Speaker 1: Now, if you compare the person in front of you
Speaker 1: to an imagination of the possibilities of how many people
Speaker 1: you're missing out on, what's going to win. The possibility
Speaker 1: wins because one person can't compete with unlimited possibility. No
Speaker 1: one could. Even if you were sitting in front of
Speaker 1: your dream person, you could potentially believe that the possibility
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Speaker 1: you to listen to this episode, which is all about
Speaker 1: the eight mistakes we make in dating and the eight
Speaker 1: things to get them right. Right, we all make mistakes.
Speaker 1: Raise your hand right now. If you've made a mistake
Speaker 1: in dating and you're sure of it, it's true, right,
Speaker 1: We've all made mistakes in dating. Maybe you've said something
Speaker 1: too soon, maybe you said something too late. Maybe you
Speaker 1: weren't honest. Maybe you struggled with sharing vulnerably. Maybe you
Speaker 1: wish you were more vulnerable and ask more deeper questions.
Speaker 1: There are so many ways of going about it, and
Speaker 1: today I want to share with you some of those
Speaker 1: mistakes and what you can do about them. Now. I
Speaker 1: was reading some research which I always love, starting with
Speaker 1: science and evolving into strategy and spirituality. So when you
Speaker 1: listen to on Purpose, you get strategy, you get science,
Speaker 1: and you get spirituality, which is really how my mind works.
Speaker 1: And this study by the Pew Reset Center inquired into
Speaker 1: modern dating attitudes in the US and found that it
Speaker 1: was pretty mixed. Almost half of the survey datas agreed
Speaker 1: that it's harder to date now than it was ten
Speaker 1: years ago, and sixty seven percent of datas in the
Speaker 1: survey said that dating life wasn't going well. Now, whether
Speaker 1: this is you or this is the life of a friend,
Speaker 1: you know you can relate to this. Now. What's fascinating
Speaker 1: to me, though, also is that couples who meet online
Speaker 1: are less likely to divorce. In two thousand and five,
Speaker 1: the University of Chicago funded a seven year study on
Speaker 1: married couples who met online and offline. Marriage breakups were
Speaker 1: reported among six percent of couples who met online and
Speaker 1: seven point six percent of couples who met offline, So
Speaker 1: slightly less and online dating is now responsible for twenty
Speaker 1: two percent of weddings. So it's becoming an increasingly popular
Speaker 1: way to meet people. Now, this is the first of
Speaker 1: the eight that I want to speak to you about,
Speaker 1: and I know what you're going to say. You're going
Speaker 1: to say, Jay, it's hard, it doesn't work like that.
Speaker 1: I'm nervous and scared, but I'm going to push you
Speaker 1: in this direction. The first mistake we make is we
Speaker 1: talk for too long and we meet too late. My
Speaker 1: advice is meet as soon as possible. When you meet someone,
Speaker 1: you are going to figure out far quicker if you
Speaker 1: have chemistry, compatibility, a standing connection, attraction, care, kindness support.
Speaker 1: If you don't spend time with someone physically, it is
Speaker 1: very difficult to know what triggers them and what does it,
Speaker 1: what affects them and what does it. And a few
Speaker 1: years ago, when I was guiding a lot of young
Speaker 1: men back in London, I realized one of my techniques
Speaker 1: that really helped was there's something called the three date rule,
Speaker 1: the idea that even if you don't like someone after
Speaker 1: a first date, you still see them three times because
Speaker 1: it helps you understand and learn about them, and helps
Speaker 1: them understand and learn about you, and it helps you
Speaker 1: learn about yourself. This was the biggest thing. When you're dating,
Speaker 1: you're not just learning about other people, you're learning about yourself.
