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Speaker 1: I ruined my best friend's wedding by helping him propose.

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Speaker 1: Here's why.

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Speaker 2: Usually when you help your friend propose, that's a good thing.

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Speaker 3: Usually it is.

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Speaker 1: But the other question is is this written by an

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Speaker 1: AI or a human?

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Speaker 2: This seems pretty pull, seems plausible, So I'm going to

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Speaker 2: go human.

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Speaker 1: Let's going to go human. I had the worst luck yesterday.

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Speaker 1: My best friend had confided to me that he was

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Speaker 1: planning to propose to his girlfriend, and he asked me

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Speaker 1: to capture the moment on my phone. I was honored

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Speaker 1: to be part of such a special moment and excited

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Speaker 1: to document it for him. We arrived at a beautiful

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Speaker 1: beach and everything was going according to plant.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 1: My best friend got down on one knee and asked

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Speaker 1: his girlfriend to marry him. I pulled out my phone

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Speaker 1: and started snapping pictures and recording some video. Hey. But

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Speaker 1: as I was taking the photos, I noticed something on

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Speaker 1: my phone. It was running low on storage. I had

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Speaker 1: forgotten to clear out some old photos and videos, and

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Speaker 1: now I had barely any room left. I was worried

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Speaker 1: that my phone might run out of storage before I

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Speaker 1: could capture the whole proposal, so I started frantically deleting

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Speaker 1: some old files to make room, but it was too late.

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Speaker 1: My phone ran out of storage just as my best

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Speaker 1: friend's girlfriend said yes. Oh, like right at the moments,

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Speaker 1: right this terrible. I was devastated. I had let my

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Speaker 1: important moment in his life. I felt terrible and didn't

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Speaker 1: know how to make it up to him. In a

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Speaker 1: moment of desperation, I decided to try to recreate the

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Speaker 1: proposal photos with photoshop. I figured that I could just

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Speaker 1: show my best friend some pictures of the moment and

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Speaker 1: it might make up for the fact that I had

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Speaker 1: missed the actual proposal. You know, I mean no, but

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Speaker 1: maybe man's a wizard with photoshop.

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Speaker 3: Maybe maybe. But things only got worse from there.

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Speaker 1: My best friend saw the fake photos and it sold

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Speaker 1: they were fake, and I was furious.

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Speaker 2: Oh no.

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Speaker 1: He accused me of trying to manipulate and deceive him,

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Speaker 1: and he said that our friendship was over.

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Speaker 4: Oh.

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Speaker 1: I was heartbroken. I only meant to try and make

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Speaker 1: things right, but instead I had made things even worse.

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Speaker 1: I realized that honesty is always the best policy, and

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Speaker 1: that sometimes it's better to admit our mistakes rather than

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Speaker 1: try to cover them up. I apologized to my best

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Speaker 1: friend and begged for his forgiveness, but he wouldn't hear it.

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Speaker 1: He was too hurt and angry to consider forgiving me,

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Speaker 1: and he said that our friendship was over for good.

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Speaker 3: I was devastated.

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Speaker 1: Losing my best friend was one of the hardest things

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Speaker 1: I've ever had to deal with, and I learned the

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Speaker 1: hard way that our actions have consequences, and sometimes it's

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Speaker 1: too late to make things right.

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Speaker 2: I mean, he shouldn't shouldn't have, shouldn't have done the

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Speaker 2: fake photo, but like he was just he was just

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Speaker 2: caught up. It was just just happened to him.

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Speaker 1: But John, there's an update, Oh snap. I wanted to

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Speaker 1: privee an update to my previous story. After my best

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Speaker 1: friend found out about the fake proposal photos I had

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Speaker 1: created in photoshop.

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Speaker 3: He was furious and the friendship was over.

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Speaker 1: I was heartbroken and apologized him, but he wouldn't hear it,

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Speaker 1: and things have only gotten worse since then. My best

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Speaker 1: friend's family found out about the fake photos, and they

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Speaker 1: had been calling and texting me NonStop, angry about what

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Speaker 1: I did. They're saying that I'm an awful person and

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Speaker 1: that I don't deserve to be friends with their son.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 1: I feel terrible about what happened, and I want to

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Speaker 1: restore my friendship with my best friend, but I also

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Speaker 1: don't want to deal with the constant criticism and judgment

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Speaker 1: from his family. Should I try to keep making things

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Speaker 1: right or just end the friendship and move on?

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Speaker 2: Give give it the old college effort, Give it one more,

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Speaker 2: try to see if it works. But this is a

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Speaker 2: tough situation.

