WEBVTT - Voicemails with the Brothers 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:13.040 Let's listen to some voicemails. Boys, Yeah, let's do it 0:00:13.119 --> 0:00:16.560 voicemail time. We need to jingle for this segment. I agree. 0:00:16.960 --> 0:00:20.680 Do you guys know any musicians something uh that tees 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:23.480 it up in a really fun and you know, lighthearted way. 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:25.840 Maybe we can write one right now and then we 0:00:25.880 --> 0:00:28.480 can get it composed in post. Yeah, go ahead. I 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:31.480 should be like, butt up bump, all right, butt up 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:35.360 bump voice males with the brothers. 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:45.040 Bruce males with brothers, and don't dun't brother bump And 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:48.920 if you've got the question, just leave it at. 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:59.320 The beep bum. I love that. Yes, boys, man, a 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:13.080 lot of bass. A question just in plays. Let's play 0:01:13.080 --> 0:01:13.600 the first one. 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:17.280 Hi, my name is Anna, and I have a little story, 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:19.520 followed by a question. So on the Greetings from your 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:22.760 Own Town tour, I was lucky enough to to be 0:01:22.840 --> 0:01:25.360 selected to shoot the surprise song. But while I was 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:29.679 talking to you guys, specifically Joe, he said like, what's 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:31.360 your mother's name? And I thought he said what's your 0:01:31.400 --> 0:01:33.960 brother's name? And I was like, I don't have a brother. 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:36.640 The thing is, it's not e Barrisic. But it is 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:39.480 one of those moments that what I'm sometimes like, when 0:01:39.520 --> 0:01:42.240 you're trying to get to sleep at night, your brain 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:44.040 keeps you up and it's like, hey, remember that this 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:47.039 cringing thing you did. My question for you is, what 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:50.160 is something in the last year that would be one 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:53.720 of those cringing things that you did that that could keep. 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:54.120 You up at night? 0:01:54.320 --> 0:01:55.160 Is that too dark? 0:01:55.840 --> 0:01:56.200 Okay? 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:59.280 Oh well I can't. I can't delete this all right? 0:01:59.360 --> 0:01:59.880 Let me back. 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:04.640 I love you have an amazing character voice. Yeah, she 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:06.840 should you be on like you would be fantastic on 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:10.040 a Rick and Morty, Bob's Burgers or Rick and Morty. 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:12.959 There's countless things that we've done embarrassingly or cringey in 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:15.840 the last year. Or I to speak for myself, but 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:20.240 why don't you start? Then? I said something today that 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:23.120 I felt I was cringey. And I was waiting in 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:27.360 line for my smoothie post workout little creatine in there, 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:30.959 and I was reaching over and I was in a 0:02:30.960 --> 0:02:34.079 commit conversation. So I don't know, brain fart, brain fart's happened? 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:37.079 This is called which called brain fart. It's okay a 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:42.240 BF not to be confused with boyfriend. I reached over 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:43.959 to grab a straw and I said, and to the 0:02:44.000 --> 0:02:45.720 lady that was right there, I said, excuse you, And 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:50.120 that was second I said, I'm so sorry, I mean 0:02:50.200 --> 0:02:52.960 to excuse me. She just looked at me like it's okay, 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:55.160 and I was like, I know I did, and I'm like, 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:59.360 that was brain fart. Excuse me, excuse you. I have 0:02:59.360 --> 0:03:02.880 a similar one where I was playing golf recently, and golf, 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:05.040 I think it's a whole thing right, as you all know, 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:07.800 but for those that don't, there are unspoken rules and 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:10.080 things you don't do. If someone hits a bad shot, 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:12.000 it is in good form to to throw them in 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:14.560 another ball and be like, we're not setting the course 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:17.440 records today, Like have a good time hitting unless you're 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:19.519 actually in a competition. Unless you're in a competition, but 0:03:19.560 --> 0:03:21.639 if it's just free plage is fun. There are things 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:23.320 you do to make the other person feel like we're 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:25.919 not good enough to be taking this that seriously, Yeah, 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:27.480 we don't need to care much. The person I was 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:28.960 playing with that I don't really know it very well, 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:32.200 hit a shot. But just as they had hit the 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:35.160 putt which didn't go very well, I had taken a 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:38.200 sip of my sparkling water and one of the carbonation 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:39.839 