Speaker 1: Maybe you're not burnt out because you're doing too much.
Speaker 1: Maybe feel burnt out because you're doing too little of
Speaker 1: the things that make you feel alive. That the things
Speaker 1: I really liked you up. Everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose,
Speaker 1: the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to
Speaker 1: each and every single one of you that come back
Speaker 1: every week to listen, learn, and grow. Now, I know
Speaker 1: that you're here because you want to be happy, you
Speaker 1: want to be healthy, and you want to heal. I
Speaker 1: think that's why I'm here too. When I sit down
Speaker 1: with a guest, that's what I'm hoping to do. I'm
Speaker 1: hoping to find moments of happiness, moments of health advice,
Speaker 1: and moments of healing. But one of the things I've
Speaker 1: been discovering lately that I want to let you in
Speaker 1: on is when I'm doing these interviews, some of the
Speaker 1: guests that I'm speaking to have phenomenal journeys and stories,
Speaker 1: but some of them also I get the opportunity to
Speaker 1: co create with. I want to discover new ideas while
Speaker 1: we're in the podcast. I want to find new insights
Speaker 1: that we never even considered before. I want to take
Speaker 1: a moment to really see if we can let down
Speaker 1: our guard, let go of what we know, and maybe
Speaker 1: go into the unknown in a conversation. And today's guest
Speaker 1: is someone who's going to allow us to do just that.
Speaker 1: He is the foremost brain coach. He's an incredible author
Speaker 1: and an amazing podcast. My dear friend Jim Quick, the
Speaker 1: author of Limitless. If you don't have this book, it
Speaker 1: is a phenomenal read. I highly recommend it. And the
Speaker 1: first time Jim came on the podcast, the book wasn't
Speaker 1: out yet, so I couldn't tell you about it, but
Speaker 1: I really hope that you will check it out. Jim,
Speaker 1: Welcome back to On Purpose. It's so great to have
Speaker 1: you here. When we first did this, and I want
Speaker 1: everyone to know this. When we first launched the podcast,
Speaker 1: you were I think you were one of the guests
Speaker 1: within our first six months. You were in my apartment
Speaker 1: where we used to shoot, and it was so kind
Speaker 1: and gracious of you to come on. We were just
Speaker 1: starting out, we were just figuring out what on Purpose
Speaker 1: was and you supported us and it means the world
Speaker 1: to me. So I'll never forget that. But I love
Speaker 1: we were chatting offline before, which I loved, and we
Speaker 1: were talking about how we wanted this conversation to be special.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's what you asked me. How do I
Speaker 1: make this conversation and special? How do make it different?
Speaker 1: And that's where this idea came from. Is when we're
Speaker 1: sitting with someone, it's like, how can we go back
Speaker 1: and forth? And you know, it sparked something new, but
Speaker 1: you asked me something and that's where I kind of
Speaker 1: want to start because it's kind of hopefully going to
Speaker 1: lead us down a random path, which I love. And
Speaker 1: I'll tell you the story. So I called up someone
Speaker 1: the other day and it's someone in my world, and
Speaker 1: I said to them, I have this idea and I
Speaker 1: really want to do this. I think it would be amazing.
Speaker 1: And the first thing they said to me was, Jay,
Speaker 1: those things don't usually happen, right, That's not really possible,
Speaker 1: Like that's not like the most probable likely thing that
Speaker 1: we could make happen for you. Now, when I hear
Speaker 1: those kind of things, and we're talking about limitless and limitations.
Speaker 1: When I hear a limitation like that, my mind goes
Speaker 1: to the fact that it's never been done, is why
Speaker 1: I want to do it. Like that's what attracted to
Speaker 1: me in the first place. If it was already done,
Speaker 1: then why would I want to do it again? And
Speaker 1: so I wanted to start there with you and go,
Speaker 1: how do we know if a limitation is real or not? Like,
Speaker 1: how do you know? Because we all have limitations. I
Speaker 1: love this conversation. I think the majority of limits are learned,
Speaker 1: and I could give you stories and anecdotes around that
Speaker 1: and some research. I think my purpose in life because
Speaker 1: I was labeled limited in a way. We talked about
Speaker 1: this when I was on your show earlier about having
Speaker 1: my traumatic brain injury and being labeled the boy with
Speaker 1: the broken brain and my learning difficulties. I want to
Speaker 1: offer real hope and real help to those who are
Speaker 1: told they were harbor limited in some way, you know.
Speaker 1: And I really don't believe that this guy's a limit.
Speaker 1: I believe our minds are the limit. There are all
Speaker 1: kinds of examples every day that when we change our mindset,
Speaker 1: some kind of form of our motivation or the methods
Speaker 1: we're using, that we could do things, that we could
Speaker 1: redraw our the borders and boundaries of what's possible. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then you exemplify that, you would embody this idea
Speaker 1: of becoming more limitless. Well, I think it was for
Speaker 1: me too, and thank you for saying that, but I
Speaker 1: think it was the same thing for me where I
Speaker 1: had also subscribed to the limits I thought society placed
Speaker 1: on me. And when you start to break one limit
Speaker 1: and you see this like light shining through a crack
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, like this limit can actually be broken,
Speaker 1: you then start thinking, well, how many limits can we break? Right? Like,
Speaker 1: That's where I'm at right now. But I wasn't always
Speaker 1: like that. I think it's important to talk about that.
Speaker 1: There was a time in my life where I was
Speaker 1: living in the rules, within the barriers, and now I'm
Speaker 1: at a place in my life where I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: which barriers can we push? And that journey for me
Speaker 1: has been an exciting one and a fun one. Tell me, now,
Speaker 1: what do you think is the difference between open mindedness
Speaker 1: like believing in the limitless versus delusion? Because there's also
Speaker 1: a fine on that side as well, like is there
Speaker 1: a line of how have you thought about that? And
Speaker 1: even if we don't have an on so I want
Speaker 1: to figure that out with you. Yeah, let's do it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think behind antenna kind of results in our life,
Speaker 1: we need to do a behavior, new behavior or a
Speaker 1: new set of behaviors. I think in order to be
Speaker 1: able to execute that behavior, we need a mindset or
Speaker 1: a belief that allows that to be possible. The one
Speaker 1: that's very famous Roger Banister in nineteen fifties who broke
Speaker 1: the four minute a mile And what happened after that? Right,
Speaker 1: other people started breaking in and there weren't big advancements
Speaker 1: and shoo technology, nutritional support, training methodologies, but there was
Speaker 1: a change in belief about what was possible because it
Speaker 1: wasn't a real limit. And so even when people are training,
Speaker 1: he wasn't this delusional. I don't think just because if
Speaker 1: you believe it, it it doesn't mean it's going to happen.
Speaker 1: But I feel like if we don't believe it, it
Speaker 1: dramatically recruits reduces the chance to be happening, you know,
Speaker 1: because act accordingly. Yeah, you know, And so many people
Speaker 1: and they're shrinking what's possible to hit their minds, And
Speaker 1: I would always say, what if we did the opposite,
Speaker 1: What if we expanded our minds in this situation to
Speaker 1: fit more what's really possible? Yeah, yeah, I think that's
Speaker 1: a great, great answer. You're so right, it's it's fascinating
Speaker 1: how everything is just a thought. I was talking to
Speaker 1: a couple of friends a couple of nights ago, and
Speaker 1: I was talking to him about the Honeya surgery that
Speaker 1: I just went through, and he was saying to me, like,
Speaker 1: how tough was it? And I had a tough version
Speaker 1: of it. We were just talking about it. Some people
Speaker 1: wake up and in the next twenty four hours they're fine.
