WEBVTT - Who Knows Tanya Better?

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<v Speaker 1>Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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<v Speaker 3>Scrub Dub Dub in the tub, Tub Tub.

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<v Speaker 4>We have our special guest from earlier this week.

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<v Speaker 2>She's backing. Maybe Paulina is here. She couldn't stay away.

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<v Speaker 2>We didn't let her. I couldn't and we thought this

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<v Speaker 2>episode would be like a dear Bonnia slash game. Since

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<v Speaker 2>we haven't done a game in a while, Mark, I.

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<v Speaker 5>Have said, I think from the very beginning when you

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<v Speaker 5>told us what your maids of honor were going to be,

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<v Speaker 5>I wanted.

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<v Speaker 6>To play who knows Tanya best?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm stressed.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh and by the way, the answer to the question

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<v Speaker 5>is me because all of your questions save a few

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<v Speaker 5>I came up with just from my own memory. So

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<v Speaker 5>I win. But we're gonna see which maid of honor

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<v Speaker 5>knows you best. Here's how it's gonna work. I try

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<v Speaker 5>to keep this simple because I've made the mistake in

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<v Speaker 5>the past, have overcomplicated these games. I have five categories.

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<v Speaker 5>There are five questions in each category. They are in

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<v Speaker 5>order of difficulty one through five. You'll get pretty similarly. Yes,

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<v Speaker 5>you'll get a point for each one that we're not

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<v Speaker 5>doing five hundred, twelve hundreds, one point two point three points,

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<v Speaker 5>four points, five points. You cannot lose points, and you're

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<v Speaker 5>not gonna buzz in. You're gonna yell the answer. If

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<v Speaker 5>you don't, oh, I love, And if you go at

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<v Speaker 5>the same time, then the points will carry over to

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<v Speaker 5>the next question. If I determine that it's the same time,

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<v Speaker 5>that it's a tie, because it could be. All right,

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<v Speaker 5>so here we go. This is gonna be fun. We

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<v Speaker 5>have a bonus question at the end. It's very good.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so I have anything about me. I am very

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<v Speaker 4>competitive when it comes to games.

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<v Speaker 6>I think Beca is too, and that's what I was

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<v Speaker 6>hoping for.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it's on Beckatilly all right, moving back up a

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<v Speaker 5>little bit, just so I can make sure I don't

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<v Speaker 5>want her to be louder than you, because that could,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, change. Yeah, good, okay, we're good, all right,

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<v Speaker 5>all right, here we go here the category. Let me

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<v Speaker 5>give you the categories. You're going there's some of them

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<v Speaker 5>you will have to write things down.

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<v Speaker 4>For oh, but not right now, now, right now, and

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<v Speaker 4>you let us know.

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<v Speaker 5>Here are the categories I will categories are family radio, love, life, favorites,

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<v Speaker 5>and childhood. Tanya, you may choose the first category.

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<v Speaker 7>Let's go radio.

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<v Speaker 6>Gonna go with the radio, all right, Here we go.

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<v Speaker 5>For one point, Tanya's first radio job was in this city, Phoenix, Arizona.

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<v Speaker 5>Tucson is the correct answer. Arizona is a state. I

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<v Speaker 5>said city.

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<v Speaker 6>That is a point.

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<v Speaker 5>Rebecca hing up through my cities. For two points, what

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<v Speaker 5>are the reports called that Tanya does every day on

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<v Speaker 5>the Kiss Morning Show.

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<v Speaker 8>She has to send her h every day she has

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<v Speaker 8>to send her answering reports.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you, I help her out sometimes.

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<v Speaker 9>All right.

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<v Speaker 5>Next, every morning Tanya starts her day by singing a

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<v Speaker 5>rendition of this her theme song when she enters the

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<v Speaker 5>Kiss studio.

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<v Speaker 6>Correct, Bejeweled.

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<v Speaker 5>Every single day sings Bejeweled.

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<v Speaker 6>That shoe walks in the room, the light switch thing

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<v Speaker 6>that's included, that's a big part of it.

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<v Speaker 5>For four points, Tanya got a job at Kiss after

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<v Speaker 5>sending this object in the mail to then promotions director

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<v Speaker 5>Tim Martinez.

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<v Speaker 6>Shoes. Shoes is correct?

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<v Speaker 5>A shoe.

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<v Speaker 6>I will accept shoes very nice.

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<v Speaker 4>Put your foot in the door the door.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>And the five point radio question. Here we go.

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<v Speaker 5>A former boss of Tanya's once diminished her by saying

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<v Speaker 5>she was nothing more than this a.

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<v Speaker 2>Pretty pretty face.

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<v Speaker 8>Nope, too happy, but a blonde blind.

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<v Speaker 4>She was she was simply had nothing more than.

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<v Speaker 5>Blank, nothing more than yeah blank, yes, nothing, nothing more

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<v Speaker 5>than a voice, Nope.

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<v Speaker 2>Nothing more than a girl college.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't think they're going to get it.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't think said there. I think hint.

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<v Speaker 5>Uh sure, Homer Simpson is one of these.

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<v Speaker 2>Cartoon nothing but a cartoon character.

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<v Speaker 6>Cartoon character. I gotta go back down. I got very.

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<v Speaker 2>Close because you did, but I came out with character.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't like this game.

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<v Speaker 5>All right, Well on one category down, it's back in

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<v Speaker 5>nine Paula six so far and I'll.

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<v Speaker 6>Just do that. Not so bad. Plenty of time to.

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<v Speaker 5>Come back next category. Because you took that category, you

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<v Speaker 5>can choose the next category. We have family love life

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<v Speaker 5>favorites and childhood love life love life.

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<v Speaker 6>It is.

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<v Speaker 4>This is not going to be fair because you never

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<v Speaker 4>mind go ahead.

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<v Speaker 5>From one point, okay. In twenty twelve, Tanya made out

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<v Speaker 5>with this CW actor at the IHET Radio Music Festival.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh what's his name?

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<v Speaker 2>In something call in?

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<v Speaker 6>We interviewed him recently.

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<v Speaker 2>What's the last name start with any hint, Colin.

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<v Speaker 6>I think you should get Callin okayay, I think Paul.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't get Arizonia.

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<v Speaker 5>That's not a city, all right, one, Rebecca one point

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<v Speaker 5>for Colin Donald was the.

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<v Speaker 4>Man Donald I would have never gotten. I would have

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<v Speaker 4>gotten the last name.

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<v Speaker 5>For two points. In twenty seventeen, Tany went down a

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<v Speaker 5>date with a guy she met at this grocery store.

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<v Speaker 5>I'll go tie on that one. I'll go tie on

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<v Speaker 5>that one. That means the two points. That means the

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<v Speaker 5>two points rolls over to the next one. So this

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<v Speaker 5>is worth five points. Number three. In twenty eighteen, Tanya

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<v Speaker 5>had designs on this former NFL quarterback and even started

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<v Speaker 5>texting j Allen. He ended up engaged to someone else.

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<v Speaker 5>In twenty nineteen, Jered golf, this is now a five

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<v Speaker 5>point question.

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<v Speaker 4>I know I know the story, Jered, that's not the

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<v Speaker 4>correct answer. I don't know the name. Yes, I don't

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<v Speaker 4>know the name.

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<v Speaker 5>His first and last to start with the same initial,

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<v Speaker 5>but that as the final clue I will give.

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<v Speaker 4>I also don't know sports. So can you guess initial starts.

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<v Speaker 7>The song about him?

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<v Speaker 6>Yes?

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<v Speaker 7>One that got.

