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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning.

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Speaker 2: Podcast Hello Everybody, we are screwbing.

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Speaker 1: Scrub a dub dub in the top top tub. How's

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Speaker 1: it going Beaca Tilly?

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Speaker 2: I was gonna continue with this song, but I got.

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Speaker 1: Vulnerable, got scared, cat got your tongue.

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm actually doing okay, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, I'm doing okay, just getting by.

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Speaker 1: Uh, you don't have a very different person today than

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Speaker 1: I was just two weeks ago.

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Speaker 2: One to ten? How are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Five and a half six, six six? We're on the

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Speaker 1: up today?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just over halfway decent.

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm great? One to ten, one to ten, I'm like

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Speaker 2: a eight and a half nine. Wow's a yeah. But

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Speaker 2: you know, I woke up with this renewed sense of energy.

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Speaker 2: I have felt, honestly, I felt like I've just been

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Speaker 2: in a slump and like motivation to work and just

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Speaker 2: I've kind of felt like, you know, in the social

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Speaker 2: media aspect of my job and work and stuff, I

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Speaker 2: felt kind of deflated because it's such a competitive world.

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Speaker 1: And because I think everybody's feeling you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: Like you're not no, no, no, far off.

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Speaker 2: I'm not far off, but I do feel like, you know,

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Speaker 2: I was just kind of living in this slump instead

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Speaker 2: like you're the type who you get in a slump

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Speaker 2: and then you're like, well, I'm going to fix it. I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna get out of it, I'm gonna do it.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm currently in right now. I'm like doing

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Speaker 1: the work to get through it, and it's slumpy.

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Speaker 2: So I just sat. I just sit in a slump.

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Speaker 2: I'm just like in quicksand just like like I'm not

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Speaker 2: really going down further, but I'm not trying to get

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Speaker 2: out right. So so it's not quit.

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Speaker 1: It's like slow sand.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's mud yekay mud.

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Speaker 1: But some would say.

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Speaker 2: So basically you know when you walk, you like go

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Speaker 2: through mud and you're wearing shoes and your foot comes

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Speaker 2: back get the shoe. It's like that, Yeah, But I

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Speaker 2: just I think we had a conversation on Saturday when

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Speaker 2: we had dinner together and you were saying like, sometimes

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Speaker 2: you just you got to do it yourself, and it

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Speaker 2: really just struck a chord with me where I was like, wow,

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Speaker 2: without doing the work or putting in the effort. So

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Speaker 2: I woke up with that sense of like, you know what,

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Speaker 2: my whole perspective on this year has been, like it's

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Speaker 2: I think everyone's perspective has been it's a it's been

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Speaker 2: a horrible year, like ready for twenty twenty to go away.

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Speaker 2: But I was thinking about this actually when I was

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Speaker 2: in Vermont and all the leaves were changing and they

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Speaker 2: new season is like a really powerful time when you

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Speaker 2: look back on it. So I'm kind of in that perspective.

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 2: I say, if I'm still there next week, but this I'll.

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Speaker 1: Check in on you. I can help keep you accountable

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Speaker 1: for sure, because I think I'm in that slump, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like currently working through are you crying? Okay? It's

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Speaker 1: like are we good?

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Speaker 2: I have like allergies.

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Speaker 1: I'm currently working through the slump right now and trying

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Speaker 1: for so long, I mean, I've been talking I talked

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Speaker 1: days I'm okay, and like, you know, I'm gonna get

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Speaker 1: come out on the other end like a butterfly?

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Speaker 3: Do you think?

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Speaker 2: I mean? I almost. I don't feel like I've battled

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Speaker 2: I am experiencing it through comparison on social media and

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Speaker 2: I have so in my head. I'm like I have

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Speaker 2: to do a podcast with my best friend. Were nominated

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Speaker 2: for a third People's Choice Award. I have this amazing

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Speaker 2: following in these people that I get to have connections

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Speaker 2: it's just been appreciate, like learning to appreciate what I have,

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I think I think it's just kind of

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, So I had my first therapy. I've never like.

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Speaker 1: personality is too much. People can't handle you in large doses,

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Speaker 1: but then it trickles from that into like all these

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Speaker 2: Your imposter syndrome in your career has made you seek

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Speaker 2: whether it's validation and words of affirmation or just validation

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Speaker 2: you feel like you're You've been told these negative things

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Speaker 2: need I need support, I need encouragement. I need you

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Speaker 1: I think it's almost too why I am so encouraging

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Speaker 1: But it is interesting because yeah, like I'm just starting.

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Speaker 1: Or you're yeah. I think for I am not one.

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Speaker 1: just like if something's bothering me, I just spew it

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Speaker 1: And I mean, it's no secret I have not been

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Speaker 1: I'm in you know, the situation that I'm in is

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Speaker 1: not it's not just it's not the easiest of circumstance,

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Speaker 2: Because I mean, I think when you're in a relationship,

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Speaker 2: it takes both people working on themselves so that they

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Speaker 1: Heavy, you know, Welcome, happy fun day, Welcome to the

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Speaker 1: therapy session of the week. Hope everybody's doing okay, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know.

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Speaker 2: It's just an introspective weekend for sure. I know.

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Speaker 1: And I like, I did Matthew Hussey's retreat, so that

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Speaker 1: So that kind of was like what I really needed.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know, so on the up.

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Speaker 2: We're on the up here at scrubbing in. Oh, by

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Speaker 1: Not necessarily that what Like, I don't mind being the

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Speaker 2: Right? But I think major, I'll pee on you.

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Speaker 2: I think it's a mental thing then, that you're peeing

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Speaker 4: I like the idea of the time you're ad edition

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Speaker 1: For sure, I've done with the gym before you did

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Speaker 1: Don't you remember Mark? This was some he was at

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there was so many guys in Tanya's life for

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Speaker 1: However, however, because you know, Tanya had to get in

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Speaker 1: So what we're doing is the first one hundred scrubbers

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Speaker 1: People's Choice Award Best Pop Pop, Best Pop Put Podcast.

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Speaker 1: Your ticket is on us. So all you have to

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Speaker 2: That was a great thank you. Just so you know,

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Speaker 2: the date is November thirteenth, which is a Friday Friday,

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Speaker 1: I've been needing a manle lately. Actually, yeah, yeah, I'd

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Speaker 1: Sorry, that was not even I'm not even trying to

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Speaker 2: It's just everything you say gets so like weirdly passionate.

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Speaker 2: So go vote for us for best pop podcast. Tag

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Speaker 2: us into photos with hashtag Scrubber's Choice and hashtag contest,

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Speaker 2: and follow scrubbing and pod and we literally cannot wait

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then we're and then following shortly after it

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Speaker 1: I'm on the up you know, I'm on the up

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Okay? It was my second vision board, and I am

441
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:22,719
Speaker 2: still like I would need to find that first one

442
00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:24,439
Speaker 2: because I would like to see what's happened.

443
00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:26,159
Speaker 1: I don't know if you actually, like, I know, we

444
00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:28,439
Speaker 1: did it together. I definitely made one. I don't know

445
00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:29,880
Speaker 1: if you like, actually did it.

446
00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 2: I don't think I did. Okay, So I made my

447
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:35,159
Speaker 2: first vision board by myself, this at the beginning of

448
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:38,320
Speaker 2: twenty twenty. Little did I know what was coming. But still,

449
00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:43,080
Speaker 2: when we were I made one with Hailey and when

450
00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:45,639
Speaker 2: we were doing the vision boards. We just were, you know,

451
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:48,080
Speaker 2: cutting out magazines and one of them was a travel

452
00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:51,080
Speaker 2: magazine and there was this cabin in the woods and

453
00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:52,919
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, that place looks amazing.

454
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:55,280
Speaker 2: I'd love to stay somewhere like that. And I had

455
00:21:55,280 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 2: no idea where it was located or anything. So the

456
00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:03,960
Speaker 2: other day we had just Haley and I had just

457
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 2: finished working out and she brings over my vision board

458
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,639
Speaker 2: and she goes, look at this house that's on your

459
00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 2: vision board, and so I was like, I looked at

460
00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,480
Speaker 2: it and I was like, that's that's the house that

461
00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 2: we just stayed in Vermont. So we I had no idea.

