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Speaker 1: voicemail time. We need to jingle for this segment. I agree.

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Speaker 1: Do you guys know any musicians something uh that tees

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Speaker 1: Maybe we can write one right now and then we

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Speaker 1: should be like, butt up bump, all right, butt up

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Speaker 2: Bruce males with brothers, and don't dun't brother bump And

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Speaker 2: if you've got the question, just leave it at.

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Speaker 1: The beep bum. I love that. Yes, boys, man, a

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Speaker 1: the first one.

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Speaker 3: Hi, my name is Anna, and I have a little story,

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Speaker 3: followed by a question. So on the Greetings from your

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Speaker 3: Own Town tour, I was lucky enough to to be

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Speaker 3: selected to shoot the surprise song. But while I was

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Speaker 3: talking to you guys, specifically Joe, he said like, what's

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Speaker 3: The thing is, it's not e Barrisic. But it is

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Speaker 3: one of those moments that what I'm sometimes like, when

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Speaker 3: cringing thing you did. My question for you is, what

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Speaker 4: You up at night?

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Speaker 5: Is that too dark?

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Speaker 3: Oh well I can't. I can't delete this all right?

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Speaker 1: I love you have an amazing character voice. Yeah, she

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Speaker 5: Hello.

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Speaker 6: My name is Heather and I've been a fan for

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Speaker 6: twenty one years now, so I am in a relationship.

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Speaker 6: Well, to know how long it took Heaven to decide

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Speaker 6: I've seeing the parents and everything, and is seven years

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Speaker 6: to Jonas Brothers concerts whenever I want, so never merged

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Speaker 6: I love you guys. Bye.

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Speaker 1: It reminds me of Delilah her voice, Remember Delilah, she's

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Speaker 1: It's like a I don't know, that's like a a

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Speaker 7: It's Hailey from Arizona. I'm a big fan and I

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Speaker 7: when maybe it seems like accountability is one sided and

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Speaker 5: I love the podcast you guys are awesome.

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Speaker 1: Thinks Wow, well, I think you are therapized for sure.

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Speaker 1: She's this person is I think, already working on themselves,

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Speaker 1: Joe, how do you stay so confident after you've pooped

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Speaker 1: And when you don't to that point, Joe, I think

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