Speaker 1: You're learning about your likes and dislikes. You're also learning
Speaker 1: how to unlearn. How many times have you realized that
Speaker 1: you actually like someone that you didn't think you'd be
Speaker 1: attracted to. How many times do you realize that there's
Speaker 1: someone in your life that would not normally says your type,
Speaker 1: but unexpectedly they're really becoming the person in your life
Speaker 1: that you're most interested in. And this happens to all
Speaker 1: of us when we don't just quit. When you meet
Speaker 1: someone for an hour an hour and a half. I mean,
Speaker 1: what are you truly going to know or learn about
Speaker 1: them perfectly? And we see this time and time again
Speaker 1: where it changes. Our taste changes, our desires change, our
Speaker 1: possibilities change, And that's why it's so important to meet
Speaker 1: as soon as possible. Often, if you saw someone online,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't be attracted to them, you wouldn't think they
Speaker 1: were the right person for you. But it's so important
Speaker 1: to get that face to face. Now, this study from
Speaker 1: the Pure Research Center says that about fifty seven percent
Speaker 1: of single men said they do not receive enough messages
Speaker 1: on the typical dating site or app, and only six
Speaker 1: percent of men said they receive too many messages. So again,
Speaker 1: it seems like men are already dealing with the fact
Speaker 1: that the not getting enough messages, they're not getting enough communication.
Speaker 1: And often that's because sometimes a lot of people are
Speaker 1: waiting for men to make a move, or to share
Speaker 1: their interest or to connect, or are waiting to see
Speaker 1: if they truly care. So if you're listening to this
Speaker 1: and you're someone waiting, don't wait for someone else to
Speaker 1: make a move. Now, the second mistake that we make
Speaker 1: is that you keep checking that one person who doesn't
Speaker 1: message you back. The second mistake we make is that
Speaker 1: we keep checking, refreshing, browsing, checking again. If that one
Speaker 1: person message us back, they probably weren't even the one
Speaker 1: we really wanted to be with. They might not even
Speaker 1: have been the one that we've really wanted. They might
Speaker 1: not even have been the person we're most attracted to
Speaker 1: that they didn't reply. They didn't reply, so they go
Speaker 1: to the top of our priority list. How many of
Speaker 1: you know you've been in this situation? Any of you
Speaker 1: know a friend who's been in this situation. We are
Speaker 1: attracted to those that reject us. We are attracted to
Speaker 1: those that feel unreachable. We're attracted to those that feel
Speaker 1: beyond us. The lesson is, don't obsess if they don't text. Now,
Speaker 1: the same research study says that one third of women
Speaker 1: say they get too many messages. So a lot of
Speaker 1: us are getting so many messages, but we're looking at
Speaker 1: the one person who's not messaging us. Thirty percent of
Speaker 1: single women said they get too many messages, while forty
Speaker 1: five percent said they get the right number of messages.
Speaker 1: But what are we doing. We're obsessing over that one
Speaker 1: person who doesn't respond because it feels like we're missing
Speaker 1: out on something. It feels like there must be something
Speaker 1: special there. It feels like that could have been the one.
Speaker 1: It's like what we do with negative comments on social
Speaker 1: media amplify the negative. We downplay the positive. If nine
Speaker 1: people today told you you looked incredible, and one person
Speaker 1: didn't look at you in the right way, you go
Speaker 1: home thinking, oh no, what did I wear? What did
Speaker 1: I say? What did I do? It's incredible, isn't it?
Speaker 1: How we do that? Please, when someone gives you a compliment,
Speaker 1: say thank you, I appreciate you noticing that that means
Speaker 1: a lot to me. Don't say, oh no, it's not
Speaker 1: saying it's okay. When you're reading your comments today, don't
Speaker 1: just scroll past the positive ones full of love and joy. Stop.
Speaker 1: Read them slowly, take them in, appreciate them, then move on.
Speaker 1: And when it comes to your birthday or a special
Speaker 1: celebration this year, don't you shrug it off. Allow yourself
Speaker 1: to take an opportunity to celebrate your life, to celebrate
Speaker 1: your winds. It's so important. If someone doesn't text back,
Speaker 1: it's normal. We have to be ready to know that
Speaker 1: there are plenty more opportunities. There are plenty more people
Speaker 1: that will respond and are responding. Now. The third mistake
Speaker 1: we make is that we give up too soon. I
Speaker 1: hear people say all the time, I'm messaged five people
Speaker 1: and none of them reach back. It's over. It's never
Speaker 1: gonna work. No one cares about me, no one likes me.