462
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 2: I've always wanted to go to Vermont in the fall.

463
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,879
Speaker 2: It's been like my dream because of the leaves and

464
00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:28,760
Speaker 2: it just looks magical. And this year I was so

465
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 2: ready to get out of the la heat and go

466
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:33,680
Speaker 2: get some fall crisp air and we found this amazing

467
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:35,880
Speaker 2: cabin and the whole time we were like, how did

468
00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:38,679
Speaker 2: we How was that available for us? Because it was

469
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:40,520
Speaker 2: basically booked out for the rest of the year, and

470
00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:43,280
Speaker 2: it just happened. It was like the busiest weekend in

471
00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:47,160
Speaker 2: Vermont or in Stow that weekend, and we were so

472
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:49,639
Speaker 2: excited that we got that that place was open for

473
00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 2: the time that we were going to be there. It

474
00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 2: was the exact same cabin that I put on my

475
00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 2: vision board.

476
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Speaker 1: Like it's not even that it was. It looked kind

477
00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:01,120
Speaker 1: of like it or like it. It was the exact

478
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 1: cabin you stayed in, which is quite insane.

479
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,240
Speaker 2: And I had no idea, like I know, and your vision.

480
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,080
Speaker 1: Board isn't like like my vision board is up in

481
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 1: my kitchen. I see it every single day, like yours

482
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 1: isn't just like out for display. You made it and

483
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:17,359
Speaker 1: you put it away and you don't look at it often.

484
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:19,200
Speaker 1: So it wasn't just like an image that you had

485
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,240
Speaker 1: when you were like, you know, googling where to stay

486
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:21,680
Speaker 1: or whatever.

487
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, So when we I didn't even find it, Laura

488
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 2: found it. And so when I literally felt I felt

489
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:31,280
Speaker 2: like I was levitating, I was like, what else can

490
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:33,479
Speaker 2: I manifest for my life?

491
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:37,400
Speaker 1: Isn't that wild? That's why I make them all the time,

492
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:40,440
Speaker 1: because it's like there's just something so like when it happens,

493
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 1: you're it's like this weird feeling where you're like, oh,

494
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 1: I know, my gosh.

495
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:48,480
Speaker 2: It really put It made me realize the significance of

496
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 2: putting things out there and writing them down and creating

497
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 2: these things where you're saying, I want this for my life.

498
00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 1: And I also think though too, it's like some some

499
00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:59,200
Speaker 1: things that I've put on my vision board maybe five

500
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:01,560
Speaker 1: years ago may have just happened this year, do you

501
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 1: know what I mean? I think sometimes it's important too

502
00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: that they're like, it's not all going to happen that year.

503
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:07,880
Speaker 1: That's what you want, you know, you put that down,

504
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 1: but it's not necessarily just gonna happen right then and there.

505
00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:12,480
Speaker 2: I also put make a million dollars on there, which

506
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 2: has not happened.

507
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:15,560
Speaker 1: The year's not over.

508
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 2: Next months have some big plans for me financially. But

509
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 2: I even at this point was wanting to, like, during

510
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 2: this reset of how I'm feeling and wanting to be

511
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:30,120
Speaker 2: motivated again, was thinking about making a vision board of like,

512
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:32,159
Speaker 2: you know, people are things I want to do and

513
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:35,080
Speaker 2: work and who I want to work with and just goals.

514
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:41,160
Speaker 2: Because it really I can even tell you the feeling

515
00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 2: I had when the realization hit it was the coolest thing.

516
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 1: That's crazy for all those who.

517
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:49,439
Speaker 2: Are like me, who are not like a Tanya and

518
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:51,520
Speaker 2: have had kind of just like roll your eyes when

519
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 2: we talk about vision boards. I'm a believer. Now it happened.

520
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:58,479
Speaker 1: I don't actually want to revisit my old ones and

521
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 1: just see what's like come, you know, yeah, like from

522
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 1: my old like old ones.

523
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 2: Yeah. And one of the other things was like optimize

524
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:10,679
Speaker 2: my health. And I've like, you know, been focusing on

525
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:12,920
Speaker 2: working out three times a week. It's just like little

526
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 2: things here that I put down as like goals, and

527
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 2: I've accomplished some of them. So it's been cool. Cool.

528
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 2: There's so much power for anyone else Easton Mark.

529
00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 3: The question is do we do these things because we

530
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 3: do not.

531
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,359
Speaker 2: Have you ever written down goals or like things that

532
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 2: you want to see happen? And it's no.

533
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 6: I write down things that I need to do today,

534
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:37,719
Speaker 6: and then I cross them off the list and then

535
00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:38,120
Speaker 6: I throw it.

536
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:38,360
Speaker 2: In the ground.

537
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 1: That's called the to do list that I do it.

538
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:42,880
Speaker 2: To do list, okay, to do list.

539
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 5: I don't write anything down. But something I heard.

540
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:48,360
Speaker 4: I heard an interview with the guy like fifteen years ago,

541
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 4: and he was talking about like, you know, like things

542
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 4: you can do that take less than five minutes to

543
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 4: like motivate you or like change your life. And one

544
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,879
Speaker 4: of them was when you're picturing a goal, you don't

545
00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:01,920
Speaker 4: picture like the achievement of the goal. You picture something

546
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 4: very a very specific moment. So it's like instead of

547
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:06,639
Speaker 4: when like I'm going to be a doctor someday, you

548
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:08,960
Speaker 4: think about like how it's going to feel getting your

549
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 4: medical degree, like like like actually them handing you the

550
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 4: degree in graduating and seeing everyone wearing the cap and

551
00:26:14,400 --> 00:26:16,880
Speaker 4: gown and stuff like that. And that's something I've done

552
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,400
Speaker 4: a lot in my life, and it's it's been very

553
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:21,439
Speaker 4: helpful for me. Like a lot of those very small

554
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 4: moments ended up coming true, like getting a fake crown

555
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 4: from a movie theater. That was something that I wanted

556
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 4: and it happened. Yeah, Like, in all seriousness, I did

557
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:35,679
Speaker 4: visualize that happening and happened. But uh, stuff like that.

558
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,359
Speaker 4: So I don't like, I don't make a physical vision board,

559
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 4: but I think I do a version of it.

560
00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:43,680
Speaker 2: You do a mind right.

561
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 5: It's all up here.

562
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:49,320
Speaker 2: I don't think that's that brain's got a lie in there.

563
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:52,880
Speaker 6: I've done a lot of visualizing, and I don't think

564
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 6: any of the things I've visualized have ever come true.

565
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 2: But maybe you should. Maybe yours doesn't work through your

566
00:26:58,280 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 2: thoughts and you need to write it down.

567
00:26:59,920 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 6: I take comfort in that because I know I'm not psychic,

568
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 6: so then if I have a really negative thought, I

569
00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 6: know that won't come true either.

570
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 2: So this I just realized. It's happened to me before.

571
00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 2: But it wasn't a vision board. I wrote down when

572
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 2: I was working at the chiropractor's office in San Diego.

573
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 2: This is before Bachelor and everything. I wrote that I

574
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 2: wanted to travel the world, and they were the instructor

575
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:24,320
Speaker 2: was just like literally right down, whether it feels achievable

576
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 2: or not, right down, just anything, And I wrote that

577
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,240
Speaker 2: I wanted to travel the world, and like shortly after that,

578
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,120
Speaker 2: I got the call to go on The Bachelor, which

579
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 2: ironically we stayed in the US the whole time, except

580
00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:38,160
Speaker 2: for we did go to Bali. But after that, being

581
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:40,760
Speaker 2: on the show, I've had the opportunity to travel around

582
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 2: the world. And I was like, that's so crazy, because

583
00:27:43,280 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 2: I wrote that down with the intention of like this

584
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 2: feels far fetch, but they said, you know, put it

585
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 2: down there. And it was always my goal. I would

586
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 2: always have a background of like somewhere magical that I

587
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 2: wanted to see on my computer, and those were all

588
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:59,919
Speaker 2: my pinned like Pinterest boards were like travel site.

