Speaker 1: I feel like even if you have a great date
Speaker 1: for ninety nine point nine percent of the night, if
Speaker 1: you end it on an awkward note, that can be
Speaker 1: the kiss of death for the relationship. Oh, I say, sure,
Speaker 1: you got to end on a high note. Also, a
Speaker 1: death kiss not a good way to end date. Valid
Speaker 1: point and one of our listeners, mary Elle, emailed us
Speaker 1: saying she felt like the majority of her evening went
Speaker 1: really well, but the ending was a little bit weird.
Speaker 1: She's hoping that it didn't ruin it, but let's find
Speaker 1: out what happened. Hey, mary Elle, how are you doing?
Speaker 1: I'm good. How are you all doing? Good? Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: interested to hear what happened at the end of your date.
Speaker 1: But I think we have to go through a couple
Speaker 1: of things before we get there. Yeah, I think we
Speaker 1: should probably start at the beginning. Who is this guy?
Speaker 1: His name is Pete? Okay, and how do you know him? Well?
Speaker 1: I met Pete threw a mutual friend. We were set up. Oh, okay,
Speaker 1: were you excited about that? I was, actually because my
Speaker 1: friend told me he was a little bit more of
Speaker 1: like an easygoing, laid back kind of guy, and it
Speaker 1: was really refreshing to hear, because my last relationship was
Speaker 1: a little bit more straight edged. So um, it was
Speaker 1: nice to meet someone who was a little bit more free.
Speaker 1: I feel like they always do that whenever you get
Speaker 1: out of a relationship. They're always like, oh, don't worry,
Speaker 1: he's not anything like the horrible person that you dated
Speaker 1: last time. He's the opposite. Yeah, and he was pretty
Speaker 1: cute too. I saw some of his pictures online, so okay,
Speaker 1: I was really excited. Okay, So like your ex boyfriend
Speaker 1: who was a total ug, that's right. I mean, they're
Speaker 1: hot when you're dating them. But what would you guys
Speaker 1: end up doing for your date together? So we just
Speaker 1: met up for drinks and I was actually coming off work,
Speaker 1: so I thought I would just go straight from work
Speaker 1: and we could see what happens after that. And so
Speaker 1: this was a this was a blind date. You guys
Speaker 1: hadn't ever seen each other or met prior to this.
Speaker 1: Prior to no, just like I looked at his pictures online.
Speaker 1: I don't know if he saw pictures of me, but
Speaker 1: I'm sure yeah, I just saw pictures. So what was
Speaker 1: it like when you met him? So I, like I said,
Speaker 1: I just went straight from work, so I was still
Speaker 1: in like my work clothes. I didn't get to change
Speaker 1: or anything like that. When I approached him, I thought
Speaker 1: he was really cute, but he said something weird to me.
Speaker 1: He said that I looked like Chris Jenner, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: the Dashian of all. Yeah, but there's like four you
Speaker 1: don't sound old. Noah, Maybe he meant you're well dressed.
Speaker 1: He actually said, yeah, the middle one. And in my
Speaker 1: head I'm thinking, like he just throwing out a Kardashian.
Speaker 1: I don't know, as long as he'd ever compare you
Speaker 1: to Rob then you're they're all pretty good looking. What
Speaker 1: do you do for work? Like? What kind of outfit
Speaker 1: were you in that you look like a Kardashians, Like
Speaker 1: big fake fur? Yeah, so I work in an office,
Speaker 1: so I usually wear like a blazer and some it's
Speaker 1: not like super work professional professional work pants, but power Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're looking like a power lady. Yeah. So how did
Speaker 1: drinks actually go? With him? So the day I felt
Speaker 1: like was going pretty well. We actually talked about some
Speaker 1: of our hobbies, which were like he likes to do
Speaker 1: that stationary bike peloton, Yeah, he likes to do that.
