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Speaker 2: Before that, we have a quick two minute break from

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Speaker 2: the sponsors that keep the show a lot. My mother

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Speaker 2: has a millionaire boyfriend and I think she's being scammed.

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Speaker 3: What you don't think your mom can pull a millionaire.

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Speaker 2: I thirty one female, have gotten many messages from my

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Speaker 2: mom sixty two female about this new love interest of hers,

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Speaker 2: and she seems very happy. I want my mom to

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Speaker 2: be happy, as it has been almost twenty years since

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Speaker 2: she's been in the dating world.

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Speaker 1: I'll refer to this man as Robert.

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Speaker 2: The more I listened about him, the more I got

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Speaker 2: suspicious of Robert, and something seems very off.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user Honest fifty four

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Speaker 4: I'm Dakota, I'm Carly, I'm Keon.

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Speaker 1: And we.

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Speaker 2: E and we are here to give you good advice Goofily,

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Speaker 2: but we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 2: what we would do, So if you would do something different,

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Speaker 2: let us know in the comments.

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Speaker 4: Op says there is no US, there is no WII.

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Speaker 2: There is only e yes ah as Op says. Here's

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Speaker 2: what I know about Roert. He works for Costco, same

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Speaker 2: company as my mom, and is high up in the.

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Speaker 1: Letter executive status. He claims to be personal friends with

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Speaker 1: the CEO. He goes around from state to state doing

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Speaker 1: promotional sales and gets two percent commission on each sale,

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Speaker 1: coming home with a bunch of products to give away

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Speaker 1: as gifts. He is loaded in the bank and owns

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Speaker 1: two houses with a boat, one of his houses being

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Speaker 1: about an hour away. Two houses with a boat, two

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Speaker 1: houses with boats.

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Speaker 2: Is one of the house have both two houses attached

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Speaker 2: to a boat?

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Speaker 5: Maybe the boat.

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Speaker 2: Pulls the houses behind it or a boat house. He's

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Speaker 3: Is one tugboat a tugboat per house he like does

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Speaker 3: he swap the locations of the houses and puts both.

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Speaker 2: Houses on a raft on rafts and pulls them around

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Speaker 2: with the tugboat.

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Speaker 3: But just one tugboat, just one boat, two houses, one boat,

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Speaker 3: two rafts, two houses, one owner.

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Speaker 5: Little.

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Speaker 2: I don't know anything about his personality. Mom has been

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Speaker 2: in a relationship with this guy for the last seven

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Speaker 2: weeks and she is over the moon. But again, I

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Speaker 2: can't help but feel something is very wrong about this.

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Speaker 2: Red Flag number one. When Mom showed me pictures of

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Speaker 2: the alleged house an hour away, there is no furniture,

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Speaker 2: not even a fake plant. When I asked her about it,

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Speaker 1: Oh, he just remodeled it.

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Speaker 2: I told Mom that someone can still take pictures of

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Speaker 2: their remodeled house with furniture in it.

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Speaker 1: Red Flag number two is canceled on planned dates.

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Speaker 2: With Mom the day of, claiming to be at work,

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Speaker 1: He had to stay behind in California and do.

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Speaker 2: An audit of their gold because there's been a robbery

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Speaker 2: into the six digits. However, when I looked it up,

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Speaker 2: there was nothing to be found about this alleged gold robbery.

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Speaker 1: Red Flag number three.

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Speaker 2: In the first three weeks, he claimed to have bought

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Speaker 2: even though they are out for sale now. On top

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Speaker 2: of that, he offered my mom a relationship prenup, stating

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Speaker 2: that if she breaks up with him, she gets five

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Speaker 2: hundred thousand, but if he breaks up with her, she

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Speaker 2: gets two million. I asked Mom if she has proof

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Speaker 2: and is writing it up. Dude, that's if anyone on

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Speaker 2: earth is giving you an agreement where, no matter what,

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Speaker 2: if the relationship doesn't work out, is scamming you.

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Speaker 1: That is not a real document.

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Speaker 3: No, we got past the fact that he said he's

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Speaker 3: in Costco's gold sales.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sorry, I'm honoring. We had a lot of

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Speaker 3: We still went to well, we'll show me the agreement.

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Speaker 1: Ah ah. Red Flag number four.

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Speaker 2: He planned a day to meet my brother and me,

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Speaker 2: saying he's so excited to meet us.

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Speaker 1: If you guess that he canceled the day of, you'd

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Speaker 2: With all my suspicions of Robert, I told my mom

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Speaker 2: not to sign the prenup and retire, and that I

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Speaker 2: don't have a good feeling in my gut about this guy.

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Speaker 2: Each warning was quickly dismissed. Now on to yesterday, Mom

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Speaker 2: four days ago was only for one night, which I

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Speaker 2: was already hesitant about. I told my mom that I

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Speaker 2: was not comfortable watching her house while she goes away

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Speaker 2: with a guy I have a lot of uncertainty about.

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Speaker 2: It's not that I don't trust her, but it's that

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Speaker 2: I don't know him, so I can't trust him to

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Speaker 2: Mom told my brother, and I've been getting the wrath

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Speaker 2: from both of them, which I'm not understanding. My brother

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Speaker 2: being upset is confusing because he expressed the same concerns

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Speaker 2: that I have. And I truly believe my mom is

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Speaker 2: being scammed, but she won't listen to me.

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole. There is an update? What

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Speaker 1: is the scam here?

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Speaker 6: Here?

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Speaker 2: That's what I don't see the angle because it's like,

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Speaker 2: I mean, clearly, look him canceling all of those times

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Speaker 2: day of is ridiculous and suspicious, but.

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Speaker 3: He hasn't asked her for like money or anything.

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Speaker 1: So where's like the where's the scam? Is it?

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Speaker 6: Like?

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Speaker 3: Is he like in it for the long game like this?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if you wanted like a signature right to like

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Speaker 2: for all ident I would say it's got to be

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Speaker 2: like some kind of identity theft, right, That's usually what

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Speaker 2: these kinds of things are.

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Speaker 1: Huh.

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Speaker 3: Is not a joke, No, it's not.

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Speaker 1: It's very serious.

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Speaker 2: And apparently Costco's gold auditor is out here trying to

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Speaker 2: buy you Porsches and sign if I break up with you,

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Speaker 2: I have to give you two million dollars stop it.

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Speaker 3: That's we've gotten so far is that he said that

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Speaker 1: And you've never met this guy, not once? Mm hm hmmm, no, no.

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Speaker 2: No, uh, all right, here's the update. Oh okay, So

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Speaker 2: this situation is weirding me out more and more as

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Speaker 2: the days go on. Mom called me last Wednesday to

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Speaker 2: tell me that I was right about Robert and she

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Speaker 2: was a mess. Supposedly, Robert was on his way over

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Speaker 1: Dollar cashier's check for her to retire.

