1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:04,880 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast. 2 00:00:08,360 --> 00:00:10,879 Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. 3 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:16,760 Speaker 3: Scrub Dub Dub in the tub, Tub Tub. 4 00:00:18,480 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 4: We have our special guest from earlier this week. 5 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 2: She's backing. Maybe Paulina is here. She couldn't stay away. 6 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:32,199 Speaker 2: We didn't let her. I couldn't and we thought this 7 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:35,240 Speaker 2: episode would be like a dear Bonnia slash game. Since 8 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 2: we haven't done a game in a while, Mark, I. 9 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:39,479 Speaker 5: Have said, I think from the very beginning when you 10 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:41,239 Speaker 5: told us what your maids of honor were going to be, 11 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 5: I wanted. 12 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 6: To play who knows Tanya best? 13 00:00:44,280 --> 00:00:44,919 Speaker 4: I'm stressed. 14 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:46,920 Speaker 5: Oh and by the way, the answer to the question 15 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 5: is me because all of your questions save a few 16 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:52,000 Speaker 5: I came up with just from my own memory. So 17 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:54,640 Speaker 5: I win. But we're gonna see which maid of honor 18 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:56,959 Speaker 5: knows you best. Here's how it's gonna work. I try 19 00:00:57,000 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 5: to keep this simple because I've made the mistake in 20 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 5: the past, have overcomplicated these games. I have five categories. 21 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 5: There are five questions in each category. They are in 22 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:08,120 Speaker 5: order of difficulty one through five. You'll get pretty similarly. Yes, 23 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:09,560 Speaker 5: you'll get a point for each one that we're not 24 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 5: doing five hundred, twelve hundreds, one point two point three points, 25 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 5: four points, five points. You cannot lose points, and you're 26 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 5: not gonna buzz in. You're gonna yell the answer. If 27 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 5: you don't, oh, I love, And if you go at 28 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 5: the same time, then the points will carry over to 29 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:27,039 Speaker 5: the next question. If I determine that it's the same time, 30 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:28,839 Speaker 5: that it's a tie, because it could be. All right, 31 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 5: so here we go. This is gonna be fun. We 32 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 5: have a bonus question at the end. It's very good. 33 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 4: Okay, so I have anything about me. I am very 34 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 4: competitive when it comes to games. 35 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 6: I think Beca is too, and that's what I was 36 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 6: hoping for. 37 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 5: Yeah, it's on Beckatilly all right, moving back up a 38 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:44,759 Speaker 5: little bit, just so I can make sure I don't 39 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:46,640 Speaker 5: want her to be louder than you, because that could, 40 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 5: you know, change. Yeah, good, okay, we're good, all right, 41 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 5: all right, here we go here the category. Let me 42 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 5: give you the categories. You're going there's some of them 43 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 5: you will have to write things down. 44 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 4: For oh, but not right now, now, right now, and 45 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 4: you let us know. 46 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 5: Here are the categories I will categories are family radio, love, life, favorites, 47 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 5: and childhood. Tanya, you may choose the first category. 48 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:11,680 Speaker 7: Let's go radio. 49 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 6: Gonna go with the radio, all right, Here we go. 50 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 5: For one point, Tanya's first radio job was in this city, Phoenix, Arizona. 51 00:02:23,240 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 5: Tucson is the correct answer. Arizona is a state. I 52 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 5: said city. 53 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 6: That is a point. 54 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 5: Rebecca hing up through my cities. For two points, what 55 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 5: are the reports called that Tanya does every day on 56 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 5: the Kiss Morning Show. 57 00:02:40,639 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 8: She has to send her h every day she has 58 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 8: to send her answering reports. 59 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 2: Let me tell you, I help her out sometimes. 60 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 9: All right. 61 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 5: Next, every morning Tanya starts her day by singing a 62 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:01,840 Speaker 5: rendition of this her theme song when she enters the 63 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 5: Kiss studio. 64 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 6: Correct, Bejeweled. 65 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:07,400 Speaker 5: Every single day sings Bejeweled. 66 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 6: That shoe walks in the room, the light switch thing 67 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 6: that's included, that's a big part of it. 68 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:14,640 Speaker 5: For four points, Tanya got a job at Kiss after 69 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 5: sending this object in the mail to then promotions director 70 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 5: Tim Martinez. 71 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:20,800 Speaker 6: Shoes. Shoes is correct? 72 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 5: A shoe. 73 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 6: I will accept shoes very nice. 74 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 4: Put your foot in the door the door. 75 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:26,480 Speaker 2: Yeah. 76 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:28,640 Speaker 6: And the five point radio question. Here we go. 77 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 5: A former boss of Tanya's once diminished her by saying 78 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 5: she was nothing more than this a. 79 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 2: Pretty pretty face. 80 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 8: Nope, too happy, but a blonde blind. 81 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 4: She was she was simply had nothing more than. 82 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 5: Blank, nothing more than yeah blank, yes, nothing, nothing more 83 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 5: than a voice, Nope. 84 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 2: Nothing more than a girl college. 85 00:03:58,360 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 7: I don't think they're going to get it. 86 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 6: I don't think said there. I think hint. 87 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 5: Uh sure, Homer Simpson is one of these. 88 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:14,160 Speaker 2: Cartoon nothing but a cartoon character. 89 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:20,280 Speaker 6: Cartoon character. I gotta go back down. I got very. 90 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 2: Close because you did, but I came out with character. 91 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 4: I don't like this game. 92 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 5: All right, Well on one category down, it's back in 93 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:30,919 Speaker 5: nine Paula six so far and I'll. 94 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:32,839 Speaker 6: Just do that. Not so bad. Plenty of time to. 95 00:04:32,839 --> 00:04:35,680 Speaker 5: Come back next category. Because you took that category, you 96 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 5: can choose the next category. We have family love life 97 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:42,240 Speaker 5: favorites and childhood love life love life. 98 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 6: It is. 99 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:45,040 Speaker 4: This is not going to be fair because you never 100 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:45,920 Speaker 4: mind go ahead. 101 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:48,600 Speaker 5: From one point, okay. In twenty twelve, Tanya made out 102 00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 5: with this CW actor at the IHET Radio Music Festival. 103 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:52,600 Speaker 4: Oh what's his name? 104 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 2: In something call in? 105 00:04:56,520 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 6: We interviewed him recently. 106 00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:03,600 Speaker 2: What's the last name start with any hint, Colin. 107 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:05,839 Speaker 6: I think you should get Callin okayay, I think Paul. 108 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 4: I didn't get Arizonia. 109 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 5: That's not a city, all right, one, Rebecca one point 110 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 5: for Colin Donald was the. 111 00:05:13,279 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 4: Man Donald I would have never gotten. I would have 112 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 4: gotten the last name. 113 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:19,039 Speaker 5: For two points. In twenty seventeen, Tany went down a 114 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:21,119 Speaker 5: date with a guy she met at this grocery store. 