Speaker 1: I take boxing classes and some archery lessons and yeah,
Speaker 1: so I felt like we kind of bonded on the
Speaker 1: exercise aspect. Was there any exciting parts of the date,
Speaker 1: because I think that's exciting, Like, was there any like
Speaker 1: flirty moments or anytime you like cracked up on? Control
Speaker 1: of peloton? Is flirty? Brook? You? Obviously I've never ridden
Speaker 1: one everywhere? What's your usual output? I don't know. If
Speaker 1: you're a peloton rider, then you know. I last week
Speaker 1: and damn it was hot again. I was asking for
Speaker 1: the highlights? An all right, Maria, was anything more exciting
Speaker 1: than peloton talk happening? I think we were joking around,
Speaker 1: we were connecting on topics, and so we wanted to
Speaker 1: keep going, but they weren't. We were both getting hungry
Speaker 1: and they weren't. They didn't serve food there at the
Speaker 1: spot we were at. Okay, Yeah, so I live close
Speaker 1: by and I offered to make him some dinner, and
Speaker 1: I never yeah, and so I never invite someone over
Speaker 1: if I'm meeting them for the first time, Like that's
Speaker 1: just kind of crazy. But I figured we were hitting
Speaker 1: it off. He didn't seem weird or anything like that.
Speaker 1: So I that makes sense too, because like your friend
Speaker 1: had already vouched for him, right, So there's like a
Speaker 1: level of trust going into it. It's a little bit
Speaker 1: different than just a total stranger. Okay. So then I
Speaker 1: brought him up to my place and I had rice
Speaker 1: and like some shrimps. So I just threw something together
Speaker 1: real quick, and he seemed to like it and enjoy it,
Speaker 1: and we talked some more and nothing weird was happening.
Speaker 1: We had some more wine, but then it was getting
Speaker 1: late and I have work in the morning, so I
Speaker 1: just said that I should be getting to bed soon.
Speaker 1: Did he see that as an invitation? Look at Jeffrey's
Speaker 1: even responsored there. I don't know. I thought opposite. I
Speaker 1: guess it depends on how you said it. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's true. Did you say it with a whisper? To bed? Now?
Speaker 1: As you said it? Power blazer slip one? Okay. I
Speaker 1: questioned all of your flirting habits, Mary. How did it go?
Speaker 1: He was respectable and he didn't seem to try anything,
Speaker 1: and he went home, and I was a little worried
Speaker 1: that I might have hurt his feeling because I needed
Speaker 1: to go to bed. You invited him over to your
Speaker 1: house and fed him. He doesn't guarantee stay the night
Speaker 1: of first hangout. Have you checked it with your girlfriend
Speaker 1: who set you guys up? She hasn't said anything in
Speaker 1: regards to whether or not he wants to see me
Speaker 1: again or anything like that. I thought I thought she
Speaker 1: was a good friend. Yeah, well, fend to him and
Speaker 1: that could be. That could be. Yeah, I don't I
Speaker 1: don't even know if they've talked about it. I have
Speaker 1: messaged him, yeah, and I haven't heard too much back
Speaker 1: from him. But the stuff that I do here is
Speaker 1: just seems like a like normal kind of conversation. I
Speaker 1: believe in chemistry, vibes, like there's a connection. You can
Speaker 1: tell if someone's changed their feelings they're about to drop you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you have no idea why? No? Okay, well, let's
Speaker 1: play a song. We'll come back. We'll call Pete for you.
Speaker 1: We'll try and get you your second date up date? Okay,
Speaker 1: Mariol Okay, great, thank you? All right, hold on, second
Speaker 1: date up date. What can you say to a guy
Speaker 1: that you're interested in to let him know that you
Speaker 1: do like him, but you also have real world obligations.
Speaker 1: Do you say a I've had fun, but I have
Speaker 1: real world's obligations and I have to wake up early,
Speaker 1: reasonable though? Or do you go with option B and
Speaker 1: say I like you, but I do have to go
Speaker 1: to bed for work. It is okay if you want
Speaker 1: to stand and watch. I always choose B because it
Speaker 1: lets them know that you are still interested. So you're
Speaker 1: not the watcher, you're the sleeper. Yes, okay, I will
Speaker 1: sleep so that they're with me until my last conscious moment.
Speaker 1: They just stand above you. Yeah, it must be easy
Speaker 1: to drift off. It's called romance book. Oh but our listener, Maryelle,
Speaker 1: chose option A and look what happened not getting a
Speaker 1: call style? Yeah, Maryall, are you regretting that now that
Speaker 1: you know that there's another option? A little bit? A
Speaker 1: little bit? Yeah, that's okay. See, these are learning experiences
Speaker 1: for a lot of our listeners, so you'll know better
Speaker 1: next time. Yeah, but we're almost ready to call Pete
Speaker 1: for you. How you feeling here? A little nervous? I guess.
