1 00:00:01,520 --> 00:00:04,760 Speaker 1: It's time now as we switch gears for today's Strawberry Letter. 2 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:09,639 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, 3 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:13,280 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM 4 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:16,599 Speaker 1: dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be 5 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:19,320 Speaker 1: reading your letter live on the air, just like we're 6 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:23,160 Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. Ladies and gentlemen, 7 00:00:23,160 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: it is that time. It's time put today's Strawberry Letter 8 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 1: with my good friend Shirley straw Baby. Thank you, junior. 9 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:33,879 Speaker 1: Subject He's louder than I am. Dear Stephen, Shirley, I 10 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:36,360 Speaker 1: am a thirty three year old woman and I recently 11 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: started dating a twenty five year old man. The age 12 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:42,680 Speaker 1: difference really didn't bother me at first, but I am 13 00:00:42,720 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 1: starting to notice that he seems to be a little 14 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:48,200 Speaker 1: bit inexperienced when it comes to sex. The first time 15 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:51,200 Speaker 1: we got together, there was a lot of kissing involved, 16 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 1: so I didn't quite notice how much noise he makes 17 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: in bed. I did notice that he was talking really dirty, 18 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: and maybe he thinks that all women are into that, 19 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:04,520 Speaker 1: or he hasn't been with that many women. Now that 20 00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:06,840 Speaker 1: we've done it a few times, it's starting to get 21 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 1: a little awkward and embarrassing. The other night, we tried 22 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:13,000 Speaker 1: doing it in a few different positions, and he got 23 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 1: louder each time. He was moaning and cursing. Then he 24 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:21,320 Speaker 1: started to scream my name, and I thought the neighbors 25 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:24,320 Speaker 1: were going to think something was wrong. I should probably 26 00:01:24,360 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: take it as a compliment, but this is too over 27 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: the top to me, and I think he might be 28 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: faking or exaggerating because he thinks that's what he's supposed 29 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: to do. He got very embarrassed when I called him 30 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: out on it and said it's completely natural. I told 31 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:41,399 Speaker 1: him I don't like to be rude or obnoxious to 32 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:44,480 Speaker 1: my neighbors, so he needs to work on being less noisy. 33 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 1: I know this is a strange request because usually it's 34 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 1: the woman the women that are the most vocal during intimacy, 35 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: but this guy cannot keep it down. I have tried 36 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 1: to play music or I'll leave the TV on to 37 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: drown out all of his screams and curse words, but 38 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 1: nothing works. He's a great guy, and this is something 39 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: we can work on. I need some advice. Wow, you 40 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: just got to say something. I mean, you gotta let 41 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 1: them know how you feel. You said you you've talked 42 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: to him before and he said it was natural. But 43 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: I think it's a little more serious than maybe you 44 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 1: know you guys think it is, or especially him. You 45 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:25,919 Speaker 1: want the sex to be good, but you don't want 46 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:29,800 Speaker 1: it to be annoying and embarrassing like you said, and awkward. 47 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:33,240 Speaker 1: You don't want it to be too too loud, I 48 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:36,399 Speaker 1: guess because of your neighbors. And he's just in there 49 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 1: just cussing and just hollering. Huh. Anyway, your neighbors don't 50 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 1: need to know all your business. They don't need to 51 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 1: know what you're doing. They don't need to hear all 52 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: it at all the time. I think the problem with 53 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 1: letting him know you know what you want is that 54 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 1: you know you gotta be careful. You can do it, 55 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:57,800 Speaker 1: but just don't crush the man. Don't crush you just 56 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:00,920 Speaker 1: you know, say you're telling him again and because you 57 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:04,079 Speaker 1: know you really wanted to work out like you say, 58 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 1: this is something you guys can work on. But just 59 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:09,519 Speaker 1: be mindful of his very fragile ego. You know men 60 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 1: have fragile egos. He's only twenty five, you have eight 61 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: years on him, So let him know how you feel. Nicely. 