bubbles hit the back of my throat and I went, 0:03:41.040 --> 0:03:44.080 oh no, just as they missed the putt to like 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:45.920 make par or bird or something, and they kind of 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:50.760 look back like, damn, this guy sucks. I was laughing 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:52.960 at you. It was the I had a carbonate, you know, 0:03:53.360 --> 0:03:55.920 so I just kind of let it go over compensated 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:58.920 a whole or later. I was like, hey, it's tough 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:02.480 course out here. He's really winning run fast. Huh. All right, 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:04.520 that's a good one. Unless Kevin, you've never been cringing 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:05.880 in your life. I was gonna say, I have too 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:07.440 many to count. I don't even know where to start. 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:09.760 It's just too like it's every time I open my mouth, 0:04:09.800 --> 0:04:12.280 I have an issue. So let's just move on. My 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:14.920 favorite of yours is the condolences to the chef. That's 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:17.279 like the old class one. It's carried with me for 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:20.560 a very long Like first nice meal was at A 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:24.760 four Seasons. It was also probably our first nice hotel. 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:27.760 It was the Rints in Dallas. I remember exactly where 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:31.920 I was, and the Jonas brothers were somebody. The people 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:34.880 were paying attention to us. Somebody put us and the 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:37.599 Ritz and we were like oh my gosh. And we 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:39.799 had a concert that night and they kept the restaurant 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:44.159 open late for us to have a meal, and we 0:04:44.200 --> 0:04:45.960 all had a delicious meal on and on the way 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:48.520 out we saw some of the staff and Kevin said 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:52.520 to the GM, he goes, uh, meal is fantastic. My 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:57.360 condolences to the chef walked out, you know, and I 0:04:57.400 --> 0:04:59.239 think you at the time, you probably had a summer 0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:01.200 scarf and you flipped it back as you said it too. 0:05:01.240 --> 0:05:03.320 Definitely summer scarfed it at that point. The thing I 0:05:03.360 --> 0:05:07.160 don't tell about the story was I looked up the 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:12.640 word condolences and I believe I like read the definition 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:17.760 wrong and used it. I was like intentionally used the word, 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:20.160 which was like an absurd So you were like, I'm 0:05:20.160 --> 0:05:21.800 looking this up, I'm going to I'm going to the 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:24.599 Ritz Dallas. Yeah, like I like did a whole thing 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:26.720 or like did a you know, I mean, I don't 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:27.719 think it was the worst. I think it was Saint 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:35.200 Regis if I'm now correcting myself. So manys, next voicemail, 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:36.080 let's hit it. 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:36.560 Hello. 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:39.440 My name is Heather and I've been a fan for 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:43.520 twenty one years now, so I am in a relationship. 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:47.200 We've been together for seven years and we talk a 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:50.000 little bit about marriage, but just just a normal like 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:52.240 when are you getting me your ring? What are you doing? 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:54.280 And normal? 0:05:54.440 --> 0:05:58.920 Well, to know how long it took Heaven to decide 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:03.320 that he wanted to by Danielle ring and how long 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:06.039 it took actually to go through like the whole process. 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:10.520 I've seeing the parents and everything, and is seven years 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:12.760 way too frigging long, just kidding. He lets me go 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:17.080 to Jonas Brothers concerts whenever I want, so never merged 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.200 a tour. So he's a good person. 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:20.000 Great person. 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:21.080 I love you guys. Bye. 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:25.880 It reminds me of Delilah her voice, Remember Delilah, she's 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:28.039 still on bro. Can we just play the first like 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:30.640 when she introduced herself one more time. I'm gonna add something. 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:38.280 Hello, my name is Heather and I have been a No, 0:06:39.440 --> 0:06:42.599 that's a different like a different Uh. 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:45.880 It's like a I don't know, that's like a a 0:06:45.920 --> 0:06:48.719 commercial you see on television past like two am the 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:51.200 questions for me, it took Kevin all two minutes to 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:53.520 decide if you wanted to marry Danielle kind of No, 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:56.720 it was about a year in I said a year in, 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:58.840 I was like, I definitely want to marry this girl, 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:03.200 and about six months later started working on a ring 0:07:03.600 --> 0:07:06.239 and then I asked her parents. It was pretty straightforward. 