1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,480 Speaker 1: I hid my son from my father because I don't 2 00:00:02,560 --> 00:00:04,560 Speaker 1: like his wife. Am I the A hole? This is 3 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 1: OKAYOP the Home of the Craziest Stories on Earth. I'm Sam, 4 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:12,239 Speaker 1: and John is OP the A hole for hiding the sun. 5 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 2: You know, I mean, generally, it's not great if you're 6 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:18,600 Speaker 2: just like I don't want my father to see their. 7 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:23,200 Speaker 1: Grandchild, right, But generally generally, however, I am going to 8 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:26,759 Speaker 1: wildly guess that there is a good reason. So I'm 9 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 1: going to say not the A hole. So I feel 10 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: like it could be a no contact situation, totally there 11 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: all the time in the show, all the time. But John, 12 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: there's only one way to find out. Spill that tea. 13 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:43,480 Speaker 1: This story comes from Throwway New Mom, which I guess 14 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:46,199 Speaker 1: is a throwaway account. Yeah, all these are throway accounts. 15 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 1: This first post November seventh, twenty twenty three. My twenty 16 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: six that's a nice got a little coffee ground. It 17 00:00:55,600 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 1: really hates Ophie me My my twenty six female. Father 18 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: fifty nine male has been dating Paula quote unquote Paula 19 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: thirty eight female for four years. I never got to 20 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:13,119 Speaker 1: know her well as I was about to move out 21 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:16,040 Speaker 1: when we met my sister twenty female still lives between 22 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: our parents and likes Paula but finds her annoying out 23 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: Paula sounds like a cheese grater in a video. Yeah, 24 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:28,520 Speaker 1: it's like you like it, but you don't want to 25 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: hear it, but you hate it. Yeah, you hate it 26 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 1: all the time. Paula has an odd attitude towards pregnancy. 27 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: It became the most obvious when my cousin announced that 28 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 1: she was expecting back in twenty twenty one. Her daughter 29 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 1: would be the first great grandchild. We hadn't been sure 30 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: my grand would be around for that, and after an 31 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:50,640 Speaker 1: emotional announcement in which everyone was overjoyed, Paula commented that 32 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:52,960 Speaker 1: she felt it wasn't a big deal. Who cares? She 33 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: didn't get what all the fuss is about. Imagine, like 34 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 1: everyone crying celebrating Paula's like. 35 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 2: Bro, why why why would I care? Can you stop 36 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:08,800 Speaker 2: celebrated me? You know how many babies are born, like billions. 37 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 1: Billion every day? You like, you know, everyone has been born. 38 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:14,960 Speaker 1: Everyone's been bro, you were born? Who cares? Yeah, nothing 39 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:18,119 Speaker 1: to celebrate? You were born? Breaking news? Oh my god, 40 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:21,880 Speaker 1: every kid deserves a trophy these days. Yeah, for really, 41 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: you were a trophy for being born. Freaking millennials in 42 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 1: gen Z. 43 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 2: Forget participation trophies, now we're going with birthing trophies. 44 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: Oh wow, you made it out these days freaking silver 45 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 1: spoon in their mouth and an iPad in their hands. 46 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 1: Riley loved that one. So true. Anyway, she kept that 47 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 1: stance for all nine months. Damn. Once the baby was born, 48 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: Paula suddenly became a bit too interested in her, which 49 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 1: my cousin was clearly uncomfortable with. Paula, why are you 50 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 1: changing your tune? Make up your mind? He fucking consistent. 51 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:05,520 Speaker 1: Come on, come on. My husband twenty eight male, and 52 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 1: I announced our pregnancy earlier this year. Congrats, oats. At first, 53 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: my father was over the moon since this is his 54 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 1: first grandchild. I believe that would last the feeling. I'm 55 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 1: just happiness. We thought it would be, and so well, 56 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 1: But it's always a bunch kinda. Just put that booty 57 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 1: in our faces, don't you. But as I heard from 58 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:31,799 Speaker 1: my sister, Paula was just as condescending as we expected, 59 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: if not more, whenever I announced anything about my pregnancy 60 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 1: or baby, sex, first kicks, ultrasound pictures, et cetera. Honestly, 61 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: we shouldn't be talking about baby sex. But Paula always 62 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 1: reacted with one of three phrases, Okay, that's not a 63 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 1: big deal, or is that all she talks about these days? Paula, 64 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: you're insufferable. Why would you like just be like own awesome? 65 00:03:56,200 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: Congrats easy? 66 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:01,280 Speaker 3: So I also saw note, isn't baby sex the best 67 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 3: sex because you're just raw dogging it the whole. 68 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 1: Time with a baby. 69 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 3: Like baby making sex. 70 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 1: So sorry, baby making. 71 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:17,679 Speaker 2: The word making has never been more important. The word 72 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 2: making has never been more important. You forgot about. 73 00:04:21,040 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 1: Twenty twenty three make sex and the babies rip. His 74 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:34,520 Speaker 1: career is over canceled. Bro, are you having baby making sex? 75 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:35,359 Speaker 3: No, I'm not. 76 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:38,360 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like, you know, dude, you're bricked up 77 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 1: because in your room. All yeah. Also, we got to 78 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:43,840 Speaker 1: go over this. Riley had a big date last night. 79 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 3: Stories. 