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Speaker 1: It doesn't make us say, okay, let's stop using this one.

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Speaker 1: Use one app, invest in it, focus on it, grow it.

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Speaker 1: If it doesn't work, then move on to another. Right,

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Speaker 1: You may even forget to message someone back, You even

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Speaker 1: It's so important. Now, Singles spend under two minutes looking

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Speaker 1: eight seconds. So imagine now you've got that across multiple apps.

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Speaker 1: You're spending less and less time and actually reducing your chances.

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Speaker 1: So these are the eight mistakes we make when it

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Speaker 1: I truly believe this is going to be a game

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Speaker 1: changer for everyone listening, and for your friends and family,

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Speaker 1: Meet as soon as possible, spend time together, don't obsess

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Speaker 1: if they don't text, create clear boundaries for communication. Right,

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