WEBVTT - Carpe Dat Diem: Pilot Episode with Joe Gatto and Steve Byrne 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:06.640 If there was a problem, where to your mother? 0:00:07.640 --> 0:00:10.200 Welcome everyone to two Cool Moms with Joe Gado and 0:00:10.240 --> 0:00:10.719 Steve Burn. 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:11.720 How are you doing today, Steve? 0:00:12.119 --> 0:00:15.000 Wonderful, It's great to be here. Nice to see you, Mommy, 0:00:15.120 --> 0:00:15.720 good to see you. 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:22.160 Question is what people are gonna ask, why why? 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:23.160 Why? 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:25.919 First off, why another podcast? There's over two hundred and 0:00:25.920 --> 0:00:29.120 fifty thousand podcasts in the world right now. Why does 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:30.600 the world need this one? 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:32.800 But we think we think we finally cracked it. 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:35.320 I think we cracked it. Yeah, this is this is 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:42.120 an original premise, So do you want to explain the premise. 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:46.879 So, yeah, the idea was, I love Steve Burn and 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:48.519 I love to talk with him and chat with him, 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:52.159 and we always find each other giving each other motherly advice, 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:56.760 like he's one of my trusted confidants vice versa. Right, 0:00:57.040 --> 0:00:59.640 So we've bonded this way over that and we've we've 0:00:59.680 --> 0:01:01.720 tracked down and just talking normally. 0:01:01.720 --> 0:01:02.600 That we both had. 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:07.160 Very strong moms, very strong mom loved our dads too, 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:09.600 but our moms when it came to like advice and whatever, 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:12.120 they always shot straight gave the advice. 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:13.920 And we feel like we've inherited that. 0:01:14.319 --> 0:01:18.160 Yes, because mothers I think have obviously the bond of 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:21.920 a child, and they are more apt to listen. They're 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:24.520 more apt to listen and then disseminate the information and 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:27.200 dispel it as opposed to a station wagon pulling it 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:28.039 at five oh one. 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:30.880 Like today was awful. Where's my food? 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:32.840 It's like, okay, we don't want to talk to them, 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:34.160 you know, right, So. 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:37.360 We consider ourselves very mommy like in the way that 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:40.000 we have inherited that from our mothers, so we. 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:42.560 Don't quite I've always said you're very mommy like. 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:47.240 Yeah, but you were mostly talking about my men books, 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:47.920 my physique. 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:48.640 Yeah. 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:52.600 So so, so we decided, you know what, we're gonna 0:01:52.600 --> 0:01:52.960 be a. 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:54.720 Couple of cool moms on here, and what we're gonna 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:57.440 do is go out, don't choke to. 0:01:57.480 --> 0:02:00.280 The Sorry, Yeah, we're going to some cool moms. We 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:02.000 got to get over the title. Yeah, I gotta get 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:04.840 over the t You're very you're very accepting. I'm still like, okay, 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:06.680 we're really calling this two cool moms. 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:10.920 We were really doing this because we want to help 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:11.360 the world. 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:12.560 That's when we come down to this is why we 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:14.040 both got in the comedy, is we like to make 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:15.959 the world laugh, that's right. We want to people to 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:18.560 forget that bullshit problems, that's right, and we want to 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:19.480 lend a helping hand. 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:23.640 We want to And we have no professional experience whatsoever 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:28.519 in this. We've never studied psychology. We're just you know what, 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:31.080 We've come from the school of hard knocks. Our school 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:35.200 colors are black and blue. So we're here to help anyway. 0:02:35.240 --> 0:02:38.480 We again, so if things get too scientific or medical, 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:39.920 we'll student. 0:02:40.240 --> 0:02:42.399 We'll do our best, right, We'll try, Yeah, we will 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:43.720 try our due diligence. 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:44.400 We will try. 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:46.600 There will be an ounce of we're just shooting from 0:02:46.600 --> 0:02:47.919 the hip, but we're going to try to be a 0:02:47.960 --> 0:02:48.720 little bit of research. 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:49.519 Possibly, I don't know. 0:02:49.560 --> 0:02:51.399 I might, I might google a term if I don't 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:53.040 understand when people are asking right. 