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Speaker 1: I really liked you up. Everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose,

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Speaker 1: the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to

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Speaker 1: He is the foremost brain coach. He's an incredible author

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Speaker 1: and an amazing podcast. My dear friend Jim Quick, the

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to On Purpose. It's so great to have

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Speaker 1: too quick. It's it's almost like how long pain stays

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Speaker 1: a weird concept. And I guess what you're saying is

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Speaker 1: that there are certain types of pain that we have

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Speaker 1: do you feel part of it as in hindsight, I

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Speaker 1: choice that we can make at any given time. Do

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Speaker 1: you think that what you went through most recently with

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Speaker 1: your surgery, do you think it's Do you look at

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Speaker 1: in any way as what is this teaching me? Yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: always I think for me, I mean there's a lot

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Speaker 1: have good rhythms and routines. I definitely pushed the optimal performance,

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Speaker 1: but like I'm like definitely always trying to figure that out.

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Speaker 1: And I think things like this very humbling, And that's

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Speaker 1: how that's the biggest meaning I take away from all

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Speaker 1: not Superman. You're not you haven't figured everything out. Like

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Speaker 1: they're very humbling. They make you realize you're still in

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Speaker 1: ups and downs of it. The second thing I think

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Speaker 1: I took away from this whole journey was how much

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Speaker 1: I've enjoyed being slow. Like it's I consider myself, like

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Speaker 1: I want to say slow, I mean like I consider

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Speaker 1: myself to be present mentally, but I think I'm quite

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Speaker 1: fast physically, and I live a fast life physically, and

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Speaker 1: mental presence is a beautiful thing when you live fast.

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Speaker 1: But having physical presence also, which this surgery made me

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Speaker 1: have for the first time in a long time, probably

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Speaker 1: literally felt like there were times when I was teaching

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Speaker 1: myself how to slowly walk again, and I put pressure

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Speaker 1: on my feet and I was like, wait a minute,

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Speaker 1: it's really nice living life this slow, Like this is

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Speaker 1: actually really special, Like I hope I can hold on

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Speaker 1: to elements of this. And yesterday it was funny because

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Speaker 1: I was with my friends in New York City and

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Speaker 1: we were on a walk and usually we looked at

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Speaker 1: it. It It was like twenty minutes to get someone. This

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Speaker 1: store was going to close in thirty minutes. And I

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Speaker 1: know that if I was walking that path like five

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Speaker 1: months ago, I'd have been like, we can do that

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Speaker 1: in ten Like that's what I would have said, And

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Speaker 1: I said to my friend, So I was like, look,

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Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna do it in probably like twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes because I'm slower right now, right, and so

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Speaker 1: we're only going to get seven minutes at the store.

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Speaker 1: So if you guys want to go ahead, you guys,

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Speaker 1: go ahead, and I'm going to walk at my pace.

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Speaker 1: And we walked there. We got there in twenty three minutes,

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Speaker 1: and it was absolutely fine. But it was even just

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Speaker 1: me having that shift. I was like, Wow, I'm really

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Speaker 1: appreciating walking at this pace. Even though I could get

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Speaker 1: more done before, there's there's a certain joy in moving

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Speaker 1: at this space. So I fully agree with you. I

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Speaker 1: think there's so much meaning, so many lessons, and that

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Speaker 1: is the only way to live. I mean, you know,

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Speaker 1: if you don't live that way, it just ends up

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Speaker 1: being another inconvenient Well, we certainly are. Everybody could as

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Speaker 1: we had this shared adversity, right, it comes to different forms,

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Speaker 1: you know, I mentioned my challenges learning public speaking as

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Speaker 1: obstructive and I would I would for five years. I

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Speaker 1: slept ninety minutes a night and it was it was

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Speaker 1: just tearing my mind to that, Yeah, this is one

589
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Speaker 1: of the things. And it wasn't straight, it was interrupted.

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Speaker 1: I would stop breathing. It was more of a genetic thing.

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Speaker 1: And I would stop breathing two hundred and forty times

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Speaker 1: a night. Each time was like ten seconds. And I

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Speaker 1: did a series of surgeries. And I know how how

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Speaker 1: humbling that could be, you know, and sometimes being reminded,

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Speaker 1: UM that we aren't always this the superman or woman

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Speaker 1: or or a girl. M you know, there's there's a

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Speaker 1: there's a great foundation for for curiosity. So what can

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Speaker 1: I learn from this? Um? A great appreciation to cultivate gratitude,

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Speaker 1: you know. I think what you appreciate tends to appreciate, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, in our life for sure. And gratitude redwires

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Speaker 1: our nervous system for greater productivity, for a greater performance,

602
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Speaker 1: and certainly greater peace, you know. And I think peace

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Speaker 1: of mind is high currency today without a doubt. With

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Speaker 1: my sleep, though, you know, and that was a very

605
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Speaker 1: painful surgery. It was different than when you're a kid

606
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Speaker 1: had taken and they took them my tonsils, my uvala

607
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Speaker 1: and my soft palette, and I was, you know, for

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Speaker 1: for weeks, couldn't breathe couldn't eat, couldn't do anything. Um.