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:08.200 It was like two years into everything, two and a 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:14.120 half just enormy engagement to wedding pipeline. That's that seems normal. 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:17.040 You nick though, like your you went, how do you 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:20.440 know you were a couple months before about the ring? Yeah, 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:24.760 like forty eight days knew interesting and your wedd didn't 0:07:24.760 --> 0:07:34.920 ask me. It's weird. I would. I feel like you 0:07:34.960 --> 0:07:37.960 should start being more obvious with your questions to your partner. 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:40.960 It's time to get real. I know she's not asking, 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:43.160 she's asking like how long did it take for you? 0:07:43.240 --> 0:07:43.400 Keap? 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:45.920 But I'm I think there's also the elephant in the room, 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:48.120 meaning seven years is a long time, a damn and 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.640 ring in the corner h pair shape that. I feel 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:55.440 like she should probably be like like, oh man, so 0:07:55.480 --> 0:07:59.640 what's the fucking plan? Yeah, seven years is like a 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:03.480 little past the window. No more hinting. I think it's 0:08:03.520 --> 0:08:05.480 time for I think it's time for the chat. Yeah, 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:08.400 you're about to finish college and finish your master's degree, 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:10.360 like you need to. You need to figure it out 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:12.520 and be like yo, bro, or how about just everyone 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:14.720 has their own timeline? Chill, You guys are being a 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:16.680 judging I don't like it. The audience is gonna love 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:20.480 me for that. I don't know. I'm just trying to 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:23.840 keep things interesting. You know, Let's have some real conversations. 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:26.160 I think. I don't know why not. I kind of agree. 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:27.800 It's like at a certain point, is it going to 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:29.400 be too long? Where that at that point you spent 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:32.320 seven years maybe more with someone that doesn't if that's 0:08:32.440 --> 0:08:35.040 your plan for your future, like you want to get married, 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.240 then there needs to be a real conversation. I think 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:39.960 there you go, and if you don't want to get married, 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:42.760 then let people live their lives. Guys, that's the problem. 0:08:42.840 --> 0:08:45.320 What if his version is I don't want to get married, 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:47.760 but hers is They should know now that's what I'm saying. 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.560 She definitely wants to get married. She didn't call to 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:51.480 be like for sure, guys, why do people want to 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:53.880 get married? I know she wants to get married. I'm 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.560 just trying to make you guys look bad, that's all. 0:08:57.200 --> 0:09:06.280 That's fine. Wow, I'm in my villain era. Okay, next one. 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:10.480 It's Hailey from Arizona. I'm a big fan and I 0:09:10.520 --> 0:09:14.400 have kind of a predicament. I'm the youngest of four siblings. 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:17.880 My oldest brother and I have been estranged for a 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:21.080 few years now. He recently got married and moved across 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:25.079 the country. I was not invited, which I completely understand, 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:29.640 but my parents knew about it, along with another brother. 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:32.720 They knew about it for months, They. 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:36.080 Attended the wedding, they helped him move, and kept it 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:38.880 all a secret from me and my sister, all because 0:09:38.920 --> 0:09:41.800 he asked them to What hurts isn't what my brother did. 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:45.120 I have totally come to expect that what hurts is 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:49.000 feeling like there's a pattern where everyone accommodates the difficult 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:51.640 sibling and the rest of us are just expected to 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:54.160 deal with the fallout. So my question for you is, 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:58.600 as brothers who have worked through conflict and rebuilt relationships, 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:02.840 what advice would you give for healing a family wound 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:07.840 when maybe it seems like accountability is one sided and 0:10:08.559 --> 0:10:12.760 the people you're most disappointed in aren't the difficult family member, 0:10:12.920 --> 0:10:16.400 but maybe the family members who help enable the behavior. 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:18.600 Would love to know your thoughts on this. 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:21.400 I love the podcast you guys are awesome. 0:10:21.720 --> 0:10:27.520 Thinks Wow, well, I think you are therapized for sure. 