Speaker 1: I don't mean to make you feel worse, but I'm
Speaker 1: nervous for you too. I am. Oh. I mean, here's
Speaker 1: the thing, Maryall, like you sound so awesome. You saund
Speaker 1: really nice. You did kind things for him on the
Speaker 1: date and you have no idea why he's calling back.
Speaker 1: I feel like maybe you're a little naive and you
Speaker 1: miss something. And I don't mean to say that in
Speaker 1: a bad way, but no, I'm just I'm just worried.
Speaker 1: We're gonna get him on the phone and he's gonna say,
Speaker 1: you know, something that might hurt your feelings. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I thought we connected. I thought we had a lot
Speaker 1: of things in common. Maybe that's true in your defense,
Speaker 1: maybe he's literally just busy see you giving you space,
Speaker 1: you know, a lot of space, like a lot. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: And you know what, maryl If for some reason Pete
Speaker 1: does agree to go out with you again, I will
Speaker 1: ask him if he will watch you as you go
Speaker 1: to sleep, just to make sure this goes smoothly for
Speaker 1: the rest of the relationship. That has your back, Marye.
Speaker 1: That's right. So let's do this. I'm gonna give Pete
Speaker 1: a call and we're gonna get your second date update.
Speaker 1: You're ready, ready? All right? Here we go. Hello? Hey
Speaker 1: is this Pete? This is Pete? Who's this? Hey Pete?
Speaker 1: My name's Jeff from the radio show Broken Jeffrey in
Speaker 1: the Morning. How you doing, man Um, I'm Okay, how'd
Speaker 1: you get this number? Well, we got your number from
Speaker 1: one of our listeners who's been trying to get a
Speaker 1: hold of you. Okay. It's part of a segment that
Speaker 1: we do on our show called a second Date Update.
Speaker 1: That's where if you go out with someone and afterwards,
Speaker 1: if that person isn't calling you back, you can email
Speaker 1: us and we'll reach out to them for you to
Speaker 1: help you figure out the reason why. And so, okay.
Speaker 1: The woman that reached out to us, her name's Mariel. Oh, Marielle. Okay, good,
Speaker 1: Oh Marielle. Like that a good vibe out of that one, yes,
Speaker 1: but maybe not the best vibe. Not the best vibe. Okay. Well,
Speaker 1: mary Elle told us a little bit about your date,
Speaker 1: and she felt like there was a good vibe. So
Speaker 1: obviously there's been a disconnect there and she's been having
Speaker 1: trouble reaching you and she doesn't really understand why you're
Speaker 1: not responding. Well, I mean, listen, Mariel's really nice. She
Speaker 1: seemed super sweet, and I think I even put my
Speaker 1: foot in my mouth calling her a Kardashian. Hopefully it
Speaker 1: was the right one, but no, I don't think it was.
Speaker 1: She told us about that you went with the matriarchy.
Speaker 1: See that's how dated. I I have no idea. I
Speaker 1: just thought she looked pretty and professional. She looked great.
Speaker 1: I was trying to give her a compliment. Yeah, no's awesome,
Speaker 1: And she honestly brought it up as a funny moment
Speaker 1: from a date, not like a low moment from the date.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you really like her. Well, so, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean she seems like a really nice person on
Speaker 1: that one. Yea, what I mean, let's get to the
Speaker 1: reason why you're not calling her back, because that's what
Speaker 1: she's confused about. Well, I mean, I'm not gonna lie
Speaker 1: like she has like a paper calendar up on her wall.
Speaker 1: I mean, like my mother has one of those on
Speaker 1: her refrigerator at home. Wait, what are you talking about?
Speaker 1: My mom has one too. Hold on, hold on, yeah,
Speaker 1: slow down, Yeah, you're saying when you went over to
Speaker 1: her house, yes, well, so she invited me over and
Speaker 1: we had dinner. But as I'm looking around, it's like
Speaker 1: she's got anti cat collection up on the wall. One
Speaker 1: of the things that she mentioned was that she has
Speaker 1: to be in bed by ten pm every night. And
Speaker 1: I'm not a child. As a bedtime like I like
Speaker 1: to stay up until I'm ready to go to bed,
Speaker 1: and then I want to come. You're talking to the
Speaker 1: wrong crowd. We all do morning radio by nine bro.
