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Speaker 1: First Date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Hannah is on the phone today for a first a

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Speaker 2: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a dude named Luke.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if I tell us why is ghosting her? But first, Hannah,

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Speaker 2: how long has it vincis you heard from Luke?

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week.

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Speaker 4: I texted him a couple times, but nothing, just radio silence.

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Speaker 1: Really, so, did you feel like you were going to

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Speaker 1: hear from him? Was the date gay?

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Speaker 4: No? No, it's so weird because he was texting me

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Speaker 4: right after the date like that was fun.

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Speaker 3: We should do it again. And now poof absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Okay, So here's the deal. But we went on for Sushie,

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Speaker 4: which I love. I thought it was a.

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Speaker 3: Super solid start. You even let me pick out the restaurant,

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Speaker 3: which was cool.

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Speaker 4: I didn't think that a guy who doesn't like grawfish

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Speaker 4: would suggest Sushie, but cool. We ended up ordering way

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Speaker 4: too much food, but it was It was kind of

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Speaker 4: a mess that we were both just like cracking jokes

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Speaker 4: about it, especially when he nearly flung a piece of

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Speaker 4: sashimi across the table trying to use the classics. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it was cute.

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Speaker 3: So afterwards we went for a walk.

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Speaker 4: Which was really sweet. It was kill low key, and

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Speaker 4: it just felt like we were on the same wavelengths, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, Yeah, slinging sushi and you know, sweet conversation. So

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Speaker 1: why do you think, oh man?

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Speaker 4: Honestly, I I don't know, because I thought it.

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Speaker 3: Went really really great. There was just like something about him.

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Speaker 1: He was so funny.

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Speaker 4: But maybe I messed up when I paid for dinner

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Speaker 4: behind us back.

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Speaker 3: But Bill was just like way.

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Speaker 4: More than we expected, and I had ordered a really

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Speaker 4: fancy sake and wagu advertiser. We thought he was thinking

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Speaker 4: about it and I felt bad. So when he got

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Speaker 4: off to use the bathroom, I just went ahead and

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Speaker 4: paid for the whole thing. So when he came back,

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Speaker 4: I told him it wasn't a big deal.

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Speaker 1: I'd marry you.

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Speaker 2: Doesn't sound like a reason to go through it, all right,

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Speaker 2: I mean.

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Speaker 3: I can a florid it, And but he seemed like

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Speaker 4: He kept saying, you know, I could have paid for that,

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Speaker 4: and I tried to explain that it didn't mean anything.

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Speaker 4: I just felt guilty for ordering the expensive stuff like unconsciously.

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Speaker 3: But maybe he thought that I.

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Speaker 4: Was implying that he couldn't afford it or something.

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Speaker 3: I really mean it like that.

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Speaker 4: I was just trying to do something nice. But now

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Speaker 4: I'm wondering if it like came off totally wrong.

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Speaker 1: Well did he say thank you? Did like aside from

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Speaker 1: the fact that he's like I could pay for it too,

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Speaker 1: Was he appreciative of it?

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Speaker 3: No, he did it just like it just like shift.

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Speaker 4: A divide, like a little bit, but like not enough

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Speaker 4: to But we still were planning on hanging out again.

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Speaker 3: We both had talked about how it was fun, so

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's some one of those weird old school type

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Speaker 2: of things, you know, where he feels like a guy's.

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Speaker 1: Got to pay or something, or maybe he didn't even

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Speaker 1: have the option because you did it behind his back

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Speaker 1: too for whatever reason. Again, like ju Will said, I

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Speaker 1: would marry you.

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Speaker 4: Right, I mean a girl who can take care of

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Speaker 4: Herself's what's start out to?

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Speaker 1: Right? Right? You need to date a new school dude

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Speaker 1: who use you for everything your wordy.

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Speaker 2: Phrase differently? All right, Well, we'll see if we can

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Speaker 2: figure it out for you. We'll play a song come back,

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Speaker 2: and then call him and see if he'll tell us

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Speaker 2: why he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: thank you, all right, we'll play a song come back

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Speaker 2: and get your first day follow up next. If you're

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Speaker 2: just joining us for today's first date follow up. Hannah

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Speaker 2: is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by Luke,

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call him and see if he'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 2: But first, Hannah, why don't you refresh our memory on

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Speaker 2: your date?

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Speaker 4: Okay? We went out for this super fun sushi day,

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Speaker 4: but I ended up paying at the end because I

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Speaker 4: thought i'd order two extensive things. So I'm I'm worried

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Speaker 4: if that's why he disappeared.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I mean, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I could see some guy being like, I don't want

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Speaker 2: me pay.

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Speaker 1: I could actually see that well, because he's probably like

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Speaker 1: if he's thinking like, okay, well what do I have

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Speaker 1: to bring to the table, or like somehow feeling bad

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Speaker 1: about it. I don't know. We'll see you're ready for

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Speaker 1: us to call him?