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:54.959 Right, But we're gonna be It could be called to 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:58.120 two cool moms that really try hard. 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:00.480 But it's too long. So it was too with Joe 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:04.400 and Joe. Yeah, it's a long title. 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:07.000 We are, So we put a call out to action. 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:09.000 It's going to be an interactive podcast. We're going to 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.400 have people send in anonymously because we don't want to 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:11.800 out people. 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:14.480 Yes, so we will announce. 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:18.680 Anonymously help solve people's problems. We're solving the world world's 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:19.720 problems one of the time. 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:21.399 And you actually came up with a theme song. If 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:23.160 I'll just snap you well, I thought. 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:26.560 I would have played already. Oh yeah, yeah, okay, whoops, 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:31.079 Well it's the inaugural issue. Ready, I'll do that. I'll 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:39.400 do the beat box, and then you need the second part. Help. 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:42.960 Yo, you got a problem, Two cools BOMs will solve it, 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:47.320 check it out while Steven Joe revolve it go so bad? 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:53.240 Two cool bombs subscribe. We're gonna wait right now as 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:54.160 the world subscribes. 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:57.600 Okay, now those two people, those two listeners subscribe, So 0:03:57.640 --> 0:03:58.760 let's move on. 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:01.280 What do you think? What are you looking for to get? 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:02.000 Uh? 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:06.320 Look, I truly, I truly, in all sincerity. I love 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:08.840 hanging out with you first and foremost. I love shooting 0:04:08.840 --> 0:04:11.680 the breeze with you. And like you said, there have 0:04:11.760 --> 0:04:14.840 been a few times where I've been in a pickle 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:18.719 I've reached out to you. You offer great advice vice versa. 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:22.240 So I'm looking forward to the interactivity of this and 0:04:22.400 --> 0:04:26.640 getting to know people via social media and them communicating 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:30.320 their problems to us and we're like literally trying to 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:30.800 do our best. 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:32.080 We're trying our We're trying now. 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:35.120 I'm sure some of the advice is gonna be pretty bad. 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:39.520 But I think we're both we both are cut from 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:42.480 the same cloth. I think we both have pretty decent 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:46.799 moral compasses, and I think from there we will disseminate 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:47.919 some hopefully good advice. 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:50.480 I think I think that this is this is fake 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:57.960 This is veneer it pdf p what is pfd pdf? 0:04:58.040 --> 0:05:00.680 What is that the fake wood PDF is? Where PDF 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:02.400 is an Adobe Acrobat format? 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:02.919 Uh? 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:06.000 What is what is the fake wood? Compressed wood? 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:06.800 This? 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:08.640 This is a self center for a long time. 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:10.640 This is what's gonna end up ruining our oceans. 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:13.080 I think about another thirty years. That's what this is. Yeah, right, 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:15.080 it's gonna wash up on shore in Jersey somewhere. We 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:18.599 should also say that this is a comedic podcast. Yeah, 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:20.919 it's not gonna be heavy listening. It's gonna be fun. 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:23.160 It's gonna be it's gonna be We're gonna try to 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:24.200 make it as fun as possible. Yeah. 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:26.479 Look, if you're on a bridge and it's come to that, like, 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:28.000 definitely don't reach out to us. 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:30.040 No, because also we can This takes us about a 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:32.719 week to film, a week to record. 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:35.200 If you got seven days to kind of chill out 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:38.320 until you get the answer, then you probably shouldn't be 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:38.880 on the bridge. 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:39.320 In the first place. 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:43.960 It's a very good point that this is your problems 0:05:44.000 --> 0:05:47.240 will be solved. But according to our timeline of available. 