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<v Speaker 6>Away all right time was I don't know Tim Tebow

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<v Speaker 6>was the name.

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<v Speaker 5>Now those points now rolled over again, so that's now

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<v Speaker 5>a nine point questions. In twenty thirteen, Tany went on

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<v Speaker 5>a date, which you can watch on YouTube, with an

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<v Speaker 5>Olympic athlete. In what event did he compete?

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<v Speaker 4>Michael Phelps? Swimming?

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<v Speaker 6>I don't even try, Yes you do, huh nope?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, swimming, nope, gymnastics.

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<v Speaker 5>In what winter Olympic events? Snowboarding is the correct answer.

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<v Speaker 5>And you don't remember that guy? Don't you remember him?

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<v Speaker 5>But I don't remember his name or his Olympic name.

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<v Speaker 4>But not even you know is the answer.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, see that's why I win, all right, number five,

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<v Speaker 5>five point question, final question in Love Life. In twenty eighteen,

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<v Speaker 5>Tany and Ryan Seacrest concocted a plan that technical difficulties

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<v Speaker 5>would require that you share a microphone with this in

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<v Speaker 5>studio guests. Correct answer, and that's a clean sweep on

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<v Speaker 5>that category fifteen.

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<v Speaker 4>I said, it's gonna be unfair because they have a podcast.

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<v Speaker 6>Well you can catch up still Becca.

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<v Speaker 1>Family favorites or childhood. I'm gonna go family, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>Family it is. Paulina is the upper hand here, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't.

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<v Speaker 6>Maybe she will, I hope so it'd be good to

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<v Speaker 6>make it a game. Here we go.

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<v Speaker 5>So far it's not going great, but you've got plenty

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<v Speaker 5>of time to come back.

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<v Speaker 4>You know I love a comebackstraight.

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<v Speaker 6>That's right? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>For one point, Tany's parents spend multiple months every year

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<v Speaker 5>in Serbia.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, hold on a second, hold on, you need to

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<v Speaker 4>finish the question. Waiting for you to finish the question.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't need to. If you know what you should

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<v Speaker 6>blurt it. Well, okay, I'm sorry, blurt away.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I'm gonna blurt. Now, finish the question, all right?

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<v Speaker 5>For two points? What is Tanya's father's first name? Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>there we go.

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<v Speaker 6>Who she comes?

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<v Speaker 9>For?

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<v Speaker 6>Three points?

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<v Speaker 5>How many nieces and nephews does Tanya Havert.

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<v Speaker 4>Marco has one kids?

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<v Speaker 6>Four points?

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<v Speaker 5>How did Tanya's mother get to college in Long Beach

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<v Speaker 5>since she didn't have a car at the time?

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<v Speaker 4>Bus?

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<v Speaker 2>Walking, biking?

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<v Speaker 6>Biking is correct?

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<v Speaker 4>Did you guess that? You guessed that?

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<v Speaker 5>All right, write this down? Get ready to write this down.

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<v Speaker 5>There's the five point questions. You can each get five points.

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<v Speaker 5>No blurting on this one. Write it down. Spell Tanya's

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<v Speaker 5>complete last name. My god, I will not accept rad

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<v Speaker 5>I need the entire name spelled correctly, you will each

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<v Speaker 5>potentially get five point if you can do it.

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<v Speaker 4>There's this is so wrong. I can't even explain that

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<v Speaker 4>to you.

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<v Speaker 5>I love that we're playing who knows there veft and

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<v Speaker 5>last name is the sticking point.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have a single I might have the three first, right,

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<v Speaker 2>all right?

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<v Speaker 4>I think I have the first five.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I don't know that we'll give any points, but

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<v Speaker 5>let's have Paulina go first.

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<v Speaker 6>Go ahead, what can you read it? Off? Please?

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<v Speaker 7>R A D I S A v I O.

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<v Speaker 5>V J.

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<v Speaker 6>Strong and then fell apart.

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<v Speaker 4>R A d I Z A B I B I see.

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<v Speaker 4>I knew there was a.

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<v Speaker 9>J.

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<v Speaker 6>Can you say it?

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<v Speaker 3>Some people are a say you say by Savia Beach

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<v Speaker 3>and you spell it R A D I S.

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<v Speaker 6>A V l J E v I C l JP.

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<v Speaker 4>I have the first nine, right? Wait?

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<v Speaker 2>What the last three letters?

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<v Speaker 6>E V I C.

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<v Speaker 4>I knew there was a J and.

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<v Speaker 2>She did not do a good job on that one.

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<v Speaker 6>All right, Well the score is currently.

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<v Speaker 4>No I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, great, we have two more categories.

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<v Speaker 6>Becca, you may choose it is what do we have?

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<v Speaker 5>We have child because she won that category childhood and favorites.

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<v Speaker 6>That's all we have left.

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<v Speaker 4>Let's do childhood, all right.

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<v Speaker 6>For one point, Tanya started a fan club in high

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<v Speaker 6>school called the Musical.

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<v Speaker 2>John Mayor and Shakira Synergy Club.

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<v Speaker 6>John Mayer and Shakira is The.

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<v Speaker 5>Musical Synergy Club was dedicated to which two musicians, John

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<v Speaker 5>Mayer and Shakira.

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<v Speaker 6>Very good.

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<v Speaker 5>For two points, Tanya's first kiss was with a boy

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<v Speaker 5>who had this significant first name.

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<v Speaker 2>The heck he had this significant first name Taylor.

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<v Speaker 6>No, but that's a good guess. That's a good guess. Also,

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<v Speaker 6>that is correct, very good.

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<v Speaker 2>Life only two.

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<v Speaker 6>No other students named Fronco. I don't think no.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 5>In eighth grade, Tanya got in trouble at school for

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<v Speaker 5>doing this.

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<v Speaker 6>Throw not happy.

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<v Speaker 2>You got in trouble for throwing apples at people's heads.

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<v Speaker 7>No, they would throw apples at my head.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait, what did you do in high school in eighth grade?

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<v Speaker 2>Eighth grade, you probably got in trouble for did you

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<v Speaker 2>kiss someone in school?

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<v Speaker 4>Cheating?

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<v Speaker 6>Cheating is the correct thing.

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<v Speaker 5>Let me tell you.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think the guessing shook, but my guesses have

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<v Speaker 2>just been what after the next?

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<v Speaker 4>All right?

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<v Speaker 5>Number four four points. When Tanya was in high school.

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<v Speaker 5>She pulled her pants down in front of her mom,

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<v Speaker 5>her older sister, and her sister's boyfriend to show them

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<v Speaker 5>what assist or like.

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<v Speaker 8>Angered hair, no puberty, no hair on her bruise.

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<v Speaker 5>She was concerned it was a possible U t I,

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<v Speaker 5>but she wasn't sure. She was saying, what do you

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<v Speaker 5>guys think is this? Could this be a I don't know,

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<v Speaker 5>could this be.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not.

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<v Speaker 5>There's only so many things down there. Yeah, they've got

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<v Speaker 5>to think bigger than a pimple.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not assist.

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<v Speaker 6>It's not assist. It's not it might have been assessed. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>it's not the word I'm looking for. She thought it

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<v Speaker 6>was you know, you t I.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not.

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<v Speaker 7>They're not going to get it, all right.

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<v Speaker 5>She thought it was a hemorrhoid.

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<v Speaker 7>We just told me this story two days ago.

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<v Speaker 6>All right, This one's a tough one. I don't know

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<v Speaker 6>if they'll get this.

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<v Speaker 4>The other ones haven't been.

