WEBVTT - Maria Menounos CHOOSES a Life Audit

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Girl. Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>back to I Choose Me today. I am jumping back

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<v Speaker 1>into my conversation with Maria Menuos. We're evolving, we are

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<v Speaker 1>moving at lightning speed. I feel like, especially as you

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<v Speaker 1>get older, you need to assess things kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>on the spot and make the changes because we don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what did you leave behind in your latest life audit.

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<v Speaker 2>I left behind. I mean it's been a ten year

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<v Speaker 2>process of leaving behind a lot, leaving behind expectations that

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<v Speaker 2>everyone had for me, and just living what really made

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<v Speaker 2>me happy, choosing me, ironically, choosing me every step of

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<v Speaker 2>the way, not what was going to give my dad

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<v Speaker 2>something a brag about, Like am I going to take

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<v Speaker 2>that job? Because now my dad has something to go

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<v Speaker 2>brag about and he's going to be so proud. I

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<v Speaker 2>remember after brain surgery, I'd written him a letter and

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<v Speaker 2>I said, listen, I am going to do things very

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<v Speaker 2>differently if I come out of here. I'm not going

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<v Speaker 2>to be just doing anything anymore. It's really going to

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<v Speaker 2>be about what works for me, what makes me happy,

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<v Speaker 2>what feels authentic to me. And that might mean you

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<v Speaker 2>don't have things to like be proud of or boast

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<v Speaker 2>about or anything like that. And it was amazing to

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<v Speaker 2>see his shift. I didn't expect it, but now he

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<v Speaker 2>asks me how I'm feeling, how I'm doing, It's not

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<v Speaker 2>about my career.

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<v Speaker 1>What are you working on lately?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? So I left behind the need to have the

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<v Speaker 2>laundry list of things I'm working on. So people are like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>what are you up to? Literally, Jenny, for ten years,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be on red carpet and people are like, so,

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<v Speaker 2>what are you up to. I'm like, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit of this, a little bit of that,

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<v Speaker 2>And they're like, what much.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't know what to say to that. No, a

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<v Speaker 1>swarm they're so used to, like people promoting self promoting

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<v Speaker 1>or promoting something that I think that's kind of cool.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. It was really fun, and you know, you have

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<v Speaker 2>to get comfortable with it too, because I always had

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<v Speaker 2>a laundry list because I thought that's how it was

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to be. And I was like, wait a second,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not living me. I'm loving what everyone else is

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<v Speaker 2>thinking is supposed to be and no, and so leaving

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<v Speaker 2>that behind just a lot of the catastrophizing. I was

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<v Speaker 2>really a great catastrophizer. Oh boy, I've really left that

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<v Speaker 2>behind and I've had so much more peace. Yeah, I bet,

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<v Speaker 2>and a lot of the things I would worry about

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<v Speaker 2>never really happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. We should not believe every stupid thought that our

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<v Speaker 1>brain thinks, because it's just making up stories to try

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<v Speaker 1>to comfort us or to give us some sort of

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<v Speaker 1>certainy or clarity moving forward. How do you exist like

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<v Speaker 1>that in the uncertainty.

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<v Speaker 2>I lean on my faith heavily. I have a very firm,

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<v Speaker 2>strong belief that God is guiding me and protecting me,

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<v Speaker 2>and that even in the moments I think I'm left behind,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not. It's like, if I'm not going to follow

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<v Speaker 2>the path I'm supposed to be on, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>get those gentle or maybe not so gentle pushes into

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<v Speaker 2>the right direction. And I just trust. Now. I know,

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<v Speaker 2>And I also know that there are tools that I've

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<v Speaker 2>learned on my podcast on Heel Squad, like choose wonder

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<v Speaker 2>over worry. I wonder what it's going to be like

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<v Speaker 2>when I get through this pancreas surgery and I'm okay,

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<v Speaker 2>And I wonder what it's going to be like when

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<v Speaker 2>the doctor calls her good news. I wonder what it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to be like when this is all a distant

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<v Speaker 2>memory and.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, so changing changing that negative to a positive.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, not living in fear. I'd rather live from sore