80 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:48,919 Speaker 1: I came home one thirty am and man, it was 81 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:52,279 Speaker 1: just whisking his girl outside. We're gonna go back to 82 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: LKA story time in a little bit. I want the 83 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: thirty details and exact this story. I didn't care about 84 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 1: it at first, but after a few weeks I started 85 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 1: to notice my father was also losing any interest he 86 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: had in my pregnancy. As the months went by, he 87 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:10,720 Speaker 1: became increasingly detached and stand offish. He started to either 88 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:13,200 Speaker 1: ignore or not pay attention to most of the updates 89 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:15,479 Speaker 1: I made on my baby. He also didn't come to 90 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 1: our name reveal. We did that instead of a gender reveal. 91 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: It was literally just a lunch party with a game 92 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:23,159 Speaker 1: we made up. Or the baby shower because and I 93 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:27,159 Speaker 1: quote probably doesn't think that's worth it. It's not worth it. 94 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 1: Who cares? What is your parents? It's not that special again. 95 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 1: Babies happen every day. You think you think you're some 96 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 1: sort of like magical wood nymph. You go to one 97 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:39,520 Speaker 1: baby shower, they have to go to another baby shower. 98 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:41,839 Speaker 1: Before you know it, you're going to all billion baby 99 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 1: showers in the world. There's three hundred and eighty five 100 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:47,040 Speaker 1: thousand babies born every day. I had a shower this morning. Wow, 101 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 1: do you want to celebrate me? Because they had a shower. 102 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: Everyone in the shower. My son was born on Halloween. 103 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: I decided not that Dell my father and Paula after 104 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: almost nine months. His excuses in disinterest. I didn't see 105 00:06:08,520 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 1: any reason to. I was in the hospital for four days. 106 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 1: That's a long time, is not. Yeah, it is a 107 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: long time. It is a long time. 108 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 2: Not a long time the birth taking four days, but 109 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:20,800 Speaker 2: being in the hospital for four days. 110 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:23,599 Speaker 1: In the hospital four days, that's what that's not. That's 111 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:25,919 Speaker 1: a long time, isn't it. It's long, but not like 112 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:28,480 Speaker 1: heard of. Like I feel like I read about three 113 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:31,280 Speaker 1: days office Jim and Pam could only stay for like 114 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: twenty four hours or forty eight hours, and they want 115 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 1: to stay longer. 116 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:36,200 Speaker 2: I feel like staying another day or two is normal 117 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 2: after an uncomplicated birth. You'd like to stay in the 118 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 2: hospital for twenty forty eight hours, So I guess, yeah, 119 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:44,920 Speaker 2: next few days is like still abnormal. 120 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:47,920 Speaker 1: So maybe like what twelve or more twelve hours labor 121 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 1: than twenty four hours after to forty eight hours? So 122 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 1: three days, So four days is a little much. It's 123 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: a little much, and get your shit together. What you 124 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 1: just had a baby, get out of there. Paula would 125 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 1: be like, hey, you only need two hours every day, Yeah, 126 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:08,680 Speaker 1: during which only mine and my husband's closest friends and 127 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: family visited us. The day before we left, I posted 128 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 1: a picture of my son on Instagram and that is 129 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: when my father found out, which is a big yikes. 130 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 1: You don't want to find out about your grandchild on 131 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:22,920 Speaker 1: Instagram through the gram, but you deserve it. And maybe 132 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: if you subscribe to my patreon, you can get a 133 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 1: little bit more video, maybe even FaceTime, maybe a zoom 134 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 1: with the baby. 135 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 2: A dude, if you have a big family, Hey, guys, 136 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:34,760 Speaker 2: just gave birth to my baby. 137 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: Here say hello to little Zachary. What's up zach? If 138 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: you want to see me and zach, then you can 139 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 1: subscribe to our patreon. He's crowning intent time eight seven six. 140 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:46,800 Speaker 1: Oh and if you want to see the rest, make 141 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: sure to tune in for next episode. 142 00:07:48,840 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 2: DJ Khaled literally live snapchat. Another one, Yeah he did that. 143 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:57,240 Speaker 2: That's pretty sick. He was like, hey, I just blessed 144 00:07:57,240 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 2: a young king coming out of my woman's womb. 145 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 1: Another one he actually do that. Yes, he actually did 146 00:08:03,400 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 1: that and it was crazy. Bro. We need to do 147 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 1: like crazy. We need to do an episode on crazy 148 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: birth floggers. That would be honestly, write down, right down. 149 00:08:14,600 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 3: I have an okay story telling about that birth. 150 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 1: We have so many opis. Have you ever seen a birthday? 151 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 1: I've never seen. I don't think I've ever witnessed a birth, 152 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 1: even by video. I feel like our sex education have 153 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 1: our sex educations have failed us. I am from Florida. Yeah, man, 154 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 1: they don't got much of that yet. My father and 155 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:40,319 Speaker 1: Paula are furious, accusing me of using my son as 156 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 1: a pawn and keeping them away out of pettiness. They're 157 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: saying I'm holding the fact that they missed a few 158 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: parties against them. My husband and pretty much my whole 159 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:51,600 Speaker 1: family agrees with me. My sister, while mostly on my side, 160 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: still thinks I should have told my father since this 161 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 1: is his first grandchild and he had to find out 162 00:08:57,160 --> 00:09:00,200 Speaker 1: he was born through social media. She thinks this is 163 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:04,200 Speaker 1: all Paula's fault and I should apologize to our dad. 164 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:07,480 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? John? I want to know 165 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 1: what you think. Everyone in the commons please let us 166 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:13,719 Speaker 1: know what you think. But is OP the a hole? 167 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:14,320 Speaker 1: You know what? 168 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:16,719 Speaker 2: I was going to say one answer, and then in 169 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:19,959 Speaker 2: the split second that you were talking, I changed my mind. 170 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 1: Yes, really, just barely. 