589
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:03,119
Speaker 1: So I know Pinterest. I never got into Pinterest, but

590
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: it feels like such a Tanya thing. Yeah, I'm shocked,

591
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 1: I know, Brad. Brad's always just like, how do you

592
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,440
Speaker 1: not have a Pinterest board? And I'm like, I know.

593
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 2: Like your whole life you would have like organized into

594
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 2: Pinterest boards. You don't have one.

595
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:21,760
Speaker 1: Take up a lot of time. Well, maybe get me

596
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: out of my thoughts right now.

597
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, maybe start one.

598
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:24,359
Speaker 4: Now.

599
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 2: Could we do some emails when we come back, because

600
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,240
Speaker 2: I feel like I just love when people write in

601
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 2: and ask for our advice for sure. Okay, great, we'll

602
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:36,880
Speaker 2: take a break and we'll be right back with some emails.

603
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 2: All right, we're back, And just so you know, I

604
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 2: know that I tease Chris Carmack that he was going

605
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 2: to be on today's episode, but it's actually next next

606
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 2: week's episode, so get to talk to him and his

607
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 2: wife Aaron, and they're just the cutest, So get excited

608
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 2: for that.

609
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 1: If you're wondering who is Chris Carmack, you may know

610
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:16,000
Speaker 1: him as Link, an orthopedic surgeon from Grace Lawn Memorial

611
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 1: and The Orthopedic Surgeon.

612
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 2: Right yeah, And also he was on Nashville and he

613
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 2: was on The o C, which I was gonna. I

614
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 2: don't know if you remember him from the OC, but

615
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 2: I do know some iconic TV shows.

616
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 1: I watched The o C. Who was he on the OC?

617
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 2: He was like Marissa's boyfriend, Like while she was she

618
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 2: was like, you know, going be she was dating him

619
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 2: in the first season.

620
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 3: Oh right, right, I don't like that.

621
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 6: I don't like thinking of the Grays actors in any other.

622
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 3: Shows I know.

623
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 1: I don't like that either. He's Link to me.

624
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 3: He was Luke.

625
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 2: He was Luke and move from from.

626
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:55,719
Speaker 1: Luke to Link. That should be his memoir. Oh I

627
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 1: wonder how old he was when he did the OC.

628
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 3: He looks fantastic, if I do say so myself.

629
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 1: I I don't agree. It looks like a bucking twenty two.

630
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:10,360
Speaker 2: Two thousand and three through two thousand and eight. He

631
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 2: was on the OC Son, so he was probably twenty,

632
00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 2: like twenty twenty three.

633
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 1: All right, something like that great career.

634
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 2: I also I started Vampire Diaries.

635
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 3: How timely anyone watched?

636
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 2: Huh?

637
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 3: How timely have you?

638
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 1: Why it show ended like ten years ago, but honestly,

639
00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: that's what everybody's doing now. Everybody's like going back and

640
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 1: watching all the old yeah, like One Tree Hill and stuff.

641
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, And everyone talks about how amazing Vampire Diaries is,

642
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 2: And so I was like that show.

643
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 1: Was beyond it's time, Like it was something that wasn't

644
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 1: at that time, didn't really exist, you know what I mean.

645
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 2: Well, wasn't it around the same time as Twilight? It

646
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 2: was like a vamp you remember the vampire? Yeah, big deal.

647
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:11,520
Speaker 2: And also on another night, I started Breaking Bad, which

648
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 2: is very very time.

649
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 3: That's one of my favorites.

650
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean every I feel like everyone's always talked

651
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 2: about how amazing it is. It's really good, but it's

652
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 2: so it's weirdly intense, but there's this underlying humor. Yeah,

653
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 2: they're amazing.

654
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 3: After you're done with that, go to Better Call Saul.

655
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: Because it's it's oh, yeah, I did enjoy that.

656
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 2: You watch better I didn't watch Better Call Salt?

657
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 1: What did I watch?

658
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:39,320
Speaker 2: What did I watch?

659
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 4: It would be a very tiny mood to watch Better

660
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 4: Call Saul and not Breaking Back.

661
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 1: No, No, it was the one Bill hater Arry Arry great? Right, Yeah, yeah, yeah, sorry,

662
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 1: mix that up here.

663
00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 2: I just found I find Breaking Bad so interesting because

664
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 2: it's this man who you feel so much empathy for

665
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 2: going through something so devastatingly serious, and he's just in

666
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:13,200
Speaker 2: this impossible situation with this idiot kid who can't get

667
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 2: it together, and I have a feeling he's gonna drive

668
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 2: me crazy the whole series.

669
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 6: I'm not gonna say, Tonny, do you know the basic premise.

670
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 3: Of Breaking Bad?

671
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 1: It's like a cocaine dealer or something.

672
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 6: He's a genius chemistry teacher, high school chemistry teacher, brilliant guy,

673
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 6: and is diagnosed with cancer and he realizes, crap, I'm

674
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 6: a teacher at a high school.

675
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 3: I got nothing to leave my family.

676
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 6: And then he realizes, as a brilliant chemist, I could

677
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:41,160
Speaker 6: make the greatest crystal mess in the world. And so

678
00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 6: he recruits this high school kid who he knows the

679
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 6: drug dealer, and they start working on that together so

680
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 6: he'll have something to leave his family.

681
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 1: Sounds right up my alley.

682
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 2: No, you probably you've surprised me with some of the

683
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 2: things you like, so I feel like you'd like it.

684
00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, what are you watching with Redstar right now?

685
00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:03,560
Speaker 1: Is that's true? And it's so good. God, I did

686
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 1: it think of any of No, it's the movie. It's

687
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 1: The Little Dickie Show.

688
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 3: That's not.

689
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 1: The way I think, but it's I think the reason

690
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 1: I like it is because it's about Little Dickie's life

691
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 1: and he's a musician, So that side of it I'm

692
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 1: really enjoying, not so much the male humor.

693
00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:23,720
Speaker 4: There's a lot of like pop music in it and

694
00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 4: stuff like that. I think you're I mean, you've met

695
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 4: most of these people, so.

696
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's what I'm enjoying.

697
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 6: About, speaking of those people that you enjoy so much.

698
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,880
Speaker 6: Your thoughts on Bieber on Saturday Night Live this weekend.

699
00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 1: I thought it was great.

700
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 3: You didn't see it, No, I didn't, all right.

701
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 6: I feel like a lot of people are talking about

702
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 6: his the Lonely performance.

703
00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like the song. I like the song. I

704
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 1: like holy a lot.

705
00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 2: Well what are they talking I saw the performance. What

706
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 2: are they talking about about?

707
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:53,400
Speaker 3: Just how emotional and raw it was?

708
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean it was. I feel like he.

709
00:33:57,640 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 3: I think Tanya's kind of done with Justin Bieber, though

710
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 3: I respect that.

711
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 1: It's not that I'm done.

712
00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 3: I've been waiting for this day for a long time.

713
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 1: Actually, no, that day is not here. I am a

714
00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: Justin bieber Stan. But yeah, I didn't like it. Didn't

715
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:17,879
Speaker 1: it didn't move me to didn't shake me to my core.

716
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 5: Okay, you like Holy better than lonely though, right? Is

717
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 5: that what?

718
00:34:22,400 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 2: I like that too? I like Holy too. I was

719
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 2: dressed up like a dude yesterday for like a Halloween

720
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:32,759
Speaker 2: thing with Ali, and I posted that I thought it

721
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 2: looked like Justin bieber and the amount I have never

722
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 2: gotten so many compliments about how I look looked well, handsome,

723
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:43,520
Speaker 2: more than I did when I was dressed as a

724
00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:46,360
Speaker 2: guy yesterday and everyone was saying I looked like Dean

725
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 2: and he was like, I hate I hate that.