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:51.480 Elevation, now this is this is uh. This is an 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:55.000 example of where we're at. Joe. Joe put out a 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:57.599 call to action and reached out to his fans and 0:05:57.800 --> 0:05:58.880 instantly had. 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:03.000 Like, quite a you got one hundred requests a lot, yeah, 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:03.360 a lot. 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:08.919 I did the same and let's get the ghost. 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:12.880 So Steve, you have you you vetted these? 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:15.640 Yes, I have vetted these, and look, some of these 0:06:15.720 --> 0:06:20.000 are hilarious. Some of these are really you know, I 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:22.560 think more on the serious side. But we'll we'll do 0:06:22.640 --> 0:06:22.920 our best. 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:24.080 We're not afraid to tackle anything. 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:27.120 Here on Cool Moms, we just a couple of cool 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:28.719 moms trying to help out the world. 0:06:28.880 --> 0:06:31.880 That's great now as too cool Moms. I think this 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:34.440 is very relatable. This is coming to us from a 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:39.560 very sweet young lady and her question is my husband. 0:06:40.080 --> 0:06:43.080 Right away, I'm like, okay, I'm listening It's like we're 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:44.080 just three girls of brunch. 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:45.440 Here we go. What did he do? 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:50.560 So my husband is okay, ready, my husband is always 0:06:50.600 --> 0:06:53.840 asking me to smell his finger as a joke. And 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.480 how how do I get him back? 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:01.120 This is the first problem that we're solving. 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:03.400 This is our first problem. This is the first I 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:05.479 wanted this one to be the first case because there's 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:08.640 some there's some rare ones. But I thought, let's let's let's. 0:07:08.560 --> 0:07:10.640 Dip our toe in the water first. Okay, you know, 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:12.560 let's let's let's dip our finger in the water. 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:15.240 That's right, Yeah, and then and have our wife smell it. 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:18.160 So how do we get? How do we get? 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:20.320 I haven't done smell my finger since eighth grade? 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:21.720 Yeah, probably is the last time, you know. 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:25.440 So, first off, this guy's really immature, right, and I 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:25.840 like him. 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:28.640 It doesn't mean a bad person as a cool mom. Yes, 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:32.520 I like this dad, you don't if they have children. 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:33.840 You're putting that out there on him. 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:38.560 So he's jamming his fingers in his wife's face. He 0:07:38.680 --> 0:07:39.520 thinks it's funny. 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:40.480 Well, there is a thing that. 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:46.600 She wrote into a strangers Instagram to out him to 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:47.640 talk about on the podcast. 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:49.640 I think she's over it. I think it's safe. This 0:07:49.680 --> 0:07:52.080 is really over and she's still looking to talk to anybody. Yeah. 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:54.080 The thing that the thing that this breaks down to, though, 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:57.320 is when one party thinks something is funny and the 0:07:57.360 --> 0:07:59.680 other party has stopped a long time ago. 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:01.560 Oh yeah, yeah. 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:04.360 My wife had that thing where, for some reason when 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:07.360 we first started dating, I would flick her Oh yeah, 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:09.240 I'd flick her in the arms, just like ah, that's 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:12.640 you know whatever, and and she was like, she was 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:15.200 like stop. And it took like three months and then 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:18.480 she's like, seriously, I don't like it. And I was like, 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:21.480 oh shit, wow. And it was one of those things. 0:08:21.280 --> 0:08:23.400 Where I do I have to break up with this bitch? Yeah? 0:08:23.440 --> 0:08:26.120 But no, of course not. I think she's she's the best. 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:26.840 She's ended up. 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:32.240 Don't called her a bitch. Classic backpedaling. We know you 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:32.600 love her. 0:08:32.600 --> 0:08:35.319 You have to edit at four minutes thirty seconds. 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:36.600 Please, no thing about cool moms. 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:38.440 We we don't edit, We don't edit. No, this is 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:41.080 gonna keep. This is We're just cool moms, just too 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:43.840 cool moms. Well, we're too busy, we're too busy and 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.479 yogurt and hanging out at Lane Bryant. 