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<v Speaker 2>and from faith and that there's possibility. I see so

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<v Speaker 2>many people that are committed to their diagnosis and statistics

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<v Speaker 2>and the outcomes that they're given. I'd rather live in possibility,

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<v Speaker 2>possibility of miracles, possibilities that there are wrong, possibilities that

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<v Speaker 2>this is this is going to be fine, That this

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<v Speaker 2>is just a journey I'm supposed to go on, and

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<v Speaker 2>it might suck for a while and it might be

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<v Speaker 2>really painful, but there's some reason I'm being invited to

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<v Speaker 2>another level. I've seen personally that I feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>being invited to a closer relationship with God, and that

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<v Speaker 2>that's kind of what I'm feeling is happening. But we'll

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<v Speaker 2>see at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll see. That's something I come back to all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>because similar to you turning worry into wonder, you just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of have to adopt that mentality of I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll see, we'll see how this turns out. But certainly

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<v Speaker 1>going into something in a positive mindset is feel like

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<v Speaker 1>better than going into it with a worried you know,

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<v Speaker 1>that fearful mindset. Do you think that these obstacles in

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<v Speaker 1>your life, these health obstacles or situations that you've had

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<v Speaker 1>to overcome thus far in your life no more? I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm gone.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope so, I hope we're done.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, that would be great.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes we are. I say it all the time. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I can't have anything happen because my daughter gives me

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<v Speaker 2>so much joy that there's nothing to come, because there's

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<v Speaker 2>just too much joy.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right. You have a little toddler now, and that

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<v Speaker 1>is joyous. I will miss those toddler days. But do

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<v Speaker 1>you think that these things that life has handed you

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<v Speaker 1>are for a reason? You believe that, and you believe

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<v Speaker 1>that you're supposed to find the reason.

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<v Speaker 2>And then what I think that it's not even like,

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<v Speaker 2>fine the reason, it's just allow room for there to

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<v Speaker 2>be a reason and then it will come. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think we're supposed to push on much in life.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we're supposed to allow and surrender a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit more than we do. But I just watched the pattern.

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<v Speaker 2>Now does it mean that when I got diagnosed with

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<v Speaker 2>a neuro endercrint tumor on my pancreas, We're a couple

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<v Speaker 2>months into a surrogacy pregnancy and finally, after ten years

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<v Speaker 2>of infertility, about to have a baby, and now I

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<v Speaker 2>might not make it. Steve Jobs died of what I had,

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<v Speaker 2>the richest, most powerful man in the world. And so

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<v Speaker 2>I remember being so shook that there was nothing in

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<v Speaker 2>that moment other than just pure fear one hundred percent

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<v Speaker 2>on your knees. And I remember as the next morning came,

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<v Speaker 2>I remember looking at my mantle where I have all

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<v Speaker 2>my church icons, and I was like, God, like, this

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't make sense, Like how could you finally bless me

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<v Speaker 2>with a baby and now you're going to take me?

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<v Speaker 2>How this doesn't make sense? And then I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it doesn't make sense. Huh. And then the wonder

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<v Speaker 2>versus worried thing came up in my head and then

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<v Speaker 2>I started doing it, and I remember getting a call

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, oh, oh my god, it's working.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, we also understand that the laws of attraction

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<v Speaker 2>are real. We know that we're magnet, so if our

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<v Speaker 2>core is a magnet, and we think like that whatever

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<v Speaker 2>we're thinking. Whatever we're feeling, we're going to attract more

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<v Speaker 2>of So what would we like We would like to

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<v Speaker 2>think better thoughts, have better feelings. Doesn't mean you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to be there instantly. Guys, you're going to be on

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<v Speaker 2>your knees. It's going to be awful. It doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 2>you're not going to teeter out. I had I remember

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<v Speaker 2>vividly even the night before surgery, having a really powerful

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<v Speaker 2>conversation with a friend because I was really getting scared

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<v Speaker 2>and he helped align me again and I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm good. I'm good, but it's terrifying. So you need tools.