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Speaker 2: Turns out that Robert's money was put in his son's

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Speaker 2: name when he got the VID. Timeframe unknown and he

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Speaker 2: wasn't expected to live, so the son was getting fraud

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Speaker 2: alert messages from the bank and cussed my mom out,

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Speaker 2: calling her a gold digger and claiming that my mom

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Speaker 2: Robert and explained everything to him, so he told her

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Speaker 2: would be over. If anyone guessed that Robert never showed up,

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Speaker 2: you would be right. Mom also told me in the

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Speaker 2: call that Robert ohs he is five hundred and thirty

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Speaker 2: lost his wallet in California.

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Speaker 1: Over a month ago.

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Speaker 3: Bear, here's a scam.

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Speaker 1: There's the scam. Five hundred and thirty three dollars scam.

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Speaker 3: You should should have said that part sooner.

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Speaker 5: Mom.

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Speaker 2: I tried knocking some sense into her and thought I

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Speaker 2: later to tell me that they're staying together. It turns

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Speaker 2: out that Robert is a real person. He went over

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Speaker 2: to Mom's house last night to take her out to

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Speaker 2: at my boyfriend's parents' house.

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Speaker 1: When I looked down and saw voicemail from my mom.

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Speaker 2: I didn't listen to it, but saw the word tequila

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Speaker 2: in the translated voicemail, and that caught my attention.

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Speaker 4: They're just listening to the song and they got that

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Speaker 1: I hope.

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Speaker 2: So for context, my mom is a recovering drinker after

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Speaker 2: being arrested when my brother and I were just four

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Speaker 2: claw her way back out to get her kids back

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Speaker 2: in her life, I mean she.

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Speaker 1: Had to claw her way out.

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Speaker 2: So I am protective of her in that aspect because

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Speaker 2: and two, what happened when I was a kid still

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Speaker 2: Turns out that voicemail was Robert playing a little joke

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Speaker 2: just to get me to answer the phone, and my

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Speaker 2: he said, By the way, I'm a Robert. Nice to

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Speaker 2: meet you over the phone. I said to him, tread lightly,

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Speaker 2: because that is not a good way to introduce yourself

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Speaker 2: to me. This better be a joke or I will

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Speaker 2: take my boyfriend's car right now and go down there

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Speaker 2: to dump that tequila down the drain. Robert admitted that

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Speaker 2: it was.

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Speaker 1: Him that left the voicemail, and not my mom.

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Speaker 2: I understand my mom as an adult and can make

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Speaker 2: that it was a joke and there was no tequila.

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Speaker 2: Fast forward three hours later, Mom calls me wasted on

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Speaker 2: the couch and I quote he said, he wants to

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Speaker 2: see me at my worst.

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Speaker 4: WHOA So.

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Speaker 3: Can we call the cops on this man?

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Speaker 1: Yet?

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Speaker 3: Not possible?

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Speaker 2: No, I don't think so, not yet. I don't know

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Speaker 2: though I would send him to the jail.

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Speaker 3: I would like to.

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Speaker 2: I didn't like him already, but now I'm one more

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Speaker 2: stupid joke like that away from stonewalling him.

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Speaker 1: For the reason I said.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't a joke. Now that actually did it.

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Speaker 1: He made your mom. He got your mom drinking tequila.

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Speaker 1: Boo boo.

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Speaker 2: That was not a good introduction. And with what happened

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Speaker 2: in my childhood. With all this being said, and I

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Speaker 2: know Robert owes my mom money, it makes me wonder

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Speaker 2: why she hasn't been paid back yet. Surely if he

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Speaker 2: has as much money as he says he does, that

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Speaker 2: wouldn't have been a problem. Now I definitely feel like

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Speaker 2: Robert is taking advantage of my mom. I get to

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Speaker 2: meet him tomorrow hopefully and then tell my mom what

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Speaker 2: Update number two. My boyfriend, brother, sister in law, and

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Speaker 2: First one is she pulled just me aside and asked

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Speaker 2: I can tell he's the shy type that won't strike

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Speaker 1: She only gave me a half apology for it.

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Speaker 2: The second one is that ra Bet looked at me

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Speaker 1: Out for a weekend.

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Speaker 2: Mom got excited for me to answer, and I had

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Speaker 1: I told Robert.

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Speaker 2: That I mean no disrespect, but I'm answering this to

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Speaker 2: I feel like sometimes people in this entire family forget

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we have a little bit more story.

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Speaker 3: This is a wild one.

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Speaker 1: They see.

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Speaker 2: I'm okay with my answer, but both admitted they weren't

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Speaker 1: H No, you can't pay people to do that as

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Speaker 3: You also have another child.

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Speaker 2: I turned to Robert and said, it's no disrespect, but

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Speaker 2: I had a lot of red flags waving leading up

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Speaker 2: continue to come around for family dinners and give it

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Speaker 3: My mother mocked my boyfriend's awful past and refused to

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Speaker 1: Sounds like an awful bag of gas.

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Speaker 3: Sugar warning for grief. Two years ago, my boyfriend's younger

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Speaker 3: but we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 3: In the comments, Anne Opie says, my mother usually has

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Speaker 2: Wow, with just a smirk, So she's gonna go from

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Speaker 2: he smirked at you being a helicopter parent to yeah,

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Speaker 3: However she feels belittled, she gets vicious. But she definitely

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Speaker 3: Maybe if you or your mother cared as much as

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Speaker 3: I do, your younger brother would still be here. Do

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Speaker 3: Car went silent right after that. My dad noped the

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Speaker 1: Dude, the.

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Speaker 2: Speed at which the palm of my hand would be

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Speaker 3: I promised him he didn't have to spend the rest

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Speaker 3: his brother's passing any ideas regarding how I should handle this.

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Speaker 3: I am unbelievably mad at my mother right now, but

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Speaker 3: My dad is trying to stay uninvolved, which makes me

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Speaker 3: We do have a mini update. You got anything or

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Speaker 3: you want the mini update? Well, what's your advice? Which

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Speaker 1: Unsure what to do about your mom?

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Speaker 2: Like I would like probably never speak to my mom again.

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Speaker 2: If she said something like that to anyone, Oh.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think I'd be seeing her at all

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Speaker 2: Like yeah, I don't know, like that would like that's

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Speaker 2: which is already like that's that's not how that works.

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Speaker 2: But that's funny, right, It's just like I can't believe

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Speaker 2: she goes, oh, you're laughing back there. Why are you

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Speaker 2: not you are unwell, and I don't want to associate

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Speaker 6: Like that, not a single bit to not just a stranger.

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Speaker 6: My boyfriend, he ought to marry this man, and you

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Speaker 3: I'm staying in the car. Everybody else is leaving.

446
00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:15,520
Speaker 1: So by base window, I spoke with.

447
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:17,560
Speaker 3: My dad and he agreed to pack up our stuff

448
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:20,239
Speaker 3: and bring it to our hotel. My boyfriend and I

449
00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:21,560
Speaker 3: will be leaving tonight.

450
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:22,280
Speaker 5: Good.