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Speaker 1: But I think when I learned from my sleep issues,

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Speaker 1: you know, there was a gift in it, you know,

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Speaker 1: when I would be able to read and remember and

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Speaker 1: focus and you know, so I got to you know,

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Speaker 1: live when I teach and practice what I thought, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's that's a big thing. And then the other part

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Speaker 1: of it is I found out that and everything I

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Speaker 1: did was you know for a reason, like there's nowhere

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Speaker 1: else I'd rather be right now right. I would always say,

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Speaker 1: you know, the heck y ask or heck no um

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Speaker 1: because I think a lot of people get tired and

620
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Speaker 1: because they have too many tabs opened, or maybe some

621
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Speaker 1: people are watching right now feel burnt out because they're

622
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Speaker 1: doing too much. Maybe you're not burnt out because you're

623
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Speaker 1: doing too much. Maybe feel burnt out because you're doing

624
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Speaker 1: too little of the things that make you feel alive.

625
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Speaker 1: That the things I really liked you up and you know,

626
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Speaker 1: being in that cocoon, part of it is you could

627
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Speaker 1: get clarity. You know, I think solitude when we choose

628
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Speaker 1: to slow down and have you know, get space from noise,

629
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Speaker 1: and when you say yes to somebody or something, you're

630
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Speaker 1: not saying no to yourself. And I think clarity using time,

631
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Speaker 1: just even five ten minutes a day to just clarify

632
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Speaker 1: what's Sometimes when you're going one hundred miles an hour,

633
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Speaker 1: you're not thinking about oh am, I going in the

634
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Speaker 1: right direction? Yeah, right, and asking yourself a simple question

635
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Speaker 1: like what's what's most important to me? You know, in

636
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Speaker 1: my life, what's the most important to me in this moment,

637
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Speaker 1: in my relationships, in my career, and then asking yourself

638
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Speaker 1: on the other side, are my actions today aligned with

639
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Speaker 1: those values? Yes? Because sometimes you know, we make doing

640
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Speaker 1: something that's it's not just about time management for productivity,

641
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Speaker 1: it's about mind management, and it's about priority management. You know,

642
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 1: the most important thing is to get the most important

643
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 1: thing the most important thing, and you know that will

644
00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 1: allow you while you're cocooning. You know that clarity as

645
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: well as doing so diretain things like care and contribution.

646
00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 1: I could alliterate all the seas. Yeah, it makes a

647
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: difference to come out of this stronger, to be able

648
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 1: to sort to new heights as we're going through this transformation. Yeah.

649
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:09,719
Speaker 1: I think if someone's listeners right now and like really

650
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: feeling limited in you know, the sense of how they

651
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 1: feel about themselves, they're limited by how many options. I

652
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:20,719
Speaker 1: think options is an interesting thing, like you know, and

653
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: it is different for different people. I remembered that when

654
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 1: I was in the corporate world and when I was employed,

655
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 1: and yeah, I didn't do what was meaningful to me.

656
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:32,560
Speaker 1: I wasn't passionate about what I did. It was just

657
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 1: what I needed to do to pay the bills and

658
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 1: take care of things. What gave me more confidence was

659
00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 1: that I always would know if I had other options

660
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 1: of what I could do, and I would have to

661
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 1: entertain options in order to realize that I wasn't as

662
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 1: limited as I thought I was. Because there was a

663
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 1: part of me that believed I was like, well, this

664
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 1: is all I can do, this is the only qualification

665
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 1: I have, like no one else will give me a job.

666
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: And then there was a part of me and I

667
00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 1: was like, well that's not true. Actually I could change

668
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,240
Speaker 1: and shift and do this and do that. I think

669
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Speaker 1: often we limit the number of options we think we have.

670
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Speaker 1: It's it's almost like going back to that Edison quote

671
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:12,480
Speaker 1: of like, I didn't fail ten thousand times. I just

672
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 1: found nine nine nine nine ways not to do it.

673
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: And I think there's a there's a deeper thought from

674
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Speaker 1: him that I loved when he said, and this is

675
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 1: something I always hold on to. And Edison said, when

676
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:31,040
Speaker 1: you think you've exhausted all options, remember this, you haven't, right.

