1 00:00:00,960 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: It is time now for the Strawberry Letter. But before 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:05,800 Speaker 1: we get into the letter, I want to let you 3 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:08,720 Speaker 1: know that I have a brand new candle line out. 4 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: It is called the Love Collection, and you can go 5 00:00:11,680 --> 00:00:14,560 Speaker 1: online to Love Shirley Strawberry and pick yours up Love 6 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:18,479 Speaker 1: Shirley Strawberry dot com. It's just in time for Mother's Day. 7 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:23,440 Speaker 1: Next Saturday, May seventh, at Phipps Plaza at a store 8 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: called merge Co. Merge coo a black owned company, right 9 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: upstairs from a Gucci store in Phipps Plaza in Atlanta. 10 00:00:31,080 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 1: I'll have my launch party from one to four pm. 11 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: Come on buy, get your candles, see me and I 12 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:41,040 Speaker 1: can see you, and it's gonna be a great thing. 13 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: Get your candles for Mother's Day and I hope to 14 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:45,879 Speaker 1: see you there again. It's going to be next Saturday, 15 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 1: May seventh, in Phipps Plaza at a store called merge Co. 16 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 1: You're gonna love this store. It's in Atlanta and it's 17 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 1: from one to four pm. My Love Collection candles are out. 18 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: Eat everybody in the Atlanta area. Please come through the 19 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: Phipps Plaza upstairs above the Gucci store. The store is 20 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:09,399 Speaker 1: called merge Cool and meet the lovely Shirley Strawberry and 21 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: walk away with a few of her candles for gifts 22 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 1: for Mother's Day. Thank you all. We'll see you next Saturday. 23 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: Junior will be there, Yes you will with a camera crew. Yeah, 24 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:27,199 Speaker 1: all right, thank you Steve, Thank you guys, thank you, Carlata. 25 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 1: All right, here we go. It is time for today's 26 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:34,080 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. And if you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, 27 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to stefarfm dot 28 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 1: com and we could be reading your letter live on 29 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:42,680 Speaker 1: the air, just like we're gonna read this one right here, 30 00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: right now. You never know, it could be yours. It 31 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight. We 32 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 1: got it for you. Here it is Strawberry Letter, subject 33 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 1: right under my nose. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty 34 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 1: four year old man and my wife and I are 35 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: legally separated and i'm facing lee goal charges because of her. 36 00:02:02,280 --> 00:02:04,440 Speaker 1: We were married for three years and we have a 37 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: newborn son that I'm not sure is my son, but 38 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: he definitely could have my bloodlines. My brother could be 39 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:15,080 Speaker 1: the father of my son. A year after we got married, 40 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: he came home from the military, and he stayed between 41 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: my house and my mother's house. He and my wife 42 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 1: knew each other before I met her. They're the same 43 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: age and attended high school together, so I was comfortable 44 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 1: with their relationship. I got too comfortable and allowed him 45 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 1: too much access to my house and my wife. He's 46 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:39,080 Speaker 1: got six children by four women, and my wife and 47 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 1: I used to joke him about how trifling he was. 48 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 1: Now looking back, I think my wife was always curious 49 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,320 Speaker 1: about how good he was in bed, and she tried 50 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 1: it out and got hooked. The crazy thing is they 51 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: used to have sex in my house and my bed, 52 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:59,800 Speaker 1: on my sofa, everywhere. I put cameras in the house 53 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 1: when I suspected something was going on. I didn't see 54 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 1: them in the act of having sex, but the way 55 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 1: they played around with each other was a dead giveaway. 56 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: I saw her on camera with a long black nightgown 57 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 1: nightgown on one morning when I was at work, and 58 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:18,799 Speaker 1: that was all I needed to see. I popped up 59 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: on them, and he was sitting on my bed and 60 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 1: she was lying across the bed unzipping his pants. When 61 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: I walked in, she jumped up and he ran towards me. 62 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 1: To push me out of the room. We tore up 63 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:36,000 Speaker 1: the whole house fighting, and she called the police. He 64 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 1: went to the hospital and needed stitches in his eye. 65 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: I can't believe they press charges on me. This has 66 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 1: ruined my life emotionally and legally. How do I move 67 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: on and forgive them? Well, yeah, this is horrible. This 68 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: your brother, all right? You know you ask how do 69 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:57,160 Speaker 1: you move on and forgive them? And I have to 70 00:03:57,200 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: tell you that forgiveness is literally how you do move on. 71 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: But then again, after what you've been through, I don't 72 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: see this happening anytime soon, if at all. I mean, 73 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 1: these things take a moment. Betrayal is real. It's painful. 