62 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: Hopefully he'll get the message and shut up with all 63 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 1: that hollering. Steve Na Shelley, that ain't it nice? Try 64 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:31,679 Speaker 1: to give a nice answer, wholesome family entertainment. I got 65 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 1: it for you, though, Oh tready three year old woman 66 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: just started dating a twenty five year old man eight 67 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 1: years yeah, now, already a man is not fully matured 68 00:03:47,640 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: at twenty five, a woman is around thirty three. Women 69 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: mature faster than men. So your eight years difference in 70 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: dog years was about twenty years the humans You way 71 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 1: past this boy right here? You thirty three, twenty five? 72 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:16,159 Speaker 1: You putting something on him. He ain't all head and 73 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 1: it is starting to show and he can't help it. 74 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 1: You say the age didn't didn't bother you, But now 75 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: you didn't notice. You know, be a little bit experienced 76 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: when it comes to say, man, you know, he just 77 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:36,800 Speaker 1: don't know what you know? Now? Is he inexperience or 78 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:45,080 Speaker 1: you something else? Question again, is he inexperienced or are 79 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: you something else? Are you a low end? Behold all hell? Now, 80 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:53,159 Speaker 1: she don't sound deserved to me because first got together 81 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:55,480 Speaker 1: a lot of kissing, so I ain't quite noticed how 82 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:59,159 Speaker 1: much noise he was making it bad. I did notice 83 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 1: that he was talking really dirty. Maybe he thinks that's 84 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:03,719 Speaker 1: what all women into that he ain't been with that 85 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:06,680 Speaker 1: many women. Now I don't know what he was saying. 86 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:11,479 Speaker 1: We'll get to that in a minute. Oh lord, but 87 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: now that we didn't done it a few times, you 88 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 1: can started get a little awkward embarrassing. Another night, we 89 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: tried doing it in a few positions, and he got 90 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:25,839 Speaker 1: louder each time. He was mourning. Oh, here we go. 91 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:36,160 Speaker 1: Oh we switching positions. Oh, couldn't be another trick, tricking 92 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:39,680 Speaker 1: me again? Oh, now you want to put your knee 93 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 1: on the night stand while I got my leg on 94 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 1: the hater He nah, crazy, man, I'm gonna do it now. 95 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:56,799 Speaker 1: He was moaning and cousin. Then he started to screaming 96 00:05:56,839 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 1: my name, I'm a shad Alee hockeys. Do it all? 97 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:20,040 Speaker 1: List to me? The fucus ain't got true. Yeah, all right. Look, 98 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: we'll let part two of Steve's response coming up in 99 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:25,719 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour today subject he's a 100 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 1: louder than I am. We'll get back into it right 101 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening Morning show. Come on, Steve, let's 102 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject he's louder than I am. Wow, 103 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:44,479 Speaker 1: old grown thirty. This grown woman right here meant a 104 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:48,720 Speaker 1: little boy, well grown man, but he's twenty five. She 105 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: didn't have putting something on it. He never had before. 106 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 1: She ain't noticed how much no does he making me? 107 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:58,600 Speaker 1: He talking real dirty into it too. I think he 108 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,719 Speaker 1: was cost you though, Yeah, but I don't want to 109 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 1: do that because y'all now. But then he started to 110 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 1: screaming my name. I'm gonna repeat hunting name for you, 111 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: just the way he said it. Oh my shall do Okay, 112 00:07:18,440 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: he just Holly, you thought the neighbors was gonna think 113 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:25,120 Speaker 1: something was wrong. I should probably take it as a compliment, 114 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:27,480 Speaker 1: but this is too over the top of me, and 115 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: I think he might be faking it. Faking it. How 116 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 1: you faking Holly? He hollying and cussing. I think he's 117 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 1: exaggerating because he thinks that's what he's supposed to do. 118 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: He got very bradst what. I called him out on 119 00:07:44,160 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 1: it and said it's completely natural. I told him I 120 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:50,080 Speaker 1: don't like to be rude obnoxious to my neighbors, so 121 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 1: we need to work on being less noisy. I noticed 122 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: a strange request because usually it's the woman that's the 123 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: most vocal doing intimacy. But this guy can't keep it down. 124 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: I'm trying to play music. I lead a TV on 125 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 1: the drying out all the screams and cuts word, but 126 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 1: ain't nothing work. He's a great guy and this is 127 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: something we can work on. I need some advice. Well, 128 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:14,720 Speaker 1: me and Shirley gonna reenact something on radio. You know 129 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: it's gonna be red radio version of it. So Shirley, 130 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: what I want you to do? It's just not this 131 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 1: is what we're doing. This is actually happening in real time. 132 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 1: They're in bed and all she's trying to do is 133 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 