171 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 2: You know, we have our a whole meter which but 172 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:28,800 Speaker 2: I think they're right above the line of like I 173 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:32,000 Speaker 2: think just mentioning it like oh, hey gave birth yesterday. 174 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:36,840 Speaker 2: It feels like, I know it's been like so annoying, 175 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:40,240 Speaker 2: but just telling the dad, I think Paula ish is deserved. 176 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 2: Nothing like I don't care about Paula. She'll obviously find out, 177 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:47,559 Speaker 2: but she'll just be like, lol, okay, yeah, okay, literally have. 178 00:09:47,559 --> 00:09:50,319 Speaker 1: Shown no interest. So if you're showing no like, I mean, 179 00:09:50,360 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: I think, yes, it probably makes sense to showcase regardless. Yeah, 180 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 1: like that's the most empathetic thing to do. But the 181 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 1: fact that they showed no interest, then it's like, Okay, 182 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:03,479 Speaker 1: I guess you're not interested, so I'm going to unsubscribe 183 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:08,800 Speaker 1: you from my sick YouTube channel. What I'm souscribe. Yeah, 184 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:12,080 Speaker 1: I don't think it's like a big deal at all. 185 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 2: I think it's like the teeniest, tiniest little thing because 186 00:10:15,360 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 2: of how they treated yeah them. 187 00:10:17,920 --> 00:10:21,559 Speaker 1: But I'll still go. I'll still go. Thehole so relevant 188 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: comments Realistic Site, and there's also an update by the 189 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:29,720 Speaker 1: way ooh big old update woo. Relevant comment the Realistic 190 00:10:29,760 --> 00:10:32,320 Speaker 1: Site three nine five two says, not the ahole, But 191 00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: I think you need to have a conversation with your dad. 192 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: You need to let him know he will inevitably miss 193 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 1: out on a lot more if he continues to mirror 194 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 1: Paula's indifference in shared family milestones. It's not everyone else's 195 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:47,200 Speaker 1: responsibility to compensate. If he intends to have a relationship 196 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:50,520 Speaker 1: with his grandchildren and also have a relationship with other relatives, 197 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:52,439 Speaker 1: he needs to be willing to do his part as 198 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 1: well as express interest and participates. And no, it isn't 199 00:10:56,280 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 1: about showing up to parties. It is about making the 200 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: effort to be included when you are invited to be, 201 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:04,760 Speaker 1: and not dismiss those invitations as if they are meaningless. 202 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:07,840 Speaker 1: Oh pee response, I'm trying to make that clear to them. 203 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:11,120 Speaker 1: My father missed my graduation, not coming to my baby 204 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:13,240 Speaker 1: shower doesn't bother me that much. It sounds like the 205 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 1: father's just like not involved in me. This sounds like 206 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 1: he sucks. It's the condescending attitude and the lack of 207 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:22,080 Speaker 1: interest they both have been displaying my entire pregnancy that 208 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 1: made me decide not to tell them. And there is 209 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: another comment substantial youth nine one zero six says, not 210 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 1: the a hole, All of the everyone's an asshole here 211 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: replies are dumb as hell. Paula has your dad twirl 212 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 1: around her finger. The only two in a person baby 213 00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:40,680 Speaker 1: events that you had, they didn't show up on and 214 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:42,840 Speaker 1: your dad was stand offfice for the majority of her 215 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:45,560 Speaker 1: pregnancy due to Paula. He's a grown ass man. He 216 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:47,520 Speaker 1: doesn't get to all of a sudden meet and be 217 00:11:47,559 --> 00:11:50,680 Speaker 1: involved in his first grandchild's life when he barely cared before. 218 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 1: Guaranteed he only wanted to come to the hospital for photos, 219 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 1: into post to social media and show off flex for 220 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 1: the gram apologizing dear dad and will not do anything 221 00:11:59,840 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 1: but only enable his BS. He needs to step up, 222 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:05,080 Speaker 1: put his foot down to Paula and show you that 223 00:12:05,160 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 1: he genuinely and actively wants to be part of your 224 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:10,840 Speaker 1: immediate family's life. Your dad can be updated via social 225 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:13,559 Speaker 1: media until he gets his face out of his behind 226 00:12:13,960 --> 00:12:16,400 Speaker 1: and acts like an actual father. And then Opie responds, 227 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 1: my father is against posting pictures of children on social media, 228 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 1: but he's definitely the type of person to try a 229 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,200 Speaker 1: show off and realize that being said, I do believe 230 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:26,080 Speaker 1: he wanted to meet my son at the hospital. What 231 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:26,760 Speaker 1: do you think about that? 232 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 2: I feel like he like lost his right because like 233 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:33,440 Speaker 2: if for nine months you're going to just be like 234 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:36,080 Speaker 2: basically side with paul And I think that commentary so right, 235 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 2: Paula absolutely has him wrapped. 236 00:12:38,520 --> 00:12:42,040 Speaker 1: Around his finger. Paula's pulling the strings, and she's the 237 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 1: reason why he's like, well, I don't want to like 238 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:47,920 Speaker 1: upset Paula by being interested in my own hair and 239 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:52,040 Speaker 1: think for yourself. Yeah, and then Portion of Sunshine says, Honestly, 240 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:54,840 Speaker 1: the name party, I can see being like, well, that's 241 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:57,240 Speaker 1: a little thumb kind of like gender reveal parties. But 242 00:12:57,320 --> 00:12:59,680 Speaker 1: to miss the baby shower, my god, to ignore the 243 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:02,200 Speaker 1: part where you celebrate the parents an upcoming baby, give 244 00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:04,319 Speaker 1: baby supplies so the parents don't get overloaded with the 245 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:06,720 Speaker 1: prep costs, and even just spend time with your daughter 246 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: knowing she'll have her hands full for at least the 247 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:11,000 Speaker 1: next year. Man needs to get his head out of 248 00:13:11,040 --> 00:13:13,920 Speaker 1: his ass. Opie responds, calling the name reveal a party 249 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:15,880 Speaker 1: was probably an exaggeration of my part. It was a 250 00:13:15,920 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: small lunch with a clue style game my husband I created. 