74 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: It can really make you want to kill someone, especially 75 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:17,160 Speaker 1: when you catch them like you did. It doesn't get 76 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:21,479 Speaker 1: any closer than your blood brother, your blood brother who 77 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:25,040 Speaker 1: you admitted let get too comfortable with your wife. And 78 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 1: you know this is this is really crazy. Because he 79 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:30,560 Speaker 1: was in and out of the house. They knew each 80 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: other beforehand. His wife was curious. You knew all of that. 81 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 1: Uh you know? Now you have a baby that you 82 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,600 Speaker 1: thought was yours, and it might be your brothers who 83 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: will be his daddy uncle? If the DNA test comes 84 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 1: back positive. These are two very selfish people. It doesn't 85 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: matter that he knew her first. That is your wife 86 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:54,400 Speaker 1: and your Your brother was really wrong and out of line. 87 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 1: You know all of this. I have no words for 88 00:04:57,200 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 1: your wife. If you had slept with her sister, you 89 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: would be paying for that for the rest of your life. 90 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: She would never let you forget that. So take your time. 91 00:05:05,080 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: I mean, this is gonna be hard. I don't even 92 00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:10,159 Speaker 1: you know know what to tell you to forgive these people. 93 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 1: They need to drop those charges. I do know that 94 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 1: they got what they deserved, stitches and all. I will 95 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 1: tell you this though, remember that there are still very 96 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:21,920 Speaker 1: good women out there who will treat you right when 97 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 1: you're ready for that. And I said all that to say, 98 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 1: please don't blame all women based on what your trifling 99 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:31,360 Speaker 1: wife did to you, all right, Steve, I don't even 100 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: really know what to say to this letter. This is 101 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: so because you know, I was reading a letter through 102 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 1: it and then when it got three quarters away down, 103 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:42,480 Speaker 1: it took a real crazy turn. And right then that's 104 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:45,159 Speaker 1: where the whole letter is actually the fact that you're 105 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:48,880 Speaker 1: forty five years old and your wife are separated, that 106 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 1: don't really mean nothing, but you face it legal charges 107 00:05:52,279 --> 00:05:55,600 Speaker 1: because of her. That does married three years, you got 108 00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:57,920 Speaker 1: a newborn son, and you ain't sure that to sell 109 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:00,679 Speaker 1: to yours Why because you think it might be your brothers? 110 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: The right there, This letter is off to a real 111 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: ugly start, right And the year after they got married, 112 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 1: he came home from the military, and he stayed between 113 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:13,840 Speaker 1: my house and my mama's house. And here, my wife 114 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:16,440 Speaker 1: knew each other before I met her. They're the same 115 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:20,040 Speaker 1: age and attended high school together. So I was comfortable 116 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:23,599 Speaker 1: with their relationship. And you say you got too comfortable 117 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:25,919 Speaker 1: and you allowed him too much access to my house 118 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:28,839 Speaker 1: and my wife, or he was your brother? How could 119 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: you know? I had two brothers, I got one left 120 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: I do I could trust him when anything anything, Hold 121 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 1: that thought. Steve m this letter at twenty three after 122 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour, we'll come back with part two 123 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: of Steve's response to today's Strawberry letter Right under my nose. 124 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: You're listening to show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's 125 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter subject right under my nose. This 126 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: is a ridiculous at or right here. I feel for 127 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 1: the dude that had to write this letter, but I'm 128 00:07:04,279 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: telling you I would have so much more to type 129 00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: in here if it were me. This is about betrayal 130 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 1: of a brother. His brother came home from the military 131 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: standing between his mama's house and his house. His wife 132 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: and brother knew each other from high school, so he 133 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 1: was comfortable. Obviously, he said he gave them too much 134 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:25,360 Speaker 1: access to each other. And he has a newborn son 135 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 1: that he don't think is his because he thinks his brothers. 136 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? So now he's got six kids 137 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:40,840 Speaker 1: from four different women, and his wife and him used 138 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 1: to joke with his brother about how trifling he was, 139 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: she says, now, looking back, I think my wife was 140 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 1: always curious about how good he was in bed. She 141 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 1: tried it and got hooked. The craziest thing is they 142 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 1: used to have sex in my house, in my bed, 143 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: on my sofa, everywhere. I don't even know how you're 144 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: typing this letter, Bro. You better to me. I just 145 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: I'm just telling you. You just are. I put cameras 146 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: in the house when I suspected something was going on. 147 00:08:06,520 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 1: I didn't see them in the act of having sex, 148 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:12,040 Speaker 1: but the way they played around with each other was 149 00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: a dead giveaway. You know, yeah, you know? Why did 150 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 1: you squeezing her breast fall? I know what that is? 151 00:08:22,440 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 1: You're sitting up that licking the back of her thigh? 