0:08:46.120 --> 0:08:48.440 Hey, but I'm not gonna commit that. We're not gonna edit. 0:08:49.640 --> 0:08:50.040 We're straight. 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:52.280 We might have to add well, I'll be coupon clipping, 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:53.640 so I won't have time. 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:54.760 Very true. Yeah, I got to go. 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:56.840 I got a roller blade and I got a water 0:08:56.840 --> 0:08:58.640 aerobics with the seniors that are teacher at the y 0:08:59.120 --> 0:08:59.680 on the weekend. 0:08:59.880 --> 0:09:00.800 I don't get time. 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:03.680 Aerob I have a thing with my wife where I 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:05.560 used to open mouth sneeze on her all the time. 0:09:05.880 --> 0:09:08.840 No, yes, Joe, yes, she inherited. 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:09.920 That because I used to do that to annoy my 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:11.680 older sister, Carla open mouthed. 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:14.599 I know who took that joke was pre COVID, but 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:16.079 COVID took that joke for me. 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:19.120 No, so this happened just as COVID. 0:09:19.360 --> 0:09:20.960 The last time I opened mount sneeze on her was 0:09:21.000 --> 0:09:24.880 February fourth of twenty twenty. 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:28.720 So fucking gross, dude. 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:31.840 It's so funny at the same time, but she's so 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:35.360 over it, and I would do it every time. 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:38.199 That is, you'd be driving and just yeah, yeah, and 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:39.960 just the mist of mucus. 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:42.480 You know what I'm working. I got a big nose. 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:44.600 It's like a dumble It's just like a shotgun, right, 0:09:44.840 --> 0:09:48.720 but yes, but I would make it mouthy on purpose. 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:50.760 I wouldn't want any snock, so I would just like 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.040 make sure that it was more spittle than anything else. 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:58.680 Dude, that's fucking disgusting. She had to be outraged, was 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:01.439 she not outraged? So, man, you get a missed of 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:03.520 if you get a missed on you, dude. 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:06.360 But at the same time, it's that there's at the 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:09.719 same time, so grol mom, it's. 0:10:11.400 --> 0:10:14.480 What I'm listening. I just don't agree. I don't like it. 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:17.079 Okay, well, I'm just I have a point counterpoint at 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:17.959 the same time. 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:18.800 A woman, I don't listen. 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:21.240 You just need to anything that far. 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:25.239 You're not a cool mod At the same time. 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:28.640 We like she would you know that thing when something 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.240 angers you and you hate that it happened, but you 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:30.880 also laugh. 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:33.840 So she makes the mistake of always laughing. So like 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:35.800 your wife when you flicked her, she got she stopped 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.040 laughed the first few times, but then she laughing. 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:39.200 She snapped on me. 0:10:39.280 --> 0:10:42.080 Okay, see, Bessie has not reached that point yet. So 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:45.520 I think I think more sneezes in the bout COVID. 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:47.400 I haven't done this post COVID. COVID took this joke 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:48.760 from me. Yeah, okay, a. 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:51.240 World pandemic, I will I will bow to the world 0:10:51.280 --> 0:10:52.600 pandemic when she's vaccinated. 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:56.040 Though that game then games on games, she came back 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:56.640 with a vack shot. 0:10:56.679 --> 0:11:00.720 I was like, hey, baby, I was sniff and pepper 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:01.400 just to get her. 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:05.000 So was there something though that that that she did 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:07.640 literally build the wall and say enough, enough's enough. 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:11.599 No, I don't think so. Maybe I'm just not a 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:12.240 good listener. 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:15.439 But that sounds like a bad dad. 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:17.040 That's like a bad dad. Hey, this is about being 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:18.480 cool mom. This is about cool mom. Has nothing to 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.560 be doing about our dad and cool momps man, cool 0:11:20.559 --> 0:11:22.640 momps wear cool moms. We fish pop. 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:26.320 So that that all brings us to the point of 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:28.880 our friend here trying to solve the smell my finger joke. 