Speaker 1: I'm not attractive enough, this isn't gonna work. I'm just
Speaker 1: not made for online dating. How many times have you
Speaker 1: said that? How many times have you heard that? How
Speaker 1: many times have you felt that? Right? It's so common,
Speaker 1: it's so common for all of us to beat ourselves up.
Speaker 1: How many of us criticize ourselves. How many of us
Speaker 1: judge ourselves. How many of us just make ourselves feel
Speaker 1: like we have nothing to offer because someone them message back,
Speaker 1: some of them respond, or we message five people, and
Speaker 1: because we didn't get the response we wanted, we just said, oh,
Speaker 1: it's all over. This isn't going to work out. We
Speaker 1: give up way way too easily. We give up, way
Speaker 1: way too easily, and it's just one of those things
Speaker 1: that doesn't work in any area of life. Right. Imagine
Speaker 1: you're trying to start a business. You give up too easily.
Speaker 1: It doesn't work. Imagine you're chasing your dreams. You give
Speaker 1: up too easily, it doesn't work. Imagine you try to
Speaker 1: start a new diet or a new workout. You give
Speaker 1: up too easily. It doesn't work. Nothing in life works
Speaker 1: when you give up too easily, especially relationships. The lesson
Speaker 1: here is be prepared to not hear it back a lot.
Speaker 1: So the last message was don't obsess over that one
Speaker 1: person who doesn't text. This is get used to it
Speaker 1: and don't see it as a failure. We just talked
Speaker 1: about how many women think they get too many messages.
Speaker 1: It's not a failure. It's not a failure if someone
Speaker 1: doesn't message back the amount of volume of messages we're receiving,
Speaker 1: even when we feel we don't receive enough messages, Imagine
Speaker 1: you're receiving fifty messages a week. That's a lot for
Speaker 1: anyone to keep up with. And you have to get
Speaker 1: used to the fact that you're not going to hear back.
Speaker 1: Just as think about this for a moment. If you're
Speaker 1: in a bar or a club. Let's say you found
Speaker 1: twenty five percent of the people in the club attractive,
Speaker 1: or there are a few people that you liked, you
Speaker 1: would never go up to all of them, right, You
Speaker 1: would just never do that. You may just about go
Speaker 1: up to one of them or hope one comes up
Speaker 1: to you. So the odds are a bit higher because
Speaker 1: you're approaching less people and less people are approaching you
Speaker 1: orreas online dating, you are going to approach more people
Speaker 1: and that's healthy. So don't see a lack of response
Speaker 1: as rejection. It's a really really important lesson because it's
Speaker 1: going to completely limit you from recognizing that all you
Speaker 1: need is one person to fund and unfortunately we're living
Speaker 1: in a world where you are going to have to
Speaker 1: go through the majority of people. Now, one way of
Speaker 1: limiting this is paying to be on the side or
Speaker 1: app and being linked with other people that are paying
Speaker 1: to be on the side or app, because of course
Speaker 1: this makes it more serious. And the pure Reset study
Speaker 1: I was mentioning says that singles spend one hundred and
Speaker 1: forty six dollars per month on dating expenses. Now that
Speaker 1: includes more than just the app, of course, that includes
Speaker 1: going out on dates, etc. But it's so important to
Speaker 1: make sure that you're investing to attract people who also
Speaker 1: want to invest. If people pay to play in any area,
Speaker 1: they're going to turn up. This was something that I
Speaker 1: realized in so many ways around so much of the work. Well,
Speaker 1: I've seen that when I'm doing courses in programs, when
Speaker 1: people pay, they turn up and they're more present then
Speaker 1: when it's free. When it's free, people miss sessions, they
Speaker 1: don't turn up, they don't think about it. It's incredible
Speaker 1: what happens when we pay to play. Even in the
Speaker 1: dating area of life. Now, the fourth mistake we make
Speaker 1: is being limited by our type. We're limited by our type.