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Speaker 1: It might you might you might be you might be

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Speaker 1: out of Luck's son. But real question, John AI or human?

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Speaker 1: I still think this is plausible, So I'm going to

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Speaker 1: go humano.

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Speaker 3: AI. Damn dude, chat GBT is full in all of us.

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Speaker 2: It's it's too good, bro.

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Speaker 1: I feel like you can tell, like the reason the

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Speaker 1: it like chat GBT always tries to make like a

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Speaker 1: moral out of the story.

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Speaker 3: It's like.

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Speaker 1: I hope it serves as a cautionary tale to anyone

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Speaker 1: who else might be tempted to try to fix their

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Speaker 1: mistakes with photoshop. Yeah, or like it's like or this

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Speaker 1: part or it's like I realize that honesty is always

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Speaker 1: the best policy, and sometimes it's better to admit our

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Speaker 1: mistakes than try to cover them up. Like I feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm like reading like a like a children's book

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Speaker 1: or something.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm glad our ai overlords are trying to trying

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Speaker 2: to give the educate us. But and it's like that

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Speaker 2: occasionally is some like oh, I hope this, sir, is

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Speaker 2: a cautionary tale, but like that's not the norm.

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Speaker 3: For the right stories, not the norm at all. Crazy

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Speaker 3: dude chat gbt.

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Speaker 1: Okayp Am, I the a hole for taking off my

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Speaker 1: trunks when my friends were taking off their bikinis. Very scandalous,

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Speaker 1: I mailed twenty five. How does small get together with

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Speaker 1: some friends? Yesterday we mostly hung out in my pool.

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Speaker 1: Night comes around. We're all at least buzzed and still

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Speaker 1: sitting in the pool. There's about six people left, four girls,

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Speaker 1: one guy and me, and then one girl, Ali takes

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Speaker 1: and we all laugh. But a minute or two passes

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Speaker 1: all laugh again.

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Speaker 5: This is this is a party.

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Speaker 4: This is this is it's a booby party.

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Speaker 5: This, Yeah, this is a big booby everywhere Boo boo booby.

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Speaker 1: So they're all laughing, having good time. We're all close.

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Speaker 1: So this wasn't actually that big of a deal. And

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Speaker 1: I'm not some fourteen year old boy who loses his

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Speaker 1: mind when he sees a boom like us right here.

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Speaker 6: That's right, you know, we're just We're just fourteen year

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Speaker 6: old boy boom crazy boys Ye boo boy, Boo boys

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Speaker 5: Yeah boo boy a few minutes past.

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Speaker 1: And I say it out loud, put my legs out

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Speaker 1: back down. The others laugh, and then the other guy, Steve, says, well,

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to be the only pansy here and

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Speaker 5: I noticed this and asks, oh, did we take it

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Speaker 5: too far? And I said, I mean a little bit.

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Speaker 1: It just feels like it's getting a little bit textual

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Speaker 1: now that we're all naked, you know, And I said,

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Speaker 1: I guess, so sorry. I didn't mean to make anyone

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Speaker 1: uncomfortable and put my trunks back on. Steve did too,

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Speaker 1: So basically it seems like everyone was kind of I

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Speaker 1: mean definitely maybe caught off guard by it, but yeah,

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Speaker 1: a little bit okay, yeah, and then like it went

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Speaker 1: like people will getting a little frisky. So I understand

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Speaker 1: our protagonists misreading the situation, but I'd like to point

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Speaker 1: out one whang does not equal one nipple.

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Speaker 5: I think it's an escalation. I actually don't think there's any.

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Speaker 1: Case where a gaggle of nipples equals a wang. I

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Speaker 1: think you have to have it. It's bottom for bottom.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what I was about to say. The thing

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Speaker 4: is they did not have their bottoms off.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, if someone gives a bottom, then you can

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Speaker 1: you can return the bottom bottoms up as they say, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but not before.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that makes sense.

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Speaker 1: It was quiet for a few minutes until normal conversation

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Speaker 5: Things seemed to go back to normal.

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Speaker 1: An hour later, everyone left and I went to bed,

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Speaker 1: woke up today, did some stuff, and I get a

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Speaker 1: text from Allie. She says she thinks it was really

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Speaker 1: inappropriate to take my wang out last night and making

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Speaker 1: Steve do it too. I told her again that I

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Speaker 1: didn't mean to make her uncomfortable, and I'm sorry if

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Speaker 1: I did, but she and the other girls were taking

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Speaker 1: I absolutely didn't make Steve take his trunks off.

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Speaker 5: He did that of his own position.

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Speaker 4: Steve, take your wing out now.