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<v Speaker 2>You need your faith, and you need to just remember

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<v Speaker 2>those and use them to help you make this journey

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit easier. And when you do get to

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<v Speaker 2>the other side, you have to know, you know, sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>tools aren't going to work in every case. Obviously, there

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<v Speaker 2>are some extreme situations obviously in life that I don't

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<v Speaker 2>have a lot of words for other than what my

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<v Speaker 2>mom taught me, and she said that we wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 2>empathy in life if we didn't have those stories, and

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<v Speaker 2>so that's what I do. But it definitely doesn't mean

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<v Speaker 2>it's easy. But I think that you start to see

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<v Speaker 2>patterns in your life like anything else, and you start

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<v Speaker 2>to connect the dots and you start to realize, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm being pushed in this direction for a reason. I

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<v Speaker 2>see what's going on, and I'm just going to flow

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<v Speaker 2>with it and see what happens.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. That takes the comfortability of being quiet, like getting

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<v Speaker 1>quiet enough so you can actually hear yourself, and that

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<v Speaker 1>is hard in this day and age, when there's just

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<v Speaker 1>so much noise and there's so much chaos. How do

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<v Speaker 1>you find your calm in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>So ironically, one of the things that brings me the

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<v Speaker 2>most calm is one of the things I've had to

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<v Speaker 2>do for my health journey, which is never missing a sunrise.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you learn, you know what my first event

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<v Speaker 2>that we did at Canyon Ranch was about the foundations

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<v Speaker 2>of health and sunrise and that sunlight that's carrying that

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful red light, how important it is for your circadian

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<v Speaker 2>biology and your health overall. So every morning for the

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<v Speaker 2>last four years, I am up at sunrise, no matter

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<v Speaker 2>what time I go to bed, and I am getting

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<v Speaker 2>that morning light. Now, there are moments when it can't

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<v Speaker 2>be out there as long as I would like, I

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<v Speaker 2>can only be there for a few minutes. The benefits

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<v Speaker 2>come if you're really there for like the first hour,

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<v Speaker 2>hour and a half. That doesn't always happen.

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<v Speaker 1>But Maria min no nos, I am doing this now. Yes, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I've accepted this challenge that you didn't even challenge me with.

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<v Speaker 1>You just told me what you did. And you just

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<v Speaker 1>have to look and see what time is this. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>coming up. That's when I'm gonna That's.

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<v Speaker 2>When you get up. So I get up, set my

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<v Speaker 2>alarm for two minutes before I get outside. Now, right now,

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<v Speaker 2>it's beautiful, so I can let my skin see. Your

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<v Speaker 2>photoreceptors on your skin are meant to take in that light.

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<v Speaker 2>That's your immune system. That's information through your retinas that

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<v Speaker 2>have UV receptors that takes in all that light and

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<v Speaker 2>struct your body. And there are so many processes that

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<v Speaker 2>need that light, just like a plant needs light for photosynthesis.

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<v Speaker 2>I call it human synthasis, so human sense. I'm out

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<v Speaker 2>there every day. But the magic, Jenny, is that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>out there and you hear nothing but birds chirping. I

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<v Speaker 2>am out there. I get my breakfast in, I get

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<v Speaker 2>my coffee, I get im for me I get to

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<v Speaker 2>do all my little lymphatic things, my acupressure points, my

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<v Speaker 2>beauty shan and limb face stuff whatever, I'm doing it all.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, and having a toddler, how are you

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<v Speaker 1>doing this?

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<v Speaker 2>And she's asleep and I can do it while she's asleep.

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<v Speaker 2>So that is the magic. When you think I need

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<v Speaker 2>more hours in a day, start changing your life so

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<v Speaker 2>you can get your son change. It's changing. So my

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<v Speaker 2>health forced me to that place where now I have

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<v Speaker 2>a slow morning and I get to start with me.

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<v Speaker 2>I choose me. I love that title. I love it,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's been beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's very inspirational. Honestly, I'm going to try it.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been getting up every morning. I try to get

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<v Speaker 1>up every morning at a set time so that I

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<v Speaker 1>can get my work in, workout in before my day starts.