Speaker 1: We already have a preconceived notion of the Hollywood actor
Speaker 1: replica that we want in our lives, of the musician
Speaker 1: or the music star we grew up listening to. We're
Speaker 1: looking for their hair type, we're looking their face type,
Speaker 1: we're looking for their eye color. We're looking for all
Speaker 1: these things. And it's incredible because all the studies and
Speaker 1: even individual stories go back to show that's rarely the case.
Speaker 1: I was reading this really cool article on Pure while
Speaker 1: and it was talking about stories of what people met. Now,
Speaker 1: there was a story that they had on the site
Speaker 1: from someone called Megan k in Kentucky, and she was
Speaker 1: saying that you might think you're only attracted to blonde
Speaker 1: guys with hair like thor or that anyone shorter than
Speaker 1: five foot six is out of the question. But my
Speaker 1: husband's smiling, his profile pictures seem so genuine and kind
Speaker 1: totally drew me in. I gave him a chance, and
Speaker 1: I'm so glad I did. We just got married in November.
Speaker 1: When I hear stories like that, they're actually not the exception.
Speaker 1: It's more normal for people to meet someone when they
Speaker 1: broaden their type, right, And it's so interesting what happens
Speaker 1: when you don't go for the person you thought you'd
Speaker 1: always go for. And I think a lot of people
Speaker 1: keep thinking that, Okay, I only date guys who look
Speaker 1: like this, only date guys who are this tall. I
Speaker 1: don't date women who post pictures like this. Whatever it means.
Speaker 1: We have our preconceived notions, but to really make it work,
Speaker 1: we have to allow something more interesting to happen, to
Speaker 1: be more curious, to be more of an experimenter, to
Speaker 1: be open to possibilities, and so often we just don't
Speaker 1: let this happen. You know, someone has a picture of
Speaker 1: their dog. We're like, no, I'm a cat person. They
Speaker 1: have a picture of a cat, which a non I'm
Speaker 1: a dog person. Sometimes we say it about the silly
Speaker 1: years things. Right, we turn people down based on the
Speaker 1: tiniest things. Oh, I only date people are five for ten.
Speaker 1: Oh they're five for nine, right, I mean, that's not
Speaker 1: even the issue, and so it's such a need. One
Speaker 1: of the most amazing stats that I saw on the
Speaker 1: Pure Research Center was that online dating US it's tripled
Speaker 1: among young adults, and that there's a link between online
Speaker 1: dating and interracial marriage that both have been on the rise.
Speaker 1: And it talks about how we used to marry people
Speaker 1: whom we were somehow connected to, but now because we're
Speaker 1: connected to so many more people from different backgrounds and
Speaker 1: different walks of life, there's more online dating leads to
Speaker 1: more interracial marriages and relationships, which is a beautiful thing,
Speaker 1: something that we didn't see before. So one of the
Speaker 1: things I want us to really think about is that
Speaker 1: it may not be someone from the same culture, It
Speaker 1: may not be someone from the same background, It may
Speaker 1: not be someone from the same places that have been
Speaker 1: used to finding people. Right, most of us have been
Speaker 1: living in these echo chambers where we meet the same people,
Speaker 1: who know the same people, who know all the same people,
Speaker 1: and we find some comfort in that, but comfort doesn't
Speaker 1: equate compatibility. Comfort doesn't equate to chemistry. Right, it's not
Speaker 1: about being comfortable. Of course, you want your relation to
Speaker 1: be simple, but comfort isn't necessarily what you're looking for.
Speaker 1: So that's something I really want you to think about now.