677
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:34,160
Speaker 1: And I've always loved that because sometimes I feel like

678
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,240
Speaker 1: that sometimes I'm trying to make something happen, right. Maybe

679
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 1: you're trying to get a book deal, maybe someone's trying

680
00:33:37,840 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 1: to get a podcast deal, maybe someone's trying to raise

681
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 1: a million dollars to save you a group of people

682
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 1: from something that they're struggling with, and you try everything

683
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:48,320
Speaker 1: and then none of them work, and you think, oh, well,

684
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 1: it's just not meant to happen. But Edison's take is,

685
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: well there's another. How do you kind of live for

686
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: that one? More? Yeah? It doesn't make sense yet it does.

687
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 1: They say that the problem is rarely the problem. The

688
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:03,640
Speaker 1: problem is our attitude about the problem. Yeah, you know,

689
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 1: with with options, it's they've they've shown where it's one

690
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 1: of those things where if you're if you're limited to

691
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 1: one option or two options, you don't really have a

692
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 1: whole lot of choice. But also if you have too

693
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 1: many options, you might not actually anything because you struggle

694
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 1: with decision fatigue. Right, you have you have the menu

695
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:23,840
Speaker 1: is like fifty pages long, and then it you have

696
00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:26,320
Speaker 1: this overwhelm and our brain primarily is it more of

697
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 1: a deletion device, is trying to keep options out or

698
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 1: information out, otherwise we become overloaded and also overwhelmed. And

699
00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:35,840
Speaker 1: so that's that's a big part of it. You know,

700
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 1: something I teach in everything. When i'mber, I'm working with

701
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 1: a client, I just look through one framework and I

702
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 1: call it the limitless model. And maybe this will shed

703
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:46,239
Speaker 1: light and we can have a conversation about this where

704
00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:48,880
Speaker 1: I believe limits are learned in one of three areas.

705
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 1: And so if everybody we could turn this into like

706
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:54,880
Speaker 1: a little exercise, if everybody can think of an area

707
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 1: where you feel limited, all right, So just think of

708
00:34:57,320 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 1: any area where you feel like and limitless is for me,

709
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:03,880
Speaker 1: it's not about like being perfect. Limitless is about advancing

710
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 1: or progressing beyond which you currently believe or demonstrating as possible.

711
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,919
Speaker 1: And so if everybody thinks about an area of their health,

712
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 1: and maybe it's a relationship, where do you feel like

713
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:15,080
Speaker 1: you're stuck, like you're not advancing? Where do you feel

714
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: like you're in a box. Now, that box, by definition

715
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:20,800
Speaker 1: is three dimensional, right, and there's three forces that contain

716
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:22,719
Speaker 1: that box, but they're also three four. These are the

717
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 1: same three courses that will liberate you how to that

718
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 1: box and help you become more limitless. So imagine that

719
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 1: they were being represented by three intersecting circles. Some people

720
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:35,359
Speaker 1: are familiar with a ven diagram. It's kind of like

721
00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:39,399
Speaker 1: Mickey Mouse. Two ears, two circles, and then a face, right,

722
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:42,440
Speaker 1: and they and they overlap. So the first one is

723
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 1: your mindset. And so I believe that our mindset is

724
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 1: something like I wasn't born with this idea that I

725
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 1: had a broken brain. It was imprinted on me, right,

726
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:54,320
Speaker 1: And our mindset comes from our experience through external environment,

727
00:35:55,760 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 1: you know, through throughout other people's expectations and mindset, defining

728
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 1: as your attitudes and assumptions about something, your attitudes assumptions

729
00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:08,839
Speaker 1: about what's possible, your attitudes and assumptions about what you're

730
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 1: capable of, because you could believe it's possible for somebody

731
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: else to have that loving relationship or build that big

732
00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:16,719
Speaker 1: business or have one hundred thousand followers, but you might

733
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 1: not believe it's possible for you, and you can still

734
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 1: be stuck in that box. Besides what is possible, what

735
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 1: you what you're capable of, what you believe you deserve. Right,

736
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 1: a lot of people might be stuck in that box

737
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 1: because they might know the right methods that may be motivated,

738
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:34,359
Speaker 1: but they don't believe that they deserve those things. So

739
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:36,799
Speaker 1: those are the things that I talk about uncovering and

740
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 1: unlimiting those those lies. So if you believe you're not

741
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 1: smart enough, if you believe you're a slow reader, if

742
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:44,720
Speaker 1: you believe you're I am a procrastinator, whatever it happens

743
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 1: to be, you're stuck in that box. The second circle

744
00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:49,800
Speaker 1: that you have to take into account besides mindset, and

745
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 1: there are many interventions by the way, like if you

746
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 1: feel like you could identify a lie that you know, hey,

747
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 1: I'm not smart enough, I don't know the resource whatever

748
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 1: it is. You know. There are things that people have

749
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 1: talked about on your show, whether it's emotional freedom technique,

750
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:08,359
Speaker 1: em DR hypnosis. There's a ways of changing your belief systems. Right.