115 00:05:24,240 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 5: I'll go tie on that one. I'll go tie on 116 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:28,159 Speaker 5: that one. That means the two points. That means the 117 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 5: two points rolls over to the next one. So this 118 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 5: is worth five points. Number three. In twenty eighteen, Tanya 119 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,919 Speaker 5: had designs on this former NFL quarterback and even started 120 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 5: texting j Allen. He ended up engaged to someone else. 121 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:44,839 Speaker 5: In twenty nineteen, Jered golf, this is now a five 122 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:45,479 Speaker 5: point question. 123 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 4: I know I know the story, Jered, that's not the 124 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 4: correct answer. I don't know the name. Yes, I don't 125 00:05:56,960 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 4: know the name. 126 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:01,159 Speaker 5: His first and last to start with the same initial, 127 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 5: but that as the final clue I will give. 128 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 4: I also don't know sports. So can you guess initial starts. 129 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:09,279 Speaker 7: The song about him? 130 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 6: Yes? 131 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 7: One that got. 132 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 6: Away all right time was I don't know Tim Tebow 133 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 6: was the name. 134 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:26,720 Speaker 5: Now those points now rolled over again, so that's now 135 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 5: a nine point questions. In twenty thirteen, Tany went on 136 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:34,360 Speaker 5: a date, which you can watch on YouTube, with an 137 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 5: Olympic athlete. In what event did he compete? 138 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:38,680 Speaker 4: Michael Phelps? Swimming? 139 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 6: I don't even try, Yes you do, huh nope? 140 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:45,760 Speaker 2: Oh, swimming, nope, gymnastics. 141 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 5: In what winter Olympic events? Snowboarding is the correct answer. 142 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 5: And you don't remember that guy? Don't you remember him? 143 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:58,360 Speaker 5: But I don't remember his name or his Olympic name. 144 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 4: But not even you know is the answer. 145 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 5: Well, see that's why I win, all right, number five, 146 00:07:04,520 --> 00:07:07,599 Speaker 5: five point question, final question in Love Life. In twenty eighteen, 147 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:12,040 Speaker 5: Tany and Ryan Seacrest concocted a plan that technical difficulties 148 00:07:12,080 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 5: would require that you share a microphone with this in 149 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 5: studio guests. Correct answer, and that's a clean sweep on 150 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 5: that category fifteen. 151 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 4: I said, it's gonna be unfair because they have a podcast. 152 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:28,440 Speaker 6: Well you can catch up still Becca. 153 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: Family favorites or childhood. I'm gonna go family, all right, 154 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: Family it is. Paulina is the upper hand here, but 155 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:39,320 Speaker 1: I don't. 156 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:41,440 Speaker 6: Maybe she will, I hope so it'd be good to 157 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 6: make it a game. Here we go. 158 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 5: So far it's not going great, but you've got plenty 159 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 5: of time to come back. 160 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 4: You know I love a comebackstraight. 161 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 6: That's right? Yeah? 162 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 5: For one point, Tany's parents spend multiple months every year 163 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 5: in Serbia. 164 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 4: Yes, hold on a second, hold on, you need to 165 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 4: finish the question. Waiting for you to finish the question. 166 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 6: I don't need to. If you know what you should 167 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 6: blurt it. Well, okay, I'm sorry, blurt away. 168 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 4: Okay, I'm gonna blurt. Now, finish the question, all right? 169 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 5: For two points? What is Tanya's father's first name? Okay, 170 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 5: there we go. 171 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 6: Who she comes? 172 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 9: For? 173 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 6: Three points? 174 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 5: How many nieces and nephews does Tanya Havert. 175 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 4: Marco has one kids? 176 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:28,840 Speaker 6: Four points? 177 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 5: How did Tanya's mother get to college in Long Beach 178 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 5: since she didn't have a car at the time? 179 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 4: Bus? 180 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:36,319 Speaker 2: Walking, biking? 181 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 6: Biking is correct? 182 00:08:40,040 --> 00:08:41,559 Speaker 4: Did you guess that? You guessed that? 183 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 5: All right, write this down? Get ready to write this down. 184 00:08:44,280 --> 00:08:46,480 Speaker 5: There's the five point questions. You can each get five points. 185 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 5: No blurting on this one. Write it down. Spell Tanya's 186 00:08:50,440 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 5: complete last name. My god, I will not accept rad 187 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 5: I need the entire name spelled correctly, you will each 188 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 5: potentially get five point if you can do it. 189 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 4: There's this is so wrong. I can't even explain that 190 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 4: to you. 191 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:10,600 Speaker 5: I love that we're playing who knows there veft and 192 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 5: last name is the sticking point. 193 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 2: I don't have a single I might have the three first, right, 194 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:15,679 Speaker 2: all right? 195 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:17,440 Speaker 4: I think I have the first five. 196 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:19,240 Speaker 5: Well, I don't know that we'll give any points, but 197 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:21,080 Speaker 5: let's have Paulina go first. 198 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:23,800 Speaker 6: Go ahead, what can you read it? Off? Please? 199 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:26,720 Speaker 7: R A D I S A v I O. 200 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 5: V J. 201 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:33,360 Speaker 6: Strong and then fell apart. 202 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 4: R A d I Z A B I B I see. 203 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 4: I knew there was a. 204 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:44,480 Speaker 9: J. 205 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 6: Can you say it? 206 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:50,400 Speaker 3: Some people are a say you say by Savia Beach 207 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 3: and you spell it R A D I S. 208 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 6: A V l J E v I C l JP. 209 00:09:58,080 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 4: I have the first nine, right? Wait? 210 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:01,239 Speaker 2: What the last three letters? 211 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:02,439 Speaker 6: E V I C. 212 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:05,200 Speaker 4: I knew there was a J and. 213 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 2: She did not do a good job on that one. 214 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 6: All right, Well the score is currently. 215 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 4: No I don't know. 216 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 5: Okay, great, we have two more categories. 217 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:17,200 Speaker 6: Becca, you may choose it is what do we have? 218 00:10:17,520 --> 00:10:21,080 Speaker 5: We have child because she won that category childhood and favorites. 219 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 6: That's all we have left. 220 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 4: Let's do childhood, all right. 221 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 6: For one point, Tanya started a fan club in high 222 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 6: school called the Musical. 223 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:30,439 Speaker 2: John Mayor and Shakira Synergy Club. 224 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 6: John Mayer and Shakira is The. 225 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 5: Musical Synergy Club was dedicated to which two musicians, John 226 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:38,320 Speaker 5: Mayer and Shakira. 227 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 6: Very good. 228 00:10:39,920 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 5: For two points, Tanya's first kiss was with a boy 229 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 5: who had this significant first name. 230 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:51,079 Speaker 2: The heck he had this significant first name Taylor. 