WEBVTT - It's Cool To Be Kind

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, my beautiful listeners and my viewers. Welcome to Cheeky's

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<v Speaker 1>and Chill Happy Monday. I can't believe that it's the

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<v Speaker 1>end of September. I'm like, what the heck, there's only

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<v Speaker 1>three months left in twenty twenty four? WHOA has it

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<v Speaker 1>been a year? But AnyWho, today is going to be

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<v Speaker 1>a good episode because I'm going to talk to you

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<v Speaker 1>guys about something that happens to me quite often, something

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<v Speaker 1>that I deal with on a daily basis, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>pretty sure you guys are going to understand what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking about. So let me take a deep breath, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I consider myself to be a pretty well now, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>that type of person, like cool, you know, chill chigis

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<v Speaker 1>and chill type of person. I'm happy I give people

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<v Speaker 1>the benefit of the doubt. I wear my emotions on

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<v Speaker 1>my sleeve and say that maybe in my past, when

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<v Speaker 1>I was younger, I was naive, I was gullible. A

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<v Speaker 1>lot of that has changed as I've matured, as life

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<v Speaker 1>has happened and I've learned the hard way. I've shared

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of that with you guys. One thing that

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<v Speaker 1>I've been encountering a lot lately, or maybe I've been

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<v Speaker 1>noticing a lot more because I'm not putting up with

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<v Speaker 1>BS because I've decided that I want for every relationship

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<v Speaker 1>in my life to be reciprocated. I always tell you

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<v Speaker 1>guys this.

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<v Speaker 2>I like to treat people the way I want to

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<v Speaker 2>be treated.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't ever ask for more than I deserve, for

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<v Speaker 1>more than I'm willing to give. And what I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about now is your kindness being taken for weakness. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if you guys can relate, but it's been

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<v Speaker 1>happening quite a bit and I've just had it. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>wait a second. Not that I want to change my essence,

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<v Speaker 1>because that's not what it's about. I want to continue

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<v Speaker 1>being myself and giving of myself to the people that

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<v Speaker 1>deserve it and also give me the best of themselves.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I'm calling people on their shit. A lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people don't like it. A lot of people want to say, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you've changed, you're different, and they want to blame the fame,

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<v Speaker 1>and they want to say, oh, because you're doing this,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're doing that, because you have more, has nothing

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<v Speaker 1>to do with that. I've just gotten to a point

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<v Speaker 1>in my life where I am tired of feeling unappreciated

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<v Speaker 1>of if there's anything that bothers me.

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<v Speaker 2>Quite a bit.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a pet peeve of mine. As you guys know,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of pet peeves. But is that

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<v Speaker 1>a bad thing?

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<v Speaker 2>But I do. I have a lot of pet peeves.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyways, Okay, what does that mean in English that you

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<v Speaker 1>want to play me for a fool? I cannot, just

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<v Speaker 1>because I am nice and because I'm forgiving, and because

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<v Speaker 1>I am out here just trying to do my best

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<v Speaker 1>in the world. I'm not saying I'm perfect. There's days

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm a cancer, you guys, I will snap. And

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<v Speaker 1>there are days that the moon is green and blue

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<v Speaker 1>and it's out of shape or it's full and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in a bad mood. That's just I'm sorry. And I'll

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<v Speaker 1>even say it now a I'm not in a good mood.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not feeling well. I'm very vocal about that now

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<v Speaker 1>as to before I was. I'd try to just you know, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna suck it up. It's not happening. So anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>My point is, every time I talk about something on

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<v Speaker 1>the pod, you guys, it's always usually like a note

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<v Speaker 1>to myself especially when it's just you and I, the

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<v Speaker 1>mic and I and I'm talking to you guys directly.

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<v Speaker 1>It's because I'm experienced something or I just recently experienced something,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't know if I want to get into detail,

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<v Speaker 1>just because I don't want to make the situation worse

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<v Speaker 1>and because the person's not here to defend themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't feel that that's fair.