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<v Speaker 5>For five points. Tanya's favorite teacher at Los Alamedo's High.

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<v Speaker 6>School the hell.

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<v Speaker 4>Music teacher. Mister is it mister.

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<v Speaker 2>Rodriguez, Mister Robert Close, mister mister Rogers.

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<v Speaker 5>Mister I actually mentioned this name earlier in the quiz

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<v Speaker 5>because the Kiss promotions director had the same last name

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<v Speaker 5>that she sent the shoe to. Mister, I'm gonave you

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<v Speaker 5>one more clue starts with an m mister Martinez favorite

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<v Speaker 5>in high school.

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<v Speaker 6>Shout out. All right, here we go, final round.

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<v Speaker 5>It's favorites, and we'll start with a one point question.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, it is not.

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<v Speaker 2>About the points, Paulina, it is it really is you

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<v Speaker 2>have us having fun?

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<v Speaker 6>You have ten points? Ten points is a nice round number.

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<v Speaker 4>That nine pointer really killed me anyway.

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<v Speaker 6>That was tough.

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<v Speaker 5>All right, get ready to blurt what is Tanya's favorite

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<v Speaker 5>TV show of all time?

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<v Speaker 6>Friends? Is correct?

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<v Speaker 4>Your podcast is called Spread.

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<v Speaker 7>Amongst Friends?

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<v Speaker 6>What is Tanya's favorite Taylor Swift song? And Paulina, you

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<v Speaker 6>gotta be faster.

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<v Speaker 4>Honestly, I don't know Taylor Swift, so I wasn't sure

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<v Speaker 4>if it was like what I do tell me to

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<v Speaker 4>memorize this weekend. He's just not that, is it.

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<v Speaker 5>You talked about it on Monday about how I.

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<v Speaker 4>Thought it was a ten minute and I don't know

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<v Speaker 4>the name of that.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, yeah, what is Tinya's favorite movie of all time?

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<v Speaker 4>He's just not that into there.

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<v Speaker 6>You go, very nice, nice?

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<v Speaker 5>What is Tanya's favorite way to have her eggs prepared

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<v Speaker 5>sunny side up. Scrambled, correct me, no, scrambled. You both scrambled.

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<v Speaker 5>Did you know I did exactly the same time?

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<v Speaker 6>So you both think that?

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<v Speaker 5>Then apparently it was a tie nine point Final question,

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<v Speaker 5>that's a tough one. What is Tiny's favorite alcoholic beverage?

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<v Speaker 2>Killing the rocks?

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<v Speaker 4>I like to Martini, like.

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<v Speaker 6>Tortini, Martini. We have a winner just named it.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm blaming my lock of sleep on this. My brain

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<v Speaker 4>slightly delayed.

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<v Speaker 7>No, some of them are very hard, but like the

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<v Speaker 7>Leechi Martini.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, but let me drink on Friday night a Leachi

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<v Speaker 3>Martinis vs.

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<v Speaker 7>Significant Martini.

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<v Speaker 4>To be honest with you, you never drink them, so

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<v Speaker 4>I wasn't sure if that was actually your favorite.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh so the only reason I don't drink them is because, No,

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<v Speaker 3>A lot of restaurants don't make them delicious.

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<v Speaker 5>They make yeah Jim Martinez the original answer.

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<v Speaker 6>She changed it this morning.

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<v Speaker 7>Martini with two olives, two onions and a twist.

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<v Speaker 4>All of Yadigar special. Yeah, it's special, I said, all

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<v Speaker 4>of Yadigar. I was like, who's all of Yadagar? I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know didn't meet her this week.

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<v Speaker 6>Now, shall we take a break and come back with Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's let's come back with the score and some.

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<v Speaker 9>Dear All right, we are back.

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<v Speaker 2>We have a few Dear Bonnier questions and we thought

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<v Speaker 2>it would be fun to have Paulina in giving advice.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you know this, but every week,

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<v Speaker 2>or almost every week, we do a Dear Bonnie episode

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<v Speaker 2>where people write in. We give advice, sometimes great advice,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes questionable.

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<v Speaker 4>Hopefully they go do.

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<v Speaker 2>Go elsewhere, to go go elsewhere to source advice. But

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<v Speaker 2>you'll idle, you'll add something new.

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<v Speaker 7>A new perspective, new perspective.

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<v Speaker 5>Let's do it all right this one, Becca, Tanya Becka.

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<v Speaker 5>I've been a fan of yours since your first season

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<v Speaker 5>of The Bachelor. We were in the same sorority, different schools.

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<v Speaker 5>We all rooted for you because of that and how

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<v Speaker 5>genuine you were, that nice Tanya. I love a full

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<v Speaker 5>of life you are, and you bring such warmth and

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<v Speaker 5>energy to the podcast. It's so fun listening to you

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<v Speaker 5>and learning about your experiences with love and life. I

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<v Speaker 5>will say, Tanya. Doing the half marathon at Disney, I

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<v Speaker 5>ran by you and pointed Tanya, I'm such a huge fan,

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<v Speaker 5>and then just kept running. I'm hoping I didn't scare

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<v Speaker 5>you too much, not at all. My question, would you

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<v Speaker 5>ever run a half or full marathon? If so, which one?

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<v Speaker 5>Thanks for all you do, love Ariel. If you're ever

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<v Speaker 5>in the Boston area, I teach a cycling studio part time.

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<v Speaker 5>Would love to have you in my class.

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<v Speaker 7>Wow, thank you, I love Boston. Shout out's great. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>If I ever got the that's the that's the location,

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<v Speaker 2>shouldn't have Flintania Pete and the hydroflask in the car?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my gosh on one.

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<v Speaker 2>Of the highways or freeways and lustily.

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<v Speaker 3>I did no because if we literally walked onto the plane,

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<v Speaker 3>had we pulled over for me to go to the bathroom,

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<v Speaker 3>would have missed our flight.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, you got to find the hydro you gotta.

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<v Speaker 7>Do the hydroflask. Yeah, And I was like, well, spect,

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<v Speaker 7>this is.

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<v Speaker 2>An interesting question having here because you literally just did

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<v Speaker 2>the half marathon.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure did. Let me tell you guys, I am not

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<v Speaker 4>a runner. I'm really not, but I have a newfound

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<v Speaker 4>love for running. I have. I've told you this before.

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<v Speaker 4>Anyone can run after doing a half marathon, anyone can run,

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<v Speaker 4>and I think I'm trying to get you to do

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<v Speaker 4>it with me and you and Robbie. I already signed

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<v Speaker 4>up for another one in September. It's so fun.

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<v Speaker 2>What made you, as someone who's not a runner? What

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<v Speaker 2>made you want to do that? Because I there's no

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<v Speaker 2>single ounce of my soul that wants.

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<v Speaker 4>To do that. I I have this. I've always had

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<v Speaker 4>like a weird inkling of like wanting to be a runner,

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<v Speaker 4>but every time I did it, I hated my life

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<v Speaker 4>and I thought it was a joke. Honestly, I told

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<v Speaker 4>a coworker joking, like we do have marathon and we

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<v Speaker 4>were like sure, And then I had two and a

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<v Speaker 4>half months to train. I think one I had like

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<v Speaker 4>this goal in mind that like if I don't like

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<v Speaker 4>not being good at things, so when I have, I

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<v Speaker 4>had to do it in order to achieve this thing

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<v Speaker 4>that I signed up for unpaid for. But in the process,

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<v Speaker 4>I like found like a total love for running.

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<v Speaker 2>How many miles before you realize you loved it?