451
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 3: I've not spoken with my mother since leaving, and I

452
00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:29,600
Speaker 3: don't intend to. My boyfriend is still visibly upset, but

453
00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:32,679
Speaker 3: I know he's happy we're going home. She has been

454
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,000
Speaker 3: rude with him in the past, and I should have

455
00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 3: put my foot down well before this point. We got

456
00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:41,359
Speaker 3: another update. Oh, let's go right into it. My mother

457
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:45,080
Speaker 3: is unbelievable. I'm not sure if she's a self absorbed person,

458
00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:49,080
Speaker 3: but she is most definitely a witch. On Thursday, I

459
00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:51,080
Speaker 3: called my father and asked him to bring us our

460
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 3: stuff to the hotel so we could begin our three

461
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:58,280
Speaker 3: hour drive back home. When he arrived, he apologized profusely

462
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:00,840
Speaker 3: to my boyfriend for what my mother said said, and

463
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:03,679
Speaker 3: they both shook hands and agreed to move on. I

464
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:07,080
Speaker 3: ended things on amicable terms with my father because I

465
00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:09,000
Speaker 3: don't think it's fair to blame him for what my

466
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:13,160
Speaker 3: mother said. He is probably enabling her, but he promised

467
00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:15,679
Speaker 3: me he would talk to her about making steps towards

468
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:19,720
Speaker 3: fixing things. I asked my father privately about my mother's

469
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 3: reaction to everything, and he told me that she was

470
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 3: very disappointed in me for making this trip about me

471
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:29,640
Speaker 3: and my relationship. Apparently, she does not want to speak

472
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:33,240
Speaker 3: to me until I apologize to her, who says what

473
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:37,040
Speaker 3: she says and then demands an apology. I'm especially hurt

474
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:39,719
Speaker 3: because she did all of this right after I finished

475
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 3: expressing my excitement to her about discovering something that led

476
00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 3: me to believe my boyfriend was planning on proposing to

477
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:50,200
Speaker 3: me soon. On the car ride home, I tried to

478
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 3: cheer my boyfriend up by asking him about the soccer

479
00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:56,560
Speaker 3: and tennis games he was watching. Usually he will happily

480
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,720
Speaker 3: explain everything to me, but this time he barely said

481
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,639
Speaker 3: any thing, so I decided to give him some space.

482
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,560
Speaker 3: When we got home, he seemed much more at peace

483
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,160
Speaker 3: with what happened, so I was hoping that we could

484
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 3: just put my mother behind us and move past this. Yeah,

485
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 3: my mother demanding an apology isn't the unbelievable part. Our

486
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:19,479
Speaker 3: home phone had a voicemail from my boyfriend's dad asking

487
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:24,000
Speaker 3: us to call him. My mother actually called my boyfriend's

488
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 3: parents to question their parenting directly.

489
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:29,480
Speaker 1: What a thorough lady.

490
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,439
Speaker 3: She really wanted to make sure everyone knew how awful.

491
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:39,080
Speaker 3: She was m oh, my god, who does that? This

492
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 3: is far beyond what I thought my mother would ever

493
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 3: be capable of. My boyfriend's mom won't get on the

494
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 3: phone with us, but his dad said that she's been

495
00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:53,400
Speaker 3: sobbing NonStop. I feel sick to my stomach about everything.

496
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:56,520
Speaker 3: My mom won't reply to my messages or my calls

497
00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:59,680
Speaker 3: because she's still waiting for an apology, and my poor

498
00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:02,360
Speaker 3: dad is caught in the middle of everything. During his

499
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:08,119
Speaker 3: birthday weekend, my boyfriend, someone who's traditionally very agreeable and calm,

500
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:11,639
Speaker 3: is livid. He told me he wants her out of

501
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:15,160
Speaker 3: his life completely, and I agreed with him. His parents

502
00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:17,159
Speaker 3: live on the other side of the country, so he

503
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:21,119
Speaker 3: feels completely helpless. It's like my mother erased all of

504
00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:25,480
Speaker 3: our therapy sessions and counseling in one day. Yesterday was

505
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 3: pretty uneventful. My boyfriend and I just hung out for

506
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 3: the majority of the day. Neither of our mothers has

507
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 3: spoken to us. I was very close to my mother

508
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 3: when I was younger, and while we did drift a

509
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:40,920
Speaker 3: little bit after college, I still frequently confided in her.

510
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,960
Speaker 3: I always knew she had a big mouth, but her

511
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:48,520
Speaker 3: current actions are just hateful. She is deliberately trying to

512
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 3: hurt people I care about.

513
00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 2: So yeah, she was probably actually always like this your

514
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,640
Speaker 2: whole life, but she just had never directed it at

515
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 2: you because she didn't have a reason to. Now you

516
00:25:57,480 --> 00:26:00,240
Speaker 2: have a boyfriend, you're planning on marryings, she feels like,

517
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 2: oh my, she's she feels like she's losing the control.

518
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 1: That she's had over you your entire life.

519
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 2: And uh yeah, if I was your boyfriend, I would

520
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,640
Speaker 2: be doing nothing but scheming on how to ruin your

521
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:12,439
Speaker 2: mother's life.

522
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:15,879
Speaker 1: Straight Up, I don't condone. I don't think you should

523
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:16,119
Speaker 1: do that.

524
00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that that's the avenue that should be taken,

525
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 2: nor is it the one I can don't. I can

526
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:25,199
Speaker 2: only tell you what I would be doing, and I

527
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 2: would be plotting her downfall for the rest of my

528
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 2: days until it happened.

529
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, for calling my mother, who.

530
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:35,359
Speaker 2: Was in the car when that happened, to my siblings

531
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 2: and then telling her bring this up to her.

532
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:42,880
Speaker 3: I cannot believe that she went and called like, that's ridiculous, No,

533
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:45,199
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get you, And it was ridiculous. She made

534
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:46,120
Speaker 3: it so much worse.

535
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 1: I'm going to get you.

536
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 3: Yeah.

537
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:52,680
Speaker 1: Now I am going to get you. I don't know how,

538
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 1: but I'm going to get you.

539
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 3: God is gonna get you. Update two. Sorry if this

540
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 3: update is all over the place. I'm still trying to

541
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 3: absorb everything that has happened. After reading some articles about

542
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:11,120
Speaker 3: self absorbed people and enabling self absorbed people, I realize

543
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:14,119
Speaker 3: it is impossible for me to maintain a healthy relationship

544
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,880
Speaker 3: with my father without a drastic change in his relationship

545
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 3: with my mother. I have always been Daddy's little girl.

546
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:24,439
Speaker 3: Knowing that it's very likely my father will not be

547
00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 3: walking me down the aisle cuts my heart like a knife.

548
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 3: I called him on Saturday while my boyfriend was privately

549
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:33,520
Speaker 3: skyping with his parents. He told me he was happy

550
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:35,639
Speaker 3: to hear from me, and explained that my mother was

551
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:39,399
Speaker 3: going through our family photos to throw away pictures of me.

552
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 3: How is the dad still not also giving the mom

553
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 3: crap for this?

554
00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 1: How do you stay with that?

555
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:48,160
Speaker 3: Stay with that?

556
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 2: How do you stay with a creature throwing away pictures

557
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 2: of your own daughter?

