

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Speaker 1: the same research hospital.

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Speaker 2: Oh he was cancer free. Yeah, it's divorced.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess he went through the treatments, he beat it,

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Speaker 1: and now it's coming back.

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Speaker 2: That's even more like overly nice in that case.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, exactly. Yeah, true, I didn't even think about that.

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Speaker 1: You're right, he wants to stay in what is now

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Speaker 1: my house while undergoing treatment, and his parents expect me

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Speaker 1: to house him and look after him because he was

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Speaker 1: generous in letting me having the house without taking his

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Speaker 1: rightful share from the equity.

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Speaker 2: I mean he was.

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Speaker 1: He was very generous. Julie owed, yeah, and and and

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Speaker 1: gave it away. Yeah, it was very generous. He could

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Speaker 1: give him as like a little time share, you know,

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Speaker 1: I think so. Honestly, when we were married and he

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Speaker 1: was undergoing treatment, it was new stuff that was expensive

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Speaker 1: and also very physically draining on him. We were both

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Speaker 1: lucky that our jobs were supportive and flexible, but his

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Speaker 1: health issue, little kids and expenses, we had to downgrade

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Speaker 1: our lifestyle a lot. That, plus the physical changes to

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Speaker 1: his body, made him very depressed.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can imagine. I mean, yeah, cancer men. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Whenever he felt a bit better, he'd go stay in

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Speaker 1: his hometown. It's a small town where most of his

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Speaker 1: family and a lot of his childhood friends live. I

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Speaker 1: was doing all the caretaking of him while also dealing

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Speaker 1: with insurance complications. I was also managing the kids, the

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Speaker 2: That's a lot.

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Speaker 3: That's that is you know that that is a lot

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Speaker 3: of stress on a marriage, one hundred on the marriage,

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Speaker 3: on the person every since. You know, obviously he's going

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Speaker 1: It's not to say that she's not going you know,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: We had help from friends and neighbors, but it was

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Speaker 1: very hard. I wasn't happy about him spending his healthy

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Speaker 1: mental health, so I didn't feel.

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Speaker 2: Like I could object. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Eventually his cancer got better, and during his long trips

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Speaker 1: for treatments, he had reaconnected, oh no oh with his

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Speaker 2: Yikes, yikes, bro, yikes. Ye know that first love, that's

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Speaker 2: that is a drug man.

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Speaker 1: First love is a drug, bro one one that heals

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Speaker 3: That it does, Oh goodness that it does. Heals the

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Speaker 2: That's right. You know he has the penis of a

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Speaker 2: seventeen year old. Again, it's you're right. That penis could

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Speaker 2: ring the high school bell.

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Speaker 1: Closed school's out, babe, time to party. A couple of

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Speaker 1: a couple of years ago, he admitted to me that

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Speaker 2: Fuck dude, after everything she did, after everything she did. Man,

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Speaker 1: Tough, and he was he was looking like such such.

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Speaker 1: But actually maybe that's why. I mean, we'll get into

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Speaker 1: it later, but that's where what oh, that's why he

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I.

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Speaker 3: Mean, dude, she's taking care of your kids, She's taking

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Speaker 2: Working full time to help support the house.

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Speaker 3: Usually in these situations like the it's the person who

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Speaker 3: out and cheating, yes right, yes, not that the person

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Speaker 3: that actually has it exactly. That's like a double fight.

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Speaker 3: That's like like not not fuck you, take care of you.

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Speaker 3: It's like it's like, let me give you the burden

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Speaker 3: also give you the burden of me cheating on you.

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Speaker 2: Not a good look, not a good combo.

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Speaker 1: There are other aspects around the cheating that left me

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Speaker 2: Or did they do anal I mean, maybe we don't know,

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Speaker 2: Maybe we're not sure. Maybe I can't believe you let

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Speaker 3: Peg you ask it.

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Speaker 2: It was my dream.

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Speaker 1: His giving me the house and taking all of the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's any way you could. I mean, you know

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Speaker 3: you can't. You can't not have put your dick in

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Speaker 3: your high school girlfriend again. But you can give money

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Speaker 3: to compensation. You can't put money in my bank account.

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Speaker 3: That you can that you can doesn't fix it, but

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Speaker 2: That you can, that you can.

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Speaker 1: Years later, flash forward to today and his cancer is back,

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Speaker 1: I do want him to be well, and I don't

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Speaker 1: I end up being his nurse and caretaker again.

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Speaker 2: Right. I am still very bitter about how our marriage ended.

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Speaker 1: A lot of people close to me are telling me

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Speaker 1: Would I be the asshole if I say I can't

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Speaker 2: Now?

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Speaker 1: There is an update, But I want to pause right

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Speaker 1: now and ask everyone, I mean, is OPI the a

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Speaker 1: this is tricky, it is I mean, it's her kid's father, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but he did cheat on her.

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Speaker 2: And he did, but he did give her the house. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I kind of think of it like if they didn't

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Speaker 3: like there would be no assholeness in saying like no right,

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Speaker 3: like because it's like he cheated on you, but he

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Speaker 3: there there was a tit for tat. I don't know, like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: you know, and it's gonna be harder for him to

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Speaker 3: like in some separate thing and like this, yeah, this

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Speaker 1: I did not consider that. I mean, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: I I still think I would say she's not the

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking my suspicion is that he can pay for

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Speaker 3: Kind of want to give her a big as it's

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Speaker 3: Like if the kids weren't there, I would say, like, no,

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Speaker 1: So yeah, and like and again I'm not saying she

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Speaker 2: I mean, like you come in and okay, well let

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Speaker 3: The kids are growing up and they eventually hear this

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Speaker 3: here's the play by play. Hey, so, little Johnny, Little Johnny,

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Speaker 3: do you know about what happened to your dad? Well,

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Speaker 3: your mommy and daddy had a loving relationship. Daddy got

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Speaker 3: sick and then was traveling back to his home, rekindled

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Speaker 2: Of his life.