231 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 6: No, but that's a good guess. That's a good guess. Also, 232 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:56,680 Speaker 6: that is correct, very good. 233 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 2: Life only two. 234 00:11:04,520 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 6: No other students named Fronco. I don't think no. 235 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:06,760 Speaker 2: No. 236 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 5: In eighth grade, Tanya got in trouble at school for 237 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:09,800 Speaker 5: doing this. 238 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:13,680 Speaker 6: Throw not happy. 239 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 2: You got in trouble for throwing apples at people's heads. 240 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 7: No, they would throw apples at my head. 241 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 4: Wait, what did you do in high school in eighth grade? 242 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 2: Eighth grade, you probably got in trouble for did you 243 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:29,200 Speaker 2: kiss someone in school? 244 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 4: Cheating? 245 00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:32,560 Speaker 6: Cheating is the correct thing. 246 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 5: Let me tell you. 247 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:38,360 Speaker 2: I don't think the guessing shook, but my guesses have 248 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 2: just been what after the next? 249 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 4: All right? 250 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 5: Number four four points. When Tanya was in high school. 251 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:47,319 Speaker 5: She pulled her pants down in front of her mom, 252 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 5: her older sister, and her sister's boyfriend to show them 253 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:52,880 Speaker 5: what assist or like. 254 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 8: Angered hair, no puberty, no hair on her bruise. 255 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 5: She was concerned it was a possible U t I, 256 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 5: but she wasn't sure. She was saying, what do you 257 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 5: guys think is this? Could this be a I don't know, 258 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 5: could this be. 259 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:18,319 Speaker 4: It's not. 260 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 5: There's only so many things down there. Yeah, they've got 261 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 5: to think bigger than a pimple. 262 00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 4: It's not assist. 263 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 6: It's not assist. It's not it might have been assessed. Yeah, 264 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:36,080 Speaker 6: it's not the word I'm looking for. She thought it 265 00:12:36,160 --> 00:12:40,559 Speaker 6: was you know, you t I. 266 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:42,640 Speaker 4: It's not. 267 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 7: They're not going to get it, all right. 268 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 5: She thought it was a hemorrhoid. 269 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 7: We just told me this story two days ago. 270 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:57,439 Speaker 6: All right, This one's a tough one. I don't know 271 00:12:57,440 --> 00:12:58,080 Speaker 6: if they'll get this. 272 00:12:58,640 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 4: The other ones haven't been. 273 00:13:01,400 --> 00:13:04,480 Speaker 5: For five points. Tanya's favorite teacher at Los Alamedo's High. 274 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:06,199 Speaker 6: School the hell. 275 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:11,119 Speaker 4: Music teacher. Mister is it mister. 276 00:13:12,360 --> 00:13:20,400 Speaker 2: Rodriguez, Mister Robert Close, mister mister Rogers. 277 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 5: Mister I actually mentioned this name earlier in the quiz 278 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:28,160 Speaker 5: because the Kiss promotions director had the same last name 279 00:13:28,679 --> 00:13:34,480 Speaker 5: that she sent the shoe to. Mister, I'm gonave you 280 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 5: one more clue starts with an m mister Martinez favorite 281 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 5: in high school. 282 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:54,240 Speaker 6: Shout out. All right, here we go, final round. 283 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:57,880 Speaker 5: It's favorites, and we'll start with a one point question. 284 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:00,839 Speaker 4: You know, it is not. 285 00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 2: About the points, Paulina, it is it really is you 286 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 2: have us having fun? 287 00:14:05,080 --> 00:14:08,800 Speaker 6: You have ten points? Ten points is a nice round number. 288 00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 4: That nine pointer really killed me anyway. 289 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:11,840 Speaker 6: That was tough. 290 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 5: All right, get ready to blurt what is Tanya's favorite 291 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:17,319 Speaker 5: TV show of all time? 292 00:14:18,280 --> 00:14:19,120 Speaker 6: Friends? Is correct? 293 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,160 Speaker 4: Your podcast is called Spread. 294 00:14:23,920 --> 00:14:25,040 Speaker 7: Amongst Friends? 295 00:14:28,760 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 6: What is Tanya's favorite Taylor Swift song? And Paulina, you 296 00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:33,680 Speaker 6: gotta be faster. 297 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:39,000 Speaker 4: Honestly, I don't know Taylor Swift, so I wasn't sure 298 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 4: if it was like what I do tell me to 299 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:43,760 Speaker 4: memorize this weekend. He's just not that, is it. 300 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:47,080 Speaker 5: You talked about it on Monday about how I. 301 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:48,640 Speaker 4: Thought it was a ten minute and I don't know 302 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:49,240 Speaker 4: the name of that. 303 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:52,680 Speaker 5: Well, yeah, what is Tinya's favorite movie of all time? 304 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 4: He's just not that into there. 305 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:55,520 Speaker 6: You go, very nice, nice? 306 00:14:57,520 --> 00:14:59,800 Speaker 5: What is Tanya's favorite way to have her eggs prepared 307 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 5: sunny side up. Scrambled, correct me, no, scrambled. You both scrambled. 308 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 5: Did you know I did exactly the same time? 309 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 6: So you both think that? 310 00:15:14,600 --> 00:15:17,880 Speaker 5: Then apparently it was a tie nine point Final question, 311 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:22,440 Speaker 5: that's a tough one. What is Tiny's favorite alcoholic beverage? 312 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:24,119 Speaker 2: Killing the rocks? 313 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 4: I like to Martini, like. 314 00:15:25,800 --> 00:15:31,800 Speaker 6: Tortini, Martini. We have a winner just named it. 315 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 4: I'm blaming my lock of sleep on this. My brain 316 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 4: slightly delayed. 317 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:39,320 Speaker 7: No, some of them are very hard, but like the 318 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:40,360 Speaker 7: Leechi Martini. 319 00:15:40,680 --> 00:15:44,120 Speaker 3: Okay, but let me drink on Friday night a Leachi 320 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:46,360 Speaker 3: Martinis vs. 321 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:48,400 Speaker 7: Significant Martini. 322 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 4: To be honest with you, you never drink them, so 323 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:55,520 Speaker 4: I wasn't sure if that was actually your favorite. 324 00:15:55,680 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 3: Oh so the only reason I don't drink them is because, No, 325 00:15:58,960 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 3: A lot of restaurants don't make them delicious. 326 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:04,760 Speaker 5: They make yeah Jim Martinez the original answer. 327 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:06,880 Speaker 6: She changed it this morning. 328 00:16:07,160 --> 00:16:09,560 Speaker 7: Martini with two olives, two onions and a twist. 329 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:13,240 Speaker 4: All of Yadigar special. Yeah, it's special, I said, all 330 00:16:13,280 --> 00:16:17,800 Speaker 4: of Yadigar. I was like, who's all of Yadagar? I 331 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 4: don't know didn't meet her this week. 332 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:22,760 Speaker 6: Now, shall we take a break and come back with Yeah. 333 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 2: Let's let's come back with the score and some. 334 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 9: Dear All right, we are back. 335 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:48,920 Speaker 2: We have a few Dear Bonnier questions and we thought 336 00:16:48,920 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 2: it would be fun to have Paulina in giving advice. 337 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:53,000 Speaker 2: I don't know if you know this, but every week, 338 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:55,400 Speaker 2: or almost every week, we do a Dear Bonnie episode 339 00:16:55,400 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 2: where people write in. We give advice, sometimes great advice, 340 00:16:59,560 --> 00:17:01,080 Speaker 2: sometimes questionable. 341 00:17:01,120 --> 00:17:03,080 Speaker 4: Hopefully they go do. 342 00:17:03,240 --> 00:17:07,080 Speaker 2: Go elsewhere, to go go elsewhere to source advice. But 343 00:17:08,359 --> 00:17:10,280 Speaker 2: you'll idle, you'll add something new. 344 00:17:10,600 --> 00:17:12,159 Speaker 7: A new perspective, new perspective. 345 00:17:12,320 --> 00:17:15,720 Speaker 5: Let's do it all right this one, Becca, Tanya Becka. 346 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 5: I've been a fan of yours since your first season 347 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:20,560 Speaker 5: of The Bachelor. We were in the same sorority, different schools. 