Speaker 1: It's taken me four weeks to feel fifty percent again,
Speaker 1: right like that that's how I feel, maybe fifty sixty
Speaker 1: percent again. And I know people have gone through for
Speaker 1: twelve months, right, They're yeah, people are still going through it.
Speaker 1: And so he said to me, he was just like,
Speaker 1: do you, like, how did you not let yourself get depressed?
Speaker 1: Because like the first week I couldn't walk and I
Speaker 1: had something called a telectusis, which is like a partial
Speaker 1: collapse of the lung, so I couldn't breathe every three
Speaker 1: breaths almost and then my wife Freshmandior Hospital to er
Speaker 1: like one morning at three am because they thought am
Speaker 1: I had blood clots and I didn't, thankfully, And then
Speaker 1: the second week when I started to walk, it was
Speaker 1: still like on and off pain. It was very uncertain.
Speaker 1: I then ended up getting back pain because I was
Speaker 1: on my back for so long. I couldn't lie on
Speaker 1: either side because I had it on both sides, and
Speaker 1: so then my back was like So I was waking
Speaker 1: up at three am every day for three weeks because
Speaker 1: I couldn't sleep anymore because my back was hurting. So
Speaker 1: I was walking around at three am. I couldn't sit
Speaker 1: to meditate. I was doing walking meditations. And he was like,
Speaker 1: how did you not get depressed during that time? And
Speaker 1: I said to him that for me, it was the
Speaker 1: power of my mind, and it was a story. It
Speaker 1: was like I'd lost the strength in my body for sure,
Speaker 1: But I kept repeating to myself, I'm happy, I'm healthy,
Speaker 1: I'm healing. I'm happy, I'm healthy, I'm healing. And what
Speaker 1: I was saying to me, it's not that because I
Speaker 1: said that I was happy, healthy and healing. It's that
Speaker 1: I had a choice of a thought, which is what
Speaker 1: you're saying, belief that I could have either believed I'm sad,
Speaker 1: I'm hurting and it's all over, or I'm happy, I'm
Speaker 1: healthy and i'm healing. And as just as you said,
Speaker 1: it's not that that belief or that thought made me better,
Speaker 1: but it's just that if I didn't have that thought,
Speaker 1: it would have been way harder to get through that pain.
Speaker 1: And so I love that to see that in practice
Speaker 1: what you just said for me was huge. You know,
Speaker 1: in Limited Lists, I talked about seven lies to learning,
Speaker 1: because my wheelhouse is teaching celebrated learning. Teach me able
Speaker 1: to read faster or learned languages, or oarn people's names
Speaker 1: and prove their memory, focus and lie for me as
Speaker 1: stands for a limited idea entertained, limited idea entertained. It's
Speaker 1: so good. It's getting us to self reflect on you know,
Speaker 1: is it really that you're too old or you're not
Speaker 1: smart enough. People come to me at events after they
Speaker 1: see me do these memory demonstrations or maybe I'll remember
Speaker 1: people's names or do something, and they'll say, Jim, I'm
Speaker 1: just not smart enough. I have a horrible memory. And
Speaker 1: I always say stop. If you fight for your limitations,
Speaker 1: you get to keep them. I peer limits, they're yours,
Speaker 1: and often we don't know that. You know the power
Speaker 1: of our mind. You know, it's I mentioned this last time,
Speaker 1: but it's like your brain is this incredible supercomputer and
Speaker 1: yourself talk your thoughts on the program that will run.
Speaker 1: So tell yourself, I'm not good at remembering people's names.
Speaker 1: You will remember the name of the next person to
Speaker 1: may because you program are supercomputer, not too so. How
Speaker 1: do you transcend these lies? How do you end the trance?
Speaker 1: Because these live, these were learned right, this idea that
Speaker 1: genius is born this side, this idea that we're only using,
Speaker 1: you know, a small fraction of our brain ten percent
Speaker 1: or something like that, and you can unravel these lies.
Speaker 1: There's and you mentioned the very key word. I put
Speaker 1: a quote in the book from a French philosopher and
Speaker 1: he says, a life is the C between B and D.
Speaker 1: Life is a letter C between B and D. B
Speaker 1: stands for birth, d stands for death. Life C. And
Speaker 1: you said a choice that I really do believe that
Speaker 1: our lives are some total of all the choices we've
Speaker 1: made up to this point. You know, what are we
Speaker 1: gonna eat? What are we can feed our minds to
Speaker 1: spend time with? Where are we going to live? You know?
Speaker 1: What are we going to believe? Yeah? What are we
Speaker 1: going to think and say to ourselves on a regular basis?
Speaker 1: And I believe that these difficult times they can diminish us,
Speaker 1: these difficult times they could distract us, which a lot
Speaker 1: of people feel distracted, or these difficult times they can
Speaker 1: develop us. Yeah, Ultimately we always decide. So the power
Speaker 1: of choice. You may you made the choice in terms
Speaker 1: of what you choose to be able to believe, and
Speaker 1: with that choice, you know, comes a lot of responsibility,
Speaker 1: and with that responsibility comes a lot of power. I
Speaker 1: love what you clarified there though, because the choice can
Speaker 1: be harder, Like I didn't go through a life threatening surgery.
Speaker 1: If someone went through that, it's the choice becomes harder
Speaker 1: and harder to make if your stakes are higher and higher.
Speaker 1: But the choice brings power with there, and and so
Speaker 1: it's like we need that power to come with it, right, Like,
Speaker 1: and that's what you're making clear for us. I'm one
Speaker 1: of the things that I'm thinking about when we're talking
Speaker 1: about limitations. Limitations almost make us feel safe. I think
Speaker 1: people don't often connect the two, but they do. Like,
Speaker 1: if you aim low, chances are you'll get there, and
Speaker 1: so you won't experience disappointment. Right if you place a
Speaker 1: limitation on yourself and say, well, I can't do that.
Speaker 1: Then when you can't do it, it doesn't it makes
Speaker 1: you feel good like, oh, at least I knew in
Speaker 1: your validating and you're validated exactly. It's that you're looking
Speaker 1: for that. So, how is a feeling that makes us
Speaker 1: feel safe? Actually sometimes the thing that's blocking us from
Speaker 1: feeling great? Yeah, I think a lot of us will
Speaker 1: want to you know, where our nervous system is not
Speaker 1: necessarily set up for growth. I think in the beginning
Speaker 1: it is until we've had some kind of pain or trauma.
Speaker 1: Then then we want to be able to survive and
Speaker 1: keep ourselves safe. There's this idea that, let's say negativity
Speaker 1: or pessimists are accurate more because maybe they set that
Speaker 1: standard or that belief a little bit more achievable, but
Speaker 1: optimists maybe aren't succeed more because of it because they
Speaker 1: have that kind of moonshot idea or there thinking the
Speaker 1: brain really wants to keep you, keep you alive, right,
Speaker 1: and it doesn't want to change. Takes effort, It takes
Speaker 1: energy to be able to achieve their goals. You know.
Speaker 1: There's this thing I saw on Twitter the other day
Speaker 1: saying life is hard for one of two reasons. Either
Speaker 1: because you're leaving your comfort zone, life could be very hard,
Speaker 1: or because you're staying in your comfort zone. If people
Speaker 1: thought about change, which ultimately you know, most people want
Speaker 1: if they're healthy some area of their life, relationships, health
Speaker 1: career or something, and they're looking outside and they want
Speaker 1: to achieve something else, it's a lot safer to be
Speaker 1: able to say to keep something realistic without a doubt.
Speaker 1: And I'm like that way also, Yeah, of course, you know,
Speaker 1: in terms of my book deadlines, what would becoming realistic?