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:31.800 She's this person is I think, already working on themselves, 0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:34.240 which I think is incredible. Number One, you're doing a 0:10:34.240 --> 0:10:36.959 great job because the way you're just communicating how you're 0:10:37.000 --> 0:10:42.679 feeling about the situation, it's very impressive. And I feel 0:10:42.720 --> 0:10:46.840 like this situation obviously is very complicated, and I'm sorry 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:48.040 that you didn't get invited to the wedding, and I'm 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:51.000 sorry it's a strange to your relationship. That's tough for family, 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:53.720 that's tough. But yes, there is some moves being made 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:57.080 on your behalf, which is a little strange. And I 0:10:57.120 --> 0:11:00.800 feel like at least the family members that you're close with, 0:11:01.360 --> 0:11:04.319 there's got to be some sort of family meeting and 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:06.360 just be like, guys, we got to figure this out 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:09.400 more of like an intervention. But right, well, well, yeah, 0:11:09.520 --> 0:11:11.400 I got I agree with you, Joe, but I also 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:15.840 like the relationship might not be not healable, Like that's fine. 0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:18.480 The family members that that are she's good with, I mean, 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:20.920 shouldn't be like finding out that you're hiding something with 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:24.040 an a strange family member. To make it less of 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:27.000 a blow for you like that's weird. I totally agree. Yeah, 0:11:27.000 --> 0:11:31.000 I also think that, you know, it's especially painful when 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:35.640 it's your parents and you feel like they're prioritizing, you know, 0:11:35.679 --> 0:11:39.760 another child over you, and it's a really complicated thing 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:42.880 for all all parties. However, I think, you know, given 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:46.560 the fact that you're Haley's processing this the way you 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:49.520 know you are, it means that you're coming to the 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:54.199 conversation with balance and thoughtfulness and you know, at least 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:57.640 some empathy and compassion, knowing that it's so tricky. But 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:00.319 I do think a conversation is warranted. And just to 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:04.080 put it in the context of our dynamic and our experiences, 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.480 there have been plenty of times where one of us 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:10.360 felt a certain way, and including Franklin, you know, and 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:13.319 the fact is we're still mom and Dad's kids, and 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:17.079 they have to champion each of us in different ways, 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:20.280 even if they might feel like, well that one's clearly 0:12:20.320 --> 0:12:23.280 in the wrong in the situation, or it's too nuanced 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:25.719 to say someone's wrong or right. They got to sort 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:28.760 of be Switzerland and love all their children equally even 0:12:28.760 --> 0:12:31.480 when there's conflict. And I think I've taken a lot 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:34.200 of learning from that you know, and applied it to 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:36.959 even our brotherhood, and there have been times that been like, 0:12:37.000 --> 0:12:38.960 all right, you know what, I get it. They need 0:12:38.960 --> 0:12:43.200 to like prioritize that right now and their feelings and 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:46.760 hurt even if I might feel a certain way, I 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:49.440 think the conversations do and it should happen in like 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:52.720 a place that doesn't feel like an intense environment, just 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:54.640 like as you said, Joe, like a hang just or 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:56.960 maybe Kevin with you a hang to just air it 0:12:56.960 --> 0:13:00.280 out and have a conversation. I think that's smart. It's 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:03.880 tough smart. Next up, Hi, Okay. 0:13:03.640 --> 0:13:04.480 I had a question. 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:08.000 So my husband and I are married of eight years 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:12.840 and in a multicultural marriage. He's from Guatemala and I'm, 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:16.320 as he says, all Americans, born and raised in Washington State. 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:21.480 We have two little boys. But one challenge we faced 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:28.520 is realizing we had different expectations around simple things like cooking, cleaning, 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:34.280 parenting because of our cultural and family backgrounds. I'm just 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:39.160 wondering have any of you experienced cultural differences or family 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:44.040 differences showing up in every day married or relationships in 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:47.280 family life and what helps you worked through them as 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:47.720 a couple. 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:48.880 Thank you so much. 