Speaker 1: I don't still quite get it. And those are the
Speaker 1: reasons you're not calling her back. She's like old. She
Speaker 1: has old cat pictures. It's like, you know, you're asking me,
Speaker 1: do I like my mother? Yes? I loved my mother. Okay,
Speaker 1: I've got old your mom. We're asking you if you
Speaker 1: like someone that is a responsible adult. Is what it
Speaker 1: sounds like to me. Yeah, I like her as a person.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I see us with anything more
Speaker 1: than that. There was excuse me, I have something to
Speaker 1: stay here? Oh yeah, Pete. That's that's Maryelle on the
Speaker 1: other line. She was supposed to wait till I called
Speaker 1: her in, but uh yeah, she's she's there schedule. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess she has things that she's got to do. Um,
Speaker 1: what is this like? It's to put it back? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a fun radio segment we do. All right, So
Speaker 1: you're not calling me back because I have a calendar. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean, when you boil it down that much, it
Speaker 1: sounds really bad. I think the calendars just microcosm of
Speaker 1: just maybe your lifestyle and my lifestyle are in different places.
Speaker 1: You know what, wait, what is your lifestyle, Pete? I
Speaker 1: don't understand. I mean, what would you prefer to see
Speaker 1: on her walls? You know, not paper calendars, an antique
Speaker 1: cat like an Avengers poster. It's crinkled up with no
Speaker 1: frame on it. Sure, so, because I live my life
Speaker 1: as an adult and you don't, this is why you
Speaker 1: don't think we can hang out again. I don't understand.
Speaker 1: I mean it sounds like you actually understand about perfectly. Mariel, Like, Wow,
Speaker 1: she's adulting too hard for you. Pictures are a little much.
Speaker 1: Everybody has different interests, Mariel, I mean, like, what are
Speaker 1: you what are you feeling right now? I'm definitely not
Speaker 1: thinking about going on a second date with him. I
Speaker 1: mean he just sounds so childish. Yeah, here's me, Mariel, Like,
Speaker 1: I haven't even been asking for a second date. I
Speaker 1: feel like I've been cordial and nice. But I think
Speaker 1: that if there's a vibe there, then you know we're
Speaker 1: good to go. But there kind of hasn't been. So
Speaker 1: we're not say opposite, right, you guys are very opposite
Speaker 1: in this case. I'm not really sure. You could have
Speaker 1: said something more in the text message. I've been texting
Speaker 1: you and like, I mean, you could have at least
Speaker 1: said like, hey, this isn't going to work out or something.
Speaker 1: But you're acting childish and you just want to like
Speaker 1: string me along or something like that. Yeah, see, that's
Speaker 1: what adults do. He doesn't know how to do that. Mariel.
Speaker 1: I feel like we're getting really into the weeds and
Speaker 1: it's like, I don't think we're even there. Mariel. Yeah,
Speaker 1: probably because you're acting like a man baby. I don't
Speaker 1: really know what to say. I didn't mean they like
Speaker 1: lie to you. I was just trying to be nice,
Speaker 1: and I guess I should have been more upfront. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's trying to be nice and ghost you and I'll
Speaker 1: talk to you again. Well, one day you owe someone
Speaker 1: a million tacks. I don't think you do. But here's
Speaker 1: the thing, Mariel to her defense, like, yeah, she may
Speaker 1: have some cat things around her house, but she called
Speaker 1: a really cool radio station to get you on the
Speaker 1: phone radio And that's what I mean. And Mariel mentioned
Speaker 1: to us Pete that you have a peloton that's an
Speaker 1: old person exercise machine, but young people can't afford that.
Speaker 1: That's why it has to be. I'll ride my peloton
Speaker 1: in my full Spandex gear if I want. That's fun.
Speaker 1: There you go Spandex to ride your peloton. You got
Speaker 1: to have protective gear, the helmet at the glove he
Speaker 1: do whatever fun. You put training wheels on your peloton too.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Okay, well, at this point, I don't
Speaker 1: know how we could possibly save this, so I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna ask Pete, would you like to go out on
Speaker 1: another date with Mariel. We'll pay for it. She could
Speaker 1: pencil it into her calendar on her wall. I'm going
Speaker 1: to have to respectfully decline. I think you wanted the
Speaker 1: day anyway, did you? Marry'all? No, I would not even
Speaker 1: consider it. And Pete, I think you're going to have
Speaker 1: to pay me back for dinner because since this isn't
Speaker 1: going to work out, you owe me for the shrimp.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. And I can guarantee you she has
Speaker 1: a paper receipt to prove the price. Yeah. Brooke and
Speaker 1: Jeffrey in the morning,