558
00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 3: Hey? What should do in honey? Just erasing our daughter

559
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:57,160
Speaker 3: from existence? What are you doing?

560
00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:58,080
Speaker 1: Oh?

561
00:27:58,119 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 3: Talking to her?

562
00:27:58,920 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 5: Now?

563
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 3: I'm place next mm mm hmmm. He saved all of

564
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 3: the pictures, but he did not stop her from throwing

565
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:08,679
Speaker 3: them out in the first place. I asked him if

566
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 3: he repeated anything from our last phone call to my mother.

567
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 5: He did.

568
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:15,479
Speaker 3: I asked him if he could promise me that would stop,

569
00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:19,120
Speaker 3: and he could not. I started sobbing and told him

570
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 3: that I could not keep him in my life while

571
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 3: he was still enabling my mother's behavior. He joined me

572
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 3: in crying and repeatedly begged me to make up with

573
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:31,240
Speaker 3: my mom. What do you mean you talk to your wife, dude.

574
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,639
Speaker 3: I explained to him very clearly why that would not happen,

575
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 3: and we both sat silently on the phone for what

576
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 3: felt like an hour. He broke the silence by telling

577
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 3: me that he was proud of me and that he

578
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 3: loved me more than anything in the world.

579
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 1: Apparently not. Apparently, don't let me more than your terrible wife.

580
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 1: He's throwing away all my pictures.

581
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 3: My boyfriend heard me sobbing, walked into the room, hugged me,

582
00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:56,560
Speaker 3: and asked who I was on the phone with. Eventually

583
00:28:56,640 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 3: he asked to speak with my father, and after their conversation,

584
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 3: my boyfriend asked me if I sincerely believed that I

585
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 3: had to cut my father out of my life. I

586
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 3: explained to him that we would never be able to

587
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 3: move past this while I was still in contact with

588
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:14,560
Speaker 3: someone who allowed my mother to continue her hateful actions.

589
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 3: My boyfriend accepted my response and reminded me that it

590
00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 3: was my decision to make. I finished the call with

591
00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 3: my dad by telling him that he needed to get

592
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 3: my mother help and he needed to put his foot down.

593
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:28,600
Speaker 3: He understood, and he promised me that he would do

594
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 3: whatever it takes to get me back into his life,

595
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 3: including a divorce if my mother continues her refusal to

596
00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 3: work on herself. But right now, he wants to keep

597
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 3: pushing to get my mother help because he loves her.

598
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 3: After my phone call, my boyfriend and I had a

599
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:48,200
Speaker 3: serious discussion about everything that's happened. I convinced myself that

600
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 3: he was going to leave me. I am well aware

601
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 3: that I am the sole reason he has to deal

602
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:56,720
Speaker 3: with all of this, and to be frank, I feel responsible.

603
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 3: But instead of breaking up with me, he asked me

604
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 3: tell him how I was feeling about everything and how

605
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:06,040
Speaker 3: I need him to support me. I told him everything.

606
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 3: He also suggested that I begin meeting regularly with his

607
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 3: therapist at least for now, and I accepted wholeheartedly. After

608
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 3: our talk, he wanted to think about everything and quiet,

609
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 3: but he asked me to sit with him. We sat

610
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 3: together and said nothing for hours. He just asked me

611
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 3: to be with him. Eventually, he began to talk about

612
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 3: his brother. We shared familiar stories with each other and

613
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:32,719
Speaker 3: cherished them as if they were new. We both celebrated

614
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 3: his brother's beautiful life together. I was troubled when he

615
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 3: started talking about things he could have done differently. Obviously.

616
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 3: I immediately explained that nothing about the loss was his fault,

617
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 3: but I'm not sure he believes that the awful things

618
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 3: my mother said are untrue. I offered to skype with

619
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:53,520
Speaker 3: my boyfriend's parents to express my grief and offer my

620
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 3: support to them. It went very well. His parents were

621
00:30:56,920 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 3: lovely as always. I explained to them how much my

622
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 3: heart aches for them and how I've cut off contact

623
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 3: with my parents completely. They told me that they loved

624
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 3: me very much and that they would lend an ear

625
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 3: if I ever needed guidance. I wrote my mother a

626
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 3: very long email explaining why I would no longer be

627
00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:18,240
Speaker 3: speaking to her or my father. I detailed how her

628
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 3: actions hurt me and the people that I love. I

629
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 3: explained how betrayed I felt. I told her that she

630
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 3: was not acting like the mother that raised me to

631
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:29,920
Speaker 3: live virtuously. I asked her to get help. I admitted

632
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 3: that I still loved her and my father and would

633
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 3: love them unconditionally. But I also explained that I could

634
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 3: not sit by and watch my mother destroy herself like this,

635
00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 3: and I could not idly watch her hurt the other

636
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 3: people I love unconditionally. She replied almost immediately, and I

637
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 3: could not stop myself from reading her reply. I was

638
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 3: foolishly hopeful that she finally understood everything. Instead, she tells

639
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 3: me she is disgusted that I'm entertaining my father's notion

640
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 3: to get her evaluated medically and mentally.

641
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 1: Yo, daddy needs a divorce.

642
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,320
Speaker 3: Ye, your mom is crazy?

643
00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, cool boyfriend parents, You got boyfriend parents. Now, you

644
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 2: got cool boyfriend parent.

645
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 1: You don't need your your stinky.

646
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 3: Mama, no stinky poopia.

647
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 1: And hopefully your dad gets a divorce.

648
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, and hopefully then you can bring him back into

649
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 3: your life.

650
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 2: If she just is unwilling to change or acknowledge that

651
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 2: she needs help of any kind, then there's nothing to do.

652
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 1: But to leave.

653
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, She says that we're the ones that need the evaluations.

654
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 3: She writes that I am a fool for abandoning my

655
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 3: family for a man I met at a bar. Okay,

656
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 3: and it's crazy, mother, that a man I met at

657
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:52,960
Speaker 3: the bar is doing much better than you in regards

658
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 3: to our relationships together.

659
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:54,960
Speaker 1: Crazy.

660
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 3: She finishes by telling me that I am not the

661
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 3: daughter she raised, and she will never be able to

662
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 3: forgive me for making my father cry because I selfishly

663
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:06,360
Speaker 3: want to spend more time with my boyfriend.

664
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 1: That's why your husband was crying. For sure.

665
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,959
Speaker 3: I cried after I read her letter, not because her

666
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:15,480
Speaker 3: words hurt me, but because it's painfully clear that there

667
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 3: is something wrong with her, but she's too hurt, scared,

668
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Speaker 3: or hateful to let us help her. I'm grieving the

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Speaker 3: loss of my mother because I'm afraid I will never

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Speaker 3: see her again. Things are bad now, but I'm very

671
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Speaker 3: optimistic about my future. I know that any of my

672
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 3: boyfriend's possible plans to propose are delayed at best, but

673
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Speaker 3: I don't think my mother has succeeded in destroying our

674
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Speaker 3: future family. Thank you so much for all of your support,

675
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Speaker 3: and that is the end. Of that story. I don't

676
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Speaker 3: think that he's gonna go back on him wanting to

677
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Speaker 3: propose to you. I think that you handled that lovely

678
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Speaker 3: and you immediately removed the issue from the situation, and

679
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,640
Speaker 3: he was very happy with you about that. And him

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Speaker 3: coming to you after and like opening up and having

681
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Speaker 3: you just sit with him in silence and like talk

682
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Speaker 3: about his brother. I think that's a great sign.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it seemed like, uh, he was very empathetic and

684
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Speaker 2: supportive throughout the entire process.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's the end of this story. We're gonna

686
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Speaker 3: go to the next one.

