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Speaker 1: Hello, my beautiful listeners and my viewers. Welcome to Cheeky's

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Speaker 1: and Chill Happy Monday. I can't believe that it's the

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Speaker 1: end of September. I'm like, what the heck, there's only

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Speaker 1: three months left in twenty twenty four? WHOA has it

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Speaker 1: been a year? But AnyWho, today is going to be

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Speaker 1: a good episode because I'm going to talk to you

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Speaker 1: guys about something that happens to me quite often, something

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Speaker 1: that I deal with on a daily basis, and I'm

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Speaker 1: pretty sure you guys are going to understand what I'm

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Speaker 1: talking about. So let me take a deep breath, y'all.

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Speaker 1: I consider myself to be a pretty well now, I'm

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Speaker 1: that type of person, like cool, you know, chill chigis

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Speaker 1: and chill type of person. I'm happy I give people

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Speaker 1: the benefit of the doubt. I wear my emotions on

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Speaker 1: my sleeve and say that maybe in my past, when

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Speaker 1: I was younger, I was naive, I was gullible. A

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Speaker 1: lot of that has changed as I've matured, as life

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Speaker 1: has happened and I've learned the hard way. I've shared

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Speaker 1: a lot of that with you guys. One thing that

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Speaker 1: I've been encountering a lot lately, or maybe I've been

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Speaker 1: noticing a lot more because I'm not putting up with

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Speaker 1: BS because I've decided that I want for every relationship

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Speaker 1: in my life to be reciprocated. I always tell you

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Speaker 1: guys this.

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Speaker 2: I like to treat people the way I want to

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Speaker 2: be treated.

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Speaker 1: I don't ever ask for more than I deserve, for

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Speaker 1: more than I'm willing to give. And what I'm talking

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Speaker 1: about now is your kindness being taken for weakness. I

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Speaker 1: don't know if you guys can relate, but it's been

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Speaker 1: happening quite a bit and I've just had it.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, wait a second.

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Speaker 1: Not that I want to change my essence, because that's

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Speaker 1: not what it's about. I want to continue being myself

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Speaker 1: and giving of myself to the people that deserve it

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Speaker 1: and also give me the best of themselves. Now I'm

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Speaker 1: calling people on their shit. A lot of people don't

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Speaker 1: like it. A lot of people want to say, oh,

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Speaker 1: you've changed, you're different, and they want to blame the fame,

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Speaker 1: and they want to say, oh, because you're doing this,

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Speaker 1: because you're doing that, because you have more, has nothing

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Speaker 1: to do with that. I've just gotten to a point

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Speaker 1: in my life where I am tired of feeling unappreciated

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Speaker 1: of if there's anything that bothers me.

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Speaker 2: Quite a bit.

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Speaker 1: It's a pet peeve of mine. As you guys know,

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Speaker 1: I have a lot of pet peeves. But is that

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Speaker 1: a bad thing?

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Speaker 2: But I do. I have a lot of pet peeves.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, Okay, what does that mean in English that you

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Speaker 1: want to play me for a fool? I cannot, just

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Speaker 1: because I am nice and because I'm forgiving, and because

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Speaker 1: I am out here just trying to do my best

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Speaker 1: in the world. I'm not saying I'm perfect. There's days

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Speaker 1: where I'm a cancer, you guys, I will snap. And

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Speaker 1: there are days that the moon is green and blue

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Speaker 1: and it's out of shape or it's full and I'm

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Speaker 1: in a bad mood. That's just I'm sorry. And I'll

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Speaker 1: even say it now a I'm not in a good mood.

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Speaker 1: I'm not feeling well. I'm very vocal about that now

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Speaker 1: as to before I was. I'd try to just you know, hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna suck it up. It's not happening. So anyways,

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Speaker 1: My point is, every time I talk about something on

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Speaker 1: to myself especially when it's just you and I, the

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Speaker 1: It's because I'm experienced something or I just recently experienced something,

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Speaker 1: and I don't know if I want to get into detail,

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Speaker 1: just because I don't want to make the situation worse

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Speaker 2: I just don't feel that that's fair.

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Speaker 1: But I had a situation where someone and I can't

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Speaker 1: to make it about that, but it triggered this whole conversation.

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Speaker 1: So someone in my life that is a friend I

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Speaker 1: was doing certain things that I wasn't okay with that

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Speaker 1: And I know better than to let that happen. But

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Speaker 1: because I'm busy or whatever. You want to call it,

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Speaker 1: whole conversation, and I said it in something that I wrote,

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Speaker 1: this person, don't take my kindness for weakness, you know,

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Speaker 1: just because I am choosing to be a good person

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Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure I've.

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Speaker 1: Been guilty of it myself in my younger years. Because

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Speaker 1: now I'm really really intentional about not just you know,

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Speaker 1: So I really really do my best to everything that

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Speaker 1: really hold myself accountable and lead by example. So anyways,

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Speaker 1: I can't really think of a scenario. If something comes up,

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Speaker 1: someone's kindness for weakness. You know, Oh, I have a

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Speaker 1: perfect example. It just came up my mom, for instance.

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Speaker 1: My mom trusted me with her credit cards and with

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Speaker 1: Everything was fine. But if I would go and you know,

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Speaker 1: one point, i'd buy her clothes, I would buy myself

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Speaker 1: because I'm ashamed of my behavior. But I'm not ashamed

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Speaker 2: With my mom's card. Why would I do that? You

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Speaker 1: And my mom would say, hey, like you know, and

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Speaker 1: But then it got to the point where she couldn't anymore,

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Speaker 1: going back to this whole don't take.

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Speaker 1: And I and someone asked me this on Dear Cheeky's once,

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Speaker 1: like should I change, Like I'm tired of being the

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Speaker 1: There's no reason why I have to be disrespectful or

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Speaker 1: So I was like, something's happening, something's changing. I need

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Speaker 1: the man's world. It's really a woman's world, but but

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Speaker 1: being true to yourself if that's what you are, and

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Speaker 1: as you're being true to yourself, your authentic self. But

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Speaker 1: as well, don't change the way you do certain things

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Speaker 1: or the way you move in life because of other

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Speaker 1: I promise you it will pay off. It will pay off,

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Speaker 1: It you will get You will reap what you sew eventually,

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Speaker 1: maybe not right now, maybe not with that person or

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Speaker 1: the next person, but eventually you will reap what you sow,

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Speaker 1: for good or for bad. So this is why I

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Speaker 1: always say, guys, the best way to live is living

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Speaker 1: with good intentions, walking with your head held high, treating

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Speaker 1: people nicely, doesn't matter who they are, what they do,

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Speaker 1: what they have, or what they don't have. Treat people

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Speaker 1: that are mean, that are disrespectful, but it's all in

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Speaker 1: that's basically what this episode is all about. And now

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Speaker 1: that we're on this subject, someone asked me once, how

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Speaker 2: There's a beautiful thing in that. And please, please don't

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Speaker 1: If you change your essence, it's because it's your choice,

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Speaker 1: Be nice, be kind, be strong, be brave, be all

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Speaker 1: the bees in the world. I love you guys so much.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for watching and listening to this podcast that

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