348 00:17:20,600 --> 00:17:22,560 Speaker 5: We all rooted for you because of that and how 349 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 5: genuine you were, that nice Tanya. I love a full 350 00:17:25,840 --> 00:17:27,200 Speaker 5: of life you are, and you bring such warmth and 351 00:17:27,320 --> 00:17:29,240 Speaker 5: energy to the podcast. It's so fun listening to you 352 00:17:29,240 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 5: and learning about your experiences with love and life. I 353 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:34,280 Speaker 5: will say, Tanya. Doing the half marathon at Disney, I 354 00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:36,800 Speaker 5: ran by you and pointed Tanya, I'm such a huge fan, 355 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 5: and then just kept running. I'm hoping I didn't scare 356 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:42,080 Speaker 5: you too much, not at all. My question, would you 357 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:44,920 Speaker 5: ever run a half or full marathon? If so, which one? 358 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:47,400 Speaker 5: Thanks for all you do, love Ariel. If you're ever 359 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:50,400 Speaker 5: in the Boston area, I teach a cycling studio part time. 360 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:51,840 Speaker 5: Would love to have you in my class. 361 00:17:51,920 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 7: Wow, thank you, I love Boston. Shout out's great. Yeah. 362 00:17:56,080 --> 00:17:59,920 Speaker 2: If I ever got the that's the that's the location, 363 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:02,960 Speaker 2: shouldn't have Flintania Pete and the hydroflask in the car? 364 00:18:03,119 --> 00:18:05,240 Speaker 6: Oh my gosh on one. 365 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 2: Of the highways or freeways and lustily. 366 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 3: I did no because if we literally walked onto the plane, 367 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:14,639 Speaker 3: had we pulled over for me to go to the bathroom, 368 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:15,520 Speaker 3: would have missed our flight. 369 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:18,080 Speaker 2: I said, you got to find the hydro you gotta. 370 00:18:17,840 --> 00:18:20,920 Speaker 7: Do the hydroflask. Yeah, And I was like, well, spect, 371 00:18:21,080 --> 00:18:21,440 Speaker 7: this is. 372 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:24,480 Speaker 2: An interesting question having here because you literally just did 373 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:25,159 Speaker 2: the half marathon. 374 00:18:25,240 --> 00:18:27,199 Speaker 4: Sure did. Let me tell you guys, I am not 375 00:18:27,280 --> 00:18:31,040 Speaker 4: a runner. I'm really not, but I have a newfound 376 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:33,919 Speaker 4: love for running. I have. I've told you this before. 377 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:39,000 Speaker 4: Anyone can run after doing a half marathon, anyone can run, 378 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:41,800 Speaker 4: and I think I'm trying to get you to do 379 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:44,160 Speaker 4: it with me and you and Robbie. I already signed 380 00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:48,160 Speaker 4: up for another one in September. It's so fun. 381 00:18:48,280 --> 00:18:51,400 Speaker 2: What made you, as someone who's not a runner? What 382 00:18:51,480 --> 00:18:54,400 Speaker 2: made you want to do that? Because I there's no 383 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:58,680 Speaker 2: single ounce of my soul that wants. 384 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:02,520 Speaker 4: To do that. I I have this. I've always had 385 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:05,600 Speaker 4: like a weird inkling of like wanting to be a runner, 386 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:09,159 Speaker 4: but every time I did it, I hated my life 387 00:19:09,240 --> 00:19:11,600 Speaker 4: and I thought it was a joke. Honestly, I told 388 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:13,879 Speaker 4: a coworker joking, like we do have marathon and we 389 00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:16,159 Speaker 4: were like sure, And then I had two and a 390 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 4: half months to train. I think one I had like 391 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:21,639 Speaker 4: this goal in mind that like if I don't like 392 00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:24,600 Speaker 4: not being good at things, so when I have, I 393 00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:26,960 Speaker 4: had to do it in order to achieve this thing 394 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:30,200 Speaker 4: that I signed up for unpaid for. But in the process, 395 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:33,439 Speaker 4: I like found like a total love for running. 396 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 2: How many miles before you realize you loved it? 397 00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 4: Like how the first day, like my first run, I 398 00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:44,760 Speaker 4: did two miles around like my neighborhood and I got 399 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:48,560 Speaker 4: back and I was like, this is so fun and 400 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:50,960 Speaker 4: By the way, I'm just as shocked as anyone else 401 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:53,959 Speaker 4: because I don't even like walking down the block. Like 402 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:56,359 Speaker 4: my sister can't fathom that I did this because in 403 00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:59,680 Speaker 4: New York, I'm like, where's the uber? Like I don't, 404 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:00,680 Speaker 4: I don't do cardio. 405 00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:03,960 Speaker 2: I'm shocked you haven't had interest in it, because you 406 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 2: know you would do long runs for a long time. 407 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:10,679 Speaker 7: Yeah, I've ran nine miles. I have no desire. 408 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:17,280 Speaker 3: To be around hundreds of people sweaty running around. 409 00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:17,800 Speaker 6: But you're not. 410 00:20:17,880 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 4: You're not close enough to feel. 411 00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 3: Anyone running these miles waking up at five am on 412 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:24,679 Speaker 3: a Sunday like none of it, yeah, three thirty, Like, 413 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:26,960 Speaker 3: none of it to me is something that I want 414 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:28,480 Speaker 3: to do. If I want to run, I'm going to 415 00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:31,360 Speaker 3: go on a run around my house. Yeah, Like there, 416 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 3: I just there's nothing in me that wants to do that. 417 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:37,160 Speaker 4: See I'm the opposite. I haven't ran since because now 418 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:38,720 Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, well, I don't have this thing that 419 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:44,400 Speaker 4: I have to do. Yeah, I think you should do it. 420 00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:47,240 Speaker 4: It's like a weird like sense of accomplishment that I 421 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:50,680 Speaker 4: didn't expect because any most things like do you rather. 422 00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:52,760 Speaker 3: Be my black belt in jiu jitsu than like run 423 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:56,800 Speaker 3: a marathon. I think, do that well, I don't know. 424 00:20:56,960 --> 00:21:00,640 Speaker 4: I feel like you can. You're a natural. Very few 425 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:03,720 Speaker 4: people can run nine miles for fun, and you were 426 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:04,480 Speaker 4: doing that. I wasn't. 427 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:05,919 Speaker 3: I wouldn't say I was doing it for fun. I 428 00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:07,440 Speaker 3: was like super depressed, sad. 429 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:10,800 Speaker 4: Actually, I was like, yes, but I'm saying like, very 430 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:14,120 Speaker 4: few people can actually hit nine miles. 431 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:17,520 Speaker 2: With that's been really sad and I've never ran the same. 432 00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:19,280 Speaker 2: The last thing I felt to do. 433 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:21,160 Speaker 4: In the middle of a breakup, I'm like, I want 434 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:23,199 Speaker 4: nothing to do with exercise for me. 435 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:27,080 Speaker 3: I feel like running was like therapeutic. Yeah, Like I 436 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 3: remember when Robin and I broke up. That was all 437 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:30,919 Speaker 3: I did was I would just like run every day, 438 00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:32,480 Speaker 3: And before I knew it was like nine miles. 439 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:33,600 Speaker 7: I was like, oh, dang, I. 440 00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 4: Think that's so impressive. Anyway, I really I'm trying to 441 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:37,919 Speaker 4: convince and Robbie to do it with you. 442 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,359 Speaker 2: I think if that if you can hit nine miles 443 00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:41,040 Speaker 2: and you can go. 444 00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:44,160 Speaker 4: A lot of people by the way train up until 445 00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:46,399 Speaker 4: nine and then do the full thing the day of 446 00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:50,320 Speaker 4: so you can, you aren't working right, You're just not 447 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:52,920 Speaker 4: They're just people do it by themselves. 448 00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 2: They just kind of go, well, I can't wait to 449 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,360 Speaker 2: hear about that when you do it? 450 00:21:57,560 --> 00:22:00,320 Speaker 9: Yeah yeah, no, oh. 451 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:04,159 Speaker 5: No, not yeah, okay, sorry, you know I'm Tanya and 452 00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:06,160 Speaker 5: hard maybe from Becca righty? 