Speaker 1: Is even possible to get it done in X amount
Speaker 1: of time? And I also find that part of kinting
Speaker 1: results is reaching and then you know and then stable,
Speaker 1: like you stretch and then you stabilize, and then you
Speaker 1: stretch and you stay. We can't be I don't feel
Speaker 1: like we could be stretching all the time that you
Speaker 1: could reach, reach, reach, but you have to recover. We
Speaker 1: have to replenish, you have to you have to be
Speaker 1: able to rest also as well. Yeah, I'm trying. I'm
Speaker 1: trying to add to that because I know we both
Speaker 1: like a literation, but it's like stretch, stabilize, and then forego.
Speaker 1: Like there's also what's a sacrifice. I guess like, but
Speaker 1: in a positive sense, surrender, Yeah, because I found that
Speaker 1: I definitely am shocked at my capacity with the amount
Speaker 1: of things I do today that I didn't know wherever possible.
Speaker 1: So if someone told me ten years ago, Jay, one day,
Speaker 1: you're going to do this, this, this, this, this, I
Speaker 1: would have said, no way, I can just do one thing.
Speaker 1: And we did exactly what you said. So every year,
Speaker 1: I would stretch myself every year. And you're right, you
Speaker 1: can't just stretch, stred, stret stred, stretch every month. But
Speaker 1: every year I'd add one thing. So like, first we
Speaker 1: started creating videos, and then after we started creating videos,
Speaker 1: we did the podcast, and then we did the podcast,
Speaker 1: we did our courses in programming, and then we did
Speaker 1: our then I wrote my book and then after that,
Speaker 1: you know, so we stretched ourself a little, and I
Speaker 1: stretched myself a little every year, but then we stabilized.
Speaker 1: But I've also found that I've also had to let
Speaker 1: go of something, sacrifice, some things that once upon a
Speaker 1: time we're really important to me, but today they're not
Speaker 1: as important. And in order to stretch and stabilize, I
Speaker 1: had to learn a sacrifice too, And I think that's
Speaker 1: something we struggle with, Like, I think one of our
Speaker 1: biggest limitations is wanting to hold on to stuff. Yeah, right,
Speaker 1: Like it's like there's no space to shift away and
Speaker 1: hold on to something else. If we're holding onto this.
Speaker 1: If I'm like no, no, no no, I want this to
Speaker 1: be there for the rest of my life, I'm missing out.
Speaker 1: Like what about that kind of limitation where it's not
Speaker 1: a limitation that I think about myself, it's actually a
Speaker 1: limitation because I want something to be there, If that
Speaker 1: makes sense. There is when we're talking about change or
Speaker 1: even transformation. The symbol for me is that of a
Speaker 1: like many people, butterfly, and while the beauty is in
Speaker 1: the butterfly, the growth is happening usually in that cocoon
Speaker 1: and that crystalists. And it's one of those things where
Speaker 1: there's a story where there's this kid in the backyard
Speaker 1: when his parents are in the house and he comes
Speaker 1: across a caterpillar and he he doesn't allowed any pets,
Speaker 1: but he wanted to make this caterpillar his pet. So
Speaker 1: he runs in talks to his parents saying, kind of
Speaker 1: keep it, kind of keep it, and the mother says, yes,
Speaker 1: but you have to take care of it. You have
Speaker 1: to be able to feed it and everything. And she
Speaker 1: gives him a mason jar, puts a little hole in it,
Speaker 1: and then he goes there and he opens it up
Speaker 1: and he puts like leaves in there for the for
Speaker 1: the caterpillar to eat, and a little tree branch for
Speaker 1: it to climb. And then and one day, as you
Speaker 1: can imagine, it spends this cocoon. And you know, the
Speaker 1: boy is enthralled, it is bewildered at this process of life.
Speaker 1: And but he gets a little impatient because he knows
Speaker 1: what's coming right, that it's going to emerge as a butterfly.
Speaker 1: And then one day, lo and behold, there's you could
Speaker 1: see a little crack open up. And he gets impatient
Speaker 1: because he's taking too long. So he runs inside his
Speaker 1: house and he grabs scissors and he walks back outside
Speaker 1: because he knows else was to run with those scissors.
Speaker 1: But he clipped sit that whole open to be able
Speaker 1: to allow it to be able to get free. But
Speaker 1: an interesting thing happened when this creature came out. It
Speaker 1: didn't look like a butterfly. Kind of looked like a butterfly,
Speaker 1: but it didn't really The wings are very shriveled. The
Speaker 1: body was very swollen, and it didn't fly, you know,
Speaker 1: this thing he was looking forward to. And he cries
Speaker 1: to his parents, and the parents asked what happened, and
Speaker 1: he was explaining how he cut it open, and they
Speaker 1: explained to him because he was trying to make it
Speaker 1: easy for that creature, that that creature didn't have to
Speaker 1: develop the strength, right And actually when it pushes through
Speaker 1: that hole is when it takes the fluids inside of
Speaker 1: its body and it nourishes and goes out to the wings,
Speaker 1: and then it can become that butterfly and sword in
Speaker 1: New Heights. And I guess I bring this up because
Speaker 1: I feel like even the past few years, people feel
Speaker 1: like maybe they were cocooning, you know, and they were
Speaker 1: in this place and they were alone, alone with their thoughts,
Speaker 1: alone with you know, their fears. It might be even
Speaker 1: feeling alone. And you and I have talked to many
Speaker 1: conversations about mental health and how you know, how our
Speaker 1: brain health is affecting our mental health. And I would
Speaker 1: say that through struggles sometimes there is their strength. You know.
Speaker 1: My my struggles growing up were learning it was public speaking,
Speaker 1: you know, you know, life has a sense of humoricus.
Speaker 1: That's all I do is public speak on this thing
Speaker 1: called learning. But you know, disadvantage within the word disadvantage.
Speaker 1: There's that word advantage, right, And I always feel like
Speaker 1: there's some kind of advantage within within every disadvantage. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: And it's hard to it's hard to see that when
Speaker 1: you're in it, when you're inside the jar. Yeah, inside
Speaker 1: the cocoon. It's so hard to see it. But I
Speaker 1: think looking back at previous cocoons and seeing how you
Speaker 1: emerged is often the best bet you have. It's almost like,
Speaker 1: I know, I remember when I was at school, I'd
Speaker 1: always be like, well, last year I did well in
Speaker 1: my exams, how do I do well this year? Let
Speaker 1: me remember what I did last year. And that's a
Speaker 1: very small example. But even now, it's like when I
Speaker 1: went through this surgery. The last surgery I had was
Speaker 1: when I lost my voice and I polyps in my throat,
Speaker 1: which was around ten years ago, and so for like
Speaker 1: I remember at that time, for months on end, I
Speaker 1: was drinking out of a straw and like I couldn't
Speaker 1: speak and had a white board where I would write
Speaker 1: things to my parents and my sister and my mom
Speaker 1: who were taking care of me, and I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: well I got through that surgery, Like what mindset did
Speaker 1: I need? Like what can I do now? Or what
Speaker 1: did I not do that time that I should get
Speaker 1: right now? And so I find like reflectionists such a
Speaker 1: great tool to overcome limitations, and I think reflecting on
Speaker 1: your own life and this is the part that I
Speaker 1: think I want to I want to talk about this
Speaker 1: with you because I don't know the answer and I
Speaker 1: don't think we've talked about this before, but we get
Speaker 1: so fascinated reflecting on other people's lives. Right, what is
Speaker 1: the news? What is pop culture news? What is mainstream
Speaker 1: media doing? You're spending your whole day reflecting on someone
Speaker 1: else's life. So and so cheated on someone, So and
Speaker 1: so messed up the world record, like didn't make it,
Speaker 1: so and so like you know, they they fell off
Speaker 1: stage when they were performing their song or whatever it is. Right, Like,
Speaker 1: there's there's like this negative reflection on everyone else's life,
Speaker 1: but rarely do we cave out the time to reflect
Speaker 1: on our own life. Why do you think that is?