Speaker 1: The fifth mistake we make is that we're not present
Speaker 1: when we're on a date with someone. We're still using
Speaker 1: the app when they go to the restroom. We're using
Speaker 1: the app when maybe they're running a couple of minutes
Speaker 1: later the date. We're still on the app talking to
Speaker 1: other people while we're going on a date with someone.
Speaker 1: And that can be overwhelming. Because, as we all know,
Speaker 1: there's something called the paradox of choice, right, the paradox
Speaker 1: of choice. We always believed, or we were made to believe,
Speaker 1: that the more choice you have, the more freedom you have,
Speaker 1: the luckier you are. But the paradox of choice stipulates
Speaker 1: that when we think we are more options, it becomes easier. Actually,
Speaker 1: because it requires more effort to make a decision. It
Speaker 1: can lead us to feeling a sense of anxiety, can
Speaker 1: lead us to feeling a sense of stress and pressure.
Speaker 1: So you think that having more choices means you're going
Speaker 1: to find the right person. But sometimes the idea that
Speaker 1: there are unlimited choices is actually what limits you because
Speaker 1: now you're scared because now you're thinking, well, this person's
Speaker 1: kind of like an eight out of him. What if
Speaker 1: I could find at eight point three? Right? Think about
Speaker 1: a menu, Think about going to a restaurant and there's
Speaker 1: too many things on the menu. How many of you
Speaker 1: are like, oh, yeah, I'll just let my friends decide. Well,
Speaker 1: you can't outsource that with your life partner. You can't
Speaker 1: just let my friends decide. Right, you have to decide.
Speaker 1: But when you have too much choice, so what happens
Speaker 1: is we expose ourselves to too many people, all at
Speaker 1: the same time. And so when we're on a date
Speaker 1: with someone, we're still thinking about the other person. We're
Speaker 1: still thinking about the possibilities of what we're missing out on. Now,
Speaker 1: if you compare the person in front of you an
Speaker 1: imagination of the possibilities of how many people you're missing
Speaker 1: out on, what's going to win? The possibility wins because
Speaker 1: one person can't compete with unlimited possibility. No one could.
Speaker 1: Even if you were sitting in front of your dream person,
Speaker 1: you could potentially believe that the possibility is greater than
Speaker 1: that person. And we do that all the time. We
Speaker 1: do this on Netflix and Amazon. You're trying to watch
Speaker 1: a show, but then what if I'm missing out on
Speaker 1: another better show? Oh what if I watch that show?
Speaker 1: A let me? And then you spend the whole night
Speaker 1: searching through wasting hours and hours and hours. If you're
Speaker 1: talking to someone, talk to them. If you're trying to
Speaker 1: date someone, date them. Don't keep trying to keep your
Speaker 1: options open and getting confused and overwhelming yourself with the
Speaker 1: paradox of choice. Now, Number six is we let some
Speaker 1: of the negativity that comes through online dating precipitate into
Speaker 1: all of our communication with others. So there is sexual harassment,
Speaker 1: there is toxic communication, there is casual dating, if you
Speaker 1: even want to call it that. A lot of people
Speaker 1: are just there for one thing and one thing only,
Speaker 1: which we know. The point is that you can't let
Speaker 1: those people and even though it may feel like that's
Speaker 1: all that's on there, you can't let those people stop
Speaker 1: you from something great, right, You just can't. So many
Speaker 1: of us completely right off an opportunity because we have
Speaker 1: some bad experiences. And again I'm not saying that it's good.
Speaker 1: I feel bad if you've had some of those bad experiences,
Speaker 1: but just know that having a bad experience is not
Speaker 1: a reason to stop the experiment. Right, Imagine something really
Speaker 1: bad happens when you experiment in something. You don't stop
Speaker 1: the experiment because where you want to reach is more
Speaker 1: important than what you've had to go through. Right. When
Speaker 1: a scientist is conducting an expect they're more focused on
Speaker 1: where they want to get to rather than to the
Speaker 1: idea that the experiment's going wrong. And so I really
Speaker 1: want you to consider that when you're making this decision,
Speaker 1: because I don't want you to write something off because
Speaker 1: of those bad experiences. But if you've gone through those
Speaker 1: bad experiences, I want you to know that that's not okay.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you've had to go through them, and you
Speaker 1: don't have to allow yourself to go through them anymore.