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Speaker 1: Sam here, We're gonna get back to the stories. But

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Speaker 4: My stepmother tried to make me her live in nanny

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Speaker 4: and it ended in chaos.

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Speaker 3: Did be a live out nanny?

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Speaker 1: Hey?

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Speaker 4: Am I the a hole. I'm nineteen, female and in school.

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Speaker 4: I go to college in the city I grew up

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Speaker 4: in and I'm getting my bachelor's but I live at

696
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Speaker 4: home to save money. My parents aren't together and had

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Speaker 4: me pretty young, so they didn't really have anything saved

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Speaker 4: for me. I have a smattering of scholarships and since

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Speaker 4: I don't need to pay rent, or anything like that.

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Speaker 4: I have no loans. Nice good for you. By the way,

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Speaker 4: story time star bred It. I'm Keon, I'm Carly, I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 4: and we're here to give good advice. Googly, but we

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Speaker 4: don't I have all the answers. We only know what

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Speaker 4: we do, so let us know what you'd do in

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Speaker 4: the comments, please, as op He says, I was always

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Speaker 4: week on, week off with my parents and have continued that.

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Speaker 4: A few weeks ago, my mom and stepdad thirty five

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Speaker 4: female and forty male, told me they were finally expecting

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Speaker 4: a baby after years of trying. I was so happy

712
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 4: for them until they told me I couldn't keep living

713
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 4: there as they need to focus on the baby and

714
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Speaker 4: there wouldn't be enough room for me. They do have

715
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 4: enough room, but I know having a baby is a lot,

716
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Speaker 4: and it's my stepdad's first baby. Plus they were nice

717
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:39,080
Speaker 4: when they asked. It wasn't like, get the f out,

718
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:42,799
Speaker 4: we're replacing you. I love them both and want them

719
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Speaker 4: to have time for themselves and their baby, so I

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Speaker 4: asked my dad, thirty five male. He told me I could,

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Speaker 4: of course lived there full time. I guess he didn't

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Speaker 4: talk to my stepmom forty two female about that, because

723
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Speaker 4: when I showed up, she was pretty unhappy.

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Speaker 1: Oh.

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Speaker 4: They have two kids of their own, eight and six,

726
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 4: and she has two kids fourteen male and sixteen female,

727
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,359
Speaker 4: still in high school. I share a room with their

728
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Speaker 4: daughter when I stay there, but her kids don't see

729
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:13,720
Speaker 4: their dad, so they're always there. I've always gotten along

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Speaker 4: with everyone and consider her kids my siblings. Like if

731
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:18,640
Speaker 4: I'm not in school or working, I'll go to their

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Speaker 4: sports games or take them to shows or movies or

733
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Speaker 4: out to eat and pay for it. They're really sweet,

734
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 4: but pretty shy, and the younger ones are little. I

735
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Speaker 4: don't do much with them because they're barely even people

736
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Speaker 4: so far.

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Speaker 3: Six and eight they're they're people.

738
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Speaker 4: They're people you can hang out with. Six and eight

739
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Speaker 4: year olds and life seen.

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Speaker 3: Eight year olds are pretty cool.

741
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Speaker 4: Yeah, they have some pretty interesting tastes. They have some

742
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 4: great tastes like what's going on in life? And they'll

743
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 4: tell you like these. It's very wild their imagination.

744
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:46,799
Speaker 3: They've got theories. Man.

745
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, but yeah, my stepmom wants me to either start

746
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 4: paying rent five hundred dollars a month or take on

747
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 4: a bunch of additional chores.

748
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Speaker 3: Oh, popo five hundred dollars a month. You said that

749
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 3: with an exclamation point like that's a lot. That Yeah,

750
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:05,239
Speaker 3: that is nothing, especially for someone who does not have

751
00:37:05,360 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 3: loans or and with the additional other option of just hey,

752
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 3: do some chores.

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00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 4: A little bit more and then you can save that.

754
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Speaker 3: These are great options. Are they taking applications?

755
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Speaker 4: I'm applying please and thank you for the record. I

756
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 4: do chores, of course, I always have. But she wants

757
00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 4: me to do things like driving all four kids to

758
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 4: and from school so they don't have to take the bus,

759
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 4: make their lunches, and help them with their homework, in

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Speaker 4: addition to my existing chores of cleaning all the bathrooms

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Speaker 4: and doing the yard work.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that is what additional chores are.

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Speaker 4: I feel like, with all this going on, I feel

764
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Speaker 4: like some of those things, like making their lunches, I

765
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Speaker 4: feel like if you do, like a not all of them,

766
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 4: but I'll do, like, hey, it might just be helping out.

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Speaker 3: Hey I didn't get to make their lunch.

768
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Speaker 4: Today, like make a sandwich, making a sandwich.

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Speaker 3: If lunches are just like a sandwich or like maybe

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Speaker 3: even just like throwing snacks and stuff into a bell.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that's honestly, that's sometimes that's really fun. Have

772
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 4: you seen those videos? And I guarantee you like to

773
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:08,360
Speaker 4: all our moms there, But yeah, they love packing the

774
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 4: lunches and they're like, let's make it really fun today.

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Speaker 3: I just feel like it's like driving them making their

776
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 3: lunches and like cleaning one more thing when all you're

777
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 3: doing right now is yard cleaning, and help them bathroom cleaning.

778
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Speaker 4: I feel like helping with homework is also.

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00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 3: Just sometimes a homework hard.

780
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 4: But yeah, don't ask me to do the math.

781
00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 3: Listen. In fifth grade, I remember bringing home algebra and

782
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:30,439
Speaker 3: my parents looked at me like what the heck.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like the chores is fine.

784
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:35,239
Speaker 3: I think that there could be a thing of like, hey,

785
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:38,120
Speaker 3: if I start school and I'm like super overwhelmed, maybe

786
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 3: we could cut back down on that. But that's not

787
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:42,360
Speaker 3: something that's become an issue yet. But it wouldn't be

788
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:45,759
Speaker 3: wrong to be like, this is my concerns about what

789
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Speaker 3: could get wrong.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but let's go ahead and keep reading the story.

791
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 4: I asked if we could compromise and I could take

792
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:54,040
Speaker 4: the older ones to school in the morning on my

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00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 4: way to class. Their school is kind of on my

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00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,080
Speaker 4: way to school, while the little kids school will add

795
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:02,360
Speaker 4: forty minutes of dry and help them with homework. But

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Speaker 4: I can't pick them up after school because I'd have

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00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 4: to leave my school to do that and then come

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00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:08,320
Speaker 4: back from my labs and study groups.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I was also thinking that the kids were going

800
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 3: at the same school already, so that's two different schools. Yeah,

801
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 3: perfectly valid.