453 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:06,720 Speaker 4: Yes for me? 454 00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:13,800 Speaker 5: Anonymous, Hi Becka, Tanya, Mark, and Paulina. I've been listening 455 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:15,359 Speaker 5: to the pod for a year or so now, and 456 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:17,360 Speaker 5: I've been catching up on episodes I missed as well, 457 00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 5: and y'all bring so much joy and laughter to my workdays. 458 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:22,000 Speaker 5: My friends and I just went on a Gallentine's Day 459 00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:24,639 Speaker 5: weekend trip. We're screaming Tailorwhift in the car while driving 460 00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:26,560 Speaker 5: through National Parks and made me think of you guys 461 00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:27,840 Speaker 5: and appreciate you sharing. 462 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:29,200 Speaker 6: All your girlhood stories. 463 00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:32,000 Speaker 5: Long story short, I'm living in Utah for a few 464 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:33,920 Speaker 5: months with my best friend who's out here for clinical 465 00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,119 Speaker 5: for grad school. I work remote, so I decided to 466 00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 5: join her. I'm from Minnesota. Don't worry, Mark, I'm a 467 00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:39,240 Speaker 5: huge Packer fan. 468 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:39,960 Speaker 6: Thank you. 469 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:40,800 Speaker 9: So. 470 00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,080 Speaker 5: I love getting this opportunity to live somewhere cool with 471 00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:46,720 Speaker 5: so many outdoor options. I can't imagine moving back to 472 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:49,679 Speaker 5: my suburban Midwest town in a few weeks. I love it. 473 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:52,160 Speaker 5: Here in Utah, but I would also consider somewhere else 474 00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:54,360 Speaker 5: with similar things to do. I'm in my mid twenties. 475 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:56,320 Speaker 5: I don't have anything tying me down. I rent, I'm 476 00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:58,399 Speaker 5: not in a relationship, but I do think it'd be 477 00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 5: hard to move so far away from my family friends. 478 00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:03,119 Speaker 5: A lot of people where I'm from stay close to 479 00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:04,800 Speaker 5: home or at least a few hours away for their 480 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 5: whole lives, so it's not really typical with my friends 481 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:09,160 Speaker 5: and family to be so far away. It's also different 482 00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:10,879 Speaker 5: right now because I'm my best friend here and i'd 483 00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:14,200 Speaker 5: be moving by myself instead. Mark and Becca, I know 484 00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,000 Speaker 5: you both moved far away from home but a somewhat 485 00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:17,760 Speaker 5: similar age. Do you have any advice on how you 486 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:20,160 Speaker 5: came to those decisions? And once you did move away, 487 00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 5: how hard was it to start over in a new 488 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:22,840 Speaker 5: place without friends and family? 489 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:23,680 Speaker 6: Any advice? 490 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:26,840 Speaker 4: M I actually worked. 491 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:29,160 Speaker 2: I mean I moved with my sister and my brother 492 00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:32,320 Speaker 2: in law, so I had I did have family. I 493 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:36,240 Speaker 2: was nineteen when I moved, and I think it's hard. 494 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:39,239 Speaker 2: I mean, anything new is hard, in my opinion, like 495 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,760 Speaker 2: there's always an adjustment period, but I think having family 496 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,199 Speaker 2: with me made the adjustment so much easier. 497 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 4: I'm sure do you fill out too. I had the 498 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:50,160 Speaker 4: same experience. I'm from Miami and I moved to LA 499 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:54,240 Speaker 4: when I was nineteen as well. Wow yeah, so oh 500 00:23:54,240 --> 00:24:03,560 Speaker 4: my gosh, eleven, ten years ago. But my sister, yeah yeah, 501 00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:07,280 Speaker 4: but my sister already lived in LA, so it made 502 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:11,679 Speaker 4: the whole thing so much easier. I now, I've like 503 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,640 Speaker 4: jokingly told you that I'm moving to New York and 504 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:18,920 Speaker 4: I can't imagine moving somewhere alone, but I will say, 505 00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:22,080 Speaker 4: and it's kind of perfect that we're here. But like 506 00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 4: I think the minute I met Tanya, everything kind of 507 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 4: clicked for me in LA. I think I always had 508 00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 4: my sister, but then it takes a second. But then 509 00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:35,400 Speaker 4: once you find your people, everything gets easier. And I 510 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,760 Speaker 4: we've cried all weekend about it, but like we're chosen family, 511 00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:42,119 Speaker 4: and I do think that it's uncomfortable, it's not easy, 512 00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:45,000 Speaker 4: but then like you find your footing, yeah, I mean, 513 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:45,960 Speaker 4: I miss I have. 514 00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:48,600 Speaker 2: I sometimes go through the feeling of having guilt living 515 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:50,800 Speaker 2: so far away from my parents, knowing that they're getting 516 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:54,120 Speaker 2: older and like my nieces and nephews and not being 517 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 2: there for that, and that's I think something that you're 518 00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,080 Speaker 2: always going to wrestle with if you have a healthy, 519 00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:02,119 Speaker 2: good relationship with family or even friends that live far away. 520 00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,480 Speaker 2: But I think that's the joy of getting to go 521 00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:05,960 Speaker 2: visit on the holidays like you do. 522 00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 9: Mark. 523 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:09,520 Speaker 5: I was twenty six when I moved out, but I 524 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:11,320 Speaker 5: had friends here and that helped a lot. I think 525 00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,600 Speaker 5: they'd be tough to not have friends someplace. But also, 526 00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 5: but what it came down to for me was am 527 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,680 Speaker 5: I going to regret staying or am I going to 528 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,919 Speaker 5: regret going? And I decided that I would regret not 529 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,240 Speaker 5: coming out here and giving it a shot. And I 530 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,560 Speaker 5: came out here with big dreams. I achieved none of them, 531 00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,080 Speaker 5: but things have worked out great. I've still got a 532 00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:32,639 Speaker 5: great life out here, and I'm really happy that I 533 00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:35,320 Speaker 5: moved out here. So I think you gotta try it, 534 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 5: don't you. I think that's great. 535 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:37,920 Speaker 6: Well, your twenties is four or four. 536 00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,680 Speaker 4: My mom is every time I'm making like a really 537 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 4: difficult decision, She's like, you can always go back, yeah, yeah, 538 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:47,960 Speaker 4: like worst case scenario, you move back. You can always 539 00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:49,920 Speaker 4: like you know, get a new job, like things can 540 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 4: always be different. So I think, just try, yeah, just 541 00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:56,880 Speaker 4: do it, and if you also give it a second, 542 00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:59,320 Speaker 4: because when I first moved here, I was like, what 543 00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:02,919 Speaker 4: the hell did I do? Because I loved my family, 544 00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:05,880 Speaker 4: I love being home. I'm such a homebody. But like 545 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:09,160 Speaker 4: three months in I was like, Okay, I like it here, 546 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:13,120 Speaker 4: I have good people around me. I'll stay, so give 547 00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:15,200 Speaker 4: it a second. But I think, do it? 548 00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:16,000 Speaker 9: Yeah? 549 00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:16,600 Speaker 6: Why not? 550 00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 4: Yeah? I agree. 