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Speaker 1: My husband exploded on me because he thought I baby

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Speaker 1: got upset, and I think I might divorce him.

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Speaker 2: You know what, people keep projecting sam like like the

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Speaker 2: dang projectors in elementary school.

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Speaker 1: Like the projectors in the movie theater. It's like, hey,

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Speaker 1: if you turn on Quentin Tarantino's Django and you projected

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Speaker 3: That's what's going to happen.

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Speaker 1: And if you turn on your your little cheating senses,

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Speaker 1: it probably means you cheated.

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Speaker 3: My cheetie senses are tingling.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, cheated because you cheated, or you have trust issues

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Speaker 1: because you got cheated on long ago in your first relationship.

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Speaker 3: Come on, now, we're giving you the facts.

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Speaker 1: My husband, male thirty five, and I female, thirty two

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Speaker 1: have been married for just seven years. He left next door.

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Speaker 1: We just clicked. It was a fairy tale. It's like Shrek.

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Speaker 1: One thing I've always thought made our marriage so strong

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Speaker 1: was our friendship with each other and our trust in

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Speaker 3: So sketch what's going on there.

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Speaker 1: Recently, my husband found out that his friend Geoff male

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Speaker 1: thirty four has been baby trapped. Basically, Geoff's wife, female

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Speaker 1: few months into their relationship and only came clean after

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Speaker 1: the wedding. Damn, Bro, that's why boys, boys, yep, don't

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Speaker 1: trust that they're on the pill. At least pull out,

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Speaker 1: at least the very at the least you can do.

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Speaker 2: And pull out, Bro, your dating advice has been so

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Speaker 2: amazing lately.

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Speaker 1: Bill your seed onto her stomach at the very least,

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Speaker 1: or his stomach. Well, I guess you don't have to

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Speaker 1: worry about it.

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Speaker 2: Bill your seed war it don't bleed. That is great advice.

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Speaker 2: Come on, John doesn't miss oh man. GFF came from

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Speaker 2: a very conservative family, which his wife knew, and so

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Speaker 2: he felt obligated to marry her after the pregnancy. Unfortunately,

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Speaker 2: he also feels obligated to stay regardless of the clear

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Speaker 1: H I got to give it up for Goff, though, No.

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Speaker 2: No, no, you're you're an idiot. You're an idiot, Bro,

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Speaker 2: You're a dummy. Just leave the trust has been broken.

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Speaker 2: She baby trapped you, bro, like it is It's okay.

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Speaker 1: What about the sanctity of marriage, the sanctity of marriage?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, burn the systems.

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Speaker 1: To the ground, Yeah, Jeff, I don't know if this

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Speaker 1: is a good relationship.

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Speaker 3: Now, you know it's.

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Speaker 2: Jeff right, No, just like I know, I just wanted

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Speaker 2: to make sure you knew.

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Speaker 1: It's spelled g Off.

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Speaker 3: It is spelled geoff, and this is true g.

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Speaker 1: E oever, and what world is that that's the same

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Speaker 3: It is a valid question.

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Speaker 1: Valid is geoff? My husband, for some reason has been

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Speaker 1: really rattled by this, which I guess, you know, I

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Speaker 1: kind of can understand. I am currently four months pregnant

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Speaker 2: Him too much, Bro, cool your jets, Cool your jets, buddy.

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Speaker 1: Which also like, did he not want the baby? Maybe

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Speaker 1: he didn't want the baby, maybe he wasn't ready. I

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Speaker 1: guess that's what he's saying. I first laughed because I

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Speaker 1: honestly thought it was a joke, but he was dead serious,

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Speaker 1: and he doubled down. Put in all the chips. Baby, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't want this baby.

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Speaker 3: Baby you're trapping me.

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Speaker 1: So I told him that we have already been married

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Speaker 1: not like that answer and said there was no time

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Speaker 3: Oh vomit.

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Speaker 1: He said he had trusted me in the past, but

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Speaker 1: all right, Well I'm going ahead of myself. Yeah, there

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Speaker 1: Sorry, the friend's gff man.

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Speaker 2: I think he's an absolute idiot. I think both of

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Speaker 2: probably not baby trapping you, like like seven years bro

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Speaker 2: like or Opie's husband, Opie's husband, Opie's husband.

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Speaker 3: Just just stop. All the men in the story, just stop.

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Speaker 1: It gets worse. I woke up and my husband was gone,

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Speaker 1: but I didn't have a nasty text from his brother

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Speaker 3: Tell you how dare you do the thing I told.