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<v Speaker 1>But I had a situation where someone and I can't

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<v Speaker 1>give too much detail because I don't I'm not trying

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<v Speaker 1>to make it about that, but it triggered this whole conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>So someone in my life that is a friend I

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<v Speaker 1>was doing certain things that I wasn't okay with that

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<v Speaker 1>was directly affecting me, and for a long time, I

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<v Speaker 1>stayed quiet about it and I didn't say anything because

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to ruffle any feathers. I am busy too,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I don't even want to deal

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<v Speaker 1>with that right now. I'm just gonna let it go.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know better than to let that happen. But

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<v Speaker 1>this person continued to do thing after thing after thing

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<v Speaker 1>because I wasn't speaking up because I was being nice

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm busy or whatever. You want to call it,

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<v Speaker 1>or I was playing dumb. I guess whatever. Even if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm playing dumb, you're not dumb. So don't try to

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<v Speaker 1>act as if what you're doing isn't right, because if

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<v Speaker 1>it were the other way around, you wouldn't be okay

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<v Speaker 1>with it, right. So I think that's what triggered this

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<v Speaker 1>whole conversation, and I said it in something that I wrote,

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<v Speaker 1>this person, don't take my kindness for weakness, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just because I am choosing to be a good person

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<v Speaker 1>and choose sing maybe not to ruffle any feathers or

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<v Speaker 1>open up a can of worms, like, don't take advantage

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<v Speaker 1>of that. And that's why I was like, I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about this on the pod because I think

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<v Speaker 1>it happens, and.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure I've.

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<v Speaker 1>Been guilty of it myself in my younger years. Because

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<v Speaker 1>now I'm really really intentional about not just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>preaching but or you know, talking about it, but walking

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<v Speaker 1>the talk, you know, like putting my words into action.

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<v Speaker 1>So I really really do my best to everything that

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<v Speaker 1>I talk to you guys about on this podcast to

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<v Speaker 1>really hold myself accountable and lead by example. So anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't really think of a scenario. If something comes up,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll let you guys know something that maybe I took

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<v Speaker 1>someone's kindness for weakness. You know, Oh, I have a

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<v Speaker 1>perfect example. It just came up my mom, for instance.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom trusted me with her credit cards and with

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<v Speaker 1>her finances, and I made sure that all the bills

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<v Speaker 1>were paid okay, all the time the bills were taking

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<v Speaker 1>care of. Everything in the house was paid on time.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything was fine. But if I would go and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>shop for her because I was her personal shopper at

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<v Speaker 1>one point, i'd buy her clothes, I would buy myself

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<v Speaker 1>something as well, and I would just And I've told

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<v Speaker 1>you guys this before. You know, I'm not ashamed of it,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm ashamed of my behavior. But I'm not ashamed

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<v Speaker 1>of what happened because it helped me learn how to

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<v Speaker 1>value money and now I know what it is to

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<v Speaker 1>work for my own But that was me taking my

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<v Speaker 1>mom's kindness for weakness. She was trusting me with something

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<v Speaker 1>and instead of me going to the store and just

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<v Speaker 1>buying what she needed. There was no need in the

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<v Speaker 1>world for me to say, I'm gonna buy myself some

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen hundred dollars shoes.

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<v Speaker 2>With my mom's card. Why would I do that? You

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>And my mom would say, hey, like you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>she knew, but she would just I guess maybe didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to ruffle any feathers or thought, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>my daughter does a lot like whatever the case may be.

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<v Speaker 1>But then it got to the point where she couldn't anymore,

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<v Speaker 1>and it started this whole thing, and she asked me

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<v Speaker 1>to move out. And I couldn't even blame her because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, you're right, I shouldn't have taken advantage of

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<v Speaker 1>the situation. And from that and from many other things

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<v Speaker 1>in my life, I have learned that, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>need to treat people the way I want to be treated,

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<v Speaker 1>going back to this whole don't take.

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<v Speaker 2>People's kindness for weakness.