551 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,080 Speaker 2: I think I always had the mentality, specifically when I 552 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:24,159 Speaker 2: moved from San Diego to La, which I know is 553 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:27,360 Speaker 2: like a much smaller move, but I was very comfortable 554 00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:29,720 Speaker 2: in San Diego and I was very scared to move 555 00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 2: to LA in the sense of it was this like new, 556 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:34,840 Speaker 2: big place and there's so much going on. And I 557 00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:38,760 Speaker 2: remember my boss said to me, like san Diego is 558 00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:40,959 Speaker 2: still going to be here, Like you can always come 559 00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:43,480 Speaker 2: back to San Diego, but maybe La is where you 560 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 2: need to be right now. And I always kept that 561 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,200 Speaker 2: in my mind of like, your family and the place 562 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:49,920 Speaker 2: that you come from is still going to be there, 563 00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:52,360 Speaker 2: so why not go see and do something that you're 564 00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:55,840 Speaker 2: craving to do rather than staying somewhere where you feel 565 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:57,840 Speaker 2: stagnant and never knowing anything different. 566 00:26:57,920 --> 00:26:59,879 Speaker 4: I think there's a lot of beauty in that, so I. 567 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:00,880 Speaker 7: Never moved far. 568 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:02,600 Speaker 3: Like I grew up in Orange County, so it's like 569 00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,480 Speaker 3: an hour and a half away from where I live now. 570 00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:07,200 Speaker 3: But I feel like I moved to a totally different universe, 571 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:12,040 Speaker 3: like completely. It's different for me though, because my family 572 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,840 Speaker 3: is so like a drive so it's different. 573 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:19,520 Speaker 7: But I could not imagine living in the city that 574 00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:20,159 Speaker 7: I grew up in. 575 00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:23,520 Speaker 4: I don't. Yeah, I'm from Miami. Like Miami is like 576 00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:28,000 Speaker 4: so fun and like really popping right now. But yeah, 577 00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:30,720 Speaker 4: whenever I go, I'm like, oh, Ela is my home. Yeah, 578 00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 4: never saying ever, And I think I more think about it, 579 00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,240 Speaker 4: like when I have kids. Yeah, Like I can't imagine 580 00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 4: not having my mom close by. 581 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:40,840 Speaker 7: That's why we got to get her to move out. 582 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:42,280 Speaker 4: Here one day day. 583 00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,480 Speaker 6: I always think it's good to see the world I do. 584 00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:48,880 Speaker 5: It just exposed you to more people, more things, more wonderful. 585 00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:50,960 Speaker 5: My father in law, hooy I left dearly, has spent 586 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:53,919 Speaker 5: his entire life in a one block area, Like you 587 00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:55,720 Speaker 5: can walk from what where's he grew up into the 588 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,120 Speaker 5: house where he lives now. And that's great for some people. Yeah, 589 00:27:58,160 --> 00:27:59,800 Speaker 5: it sounds like from your email, you're not one of 590 00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:00,320 Speaker 5: those people. 591 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:02,800 Speaker 2: I always say it's okay to stay. 592 00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:03,280 Speaker 4: It's okay. 593 00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,520 Speaker 2: I remember no a conpost that it's okay to stay 594 00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,080 Speaker 2: where you where you love and and be with who 595 00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:10,280 Speaker 2: you love. And it's also okay to want to leave 596 00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:12,320 Speaker 2: and mix more different And how long do you know 597 00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:13,840 Speaker 2: that you're going to have a remote job where you 598 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:14,320 Speaker 2: get to do that? 599 00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:15,720 Speaker 4: You know you're an it? 600 00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:20,640 Speaker 3: You want to scratch, scratch itratch it, Just scratch it, 601 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:22,359 Speaker 3: scratch it? 602 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:23,320 Speaker 4: Is that news? 603 00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:28,400 Speaker 7: Just scratch it, scratch it. It's a song. No, I don't. 604 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:28,720 Speaker 6: Love that one. 605 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:30,240 Speaker 4: I don't know that one either personally. 606 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:31,840 Speaker 7: Maybe it's a different word than yeah. 607 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:32,720 Speaker 4: Maybe it's just a. 608 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,520 Speaker 7: RAMI just ram it. 609 00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:38,000 Speaker 2: I don't like scratch it. 610 00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 4: I don't know I like any of that right word. Okay, 611 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:44,160 Speaker 4: we will be right back. 612 00:28:44,160 --> 00:29:01,880 Speaker 2: We're taking a break, all right, we are back. 613 00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:04,120 Speaker 4: Another dear Bonia. 614 00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:07,560 Speaker 5: Here comes from Lily Hi, Beca, Tanya Mark and Paulina Hi. 615 00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:09,840 Speaker 5: I've been in my third my mid thirties. I've been 616 00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:11,720 Speaker 5: very ten years before me and my husband had a 617 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 5: large group of friends of guys and girls. Most of 618 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:16,120 Speaker 5: those friendships have faded, except for one male friend I've 619 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,959 Speaker 5: known since I was ten. My husband's never had an 620 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:20,760 Speaker 5: issue with this guy till a few years ago. We 621 00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:22,760 Speaker 5: were at a party together. A friend of my husband's 622 00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:25,800 Speaker 5: told him I was all over my friend, which matched 623 00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:30,440 Speaker 5: my husband's fears. Nothing inappropriate happened, just friendly hugs with 624 00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:32,680 Speaker 5: our other friends. But my husband is convinced I hooked 625 00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 5: up with this friend in the past, which is not true. 626 00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,600 Speaker 5: Ever since, any mention of my friend turns into an 627 00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:41,080 Speaker 5: issue four days, my husband feels as disrespectful to maintain 628 00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:43,040 Speaker 5: the friendship and wants to know every time we talk 629 00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:46,320 Speaker 5: and the details of our conversations. I know the easy 630 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:48,600 Speaker 5: answer is to just stop being friends if it makes 631 00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:51,200 Speaker 5: my husband uncomfortable, but part of me thinks I shouldn't 632 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:53,560 Speaker 5: have to end a twenty year friendship over something that 633 00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,560 Speaker 5: isn't true. That said, this friend and I only talk 634 00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:58,960 Speaker 5: or see each other once or twice a year. What's 635 00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:01,400 Speaker 5: everyone's take and the friendship, out of respect from my 636 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:03,520 Speaker 5: husband's feelings, should have maintained it since there is no 637 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:05,520 Speaker 5: history there. And if I do end it, do I 638 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:07,040 Speaker 5: just let it fizzle out or do I have a 639 00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,280 Speaker 5: direct conversation. I appreciate your perspectives. 640 00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 3: Thank you, rough I like a friend you see twice 641 00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:14,280 Speaker 3: a year is not a really really good friend. 642 00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:17,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like it's more of like a friend 643 00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,560 Speaker 2: that you like, right pick up where you left off. 644 00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:21,520 Speaker 4: You know, you don't say. 645 00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:22,800 Speaker 3: Them a lot, and you see them once or twice 646 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:24,880 Speaker 3: a year, like it was a it was a harm 647 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:25,280 Speaker 3: no foul. 648 00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:27,720 Speaker 7: I mean, in my opinion. 649 00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:28,560 Speaker 4: In what way no harm, no foul. 650 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:31,040 Speaker 2: You're saying, like, say goodbye to the friendship. 651 00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:33,080 Speaker 3: But do you need to say goodbye to it? Like 652 00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:34,920 Speaker 3: I feel like if you see someone once or twice 653 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:35,240 Speaker 3: a year. 654 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,280 Speaker 4: I think she's asking because her husband is very uncomfortable. 655 00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:40,440 Speaker 3: I need more details, like does she hang out with 656 00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:42,520 Speaker 3: this guy wants to like, is it in a big party? 657 00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:43,800 Speaker 6: Do they go get coffee? 658 00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:46,120 Speaker 5: It's she's not saying I don't have feelings for this guy. 659 00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:48,400 Speaker 5: I've never hooked up with this guy. There's nothing there. 