751
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 1: The second circle, though, is just as powerful. The second

752
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 1: m besides mindset is motivation, you know, and motivation. You

753
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 1: could have a limitless mindset but not be motivated to

754
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:21,240
Speaker 1: get out of that box. You might be everything is possible,

755
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:23,319
Speaker 1: I deserve it, I'm capable, but you're not motivated to

756
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 1: get off the couch and do those things. You know.

757
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:29,440
Speaker 1: For me, there's a simple formula for sustained motivation, and

758
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:32,879
Speaker 1: it's P the letter P times E times S three.

759
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 1: And so if we're to do a thought experiment and

760
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 1: say what do you want to be motivated for? Maybe

761
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 1: for some people it's to read every day. You know,

762
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 1: leaders or readers. Somebody has decades experience like you do.

763
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 1: You put into a book, think like a monk, and

764
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 1: somebody sit down a few days and read that book.

765
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:50,840
Speaker 1: They could download decades in days, but they're not reading

766
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:52,960
Speaker 1: every day. Maybe they're really good at buying a book,

767
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 1: but they're not good at reading that book. This is

768
00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 1: some people, right, they're very good at adding to card

769
00:37:57,520 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 1: and it sits on their shelf and become shelf help,

770
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:03,799
Speaker 1: not self felt right, But they're not motivated. And so

771
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:06,440
Speaker 1: maybe their mindset is yeah, it's good to grow, but

772
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:08,839
Speaker 1: they're not motivated. So the peace dance for purpose, and

773
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:11,840
Speaker 1: what I mean by purpose is and you're an expert

774
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:15,920
Speaker 1: at this is just not just cognitive reasons, but how

775
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 1: do you feel about something? Because we know we're not logical,

776
00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:22,680
Speaker 1: we are more emotional, right, And you mentioned that if

777
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:24,239
Speaker 1: there's a song they can take you back to when

778
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 1: your child, it's that emotional feeling, that mood that got

779
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 1: linked to that information. It's just like a food or

780
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 1: a fragrance that can take you back to when you're

781
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:36,400
Speaker 1: a kid. So purpose allowing yourself to feel the benefits

782
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 1: instead of just has to go from your head to

783
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:41,280
Speaker 1: your heart to your hands, right, and so allow yourself

784
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 1: to feel that. But even if someone has purpose, they

785
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 1: might not read because they E stands for energy, right.

786
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:48,479
Speaker 1: A lot of some people if they if they haven't

787
00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:51,960
Speaker 1: slept because they have a newborn child, they can't focus, right,

788
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: they can't have the mental fortitude. Or maybe they eat

789
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 1: some junk food. And I don't think there's junk food.

790
00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: There's junk and there's food, but maybe they're they're they're

791
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:02,359
Speaker 1: in a food coma and they on the energy to study, right,

792
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:04,200
Speaker 1: so you have you know, we talk about the best

793
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 1: brain foods how to reduce stress because it takes a

794
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 1: lot of energy. Your pure group could take a lot

795
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:09,960
Speaker 1: of energy out of you else as well. But let's

796
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:12,440
Speaker 1: say you have a limitless purpose and limitless energy. The

797
00:39:12,760 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 1: s three are those small simple steps, you know, those

798
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: tiny little actions you could take. So maybe it's working

799
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: out and that's too big, or going back to reading.

800
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 1: Maybe it's reading a chapter is too big for someone

801
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 1: who doesn't do that. Maybe just opening the book is

802
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,520
Speaker 1: a small simple step. Reading one line is a small

803
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:32,439
Speaker 1: simple step. Maybe working out an hour a day is tough.

804
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,440
Speaker 1: Maybe getting your running shoes on, maybe getting yourself to

805
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 1: the gym as a small simple step. I think little

806
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,880
Speaker 1: by little, a little becomes a lot, you know, And

807
00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:43,880
Speaker 1: so that's really the key is consistency, because if you're persistent,

808
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 1: you could achieve it, but if you're consistent, you get

809
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 1: to keep it. Yeah, and it's difference between something being

810
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 1: attainable and sustainable over time. And then finally the last

811
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 1: them are the methods. You know, once you have a

812
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,200
Speaker 1: limitless mindset, you have a limits motivation. You could be

813
00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 1: doing old methods and still not yet where you need

814
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 1: to go all methods of sales, or methods of learning,

815
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 1: all methods of health. And you wonder why you're still

816
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 1: stuck in that box. And so when's the last time

817
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:10,759
Speaker 1: we took time to upgrade our knowledge? Our skills are

818
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 1: our abilities, you know. So those are the three ms.