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<v Speaker 4>Like how the first day, like my first run, I

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<v Speaker 4>did two miles around like my neighborhood and I got

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<v Speaker 4>back and I was like, this is so fun and

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<v Speaker 4>By the way, I'm just as shocked as anyone else

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<v Speaker 4>because I don't even like walking down the block. Like

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<v Speaker 4>my sister can't fathom that I did this because in

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<v Speaker 4>New York, I'm like, where's the uber? Like I don't,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't do cardio.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm shocked you haven't had interest in it, because you

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<v Speaker 2>know you would do long runs for a long time.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I've ran nine miles. I have no desire.

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<v Speaker 3>To be around hundreds of people sweaty running around.

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<v Speaker 6>But you're not.

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<v Speaker 4>You're not close enough to feel.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyone running these miles waking up at five am on

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<v Speaker 3>a Sunday like none of it, yeah, three thirty, Like,

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<v Speaker 3>none of it to me is something that I want

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<v Speaker 3>to do. If I want to run, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 3>go on a run around my house. Yeah, Like there,

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<v Speaker 3>I just there's nothing in me that wants to do that.

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<v Speaker 4>See I'm the opposite. I haven't ran since because now

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, oh, well, I don't have this thing that

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<v Speaker 4>I have to do. Yeah, I think you should do it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like a weird like sense of accomplishment that I

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<v Speaker 4>didn't expect because any most things like do you rather.

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<v Speaker 3>Be my black belt in jiu jitsu than like run

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<v Speaker 3>a marathon. I think, do that well, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like you can. You're a natural. Very few

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<v Speaker 4>people can run nine miles for fun, and you were

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<v Speaker 4>doing that. I wasn't.

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't say I was doing it for fun. I

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<v Speaker 3>was like super depressed, sad.

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<v Speaker 4>Actually, I was like, yes, but I'm saying like, very

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<v Speaker 4>few people can actually hit nine miles.

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<v Speaker 2>With that's been really sad and I've never ran the same.

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<v Speaker 2>The last thing I felt to do.

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<v Speaker 4>In the middle of a breakup, I'm like, I want

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<v Speaker 4>nothing to do with exercise for me.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like running was like therapeutic. Yeah, Like I

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<v Speaker 3>remember when Robin and I broke up. That was all

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<v Speaker 3>I did was I would just like run every day,

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<v Speaker 3>And before I knew it was like nine miles.

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<v Speaker 7>I was like, oh, dang, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Think that's so impressive. Anyway, I really I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 4>convince and Robbie to do it with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I think if that if you can hit nine miles

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<v Speaker 2>and you can go.

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<v Speaker 4>A lot of people by the way train up until

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<v Speaker 4>nine and then do the full thing the day of

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<v Speaker 4>so you can, you aren't working right, You're just not

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<v Speaker 4>They're just people do it by themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>They just kind of go, well, I can't wait to

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<v Speaker 2>hear about that when you do it?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah yeah, no, oh.

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<v Speaker 5>No, not yeah, okay, sorry, you know I'm Tanya and

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<v Speaker 5>hard maybe from Becca righty?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes for me?

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<v Speaker 5>Anonymous, Hi Becka, Tanya, Mark, and Paulina. I've been listening

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<v Speaker 5>to the pod for a year or so now, and

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<v Speaker 5>I've been catching up on episodes I missed as well,

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<v Speaker 5>and y'all bring so much joy and laughter to my workdays.

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<v Speaker 5>My friends and I just went on a Gallentine's Day

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<v Speaker 5>weekend trip. We're screaming Tailorwhift in the car while driving

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<v Speaker 5>through National Parks and made me think of you guys

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<v Speaker 5>and appreciate you sharing.

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<v Speaker 6>All your girlhood stories.

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<v Speaker 5>Long story short, I'm living in Utah for a few

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<v Speaker 5>months with my best friend who's out here for clinical

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<v Speaker 5>for grad school. I work remote, so I decided to

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<v Speaker 5>join her. I'm from Minnesota. Don't worry, Mark, I'm a

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<v Speaker 5>huge Packer fan.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 9>So.

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<v Speaker 5>I love getting this opportunity to live somewhere cool with

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<v Speaker 5>so many outdoor options. I can't imagine moving back to

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<v Speaker 5>my suburban Midwest town in a few weeks. I love it.

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<v Speaker 5>Here in Utah, but I would also consider somewhere else

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<v Speaker 5>with similar things to do. I'm in my mid twenties.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't have anything tying me down. I rent, I'm

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<v Speaker 5>not in a relationship, but I do think it'd be

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<v Speaker 5>hard to move so far away from my family friends.

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<v Speaker 5>A lot of people where I'm from stay close to

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<v Speaker 5>home or at least a few hours away for their

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<v Speaker 5>whole lives, so it's not really typical with my friends

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<v Speaker 5>and family to be so far away. It's also different

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<v Speaker 5>right now because I'm my best friend here and i'd

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<v Speaker 5>be moving by myself instead. Mark and Becca, I know

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<v Speaker 5>you both moved far away from home but a somewhat

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<v Speaker 5>similar age. Do you have any advice on how you

0:23:17.800 --> 0:23:20.160
<v Speaker 5>came to those decisions? And once you did move away,

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<v Speaker 5>how hard was it to start over in a new

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<v Speaker 5>place without friends and family?

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<v Speaker 6>Any advice?

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<v Speaker 4>M I actually worked.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I moved with my sister and my brother

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<v Speaker 2>in law, so I had I did have family. I

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<v Speaker 2>was nineteen when I moved, and I think it's hard.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, anything new is hard, in my opinion, like

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<v Speaker 2>there's always an adjustment period, but I think having family

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<v Speaker 2>with me made the adjustment so much easier.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sure do you fill out too. I had the

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<v Speaker 4>same experience. I'm from Miami and I moved to LA

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<v Speaker 4>when I was nineteen as well. Wow yeah, so oh

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<v Speaker 4>my gosh, eleven, ten years ago. But my sister, yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>but my sister already lived in LA, so it made

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<v Speaker 4>the whole thing so much easier. I now, I've like

0:24:12.000 --> 0:24:14.640
<v Speaker 4>jokingly told you that I'm moving to New York and

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<v Speaker 4>I can't imagine moving somewhere alone, but I will say,

0:24:20.119 --> 0:24:22.080
<v Speaker 4>and it's kind of perfect that we're here. But like

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<v Speaker 4>I think the minute I met Tanya, everything kind of

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<v Speaker 4>clicked for me in LA. I think I always had

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<v Speaker 4>my sister, but then it takes a second. But then

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<v Speaker 4>once you find your people, everything gets easier. And I

0:24:35.600 --> 0:24:38.760
<v Speaker 4>we've cried all weekend about it, but like we're chosen family,

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<v Speaker 4>and I do think that it's uncomfortable, it's not easy,

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<v Speaker 4>but then like you find your footing, yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>I miss I have.

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<v Speaker 2>I sometimes go through the feeling of having guilt living

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<v Speaker 2>so far away from my parents, knowing that they're getting

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<v Speaker 2>older and like my nieces and nephews and not being

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<v Speaker 2>there for that, and that's I think something that you're

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<v Speaker 2>always going to wrestle with if you have a healthy,

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<v Speaker 2>good relationship with family or even friends that live far away.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think that's the joy of getting to go

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<v Speaker 2>visit on the holidays like you do.

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<v Speaker 9>Mark.