802
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:18,359
Speaker 4: Right now, I stay on campus basically from eight to six,

803
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 4: but she wants me to leave in the middle of

804
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:23,720
Speaker 4: my day and on some days I even have class

805
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 4: at that time to pick them up and bring them home.

806
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:29,959
Speaker 4: And making lunches for four picky kids plus my dad

807
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 4: and stepmom just sounds like a lot. On top of school,

808
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 4: I also work thirty five hours a week, mostly on weekends. Granted,

809
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:40,840
Speaker 4: my dad thinks it's a good compromise, but my stepmom

810
00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 4: doesn't and won't stop being mean to me or telling

811
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Speaker 4: me that she has had an emergency and I need

812
00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 4: to drop everything and pick up the kids when their

813
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:51,240
Speaker 4: emergency is that she felt like going to a networking

814
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 4: happy hour, which happened yesterday. I feel like such a nuisance,

815
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 4: but I know I'm saving money living here. I don't

816
00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 4: want to tell my mom any of this stress her out.

817
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:04,319
Speaker 4: My step mom keeps saying it's my mom's fault. But

818
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:06,879
Speaker 4: when she had my younger siblings, I only came over

819
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 4: every other weekend, gave them space to be a new

820
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:12,440
Speaker 4: family because it's what she wanted. I just feel like

821
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Speaker 4: none of this is fair, but also like I'm the

822
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:17,080
Speaker 4: biggest burden in the world. My dad says, I don't

823
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Speaker 4: have to pay rent or do the additional chores, but

824
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Speaker 4: I don't want to cause issues in their marriage. Am

825
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 4: I the a hole for just doing some of the

826
00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:27,200
Speaker 4: new chores my step mom wants me to do? And

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Speaker 4: there is an edit, So before we get into the edit,

828
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Speaker 4: what do you think?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a bit more than I was expecting

830
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:36,360
Speaker 3: that they were asking they should not be taking you

831
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 3: away from your schooling because that's the most important part.

832
00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 3: Like you need to be able to go to your

833
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 3: classes and actually like learn what you need to learn

834
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Speaker 3: for your degree.

835
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Speaker 4: If OP was being like, no, I want to go party,

836
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Speaker 4: I want to go do this, it's one.

837
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 3: It's because you're going to school in your job.

838
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, if this is crazy, if this is negatively impacting

839
00:40:56,800 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 4: or hindering your studies or your school and it's that's problematic.

840
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 4: But yeah, I think if you can, I don't know,

841
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 4: do a little bit of chorte here and there, that's

842
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 4: one thing. But if it's like you have to do

843
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 4: all the chores and drop everything at a dime for

844
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:13,360
Speaker 4: the kids because you are the babysitter, now, yeah, I

845
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:14,279
Speaker 4: didn't sign out to do that.

846
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:18,160
Speaker 3: I think no chores and some rent, though, is a

847
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 3: fine compromise.

848
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:23,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, we haven't edit. I put it in a comment,

849
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 4: but I'm really sorry. I'm sorry I was so argumentative

850
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,319
Speaker 4: last night. I have been sleeping well and have been

851
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 4: so stressed out and sad. I got some sleep and

852
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 4: talked to my dad and he's going to handle my

853
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 4: stepmom nice. Luckily they're not legally married. He let her

854
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 4: move in when she got pregnant because she was losing

855
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:43,440
Speaker 4: her place, and they had a ceremony in our backyard,

856
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:46,880
Speaker 4: but it's not legal. He did promise me he wouldn't

857
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:49,320
Speaker 4: hunt her older kids out because they did nothing wrong.

858
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 4: But he's been done with her behavior all summer and

859
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 4: even before that ohee. If I'm honest about my mom,

860
00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:58,839
Speaker 4: it was always us, and then my stepped out came.

861
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 4: He was so nice to me compared to my step mom.

862
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 4: They asked if I could spend more time at my

863
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 4: dad's for a few months after their baby was born,

864
00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:10,120
Speaker 4: because they know I hate babies. That's probably why she

865
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 4: doesn't get along with this six eight year old.

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00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:13,480
Speaker 3: Listen, they get pretty cool around that age though.

867
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I took that as an eviction and moved

868
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:19,840
Speaker 4: out immediately. Oh, I'm going to talk to my mom today.

869
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 4: I've been kind of avoiding her and not going over

870
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 4: there every other weekend like she wants, because I think

871
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:29,080
Speaker 4: I'm being immature about the baby. Basically, in short, last night,

872
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 4: I was hungry, tired, and needed to touch some grass.

873
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 4: And I'm very sorry if I was so witchy to everyone.

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00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:36,920
Speaker 3: I think we missed some comments.

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00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:40,319
Speaker 4: Probably, Yeah, we don't need all You're not you when

876
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:40,880
Speaker 4: you're hungry.

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00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 4: I am thankful for all of your advice, even if

879
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:45,719
Speaker 4: it was hard to hear. But I need to be

880
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 4: a big girl and I need to talk to my mom. Yeah,

881
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 4: we have an update, let's go straight into it. Basically,

882
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:55,760
Speaker 4: I'm in school my mom and stepdad are finally having

883
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:58,440
Speaker 4: a baby. When my dad and stepmom had their kids,

884
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 4: I looked at my mom and Steff. I was fifty

885
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 4: to fifty with my parents before this, but moved in

886
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 4: with my dad full time and it pissed my step

887
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:09,400
Speaker 4: mom off. He has two kids with my dad. Again,

888
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:12,360
Speaker 4: they are not legally married, and two teenagers, one of

889
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 4: whom sixteen female. I share a room with here. Neither

890
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:18,479
Speaker 4: of their dads are in their lives. My stepmom either

891
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 4: wants me to do an excessive amount of chores or

892
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 4: pay five hundred dollars rent to live here.

893
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:25,240
Speaker 3: I can't the sixteen year old drive the kiddo's places.

894
00:43:25,239 --> 00:43:27,320
Speaker 4: Maybe she doesn't have the car, maybe she doesn't have

895
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:29,880
Speaker 4: her license or a permit, you know. But again I think, sixteen,

896
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:30,760
Speaker 4: you still can't drive.

897
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 3: You can drive your siblings usually, yeah, oh for us,

898
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:35,879
Speaker 3: we could drive our siblings.

899
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 4: Interesting.

900
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 2: It's just.

901
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:42,760
Speaker 4: I refuse to do either of those, and my dad

902
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 4: backed me up. So my dad and stepmom got into

903
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:49,640
Speaker 4: a huge fight over this. It started because my stepsister,

904
00:43:50,000 --> 00:43:52,840
Speaker 4: who have always been nice and welcoming to through a

905
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 4: fit to her mom about sharing a room with you

906
00:43:56,000 --> 00:44:00,279
Speaker 4: know me, please remember that this has always been my room.