Speaker 1: And where does that come from? And I just want
Speaker 1: to hear your thoughts on that because Reflection is something
Speaker 1: we all know how to do, we just don't necessarily
Speaker 1: do it inward. I think it could be an incredible
Speaker 1: advantage also reflection. I mean when you reflect on something,
Speaker 1: you're harnessing the power of your memory. And you know,
Speaker 1: as the memory coach, you know, I feel like it's
Speaker 1: not just remembering facts and figures and foreign languages or
Speaker 1: speeches or things that can make you more productive in
Speaker 1: your performance. It's also reflecting and remembering the things that
Speaker 1: give you confidence and certainty moving moving forward. That reflection
Speaker 1: can be a superpower that hindsight could lead to foresight.
Speaker 1: So many people forget about their winds, you know, they
Speaker 1: forget sometimes other things that they overcame, you know. And
Speaker 1: so many people are scared of you know, someone watching
Speaker 1: this or listening to right now, it could be afraid
Speaker 1: of making a mistake and looking bad. You know. I
Speaker 1: always tell people, well, if you make a mistake, you
Speaker 1: make it old whole l D and everything's inaccreative. Oh
Speaker 1: is you own it? You know, we don't put it
Speaker 1: outside of ourselves. We don't become a victim. We apologize
Speaker 1: that we hurt somebody, We fix it if we can.
Speaker 1: We take responsibility for it because that allows us to
Speaker 1: be able to make it better. The l is you
Speaker 1: learn from it, and that's why we make mistakes, right
Speaker 1: there are stepping stones to make us a better person
Speaker 1: if we learn from it that there's maybe there's no failure,
Speaker 1: maybe there's feedback, or maybe there's no you know, you're
Speaker 1: not failing, maybe just failing to learn something, and so
Speaker 1: you want to be able to do that. But then
Speaker 1: the d is really where it lands. The das don't
Speaker 1: repeat it because so many people could learn in the moment,
Speaker 1: But then they repeat it. They they repeat that mistake
Speaker 1: in their relationships or in their dating life. They repeat it.
Speaker 1: They forget what that junk food made them feel like,
Speaker 1: you know afterwards, or staying up late at night, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, in terms of the rule in their sleep
Speaker 1: and darning their peace of mind the next day. So
Speaker 1: don't repeat it, because you know, insanity doing the same
Speaker 1: thing over and over again expecting different result. And sometimes
Speaker 1: it's not insanity. Maybe sometimes it's just not managing or memory,
Speaker 1: you know, and remembering that those moments the hindsight where
Speaker 1: we've made you know, we're like everyone right now can
Speaker 1: imagine a time where they felt like they couldn't survive,
Speaker 1: you know, that they couldn't go any further. And the
Speaker 1: truth is, if they're listening to this, they did. They
Speaker 1: did survive it, you know, and to be able to
Speaker 1: acknowledge it. Part of self cares and self love is
Speaker 1: looking at that person in the mirror and you know
Speaker 1: that person has been through so much, but but it's
Speaker 1: still standing, you know, and reflecting on that in terms
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Speaker 1: Once more, NetSuite dot com forward slash J. Yeah. Memory
Speaker 1: is such a tricky thing, like in the sense of
Speaker 1: not just like remembering something. What I mean by that
Speaker 1: is we all know that there's a song from our
Speaker 1: past that it clicks on and almost all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: you're feeling nostalgia and you're like remembering that moment when
Speaker 1: you're at college or whatever it was, or right you
Speaker 1: can go back to that place. So memory works in
Speaker 1: that way. But memory also works in the opposite way.
Speaker 1: Like I was thinking to myself that, you know, just
Speaker 1: a few weeks ago, I couldn't walk and I was
Speaker 1: walking really slowly. I was like, really dealing with the pain.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, I never you know, I want
Speaker 1: to be so mindful. And then as soon as you
Speaker 1: start to feel better, it's so easy to just forget
Speaker 1: all of that and just start walking normally again and
Speaker 1: being not mindful. And it's almost like that where it's
Speaker 1: like pain makes you really present and conscious and there,
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, when pain goes away,
Speaker 1: you're not present anymore and you kind of just get
Speaker 1: on with your life. And so I find it weird
Speaker 1: that sometimes our memory is so strong and sometimes it's
Speaker 1: so weak also when people have had a really painful
Speaker 1: trauma in the past, that pain stays with us and
Speaker 1: that we almost don't let go of enough. But then
Speaker 1: sometimes when we've had certain pains, we let them go
Speaker 1: too quick. It's it's almost like how long pain stays
Speaker 1: with you is all pleasure stays with you? Is such
Speaker 1: a weird concept. And I guess what you're saying is
Speaker 1: that there are certain types of pain that we have
Speaker 1: to learn to let go. There are certain types of
Speaker 1: pain that we need to remember to not repeat the
Speaker 1: same mistake. And it's like, how do you know which
Speaker 1: one's which right you know? Or how do you process it?
Speaker 1: And even in relationship a lot we have a lot
Speaker 1: of emotional pain, a mental anguish and relationships sometimes and
Speaker 1: you know it's even when you're thinking about forgiving someone,
Speaker 1: you could forgive them and not forget in terms of
Speaker 1: the lesson that they taught you. And even adversity, I mean,
Speaker 1: do you feel part of it as in hindsight, I
Speaker 1: think about what's the meaning of this right? That's a
Speaker 1: choice that we can make at any given time. Do
Speaker 1: you think that what you went through most recently with
Speaker 1: your surgery, do you think it's Do you look at
Speaker 1: in any way as what is this teaching me? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: always I think for me, I mean there's a lot
Speaker 1: of lessons in it. One thing is I consider myself
Speaker 1: to be quite a mindful of healthy individual. I try
Speaker 1: and eat healthy, I work out, I sleep healthy, I
Speaker 1: have good rhythms and routines. I definitely pushed the optimal performance,
Speaker 1: but like I'm like definitely always trying to figure that out.
Speaker 1: And I think things like this very humbling, And that's
Speaker 1: how that's the biggest meaning I take away from all
Speaker 1: of this stuff is you're not the control there, You're
Speaker 1: not Superman. You're not you haven't figured everything out. Like
Speaker 1: they're very humbling. They make you realize you're still in
Speaker 1: a human body and you have to deal with the
Speaker 1: ups and downs of it. The second thing I think
Speaker 1: I took away from this whole journey was how much
Speaker 1: I've enjoyed being slow. Like it's I consider myself, like
Speaker 1: I want to say slow, I mean like I consider
Speaker 1: myself to be present mentally, but I think I'm quite
Speaker 1: fast physically, and I live a fast life physically, and
Speaker 1: mental presence is a beautiful thing when you live fast.
Speaker 1: But having physical presence also, which this surgery made me
Speaker 1: have for the first time in a long time, probably
Speaker 1: since I was a kid, Like I can't remember, I've
Speaker 1: literally felt like there were times when I was teaching
Speaker 1: myself how to slowly walk again, and I put pressure
Speaker 1: on my feet and I was like, wait a minute,
Speaker 1: it's really nice living life this slow, Like this is
Speaker 1: actually really special, Like I hope I can hold on
Speaker 1: to elements of this. And yesterday it was funny because
Speaker 1: I was with my friends in New York City and
Speaker 1: we were on a walk and usually we looked at
Speaker 1: it. It It was like twenty minutes to get someone. This
Speaker 1: store was going to close in thirty minutes. And I
Speaker 1: know that if I was walking that path like five
Speaker 1: months ago, I'd have been like, we can do that
Speaker 1: in ten Like that's what I would have said, And
Speaker 1: I said to my friend, So I was like, look,
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna do it in probably like twenty
Speaker 1: three minutes because I'm slower right now, right, and so
Speaker 1: we're only going to get seven minutes at the store.