1: have a normal conversation with him. But he ain't trying 134 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:41,319 Speaker 1: to have it. Just a normal conversation, Okay, like I me, 135 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:44,120 Speaker 1: you know, just regular conversation about how to day win 136 00:08:44,200 --> 00:08:52,120 Speaker 1: and anything like that. He turning it all around. Okay, yeah, Hi, honey, Hi, 137 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:58,959 Speaker 1: hello girl, Hi, way better than low. Come on oah 138 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 1: for you? I know getting here, well, I'm him. We 139 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: both handsled everything I got hans who I got a 140 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:13,000 Speaker 1: hand and some for you? Come on over here, got 141 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 1: about to get gnashed, honey. How was your day? Did 142 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:18,200 Speaker 1: you have a good day. How to heir you think 143 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:21,120 Speaker 1: my day was? I was thinking about tonight the whole 144 00:09:21,240 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 1: damn day, bab and touching and snatching and biting and chewing, 145 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:30,400 Speaker 1: rastling and dripping and snipping and scoding baby all really, 146 00:09:30,480 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 1: let's all lights all everything. I got everything over here. 147 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:38,680 Speaker 1: Well you're hungry, honey, I was gonna hell yeah, like 148 00:09:38,720 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: a snap, you fitna get like a pepper road at 149 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 1: pizza with intra meat on that. Girl, I was gonna 150 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 1: just take tell you up how I'm steaking potatoes in 151 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:50,680 Speaker 1: a veggie that you are? You look like a steak 152 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 1: air potato. Yeah, you look like a hungry man. TV dinner, 153 00:09:56,559 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 1: Come on here and cut that TV on, so come 154 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 1: bar to fact, cut that TV on so the neighbor 155 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:04,559 Speaker 1: can't hit me dinner. But I didn't know what you wanted, 156 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:08,240 Speaker 1: my did you just say? But that's exactly what I'm 157 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:12,760 Speaker 1: looking for, some mold. But what did you want for 158 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 1: a dessert? Honey? With this, I got all the dessert 159 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 1: I need. I want so putting back, I want so 160 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:24,840 Speaker 1: putting back that what I want? Did you want drink first? 161 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:30,760 Speaker 1: Or did you first with the body want nothing to drank? Girl, 162 00:10:30,840 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 1: I finna drink your bad water? What I finna drank? Well, well, 163 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 1: I am kind of tired. I did need like a 164 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:42,080 Speaker 1: foot rub or something, but I got time to rub 165 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 1: your foot. Yeah, put your foot in my mouth. I 166 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:50,400 Speaker 1: want I want to do. Girl, put your whole foot 167 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:53,400 Speaker 1: down in my nash in mouth while I'm cussing. I 168 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: want your foot in my mouth while I'm cussing on it, 169 00:10:56,160 --> 00:11:00,079 Speaker 1: cussing on your toes. Well, honey, after dinner, did you 170 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: want to watch a movie or something? Yeah, y'all want 171 00:11:02,920 --> 00:11:07,520 Speaker 1: to watch a movie pawno. A matter of fact, let's 172 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:10,800 Speaker 1: make it out damn self nasty movie. We don't call 173 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:13,559 Speaker 1: it two nasty people. Make it a movie. After dinner. 174 00:11:14,559 --> 00:11:19,440 Speaker 1: That's a long time. Everybody gonna worry. I got an 175 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 1: old scene. We have to meet me seeing on the 176 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: shower curtain. Well, you know this weekend is labor day, 177 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:33,880 Speaker 1: so um, label you try to have a baby. All 178 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:35,440 Speaker 1: are we gonna be doing it that? All? We're gonna 179 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:39,679 Speaker 1: have a baby by Friday. You wanna try to get 180 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:41,839 Speaker 1: some of this hill. I wanted to know if you 181 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:43,720 Speaker 1: wanted to have people over and did you want to 182 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:49,680 Speaker 1: go to people argie here? Yeah, everybody can come over. 183 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:55,560 Speaker 1: Yn't shifted, nat Neil Geraldine Neil, everybody. Yeah, we could, 184 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:58,200 Speaker 1: you know, like put some barbecue on the grill or something. 185 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:01,160 Speaker 1: Put some meat on the grill, real dog, real your 186 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:05,360 Speaker 1: he that what I've been trying to right. Put a 187 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 1: grill mark through it right now, look like a scratchlor 188 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 1: went across the spack spack. That's the problem. She's happy 189 00:12:14,760 --> 00:12:19,560 Speaker 1: you got out, you old boy. Everything you say to 190 00:12:19,640 --> 00:12:23,000 Speaker 1: a twenty for his hormones is raging at a time 191 00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:26,040 Speaker 1: and there's nothing you could do about it. I want 192 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:30,080 Speaker 1: to applaud myself for him. Give it an edited, nasty 193 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:34,680 Speaker 1: version with no cussing and very radio playable. They'll be 194 00:12:34,760 --> 00:12:38,560 Speaker 1: running that back across to contro tect you so much coming. 195 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:41,439 Speaker 1: Thank you Steve on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey 196 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:46,680 Speaker 1: on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast. 197 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 1: Done to Man. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show.