251 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:20,280 Speaker 1: I talked to my sister about it, and we both 252 00:13:20,360 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 1: think that had I not told my father the lunch 253 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 1: was baby related, he and Paula might have come, which 254 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: is another red flag. Honestly, the fact that he would 255 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:32,440 Speaker 1: come if it wasn't babyly related and is not coming 256 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:35,240 Speaker 1: because it's baby related. It's pretty fed up, so dumb. 257 00:13:35,400 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 1: But oh wow, that's wow wow, oh oh wow, wow. 258 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:41,800 Speaker 3: This is thirty five hundred words I forgot. 259 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:44,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty thick. Okay, but there's a lot of 260 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 1: additional information that we're about to get into and an update. 261 00:13:48,559 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 1: But John, it's getting a little bit heated, so I 262 00:13:51,080 --> 00:13:53,320 Speaker 1: gotta take this jacket off, all right, let's do that. 263 00:13:53,440 --> 00:13:56,840 Speaker 1: Oh god, these stories are way too hot and juicy. 264 00:13:57,440 --> 00:14:01,960 Speaker 1: We had to strip them down. Been down for this one. Ladies, gentlemen, 265 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 1: mostly ladies. Adien, someone someone send us a message on 266 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:12,720 Speaker 1: Facebook that said, I want all of John's oh yeahs 267 00:14:13,080 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 1: to be compiled in one video. 268 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:25,520 Speaker 3: That's a great ten hours long. Riley's next ten hour video. 269 00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, cap history. Okay, so additional information, my am. I. 270 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 1: The asshole post from a few weeks ago was voted 271 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:36,600 Speaker 1: not enough info, which seems fair. So I tried to 272 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: apply to whatever comments I could, but I don't think 273 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:41,000 Speaker 1: everyone reads those. So I'm writing this to reply to 274 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:43,560 Speaker 1: the most common questions that were asked in my original post, 275 00:14:43,640 --> 00:14:45,680 Speaker 1: as well as to clarify some things that might have 276 00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 1: been misunderstood. Some of These are literally copypasted for my comments, 277 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:52,000 Speaker 1: by the way. So let's get into it. Does Paula 278 00:14:52,160 --> 00:14:56,720 Speaker 1: have want slash like kids? Good question? What do you think? Guests? No, 279 00:14:57,080 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 1: she doesn't have kids, and sheh has them. She does 280 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:01,560 Speaker 1: have children, and from what I gather, she doesn't want to. 281 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:04,000 Speaker 1: I know for an absolute fact that my father doesn't 282 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 1: want more kids. She has also never been pregnant. She 283 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 1: has mentioned that to my sister on some occasions. Paula, however, 284 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,880 Speaker 1: does like kids, especially babies. She was all over my 285 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:16,240 Speaker 1: cousin's daughter when she was born, and I have no 286 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:18,680 Speaker 1: doubt she did the same with my son. It's so weird. 287 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 1: I hate this woman. It's pregnancy and the events that 288 00:15:21,320 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 1: surround it that she seems to have a problem with. 289 00:15:23,680 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 1: I wonder if pregnancy is a sore subject because she's 290 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 1: either lost a baby or is infertile. Now that makes 291 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 1: a whole lot of sense. 292 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:32,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, put the head on. 293 00:15:34,640 --> 00:15:38,840 Speaker 1: Oh that is my conspiracy theory. I think that is 294 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 1: like highly highly highly highly possible. I think it could be. Yeah, 295 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:46,160 Speaker 1: but let's keep going. Let's keep going. So too, the 296 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:49,200 Speaker 1: age gap between my father and Paula. Paula is actually 297 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:52,000 Speaker 1: on the older side, What does that mean Jesus? 298 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 3: On the older side, none. 299 00:15:53,560 --> 00:15:55,680 Speaker 1: Of the many women my father has been with since 300 00:15:55,800 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: VORs and my mom have been older than thirty five 301 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: by the time they broke up. Yep, we gotta Leon 302 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 1: DiCaprio on our hand, We really do. I'm genuinely surprised 303 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:07,640 Speaker 1: they're still dating, as his relationships don't tend to last 304 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 1: more than a couple of years. And yes, I do 305 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:12,040 Speaker 1: realize that none of these things are good. As much 306 00:16:12,040 --> 00:16:13,800 Speaker 1: as I'm bothered by it, it's not my place to 307 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 1: say anything, especially now that I don't live with my 308 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:18,960 Speaker 1: father anymore. As long as they're both consenting adults, there's 309 00:16:19,000 --> 00:16:20,920 Speaker 1: not much I can do or say about it, And 310 00:16:20,960 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 1: that's fine. Yeah. Three, why does my sister find Paula annoying? 311 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:29,640 Speaker 1: According to my sister, Paula's most annoying habits include frequently 312 00:16:29,760 --> 00:16:35,440 Speaker 1: speaking in a baby voice, mostly around my father, the irony, 313 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 1: interrupting other people while they're talking, and criticizing random women 314 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:44,480 Speaker 1: on the street behind their backs. What she sounds terrible, Paula. 315 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:46,800 Speaker 1: I don't know Paula well enough to be sure how 316 00:16:46,880 --> 00:16:49,160 Speaker 1: valid these claims are, but I witness a bit of 317 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:52,480 Speaker 1: those first two habits. During previous visits, the baby boys 318 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:55,080 Speaker 1: annoys me too. To be honest, she sometimes sounds like 319 00:16:55,080 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 1: the four year olds I used a babysit, But again, 320 00:16:58,160 --> 00:17:01,520 Speaker 1: it's not my place to complain. Paula sounds cringeh, she 321 00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:05,359 Speaker 1: does so. Paula's behavior once my cousin's daughter was born 322 00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 1: so like, Remember, it was like Paula was kind of 323 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:10,520 Speaker 1: being weird, right, so what was the weirdness. Paula would 324 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:13,000 Speaker 1: ask for more pictures of the baby than both me 325 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:16,160 Speaker 1: and my sister were getting, even though she barely knew 326 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:18,800 Speaker 1: my cousin. She made many comments about how she looked 327 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:22,640 Speaker 1: nothing like my cousin's husband. Yeah, she tried to get 328 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:25,159 Speaker 1: my cousin's daughter to say her name when she was 329 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:31,879 Speaker 1: five months old. Paula, Paula, say Paula, Paula, forget mommy, Paula. 