Speaker 1: So if you guys want to go ahead, you guys,
Speaker 1: go ahead, and I'm going to walk at my pace.
Speaker 1: And we walked there. We got there in twenty three minutes,
Speaker 1: and it was absolutely fine. But it was even just
Speaker 1: me having that shift. I was like, Wow, I'm really
Speaker 1: appreciating walking at this pace. Even though I could get
Speaker 1: more done before, there's there's a certain joy in moving
Speaker 1: at this space. So I fully agree with you. I
Speaker 1: think there's so much meaning, so many lessons, and that
Speaker 1: is the only way to live. I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: if you don't live that way, it just ends up
Speaker 1: being another inconvenient Well, we certainly are. Everybody could as
Speaker 1: we had this shared adversity, right, it comes to different forms,
Speaker 1: you know, I mentioned my challenges learning public speaking as
Speaker 1: an adult. I had severe sleep issues from sleep apnea
Speaker 1: obstructive and I would I would for five years. I
Speaker 1: slept ninety minutes a night and it was it was
Speaker 1: just tearing my mind to that, Yeah, this is one
Speaker 1: of the things. And it wasn't straight, it was interrupted.
Speaker 1: I would stop breathing. It was more of a genetic thing.
Speaker 1: And I would stop breathing two hundred and forty times
Speaker 1: a night. Each time was like ten seconds. And I
Speaker 1: did a series of surgeries. And I know how how
Speaker 1: humbling that could be, you know, and sometimes being reminded,
Speaker 1: UM that we aren't always this the superman or woman
Speaker 1: or or a girl. M you know, there's there's a
Speaker 1: there's a great foundation for for curiosity. So what can
Speaker 1: I learn from this? Um? A great appreciation to cultivate gratitude,
Speaker 1: you know. I think what you appreciate tends to appreciate, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, in our life for sure. And gratitude redwires
Speaker 1: our nervous system for greater productivity, for a greater performance,
Speaker 1: and certainly greater peace, you know. And I think peace
Speaker 1: of mind is high currency today without a doubt. With
Speaker 1: my sleep, though, you know, and that was a very
Speaker 1: painful surgery. It was different than when you're a kid
Speaker 1: had taken and they took them my tonsils, my uvala
Speaker 1: and my soft palette, and I was, you know, for
Speaker 1: for weeks, couldn't breathe couldn't eat, couldn't do anything. Um.
Speaker 1: But I think when I learned from my sleep issues,
Speaker 1: you know, there was a gift in it, you know,
Speaker 1: when I would be able to read and remember and
Speaker 1: focus and you know, so I got to you know,
Speaker 1: live when I teach and practice what I thought, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's a big thing. And then the other part
Speaker 1: of it is I found out that and everything I
Speaker 1: did was you know for a reason, like there's nowhere
Speaker 1: else I'd rather be right now right. I would always say,
Speaker 1: you know, the heck y ask or heck no um
Speaker 1: because I think a lot of people get tired and
Speaker 1: because they have too many tabs opened, or maybe some
Speaker 1: people are watching right now feel burnt out because they're
Speaker 1: doing too much. Maybe you're not burnt out because you're
Speaker 1: doing too much. Maybe feel burnt out because you're doing
Speaker 1: too little of the things that make you feel alive.
Speaker 1: That the things I really liked you up and you know,
Speaker 1: being in that cocoon, part of it is you could
Speaker 1: get clarity. You know, I think solitude when we choose
Speaker 1: to slow down and have you know, get space from noise,
Speaker 1: and when you say yes to somebody or something, you're
Speaker 1: not saying no to yourself. And I think clarity using time,
Speaker 1: just even five ten minutes a day to just clarify
Speaker 1: what's Sometimes when you're going one hundred miles an hour,
Speaker 1: you're not thinking about oh am, I going in the
Speaker 1: right direction? Yeah, right, and asking yourself a simple question
Speaker 1: like what's what's most important to me? You know, in
Speaker 1: my life, what's the most important to me in this moment,
Speaker 1: in my relationships, in my career, and then asking yourself
Speaker 1: on the other side, are my actions today aligned with
Speaker 1: those values? Yes? Because sometimes you know, we make doing
Speaker 1: something that's it's not just about time management for productivity,
Speaker 1: it's about mind management, and it's about priority management. You know,
Speaker 1: the most important thing is to get the most important
Speaker 1: thing the most important thing, and you know that will
Speaker 1: allow you while you're cocooning. You know that clarity as
Speaker 1: well as doing so diretain things like care and contribution.
Speaker 1: I could alliterate all the seas. Yeah, it makes a
Speaker 1: difference to come out of this stronger, to be able
Speaker 1: to sort to new heights as we're going through this transformation. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think if someone's listeners right now and like really
Speaker 1: feeling limited in you know, the sense of how they
Speaker 1: feel about themselves, they're limited by how many options. I
Speaker 1: think options is an interesting thing, like you know, and
Speaker 1: it is different for different people. I remembered that when
Speaker 1: I was in the corporate world and when I was employed,
Speaker 1: and yeah, I didn't do what was meaningful to me.
Speaker 1: I wasn't passionate about what I did. It was just
Speaker 1: what I needed to do to pay the bills and
Speaker 1: take care of things. What gave me more confidence was
Speaker 1: that I always would know if I had other options
Speaker 1: of what I could do, and I would have to
Speaker 1: entertain options in order to realize that I wasn't as
Speaker 1: limited as I thought I was. Because there was a
Speaker 1: part of me that believed I was like, well, this
Speaker 1: is all I can do, this is the only qualification
Speaker 1: I have, like no one else will give me a job.
Speaker 1: And then there was a part of me and I
Speaker 1: was like, well that's not true. Actually I could change
Speaker 1: and shift and do this and do that. I think
Speaker 1: often we limit the number of options we think we have.
Speaker 1: It's it's almost like going back to that Edison quote
Speaker 1: of like, I didn't fail ten thousand times. I just
Speaker 1: found nine nine nine nine ways not to do it.
Speaker 1: And I think there's a there's a deeper thought from
Speaker 1: him that I loved when he said, and this is
Speaker 1: something I always hold on to. And Edison said, when
Speaker 1: you think you've exhausted all options, remember this, you haven't, right.
Speaker 1: And I've always loved that because sometimes I feel like
Speaker 1: that sometimes I'm trying to make something happen, right. Maybe
Speaker 1: you're trying to get a book deal, maybe someone's trying
Speaker 1: to get a podcast deal, maybe someone's trying to raise
Speaker 1: a million dollars to save you a group of people
Speaker 1: from something that they're struggling with, and you try everything
Speaker 1: and then none of them work, and you think, oh, well,
Speaker 1: it's just not meant to happen. But Edison's take is,
Speaker 1: well there's another. How do you kind of live for
Speaker 1: that one? More? Yeah? It doesn't make sense yet it does.