152 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 1: What what is what you think? I think? Gone? See 153 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: this is all play stuff that ain't sex. But you 154 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: know what's gonna happen. You're giving her calf massage with 155 00:08:37,200 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: both her feet on your knee. Shut up, tell me 156 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:42,720 Speaker 1: you really think we're doing the calves? That what you 157 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 1: really think? You tickling the inside of her thigh? That's funny, giggle. 158 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: I saw her on camera with a long black gown 159 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:00,280 Speaker 1: one morning when I was at work, and that was 160 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: all I needed to see. I popped up on him 161 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:05,760 Speaker 1: to hit the part where the letter turn into what 162 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 1: I don't understand. He was sitting on my bed. She 163 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:13,679 Speaker 1: was lying across the bed unzipping his pants. When I 164 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 1: walked in, she jumped up. He ran towards me to 165 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:21,199 Speaker 1: push me out the room. Now right here, let's stop 166 00:09:21,240 --> 00:09:24,560 Speaker 1: the letter right here. Let me get you a fact. 167 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:29,440 Speaker 1: Ain't nobody leaving this room? See this? He pushed me, 168 00:09:29,559 --> 00:09:34,960 Speaker 1: came to push me out the room. Ain't nobody leaving 169 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 1: this room. But if we all don't leave the room 170 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:42,520 Speaker 1: here where I started taking pride in the letter. Right up, 171 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:48,959 Speaker 1: we tore up the whole house. Yeah, I mean we're 172 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:55,960 Speaker 1: fighting now. Here's where she called the police. Okay, I 173 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: got that hit the part while I'm starting to swell 174 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:03,960 Speaker 1: up with pride. He went to the hospital and needed 175 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:08,600 Speaker 1: stitches in his eye. The only thing I'm a little 176 00:10:08,679 --> 00:10:11,840 Speaker 1: disappointed is is how he didn't need stitches in both 177 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 1: his eyes. That's the only disappointment. But I do understand 178 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 1: you're probably catching him with that left hook. I can't 179 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 1: believe they press charges on me. This has ruined my 180 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 1: life emotionally and legally. How do I move on and 181 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: forgive them? I don't really know that I could forgive 182 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:35,680 Speaker 1: them right now. I don't know that I could, especially 183 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:41,800 Speaker 1: my brother, my brother man, or my wife. But my brother, 184 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 1: because I have a brother, I had two, and that 185 00:10:45,679 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 1: bond I could. My brother would never betray me under 186 00:10:49,320 --> 00:10:52,800 Speaker 1: no set of circumstances, no matter what. So I don't 187 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 1: even know how this happened. How do I move on 188 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,080 Speaker 1: and forgive them? Let me give you a couple of suggestions. Bro. 189 00:10:58,280 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: First of all, every time I see my brother, it's 190 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:05,360 Speaker 1: on site. I'm talking about and he know it, and 191 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:08,600 Speaker 1: he know it. My brothers know me, and I know 192 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: my brothers. It's on site. There will be no police 193 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 1: and Shirley. Every time my brothers didn't play, they kept 194 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,600 Speaker 1: their word. When I see you that, you better understand 195 00:11:21,600 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 1: they meant what they said. So that's on site. Um, 196 00:11:26,520 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 1: I'm not going to court. I'm not going to court. 197 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:32,600 Speaker 1: But if you do go to court, brother, you have 198 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:36,200 Speaker 1: the You have the strongest case of anybody. You have 199 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 1: a man who is in your house and you have 200 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:43,199 Speaker 1: a video of them in your house. You got footage 201 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:45,679 Speaker 1: of him playing with your wife, I don't know how, 202 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 1: and then you and then you walk in on him 203 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:54,479 Speaker 1: sitting on the edge of your bed and her unzipping 204 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 1: his pants. You when you tell this story, who don't 205 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 1: understand the fight breaking out? So legally, you're not ruined. 206 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 1: You in fine shape, didn't call the police and all 207 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 1: he wants. But this is your house. See what happened 208 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:13,920 Speaker 1: in your house. It gets legal, man, and your brother 209 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 1: wasn't on the porch. He in the house. You get 210 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 1: a paternity test, You get to do a lot of stuff. Man, 211 00:12:27,920 --> 00:12:31,080 Speaker 1: So stop thinking that your life is ruined legally, because 212 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:34,119 Speaker 1: it's not you're in the right all here now. Emotionally, 213 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:37,040 Speaker 1: I can't tell you how to feel. That's got to 214 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 1: be a horrible feeling to realize that you were betrayed 215 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:42,320 Speaker 1: by two people in your life who you thought you 216 00:12:42,360 --> 00:12:46,320 Speaker 1: could trust, your wife and your brother. That's a tough one, man, 217 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:50,080 Speaker 1: that's a tough one to get over. And now baby 218 00:12:50,200 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: might be your brother's baby, like he need another one. 219 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:58,320 Speaker 1: He already got. All I can get out of this 220 00:12:58,400 --> 00:13:00,800 Speaker 1: is the avery time I see my brothers own site. 221 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:04,079 Speaker 1: That's all I can get out of this, all right, Steve, 222 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: thank you. Leave your comments on today's letter on Instagram 223 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:10,160 Speaker 1: at Steve Harvey FM, and check out the Strawberry Letter 224 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 1: podcast on demand. Now con got next It is Junior 225 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: and Sports Talk. We'll get into that right after this. 226 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 1: You're listening to this Dave Harvey Morning Show.