330 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:34,680 Speaker 1: Paula isn't her real name. Her actual name is longer 331 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:38,080 Speaker 1: and harder's pronounced. I wonder whether it would be pretty syllables. 332 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:41,000 Speaker 1: And every single picture Paula ever took with a baby 333 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:44,280 Speaker 1: was turned into an Instagram post, most times without my 334 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:48,560 Speaker 1: cousin's approval, which is no God. Whatever we visited, Paula 335 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:51,439 Speaker 1: asked to hold my cousin's daughter all the time and 336 00:17:51,640 --> 00:17:54,320 Speaker 1: hesitated to give her to anyone else. It's like the 337 00:17:54,400 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 1: mother's like, hey, like, the baby needs a breastfeed, so 338 00:17:56,680 --> 00:17:59,440 Speaker 1: oh my got it. Yeah, yeah, don't worry, I got 339 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 1: a hand out. I got it. Let me come on, 340 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:04,920 Speaker 1: Paula means, mommy, that's what I taught. Yeah, she can 341 00:18:04,960 --> 00:18:10,280 Speaker 1: suckle on these teeths yep, hell y, y hell yeah. 342 00:18:10,280 --> 00:18:12,960 Speaker 1: It was a little bit too much, a little too helly. 343 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:16,920 Speaker 1: You have a girl friend. Oh my god. That's Christmas 344 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:19,399 Speaker 1: where we'll talk. We'll go on, okay, storytelling about Riley's 345 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:21,919 Speaker 1: day last Christmas. She wanted my cousin to open her 346 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:24,160 Speaker 1: gift for the baby first and got annoyed that an 347 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:27,919 Speaker 1: actual infant wasn't as excited about it as she was. 348 00:18:28,080 --> 00:18:29,800 Speaker 1: She has also made a few comments about how my 349 00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:34,360 Speaker 1: husband still hasn't bounced back yikes, and the spoken ill 350 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:36,560 Speaker 1: of my cousin's husband behind his back, so like bounce 351 00:18:36,640 --> 00:18:40,000 Speaker 1: back for the pregnancy. She's like, yo, why don't you 352 00:18:40,119 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: look like kim kay was the husband like did he 353 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:45,280 Speaker 1: put on some sympathy weight? Well no, no, no, so 354 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:48,480 Speaker 1: uh the cousin who's paula baby? Is like? Why having 355 00:18:48,520 --> 00:18:50,679 Speaker 1: you bounced back? You should be fit as a fiddle. 356 00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:53,000 Speaker 1: Where he's your six back apps? Oh you just had 357 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: a baby. Who fucking cares? People have babies every single day. 358 00:18:57,080 --> 00:18:59,040 Speaker 1: I'm not going to show up to some baby shower. 359 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:03,399 Speaker 1: Maybe I'll the gym with you, yeah, and watch you 360 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:07,320 Speaker 1: get that tread. Yeah, I'm that way. Were a gym partner? Yeah? God, 361 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:09,719 Speaker 1: the only thing I'm gonna pay for is a membership. 362 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:17,479 Speaker 1: That's your baby shower scans. Baby, you're push present, Yeah, 363 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:20,679 Speaker 1: maybe if you were finishing. Maybe once you finished pushing 364 00:19:20,720 --> 00:19:24,720 Speaker 1: a baby out, you could push some weights around, lift 365 00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:27,600 Speaker 1: that baby. What updates did I make about my pregnancy? 366 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:30,280 Speaker 1: Some people in the comments seem to mistake updates for 367 00:19:30,359 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 1: social media posts, so I want to stress that I 368 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:34,920 Speaker 1: barely posted about my pregnancy on social media. I made 369 00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:37,600 Speaker 1: maybe two posts while pregnant, and another one to announce 370 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:41,359 Speaker 1: my son's birth. Those were only on Instagram. I hate TikTok, 371 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 1: fuck you, and I go it's private. Many of my 372 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:47,359 Speaker 1: coworkers doesn't even know I was pregnant until I showed 373 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:50,439 Speaker 1: up one day with snug clothing and a seven month bump. 374 00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:52,280 Speaker 1: A few of them didn't find out until I went 375 00:19:52,320 --> 00:19:54,600 Speaker 1: on maternity. I do a large part of my work 376 00:19:54,640 --> 00:19:57,639 Speaker 1: sitting down. The updates I'm referring to were made only 377 00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:00,440 Speaker 1: to my family and close friends. They were mostly about 378 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:02,639 Speaker 1: mine and my son's health, and all of them were 379 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:05,040 Speaker 1: made either in person or by tech slash phone call. 380 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,160 Speaker 1: Most of the updates I made to my father were 381 00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:09,240 Speaker 1: through text, since I work and don't see him much 382 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:11,880 Speaker 1: in person. Also, my father and I have had problems 383 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:14,159 Speaker 1: in the past over me not telling him anything, and 384 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:17,199 Speaker 1: my relatively new habit of updating him on what has 385 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:19,080 Speaker 1: been going on in my life is an effort to 386 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:21,879 Speaker 1: remedy that. So I guess like the father has been like, hey, like, 387 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:23,320 Speaker 1: why don't you tell me anything? And she was like, 388 00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:25,920 Speaker 1: shut the fuck up, dad, Yeah, come on, date someone 389 00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:29,080 Speaker 1: your own age. Yeah, seriously, I get where people were 390 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:31,040 Speaker 1: coming from, but I find it concerning that we live 391 00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:33,760 Speaker 1: in a time where someone can't mention updates about their 392 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:37,560 Speaker 1: pregnancy without people assuming they're talking about social media. Then 393 00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:44,160 Speaker 1: did I talk to my father about his or Paula's behavior. Yes, Oh, 394 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,680 Speaker 1: several times. He said he'd try to be more involved, 395 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:49,080 Speaker 1: but never made any attempt to do so. He either 396 00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 1: didn't remember our conversations or genuinely didn't care. I'm fine 397 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,480 Speaker 1: with Paul and not being interested in my pregnancy or 398 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 1: the two events I invited her and my father too. 399 00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:00,639 Speaker 1: We don't know each other that well. I fine with 400 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 1: is her rudeness whenever I shared any information with my family, 401 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:06,280 Speaker 1: as well as the fact that my dad let himself 402 00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:10,320 Speaker 1: be dragged down by her behavior. Did my father know 403 00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:12,879 Speaker 1: about my due date? I told him about it several times. 