Speaker 1: They say that the problem is rarely the problem. The
Speaker 1: problem is our attitude about the problem. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: with with options, it's they've they've shown where it's one
Speaker 1: of those things where if you're if you're limited to
Speaker 1: one option or two options, you don't really have a
Speaker 1: whole lot of choice. But also if you have too
Speaker 1: many options, you might not actually anything because you struggle
Speaker 1: with decision fatigue. Right, you have you have the menu
Speaker 1: is like fifty pages long, and then it you have
Speaker 1: this overwhelm and our brain primarily is it more of
Speaker 1: a deletion device, is trying to keep options out or
Speaker 1: information out, otherwise we become overloaded and also overwhelmed. And
Speaker 1: so that's that's a big part of it. You know,
Speaker 1: something I teach in everything. When i'mber, I'm working with
Speaker 1: a client, I just look through one framework and I
Speaker 1: call it the limitless model. And maybe this will shed
Speaker 1: light and we can have a conversation about this where
Speaker 1: I believe limits are learned in one of three areas.
Speaker 1: And so if everybody we could turn this into like
Speaker 1: a little exercise, if everybody can think of an area
Speaker 1: where you feel limited, all right, So just think of
Speaker 1: any area where you feel like and limitless is for me,
Speaker 1: it's not about like being perfect. Limitless is about advancing
Speaker 1: or progressing beyond which you currently believe or demonstrating as possible.
Speaker 1: And so if everybody thinks about an area of their health,
Speaker 1: and maybe it's a relationship, where do you feel like
Speaker 1: you're stuck, like you're not advancing? Where do you feel
Speaker 1: like you're in a box. Now, that box, by definition
Speaker 1: is three dimensional, right, and there's three forces that contain
Speaker 1: that box, but they're also three four. These are the
Speaker 1: same three courses that will liberate you how to that
Speaker 1: box and help you become more limitless. So imagine that
Speaker 1: they were being represented by three intersecting circles. Some people
Speaker 1: are familiar with a ven diagram. It's kind of like
Speaker 1: Mickey Mouse. Two ears, two circles, and then a face, right,
Speaker 1: and they and they overlap. So the first one is
Speaker 1: your mindset. And so I believe that our mindset is
Speaker 1: something like I wasn't born with this idea that I
Speaker 1: had a broken brain. It was imprinted on me, right,
Speaker 1: And our mindset comes from our experience through external environment,
Speaker 1: you know, through throughout other people's expectations and mindset, defining
Speaker 1: as your attitudes and assumptions about something, your attitudes assumptions
Speaker 1: about what's possible, your attitudes and assumptions about what you're
Speaker 1: capable of, because you could believe it's possible for somebody
Speaker 1: else to have that loving relationship or build that big
Speaker 1: business or have one hundred thousand followers, but you might
Speaker 1: not believe it's possible for you, and you can still
Speaker 1: be stuck in that box. Besides what is possible, what
Speaker 1: you what you're capable of, what you believe you deserve. Right,
Speaker 1: a lot of people might be stuck in that box
Speaker 1: because they might know the right methods that may be motivated,
Speaker 1: but they don't believe that they deserve those things. So
Speaker 1: those are the things that I talk about uncovering and
Speaker 1: unlimiting those those lies. So if you believe you're not
Speaker 1: smart enough, if you believe you're a slow reader, if
Speaker 1: you believe you're I am a procrastinator, whatever it happens
Speaker 1: to be, you're stuck in that box. The second circle
Speaker 1: that you have to take into account besides mindset, and
Speaker 1: there are many interventions by the way, like if you
Speaker 1: feel like you could identify a lie that you know, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm not smart enough, I don't know the resource whatever
Speaker 1: it is. You know. There are things that people have
Speaker 1: talked about on your show, whether it's emotional freedom technique,
Speaker 1: em DR hypnosis. There's a ways of changing your belief systems. Right.
Speaker 1: The second circle, though, is just as powerful. The second
Speaker 1: m besides mindset is motivation, you know, and motivation. You
Speaker 1: could have a limitless mindset but not be motivated to
Speaker 1: get out of that box. You might be everything is possible,
Speaker 1: I deserve it, I'm capable, but you're not motivated to
Speaker 1: get off the couch and do those things. You know.
Speaker 1: For me, there's a simple formula for sustained motivation, and
Speaker 1: it's P the letter P times E times S three.
Speaker 1: And so if we're to do a thought experiment and
Speaker 1: say what do you want to be motivated for? Maybe
Speaker 1: for some people it's to read every day. You know,
Speaker 1: leaders or readers. Somebody has decades experience like you do.
Speaker 1: You put into a book, think like a monk, and
Speaker 1: somebody sit down a few days and read that book.
Speaker 1: They could download decades in days, but they're not reading
Speaker 1: every day. Maybe they're really good at buying a book,
Speaker 1: but they're not good at reading that book. This is
Speaker 1: some people, right, they're very good at adding to card
Speaker 1: and it sits on their shelf and become shelf help,
Speaker 1: not self felt right, But they're not motivated. And so
Speaker 1: maybe their mindset is yeah, it's good to grow, but
Speaker 1: they're not motivated. So the peace dance for purpose, and
Speaker 1: what I mean by purpose is and you're an expert
Speaker 1: at this is just not just cognitive reasons, but how
Speaker 1: do you feel about something? Because we know we're not logical,
Speaker 1: we are more emotional, right, And you mentioned that if
Speaker 1: there's a song they can take you back to when
Speaker 1: your child, it's that emotional feeling, that mood that got
Speaker 1: linked to that information. It's just like a food or
Speaker 1: a fragrance that can take you back to when you're
Speaker 1: a kid. So purpose allowing yourself to feel the benefits
Speaker 1: instead of just has to go from your head to
Speaker 1: your heart to your hands, right, and so allow yourself
Speaker 1: to feel that. But even if someone has purpose, they
Speaker 1: might not read because they E stands for energy, right.
Speaker 1: A lot of some people if they if they haven't
Speaker 1: slept because they have a newborn child, they can't focus, right,
Speaker 1: they can't have the mental fortitude. Or maybe they eat
Speaker 1: some junk food. And I don't think there's junk food.
Speaker 1: There's junk and there's food, but maybe they're they're they're
Speaker 1: in a food coma and they on the energy to study, right,
Speaker 1: so you have you know, we talk about the best
Speaker 1: brain foods how to reduce stress because it takes a
Speaker 1: lot of energy. Your pure group could take a lot
Speaker 1: of energy out of you else as well. But let's
Speaker 1: say you have a limitless purpose and limitless energy. The
Speaker 1: s three are those small simple steps, you know, those
Speaker 1: tiny little actions you could take. So maybe it's working
Speaker 1: out and that's too big, or going back to reading.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's reading a chapter is too big for someone
Speaker 1: who doesn't do that. Maybe just opening the book is
Speaker 1: a small simple step. Reading one line is a small
Speaker 1: simple step. Maybe working out an hour a day is tough.
Speaker 1: Maybe getting your running shoes on, maybe getting yourself to
Speaker 1: the gym as a small simple step. I think little
Speaker 1: by little, a little becomes a lot, you know, And
Speaker 1: so that's really the key is consistency, because if you're persistent,
Speaker 1: you could achieve it, but if you're consistent, you get
Speaker 1: to keep it. Yeah, and it's difference between something being
Speaker 1: attainable and sustainable over time. And then finally the last
Speaker 1: them are the methods. You know, once you have a
Speaker 1: limitless mindset, you have a limits motivation. You could be
Speaker 1: doing old methods and still not yet where you need
Speaker 1: to go all methods of sales, or methods of learning,
Speaker 1: all methods of health. And you wonder why you're still
Speaker 1: stuck in that box. And so when's the last time
Speaker 1: we took time to upgrade our knowledge? Our skills are
Speaker 1: our abilities, you know. So those are the three ms.