726
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:53,879
Speaker 1: Thanks, I hate that.

727
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 2: And I was like, you know what, just take the

728
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:57,719
Speaker 2: compliment and move on.

729
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:00,920
Speaker 1: That's so weird. I had a Dean thing happened to

730
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:06,359
Speaker 1: me yesterday too. No, No, I was ordering and how

731
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 1: weird is this? I was ordering a new filter for

732
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 1: my shower and I ordered it and it said ship

733
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:15,320
Speaker 1: to Dean Anglert with like his all of his information.

734
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: I was like, did I ever send him a hair filter? Shows?

735
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 2: Like, guy, you're like a weird little crush on him.

736
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 2: Maybe I could say, that's a very tall thing.

737
00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:29,560
Speaker 1: It was so weird. I was like, no, please don't

738
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 1: ship to our bill.

739
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 2: To Dean Angler, such response was even funnier than I thought.

740
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 2: I said, everyone said I look like you, and he goes,

741
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 2: that's the worst news I've gotten all of twenty TV.

742
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:44,720
Speaker 2: Should I be offended by that? No, Like, it's my face.

743
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you're a woman.

744
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, But all I did was that some facial air

745
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 2: and a wig.

746
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I would look like a dude if I

747
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:53,239
Speaker 1: did that too.

748
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 3: But you're telling him he looks like a woman in drag.

749
00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:58,720
Speaker 5: He has very feminine features.

750
00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 2: He does say that, Yeah, he's beautiful. He's a beautiful man.

751
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:06,399
Speaker 1: Do you have feminine features he has?

752
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 4: Like his eyes are yeah, pull up, soft nose, his

753
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 4: kind eyes, that mile along smile.

754
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 6: It is so funny that he and Tanya went to

755
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:19,319
Speaker 6: a concert and Tanya was kind of feeling out that

756
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 6: whole situation.

757
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:24,439
Speaker 1: I know, it's the most bizarre thing.

758
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:30,440
Speaker 2: You know, Tanya is a romantic and she saw the

759
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 2: love story happening as the bad boy who couldn't settle

760
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 2: down falling in love with her, as the good girl

761
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:38,799
Speaker 2: looking for love.

762
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 1: And the one that was always just like you know,

763
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:42,320
Speaker 1: I want to ask you out, and you always just

764
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: put me in the friend category. So I was like, okay,

765
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: like I'll jump.

766
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 2: Let's jump together.

767
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:54,239
Speaker 1: Let's jump together. Could not be more opposite of what.

768
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:57,400
Speaker 2: Imagine you know, he has really found his match because

769
00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:03,800
Speaker 2: imagine you in a van no.

770
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:04,319
Speaker 1: No, like no routine of my day. I'd be like,

771
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:07,400
Speaker 1: so we just wake up. We just wake up when

772
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 1: we want to wake up, Like what, No? Thanks?

773
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:12,920
Speaker 2: I love Dean, but he I think Kaylin is his

774
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 2: match and I think he was not your friend and

775
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 2: I'm his twin.

776
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:21,920
Speaker 1: I kind of see it actually in this photo.

777
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:25,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm telling it. Well, okay, like everyone always said

778
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 2: we looked like brother and sister.

779
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:29,000
Speaker 3: I think it's the eyes.

780
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:31,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the eyes. It's the eyes.

781
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 2: So anyways, that was true for it was his worst

782
00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:37,880
Speaker 2: moment of twenty twenty. It was one of my better moments.

783
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, So shout out to Dean Anglert just really just

784
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: for being a beautiful man human that we just love

785
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:43,959
Speaker 1: so much. Yeah.

786
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, if you want to find if you're up in

787
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 4: a moment with Dean, you should listen to There's a

788
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 4: recent help I Second Dating where Dean didn't show up,

789
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 4: and he went golfing and said, it's very funny.

790
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:52,879
Speaker 3: Oh that was good.

791
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:56,799
Speaker 4: You just forget no, he knew, he knew.

792
00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 2: That's very dean, very dean like.

793
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:02,240
Speaker 6: Them at noon and he said like, oh my gosh,

794
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 6: word f Ward, I'm so far from being available. Oh no,

795
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:07,759
Speaker 6: like you know, and then he forgot that he had

796
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:10,399
Speaker 6: shared his location with me. So after like a half

797
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 6: an hour of waiting for him to jump on, I

798
00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:14,319
Speaker 6: checked my fine my friends, and I see that he's

799
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:17,880
Speaker 6: at a golf course in Arupa, California. So I texted

800
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,759
Speaker 6: him and said, anyway you could, you know, duck into

801
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 6: the pro shop and get on this.

802
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 3: And he goes pro Shop, What are you talking about?

803
00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:26,840
Speaker 3: I said, I see you in a golf course. He said, oops,

804
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 3: that's so good, and then he did jump on.

805
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 4: That's that podcast In months.

806
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:36,920
Speaker 2: I was gonna I was gonna say, I mean, that

807
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:40,320
Speaker 2: is a great story for a podcast, like a great

808
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:42,400
Speaker 2: moment for a podcast. That Mark was the one to

809
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 2: discover his location.

810
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 6: The episode, which I believe Easton came up with the title,

811
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 6: so you should seek it out, is Denunglit's Day Off.

812
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's good?

813
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:55,360
Speaker 2: Is that? Did he share his location with you for

814
00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 2: that reason, so kind of like how I did with Tanya,

815
00:38:58,280 --> 00:38:59,920
Speaker 2: just to be held accountable.

816
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:02,239
Speaker 6: No, I think it was just a goofy thing we

817
00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 6: were talking about one day on the show.

818
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 4: Like Jared shared his with mine and Dean shared his

819
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:09,200
Speaker 4: with Mark. Dean can see mine, but I can't see his.

820
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 4: I'd like to point out that's that's that's where we're at.

821
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 6: Y Ian Wells Adams, we have the same thing.

822
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:18,240
Speaker 1: That's so funny.

823
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 3: All right, who wants to answer some emails?

824
00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 2: Let's do it only Becca?

825
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 3: Okay?

826
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 1: Oh, well, the first one's kind of a hum dinger.

827
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 6: Like I, I don't I have a hard time with

828
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 6: both of these, to be honest with you. Actually, the

829
00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 6: second one's pretty easy. But uh, first one from Laura Tough.

830
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:35,399
Speaker 6: My boyfriend and I have been together about a year.

831
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:37,359
Speaker 6: We just got out of a small apartment and moved

832
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 6: into a three bedroom, two bathroom house. I was so

833
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 6: excited to have a guest room, so when my family's

834
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 6: in town, my mom has a room to stay in.

835
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 3: I can so relate to what she just said.

836
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 6: Having a guest room for the first time in new

837
00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 6: life is glorious.

838
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 3: Truly, we've barely been there a week.

839
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 6: His best friend came over one night and my boyfriend

840
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 6: called me outside and his best friend asked if he

841
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:59,279
Speaker 6: could move in with us. I can't stand being put

842
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 6: on the spot already ever hurt someone's feelings, so I

843
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 6: said yes. I'm more upset with my boyfriend because he

844
00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:05,560
Speaker 6: should have pulled me to the side or had a

845
00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:08,399
Speaker 6: conversation privately. Now I feel like I would be looked

846
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:10,840
Speaker 6: at as the bad guy for saying no when I

847
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:11,879
Speaker 6: already said yes.

848
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 3: What would be a nice but serious.

849
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:17,239
Speaker 6: Way I can approach my boyfriend about my mixed feelings.

850
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 2: This is something I would do, so I feel my

851
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:24,840
Speaker 2: stomach dropped when I read the when I was reading

852
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:29,480
Speaker 2: the email with you, I am the worst when I'm

853
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 2: put on the spot of being like the nice person,

854
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 2: of doing something like even I remember when I moved

855
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 2: into my first place without I wasn't going to have

856
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 2: a roommate for the first time, and my sisters were

857
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 2: moving back to LA or something and they needed a

858
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 2: place to stay, and I, of course, you know, I

859
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:49,760
Speaker 2: want to take care of them, especially as their older sister.