Speaker 1: Like you don't have to stay in that place. You
Speaker 1: don't have to continue to receive that toxic treatment. Right,
Speaker 1: That's not something that you have to tolerate or continue
Speaker 1: to be a part of. If someone is behaving with
Speaker 1: you in that way, you can block that person and
Speaker 1: shut that down. Now, Number seven is something people are
Speaker 1: always scared of. How many times have you ever had
Speaker 1: it where a family member or parents said or don't
Speaker 1: say too much too soon, or don't tell them about this.
Speaker 1: I really believe that it's important to share your priorities.
Speaker 1: You may not share all of your pains immediately. I
Speaker 1: think that's not because you're scared. See here's the thing.
Speaker 1: If you don't share your pain because you're scared they're
Speaker 1: going to run away. That's not the reason I'm saying
Speaker 1: don't share your pain. I'm saying, don't share your pain
Speaker 1: because you want to be at a certain level of
Speaker 1: trust and intimacy for that. It's not about scaring someone away.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we don't share our pains. Oh we'll scare them away. No,
Speaker 1: you don't share your pain because that's something you want
Speaker 1: to share with someone that you have an intimate relationship
Speaker 1: and intimate connection with. So that's something to be mindful of.
Speaker 1: But you want to share your priorities. It's really important
Speaker 1: for you to say, this is my priority about where
Speaker 1: I want to live, this is my priority about what
Speaker 1: I really want to do on the weekends, or what
Speaker 1: I'm really trying to build right now. This is my
Speaker 1: priority for the growth I want to have in my life.
Speaker 1: This is my priority. If you don't verbalize your priorities,
Speaker 1: you can end up misleading someone else and misleading yourself. Now,
Speaker 1: your priorities may change, and that's a great thing to
Speaker 1: verbalize too. But I think a lot of people get
Speaker 1: stuck because they say one thing, but they truly want another,
Speaker 1: and it just gets more and more complicated. Share your
Speaker 1: priorities up front. And now the eighth and final mistake
Speaker 1: we make is we try to use too many apps
Speaker 1: all at the same time. You don't get into a
Speaker 1: rhythm with one app. You have way too many apps.
Speaker 1: One app noise, you're one app you don't like, and
Speaker 1: now you write off every app. Right, that's the problem
Speaker 1: with losing too many apps at the same time. Our
Speaker 1: brain just makes that a blanket feeling across all apps.
Speaker 1: It doesn't make us say, okay, let's stop using this one.
Speaker 1: Use one app, invest in it, focus on it, grow it.
Speaker 1: If it doesn't work, then move on to another. Right,
Speaker 1: don't you just keep moving from app to app to app.
Speaker 1: You may even forget to message someone back, You even
Speaker 1: miss a message from someone that you were initially interested in.
Speaker 1: It's so important. Now, Singles spend under two minutes looking
Speaker 1: at a dating profile, and women in the study spend
Speaker 1: an average of eighty four seconds viewing each dating profile,
Speaker 1: while men in the study spend an average of fifty
Speaker 1: eight seconds. So imagine now you've got that across multiple apps.
Speaker 1: You're spending less and less time and actually reducing your chances.
Speaker 1: So these are the eight mistakes we make when it
Speaker 1: comes to dating and the eight methods to improve that process.
Speaker 1: I truly believe this is going to be a game
Speaker 1: changer for everyone listening, and for your friends and family,
Speaker 1: and for anyone in your life. And even if you're
Speaker 1: already in a relationship, so much of this applies to you.
Speaker 1: Meet as soon as possible, spend time together, don't obsess
Speaker 1: if they don't text, create clear boundaries for communication. Right,
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