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:31.400 This is coming from a place where the husband thinks 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:31.920 it's funny. 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:35.200 The husband thinks it's funny. She obviously does not. And 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.679 I understand. I think you just got it. I mean 0:11:37.679 --> 0:11:40.040 it worked for me, right, you just got to snap 0:11:40.360 --> 0:11:42.720 it's gonna go. I don't think that's funny, yes, And 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:43.559 I think that'll. 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:45.560 Work if you're laughing you're being like my wife and 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:47.000 you're gonna live a life of being sneezed on. 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:49.599 So I think that's it. So see, now we've go 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:53.840 Do we just solve our first problem? Yeah? Fucking cool, mom. 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:54.120 That ship. 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:57.480 Let us know if it works, dude. 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:57.920 It feels great. 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:01.440 If not, I will say, if it doesn't work, open 0:12:01.440 --> 0:12:02.920 moutha sinneez in his face and say every time you 0:12:02.960 --> 0:12:04.320 do that to me, I'm going to seize in your face. 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:06.920 And there you go. Right, So we've given it back. 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:10.840 We've webon was full circle. Oh that's great, all right. 0:12:11.160 --> 0:12:12.480 That was our first one. That was our first one. 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:14.680 That feels good. We're going good in the world. Okay, 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:15.640 let me let me take a look. 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:17.640 At this next one where we're we're not to help people. 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:22.440 Okay, uh hi, Joe and Steve. While I'm not a parent, 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:25.959 I'm actually dealing with one of my parents. I got 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:28.320 sick in twenty seventeen at the age of twenty five 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:31.080 with a virus that attacked my brain and spinal cord. 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:34.319 Learning to walk again the past two years or so, 0:12:34.360 --> 0:12:36.800 my dad says that I am not working hard enough 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:39.520 to get fully mobile again. How do you go about 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:43.240 interacting with family who isn't willing to compromise on their beliefs. 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:47.319 So that has a different vibe. Let's go back. 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:51.480 My husband asked me to smell his His finger is 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:52.120 a joe. 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:55.559 So okay, So this guy uh a man? Was it 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:59.000 a guy at man guy? He said, I yes, it's 0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:02.640 a dude. Okay. So he had an accident or yeah, 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:05.800 or he got sick. He got sick, got his spine 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:07.760 aft up, can't walk. 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:11.200 At a virus in twenty seventeen. This virus attacked his 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:12.440 brain and spinal ward. 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:13.280 Okay, that's rough. 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:17.600 So that's a double whammie. And he's just now learning 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:18.240 to walk again. 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:19.040 Oh, so good on him. 0:13:19.080 --> 0:13:21.160 All right, he's coming back, he's trying to make it back, 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:23.320 but he's not going as fast as his dad would like. 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:24.440 It seems what we're. 0:13:24.480 --> 0:13:26.520 Sees, what we're doing, that seems more like the dad's 0:13:26.559 --> 0:13:29.240 problem than it does to the guys. 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:32.920 Yeah, I mean, who's to say. It's like when you 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:35.000 get into an argument, like, for example, when I get 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:36.880 in an argument with my wife, it's so easy for 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.400 me to be dismissive to her, like it's not that 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:41.080 big of a deal. What the fuck, let's just move on, 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:43.720 let's get past it. But you know what, it's a 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:45.760 pretty big deal to her. And in the last few 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:48.560 years I realized, Okay, when something means something to her, 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:52.200 who am I to say or negate that feeling or emotion. 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:54.520 So it's like, I want to give her her credence, 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:58.959 her opportunity and respect exactly what it is she's dealing with, 0:13:59.040 --> 0:14:03.280 and eventually hopefully things come to pass. Uh, usually with 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:07.000 the help of boxed wine. 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:09.120 The finest wine. Yea, the finest box wine. 