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Speaker 1: She responded that it was inappropriate because they were taking

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Speaker 5: Kind of what we said earlier.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, plus, two guys surrounded by topless girls were bound

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I told her that that was unreasonable and sexist, but

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Speaker 5: If I made her uncomfortable, and I wouldn't do it again.

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Speaker 1: But she's still upset, and my other friends that were

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Speaker 5: So see the asshole.

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Speaker 6: I think I pretty much agree with you where it's

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Speaker 5: Defensive yeah, and says like you're being sex.

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Speaker 4: Being sexist and stuff like that.

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Speaker 6: I think basically you just have to reiterate like if

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Speaker 4: He's not a massive ahole, but yeah, I actually.

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Speaker 1: Don't think that taking off of the trunks is the

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Speaker 1: asshole move. I think it's the confrontation, yeah, and the

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Speaker 1: the a whole move.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But you know, like a skinny tipped a fair amount

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Speaker 1: of time in my day, I've never had anyone be

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Speaker 6: Other people were, if not skinny dipping, at least like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, I think it's all about like reading a room,

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Speaker 1: yeah yeah, and just making sure people are comfortable.

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Speaker 6: And then there's Steve, and then there's Steve just hanging

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Speaker 5: He's just following the crowd. That Steve.

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Speaker 6: I wonder if he's Steve from the other story. Came

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Speaker 6: the high five, Steve to you, if you know what

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Speaker 6: you're talking about, special Steve.

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Speaker 5: There's actually an update.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I've been doing my best to keep on top

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Speaker 1: of the comments and genuinely listening to all of your advice,

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Speaker 6: Yeah, because like he could have been bitter because again,

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Speaker 6: Hole for throwing my daughter a second birthday party after

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Speaker 5: This sounds like, I said, the nineteen sixties double Peach.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I know. I was like, I was like, what

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Speaker 6: I told her she could invite four friends, and I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was just gonna say, that's awesome, Like including

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Speaker 5: That's think awesome.

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Speaker 4: And think about what a difference.

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Speaker 6: Like I don't know if you had anyone with developmental

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Speaker 6: Shout out OPI Well, Molly seemed to be very sweet kid.

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Speaker 6: She was absolutely awful at the party. She cried when

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Speaker 6: Things get worse at the movie. The first movie, Kuilla

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Speaker 6: Eventually we ended up having to leave before the second movie,

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Speaker 6: And you know, I could see her daughter being a

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Speaker 1: And also it's like you extend this kindness and then

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Speaker 6: And I think I think it's a blameless thing, right,

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Speaker 5: And it seems like everyone behaved as they should.

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Speaker 6: So that night at our house, things still got worse.

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Speaker 6: Oh no, Yeah, Molly threw a we remote after she

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Speaker 4: Honestly, you know, I might.

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Speaker 6: Do that rain quit, you know, if I lose it

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Speaker 4: At least Molly, you know, had good time. Yeah, a

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Speaker 1: Sounds like they did their job, like even even though

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Speaker 6: This girl and they did and op OPI handled it

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Speaker 5: Great when When When?

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Speaker 4: But my partner still thinks this is a real jerk move.

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Speaker 5: Wait what why?

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Speaker 4: Why?

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Speaker 6: He points it out that sometimes life isn't fair and

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Speaker 4: Anyway, I'm a little torn here.

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Speaker 1: this seems like the perfect solution.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I think her partner is being a little

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Speaker 5: It sounds like self righteous is the right word.

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Speaker 6: I know the solution. This is what you should be doing.

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Speaker 6: Why aren't you doing this?

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Speaker 4: How you know what?

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Speaker 5: Why don't you invite her to your birthday?

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Speaker 4: Hey, there we go, No, we're talking. You get the

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Speaker 4: right pizza toppings?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you kicked the good movies.

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Speaker 6: At People are accusing Molly's mother of being out of

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Speaker 6: I had to leave this detail out to meet character limits.

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Speaker 6: But we called Molly's mom twice around eleven thirty PM

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Speaker 5: Eleven late.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's totally.

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Speaker 6: Molly's mom actually called me back around three am and

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Speaker 4: That's whack. I don't know why people are assuming that read.

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Speaker 5: And we got we got these Reddit sleuths in there.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, dude, the Internet sleuts are real though, Like they

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Speaker 6: really do be cracking cases.

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Speaker 1: But this one, y'all. Yeah, didn't crack this. We'll drop

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Speaker 1: the case. They're no charlock, that's right. They're a mere

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Speaker 5: All right. I think that's another wrapt episode of O

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