860
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, sure, And I remember thinking

861
00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 2: like I have been so excited to live by myself

862
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 2: this whole time and to have an extra room in

863
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:05,439
Speaker 2: my own space. And obviously it worked out fine because

864
00:41:05,440 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 2: they're family and it wasn't that awkward thing. But I

865
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 2: totally relate to this. I would pull your boy I

866
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 2: would have a serious conversation with your boyfriend and say, hey,

867
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 2: I've been thinking about this and I'm just feeling really

868
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 2: uncomfortable about your friend moving in with us. Like I

869
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 2: wanted this to be our time. I wanted to have

870
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:27,279
Speaker 2: that guest room open for people to come visit in

871
00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 2: and out, not someone to stay there permanently, you know,

872
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:33,719
Speaker 2: long periods of time. Just say I felt really put

873
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 2: on the spot the other day, and I said yes

874
00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 2: out of you know, wanting to be nice and not

875
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 2: wanting to upset anybody. But I really don't feel comfortable

876
00:41:40,640 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 2: with it, and I really want you to be you know,

877
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:47,040
Speaker 2: I want I want this to be like a partner decision.

878
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 1: See, I feel like she already said yes, So Cherty

879
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: said yes.

880
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:51,920
Speaker 2: He hasn't moved in.

881
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:57,360
Speaker 1: But I think that I think that you can kind

882
00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 1: of say, look, I felt put on the spot. You

883
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 1: have to tell him. If you don't tell him, you're

884
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:03,320
Speaker 1: just gonna fester, and it's going to blow up in

885
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:05,880
Speaker 1: a different way. I think you should say. Look, I

886
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:07,319
Speaker 1: thought I was put on the spot. I know, I

887
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:11,399
Speaker 1: said your friend could live here. I don't really want that.

888
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: But if he needs somewhere to stay, then he can

889
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: stay here for six months.

890
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 2: But like six okay, No, I would say, just give.

891
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 1: Him a timeline and just be like after six months, like,

892
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,440
Speaker 1: let's like he should needs to find somewhere else to stay,

893
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 1: maybe three months. Whatever you guys agree on. I don't know.

894
00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:31,359
Speaker 2: Okay, I think that's super generous, but I think that

895
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 2: this is best friend.

896
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:38,360
Speaker 1: Like if okay, you and ninety five P move into

897
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:43,640
Speaker 1: a house and I am just rattled and rocked and

898
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:47,400
Speaker 1: I I sleep in your guest bedroom and I'm just like,

899
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 1: I haven't I don't know where to go, I don't

900
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 1: have any Can I live here? And you ask ninety

901
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:55,479
Speaker 1: five P and you're both like yes, And then ninety

902
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:57,879
Speaker 1: five P comes and says, I really don't want Tanya

903
00:42:57,920 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 1: staying here. I would say, hey, I you kicked me

904
00:43:02,080 --> 00:43:02,759
Speaker 1: out the next day?

905
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:05,279
Speaker 2: No, but I'm not. I didn't say I would kick

906
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:06,760
Speaker 2: you out the next day, but I would say, hey,

907
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:09,439
Speaker 2: if you need to stay here for like I would say,

908
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:13,319
Speaker 2: a month and figure things out. That's plenty of time

909
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 2: for someone to figure out a different situation.

910
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:18,040
Speaker 1: I'd say two. We're in a pandemic.

911
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 6: Look, my first thought was to give it a deadline too.

912
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 6: But he's moving in, he's not staying. Can I stay

913
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 6: with you for a little while. It's different than can

914
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:27,759
Speaker 6: I move in with you.

915
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 1: Don't know the circumstance.

916
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:31,279
Speaker 6: What if he doesn't matter? It doesn't matter he's moving in.

917
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 6: It's not Can I just crash on your couch for

918
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 6: a couple of weeks? Then you put a deadline on it?

919
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 6: But I'm moving in. I think you go to your

920
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:39,800
Speaker 6: boyfriend and you say, look, you put me on the spot.

921
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 6: I'm not going to be the bad girl in this situation.

922
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:44,960
Speaker 6: This is your situation. You got us into this, Now

923
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:47,719
Speaker 6: you get us out of this. I'm not It's not

924
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:49,719
Speaker 6: going to be on me. You figure this out. But

925
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 6: he is not living here.

926
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 2: Did you say it's your situation?

927
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 3: I didn't, but I wish I had.

928
00:43:56,400 --> 00:44:01,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I heard that, yem, Yeah, I think I agree.

929
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 2: I don't think it's I don't think it's fair that

930
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,760
Speaker 2: this is put on her it's not her best friend.

931
00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 2: It's her living with two guys. Two guys now, which

932
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:12,400
Speaker 2: is like not what she's like, doubt that's what she

933
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:15,400
Speaker 2: had the possession for her mom. That's what her vision was.

934
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 2: And now she has her boyfriend's best friend crashing there,

935
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 2: gonna be in the kitchen, in the living.

936
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 3: Room, it's her, it's their first house.

937
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:26,279
Speaker 2: I know I would say, hey, I agree with Mark,

938
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 2: like you, this is your buddy. I don't want to

939
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 2: be the bad guy here, but I don't feel comfortable

940
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:32,920
Speaker 2: with this. And if it comes to y'all agreeing on

941
00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 2: like the time limit that works for you and you

942
00:44:36,080 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 2: feel like you can make it through that time limit,

943
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 2: give them that opportunity. But I think the six month

944
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 2: idea is way too generous.

945
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 3: And is he living rent free? And is he paying utilities?

946
00:44:49,239 --> 00:44:49,880
Speaker 3: Is he doing anything?

947
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 2: That's what I was gonna say. Also, is he gonna

948
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:54,320
Speaker 2: split it? Is it gonna be split three ways to

949
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 2: where y'all are actually benefiting from him living there? Or

950
00:44:57,719 --> 00:45:00,319
Speaker 2: is it this like a favor of like, hey, he's

951
00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 2: gonna crash here. Let me just say some resentment will

952
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 2: build if he stays there.

953
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 6: It does not end well. I don't think this ends

954
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 6: well at all. Tanya's friendly, er and more generous than

955
00:45:13,640 --> 00:45:15,839
Speaker 6: I am. I don't want anybody under my roof. That's

956
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 6: I mean.

957
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:18,640
Speaker 2: I would have a conversation with ninety five p if

958
00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:21,160
Speaker 2: Tanya needed a place to move in for a certain

959
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 2: time and say, hey, I'd love to have you here.

960
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:26,839
Speaker 2: I realistically it can't be permanent, but when you if

961
00:45:26,880 --> 00:45:29,120
Speaker 2: you need to get back on your feet, like I'm

962
00:45:29,120 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 2: your best friend, I'm going to help you out right.

963
00:45:30,960 --> 00:45:33,800
Speaker 1: I feel like we're just like missing that what happened

964
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:36,799
Speaker 1: like to this man that he needs to live with them,

965
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I feel like we're missing

966
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:38,840
Speaker 1: that piece of the puzzle.

967
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 2: But I still don't think it should be put on her.

968
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 6: No. Also, guy best friends are different than girl best friends.

969
00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:45,400
Speaker 3: Girl best friends.

970
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:48,320
Speaker 6: Are like sisters. Guys have guys are friends with losers.

971
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:50,880
Speaker 6: There's always losers in the bunch, and this is one

972
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 6: of the losers. I'm telling you, girls are different than guys,

973
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:55,280
Speaker 6: and I feel like girls.

974
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 2: It's so true though, I'm like, you know, if I

975
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 2: moved in with someone, I would spend even when I

976
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:02,759
Speaker 2: had a roommate, I felt like I spent majority of

977
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:06,720
Speaker 2: my time in my room rather than like just taking

978
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 2: over the living room and kitchen.

979
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 6: You know.