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<v Speaker 5>I was twenty six when I moved out, but I

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<v Speaker 5>had friends here and that helped a lot. I think

0:25:11.320 --> 0:25:13.600
<v Speaker 5>they'd be tough to not have friends someplace. But also,

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<v Speaker 5>but what it came down to for me was am

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<v Speaker 5>I going to regret staying or am I going to

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<v Speaker 5>regret going? And I decided that I would regret not

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<v Speaker 5>coming out here and giving it a shot. And I

0:25:25.280 --> 0:25:28.560
<v Speaker 5>came out here with big dreams. I achieved none of them,

0:25:28.920 --> 0:25:31.080
<v Speaker 5>but things have worked out great. I've still got a

0:25:31.080 --> 0:25:32.639
<v Speaker 5>great life out here, and I'm really happy that I

0:25:32.680 --> 0:25:35.320
<v Speaker 5>moved out here. So I think you gotta try it,

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<v Speaker 5>don't you. I think that's great.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, your twenties is four or four.

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<v Speaker 4>My mom is every time I'm making like a really

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<v Speaker 4>difficult decision, She's like, you can always go back, yeah, yeah,

0:25:44.080 --> 0:25:47.960
<v Speaker 4>like worst case scenario, you move back. You can always

0:25:47.960 --> 0:25:49.920
<v Speaker 4>like you know, get a new job, like things can

0:25:50.000 --> 0:25:54.280
<v Speaker 4>always be different. So I think, just try, yeah, just

0:25:54.359 --> 0:25:56.880
<v Speaker 4>do it, and if you also give it a second,

0:25:57.040 --> 0:25:59.320
<v Speaker 4>because when I first moved here, I was like, what

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<v Speaker 4>the hell did I do? Because I loved my family,

0:26:02.920 --> 0:26:05.880
<v Speaker 4>I love being home. I'm such a homebody. But like

0:26:06.000 --> 0:26:09.160
<v Speaker 4>three months in I was like, Okay, I like it here,

0:26:09.400 --> 0:26:13.120
<v Speaker 4>I have good people around me. I'll stay, so give

0:26:13.119 --> 0:26:15.200
<v Speaker 4>it a second. But I think, do it?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Why not?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? I agree.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I always had the mentality, specifically when I

0:26:21.160 --> 0:26:24.159
<v Speaker 2>moved from San Diego to La, which I know is

0:26:24.200 --> 0:26:27.360
<v Speaker 2>like a much smaller move, but I was very comfortable

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<v Speaker 2>in San Diego and I was very scared to move

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<v Speaker 2>to LA in the sense of it was this like new,

0:26:31.880 --> 0:26:34.840
<v Speaker 2>big place and there's so much going on. And I

0:26:34.920 --> 0:26:38.760
<v Speaker 2>remember my boss said to me, like san Diego is

0:26:38.760 --> 0:26:40.959
<v Speaker 2>still going to be here, Like you can always come

0:26:41.000 --> 0:26:43.480
<v Speaker 2>back to San Diego, but maybe La is where you

0:26:43.480 --> 0:26:45.520
<v Speaker 2>need to be right now. And I always kept that

0:26:45.560 --> 0:26:48.200
<v Speaker 2>in my mind of like, your family and the place

0:26:48.200 --> 0:26:49.920
<v Speaker 2>that you come from is still going to be there,

0:26:49.960 --> 0:26:52.360
<v Speaker 2>so why not go see and do something that you're

0:26:52.480 --> 0:26:55.840
<v Speaker 2>craving to do rather than staying somewhere where you feel

0:26:55.840 --> 0:26:57.840
<v Speaker 2>stagnant and never knowing anything different.

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<v Speaker 4>I think there's a lot of beauty in that, so I.

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<v Speaker 7>Never moved far.

0:27:01.000 --> 0:27:02.600
<v Speaker 3>Like I grew up in Orange County, so it's like

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<v Speaker 3>an hour and a half away from where I live now.

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<v Speaker 3>But I feel like I moved to a totally different universe,

0:27:08.160 --> 0:27:12.040
<v Speaker 3>like completely. It's different for me though, because my family

0:27:12.119 --> 0:27:14.840
<v Speaker 3>is so like a drive so it's different.

0:27:15.359 --> 0:27:19.520
<v Speaker 7>But I could not imagine living in the city that

0:27:19.600 --> 0:27:20.159
<v Speaker 7>I grew up in.

0:27:20.840 --> 0:27:23.520
<v Speaker 4>I don't. Yeah, I'm from Miami. Like Miami is like

0:27:24.000 --> 0:27:28.000
<v Speaker 4>so fun and like really popping right now. But yeah,

0:27:28.119 --> 0:27:30.720
<v Speaker 4>whenever I go, I'm like, oh, Ela is my home. Yeah,

0:27:30.880 --> 0:27:34.280
<v Speaker 4>never saying ever, And I think I more think about it,

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:37.240
<v Speaker 4>like when I have kids. Yeah, Like I can't imagine

0:27:37.280 --> 0:27:39.040
<v Speaker 4>not having my mom close by.

0:27:39.200 --> 0:27:40.840
<v Speaker 7>That's why we got to get her to move out.

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<v Speaker 4>Here one day day.

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<v Speaker 6>I always think it's good to see the world I do.

0:27:46.119 --> 0:27:48.880
<v Speaker 5>It just exposed you to more people, more things, more wonderful.

0:27:49.000 --> 0:27:50.960
<v Speaker 5>My father in law, hooy I left dearly, has spent

0:27:51.000 --> 0:27:53.919
<v Speaker 5>his entire life in a one block area, Like you

0:27:53.960 --> 0:27:55.720
<v Speaker 5>can walk from what where's he grew up into the

0:27:55.760 --> 0:27:58.120
<v Speaker 5>house where he lives now. And that's great for some people. Yeah,

0:27:58.160 --> 0:27:59.800
<v Speaker 5>it sounds like from your email, you're not one of

0:27:59.800 --> 0:28:00.320
<v Speaker 5>those people.

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<v Speaker 2>I always say it's okay to stay.

0:28:02.840 --> 0:28:03.280
<v Speaker 4>It's okay.

0:28:03.320 --> 0:28:05.520
<v Speaker 2>I remember no a conpost that it's okay to stay

0:28:05.520 --> 0:28:08.080
<v Speaker 2>where you where you love and and be with who

0:28:08.119 --> 0:28:10.280
<v Speaker 2>you love. And it's also okay to want to leave

0:28:10.320 --> 0:28:12.320
<v Speaker 2>and mix more different And how long do you know

0:28:12.359 --> 0:28:13.840
<v Speaker 2>that you're going to have a remote job where you

0:28:13.840 --> 0:28:14.320
<v Speaker 2>get to do that?

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<v Speaker 4>You know you're an it?

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<v Speaker 3>You want to scratch, scratch itratch it, Just scratch it,

0:28:21.760 --> 0:28:22.359
<v Speaker 3>scratch it?

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<v Speaker 4>Is that news?

0:28:23.560 --> 0:28:28.400
<v Speaker 7>Just scratch it, scratch it. It's a song. No, I don't.

0:28:28.240 --> 0:28:28.720
<v Speaker 6>Love that one.

0:28:28.720 --> 0:28:30.240
<v Speaker 4>I don't know that one either personally.

0:28:30.400 --> 0:28:31.840
<v Speaker 7>Maybe it's a different word than yeah.

0:28:31.960 --> 0:28:32.720
<v Speaker 4>Maybe it's just a.

0:28:34.200 --> 0:28:36.520
<v Speaker 7>RAMI just ram it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like scratch it.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know I like any of that right word. Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>we will be right back.