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Speaker 3: Oh, here we go, Okay.

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Speaker 1: Here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hello him, I speak to Luke. Please, Hey Luke, how

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Speaker 2: are you? This is the Jubil Show. It's a radio show.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 1: I'm Mina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name's Jubile. How

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Speaker 1: are you?

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Speaker 6: Uh? I'm sorry? Is this like this like a brank

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Speaker 6: or something?

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Speaker 1: No, it's not.

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Speaker 2: Actually, we're calling you for a different reason. Have you

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Speaker 2: ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Yeah, I just I didn't expect you to call me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we're calling you today because you're ghosting somebody.

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Speaker 2: And we do a segment on the show called the

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Speaker 2: first a follow up, you know where if you go

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Speaker 2: on a date with someone and then you end up

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Speaker 2: ghosting them, that person can email us to ask you

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So do you know who would

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Speaker 2: have emailed us about you?

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Speaker 6: I am guessing this is about Hannah? Right?

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Speaker 2: Yes, you got to correct. Congratulations You've won nothing so far?

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Speaker 1: Are you ghosting her?

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Speaker 6: I'm not like ghosting her intentionally. I don't know. The

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Speaker 6: date was super fun, She's super cool, but it was it.

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Speaker 5: Was honestly, it was just something that happened after Okay.

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Speaker 1: So you are ghosting her intentionally, she said, she texted

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Speaker 1: you didn't call her back. So yeah, so yeah, here, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: but why why Yeah?

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Speaker 6: Uh so the.

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Speaker 5: Deal is, so, you know, after our day it was

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Speaker 5: it was really good and uh my buddy Andrew, so

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Speaker 5: I was telling him about it.

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Speaker 6: And uh, you know, staying so she paid for.

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Speaker 5: The meal and I, you know, behind my back, and

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Speaker 5: I don't know, I just thought it was kind of weird.

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Speaker 7: So I'm telling him about it, and he actually see

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Speaker 7: and he just started cracking up. And uh, it turns

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Speaker 7: out that he went out with Hannah too.

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Speaker 5: Okay that no, no, no, no, no, no, no, it's not

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Speaker 5: It's not only that. It was that she did like

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Speaker 5: the same exact thing with him. They went to like

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Speaker 6: She paid without telling him.

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Speaker 5: And and then he was saying that like happened a

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, and you don't want to be a boy toy.

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Speaker 1: Is that what she's doing though, or is that just

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know why. It's like nice that

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Speaker 1: she wants to treat you. Maybe not every single time,

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm not going to like jump to that conclusion,

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Speaker 6: It felt weird, you know, it felt really weird.

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Speaker 4: Ah wow, So because I'm too generous, I'm getting ghosted.

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Speaker 1: Hannah's on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 5: Oh Hannah, Hey, how how are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Hi, Luke. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: I didn't realize I was making you feel like my

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Speaker 3: I have a nice job. He seems grateful. This is

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Speaker 3: this is news to me.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, of course your body something, but it's just like

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Speaker 5: sounded light cup pattern, And I don't know, I didn't

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Speaker 6: For the ride thing.

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Speaker 3: I mean, that's not it at all.

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Speaker 4: I'm just, you know, trying to not seem like a

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Speaker 3: So what isn't that a nice thing that I could

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but I mean, like, you know, I can take

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Speaker 4: Okay, well that's fine. I'll find somebody who's hot and

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Speaker 1: Well wait, Hannah, what is it about paying for your

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Speaker 1: so important to you? Like, what is it about paying

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Speaker 3: It every time?

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Speaker 4: I just don't want to feel like I'm beholden to

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Speaker 4: not expecting anybody to pay for that when they don't

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Speaker 4: really know me yet, you know, but you know, beholden,

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, you're just missing out.

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Speaker 4: You didn't even get to the part where I buy

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Speaker 4: ukololes yet, you know, Baby, I want.

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Speaker 3: Like a man.

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Speaker 4: I want a man who adores me and it's secure

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Speaker 4: enough to you know, be okay with that?

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Speaker 6: I mean I could buy my own clothes. That I

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Speaker 1: You sound like I can't do this, well, I.

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Speaker 4: Mean you could really really use the stylist and some

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Speaker 4: new clothes, because man.

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Speaker 3: That outfit was not really impressed me.

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Speaker 4: But I'm done trying to impress someone who gets scared

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Speaker 1: Well, Luke, would you like another date with Hannah? Will

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Speaker 1: shouldn't pay for it.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

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Speaker 5: I don't think I did, you know, I guess survive

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Speaker 5: the whole wardrobe overhaul, you know.

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Speaker 6: For the pretty woman mate, So I don't think so.

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Speaker 4: All right, Well, no hard feelings though, good luck finding

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Speaker 4: someone who won't spoil you too much? Okay, baby boy

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Speaker 4: out

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Speaker 6: Jubile's first Date follow up