907
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:02,520
Speaker 4: She moved in a few years ago, and I never

908
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 4: threw a fit, but she was just yelling at me,

909
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 4: and her mom was backing her up. Also, she's a

910
00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:10,400
Speaker 4: sixteen year old teenager.

911
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:14,279
Speaker 3: I bam forgive the teen for that one.

912
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:19,040
Speaker 4: Eventually I went to leave, and my stepmom took my

913
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 4: car keys and told me I needed to get my

914
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:24,120
Speaker 4: stuff out of my bedroom and stay in the basement.

915
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 3: Get your stuff out of your room and go back

916
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 3: to your mom's.

917
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:30,719
Speaker 4: Okay. I laughed in her face and told my dad

918
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:33,839
Speaker 4: what happened. I think he finally hit his limit after

919
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 4: everything with her and told her she needed to leave.

920
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:38,839
Speaker 4: She left to stay with her friend and has been

921
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 4: there this whole past few days. It's been so hard

922
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:44,279
Speaker 4: because now my dad and I have to pick up

923
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 4: all her slack for the kids. So I feel like

924
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:48,439
Speaker 4: she was like, all right, I'll get out of here.

925
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can do all those chores I wanted.

926
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:53,279
Speaker 4: To Literally, She's like it worked to me, Yeah, it

927
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:55,799
Speaker 4: worked in my liking. Oh, he wasn't going to punt

928
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:57,840
Speaker 4: any kids out, but made it clear to my steps

929
00:44:57,840 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 4: sister that I would not be moving my stuff to

930
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 4: an unfinished basement. I was pretty uncomfortable and went to

931
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 4: see my mom. I told my mom everything and she

932
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 4: was absolutely devastated that I had kept it all from her.

933
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 4: I feel bad. I know it's just an excuse for

934
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 4: me and I stress her out while she was pregnant,

935
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 4: and I think it was more so I was mad

936
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 4: at her, which I know is immature. She said she

937
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 4: knew I really can't stand babies and didn't think I

938
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 4: completely move out full time with my dad, just spend

939
00:45:27,080 --> 00:45:30,760
Speaker 4: more time there. I actually feel really bad. My parents

940
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 4: don't get along and I've always treated them more like

941
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 4: friends than people who I could lean on for support,

942
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:38,840
Speaker 4: and I think that was wrong. After I told her everything,

943
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 4: my mom actually called my dad for the first time

944
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 4: in years. It was crazy. She apologized to him, and

945
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 4: then he said she shouldn't apologize. I thought I was

946
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:51,279
Speaker 4: living in the Twilight zone.

947
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 3: Parent So no, I'm a kidding. I'm kidding. I'm kidding.

948
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 3: She's happily married.

949
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 4: I think everyone's happily here. As a joke, there's a

950
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 4: little bit left to the story. I think things are

951
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:02,400
Speaker 4: getting solved out.

952
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, parents are figuring it out. Would to help you

953
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 3: out and I think you'll be back to a comfortable

954
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 3: living space soon.

955
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 4: Yeah. Your step mom.

956
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 3: Though, yes, she might not be coming back, which is fine.

957
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:18,239
Speaker 4: That needs to be figured out. But that's that's not

958
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 4: on you.

959
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 3: I had dad figured that out already.

960
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's on that out. That's for your dad to

961
00:46:21,680 --> 00:46:24,359
Speaker 4: figure out with your stepmom. No come back, but let's

962
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,759
Speaker 4: go ahead and finish up the story. So my stepsister

963
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:30,960
Speaker 4: went to my stepmom's friend's house to live, but my stepbrother,

964
00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 4: who is nice to me, who wants to stay, and

965
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 4: there's no room for the little ones at that house.

966
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 4: My step mom told my dad to figure it out.

967
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 4: I get why she's mad, but there's still her kids.

968
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:43,400
Speaker 3: Yeah.

969
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:46,160
Speaker 4: My mom and stepdad said I'm not their parent and

970
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 4: told my dad to ask them for help if he's

971
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 4: going to ask me. When they used to have me

972
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 4: babysit the little ones, I'd bring them to my mom's

973
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 4: so she could help me, so they know who she is.

974
00:46:56,560 --> 00:46:58,640
Speaker 4: I don't know what's going to happen, but I do

975
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 4: see my parents differently now. Like I've always thought, I

976
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 4: was out for myself and I need to figure things out.

977
00:47:04,080 --> 00:47:06,239
Speaker 4: Like when I got a speeding ticket, I found and

978
00:47:06,280 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 4: paid for a lawyer, but when they found out and

979
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:11,759
Speaker 4: were mad, I didn't ask for help. I think I'm

980
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 4: going to work on thinking of them as support and

981
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 4: people who are there to help me and not people

982
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:18,759
Speaker 4: I owe things too. And that is the end of

983
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 4: that story.

984
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 1: Yeah.

985
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 4: I think maybe your parents got separated, and I think

986
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:27,239
Speaker 4: since you were their only kid and you have a

987
00:47:27,280 --> 00:47:31,880
Speaker 4: lot of half siblings and step siblings, however, maybe that

988
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 4: was just like a messy divorce and you probably had

989
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 4: to grow up really quick, and maybe you tried to,

990
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:40,239
Speaker 4: you know, lean on them as support, but they were

991
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:42,440
Speaker 4: going through a divorce and that's really hard to focus

992
00:47:42,480 --> 00:47:45,120
Speaker 4: on the child at that time when the parents split.

993
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 4: So and I think since then Opie just did it

994
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 4: all by herself. But I think you're an adult and

995
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 4: their adults and that one sentence, you're like, they're more

996
00:47:55,520 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 4: like my friends than my parents. Yeah, it's like, ah, okay,

997
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 4: you've done things for yourself for a while now.

998
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think it's good that you reached out, good

999
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 3: that they're talking amicably, and hopefully that they'll help you

1000
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 3: out more when you need it and you feel like

1001
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:14,080
Speaker 3: you can go to them more.

1002
00:48:14,400 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like, just communicate them, communicate to them

1003
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:22,360
Speaker 4: your feelings. Because your dad got your back immediately. It

1004
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 4: wasn't like, oh, let me talk to my maybe talk

1005
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 4: to my wife about this or your stepmom. He was like,

1006
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 4: I got your back and it was pretty straightforward. So

1007
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:32,920
Speaker 4: I think you have a good relationship with your parents,

1008
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:37,120
Speaker 4: and I think you just need to, you know, see

1009
00:48:37,160 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 4: them as that, not as like friends. But I think

1010
00:48:39,560 --> 00:48:41,359
Speaker 4: you'll be all right. I think everything's gonna work out

1011
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,760
Speaker 4: and you'll be fine. And that's the end of this story.

1012
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 4: We're going on to the next one.

1013
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 1: Hey all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get

1014
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:49,239
Speaker 1: back to the stories. But here's a quick three minute

1015
00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 1: break from as for more.

1016
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:53,920
Speaker 5: Sponsors, My sister discovered a video of our mother and

1017
00:48:53,960 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 5: she's going nuclear.

1018
00:48:56,600 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 7: That's a whole movie you don't want to see.