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<v Speaker 2>We're taking a break, all right, we are back.

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<v Speaker 4>Another dear Bonia.

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<v Speaker 5>Here comes from Lily Hi, Beca, Tanya Mark and Paulina Hi.

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<v Speaker 5>I've been in my third my mid thirties. I've been

0:29:09.880 --> 0:29:11.720
<v Speaker 5>very ten years before me and my husband had a

0:29:11.800 --> 0:29:13.840
<v Speaker 5>large group of friends of guys and girls. Most of

0:29:13.840 --> 0:29:16.120
<v Speaker 5>those friendships have faded, except for one male friend I've

0:29:16.120 --> 0:29:18.959
<v Speaker 5>known since I was ten. My husband's never had an

0:29:18.960 --> 0:29:20.760
<v Speaker 5>issue with this guy till a few years ago. We

0:29:20.760 --> 0:29:22.760
<v Speaker 5>were at a party together. A friend of my husband's

0:29:22.760 --> 0:29:25.800
<v Speaker 5>told him I was all over my friend, which matched

0:29:25.880 --> 0:29:30.440
<v Speaker 5>my husband's fears. Nothing inappropriate happened, just friendly hugs with

0:29:30.440 --> 0:29:32.680
<v Speaker 5>our other friends. But my husband is convinced I hooked

0:29:32.760 --> 0:29:35.280
<v Speaker 5>up with this friend in the past, which is not true.

0:29:35.360 --> 0:29:37.600
<v Speaker 5>Ever since, any mention of my friend turns into an

0:29:37.600 --> 0:29:41.080
<v Speaker 5>issue four days, my husband feels as disrespectful to maintain

0:29:41.120 --> 0:29:43.040
<v Speaker 5>the friendship and wants to know every time we talk

0:29:43.240 --> 0:29:46.320
<v Speaker 5>and the details of our conversations. I know the easy

0:29:46.360 --> 0:29:48.600
<v Speaker 5>answer is to just stop being friends if it makes

0:29:48.640 --> 0:29:51.200
<v Speaker 5>my husband uncomfortable, but part of me thinks I shouldn't

0:29:51.200 --> 0:29:53.560
<v Speaker 5>have to end a twenty year friendship over something that

0:29:53.600 --> 0:29:56.560
<v Speaker 5>isn't true. That said, this friend and I only talk

0:29:56.640 --> 0:29:58.960
<v Speaker 5>or see each other once or twice a year. What's

0:29:58.960 --> 0:30:01.400
<v Speaker 5>everyone's take and the friendship, out of respect from my

0:30:01.440 --> 0:30:03.520
<v Speaker 5>husband's feelings, should have maintained it since there is no

0:30:03.640 --> 0:30:05.520
<v Speaker 5>history there. And if I do end it, do I

0:30:05.560 --> 0:30:07.040
<v Speaker 5>just let it fizzle out or do I have a

0:30:07.080 --> 0:30:09.280
<v Speaker 5>direct conversation. I appreciate your perspectives.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you, rough I like a friend you see twice

0:30:11.720 --> 0:30:14.280
<v Speaker 3>a year is not a really really good friend.

0:30:14.640 --> 0:30:17.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it sounds like it's more of like a friend

0:30:17.520 --> 0:30:20.560
<v Speaker 2>that you like, right pick up where you left off.

0:30:20.640 --> 0:30:21.520
<v Speaker 4>You know, you don't say.

0:30:21.320 --> 0:30:22.800
<v Speaker 3>Them a lot, and you see them once or twice

0:30:22.840 --> 0:30:24.880
<v Speaker 3>a year, like it was a it was a harm

0:30:24.920 --> 0:30:25.280
<v Speaker 3>no foul.

0:30:25.400 --> 0:30:27.720
<v Speaker 7>I mean, in my opinion.

0:30:27.400 --> 0:30:28.560
<v Speaker 4>In what way no harm, no foul.

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<v Speaker 2>You're saying, like, say goodbye to the friendship.

0:30:31.520 --> 0:30:33.080
<v Speaker 3>But do you need to say goodbye to it? Like

0:30:33.120 --> 0:30:34.920
<v Speaker 3>I feel like if you see someone once or twice

0:30:34.920 --> 0:30:35.240
<v Speaker 3>a year.

0:30:35.920 --> 0:30:38.280
<v Speaker 4>I think she's asking because her husband is very uncomfortable.

0:30:38.720 --> 0:30:40.440
<v Speaker 3>I need more details, like does she hang out with

0:30:40.480 --> 0:30:42.520
<v Speaker 3>this guy wants to like, is it in a big party?

0:30:42.520 --> 0:30:43.800
<v Speaker 6>Do they go get coffee?

0:30:43.840 --> 0:30:46.120
<v Speaker 5>It's she's not saying I don't have feelings for this guy.

0:30:46.160 --> 0:30:48.400
<v Speaker 5>I've never hooked up with this guy. There's nothing there.

0:30:49.280 --> 0:30:51.240
<v Speaker 5>If it was a female, this would not be an issue.

0:30:51.240 --> 0:30:53.440
<v Speaker 5>But her husband's being jealous and controlling this.

0:30:53.640 --> 0:30:55.680
<v Speaker 4>I was gonna say, this feels a little bit like

0:30:55.800 --> 0:30:58.520
<v Speaker 4>the husband has like jealousy.

0:30:58.960 --> 0:31:00.520
<v Speaker 7>She said somebody told her him something.

0:31:00.760 --> 0:31:03.680
<v Speaker 5>Somebody said, hey, your wife was all over this guy.

0:31:03.920 --> 0:31:06.320
<v Speaker 3>See that's not nice, I say, I think there's like

0:31:06.360 --> 0:31:10.440
<v Speaker 3>a few sides like did you give him a reason to.

0:31:10.400 --> 0:31:12.320
<v Speaker 4>Feel that way? Because I feel like if he's never

0:31:12.400 --> 0:31:13.880
<v Speaker 4>had an issue, all of a sudden he doesn't have

0:31:13.960 --> 0:31:15.600
<v Speaker 4>an issue, then something might have changed.

0:31:15.600 --> 0:31:17.160
<v Speaker 3>I've been married for ten years and he was never

0:31:17.200 --> 0:31:19.200
<v Speaker 3>controlling or jealous, and then this happens.

0:31:19.480 --> 0:31:23.560
<v Speaker 4>My suggestion is couple's therapy. Oh oh, I do? I do.

0:31:23.680 --> 0:31:25.480
<v Speaker 2>I think this is an issue that you could bring

0:31:25.520 --> 0:31:28.840
<v Speaker 2>to a professional and say I did not do anything,

0:31:29.360 --> 0:31:32.040
<v Speaker 2>but he doesn't trust me based on something that he heard.

0:31:32.200 --> 0:31:34.440
<v Speaker 2>This has just recently become a problem. This is someone

0:31:34.520 --> 0:31:36.440
<v Speaker 2>I see and talk to once or twice a year.

0:31:36.640 --> 0:31:39.840
<v Speaker 2>We've known each other forever, We've never had any we've

0:31:39.880 --> 0:31:42.120
<v Speaker 2>never crossed the physical boundary of friends.

0:31:42.160 --> 0:31:43.240
<v Speaker 4>Like, there's nothing for him.

0:31:43.160 --> 0:31:45.080
<v Speaker 2>To worry about, but I need to know what I

0:31:45.080 --> 0:31:47.040
<v Speaker 2>can do to make him feel more secure in this

0:31:47.200 --> 0:31:51.000
<v Speaker 2>because or is this a place where I endo friendship

0:31:51.000 --> 0:31:51.520
<v Speaker 2>that I've had?