660 00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:51,240 Speaker 5: If it was a female, this would not be an issue. 661 00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:53,440 Speaker 5: But her husband's being jealous and controlling this. 662 00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:55,680 Speaker 4: I was gonna say, this feels a little bit like 663 00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:58,520 Speaker 4: the husband has like jealousy. 664 00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:00,520 Speaker 7: She said somebody told her him something. 665 00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,680 Speaker 5: Somebody said, hey, your wife was all over this guy. 666 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:06,320 Speaker 3: See that's not nice, I say, I think there's like 667 00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 3: a few sides like did you give him a reason to. 668 00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:12,320 Speaker 4: Feel that way? Because I feel like if he's never 669 00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:13,880 Speaker 4: had an issue, all of a sudden he doesn't have 670 00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:15,600 Speaker 4: an issue, then something might have changed. 671 00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:17,160 Speaker 3: I've been married for ten years and he was never 672 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,200 Speaker 3: controlling or jealous, and then this happens. 673 00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:23,560 Speaker 4: My suggestion is couple's therapy. Oh oh, I do? I do. 674 00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:25,480 Speaker 2: I think this is an issue that you could bring 675 00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,840 Speaker 2: to a professional and say I did not do anything, 676 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,040 Speaker 2: but he doesn't trust me based on something that he heard. 677 00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,440 Speaker 2: This has just recently become a problem. This is someone 678 00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,440 Speaker 2: I see and talk to once or twice a year. 679 00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:39,840 Speaker 2: We've known each other forever, We've never had any we've 680 00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:42,120 Speaker 2: never crossed the physical boundary of friends. 681 00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:43,240 Speaker 4: Like, there's nothing for him. 682 00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 2: To worry about, but I need to know what I 683 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,040 Speaker 2: can do to make him feel more secure in this 684 00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:51,000 Speaker 2: because or is this a place where I endo friendship 685 00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:51,520 Speaker 2: that I've had? 686 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:54,320 Speaker 4: I agree, because I also do think that there is 687 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:58,600 Speaker 4: a lot of value in prioritizing your relationship because like, 688 00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:00,800 Speaker 4: at the end of the day, your husband says, like 689 00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:03,440 Speaker 4: a friend that you see twice a year. But I 690 00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:05,720 Speaker 4: feel like there's a deeper trust issue here. 691 00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,240 Speaker 2: But if it was every time she went out and 692 00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:11,200 Speaker 2: he was like, why did you talk to that's unhealthy 693 00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:14,520 Speaker 2: and toxic. This makes me feel like he feels deeply 694 00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:20,040 Speaker 2: insecure about someone and is this a person that's worth 695 00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:22,120 Speaker 2: risking her relationship? 696 00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:28,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, her marriage? Yeah, I would go to you're married you. 697 00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:30,719 Speaker 5: If somebody said that me, boy, your wife's all over 698 00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:32,320 Speaker 5: the sky, I'd be like, okay, like I'm not going 699 00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:32,760 Speaker 5: to buy it. 700 00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:34,000 Speaker 6: I'm not going to believe that. 701 00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:36,600 Speaker 4: Trust your right of course, and it's there's like a 702 00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:38,880 Speaker 4: level of like yeah, but it's also if you don't 703 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 4: have the exact situation, it's hard to like. 704 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:43,560 Speaker 2: I would like to think I would be totally true 705 00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:45,880 Speaker 2: because I also think I would it. I think i'd 706 00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:46,240 Speaker 2: be like. 707 00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:50,200 Speaker 3: Was all over someone? Like Yeah, if I heard those words, 708 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:51,320 Speaker 3: I'd be like, what the hell? 709 00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:52,920 Speaker 4: I'm not easy breezy. 710 00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:55,480 Speaker 2: No, I'm not. I'm never super. 711 00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:56,840 Speaker 4: Jealous, but I'm not easy breezy. 712 00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:58,400 Speaker 7: Yeah, it doesn't. 713 00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:00,920 Speaker 2: Take much to im eazy breezy. Tell him not. 714 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:04,400 Speaker 7: Yea, That's what I'm saying. 715 00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:07,240 Speaker 3: So I feel like it's not black or white for 716 00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:08,400 Speaker 3: me in this situation. 717 00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:11,720 Speaker 4: I agree. I will say like I think if my 718 00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:16,360 Speaker 4: partner was fighting me on keeping them in their life, 719 00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,880 Speaker 4: it would make me even like the trust issues would 720 00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:23,240 Speaker 4: be even more exaggerated. But so I mean less to 721 00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:27,320 Speaker 4: you than this person twice a year, which is where 722 00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,400 Speaker 4: he's probably like, what the hell I'm telling you. I 723 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,840 Speaker 4: don't like this person, I don't like you being there? 724 00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:35,840 Speaker 4: Why not let it go? Like if that were me, 725 00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:38,400 Speaker 4: I take it all back, I would lose my mind. 726 00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:41,720 Speaker 4: I take everything I just out of back and I 727 00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:44,560 Speaker 4: just put myself in her shoes and his shoes. 728 00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:46,560 Speaker 7: Yeah, and I would lose my mind. 729 00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:46,960 Speaker 4: Yeah. 730 00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,840 Speaker 3: Sorry, Mark, this guy controlled. 731 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:56,640 Speaker 4: But there's truth to that. There is truth to that, 732 00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,360 Speaker 4: because you do have to trust who you're with. But 733 00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:05,040 Speaker 4: there's definitely something I think it makes question all on him, correct, 734 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,880 Speaker 4: I'm questioning if the all overness actually happened. 735 00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,120 Speaker 6: Him to trust Lily. She says, nothing happened. 736 00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:16,839 Speaker 2: If they've been friends forever and that's just how they interacted, 737 00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:18,560 Speaker 2: and then someone saw it and they're like, hey, bro, 738 00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:22,040 Speaker 2: like your wife was all over this guy, and in 739 00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:24,360 Speaker 2: her mind, she's like, I've been like that with Timmy 740 00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:25,399 Speaker 2: since I was ten. 741 00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:27,759 Speaker 5: Well, right, because different people have different Like when my 742 00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:29,520 Speaker 5: wife and I started dating. It was weird for her 743 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:31,320 Speaker 5: that because I was I did a lot of improv 744 00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:33,640 Speaker 5: and theater and stuff, and it's a very huggy community. 745 00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:35,640 Speaker 5: Everybody hugs everybody, and that's not where. 746 00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:35,839 Speaker 6: She comes from. 747 00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:37,640 Speaker 5: She's like, that's weird that he's talking all these women. 748 00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:39,359 Speaker 5: Took her a minute to get over that. So maybe 749 00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:41,239 Speaker 5: it's just that's the relationship she has with this guy. 750 00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:43,600 Speaker 6: They hug. I don't know. I still don't like it. 751 00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:46,440 Speaker 5: But let's say you guys. Let's say you guys. She 752 00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:49,480 Speaker 5: duved I sits down with her husband. They talk it out. 753 00:34:49,640 --> 00:34:51,480 Speaker 5: She says, Okay, I love you. I don't want you 754 00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:52,960 Speaker 5: to be insecure. I'm going to let this go with 755 00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:54,359 Speaker 5: this guy. Does she talk to the guy or does 756 00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:55,280 Speaker 5: she just let it fizzle? 