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<v Speaker 1>And it, honestly, just my day is so much better

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<v Speaker 1>when I do that. Although I'm mourning, I'm grieving sleeping

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<v Speaker 1>in like I love to sleep in with my dogs,

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<v Speaker 1>like snuggle up with me. But that's just I have

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<v Speaker 1>to I have to say that for special occasions, I think, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>how do you remember your mom? Every day?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I have her right here with me, always on

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<v Speaker 2>my desk and the tiny yeah, she was used to

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<v Speaker 2>call my shelf. I you know, I pray for her

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<v Speaker 2>every night, and I tell her how much I love

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<v Speaker 2>her every night, and I have her pictures everywhere. I

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<v Speaker 2>have a picture of her and I. When I was

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<v Speaker 2>a toddler, my dad came in and Athena's kind of

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<v Speaker 2>my twin, and so he was so confused. I go, Dad,

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<v Speaker 2>it's me, because he was a how is your mom

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<v Speaker 2>in a picture with Athena? Because she had passed before

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<v Speaker 2>Athena was born, and so anyhow, Yeah, I try to

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<v Speaker 2>just keep her memory alive in these ways. And I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to build a memorial garden here with flowers because

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<v Speaker 2>she loves flowers and little things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's beautiful. I struggled to keep my dad alive with

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<v Speaker 1>my youngest daughter, who hadn't barely spent much time with him. Mmmm,

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<v Speaker 1>so kind of similar. How do you? How do you

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<v Speaker 1>keep Athena remembering someone she didn't even ever get to meet.

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<v Speaker 2>So her pictures ever since she was a baby, so

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<v Speaker 2>ever since she was a baby. It's important for me

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<v Speaker 2>to like bring her up with faith and all of that.

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<v Speaker 2>So she'd always kissed the icons, and then I'd like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>now this isn't an icon, but we are not venerating

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<v Speaker 2>my mom, but this is yah Yah, and you're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>give yah Ya kiss. Since she would kiss my mom.

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<v Speaker 2>And then whenever we walked past her pictures like who's that,

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<v Speaker 2>She's like yeah, yeah, And then I would teach her

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<v Speaker 2>something that yeah you loved, like yeah you love flowers,

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<v Speaker 2>or yeah you love this, or yeah you did that,

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<v Speaker 2>and so yeah, she's very well aware of yah Yah

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<v Speaker 2>in her life because I keep bringing her up to her.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good, that's important. You're just a fountain of help.

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<v Speaker 1>You help people, and it's very admirable. I was wondering,

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<v Speaker 1>as we are all trying to sort of get back

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<v Speaker 1>to ourselves, a question for our listeners who are struggling

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<v Speaker 1>to choose themselves. Can you share one way that someone

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<v Speaker 1>listening can have and I choose me moment for themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's similar to what I shared with Alison,

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<v Speaker 2>like find the thing that gives you joy. Find something

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<v Speaker 2>that when you were a kid you loved, like did

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<v Speaker 2>you love dancing, did you love art? Did you love

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<v Speaker 2>you know, climbing trees? Like what did you love to do?

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<v Speaker 2>Doesn't mean you have to do that for a job

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<v Speaker 2>or every day, Like, just go do it once. Reconnect

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<v Speaker 2>with that person. She's still inside of you. So I like,

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<v Speaker 2>at my first event, I had everyone wear a picture

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<v Speaker 2>of themselves when they were little. I'm like, remember she's

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<v Speaker 2>still there, so nice to her and remember she has

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<v Speaker 2>needs to so you know, maybe it's signing up for

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<v Speaker 2>a class where obviously there will be community. Maybe it's

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<v Speaker 2>signing up for an event that you're gonna go really

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<v Speaker 2>choose yourself, give yourself like an overnight experience, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>give yourself that time. Like I feel like it's such

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<v Speaker 2>an epidemic, Like women just feel like they're lasts on

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<v Speaker 2>the tone pole and don't don't matter. And then it

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<v Speaker 2>gets worse and worse, and then the wheels are falling