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<v Speaker 4>I agree, because I also do think that there is

0:31:54.520 --> 0:31:58.600
<v Speaker 4>a lot of value in prioritizing your relationship because like,

0:31:58.640 --> 0:32:00.800
<v Speaker 4>at the end of the day, your husband says, like

0:32:00.800 --> 0:32:03.440
<v Speaker 4>a friend that you see twice a year. But I

0:32:03.480 --> 0:32:05.720
<v Speaker 4>feel like there's a deeper trust issue here.

0:32:06.040 --> 0:32:08.240
<v Speaker 2>But if it was every time she went out and

0:32:08.280 --> 0:32:11.200
<v Speaker 2>he was like, why did you talk to that's unhealthy

0:32:11.200 --> 0:32:14.520
<v Speaker 2>and toxic. This makes me feel like he feels deeply

0:32:14.560 --> 0:32:20.040
<v Speaker 2>insecure about someone and is this a person that's worth

0:32:20.200 --> 0:32:22.120
<v Speaker 2>risking her relationship?

0:32:22.520 --> 0:32:28.200
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, her marriage? Yeah, I would go to you're married you.

0:32:28.560 --> 0:32:30.719
<v Speaker 5>If somebody said that me, boy, your wife's all over

0:32:30.760 --> 0:32:32.320
<v Speaker 5>the sky, I'd be like, okay, like I'm not going

0:32:32.360 --> 0:32:32.760
<v Speaker 5>to buy it.

0:32:32.800 --> 0:32:34.000
<v Speaker 6>I'm not going to believe that.

0:32:34.320 --> 0:32:36.600
<v Speaker 4>Trust your right of course, and it's there's like a

0:32:36.680 --> 0:32:38.880
<v Speaker 4>level of like yeah, but it's also if you don't

0:32:39.040 --> 0:32:41.320
<v Speaker 4>have the exact situation, it's hard to like.

0:32:41.560 --> 0:32:43.560
<v Speaker 2>I would like to think I would be totally true

0:32:43.640 --> 0:32:45.880
<v Speaker 2>because I also think I would it. I think i'd

0:32:45.880 --> 0:32:46.240
<v Speaker 2>be like.

0:32:47.680 --> 0:32:50.200
<v Speaker 3>Was all over someone? Like Yeah, if I heard those words,

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<v Speaker 3>I'd be like, what the hell?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not easy breezy.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I'm not. I'm never super.

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<v Speaker 4>Jealous, but I'm not easy breezy.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, it doesn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Take much to im eazy breezy. Tell him not.

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<v Speaker 7>Yea, That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>So I feel like it's not black or white for

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<v Speaker 3>me in this situation.

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<v Speaker 4>I agree. I will say like I think if my

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<v Speaker 4>partner was fighting me on keeping them in their life,

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<v Speaker 4>it would make me even like the trust issues would

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<v Speaker 4>be even more exaggerated. But so I mean less to

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<v Speaker 4>you than this person twice a year, which is where

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<v Speaker 4>he's probably like, what the hell I'm telling you. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't like this person, I don't like you being there?

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<v Speaker 4>Why not let it go? Like if that were me,

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<v Speaker 4>I take it all back, I would lose my mind.

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<v Speaker 4>I take everything I just out of back and I

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<v Speaker 4>just put myself in her shoes and his shoes.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, and I would lose my mind.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, Mark, this guy controlled.

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<v Speaker 4>But there's truth to that. There is truth to that,

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<v Speaker 4>because you do have to trust who you're with. But

0:33:59.680 --> 0:34:05.040
<v Speaker 4>there's definitely something I think it makes question all on him, correct,

0:34:05.080 --> 0:34:08.880
<v Speaker 4>I'm questioning if the all overness actually happened.

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<v Speaker 6>Him to trust Lily. She says, nothing happened.

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<v Speaker 2>If they've been friends forever and that's just how they interacted,

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<v Speaker 2>and then someone saw it and they're like, hey, bro,

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<v Speaker 2>like your wife was all over this guy, and in

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<v Speaker 2>her mind, she's like, I've been like that with Timmy

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<v Speaker 2>since I was ten.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, right, because different people have different Like when my

0:34:27.800 --> 0:34:29.520
<v Speaker 5>wife and I started dating. It was weird for her

0:34:29.600 --> 0:34:31.320
<v Speaker 5>that because I was I did a lot of improv

0:34:31.360 --> 0:34:33.640
<v Speaker 5>and theater and stuff, and it's a very huggy community.

0:34:33.680 --> 0:34:35.640
<v Speaker 5>Everybody hugs everybody, and that's not where.

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<v Speaker 6>She comes from.

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<v Speaker 5>She's like, that's weird that he's talking all these women.

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<v Speaker 5>Took her a minute to get over that. So maybe

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<v Speaker 5>it's just that's the relationship she has with this guy.

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<v Speaker 6>They hug. I don't know. I still don't like it.

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<v Speaker 5>But let's say you guys. Let's say you guys. She

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<v Speaker 5>duved I sits down with her husband. They talk it out.

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<v Speaker 5>She says, Okay, I love you. I don't want you

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<v Speaker 5>to be insecure. I'm going to let this go with

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<v Speaker 5>this guy. Does she talk to the guy or does

0:34:54.400 --> 0:34:55.280
<v Speaker 5>she just let it fizzle?

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<v Speaker 4>I would let it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I think you talked to therapists and say, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>should I Is it worth? How do I need to

0:35:00.960 --> 0:35:03.680
<v Speaker 2>have a conversation or is it just something that because

0:35:03.719 --> 0:35:05.920
<v Speaker 2>here's the thing. If the guy comes around and he's like.

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<v Speaker 4>What's going on?

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<v Speaker 6>That's weird?

0:35:07.719 --> 0:35:09.200
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's weird. Why are you being weird?

0:35:09.239 --> 0:35:12.520
<v Speaker 2>Why haven't we talked? Then she has I mean in

0:35:12.600 --> 0:35:14.520
<v Speaker 2>my mind of a friendship of twenty years, I'd at

0:35:14.600 --> 0:35:17.040
<v Speaker 2>least want to say, hey, I'm in a place where

0:35:17.160 --> 0:35:19.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't have the capacity to be the friend you

0:35:19.719 --> 0:35:21.680
<v Speaker 2>know to you and it I don't know, how do

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<v Speaker 2>you hate it?

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<v Speaker 4>I just don't think we know enough. Yeah, because I do,

0:35:25.280 --> 0:35:28.440
<v Speaker 4>I don't know if I'm totally trusting that nothing's happened,

0:35:28.440 --> 0:35:29.959
<v Speaker 4>if at all of a sudden.

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<v Speaker 3>Because we're I think also having healthy boundaries is very important.

0:35:32.960 --> 0:35:35.520
<v Speaker 3>I remember in the early like two years of my

0:35:35.560 --> 0:35:38.560
<v Speaker 3>relationship with Robbie, there was a specific woman that was

0:35:38.680 --> 0:35:41.520
<v Speaker 3>laying it on thick with him, and she would just

0:35:41.640 --> 0:35:43.600
<v Speaker 3>lay it on thick trying to get back together with him.