980
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 1: The guy girl dynamic with friends though, is very interesting

981
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:15,520
Speaker 1: because I recently had this picture picture, this conversation with

982
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:18,880
Speaker 1: Red Star about I was like, who is your best friend?

983
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:23,880
Speaker 1: You know? And he's like mm hmmm, like, well I

984
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 1: have something that like I have no longer. This is

985
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 1: just you know what I mean, Like these ones are

986
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 1: the ones I've known the longest since like childhood, and

987
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 1: then these are the ones that I went to this

988
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:34,520
Speaker 1: with and I'm like a question. But it's just different.

989
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:35,800
Speaker 1: It's like a totally different dynamic.

990
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:38,319
Speaker 3: Different, and they all have nicknames like probably I'll go

991
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 3: or the Stink.

992
00:46:39,840 --> 00:46:40,800
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah.

993
00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 6: No, And that's what I'm saying. He's going to move

994
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 6: the stink into the house. Guys friends are embarrassments. Girls

995
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:51,920
Speaker 6: friends are like they're best friends, but guys are just like,

996
00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 6: oh yeah, that's just him.

997
00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:59,719
Speaker 1: He's like that So interesting, Sure, okay, so good to know.

998
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:02,760
Speaker 2: When and Red Stars bff needs to move in, you'll

999
00:47:02,800 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 2: have him there for six months, pick up after him,

1000
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 2: do his chores.

1001
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 3: Well, it's all bad.

1002
00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:09,879
Speaker 6: He's not doing anything with sitting on that couch all

1003
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 6: day every day and drinking.

1004
00:47:12,680 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 3: Okay, this is from Lauren.

1005
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 6: About a year and a half ago, I embraced the

1006
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,239
Speaker 6: modern woman lifestyle and told my ex, who had been

1007
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 6: in my life for ten years, he needed to stay

1008
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:23,400
Speaker 6: out of my life. He was pretty bad to me

1009
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:26,680
Speaker 6: all those years. Then came November. I wasn't looking for

1010
00:47:26,719 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 6: a relationship at all, and then my current boyfriend entered

1011
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:31,920
Speaker 6: my life. I'm now in the most healthy relationship I

1012
00:47:31,920 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 6: didn't even think was possible.

1013
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:34,840
Speaker 3: Fast forward to this week.

1014
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 6: My boyfriend and I were laying in bed and my

1015
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:39,400
Speaker 6: best friend called me and told me she was bartending

1016
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 6: when my ex's brother came in and dropped the bomb

1017
00:47:42,840 --> 00:47:45,520
Speaker 6: that my ex boyfriend is going to be a dad.

1018
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 6: He knocked up his very new girlfriend. After getting off

1019
00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 6: the phone, my boyfriend asked me what happened, so I

1020
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 6: told him. We started chatting about it, and I mentioned

1021
00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:55,680
Speaker 6: to him that I know my ex never wanted kids,

1022
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 6: especially at twenty five years old, and I hope he's

1023
00:47:58,000 --> 00:48:00,759
Speaker 6: doing okay. And then my boyfriend actually said to me,

1024
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:03,360
Speaker 6: you should reach out to him see if he's okay.

1025
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:07,359
Speaker 6: That took me by surprise. So the question is do

1026
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:11,360
Speaker 6: I reach out.

1027
00:48:10,200 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 2: First of all, let me just applaud your boyfriend for

1028
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:17,799
Speaker 2: being secure in y'all's relationship. That he said that he

1029
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,319
Speaker 2: was big enough to say you should reach out if you're,

1030
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:25,879
Speaker 2: you know, concerned about him in this situation. I don't

1031
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:29,239
Speaker 2: know if you reaching out does anything beneficial for the ex, Like,

1032
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:34,600
Speaker 2: I don't know if he needs to hear from you. Yeah,

1033
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:36,880
Speaker 2: but if it's something that's going to like keep eating

1034
00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 2: at you and you feel like you need to check

1035
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:40,680
Speaker 2: in because he was in your life for a decade,

1036
00:48:40,760 --> 00:48:43,520
Speaker 2: which is a significant amount of time, I would say

1037
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:46,400
Speaker 2: text him and say, hey, I heard the news that

1038
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 2: you're going to be a dad, and I you know,

1039
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:52,319
Speaker 2: I'm happy for you and just wanted to check in

1040
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:54,720
Speaker 2: and then.

1041
00:48:56,160 --> 00:49:00,360
Speaker 3: Heard possible comes out of that, right, So.

1042
00:49:00,360 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 1: Then he's gonna be like, thank you so much, we

1043
00:49:02,200 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 1: should get tea. And then you're like, I don't really

1044
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:05,640
Speaker 1: want to get tea.

1045
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 2: No, I just wanted to reach out and check on you.

1046
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 2: I don't want anything else from it.

1047
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:11,719
Speaker 6: You guys don't like guys at all. There's no guy

1048
00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:13,200
Speaker 6: who's going to ask her to tea?

1049
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:13,879
Speaker 3: What is that?

1050
00:49:15,239 --> 00:49:19,319
Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean you want to go get a drying Yeah?

1051
00:49:20,400 --> 00:49:23,279
Speaker 6: At best, I mean, he's gonna want to go he's

1052
00:49:23,280 --> 00:49:25,479
Speaker 6: going to try to make out with her. Look, there's

1053
00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:28,320
Speaker 6: all kinds of problems here, and I don't trust the boyfriend.

1054
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:29,839
Speaker 3: Honestly. I think that on.

1055
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:32,560
Speaker 6: Paper, that looks great, but there's something else there.

1056
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 3: There's an ulterior motive there. He's either testing you.

1057
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 1: Yep, I totally agree.

1058
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:39,880
Speaker 3: Oh no, let's confident.

1059
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:42,839
Speaker 2: Ninety five wanted to reach out to an X, and

1060
00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 2: I said go for it. There was no ulterior motive.

1061
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 2: It was just like, that's fine. If you feel like

1062
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:51,360
Speaker 2: you need to reach out because of the way things ended, whatever,

1063
00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 2: it fine.

1064
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 3: That's a good way to be and you're good for

1065
00:49:55,719 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 3: doing that.

1066
00:49:56,360 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 6: But you're also a woman, and I think it's different

1067
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 6: when a guy I does that.

1068
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:01,960
Speaker 3: There's ulterior motives.

1069
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:05,240
Speaker 6: It might be that the X is a total loser

1070
00:50:05,480 --> 00:50:09,239
Speaker 6: and he's like mister successful, wearing a tie, driving a

1071
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:12,120
Speaker 6: nice car, and he knows that there's no chance.

1072
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:14,200
Speaker 3: In fact, when she sees her loser.

1073
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:15,920
Speaker 6: Boyfriend who knocked up his girlfriend, it's even it's just

1074
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 6: gonna make him look better in her eyes.

1075
00:50:17,880 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 3: That's one possibility.

1076
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:21,319
Speaker 6: Or he's testing you and he doesn't want you to

1077
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:22,399
Speaker 6: do that, and he's hoping you don't.

1078
00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but only she.

1079
00:50:24,560 --> 00:50:26,840
Speaker 2: I mean, if you know, if she knows her boyfriend

1080
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 2: and how he's, how he is in their relationship, if

1081
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:34,400
Speaker 2: he's super secure in everything, then that wouldn't even be

1082
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:37,560
Speaker 2: like a red flag to her. If he's always like that,

1083
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:40,719
Speaker 2: where he's just confident and secure in their relationship, that's

1084
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:42,279
Speaker 2: not something that would throw her off.

1085
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 3: Perhaps, and that can be attractive too. I get that.

1086
00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:47,520
Speaker 2: And if it's unlike him, like if you're if you're

1087
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:50,799
Speaker 2: like what, then maybe it is like a hold up,

1088
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:52,080
Speaker 2: why are you doing? Why did you give me that?

1089
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 2: Why did you give me that? Pass?

1090
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:57,360
Speaker 6: Still, I say, nothing good comes from reaching out to

1091
00:50:57,400 --> 00:50:58,879
Speaker 6: the X zero yea we.