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:52.679 By Wow great question. I think I think a lot 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.960 of people will probably deal with this. Yes, yeah, I 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:59.200 think cultural differences I can only imagine. But like even 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.960 just how you were Raisa, as people like, you know, 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:05.480 if you're used to expecting something in relationship, I think 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:08.600 that's a poise for disaster. In my opinion, I think 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:12.440 if you expect something of someone without ever communicating that 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:14.960 that's what you're looking for, I think that's going to 0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:18.280 head towards disaster pretty quickly. Expectations of the blueprint for 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:23.560 disappointment is something our father always used to say. Yeah, 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:26.160 so that's true marriage. But but as first, cultural differences, 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:30.400 I mean, I'm also in a multicultural, multi religious family, 0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:33.920 my wife being from India. There's a lot of things, 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:36.240 as you guys know, early in our relationship that took 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:39.800 some kind of figuring out, right, you know, just ways 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:42.680 in which the culture is just different. It's all you know, 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:48.560 communication and just certain ways in which things were done, 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:54.480 rituals and otherwise, whether that's you know us, the way 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:57.000 we do things here or the way they do things there. 0:14:57.360 --> 0:14:59.320 It took, you know, a bit of a learning curve, 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:02.840 but I came to love kind of learning and and 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:07.360 finding kind of our rhythm within it, and there's it 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:10.800 just it just makes life so much more exciting and 0:15:11.400 --> 0:15:14.400 the experiences you have so much more fulfilling when when 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:19.000 you're when you're experiencing something that your partner grew up 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:21.840 doing or or loves about their culture, and how you 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:23.440 apply that to your own life and the world you 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:26.880 build together. So I think it's it's sort of twofold. 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:28.280 There's one version where it's like I think there's a 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:32.120 conversation that we had around expectations around who's carrying what 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:34.840 responsibilities in the relationship, and then a separate one around 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:36.920 how can we embrace things that you love about your 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:40.080 culture and that I love about mine and celebrate these 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:41.760 things together and make it a part of the fabric 0:15:41.760 --> 0:15:44.640 of who we are as a team. And you know 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:46.520 that that can be an exciting journey to go on. 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:52.320 I agree, I actually disagree. Yeah, I will say that 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:55.320 I do think that, like, it's hard when you have 0:15:55.360 --> 0:15:58.480 a lot of people expecting certain things in a household 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:02.760 just because of either gender or like role, Like I 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:04.960 don't necessarily I do not agree that that's how it 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:09.080 should roll. So it's definitely difficult when that's like embedded 0:16:09.120 --> 0:16:10.800 in a lot of people based on where they're from. 0:16:11.120 --> 0:16:12.160 That's a great point. 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:15.680 Moving on, Hey, so my name is Sabrina and I 0:16:15.720 --> 0:16:18.320 live in Pensacola, Florida. So I just got. 0:16:18.200 --> 0:16:21.160 Married two years ago and I moved. 0:16:20.840 --> 0:16:25.360 From Rome, Georgia to Pensacola, And I was wondering how 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:29.560 y'all managed to like move away from like your parents, 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:32.960 because I know for me, it's kind of hard living 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:36.120 with it, like living without them. But now I was 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:39.640 a loving husband who I love so dearly, but it's 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:41.840 just so hard, like visiting my parents and then leaving 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:45.920 kind of getting that homesickness again. But I was just 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:49.960 wondering how y'all manage your time with like your parents 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:52.360 of like separating and having your own families. 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:58.000 Now, thank you for the question. We share our parents. Now, 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:02.680 our parents are. I can hear them. They're in the 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:04.640 other room and Dad, you know, is on the phone 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:07.439 walking around. Obviously, not everybody has that luxury of being 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:09.800 able to get you through parents to visit as often, 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:11.640 and you have to go visit them a couple times 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:14.320 a year if you're lucky. There was definitely seasons where 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:16.119 you know, we got the taste of it. COVID and 0:17:16.160 --> 0:17:18.200 all that where we didn't get to see our parents 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:20.760 for quite a while, right, and that could be really tough. 