0:35:43.640 --> 0:35:45.759
<v Speaker 3>And this is someone that he would have to communicate with,

0:35:46.320 --> 0:35:49.600
<v Speaker 3>and so I was like, this is a boundary that

0:35:49.719 --> 0:35:52.480
<v Speaker 3>like you cannot cross for me. And so we had

0:35:52.480 --> 0:35:54.960
<v Speaker 3>to like figure out these these boundaries. And he was

0:35:55.040 --> 0:35:56.920
<v Speaker 3>like respectful of that, you know, because it was like

0:35:57.200 --> 0:35:59.839
<v Speaker 3>it wasn't appropriate when you're in a relationship with somebody

0:36:00.000 --> 0:36:01.879
<v Speaker 3>and your partner's uncomfortable, we.

0:36:01.840 --> 0:36:03.520
<v Speaker 6>Don't know that anything inappropriate is happening.

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<v Speaker 4>Though, I think it's a little different, but I agree

0:36:05.239 --> 0:36:07.440
<v Speaker 4>with you. I think boundaries, and I think prioritizing your

0:36:07.440 --> 0:36:08.680
<v Speaker 4>relationship is important.

0:36:09.280 --> 0:36:11.800
<v Speaker 2>But she said, didn't she say that he gets upset

0:36:11.880 --> 0:36:15.640
<v Speaker 2>if his name is brought up. Yeah, it's a trigger like.

0:36:15.960 --> 0:36:20.439
<v Speaker 4>This man like there's something missing here because I don't.

0:36:20.560 --> 0:36:24.080
<v Speaker 4>You don't get triggered unless something happened or maybe it

0:36:24.120 --> 0:36:26.080
<v Speaker 4>wasn't with this guy, but maybe something has happened with

0:36:26.160 --> 0:36:26.560
<v Speaker 4>someone else.

0:36:26.520 --> 0:36:31.600
<v Speaker 2>Okay, here's the other thing, his trust. Regardless of if

0:36:31.600 --> 0:36:33.719
<v Speaker 2>we think it's right or wrong, He's feeling insecure. So

0:36:33.760 --> 0:36:36.160
<v Speaker 2>I think she needs to go, Okay, you're my partner,

0:36:36.200 --> 0:36:38.080
<v Speaker 2>you're my husband. I'm going to make sure that you

0:36:38.120 --> 0:36:41.200
<v Speaker 2>feel safe. What can I do on my end to

0:36:41.239 --> 0:36:43.319
<v Speaker 2>make sure that you feel safe? Which is like if

0:36:43.360 --> 0:36:45.560
<v Speaker 2>they are texting or have a phone call. I do

0:36:45.600 --> 0:36:47.560
<v Speaker 2>think it's respectful to be like, hey, I talked to

0:36:47.600 --> 0:36:48.279
<v Speaker 2>so and so today.

0:36:48.280 --> 0:36:49.080
<v Speaker 4>This is what we talked about.

0:36:49.080 --> 0:36:52.839
<v Speaker 2>Because if he just hears his name, he's automatically he's

0:36:52.880 --> 0:36:55.399
<v Speaker 2>like making up stories in his head, and so he's

0:36:55.440 --> 0:36:57.600
<v Speaker 2>already feeling like I agree with that. So I think

0:36:57.640 --> 0:37:00.400
<v Speaker 2>it's just asking him what can I do to make

0:37:00.440 --> 0:37:01.080
<v Speaker 2>you feel safer?

0:37:01.160 --> 0:37:01.399
<v Speaker 4>Is it?

0:37:01.440 --> 0:37:03.320
<v Speaker 2>Is it not having a friendship with this person?

0:37:03.400 --> 0:37:03.880
<v Speaker 4>Is it.

0:37:03.920 --> 0:37:05.799
<v Speaker 2>Is there something else that I can do that when

0:37:05.840 --> 0:37:07.759
<v Speaker 2>I talk about him, I can reassure you.

0:37:07.800 --> 0:37:11.719
<v Speaker 4>Like what I had to have that conversation. There was

0:37:11.920 --> 0:37:15.080
<v Speaker 4>one X that I don't know why triggered me. I

0:37:15.080 --> 0:37:18.120
<v Speaker 4>don't nothing ever happened. I was just like, I don't

0:37:18.239 --> 0:37:21.879
<v Speaker 4>like you being around them, but I'm not. I don't

0:37:21.880 --> 0:37:24.200
<v Speaker 4>want to be controlling. So I was like, I just

0:37:24.360 --> 0:37:27.239
<v Speaker 4>ask that if you were to run into them, you

0:37:27.280 --> 0:37:29.120
<v Speaker 4>tell me. I don't want to find out the social

0:37:29.200 --> 0:37:32.120
<v Speaker 4>media through Instagram. I don't want to know. A week later,

0:37:32.360 --> 0:37:34.080
<v Speaker 4>I just asked that if they're in the same room

0:37:34.120 --> 0:37:36.600
<v Speaker 4>as you, you let me know. And it did make

0:37:36.600 --> 0:37:39.919
<v Speaker 4>me feel better because I's okay, he's like understanding, but yeah,

0:37:40.120 --> 0:37:41.560
<v Speaker 4>some people just trigger you.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I get it.

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<v Speaker 4>The best.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know I passed on that.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I think we actually gave her some good insight

0:37:51.480 --> 0:37:52.520
<v Speaker 3>that maybe shouldn't think about.

0:37:52.560 --> 0:37:56.240
<v Speaker 4>Okay, that's true, I do good also the self reflection.

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<v Speaker 4>We're done.

0:37:58.680 --> 0:37:59.080
<v Speaker 6>We're done.

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<v Speaker 3>No, Holena, Do you have any parting words for the scrubbers,

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<v Speaker 3>any words of wisdom that you want to partake give.

0:38:06.960 --> 0:38:11.759
<v Speaker 7>Out, share, partake to share advice on what life.

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<v Speaker 6>There happiness, the wedding just a few weeks away.

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<v Speaker 4>Actually this is so random, but I was having a

0:38:22.280 --> 0:38:26.560
<v Speaker 4>conversation with someone recently, and I think, be grateful. I

0:38:26.600 --> 0:38:29.160
<v Speaker 4>think live life with a lot of gratitude. I think

0:38:29.200 --> 0:38:33.160
<v Speaker 4>we're missing a lot of that recently, just in life,

0:38:33.320 --> 0:38:36.719
<v Speaker 4>in the workplace, in your personal life. Walk around with

0:38:36.800 --> 0:38:38.200
<v Speaker 4>a little bit more gratitude.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, Perspective is everything.

0:38:40.480 --> 0:38:44.279
<v Speaker 4>Perspective is everything. So true. I love that. Nothing more

0:38:44.320 --> 0:38:46.560
<v Speaker 4>needs to be said. I love you, guys, No notes,

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<v Speaker 4>no notes? Next up?

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<v Speaker 7>Do you want to come back next week?

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<v Speaker 2>I'll just leap seconds. We'll have you back after the wedding. Yes,

0:38:55.640 --> 0:38:56.959
<v Speaker 2>recap oh.

0:38:56.680 --> 0:38:59.440
<v Speaker 4>Yes, yes, yes, get rid of me?

0:38:59.640 --> 0:39:02.640
<v Speaker 2>No no, no, everyone's say good bye to Paulina. We

0:39:02.680 --> 0:39:03.960
<v Speaker 2>love you, love you.

0:39:04.680 --> 0:39:05.960
<v Speaker 6>Sorry about the game.

0:39:06.400 --> 0:39:08.960
<v Speaker 4>Whatever, I wasn't gonna bring it up. Final scores.

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<v Speaker 6>Thirty four to thirteen.

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<v Speaker 4>Triggers.

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<v Speaker 2>We love you, somebody love you.