819
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:15,640
Speaker 1: And if people draw that out or even imagine that,

820
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:19,920
Speaker 1: you'll notice that the three ms overlap and they create

821
00:40:19,960 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 1: three eyes too, where mindset and motivation crossover. The first

822
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 1: eye is inspiration, right, because it changes what's inspiration something

823
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:30,239
Speaker 1: that changes your mindset about what's possible. And also you're

824
00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:32,280
Speaker 1: a little bit motivated. You have some drive and purpose,

825
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 1: but you might not have the methods, you might not

826
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 1: have the instruction right, so you're still stuck in that

827
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 1: box where mindset and methods crossover. You believe it's possible

828
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 1: in your mind and you know what to do the methods.

829
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: That's the second eye, which is ideation. It just stays

830
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 1: an idea, right, and nothing's happening because you're not motivated.

831
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: And then finally, where motivation and methods crossover, you're the

832
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 1: third eye, which is implementation. You're motivated, your purpose, you

833
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 1: have energy and you know what to do to do

834
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 1: that get out of that box. But you can still

835
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,880
Speaker 1: be stuck in that box because you're limited by your mindset,

836
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 1: you know. And so that's what I think. And then

837
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:09,720
Speaker 1: we're three, all three connect. You have the fourth eye,

838
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 1: which is your identity, which is integration. It's just who

839
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 1: you are and that's really the goal. So my my

840
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 1: conversation with becoming more limitless is about redrawing, like where

841
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:25,399
Speaker 1: where are we stuck? And I think when you could identify, Oh,

842
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:28,760
Speaker 1: it's let's say someone can remember names. Is in my mindset?

843
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:30,319
Speaker 1: Do I believe I'm just too old or have a

844
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 1: horrible memory, or maybe that's not the case. Maybe it's hey,

845
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:34,439
Speaker 1: I don't have a purpose, I don't have a reason

846
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 1: to remember their names. Yeah right, Or I'm just really tired,

847
00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 1: or I don't have the methods. I was never taught.

848
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:42,359
Speaker 1: There's no class on how to remember names. And then

849
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 1: it gives you your your agency back, it gives your

850
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:49,399
Speaker 1: power back. Also, it's such a phenomenal framework. It's such

851
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:51,719
Speaker 1: a fantastic framework, and I know it's in the book Limitless.

852
00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 1: It's it's such a great framework. And I love the

853
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 1: way you break things down because, like you said, I

854
00:41:57,400 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 1: think often we just spend too much time and well,

855
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 1: we waste too much time just trying to figure out

856
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:04,799
Speaker 1: what the issue is, right, and it's one of those three.

857
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 1: I Once you know that, then you can break it down.

858
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 1: And I think you've just given people a real map

859
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:12,400
Speaker 1: to say, Hey, which area is struggling with with whatever

860
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 1: limit they chose, And it works for yourself. And also

861
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:17,399
Speaker 1: it's a map you could use with people around you. Yeah,

862
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 1: it's a lens. When you're working with your kids and

863
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:22,879
Speaker 1: they're not doing something that they know they should do,

864
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:25,359
Speaker 1: you know, is that their mindset? Do they not believe

865
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 1: in themselves? I believe they're capable of doing I believe

866
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:29,880
Speaker 1: they deserve it. Or maybe they have no purpose to

867
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 1: clean their room or to study these things. You know,

868
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:34,160
Speaker 1: if it's not relevant to them, they're probably not and

869
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 1: so you know what to address. Maybe they're just we

870
00:42:36,520 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: have to work on optimizing their energy because you don't

871
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 1: have energy. You do it right, Yes, this whole idea.

872
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 1: You take your nouns in your life and turn them

873
00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 1: into verbs. You don't have focus. People are thinking, that's

874
00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 1: my problemt to I'm watching this don't have focus. But

875
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 1: you don't have focus, you do it. There's a process

876
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:53,760
Speaker 1: for focusing. You don't have a memory. There's a process

877
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 1: of encoding, storing, and retrieving. You know, you don't even

878
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: have energy. There's a process for generating energy. And as

879
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 1: their friend and Burchard talks a lot about, you know

880
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 1: a lot that you know, you generate these kind of

881
00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 1: energy and they're also it can be the methods. Sometimes

882
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,799
Speaker 1: it's it's simply learning better tools also as well, so

883
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 1: you could use it with your friends. You can work

884
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:13,879
Speaker 1: with your team. And this works micro and it also