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Speaker 3: They didn't know what to do, sought the comfort in

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Speaker 3: another woman, did a bad thing, but you know, as reconciliation,

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Speaker 3: he gave mommy this beautiful house.

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Speaker 2: That's so nice of him. Bad for cheating, but nice

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Speaker 3: Then a couple of years later, I mean, Daddy just

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Speaker 2: It, wouldn't let him be in the house. I I

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Speaker 2: don't know if they would tell it that way, he.

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Speaker 3: Would tell it exactly like that. Maybe maybe I don't

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Speaker 3: speed up that story if you can. Yeah, maybe she

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Speaker 3: Something I just thought of. Yes, Okay, think about it

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Speaker 3: He is the angel, every at every corner, she chose

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Speaker 3: But like I my question is obviously the the guy

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Speaker 1: I think because the rareness of this scenario, I would

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Speaker 3: I think it's like not as like it's like not asshole,

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Speaker 3: The dude was fine, but like, like my roommate basically

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Speaker 1: But share your stories. We do love reading them on

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Speaker 2: See you.

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Speaker 3: My annoying brother keeps pranking me for YouTube content. I

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Speaker 3: wanted to stop, so I'm going to use copyright lot

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Speaker 2: Now that is a genius move. Destroyed the creator with

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Speaker 3: I mean, hey, you can get copyright strikes against anyone

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Speaker 3: these days, anyone except us.

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Speaker 2: Hello.

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Speaker 3: I sixteen female have an older brother, nineteen, mail who's

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Speaker 3: one of those prank YouTubers and TikTokers. He's been doing

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Speaker 3: this kind of content since twenty seventeen, first on YouTube,

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Speaker 3: He's decently popular with children and make some pretty good

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Speaker 2: I want to know what it is. I really want

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Speaker 2: to know who it is.

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Speaker 3: I want to know. I want to know so bad.

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Speaker 3: It's annoying for me and I hate it. As his

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Speaker 3: delete my school projects off my laptop, throwing out my

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Speaker 3: that he gave to my tech illiterate parents, which got

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, wow, even when the punishments are made

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Speaker 2: under false pretenses. Hello, oh bro, what kind of parents

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Speaker 2: are you? Seriously?

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Speaker 3: He has also come to my work to surprise me

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Speaker 3: the back and not upfront with customers because he'd come

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Speaker 3: in so much literally ruined her job. With my money,

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Speaker 3: I recently bought a Bluetooth speaker, and whenever I see

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Speaker 3: him with his stupid camera, I blast whatever Disney music

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Speaker 3: I can let it go. We don't talk about Bruno

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Speaker 3: anything I can because Disney is vicious with copyright and footage.

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Speaker 2: Is useless. It's like kryptonite for creators. No Sney music.

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Speaker 3: Oh, he's tried talking to me about it before, usually

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Speaker 3: on camera, to work out our issue, which means stopping

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Speaker 3: so that he can go back to making money off

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Speaker 3: He's been slowly losing views and followers, which he's blaming

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Speaker 2: So Redda am I the A hole? Is there an update?

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Speaker 3: There is an update? But what do you think is

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Speaker 2: Not at all. Listen. I love content.

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Speaker 1: I make content for a living, but these prankster people,

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Speaker 1: Like there was a pranker who literally convinced his wife

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Speaker 3: I didn't expect my posts to blow up like it did.

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Speaker 3: But I thought everyone would want to know I'm now safe.

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Speaker 2: First.

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Speaker 3: Those who thought my brother would try and destroy my

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Speaker 3: I also told my best friend's mom everything before all this.

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Speaker 3: She knew that my brother made content online, which is

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Speaker 3: she very quickly agreed that I can stay until I

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Speaker 3: turn eighteen. Wow, which is like, it kind of sucks

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Speaker 3: as this dude is kind of ruining his relationships.

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Speaker 2: That's insane too much.

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Speaker 3: While packing my stuff, I started participating in pranks again

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Speaker 3: to keep my brother and parents happy so they wouldn't

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Speaker 3: be suspicious. I kept telling my brother about an epic

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Speaker 3: The prank was me taking the last of the stuff

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Speaker 3: your pranks. In other comments, I doubt help post the video,

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Speaker 3: but I like to imagine he turned purple seeing it all.

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Speaker 3: I'm currently at my best friend's house and we were

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Speaker 3: my parents claiming I was kidnapped or anything. I'm also

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Speaker 3: looking for a new job, hopefully with better pay, so

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Speaker 3: we can't try to see me while I'm at work.

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Speaker 3: I still won't be making any social media or exposing

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Speaker 3: without my help, and I can stay anonymous and out

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Speaker 3: of the public eye. This is the dark side of

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the thing is like you know you can

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Speaker 1: like a million views or whatever, right you can. You

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Speaker 1: can take something so crazy, But what's the cost? What's

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Speaker 1: the cost? So I would say brother definitely the a hole, yes,

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Speaker 1: and the sister not the a hole because he's done

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Speaker 1: so many He's done so many pranks up to this

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Speaker 1: point that it's like that's nothing.

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Speaker 2: What she did. Hopefully he's changed a bit, but you

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Speaker 2: never change. Yeah, because we love that.

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Speaker 3: Hey, we would love to hear who are your favorite

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Speaker 3: YouTubers besides us, actually maybe include us? Yeah, and what

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Speaker 3: do you think of prank YouTubers appearances in the comments?

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Speaker 2: Let us season