Speaker 1: And if people draw that out or even imagine that,
Speaker 1: you'll notice that the three ms overlap and they create
Speaker 1: three eyes too, where mindset and motivation crossover. The first
Speaker 1: eye is inspiration, right, because it changes what's inspiration something
Speaker 1: that changes your mindset about what's possible. And also you're
Speaker 1: a little bit motivated. You have some drive and purpose,
Speaker 1: but you might not have the methods, you might not
Speaker 1: have the instruction right, so you're still stuck in that
Speaker 1: box where mindset and methods crossover. You believe it's possible
Speaker 1: in your mind and you know what to do the methods.
Speaker 1: That's the second eye, which is ideation. It just stays
Speaker 1: an idea, right, and nothing's happening because you're not motivated.
Speaker 1: And then finally, where motivation and methods crossover, you're the
Speaker 1: third eye, which is implementation. You're motivated, your purpose, you
Speaker 1: have energy and you know what to do to do
Speaker 1: that get out of that box. But you can still
Speaker 1: be stuck in that box because you're limited by your mindset,
Speaker 1: you know. And so that's what I think. And then
Speaker 1: we're three, all three connect. You have the fourth eye,
Speaker 1: which is your identity, which is integration. It's just who
Speaker 1: you are and that's really the goal. So my my
Speaker 1: conversation with becoming more limitless is about redrawing, like where
Speaker 1: where are we stuck? And I think when you could identify, Oh,
Speaker 1: it's let's say someone can remember names. Is in my mindset?
Speaker 1: Do I believe I'm just too old or have a
Speaker 1: horrible memory, or maybe that's not the case. Maybe it's hey,
Speaker 1: I don't have a purpose, I don't have a reason
Speaker 1: to remember their names. Yeah right, Or I'm just really tired,
Speaker 1: or I don't have the methods. I was never taught.
Speaker 1: There's no class on how to remember names. And then
Speaker 1: it gives you your your agency back, it gives your
Speaker 1: power back. Also, it's such a phenomenal framework. It's such
Speaker 1: a fantastic framework, and I know it's in the book Limitless.
Speaker 1: It's it's such a great framework. And I love the
Speaker 1: way you break things down because, like you said, I
Speaker 1: think often we just spend too much time and well,
Speaker 1: we waste too much time just trying to figure out
Speaker 1: what the issue is, right, and it's one of those three.
Speaker 1: I Once you know that, then you can break it down.
Speaker 1: And I think you've just given people a real map
Speaker 1: to say, Hey, which area is struggling with with whatever
Speaker 1: limit they chose, And it works for yourself. And also
Speaker 1: it's a map you could use with people around you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a lens. When you're working with your kids and
Speaker 1: they're not doing something that they know they should do,
Speaker 1: you know, is that their mindset? Do they not believe
Speaker 1: in themselves? I believe they're capable of doing I believe
Speaker 1: they deserve it. Or maybe they have no purpose to
Speaker 1: clean their room or to study these things. You know,
Speaker 1: if it's not relevant to them, they're probably not and
Speaker 1: so you know what to address. Maybe they're just we
Speaker 1: have to work on optimizing their energy because you don't
Speaker 1: have energy. You do it right, Yes, this whole idea.
Speaker 1: You take your nouns in your life and turn them
Speaker 1: into verbs. You don't have focus. People are thinking, that's
Speaker 1: my problemt to I'm watching this don't have focus. But
Speaker 1: you don't have focus, you do it. There's a process
Speaker 1: for focusing. You don't have a memory. There's a process
Speaker 1: of encoding, storing, and retrieving. You know, you don't even
Speaker 1: have energy. There's a process for generating energy. And as
Speaker 1: their friend and Burchard talks a lot about, you know
Speaker 1: a lot that you know, you generate these kind of
Speaker 1: energy and they're also it can be the methods. Sometimes
Speaker 1: it's it's simply learning better tools also as well, so
Speaker 1: you could use it with your friends. You can work
Speaker 1: with your team. And this works micro and it also
Speaker 1: works macro. This works at a cultural level, it works
Speaker 1: at the level of community, works at the level of
Speaker 1: your country. There's a set mindset about, you know what,
Speaker 1: maybe around certain issues right now it's really hard to
Speaker 1: create change or it becoming more limitless, you know, based
Speaker 1: on certain mindset around maybe fairness and quality whatever happens
Speaker 1: to be. Or maybe these people and maybe they don't
Speaker 1: have purpose, you know, or maybe they're be incentivized to
Speaker 1: keep things in a certain way, or maybe they lack
Speaker 1: energy or resources, or maybe they're using old methods for
Speaker 1: leadership or making change. Right, So it can happen micro
Speaker 1: or macro. That's unbelievable. Yeah, I love that. I love
Speaker 1: the framework even more hearing it from you. It's just
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of so many areas in my
Speaker 1: life from like, okay, which one am I struggling with? Right?
Speaker 1: Like which which one is it? Or we haven't got
Speaker 1: it right or we haven't figured it out. And I
Speaker 1: think if everyone just took a few moments today to
Speaker 1: reflect on that one area of their life that they
Speaker 1: want to work on and identify it with that process,
Speaker 1: when we start to do it, you know who we're around,
Speaker 1: We always have known that. Like who we're around is
Speaker 1: such a big deal. Our friends, our family, our community,
Speaker 1: Like these things have a huge impact on us, right,
Speaker 1: Like negativity is contagious, like so much. So many people
Speaker 1: will say that they feel drained by the people around
Speaker 1: them or their family, or that when they share a new,
Speaker 1: big idea with someone that they love, they're often met
Speaker 1: with resistance. Like I hear this so often. And when
Speaker 1: you think about limits, you think about what you said,
Speaker 1: like you didn't you weren't born with limits, you had
Speaker 1: limits placed on you. But we either get to choose
Speaker 1: to accept or reject those limits. But it's really hard,
Speaker 1: and it's really hard for people to reject a limit
Speaker 1: placed on them by someone they love and trust. Walk
Speaker 1: us through that a little bit, like, let's think out
Speaker 1: loud about that. Like when someone has their mother or
Speaker 1: their father or someone they really respect place a limit
Speaker 1: on them, right, you want that person to root for
Speaker 1: you. You You want that person for you to win. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we all need people to encourage us, to be able
Speaker 1: to challenge us, to be able to cheer, lead, for
Speaker 1: us to believe in us. And if we haven't found
Speaker 1: that person yet, then you know, my advice would be
Speaker 1: to be that person. Be that person for somebody else,
Speaker 1: especially be that person for yourself. Right. You know we
Speaker 1: we talked about last time in this conversation the difference
Speaker 1: between a thermostat and a thermometer, a thermometer on the wall,
Speaker 1: just it's only function that reacts to the environment. And
Speaker 1: sometimes we as humans, we react to the economy, we
Speaker 1: react to politics, we react how people treat us, react
Speaker 1: to the weather. But we know through studies done on
Speaker 1: people who are most successful at least at least the
Speaker 1: ones that are happiest and most fulfilled, they don't react
Speaker 1: as much as they respond. Right, they're a thermostat. A
Speaker 1: thermostat doesn't react to the environment. It gages and knows
Speaker 1: the temperature in this room, but it also what It
Speaker 1: sets a temperature and there in the environment reacts to it.
Speaker 1: So it's that agency, you know. Last time, you and
Speaker 1: I talked about some of the people that I get
Speaker 1: to be able to spend time within Coach and when
Speaker 1: I learned from those people, and one of them I
Speaker 1: mentioned was stan Lee. And it wasn't just his playfulness,
Speaker 1: you know, and his passion for what he did. It
Speaker 1: was also responsibility, you know. I remember I picked him
Speaker 1: up for dinner one day evening and I asked him, like,
Speaker 1: I need to know this because I remember I couldn't read.