404 00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:14,920 Speaker 1: My son was born the day after my due date. 405 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:17,280 Speaker 1: At no point did he try to reach out before 406 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:20,119 Speaker 1: or during my hospital stay. My best guess is he 407 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:23,000 Speaker 1: forgot about it. That is a great point in Op's 408 00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 1: favor because it's like, Yo, I told you when the 409 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,400 Speaker 1: baby was going to come multiple times and you never 410 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 1: checked in. So how is it my fault anyone who's 411 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:33,199 Speaker 1: even like remotely interested to fucking put that shit on 412 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:34,879 Speaker 1: my calendar. You would put it on the calendar. And 413 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:36,880 Speaker 1: even if you didn't, I feel like at some point 414 00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:39,720 Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh, wait, like that date's coming up. 415 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:43,040 Speaker 1: Come on, daddy, so let's get into the update. Let's 416 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:47,240 Speaker 1: do it. So initially the post was voted not enough info, 417 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,560 Speaker 1: and then I posted an additional info and most of 418 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:53,200 Speaker 1: the comments helped me understand that I did the right thing. 419 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:54,919 Speaker 1: Maybe I was the a hole, but I had the 420 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,680 Speaker 1: right to be one. My final conclusion was, be rude 421 00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 1: to me through a hard time in my life, have 422 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:03,320 Speaker 1: fun in the peanut gallery. I decided that I wasn't 423 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:06,119 Speaker 1: exactly comfortable with the idea of Paula holding and cooing 424 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 1: over my newborn after almost nine months of rudeness and 425 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,000 Speaker 1: lack of acknowledgment, so I told my father that while 426 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:14,080 Speaker 1: he was free to come to my apartment and meet 427 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,800 Speaker 1: his grandson for the first time, I didn't want Paula 428 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:20,040 Speaker 1: to tackle on good. My intentions weren't to ban her forever, 429 00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:23,119 Speaker 1: but rather to just wait a month or two or 430 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,760 Speaker 1: in a perfect world, until she apologized. We had a 431 00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:28,320 Speaker 1: small fight over it, but my dad agreed and came 432 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:30,840 Speaker 1: to meet him without Paula. He visited us a couple 433 00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 1: more times that week. During these visits, he was cold 434 00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:35,800 Speaker 1: and short with me and my husband, and I ended 435 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:40,080 Speaker 1: up being cold return. This was admittedly not my proudest moment, 436 00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 1: but I was too tired and angry to care at 437 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:44,000 Speaker 1: the time. A little under two weeks ago, my paternal 438 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:46,280 Speaker 1: aunt and two cousins, including the one I mentioned in 439 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 1: my previous post, came from out of state. My cousin 440 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,320 Speaker 1: stayed at my apartment while my aunt stayed at my father's. 441 00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:55,000 Speaker 1: During her stay, my aunt caught several instances of Paula 442 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:58,920 Speaker 1: openly bad mouthing me and my unfair treatment of her, 443 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:00,960 Speaker 1: but didn't comment on it at first, and then the 444 00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,480 Speaker 1: day before she left, she watched my father not only 445 00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:07,080 Speaker 1: agree with Paula but call me childish and ungrateful as well. 446 00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:07,920 Speaker 1: Are you kidding? 447 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:08,080 Speaker 3: Me? 448 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:12,400 Speaker 1: And Wilder? Are you kidding Wilder? Like most of my family, 449 00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:14,760 Speaker 1: my aunt knew the whole story. She told them both 450 00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:17,359 Speaker 1: off for how they treated me during my pregnancy. My 451 00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:19,920 Speaker 1: sister was there and eventually joined in. The result was 452 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:23,160 Speaker 1: apparently a huge fight between all four of them. Eventually 453 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,359 Speaker 1: my sister started crying. She drove to my place and 454 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,919 Speaker 1: told me everything before falling asleep on the couch. My 455 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 1: father called me and we fought. It lasted about forty minutes, 456 00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:33,639 Speaker 1: and after countless attempts on his part to play but 457 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:36,840 Speaker 1: I'm your father card, I managed to make it clear 458 00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:39,920 Speaker 1: that I owed Paula nothing, least of all my time 459 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,120 Speaker 1: and attention. There we go. The next day, my aunt 460 00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:44,720 Speaker 1: came over for lunch. She told us that after our argument, 461 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,400 Speaker 1: there was another massive fight, this time between my dad 462 00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:50,679 Speaker 1: and Paula. She didn't pick up on specific words, only screaming. 463 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,159 Speaker 1: A few days later, my dad called me again. He 464 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:55,920 Speaker 1: apologized and promised to try to be more involved. I'm 465 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:58,560 Speaker 1: not sure how sincere he was, but I accepted the 466 00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 1: apology and told him he's on thin ice. I will 467 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:05,000 Speaker 1: help him be part of our lives, but I refuse 468 00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 1: to be the only one making efforts. Not my job 469 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,240 Speaker 1: to try to engage him in things he shows no 470 00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:11,679 Speaker 1: interest in. And if he doesn't get invested in something, 471 00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:13,800 Speaker 1: you can't expect to be treated the same as people 472 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,720 Speaker 1: who do. My sister went back to his place a 473 00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:19,680 Speaker 1: few days later, and Paula wasn't there. Apparently she's staying 474 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,240 Speaker 1: with her mother for a while. Oh who. Neither of 475 00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:24,399 Speaker 1: us know anything about that. If it turns out to 476 00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:26,919 Speaker 1: be an actual breakup, my father will probably wait a 477 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,080 Speaker 1: while to confirm it. I never wished ill on her, 478 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:31,240 Speaker 1: but I'd be lying if I said I had faith 479 00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:34,680 Speaker 1: in their relationship or any of my fathers for that matter. 