885
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:16,719
Speaker 1: works macro. This works at a cultural level, it works

886
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:18,920
Speaker 1: at the level of community, works at the level of

887
00:43:18,920 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 1: your country. There's a set mindset about, you know what,

888
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 1: maybe around certain issues right now it's really hard to

889
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:29,760
Speaker 1: create change or it becoming more limitless, you know, based

890
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 1: on certain mindset around maybe fairness and quality whatever happens

891
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:36,040
Speaker 1: to be. Or maybe these people and maybe they don't

892
00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 1: have purpose, you know, or maybe they're be incentivized to

893
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:40,880
Speaker 1: keep things in a certain way, or maybe they lack

894
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:44,320
Speaker 1: energy or resources, or maybe they're using old methods for

895
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:48,439
Speaker 1: leadership or making change. Right, So it can happen micro

896
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:51,239
Speaker 1: or macro. That's unbelievable. Yeah, I love that. I love

897
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 1: the framework even more hearing it from you. It's just

898
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of so many areas in my

899
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 1: life from like, okay, which one am I struggling with? Right?

900
00:43:58,760 --> 00:44:01,399
Speaker 1: Like which which one is it? Or we haven't got

901
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:04,279
Speaker 1: it right or we haven't figured it out. And I

902
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 1: think if everyone just took a few moments today to

903
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 1: reflect on that one area of their life that they

904
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:11,800
Speaker 1: want to work on and identify it with that process,

905
00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:15,040
Speaker 1: when we start to do it, you know who we're around,

906
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 1: We always have known that. Like who we're around is

907
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 1: such a big deal. Our friends, our family, our community,

908
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 1: Like these things have a huge impact on us, right,

909
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 1: Like negativity is contagious, like so much. So many people

910
00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: will say that they feel drained by the people around

911
00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:36,040
Speaker 1: them or their family, or that when they share a new,

912
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:39,959
Speaker 1: big idea with someone that they love, they're often met

913
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 1: with resistance. Like I hear this so often. And when

914
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 1: you think about limits, you think about what you said,

915
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 1: like you didn't you weren't born with limits, you had

916
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 1: limits placed on you. But we either get to choose

917
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:56,720
Speaker 1: to accept or reject those limits. But it's really hard,

918
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 1: and it's really hard for people to reject a limit

919
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:03,919
Speaker 1: placed on them by someone they love and trust. Walk

920
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 1: us through that a little bit, like, let's think out

921
00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 1: loud about that. Like when someone has their mother or

922
00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 1: their father or someone they really respect place a limit

923
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 1: on them, right, you want that person to root for

924
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,359
Speaker 1: you. You You want that person for you to win. Yeah,

925
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:19,399
Speaker 1: we all need people to encourage us, to be able

926
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:21,480
Speaker 1: to challenge us, to be able to cheer, lead, for

927
00:45:21,600 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 1: us to believe in us. And if we haven't found

928
00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: that person yet, then you know, my advice would be

929
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:31,279
Speaker 1: to be that person. Be that person for somebody else,

930
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:36,800
Speaker 1: especially be that person for yourself. Right. You know we

931
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 1: we talked about last time in this conversation the difference

932
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 1: between a thermostat and a thermometer, a thermometer on the wall,

933
00:45:42,840 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 1: just it's only function that reacts to the environment. And

934
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: sometimes we as humans, we react to the economy, we

935
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:51,800
Speaker 1: react to politics, we react how people treat us, react

936
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 1: to the weather. But we know through studies done on

937
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:57,839
Speaker 1: people who are most successful at least at least the

938
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 1: ones that are happiest and most fulfilled, they don't react

939
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 1: as much as they respond. Right, they're a thermostat. A

940
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:08,319
Speaker 1: thermostat doesn't react to the environment. It gages and knows

941
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 1: the temperature in this room, but it also what It

942
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:14,840
Speaker 1: sets a temperature and there in the environment reacts to it.

943
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 1: So it's that agency, you know. Last time, you and

944
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:19,839
Speaker 1: I talked about some of the people that I get

945
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 1: to be able to spend time within Coach and when

946
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 1: I learned from those people, and one of them I

947
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 1: mentioned was stan Lee. And it wasn't just his playfulness,

948
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:29,719
Speaker 1: you know, and his passion for what he did. It

949
00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 1: was also responsibility, you know. I remember I picked him

950
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 1: up for dinner one day evening and I asked him, like,

951
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: I need to know this because I remember I couldn't read.

952
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:41,359
Speaker 1: I tell myself how to read by reading comic books.

953
00:46:41,360 --> 00:46:42,840
Speaker 1: I tell him that whole story because it brought the

954
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: words to life. But I said, who's your favorite? Who's

955
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 1: your favorite? And he says, Jim, my favorite is iron Man.