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:24.640 I mean, just even I moved pretty far a couple 0:17:24.640 --> 0:17:27.679 of years ago from where my family was and felt 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:30.920 so lonely, like the first time in my life, I 0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:34.000 felt like, wow, I feel pretty alone, like pretty separated, 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:38.520 pretty far from from fam. But I found ways to 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:41.920 look forward to seeing them and making a proper plan 0:17:42.000 --> 0:17:44.720 either meeting them halfway or whatever. And also finding a 0:17:44.720 --> 0:17:47.280 good community for yourself. You know, finding some good friends 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:51.200 is important, and if you can do that, I think 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:53.520 it's great. And also I think there's been like a 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:57.480 lot some fun things on Zoom came out of COVID. 0:17:58.000 --> 0:17:59.679 We were doing a lot of like game nights on 0:17:59.800 --> 0:18:01.439 Zoo and even with my parents. I don't know if 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:04.240 your parents are tech savvy, but there's a game called 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:07.640 Code Names. It's a good one for the family online. 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:09.560 We should do it. You can play on Zoom. Try 0:18:09.560 --> 0:18:13.240 that out with your parents. I think adulting can be 0:18:13.280 --> 0:18:16.880 a really liberating experience too. When you, you know, move 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:18.840 out on your own, you start to think about, you know, 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:20.600 what do I want to put on my grocery list 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:23.280 and what's my laundry day, and you start to build 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:25.000 those those systems, even if you don't stick to it 0:18:25.040 --> 0:18:29.200 and don't put the pressure on it, because there's there's 0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:31.880 going to be chaotic moments. But I think you can 0:18:31.880 --> 0:18:33.639 find ways to sort of gamify it and be like, 0:18:33.640 --> 0:18:36.720 you know, this can be fun defining who I am 0:18:36.720 --> 0:18:40.000 as an adult and what my home looks and feels like. 0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:43.000 And then you know, FaceTime is. 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:48.680 An incredible tool for all relationship So FaceTime as much 0:18:48.720 --> 0:18:51.720 as you can and try to, you know, kind offset 0:18:51.760 --> 0:18:53.160 some of that home sickness. 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:55.199 I just got one of those TVs that roll around 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:57.600 that you get all those ads for and it's got 0:18:57.680 --> 0:19:01.320 zoom on it. It's the greatest thing ever. It's whoa 0:19:01.560 --> 0:19:04.240 so cool. So when if you see me rolling you 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:06.120 around my house and like you're there in the room, 0:19:06.240 --> 0:19:08.320 that's what's going on. So get one of those TVs. 0:19:08.320 --> 0:19:10.639 They're pretty great. You should buyer one. keV, let's go. 0:19:10.920 --> 0:19:13.119 Kev's got that solo artist money now he's just buying 0:19:13.160 --> 0:19:15.879 TVs that roll on the house. Yeah, I wish have 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:16.880 we got time for one more? 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:17.600 Hi? 0:19:17.720 --> 0:19:18.560 Jonas Brothers. 0:19:19.200 --> 0:19:21.000 I might be a little bit of an older fan. 0:19:21.040 --> 0:19:25.600 I'm twenty seven and I recently got braces. I wasn't 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:28.920 able to afford it as a kid, and now I can, 0:19:29.080 --> 0:19:31.160 and I'm trying to fix my team so I can 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:32.040 be more confident. 0:19:32.840 --> 0:19:36.000 So I was wondering to you, guys, how do you 0:19:36.040 --> 0:19:41.680 guys stay so confident? I know, Joe has had some 0:19:41.760 --> 0:19:45.280 things in the past, uh, like for example in a 0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:49.600 grade when he you know, crapped himself at school and 0:19:49.640 --> 0:19:52.679 then had to go back and clean it up. But 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:55.879 then only a few years later is performing with the 0:19:55.960 --> 0:20:00.720 Jonas Brothers and just exuding confidence. How do you guys 0:20:01.000 --> 0:20:06.080 do that? So thank you guys if you answer my questions. 0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:08.880 Sending love, and I hope you guys have a blessed day. 0:20:09.080 --> 0:20:11.320 Joe, how do you stay so confident after you've pooped 0:20:11.359 --> 0:20:14.159 your pants and now I'm a Jonas brother? How do 0:20:14.160 --> 0:20:16.960 you do it? Someone like you being conmic? How does that? 0:20:17.040 --> 0:20:23.600 How does that happen someone as well? H good on 0:20:23.640 --> 0:20:27.360 you getting braces and feeling your best self. Yeah, that's good. 0:20:27.480 --> 0:20:30.080 It's great. And now braces are way cooler than they 0:20:30.080 --> 0:20:32.720 were when when we were younger. We're doing the whole 0:20:32.720 --> 0:20:34.760 invisil line thing, right, now it's working out great for 0:20:34.840 --> 0:20:37.520 everybody we are meaning, are you that our daughters are? 0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:38.159 Oh? Got it? 0:20:38.240 --> 0:20:45.639 I got good ass teeth right now, good ass teeth straight. 0:20:45.800 --> 0:20:47.680 You know, there are days we don't feel our best 0:20:47.680 --> 0:20:52.200 and don't feel that confident, and you catch your reflection 0:20:53.040 --> 0:20:57.400 selfie cam pops up and you see a triple chin you. Well, 0:20:58.359 --> 0:21:01.760 I'm going to the gym today. But I think probably 0:21:01.840 --> 0:21:07.200 like little things help. Honestly, I like a little little 0:21:07.240 --> 0:21:11.640 morning walk, clear my head. And I just also try 0:21:11.640 --> 0:21:14.520 not to poot my pants as much anymore. It's probably 0:21:14.560 --> 0:21:18.479 step one of your day. Just don't poop my pants sometimes. 0:21:18.480 --> 0:21:21.160 I did send that to our our group chat, days 0:21:21.200 --> 0:21:24.280