757 00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:56,640 Speaker 4: I would let it. 758 00:34:56,760 --> 00:34:59,200 Speaker 2: That's why I think you talked to therapists and say, hey, 759 00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:00,920 Speaker 2: should I Is it worth? How do I need to 760 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,680 Speaker 2: have a conversation or is it just something that because 761 00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:05,920 Speaker 2: here's the thing. If the guy comes around and he's like. 762 00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:06,880 Speaker 4: What's going on? 763 00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:07,439 Speaker 6: That's weird? 764 00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:09,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's weird. Why are you being weird? 765 00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:12,520 Speaker 2: Why haven't we talked? Then she has I mean in 766 00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:14,520 Speaker 2: my mind of a friendship of twenty years, I'd at 767 00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,040 Speaker 2: least want to say, hey, I'm in a place where 768 00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:19,680 Speaker 2: I don't have the capacity to be the friend you 769 00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:21,680 Speaker 2: know to you and it I don't know, how do 770 00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:22,040 Speaker 2: you hate it? 771 00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:25,160 Speaker 4: I just don't think we know enough. Yeah, because I do, 772 00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:28,440 Speaker 4: I don't know if I'm totally trusting that nothing's happened, 773 00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:29,959 Speaker 4: if at all of a sudden. 774 00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:32,880 Speaker 3: Because we're I think also having healthy boundaries is very important. 775 00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:35,520 Speaker 3: I remember in the early like two years of my 776 00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:38,560 Speaker 3: relationship with Robbie, there was a specific woman that was 777 00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:41,520 Speaker 3: laying it on thick with him, and she would just 778 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,600 Speaker 3: lay it on thick trying to get back together with him. 779 00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:45,759 Speaker 3: And this is someone that he would have to communicate with, 780 00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 3: and so I was like, this is a boundary that 781 00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,480 Speaker 3: like you cannot cross for me. And so we had 782 00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:54,960 Speaker 3: to like figure out these these boundaries. And he was 783 00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:56,920 Speaker 3: like respectful of that, you know, because it was like 784 00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:59,839 Speaker 3: it wasn't appropriate when you're in a relationship with somebody 785 00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:01,879 Speaker 3: and your partner's uncomfortable, we. 786 00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:03,520 Speaker 6: Don't know that anything inappropriate is happening. 787 00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,240 Speaker 4: Though, I think it's a little different, but I agree 788 00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,440 Speaker 4: with you. I think boundaries, and I think prioritizing your 789 00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:08,680 Speaker 4: relationship is important. 790 00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:11,800 Speaker 2: But she said, didn't she say that he gets upset 791 00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:15,640 Speaker 2: if his name is brought up. Yeah, it's a trigger like. 792 00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:20,439 Speaker 4: This man like there's something missing here because I don't. 793 00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:24,080 Speaker 4: You don't get triggered unless something happened or maybe it 794 00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:26,080 Speaker 4: wasn't with this guy, but maybe something has happened with 795 00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:26,560 Speaker 4: someone else. 796 00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:31,600 Speaker 2: Okay, here's the other thing, his trust. Regardless of if 797 00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:33,719 Speaker 2: we think it's right or wrong, He's feeling insecure. So 798 00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,160 Speaker 2: I think she needs to go, Okay, you're my partner, 799 00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:38,080 Speaker 2: you're my husband. I'm going to make sure that you 800 00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:41,200 Speaker 2: feel safe. What can I do on my end to 801 00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:43,319 Speaker 2: make sure that you feel safe? Which is like if 802 00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:45,560 Speaker 2: they are texting or have a phone call. I do 803 00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:47,560 Speaker 2: think it's respectful to be like, hey, I talked to 804 00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:48,279 Speaker 2: so and so today. 805 00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:49,080 Speaker 4: This is what we talked about. 806 00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:52,839 Speaker 2: Because if he just hears his name, he's automatically he's 807 00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:55,399 Speaker 2: like making up stories in his head, and so he's 808 00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,600 Speaker 2: already feeling like I agree with that. So I think 809 00:36:57,640 --> 00:37:00,400 Speaker 2: it's just asking him what can I do to make 810 00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:01,080 Speaker 2: you feel safer? 811 00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:01,399 Speaker 4: Is it? 812 00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:03,320 Speaker 2: Is it not having a friendship with this person? 813 00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:03,880 Speaker 4: Is it. 814 00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:05,799 Speaker 2: Is there something else that I can do that when 815 00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:07,759 Speaker 2: I talk about him, I can reassure you. 816 00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:11,719 Speaker 4: Like what I had to have that conversation. There was 817 00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:15,080 Speaker 4: one X that I don't know why triggered me. I 818 00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:18,120 Speaker 4: don't nothing ever happened. I was just like, I don't 819 00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:21,879 Speaker 4: like you being around them, but I'm not. I don't 820 00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,200 Speaker 4: want to be controlling. So I was like, I just 821 00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:27,239 Speaker 4: ask that if you were to run into them, you 822 00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:29,120 Speaker 4: tell me. I don't want to find out the social 823 00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:32,120 Speaker 4: media through Instagram. I don't want to know. A week later, 824 00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:34,080 Speaker 4: I just asked that if they're in the same room 825 00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:36,600 Speaker 4: as you, you let me know. And it did make 826 00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:39,919 Speaker 4: me feel better because I's okay, he's like understanding, but yeah, 827 00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:41,560 Speaker 4: some people just trigger you. 828 00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:42,800 Speaker 7: Yeah, I get it. 829 00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:46,120 Speaker 4: The best. 830 00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,319 Speaker 5: I don't know I passed on that. 831 00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:51,439 Speaker 3: No, I think we actually gave her some good insight 832 00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:52,520 Speaker 3: that maybe shouldn't think about. 833 00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:56,240 Speaker 4: Okay, that's true, I do good also the self reflection. 834 00:37:57,880 --> 00:37:58,319 Speaker 4: We're done. 835 00:37:58,680 --> 00:37:59,080 Speaker 6: We're done. 836 00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:03,360 Speaker 3: No, Holena, Do you have any parting words for the scrubbers, 837 00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:07,120 Speaker 3: any words of wisdom that you want to partake give. 838 00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:11,759 Speaker 7: Out, share, partake to share advice on what life. 839 00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:18,120 Speaker 6: There happiness, the wedding just a few weeks away. 840 00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:22,160 Speaker 4: Actually this is so random, but I was having a 841 00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:26,560 Speaker 4: conversation with someone recently, and I think, be grateful. I 842 00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,160 Speaker 4: think live life with a lot of gratitude. I think 843 00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:33,160 Speaker 4: we're missing a lot of that recently, just in life, 844 00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:36,719 Speaker 4: in the workplace, in your personal life. Walk around with 845 00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:38,200 Speaker 4: a little bit more gratitude. 846 00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:40,440 Speaker 7: Yeah, Perspective is everything. 847 00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:44,279 Speaker 4: Perspective is everything. So true. I love that. Nothing more 848 00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:46,560 Speaker 4: needs to be said. I love you, guys, No notes, 849 00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:49,000 Speaker 4: no notes? Next up? 850 00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:50,200 Speaker 7: Do you want to come back next week? 851 00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:55,520 Speaker 2: I'll just leap seconds. We'll have you back after the wedding. Yes, 852 00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:56,959 Speaker 2: recap oh. 853 00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:59,440 Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes, get rid of me? 854 00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:02,640 Speaker 2: No no, no, everyone's say good bye to Paulina. We 855 00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:03,960 Speaker 2: love you, love you. 856 00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:05,960 Speaker 6: Sorry about the game. 857 00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:08,960 Speaker 4: Whatever, I wasn't gonna bring it up. Final scores. 858 00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:12,200 Speaker 6: Thirty four to thirteen. 859 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:14,360 Speaker 4: Triggers. 860 00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:18,640 Speaker 2: We love you, somebody love you.