1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:01,920 Speaker 1: All right. 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:05,120 Speaker 2: This is from Ava on Steve Harvey FM. Ava says, 3 00:00:05,160 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 2: after my long term relationship ended, I briefly dated someone 4 00:00:08,520 --> 00:00:11,480 Speaker 2: new who helped me get through the worst of the heartbreak. 5 00:00:11,760 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 2: It was casual at first, but we stayed in touch 6 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:16,959 Speaker 2: when he moved a couple of hours away. Now he 7 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 2: wants to try a real relationship, even if it means 8 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 2: doing it long distance and maybe eventually moving. The problem 9 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:26,440 Speaker 2: is that my ex has come back, saying the breakup 10 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:29,440 Speaker 2: was a mistake and asking for another He's asking for 11 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 2: another chance. Getting back together would mean trying to rebuild 12 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 2: trust after being hurt, while choosing the new guy would 13 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:39,200 Speaker 2: mean starting over, possibly in a new place, and leaving 14 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 2: a lot behind. I don't know what to do. Got 15 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 2: any advice? 16 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:48,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, Sometimes to break up is the blessing. He won't 17 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: You got to build back to trust, which means he 18 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: cheated on you. So what didn't happen is who he 19 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:58,200 Speaker 1: cheated on you? He found out didn't have the value. 20 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: He thought what he lost, what he had. Now he 21 00:01:02,760 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: wanted what he had back. This new guy who got 22 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: you through a difficult time moved away, and now he going, Hey, 23 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: I want to try this long distance man, that was 24 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: really good. Why would you go back to something that 25 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 1: causts you so much pain and didn't bring you the 26 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: value that you wanted? And so because she's talking about 27 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 1: I would have to start over. Man, don't that sound 28 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: but going back for what? You know what, y'all you 29 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: gotta remember this too. You can't get back time, and 30 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: that's what keeps a lot of people in relationships. I 31 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 1: didn't been with him eight years, that would all be 32 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: for nothing. Okay, cool, it took you eight years to 33 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 1: learn the lesson. Now you learned it and move on. 34 00:01:54,520 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: It's okay, man, Now he back, I go with him? Yeah, 35 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: start over? What's the matter with starting over? 36 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 2: So? Yes, decision. 37 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: Yeah. 38 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 2: She probably still. 39 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 1: Already know the better man is is two hours away. 40 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:15,160 Speaker 1: You already know that, you know? 41 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:19,079 Speaker 2: I wish, thank you we have time for another one. 42 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:22,520 Speaker 2: This is from Nate on Steve Harvey FM. Nate says, 43 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:25,079 Speaker 2: I've been at my job for about a year now, 44 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 2: and as I've gotten faster and more comfortable with my workload. 45 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:31,360 Speaker 2: What used to be fast paced and stressful, I easily 46 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 2: finish with time to spare, which makes me nervous, especially 47 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:38,799 Speaker 2: since I've recently seen some coworkers get fired for low performance. 48 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 2: I was thinking of asking for more responsibility, but I'm 49 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 2: worried that I'll end up making my job too difficult 50 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:49,080 Speaker 2: to manage and I'll regret it. Is it smarter to 51 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 2: ask for more work or just continue being good and 52 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 2: fast with my current workload? Yeah? 53 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, obviously you don't get paid more to work fast 54 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 1: now if you're on a job I used to have, 55 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:13,079 Speaker 1: which was a piecemeal We used to work on a 56 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 1: piecemeal system, which meant I had to make a certain 57 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: amount of pieces of wire to make a certain amount 58 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 1: of money, and you qualify for bonuses if you made 59 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 1: more boxes of wire than you was required. But the 60 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: requirement was two hundred and thirty eight boxes a day. 61 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 1: I never made that. 62 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 2: Why didn't you make it? Why didn't you reach your 63 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 2: goal in your quota? 64 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: Lord, I didn't understand. Why am I making? See you 65 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:44,160 Speaker 1: make two thirty eight boxes in an eight hour shift, 66 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: and then if you make more it counts towards your 67 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: bonus at the end of the year. I don't see 68 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 1: how I'm gonna be. 69 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 2: Here for a year. 70 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 1: Wrapping the wine box was never a goal of mine, 71 00:03:58,120 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna be here for the end of 72 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 1: the year, for the bonus. So why do I care 73 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: about two hundred and eighty my members? Dudes making three. 74 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 2: Hundred undred and eighty boxes a day three twenty, Yeah, 75 00:04:08,440 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 2: what was your livest count? 76 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: Oh? I made two forty one day that really good 77 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 1: and went home, man, and couldn't even wake up the 78 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:20,600 Speaker 1: next day. 79 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 2: I'm exhausted. 80 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 1: This is not working out. How the hell they make 81 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 1: three hundred boxes? Oh? Man, I said, ain't gonna stop this, 82 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:37,120 Speaker 1: all right, and setting on in. 83 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 2: We'll have more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show coming 84 00:04:41,279 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 2: up at twenty minutes after. 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