1092
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 2: I I every Okay, Ever, I'm the only one who says,

1093
00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 2: if it's.

1094
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 6: Not in your scenario, what good comes from it? What

1095
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 6: you say that she should reach out to him? What

1096
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:12,719
Speaker 6: good comes from doing that?

1097
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Speaker 2: She just she has it off her conscious?

1098
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:18,040
Speaker 5: Does she want to be the godmother or something like.

1099
00:51:19,520 --> 00:51:20,000
Speaker 1: Conscience?

1100
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, her conscience?

1101
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 2: Okay. Wait, so okay, you spend ten years with someone

1102
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 2: and all of a sudden there's supposed to be nothing

1103
00:51:29,120 --> 00:51:31,239
Speaker 2: to you when something significant happened, he was.

1104
00:51:31,200 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 4: Bad to her all those years she said it, all

1105
00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:36,280
Speaker 4: those Yeah, he was pretty bad to be those years.

1106
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:39,000
Speaker 1: She finally got the guts to leave it.

1107
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 2: I apologize I missed that line. He'll ever talk to

1108
00:51:45,320 --> 00:51:45,799
Speaker 2: dirt back.

1109
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like she finally got the courage to leave a

1110
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 1: bad situation. You leave the bad situation. You're going forward.

1111
00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:58,000
Speaker 1: Your road is going forward to the north. Going south

1112
00:51:58,360 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 1: just takes you back.

1113
00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:01,279
Speaker 3: You open that door again. You don't know what's going

1114
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 3: to come through it.

1115
00:52:02,239 --> 00:52:04,479
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I'm I'm I'm on the same page.

1116
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 1: It's like Monica Geller's closet.

1117
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:11,120
Speaker 2: Yeah whatever, Yeah, you know, yeah one the one that's locked,

1118
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:12,279
Speaker 2: don't unlock it.

1119
00:52:14,040 --> 00:52:15,280
Speaker 1: Bike's gonna hitch in the face.

1120
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:23,480
Speaker 2: Wow. That was a heated debate, you know, but it feels.

1121
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:26,399
Speaker 1: Good to be on the on the winning side of it.

1122
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:29,960
Speaker 2: And if she hadn't said I mean, I know this

1123
00:52:30,040 --> 00:52:32,799
Speaker 2: is a moot point because she did say it. But

1124
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:35,440
Speaker 2: if the part about him being bad to her, like,

1125
00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:37,640
Speaker 2: let's say it was great, would y'all still say don't

1126
00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:41,839
Speaker 2: reach out or if it was like it just ended, because.

1127
00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:43,880
Speaker 6: What I would still say don't reach out because I

1128
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:46,319
Speaker 6: don't I don't see what possible good comes out of that.

1129
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I would say maybe if they had a

1130
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:52,319
Speaker 1: death in the family and just like, hey, like, you

1131
00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:54,959
Speaker 1: don't mean I think maybe if there was, But having

1132
00:52:54,960 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 1: a having a child, like that's a blessing, like congrats,

1133
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:00,440
Speaker 1: Like he doesn't need your congrats. Like a baby he like,

1134
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:02,520
Speaker 1: who knows they broke up they should, she might have

1135
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:04,120
Speaker 1: changed her mind, she might have found the love of

1136
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 1: his life. And now he's like, I'm so happy to

1137
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 1: have this baby. And then the ex text him and

1138
00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:09,319
Speaker 1: she's like, I'm so sorry you're having a baby, and

1139
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:11,400
Speaker 1: he's like, if you I'm happy about this.

1140
00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:15,320
Speaker 2: I'm saying if something significant, like if something significant happened

1141
00:53:15,320 --> 00:53:18,200
Speaker 2: in Robert's life, I would reach out and say, hey,

1142
00:53:18,239 --> 00:53:20,040
Speaker 2: I just wanted to check in and see if you're okay,

1143
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 2: And it not mean anything other than I'm checking in

1144
00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:26,640
Speaker 2: because I well, first of all, I care, like we

1145
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:29,000
Speaker 2: were friends and then have this relationship, and I care

1146
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:30,920
Speaker 2: about him as a human being and want to see

1147
00:53:31,080 --> 00:53:31,880
Speaker 2: that he's okay.

1148
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:34,400
Speaker 6: Okay, and ninety five p might be cool with that,

1149
00:53:34,520 --> 00:53:36,719
Speaker 6: But how about Robert's partner, how are they going to

1150
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:37,440
Speaker 6: feel about that?

1151
00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 1: I don't know if I don't think ninety five p

1152
00:53:39,320 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 1: would be cool with that.

1153
00:53:40,200 --> 00:53:42,480
Speaker 2: Well, you throw that out there, I don't think so

1154
00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:43,879
Speaker 2: be right about that.

1155
00:53:44,239 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 3: So that's two relationships potentially hard.

1156
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:52,240
Speaker 2: But nine said, hey, you got the green light.

1157
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 6: Go, then how does Robert's partner feel about this? Correct,

1158
00:53:56,080 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 6: you don't know, you.

1159
00:53:57,040 --> 00:54:00,200
Speaker 2: Don't know, repectful, all right, all right, you know I'm

1160
00:54:00,239 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 2: very against disrespecting the current partner, So you're right. Okay, Fine,

1161
00:54:04,120 --> 00:54:07,680
Speaker 2: We've come to the conclusion that, under no circumstance you

1162
00:54:07,719 --> 00:54:08,640
Speaker 2: reach out to your.

1163
00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:09,879
Speaker 5: Ex I will say, I will say.

1164
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 4: When I got married, I heard from two separate ex'es like, congratulations,

1165
00:54:14,120 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 4: your wedding looked beautiful, and it made me feel very good,

1166
00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 4: but it was not It was also not necessary, like

1167
00:54:19,040 --> 00:54:21,000
Speaker 4: I wouldn't have missed it if they didn't say anything.

1168
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:24,280
Speaker 4: It did feel very good, and Allison was secure because

1169
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,799
Speaker 4: I now, like I need to find she has to

1170
00:54:26,800 --> 00:54:28,680
Speaker 4: find a judge in an attorney to like get me

1171
00:54:28,760 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 4: to leave her. You know, we just signed a legally

1172
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 4: binding contract, so she feels pretty secure. But yeah, two

1173
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:40,400
Speaker 4: different x'es said congrats, But also, yeah, I wouldn't have

1174
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:41,400
Speaker 4: missed it if they didn't do that.

1175
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:42,040
Speaker 5: You know.

1176
00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:45,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, feels good. Feels good being on this side of

1177
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:47,640
Speaker 1: it and not gonna lie.

1178
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:49,160
Speaker 2: Of the correct side. Well, that's like the first time

1179
00:54:49,160 --> 00:54:50,040
Speaker 2: it happened.

1180
00:54:50,040 --> 00:54:50,239
Speaker 3: I know.

1181
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:52,279
Speaker 1: Just let me live in Just let me live in

1182
00:54:52,360 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 1: the bliss over here. Okay, let me swim in this

1183
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 1: pool for a minute.

1184
00:54:56,800 --> 00:54:58,440
Speaker 2: All right. I'll give it to you. I'll give it

1185
00:54:58,440 --> 00:55:00,520
Speaker 2: to all of you. I was, I was in the here.

1186
00:55:02,080 --> 00:55:04,680
Speaker 2: It's a humble moment for me to say that those words.

1187
00:55:04,719 --> 00:55:07,879
Speaker 1: But when we all need it time to time again,

1188
00:55:07,920 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 1: i'd be.

1189
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 2: Grounded every on that note. Reminder before we leave, go vote.

1190
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:16,360
Speaker 1: Is the last week.

1191
00:55:16,680 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 2: This is the last week.

1192
00:55:18,680 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 6: Vote vote vote in the election as well. Two things

1193
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:22,560
Speaker 6: you need to vote for this week.