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<v Speaker 1>And I and someone asked me this on Dear Cheeky's once,

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<v Speaker 1>like should I change, Like I'm tired of being the

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<v Speaker 1>good friend and you know, of giving and giving and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not receiving. Then and I told that person, then

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<v Speaker 1>you need to find new friends. Don't change who you are,

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<v Speaker 1>just change the situation, change the scenario, change the scene,

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<v Speaker 1>change the characters. You know, And I had to remind

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<v Speaker 1>myself of that. I'm like, wait, I need to speak up,

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<v Speaker 1>even if it is going to ruffle some feathers and

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<v Speaker 1>open up a can of worms. I need to be

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<v Speaker 1>true to myself. I need to speak up and stand

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<v Speaker 1>up for myself, because who is if I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no need.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no reason why I have to be disrespectful or

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<v Speaker 1>belittle anyone or be mean. I can say the truth

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<v Speaker 1>and call it sugarcoating or whatever you want, because there's

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<v Speaker 1>people that are like, you know, I say the things

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<v Speaker 1>the way they are and I don't care who gets

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't believe in that. I believe in saying

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<v Speaker 1>the truth and saying it with respect. But I need

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<v Speaker 1>to stand up for myself and not change who I

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<v Speaker 1>am because I know that there are people in my

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<v Speaker 1>life that are going to appreciate and value who I am.

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<v Speaker 1>And not to say that this person is a bad person,

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<v Speaker 1>because I love this person and this person is still

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<v Speaker 1>in my life. But it was just a situation that

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<v Speaker 1>I was just letting go and letting go and letting go,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was just causing me a lot of it

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<v Speaker 1>was starting to cause me resentment. And I'm not a

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<v Speaker 1>person that I don't like to hold that in my heart.

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<v Speaker 1>I've told you, guys this, It's just not how healthy.

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<v Speaker 1>Resentment causes so much bitterness, you know, and even disease eventually.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, something's happening, something's changing. I need

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<v Speaker 1>to speak about it. And I did, and I'm glad

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<v Speaker 1>I did. And I just want to remind you, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to make this longer than it

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<v Speaker 1>needs to be, but I just want to remind you, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>that don't let life, don't let certain people change who

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<v Speaker 1>you truly are at your core, the person that you

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<v Speaker 1>want to be, because you feel that down because you

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<v Speaker 1>feel like, you know, the nice guy finishes last, the

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<v Speaker 1>nice woman finishes last. Especially as women, we feel like

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<v Speaker 1>we need to show up in a world that is

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<v Speaker 1>the man's world. It's really a woman's world, but but

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<v Speaker 1>we feel like we need to put up this like front,

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<v Speaker 1>like there's nothing wrong with being a wrong, vulnerable woman,

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<v Speaker 1>being true to yourself if that's what you are, and

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<v Speaker 1>you're just a tough bitch, and do you as long

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<v Speaker 1>as you're being true to yourself, your authentic self. But

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<v Speaker 1>the point is, and this is a note to myself

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<v Speaker 1>as well, don't change the way you do certain things

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<v Speaker 1>or the way you move in life because of other

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<v Speaker 1>people's actions and because they didn't value or appreciate what

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<v Speaker 1>you were doing in their life. Continue to be that person.

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<v Speaker 1>I promise you it will pay off. It will pay off,

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<v Speaker 1>It you will get You will reap what you sew eventually,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe not right now, maybe not with that person or

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<v Speaker 1>the next person, but eventually you will reap what you sow,

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<v Speaker 1>for good or for bad. So this is why I

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<v Speaker 1>always say, guys, the best way to live is living

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<v Speaker 1>with good intentions, walking with your head held high, treating

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<v Speaker 1>people nicely, doesn't matter who they are, what they do,

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<v Speaker 1>what they have, or what they don't have. Treat people

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<v Speaker 1>like human beings. And you're going to bump into people

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<v Speaker 1>that are mean, that are disrespectful, but it's all in

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<v Speaker 1>how you react to it. And we can't let people

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<v Speaker 1>push us around, even if we are nice. We have

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<v Speaker 1>to stand up for ourselves and we have to speak

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<v Speaker 1>our truth and stand for what we believe in. And

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<v Speaker 1>as basically what this episode is all about. And now

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<v Speaker 1>that we're on this subject, someone asked me once, how

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<v Speaker 1>are you happy with the rate the speed that things

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<v Speaker 1>are going and have gone in your career, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>all because you know, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think that I'm pretty cool.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like to speak about myself. It's it's very

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<v Speaker 2>weird for me.