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<v Speaker 2>off the wagon and we're having health issues. Well it's

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<v Speaker 2>because we've denied ourselves for so long. And not only

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<v Speaker 2>that is women now we're also having to be perfect

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<v Speaker 2>at everything. We have to look great. We have to

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<v Speaker 2>you know, go to the gym, do our hair and

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<v Speaker 2>makeup and boatox and oh waitest this is and nuts

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<v Speaker 2>and there's so much pressure on us, and so we

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<v Speaker 2>never feel like we're good enough, we never feel like

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<v Speaker 2>we have enough, we never feel like we're doing it right,

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<v Speaker 2>and we lose ourselves in the process. And that might

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<v Speaker 2>be one of the greatest health crises we have, is

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<v Speaker 2>like loose using ourselves, I believe. So I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>you have to find ways to re remember who you are,

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<v Speaker 2>what makes you really joyful. Go start doing some of that,

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<v Speaker 2>even if it's a hike, even if it's a silly

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<v Speaker 2>light class or a pottery class or whatever. Like, just

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<v Speaker 2>go online and find something and get to it. Go

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<v Speaker 2>to a blueberry farm and go pick some blueberries and

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<v Speaker 2>do something totally different than what you've done before. Just

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<v Speaker 2>give yourself some time, yourself some time. Let me just

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<v Speaker 2>remind everybody if they do want to choose them, I

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<v Speaker 2>do have an event coming up October fourth through the

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<v Speaker 2>seventh at Canyon Ranch in Lenox, Massachusetts, where you are

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<v Speaker 2>choosing you. We're going to create your guide back to

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<v Speaker 2>you so you will find yourself again.

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<v Speaker 1>And that sounds good.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there's some really incredible people I'm bringing in to

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<v Speaker 2>help you, and I'm really really excited about it. So

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<v Speaker 2>if you guys want to know more. You can go

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<v Speaker 2>to the Instagram or both give you a length.

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<v Speaker 1>Perfect prioritize your own needs before I let you go.

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<v Speaker 1>Maria Menunos, what was your last I Choose me a moment?

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<v Speaker 2>My last I Choose me moment I think was last night.

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<v Speaker 2>I was having our rough night, a rough kind of afternoon.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know what was bothering me. I was like

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<v Speaker 2>not happy. I started blaming all these little things, like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, organization issues, whatever. And then I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, I'm just going to get in bed,

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<v Speaker 2>which is a big deal for me. And so I

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<v Speaker 2>got into bed, I got a good cry out, and

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<v Speaker 2>then I realized, oh, there's some emotional pile up work here.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a lot of stuff I've just swept under the

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<v Speaker 2>rug and swept under the rug. And so I have

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<v Speaker 2>this little book that I keep that helps me get

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<v Speaker 2>back into alignment. It's all my like mantras and my

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<v Speaker 2>kind of perspectives and breakthroughs and all the things that

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<v Speaker 2>I really connect with and want to live by. And

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<v Speaker 2>so I got myself kind of back up with that.

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<v Speaker 2>And then of course a little hair and makeup this

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<v Speaker 2>morning doesn't hurt. I got up and I was like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to do my hair and makeup a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit more than normal. Definitely, not just because well because

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's like, sometimes you need the costume to

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<v Speaker 2>help you. If you feel you look tired and down,

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna feel more down. So it's like, how do

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<v Speaker 2>we give it, give ourselves a little spruce.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, bring yourself together, represent who you want to be

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<v Speaker 1>out there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so then you feel good. We're like a sloppy

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<v Speaker 2>outfit and you're like, oh, you feel softy. But if

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<v Speaker 2>you like put yourself together now you feel good. That helps,

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<v Speaker 2>Like you needs going to help you in.

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<v Speaker 1>That, and that's so easy. That's like, that's something you

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<v Speaker 1>just do in your closet or your bathroom. And it's

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<v Speaker 1>a very big I choose me moment. That's so perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it so much. Maria, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for joining us today. I hope everybody takes away some

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<v Speaker 1>amazing little tricks from you, because I certainly did.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you,