480 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:38,240 Speaker 1: I mean fair countless fights in a cluster feeding newborns later, 481 00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:41,639 Speaker 1: I'm exhausted. I'm glad this is over. My relationship with 482 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:44,200 Speaker 1: my father is still very strained, and I'm not particularly 483 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:46,520 Speaker 1: proud of how things turned out. But my main focus 484 00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:48,639 Speaker 1: now is my son, and it warms my soul to 485 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,080 Speaker 1: witness how loved he already is. From the bottom of 486 00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:55,800 Speaker 1: my heart. Thank you all. Wow, So it seems like 487 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:59,520 Speaker 1: the cancer is removed, almost like Paula may have gotten 488 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:00,320 Speaker 1: kicked to the curb. 489 00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:01,320 Speaker 3: She could be. 490 00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:04,200 Speaker 1: Gone, and now it is. 491 00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 2: It doesn't solve everything, but that does at least remove 492 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:10,000 Speaker 2: one big kind of negative weight I feel like from 493 00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:10,720 Speaker 2: opis shoulder. 494 00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,200 Speaker 1: I mean like Opie's dad still needs to show effort 495 00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:17,879 Speaker 1: like that, like that is what OPI needs in her life. 496 00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:22,600 Speaker 1: But thank god Paula is gone. Yeah, what a terrible 497 00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:25,560 Speaker 1: what a maniact? Yeah again, I think to your point, 498 00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:29,200 Speaker 1: I have to feel like something happened in her past. Yeah, 499 00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,879 Speaker 1: it's it seems because we've read enough of these stories 500 00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:35,800 Speaker 1: to know, like usually when someone's weird about pregnancy and 501 00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:39,399 Speaker 1: and like and babies, But it seems Paula specifically worried 502 00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:45,159 Speaker 1: and and sensitive around pregnancy, probably a miscarriage or probably 503 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,680 Speaker 1: some kind of infertility. Yeah, it's like she's she's weird 504 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,160 Speaker 1: about the pregnancy because she's like, oh, I can't get pregnant, 505 00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:52,160 Speaker 1: but she likes the baby. But she likes the baby 506 00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:53,840 Speaker 1: because that's what she wants, because I feel like she 507 00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 1: can carry. Like at that point, it's like I can't 508 00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:58,200 Speaker 1: pretend to be pregnant, but I can hold your baby 509 00:25:58,200 --> 00:25:59,920 Speaker 1: and kind of think in my mind that. 510 00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:01,520 Speaker 3: There we go. 511 00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,160 Speaker 1: I mean that's our conspiracy theory. But I would love 512 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:05,919 Speaker 1: to know what you guys think. Put your answers in 513 00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:09,919 Speaker 1: the comments. What do you think Paula is dealing with? Like, 514 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,760 Speaker 1: what do you think the reason is for all of this? Hey, 515 00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:14,679 Speaker 1: we'd love to hear it. And also we'd love to 516 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:18,399 Speaker 1: hear if you think ope did the right thing, you know, 517 00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:22,439 Speaker 1: like it was debated, it was debated. I think Opie 518 00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:24,840 Speaker 1: did do the right thing. By I mean, I don't 519 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:28,040 Speaker 1: think she did a wrong thing by not continually trying 520 00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 1: to include people totally have shown their disinterest. Yeah, I 521 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:34,399 Speaker 1: think I would change my answer now to to not 522 00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:36,840 Speaker 1: the a whole. And I like the way that OPI 523 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:39,120 Speaker 1: put it where it was like maybe I'm the a hole, 524 00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:42,800 Speaker 1: but I don't just you know, he doesn't deserve to 525 00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:44,679 Speaker 1: know after all the things that he did. And you know, 526 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:46,399 Speaker 1: I think I kind of agree with that, Like I 527 00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,480 Speaker 1: think the best thing, the most the nicest thing to 528 00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:52,240 Speaker 1: do would be to tell the dad. But after everything 529 00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:54,359 Speaker 1: that has happened, it's. 530 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:56,600 Speaker 3: The vibes, like you're getting back what you're putting out, 531 00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,400 Speaker 3: Like he's giving cold, You're gonna have to get back cold. 532 00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:02,320 Speaker 1: And also it's your birth too, it's your birth. It's 533 00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:06,200 Speaker 1: like birth, but it's you giving birth. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, 534 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:10,520 Speaker 1: and so like it is technically your birth words right, 535 00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:14,880 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well you're giving birth your birthing experience. Yeah, 536 00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 1: well your birthing experience, like you your birth, the person. It's 537 00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,000 Speaker 1: a person birthing and there's a person being birth. You're right, 538 00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,040 Speaker 1: so you're yeah, yes, your birthing is your birth, your 539 00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:28,359 Speaker 1: experience seeing the birthing squirting a baby out, you're squirting 540 00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:31,639 Speaker 1: a baby baby squirt that. Yeah, but speaking of squirting 541 00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,240 Speaker 1: babies into things, right, how was your date last night? Oh? 542 00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:39,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was great. It was great. We got tacos 543 00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:42,840 Speaker 3: and built legos. 544 00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,200 Speaker 1: Okay, so can you can you give me the download 545 00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:45,880 Speaker 1: of like how you guys mat? Yes. 546 00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:50,240 Speaker 3: So if you saw our Christmas episode, you saw that 547 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:52,120 Speaker 3: they were wearing fun hats. I had to go get 548 00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,280 Speaker 3: those hats. While I was getting those hats, I saw 549 00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:56,439 Speaker 3: a cute girl behind me that had nothing in her 550 00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 3: hands at Party City and I was like, what are 551 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:01,680 Speaker 3: you doing here? Sure, she said, I'm getting balloons from 552 00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:04,359 Speaker 3: my friend's birthday and I was like, how considerate. I 553 00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:07,119 Speaker 3: started looking at all the outrageous balloons and saying you 554 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:09,840 Speaker 3: should get this one, and I pointed at a baby 555 00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:11,920 Speaker 3: Yoda one. This comes into play. 556 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:16,840 Speaker 1: Later damn Reddit story over here. And then later. 