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<v Speaker 1>But I can tell you, guys, I highly doubt that

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<v Speaker 1>there's anyone that I've encountered in this business or outside

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<v Speaker 1>of this business that can say that I was mean

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<v Speaker 1>to them, that I was you to them, that I

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<v Speaker 1>believe to them. I highly doubt that there's one person.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be very surprised, actually, and if someone did, i'd apologize,

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<v Speaker 1>but I highly doubt it. And anyways, and they were

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<v Speaker 1>asking because there are certain artists that feel that they

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<v Speaker 1>need to have this persona of I'm a badass, don't

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<v Speaker 1>look at me when I walk in the room, don't

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<v Speaker 1>talk to me. I didn't think that that really existed.

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<v Speaker 1>I heard these crazy ass stories of people wanting certain

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<v Speaker 1>things in their green rooms, and you know, only this

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<v Speaker 1>type of whatever. You know, I heard something about some

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<v Speaker 1>red Eminem's once all this stuff is. It's real, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>it does exist. I was even surprised. I'm not necessarily

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<v Speaker 1>like that. I think sometimes I'm a little too cool.

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<v Speaker 1>My manager things that I'm a little like too lenient.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that I don't ask for more. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>I don't ask for a lot, guys to be happy,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. And maybe I said maybe when they asked

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<v Speaker 1>me this question, maybe I would have been more successful

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<v Speaker 1>a lot quicker or selling out stadiums. Now, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I am very happy with how things are going in

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<v Speaker 1>my career and how they've gone little by little, step

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<v Speaker 1>by step. I prefer it that way. But then I

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<v Speaker 1>think of people like Carol g for instance, that is

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<v Speaker 1>a mega superstar, and she is such a nice person

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<v Speaker 1>that I see her and I'm like, this is why

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<v Speaker 1>she's doing so well because she's a good person at heart.

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<v Speaker 1>She has great parents, a great family. She treats everyone

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<v Speaker 1>very nicely, very respectful. Every time I've seen her like

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<v Speaker 1>she is the sweetest And I get so happy to

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<v Speaker 1>see her selling out stadiums. And you may think, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it happened quick for her. She's been doing it. She's

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<v Speaker 1>been in this game, guys for more than ten years.

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<v Speaker 1>I've heard stories of her in Miami going to bars

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<v Speaker 1>and wouldn't even sell it out, but.

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<v Speaker 2>She was tenacious.

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<v Speaker 1>She is now, like, look at her where she is

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm so happy and it makes me inspires me

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<v Speaker 1>to continue being who I am, even if there are

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<v Speaker 1>people that I'm going to cross paths with that are

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<v Speaker 1>going to take my kindness for weakness. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to change who I am, and not because I want

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<v Speaker 1>to say sell out a stadium, but because that's who

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<v Speaker 1>I really am. And I see Carol in the times

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<v Speaker 1>she's not faking it. That is really who she is.

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<v Speaker 1>I see it in her eyes. I know it, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel it, and it just you can't fake that, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, Like, you just can't. And I

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<v Speaker 1>love that, and that inspires me to say, I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to continue even if I keep getting screwed over by

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<v Speaker 1>people and it takes me a little longer, I know

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<v Speaker 1>that I'm going to get to where I'm meant to

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<v Speaker 1>get to. I don't have to be a person that

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<v Speaker 1>treats people a certain way because it makes me look better,

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<v Speaker 1>or treat people as less then because it makes me

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<v Speaker 1>look better and feel better. Like I just it's just

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<v Speaker 1>not in me. It's not who I am, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not even if I continue to get disappointed by many people.

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<v Speaker 1>And because someone told me the other day that I

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<v Speaker 1>was too nice because there was this person and again

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<v Speaker 1>I can't say names because I just can't. But there

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<v Speaker 1>was this person that has been very mean to me,

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<v Speaker 1>a complete asshole, okay, has done a lot of things

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<v Speaker 1>to hurt me, not only me, but people that I love.

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<v Speaker 1>And we were in a certain setting and I was

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<v Speaker 1>making myself a coffee and he was gonna make himself

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<v Speaker 1>a coffee, but I was in the way, so I

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<v Speaker 1>took it upon myself. After I made my coffee, I

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<v Speaker 1>began to brew his coffee. I felt it in my heart.