956
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 1: And he says, Jim, who's your favorite? And he had

957
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 1: the Spider Man tie and I was like Spider Man

958
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:55,440
Speaker 1: And he says, without a pause in his iconic voice,

959
00:46:55,600 --> 00:47:00,759
Speaker 1: with great power comes great responsibility, right, And truthfully, I

960
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:03,319
Speaker 1: reverse a lot of things I see, I read, I

961
00:47:03,440 --> 00:47:06,800
Speaker 1: hear maybe because of my brain injuries as a child,

962
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 1: and I heard something totally different I was. I say,

963
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:11,880
Speaker 1: you're right. With great power comes great responsibility, and the

964
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:15,480
Speaker 1: opposite is also true. With great responsibility comes great power.

965
00:47:15,880 --> 00:47:18,600
Speaker 1: When we take responsibility for something, we have great power

966
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 1: to make things better, you know. And the thing is,

967
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 1: when we make excuses or we complain it's probably all valid.

968
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:27,920
Speaker 1: We probably it's probably true, right, but it doesn't make

969
00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:30,880
Speaker 1: anything better. Right, So we use a lot of our focus,

970
00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:34,400
Speaker 1: our attention, our energy when it can be better well spent,

971
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:37,520
Speaker 1: because we can't be upset by the results we didn't

972
00:47:37,560 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 1: get from the work we didn't do right. And so

973
00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 1: when we take personal responsibility, we have the power to

974
00:47:43,560 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 1: make things better. And I would say part of responsibility

975
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 1: is is our peer group certainly affects things. I always say,

976
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:55,799
Speaker 1: watch it affects w our words, right, the words we

977
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:58,319
Speaker 1: started adopting the same language patterns as people around us,

978
00:47:58,360 --> 00:48:02,839
Speaker 1: started using the same phrases, the a our actions, We

979
00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:05,399
Speaker 1: start doing the same behaviors as people around us also

980
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:08,080
Speaker 1: as well, good and bad what we eat. So it's

981
00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:11,719
Speaker 1: not just our neurological networks. It's our social networks, right,

982
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 1: And who we spend time with is who we become.

983
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: We start believing their same standards, and they're all their

984
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 1: expectations for us. Right. The Tea and Watch is we

985
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 1: start mirroring the thoughts of the people around us. We

986
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 1: start thinking the same way about ourselves as other people

987
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 1: think about us. And the c is a big one.

988
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:31,799
Speaker 1: It's our character. Right. We know that people if they

989
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 1: have breaks in integrity and the around people that are disingenuous,

990
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 1: you know that they're more likely to pursue, you know,

991
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:40,320
Speaker 1: and have that same kind of standard. I saw recently

992
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:43,400
Speaker 1: a quote that said integrity is measured by the distance

993
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 1: between someone's lips and their life, and I just like, wow,

994
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 1: that's a nice cut. Yes, all truth bumps, but yeah,

995
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:55,920
Speaker 1: it's the character. And then finally the h and Watch

996
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 1: our habits. We start adopting the same routines and the

997
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,040
Speaker 1: habits of the pole that we spend time with. So

998
00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 1: we have to stand guard to the doors of our mind, right,

999
00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 1: and we have these mirror neurons that's constantly in our

1000
00:49:08,320 --> 00:49:10,879
Speaker 1: nervous system. They are constantly imitating the people around us,

1001
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:14,120
Speaker 1: and so we can love our family and we can

1002
00:49:14,200 --> 00:49:17,520
Speaker 1: love our friends, but when our lives are fueled by

1003
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 1: the expectations and beliefs and opinions of other people, then

1004
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:22,919
Speaker 1: we're going to run out of gas, right, good, bad,

1005
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 1: and and different. Part of it is owning that agency,

1006
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 1: saying that yeah, it's yes, it's hard, you know, when

1007
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,400
Speaker 1: people don't believe in you, and like that. That's I

1008
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:33,360
Speaker 1: was very blessed. I think, you know, I won the

1009
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 1: lottery when it came to my parents. They immigrated here.

1010
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 1: They're not the most spiritual, They've never had a green juice,

1011
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:41,799
Speaker 1: you know, they don't do yoga, they're not the most

1012
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:44,239
Speaker 1: health conscious or you know, read personal development books. But

1013
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 1: they're just there's really good people. They do what they

1014
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:49,040
Speaker 1: they're hard working, they're very very kind, you know. So

1015
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:50,840
Speaker 1: I feel like everything that's good that's come out of

1016
00:49:50,960 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 1: you know, that I've ever done is a credit to them.