Speaker 1: I tell myself how to read by reading comic books.
Speaker 1: I tell him that whole story because it brought the
Speaker 1: words to life. But I said, who's your favorite? Who's
Speaker 1: your favorite? And he says, Jim, my favorite is iron Man.
Speaker 1: And he says, Jim, who's your favorite? And he had
Speaker 1: the Spider Man tie and I was like Spider Man
Speaker 1: And he says, without a pause in his iconic voice,
Speaker 1: with great power comes great responsibility, right, And truthfully, I
Speaker 1: reverse a lot of things I see, I read, I
Speaker 1: hear maybe because of my brain injuries as a child,
Speaker 1: and I heard something totally different I was. I say,
Speaker 1: you're right. With great power comes great responsibility, and the
Speaker 1: opposite is also true. With great responsibility comes great power.
Speaker 1: When we take responsibility for something, we have great power
Speaker 1: to make things better, you know. And the thing is,
Speaker 1: when we make excuses or we complain it's probably all valid.
Speaker 1: We probably it's probably true, right, but it doesn't make
Speaker 1: anything better. Right, So we use a lot of our focus,
Speaker 1: our attention, our energy when it can be better well spent,
Speaker 1: because we can't be upset by the results we didn't
Speaker 1: get from the work we didn't do right. And so
Speaker 1: when we take personal responsibility, we have the power to
Speaker 1: make things better. And I would say part of responsibility
Speaker 1: is is our peer group certainly affects things. I always say,
Speaker 1: watch it affects w our words, right, the words we
Speaker 1: started adopting the same language patterns as people around us,
Speaker 1: started using the same phrases, the a our actions, We
Speaker 1: start doing the same behaviors as people around us also
Speaker 1: as well, good and bad what we eat. So it's
Speaker 1: not just our neurological networks. It's our social networks, right,
Speaker 1: And who we spend time with is who we become.
Speaker 1: We start believing their same standards, and they're all their
Speaker 1: expectations for us. Right. The Tea and Watch is we
Speaker 1: start mirroring the thoughts of the people around us. We
Speaker 1: start thinking the same way about ourselves as other people
Speaker 1: think about us. And the c is a big one.
Speaker 1: It's our character. Right. We know that people if they
Speaker 1: have breaks in integrity and the around people that are disingenuous,
Speaker 1: you know that they're more likely to pursue, you know,
Speaker 1: and have that same kind of standard. I saw recently
Speaker 1: a quote that said integrity is measured by the distance
Speaker 1: between someone's lips and their life, and I just like, wow,
Speaker 1: that's a nice cut. Yes, all truth bumps, but yeah,
Speaker 1: it's the character. And then finally the h and Watch
Speaker 1: our habits. We start adopting the same routines and the
Speaker 1: habits of the pole that we spend time with. So
Speaker 1: we have to stand guard to the doors of our mind, right,
Speaker 1: and we have these mirror neurons that's constantly in our
Speaker 1: nervous system. They are constantly imitating the people around us,
Speaker 1: and so we can love our family and we can
Speaker 1: love our friends, but when our lives are fueled by
Speaker 1: the expectations and beliefs and opinions of other people, then
Speaker 1: we're going to run out of gas, right, good, bad,
Speaker 1: and and different. Part of it is owning that agency,
Speaker 1: saying that yeah, it's yes, it's hard, you know, when
Speaker 1: people don't believe in you, and like that. That's I
Speaker 1: was very blessed. I think, you know, I won the
Speaker 1: lottery when it came to my parents. They immigrated here.
Speaker 1: They're not the most spiritual, They've never had a green juice,
Speaker 1: you know, they don't do yoga, they're not the most
Speaker 1: health conscious or you know, read personal development books. But
Speaker 1: they're just there's really good people. They do what they
Speaker 1: they're hard working, they're very very kind, you know. So
Speaker 1: I feel like everything that's good that's come out of
Speaker 1: you know, that I've ever done is a credit to them.
Speaker 1: Anything that's fall short, you know, it's all on me,
Speaker 1: you know. So I very I'm very blessed. And it's
Speaker 1: not so much about the resources you have, because we
Speaker 1: didn't have any education, we don't have any money, and
Speaker 1: we live in the back of a laundry map that
Speaker 1: my mom, whom we worked at, didn't have any connections
Speaker 1: or network or anything you know, back then, And so
Speaker 1: I would say that if there's somebody else that has
Speaker 1: survived and even thrived, you know, those game kind of situations,
Speaker 1: that I do believe that genius in any of its form,
Speaker 1: And I'll talk about IQ that it's built that and
Speaker 1: it's not born, it's built around that. We shouldn't be
Speaker 1: shrinking our lives and our dreams to meet this current situation. Instead,
Speaker 1: don't downgrade your dreams to meet this current situation. What
Speaker 1: if we upgraded our mindset and what if we upgraded
Speaker 1: our motivation. What if we upgraded the methods we're using
Speaker 1: to be able to meet our destiny. Jim, that's so powerful.
Speaker 1: I mean that one statement, the reframe I've had that
Speaker 1: I'm a big Marvel fan, as you know, and yeah,
Speaker 1: to hear that reframe of that statement, with great responsibility
Speaker 1: comes great power. That's a universal principle. It's almost like,
Speaker 1: if you think about it, that when you take on
Speaker 1: a great responsibility, everything in the universe conspires to help
Speaker 1: you with it. And so the amount of help you
Speaker 1: get is about how much healing you're trying to bring
Speaker 1: and that's really beautiful and powerful. I mean, that's going
Speaker 1: to stay with me for a long time. That's a really,
Speaker 1: really special insight. And I want to make sure that
Speaker 1: everyone goes out and grabs a copy if you don't
Speaker 1: already of Limitless by Jim Quick. The three M model
Speaker 1: is in this book and broken down step by step
Speaker 1: as you saw and her. Jim is a highly systematic,
Speaker 1: logical thinker, and so if you want really practical key
Speaker 1: advice on all of these ideas and insights, to make
Speaker 1: sure you go and grab a copy of this book. Jim,
Speaker 1: I want to thank you for teaching us all how
Speaker 1: to be limitless today and break through our limitations. I
Speaker 1: want to thank you for doing it in your own life.
Speaker 1: Thank your parents too for doing what they did. That
Speaker 1: was beautiful to hear that. And I'm always here to
Speaker 1: support and be right with you whatever you're doing. So
Speaker 1: thank you so much, and yeah, I appreciate it, and
Speaker 1: thank you to your entire community. You know, I believe
Speaker 1: the world right now, so many people feel like they're
Speaker 1: dimming themselves their message to be able to because they
Speaker 1: don't want their light to shine in other people's eyes
Speaker 1: and I feel like we need to be doing the
Speaker 1: opposite now more than ever. You know, we need a better,
Speaker 1: brighter world, and I think that there's a version of
Speaker 1: ourselves and our family is our purpose, everything that's patiently
Speaker 1: waiting and the goal as we show up every single
Speaker 1: day until we're introduced. Well said, Well said Jim. Quick,
Speaker 1: everyone make sure that you tag me and Jim on Instagram,
Speaker 1: on Twitter, on TikTok, whatever platform you're using. Let us
Speaker 1: know what you learned, what you took away, what you've
Speaker 1: gained from this conversation. We're going to be back next week,
Speaker 1: of course, with another incredible episode of On Purpose. Thank
Speaker 1: you for all your love. Makes sure you subscribe, and Jim,
Speaker 1: thank you so much again for joining us. It's been
Speaker 1: an honor.