1194
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:26,560
Speaker 2: Okay, priority is to vote for in the election, just

1195
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:28,719
Speaker 2: so you know, study up on what there is to

1196
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:32,719
Speaker 2: vote for. It's not just the presidential candidates. There's so

1197
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:35,359
Speaker 2: much that's important for you to know about what's going

1198
00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:38,399
Speaker 2: on locally in our state, in our city. So that's

1199
00:55:38,400 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 2: actually a lot. It's a lot of homework, it is,

1200
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:43,680
Speaker 2: and I think it's very I've never paid so much

1201
00:55:43,760 --> 00:55:46,920
Speaker 2: attention to what I'm voting for this year. So do

1202
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 2: your research.

1203
00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:49,239
Speaker 3: I mean, I have a tip that will save you

1204
00:55:49,280 --> 00:55:49,879
Speaker 3: a lot of time.

1205
00:55:50,880 --> 00:55:52,879
Speaker 6: There are a lot of groups out there that tell

1206
00:55:52,920 --> 00:55:55,360
Speaker 6: you who to vote for in terms of their endorsements.

1207
00:55:55,800 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 6: Find somebody you trust, find somebody you'll agree with, believe

1208
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:01,479
Speaker 6: in their cause, and they'll tell you boom boom boom,

1209
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 6: and it'll save you a lot of time because those

1210
00:56:02,760 --> 00:56:06,640
Speaker 6: propositions are complicated and really oddly written, so I know.

1211
00:56:06,680 --> 00:56:09,600
Speaker 1: Not even complicated, but also like you know, you see

1212
00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:11,719
Speaker 1: the commercials for them, and they like they're obviously so

1213
00:56:11,840 --> 00:56:14,920
Speaker 1: skewed one way that they're like, this is totally not

1214
00:56:14,960 --> 00:56:16,840
Speaker 1: an example, but this is like an example of just

1215
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:20,319
Speaker 1: the like mind bender that they give you. It'll be like,

1216
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:22,640
Speaker 1: do you want your you know, kids to go to

1217
00:56:22,680 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 1: a safe school? Do you want your kids to learn great?

1218
00:56:25,800 --> 00:56:29,239
Speaker 1: And you're just like yes, yes, then vote, you know,

1219
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:33,759
Speaker 1: vote yes on Prop ten to build a mo of

1220
00:56:34,160 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 1: you know, a windmial in Lake Palisades for about million dollars.

1221
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:43,399
Speaker 1: It's gonna cost you five thousand dollars a year. You're like, okay, yeah,

1222
00:56:44,400 --> 00:56:46,840
Speaker 1: that's a terrible analogy, but like that's how.

1223
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:48,520
Speaker 6: Like no, but you're right, And then the next commercial

1224
00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:50,920
Speaker 6: break it says, do you want your taxes going up

1225
00:56:50,960 --> 00:56:53,719
Speaker 6: by twenty five percent. Prop ten is gonna put me

1226
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:56,439
Speaker 6: out of business. Vote no on Prop ten. It's the same.

1227
00:56:56,560 --> 00:57:00,200
Speaker 3: It's the same prop right, but the commercials really swing

1228
00:57:00,320 --> 00:57:03,160
Speaker 3: you one way to the yeah, total the other. So yeah,

1229
00:57:03,200 --> 00:57:04,320
Speaker 3: I say go with an expert.

1230
00:57:04,480 --> 00:57:06,359
Speaker 2: I would have voted for Marx if we were going

1231
00:57:06,480 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 2: between those two examples, if I'm being honest, Well, no,

1232
00:57:09,760 --> 00:57:11,160
Speaker 2: I wasn't in the other.

1233
00:57:11,640 --> 00:57:14,040
Speaker 1: I know it might didn't have my pitch down right, but.

1234
00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:20,560
Speaker 2: Well, obviously vote in that, in that in the election.

1235
00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:26,240
Speaker 2: Please make that a priority. And second, vote for the

1236
00:57:26,240 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 2: People's Choice Awards. We're up against some heavy hitters.

1237
00:57:30,080 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're going to be popping in the scrubbing and

1238
00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:35,640
Speaker 1: uh Instagram. And if you guys send your screenshots like

1239
00:57:35,720 --> 00:57:38,760
Speaker 1: dm it to the scrubbing and Instagram, you just might

1240
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:41,479
Speaker 1: be getting some videos being like hey, thanks for the vote,

1241
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:41,960
Speaker 1: we love you.

1242
00:57:43,600 --> 00:57:45,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're going to be doing that this week because

1243
00:57:45,480 --> 00:57:47,920
Speaker 2: it is the last week to vote, so really get

1244
00:57:47,960 --> 00:57:51,600
Speaker 2: your emails ready. My mom, I think this is the

1245
00:57:51,680 --> 00:57:55,640
Speaker 2: first year that my family is like actually voted consistently

1246
00:57:55,720 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 2: every day.

1247
00:57:56,400 --> 00:57:58,880
Speaker 1: So my family, my mom is making sure everybody in

1248
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:00,240
Speaker 1: Serbia is voting.

1249
00:58:00,240 --> 00:58:01,040
Speaker 2: The whole country.

1250
00:58:01,360 --> 00:58:05,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, Serbia as a whole United is voting daily, so

1251
00:58:05,120 --> 00:58:06,240
Speaker 1: we have that going for us.

1252
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I am already just so thankful because I

1253
00:58:11,520 --> 00:58:13,480
Speaker 2: know I see it every day that y'all are voting

1254
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:15,440
Speaker 2: for us, and in the Facebook groups.

1255
00:58:15,160 --> 00:58:16,840
Speaker 1: I know, actually I really do see it because I'll

1256
00:58:16,880 --> 00:58:18,520
Speaker 1: put the swipe up link and like the amount of

1257
00:58:19,160 --> 00:58:22,760
Speaker 1: swipe up that I see, it's like, actually quite beautiful.

1258
00:58:23,040 --> 00:58:23,800
Speaker 2: It's beautiful.

1259
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:27,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's encouraging. It's not like five, it's like thousands.

1260
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:30,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's great news, all right, And don't forget about

1261
00:58:30,880 --> 00:58:35,520
Speaker 2: our virtual live event. The website is on location live

1262
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:39,840
Speaker 2: dot com, so you can buy tickets and be a

1263
00:58:39,840 --> 00:58:43,080
Speaker 2: part of it. It's gonna be so much fun. Our

1264
00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:47,400
Speaker 2: virtual live parties around the PCAs are always just the best. Obviously,

1265
00:58:47,400 --> 00:58:48,920
Speaker 2: we wish we could do it in person.

1266
00:58:48,640 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 1: But alas, there's always next year.

1267
00:58:51,520 --> 00:58:55,360
Speaker 2: There's always next year. We love you guys. We will

1268
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 2: be here next week, and.

1269
00:58:57,280 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 1: You know what, we might be a different person next week.

1270
00:59:00,120 --> 00:59:03,800
Speaker 2: Well that happens. We might be better, or we might

1271
00:59:03,880 --> 00:59:08,120
Speaker 2: be in some mud, but either way, you'll be on

1272
00:59:08,240 --> 00:59:09,280
Speaker 2: sturdy grounds soon.

1273
00:59:10,000 --> 00:59:13,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. And the thing is is we'll be back because

1274
00:59:13,120 --> 00:59:14,280
Speaker 1: you know what, we never give up.

1275
00:59:14,320 --> 00:59:16,840
Speaker 2: That's right, we never give up. So we'll keep showing up.

1276
00:59:16,880 --> 00:59:19,760
Speaker 2: We'll be That's all you have to do. That's what

1277
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:21,640
Speaker 2: we have to do as a host on this podcast,

1278
00:59:21,640 --> 00:59:23,160
Speaker 2: and that's what we all have to do in life,

1279
00:59:23,240 --> 00:59:24,120
Speaker 2: is just keep showing up.

1280
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:25,280
Speaker 1: Just keep showing up.

1281
00:59:26,000 --> 00:59:29,600
Speaker 2: We love you guys, I love you. Bye.