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<v Speaker 1>It was just who I even though this person.

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<v Speaker 2>Has hurt my heart very much.

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<v Speaker 1>I proceeded to brew his coffee and I was about

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<v Speaker 1>to you know, I just left it there and I

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<v Speaker 1>was gonna let him know, hey, the coffee's brewing.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyways. He didn't drink it.

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<v Speaker 1>He completely just rejected, and I was like, okay, fine,

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<v Speaker 1>I still was who I am. And not because I

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<v Speaker 1>need anything from that person, not because I owe this

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<v Speaker 1>person anything, not to look good with this person. I

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<v Speaker 1>just I felt it in my heart. And this other

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<v Speaker 1>person that I was talking to and I told them

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<v Speaker 1>the story, They're like, you're just too nice, Like why

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<v Speaker 1>would you do that this person has been why not

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<v Speaker 1>if I want to do it and menassin it comes

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<v Speaker 1>out of my heart. I'm not gonna stop that person

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<v Speaker 1>and their actions and what they've done stop me from

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<v Speaker 1>being who I am. I'm gonna continue to do what

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<v Speaker 1>feels good in my heart. Even if that person doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate it, that's their problem. I'm still gonna be me

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<v Speaker 1>no matter what, no matter who, I'm still gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>me because I owe a higher power a lot more.

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<v Speaker 2>And until I get tired.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe maybe, guys, maybe maybe one day I'll wake up

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll say fuck this and fuck the world, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be a bitch. I don't know, And if

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<v Speaker 1>that happens, I'll let you, guys know, I'd be like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, I'm tired of being nice. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be a bitch everywhere I go. Maybe, and I'll

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<v Speaker 1>be straight up about it, you know, I'll I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if that's gonna happen. I can't say ever. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't see it happening. But if it happens, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to be a a diva one day that

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<v Speaker 1>only wants water that comes from the highest mountain in

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<v Speaker 1>the world. I don't know. I'll let you guys know,

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<v Speaker 1>but for now, I'm going to be me, and I

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<v Speaker 1>like being me. And I suggest that you guys, are you.

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<v Speaker 1>If you want to be mean and that's who you are,

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<v Speaker 1>then do that, I guess, but that's kind of sad.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's better and it takes a lot less

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<v Speaker 1>energy to just smile and be a nice person even

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<v Speaker 1>if the person that you're opening the door for doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>say thank you, because you even if it's a stranger.

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<v Speaker 1>This happened to me a lot, guys. I open up

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<v Speaker 1>a door and I let people go and they won't

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<v Speaker 1>even say thank you, And I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Just like, whoa, what the hell? What's up their ass?

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<v Speaker 2>You know? But I'm like, okay, well whatever, I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>you're welcome. I'm still going to be me.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyways, I just really felt that I needed to

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<v Speaker 1>share this with you guys, something that's been in my heart,

0:18:57.480 --> 0:19:00.720
<v Speaker 1>situations that I still deal with, Guys. Does it matter

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm doing, who I am. I still deal with

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<v Speaker 1>things the way you guys do. And if I can

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<v Speaker 1>share my experiences and with you guys, I'm always going

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<v Speaker 1>to do it. So I hope that this episode has

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<v Speaker 1>helped you and helps you and reminds you that there

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<v Speaker 1>is nothing wrong with being a nice, kind person, even

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<v Speaker 1>if others don't appreciate it anyhow. I hope that you

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<v Speaker 1>guys enjoyed this episode and that you have learned a

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<v Speaker 1>thing or two, and hopefully I'm able to remind you

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<v Speaker 1>always that you can be both kind and strong. There's

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<v Speaker 1>a beautiful thing in that. And please, please don't let

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<v Speaker 1>anyone change your essence.

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<v Speaker 2>Please.

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<v Speaker 1>If you change your essence, it's because it's your choice,

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<v Speaker 1>not because of anyone else. Okay, so got in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Be nice, be kind, be strong, be brave, be all

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<v Speaker 1>the bees in the world. I love you guys so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for watching and listening to this podcast that

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<v Speaker 1>I enjoy very much. Thank you guys for being here.

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