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Speaker 1: This guy is projecting hard. But there are some commentars

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Speaker 3: I would guess that one, honestly, the cheating one.

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Speaker 1: Oh, my husband had insulted me in our marriage in

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Speaker 1: a very hurtful way, and it just didn't really register

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, I called my best friend, female thirty one,

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Speaker 1: and said that he would happily represent me if I

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, Ale, we're escalating.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well he could just be insecure.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think we need to like.

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Speaker 1: Let's let's all right. I don't reddit is just like, literally, hey,

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Speaker 1: we're the first ones to say the divorce chance really

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Speaker 1: just hear me out.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, I'm hearing you.

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Speaker 2: We skip divorce straight to murder, like I think, so

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Speaker 1: The worst, probably get away with it. Literally, there we go.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure he's buried some bodies.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, of course this man is a saint, and I

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Speaker 3: I don't know, man's just.

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Speaker 3: That's fire.

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Speaker 1: My worm husband did not look me in the eye

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Speaker 2: I yeah, feels like a lot. I know it does

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Speaker 1: A lot of people have told feet when they're having kids,

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Speaker 2: I mean, look, the husband like has a lot of

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, Like I think there there's a

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Speaker 1: but damn Redda just goals for divorce every single time, and.

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Speaker 3: She's eating it up.

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Speaker 1: She's eaten it up. I also showed my mother in

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Speaker 1: I am exhausted and just want to curl up and cry.

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Speaker 1: My best friend said she'll spend the night with me

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Speaker 1: devastated that my marriage has come crumbling down. Sorry for

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Speaker 1: the sad ending. Wow Wow, we want to know what

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Speaker 1: you think. Put into comments below. Divorce divorce, divorce, yes

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Speaker 1: or no divorce, But John, let me know what you think. Well,

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Speaker 1: I guess first question, do you think Op should get divorced?

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Speaker 3: Not yet?

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Speaker 1: The big secret is revealed.

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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, I'm eighteen male, and today I'm gonna teach

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Speaker 1: Here, eighteen male and ready to be frail because I

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Speaker 1: got Arthur writis that's my tagline, that's your tagline. I

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Speaker 2: Oh geez, dude, that's unfortunate, especially for our line of work.

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Speaker 1: Bro? This is something like this is Sparta shit, where

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Speaker 1: God like im night? Now you were happy birthday, like

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Speaker 1: Well, his birthday pancake is the freezing cold weather, the.

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Speaker 3: Harsh the harsh reality.

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Speaker 2: So the thing was, I did already know that I

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Speaker 3: Bro. That is like, do you.

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Speaker 1: I guess Opie's parents hate him or something? Very tough love.

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Speaker 2: I mean they're terrible parents. Yeah, that's guaranteed. That's guaranteed.

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Speaker 1: That's a guarantee, Ladies and gentlemen, that's a John Fry Garretton.

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Speaker 1: That's right, my app of approval on your terribleness.

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Speaker 3: That's fair, that's right.

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Speaker 2: I already knew I was going to get kicked out,

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Speaker 2: So like Ops, it was set up pretty well for

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Speaker 1: His circumstances were terrible already. It's like, we'll kick you

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Speaker 2: this is the story my dad tells too. My dad

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Speaker 1: And that's that's more than I can say for you,

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Speaker 1: you kids who are body coddled and going to university.

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Speaker 1: I worked hard at Ralph Groceries every day, that he

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I wonder what the what the like inflation jested.

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Speaker 1: Oh, it's like like twenty twenty bucks or something really yeah,

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Speaker 2: We became plan of money, Planet money, getting your economic

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Speaker 1: No, I silly man, you're a stupid old man with

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Speaker 2: Grandpapa, put down that plum juice, and I'll tell you

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Speaker 3: I moved out because that was kicked out. That's what happened.

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Speaker 2: My Grandpa's face immediately turned from a happy, smiling face

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Speaker 3: They were pissed. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: They said, never before has your grandpa insulted us before today,

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Speaker 2: So the question is am I the a hole for

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Speaker 1: Grand not at all? Bro? What not at all? Grandpa

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Speaker 1: was deal in justice because Opie's parents were assholes.

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Speaker 2: I like how they were, Like how it could it

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Speaker 1: You tell your grandpa the truth of what actually happened. Dude,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. Yeah, no, drop those truth bombs every

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