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:12.480 But uh, but I think I think the father needs 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:14.680 to be a hell of a lot more sympathetic, especially 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:19.640 considering that your your baby, your child had a debilitating 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:22.960 virus that attacked your brain and spinal cord. It's like, 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:24.080 who you did? 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:26.600 Yeah, it seems like we need to talk to the 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:29.000 father in the situation, not necessarily the person that wrote 0:14:29.000 --> 0:14:30.400 in to speak to cool moms. 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:33.000 So the problem is there's only so much a good do. 0:14:34.560 --> 0:14:37.840 He's like, listen, listen, dad, I don't appreciate the way 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:39.280 you you've been treating me. 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:43.800 Now, two guys on a podcast called Two. 0:14:43.560 --> 0:14:50.440 Cool Moms gave me this advice. This is what up 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:53.880 gave you. This advice two cool moms? And who who's 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:56.840 the two cool moms? Stephen Johnson? What the heck is 0:14:56.880 --> 0:15:02.840 going on? How bad is your brain being attacked? So 0:15:03.160 --> 0:15:04.480 I would say this, I would. 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:06.680 Say, but how is he going to commute communicate it? 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:08.400 That's That's what it all comes down to it, right, 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:13.480 So this situation is just someone not understanding the implications 0:15:13.720 --> 0:15:16.920 of their let's call it ignorance or. 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:24.000 Mindset sympathy. Yes, there's a lack of sympathy. Yeah. Also 0:15:24.840 --> 0:15:27.240 maybe has a point. Maybe this guy is not recovering 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:30.040 fast enough. Is he being lazy? Is this something he 0:15:30.080 --> 0:15:32.200 could do? I'm just playing, I'm playing Devil's advocate. 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:35.680 Sure, yeah, Well is he going to physical. 0:15:35.400 --> 0:15:38.760 Therapy once a month when he should be going every week? Like, 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:40.560 we don't have all the details here. It seems a 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:41.200 little bi Yeah. 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:45.960 Yeah, sounds like he spent some time in the hospital 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:49.680 with brain and spinal cord being attacked by a virus. 0:15:49.760 --> 0:15:52.440 I mean that sounds pretty severe, right, But I'm just saying, 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:55.520 what is Dad's POV here? Is Dad? Like, Dad's got 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:57.080 to have some AMMO to be like, you're not doing 0:15:57.120 --> 0:15:58.480 your you're not doing your part here? 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:01.160 Ted, Well, yeah, that's true. We don't know what his 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:03.880 track record is. Before this was he kind of a 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:04.720 little more lax. 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:08.880 He sounds like a gamer. He sounds like, Yeah, maybe 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:13.080 smokes the marijuana. What is it called the marijuana? 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:16.960 Marijuana? Well, we're cool moms. We probably we probably tooke. 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:19.240 Isn't that what they say? I've never tried drug? About life? 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:23.120 It's terrible. 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:26.600 No, of course I'm joking. What I'm saying to this 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:28.640 guy's I don't think it's our problem. And what I 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:30.840 think you need to do is remember that sometimes you 0:16:30.960 --> 0:16:34.120 can't adjust people's perspective and you either have to deal 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:35.600 with them and this unfortunate situation. 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:37.080 It's your parents are They're going to be in your life. 0:16:37.120 --> 0:16:39.840 You can't just get rid of them, and you just 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:42.360 have to communicate as best you can that what they're 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:43.400 doing is making you upset. 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:47.160 Yeah, and if things get really, really bad, my advice 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:50.880 to is just get up and walk out. Although you 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:53.800 are I had to, I couldn't. 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:55.600 I had to do it. I appreciate it. I'm sure 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:58.360 he's probably laughing. He's got to be laughing. He's got 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:00.200 to be. I'm sure, yeah, he's got to be. But 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:02.960 look in all sinceritority. You know he's not going to 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:06.320 stand for that, so oh we double him down? What 0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:06.880 are we doing? 0:17:10.160 --> 0:17:11.679 Well, he's starting to sound like a daddy. 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:13.600 You're right, this guy, this guy, this is what I 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:14.359 appreciate about this guy. 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:18.480 Though he is reaching out to two comedians to help 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:20.600 to just to discuss this. Yes, you know, so he 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:22.120 knows he's gonna be humored to all this. Of course 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:24.240