1017
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:56,279
Speaker 1: Anything that's fall short, you know, it's all on me,

1018
00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:58,960
Speaker 1: you know. So I very I'm very blessed. And it's

1019
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: not so much about the resources you have, because we

1020
00:50:01,160 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 1: didn't have any education, we don't have any money, and

1021
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:04,759
Speaker 1: we live in the back of a laundry map that

1022
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: my mom, whom we worked at, didn't have any connections

1023
00:50:07,800 --> 00:50:10,680
Speaker 1: or network or anything you know, back then, And so

1024
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:13,800
Speaker 1: I would say that if there's somebody else that has

1025
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:17,720
Speaker 1: survived and even thrived, you know, those game kind of situations,

1026
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:20,120
Speaker 1: that I do believe that genius in any of its form,

1027
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 1: And I'll talk about IQ that it's built that and

1028
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:25,080
Speaker 1: it's not born, it's built around that. We shouldn't be

1029
00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:29,240
Speaker 1: shrinking our lives and our dreams to meet this current situation. Instead,

1030
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 1: don't downgrade your dreams to meet this current situation. What

1031
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:34,400
Speaker 1: if we upgraded our mindset and what if we upgraded

1032
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:37,240
Speaker 1: our motivation. What if we upgraded the methods we're using

1033
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:41,120
Speaker 1: to be able to meet our destiny. Jim, that's so powerful.

1034
00:50:41,239 --> 00:50:44,279
Speaker 1: I mean that one statement, the reframe I've had that

1035
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:46,280
Speaker 1: I'm a big Marvel fan, as you know, and yeah,

1036
00:50:46,320 --> 00:50:50,720
Speaker 1: to hear that reframe of that statement, with great responsibility

1037
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:54,200
Speaker 1: comes great power. That's a universal principle. It's almost like,

1038
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:57,319
Speaker 1: if you think about it, that when you take on

1039
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:01,359
Speaker 1: a great responsibility, everything in the universe conspires to help

1040
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:04,400
Speaker 1: you with it. And so the amount of help you

1041
00:51:04,440 --> 00:51:07,000
Speaker 1: get is about how much healing you're trying to bring

1042
00:51:08,000 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 1: and that's really beautiful and powerful. I mean, that's going

1043
00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 1: to stay with me for a long time. That's a really,

1044
00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:16,439
Speaker 1: really special insight. And I want to make sure that

1045
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:18,719
Speaker 1: everyone goes out and grabs a copy if you don't

1046
00:51:18,719 --> 00:51:23,200
Speaker 1: already of Limitless by Jim Quick. The three M model

1047
00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:25,839
Speaker 1: is in this book and broken down step by step

1048
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:29,240
Speaker 1: as you saw and her. Jim is a highly systematic,

1049
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:33,759
Speaker 1: logical thinker, and so if you want really practical key

1050
00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 1: advice on all of these ideas and insights, to make

1051
00:51:36,640 --> 00:51:39,200
Speaker 1: sure you go and grab a copy of this book. Jim,

1052
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 1: I want to thank you for teaching us all how

1053
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:43,800
Speaker 1: to be limitless today and break through our limitations. I

1054
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 1: want to thank you for doing it in your own life.

1055
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:48,400
Speaker 1: Thank your parents too for doing what they did. That

1056
00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 1: was beautiful to hear that. And I'm always here to

1057
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:54,200
Speaker 1: support and be right with you whatever you're doing. So

1058
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:56,520
Speaker 1: thank you so much, and yeah, I appreciate it, and

1059
00:51:56,560 --> 00:51:58,920
Speaker 1: thank you to your entire community. You know, I believe

1060
00:51:59,239 --> 00:52:01,799
Speaker 1: the world right now, so many people feel like they're

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Speaker 1: dimming themselves their message to be able to because they

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Speaker 1: don't want their light to shine in other people's eyes

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Speaker 1: and I feel like we need to be doing the

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Speaker 1: opposite now more than ever. You know, we need a better,

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Speaker 1: brighter world, and I think that there's a version of

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Speaker 1: ourselves and our family is our purpose, everything that's patiently

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Speaker 1: waiting and the goal as we show up every single

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Speaker 1: day until we're introduced. Well said, Well said Jim. Quick,

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Speaker 1: everyone make sure that you tag me and Jim on Instagram,

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Speaker 1: on Twitter, on TikTok, whatever platform you're using. Let us

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Speaker 1: know what you learned, what you took away, what you've

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Speaker 1: gained from this conversation. We're going to be back next week,

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Speaker 1: of course, with another incredible episode of On Purpose. Thank

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Speaker 1: you for all your love. Makes sure you subscribe, and Jim,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much again for joining us. It's been

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Speaker 1: an honor.