557 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,080 Speaker 3: That night she matched with me on Hinge and I 558 00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:20,520 Speaker 3: was like crazy and then she. 559 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,919 Speaker 1: Was like yeah, meant to be. Wait did you not 560 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:24,120 Speaker 1: get her number at party City? 561 00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:25,560 Speaker 3: I did get her number. Yes, I got get a 562 00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:28,199 Speaker 3: number at party City. And then she texted me and 563 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:31,080 Speaker 3: matched with me on Hinge. So later on I was like, hey, 564 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:35,280 Speaker 3: we should do something. We settled on a beach date 565 00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:39,040 Speaker 3: morning beach date with bagels at the Malibu Beach and 566 00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:40,120 Speaker 3: had a great time. 567 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,080 Speaker 1: We hung very nice. It was like a picnic. 568 00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:45,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, a little picnic. I forgot all the utensils. I 569 00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:49,000 Speaker 3: brought plates but forgot forks and a bottle opener. Met 570 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,760 Speaker 3: a guy ina RV. Forgot his name, but very nice guy. 571 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:54,800 Speaker 3: Gave me everything. You have some beers or strawberries. I 572 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,320 Speaker 3: was like, I will take the strawberries. 573 00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:59,280 Speaker 1: Strawberries that could move. Did you feed her strawberry? 574 00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:01,520 Speaker 3: Oh? Dude, I was just getting know where. Dude, I'm 575 00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:01,960 Speaker 3: a gentleman. 576 00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 1: I feel like that's a pretty gentle Yeah. But we 577 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:08,520 Speaker 1: just talked her hands thirty. 578 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:13,080 Speaker 3: She's super awesome, and then she's she was like, oh, 579 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:14,440 Speaker 3: what do you want to hang out again? I was like, 580 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,400 Speaker 3: I'm only free Monday night because I'm gonna be hanging 581 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:21,720 Speaker 3: out with the boys. Oh podcasting wo And then she 582 00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:24,720 Speaker 3: came over. We got legos and one of them had 583 00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:27,240 Speaker 3: baby Yoda in it, and we built that one and again. 584 00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 1: Wow, full circle. Okay, But Riley is leaving out the 585 00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:35,400 Speaker 1: fact that I came home at maybe like one thirty 586 00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:39,080 Speaker 1: and I was like, I took a shower, I got out, 587 00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:41,200 Speaker 1: I was like about to get into bed. My door 588 00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:45,040 Speaker 1: is open, and I'm like walking back to the bathroom 589 00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:49,360 Speaker 1: to get something. Really, Riley and his lady come out 590 00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:54,920 Speaker 1: of the room at one thirty am after building legos 591 00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 1: and she's like oh, and Radley's like hello, and then 592 00:29:57,720 --> 00:30:00,960 Speaker 1: they run downstairs away. I feel like I caught them 593 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:04,680 Speaker 1: in the act. Riley was bricked up, for sure. 594 00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:07,840 Speaker 3: I'm a gentleman. I don't tell what happens. I'm sorry. 595 00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:12,200 Speaker 1: What did you say when you proposed to her? That was? Yes? 596 00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:16,360 Speaker 1: That was it? Marry me? Yeah, we just we just 597 00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:20,080 Speaker 1: what's building legos until one thirty in the morning. 598 00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:22,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, there was a moment where she was like, look 599 00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:24,480 Speaker 3: bored and playing Legos and I was like, okay, I 600 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,680 Speaker 3: gotta pivot now. But I was like, ready to build. 601 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:28,280 Speaker 3: We have like a whole note lego set to go. 602 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,040 Speaker 3: But I was like, I can't be that guy in 603 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:30,600 Speaker 3: the instance. 604 00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:32,880 Speaker 1: You can't be the guy that builds legos. 605 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:37,840 Speaker 3: She's like first like just looking pretty and like just 606 00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:41,440 Speaker 3: like looking interested. So but yeah, I mean we just talked, 607 00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:42,440 Speaker 3: just stalked. 608 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:47,719 Speaker 1: Just talked, all right, put your answers in the comments. 609 00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:51,520 Speaker 1: If you think Riley just to this girl until one 610 00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,760 Speaker 1: thirty in the morning alone in his room. We know 611 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:58,920 Speaker 1: how passionate y'all are. Drop drop them, opinion, Drop them opinions, 612 00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:00,760 Speaker 1: but when you hang out with her next? 613 00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:03,400 Speaker 3: I told her I get back like the twenty ninth, 614 00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,480 Speaker 3: so probably then. But the thing is, dude, I think 615 00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:12,840 Speaker 3: I actually have a girlfriend now, Like I don't know, maybe, 616 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 3: But she was like, what do you want to see 617 00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:16,280 Speaker 3: me next? And I was like here and I was 618 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:17,960 Speaker 3: like wow. I walked her to her car and say 619 00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:19,200 Speaker 3: goodbye to her. What is this? 620 00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:20,080 Speaker 1: So are you in love? 621 00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:22,480 Speaker 3: She's super cool to hang out with. I'm still a 622 00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:24,480 Speaker 3: little rattled. 623 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:25,280 Speaker 1: From the car accident. 624 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,400 Speaker 3: From the car accident, yeah. 625 00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:30,600 Speaker 2: Around cars, Sorry, babe, I'm just like my boss, you 626 00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:31,320 Speaker 2: just freaking. 627 00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:33,480 Speaker 1: Almost kill this tice. So I would. I would walk 628 00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:35,480 Speaker 1: you all the way to your car, but want to 629 00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:36,040 Speaker 1: get too near. 630 00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:39,000 Speaker 2: It's an okay story time for after the next story, actually, 631 00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:40,280 Speaker 2: because we haven't. 632 00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:44,200 Speaker 1: Told that story yep, twice twice and that's a great one. 633 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,320 Speaker 1: After the next story, let's get into it.