1019
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:03,080
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1020
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Speaker 7: Only grit streaming on the Internet.

1021
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 5: My sister twenty one female found this video on my

1022
00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:13,480
Speaker 5: mom's laptop. I nineteen mail thinks she was using her

1023
00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:16,040
Speaker 5: laptop for some school stuff and she must have gone

1024
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 5: snooping through her personal files. By the way, this comes

1025
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:23,680
Speaker 5: from you is mom cheating And if you want to

1026
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1027
00:49:27,440 --> 00:49:32,279
Speaker 5: I am Savannah, I'm Matt, and I'm Carly, and we're

1028
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 5: gonna give you some good advice goofly. But we don't

1029
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 5: have all the answers, so we only can let you

1030
00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:39,719
Speaker 5: know what we do in this situation. So let us

1031
00:49:39,719 --> 00:49:42,760
Speaker 5: know what you do and the comments. As Opie says,

1032
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:45,439
Speaker 5: she found this video, it's from a few years ago

1033
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:48,279
Speaker 5: according to the date of the file. It's definitely our

1034
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 5: mom forty five female in the video, and it looks

1035
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 5: to be in some hotel room. There's definitely a man

1036
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:58,200
Speaker 5: in the video, but he's holding the camera and we

1037
00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:01,479
Speaker 5: don't see his face or hear his voice. I don't

1038
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 5: want to go into any detail it's too late, but

1039
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:10,960
Speaker 5: it's basically a strip tease slash spicy sleep tape filmed

1040
00:50:10,960 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 5: by the man. So while our mother is clearly identifiable,

1041
00:50:15,360 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 5: I can't tell exactly who the man is. I first

1042
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:21,360
Speaker 5: got angry at my sister for showing it to me.

1043
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:24,239
Speaker 5: I told her, this is gross. I don't want to

1044
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:26,600
Speaker 5: see that. She told me she thinks it could mean

1045
00:50:26,640 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 5: our mom is cheating on her dad and we should

1046
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 5: at least present the information to our dad. I told

1047
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:34,759
Speaker 5: her it's very likely it's him in the photo. You

1048
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 5: can see the man's hands in a few shots.

1049
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:38,800
Speaker 1: I know my dad's hands.

1050
00:50:39,640 --> 00:50:42,799
Speaker 5: I think gets my dad's. She seems to think it's

1051
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 5: not him. I told her, if we show it to

1052
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:48,799
Speaker 5: them and it is him, not only will we be embarrassed,

1053
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 5: but they would be mad at her for snooping. She

1054
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:53,960
Speaker 5: was like, why do you care. I'm the one who

1055
00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 5: did the snoopy, and so only I'll get in trouble.

1056
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:58,080
Speaker 5: I'll cover you if you try to get mad at me,

1057
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:00,839
Speaker 5: or if they try to get Maddie. I told her

1058
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 5: there has to be a more sensitive way of approaching

1059
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 5: the situation instead of just bombarding our parents with hey,

1060
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:09,920
Speaker 5: we saw your spicy sleep tape, which could either be

1061
00:51:10,239 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 5: with you or mom's secret lover, and we should consider

1062
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:18,239
Speaker 5: the fallout. However, she seems pretty adamant that she just

1063
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:20,600
Speaker 5: wants to show them. She thinks it's the safest option

1064
00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 5: since if she was cheating, she gets exposed, but if

1065
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:26,240
Speaker 5: it was just Dad, then no harm done. We can't

1066
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:28,440
Speaker 5: agree on what to do, and I have a feeling

1067
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:31,320
Speaker 5: she might show it to them regardless of what I feel.

1068
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 5: But if I push hard enough, I might convince her

1069
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 5: of an alternative solution, any ideas on what we should do.

1070
00:51:37,960 --> 00:51:39,920
Speaker 5: And we got some comments, but what are you thinking?

1071
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 7: I kind of like the detective work option, just to

1072
00:51:43,680 --> 00:51:47,000
Speaker 7: satisfy one's own morbid curiosity, But.

1073
00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:48,680
Speaker 1: Like, how do you go about.

1074
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:50,359
Speaker 7: Bringing that up with your parents? And it's like, why

1075
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:53,399
Speaker 7: are you snooping in your parents' files on the your Yeah,

1076
00:51:53,480 --> 00:51:54,520
Speaker 7: you're in the first place.

1077
00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:58,360
Speaker 5: If this was me, I would just act like I

1078
00:51:58,480 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 5: never saw it in Oh yeah, I would not in

1079
00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:05,239
Speaker 5: a million years be like, hey, mom, I saw you

1080
00:52:05,400 --> 00:52:06,319
Speaker 5: watch the end?

1081
00:52:07,200 --> 00:52:09,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, watch so much of it?

1082
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:13,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, And I like how they go. I'm not gonna

1083
00:52:13,239 --> 00:52:18,320
Speaker 5: go into any detail, but like, this is exactly what happened. Okay,

1084
00:52:19,520 --> 00:52:23,160
Speaker 5: all right, let's get into these comments. Dude, is your

1085
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:25,960
Speaker 5: sister following her intuition or does she have a history

1086
00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:29,560
Speaker 5: of stirring up drama? A few years ago, y'all lived

1087
00:52:29,600 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 5: with your mom and dad. Of course they'd have to

1088
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:32,600
Speaker 5: do the.

1089
00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 1: Freak under wraps.

1090
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 5: Even if it is some other guy. Your parents could

1091
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 5: be into that. How would you know? After all, your

1092
00:52:40,040 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 5: parents don't share their spicy sleep lives with you, which

1093
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:46,400
Speaker 5: means when it turns out your mom didn't cheat and

1094
00:52:46,680 --> 00:52:50,239
Speaker 5: leaves video evidence of her infidelity on her laptop, They're

1095
00:52:50,239 --> 00:52:54,520
Speaker 5: going to feel an incredible invasion of privacy. I say,

1096
00:52:54,719 --> 00:52:57,480
Speaker 5: your sister found the tape. She deals with this mess.

1097
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:00,120
Speaker 5: This isn't your problem. I agree with you that your

1098
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:03,400
Speaker 5: mother did not cheat. I mean, come on, and we

1099
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:06,719
Speaker 5: have another comment. So you watched your parents all sleepy?

1100
00:53:07,920 --> 00:53:09,040
Speaker 5: Just what I'm saying.

1101
00:53:09,960 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 1: Why did you not stop it at the beginning?

1102
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:17,480
Speaker 5: You watch the entirety of the Spicy Sleep tape to

1103
00:53:17,560 --> 00:53:21,000
Speaker 5: try and identify the man in its hast.

1104
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:23,719
Speaker 7: Stayed afterwards to see if there's like an after credits scene.

1105
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:27,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'd be like starring who is that?

1106
00:53:27,400 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 7: Under their credits?

1107
00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:29,319
Speaker 1: Who is man number one?

1108
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:33,719
Speaker 5: For real man's hands? I feel like vomit would have

1109
00:53:33,719 --> 00:53:36,160
Speaker 5: overcome me long before the strip teas ended. It was

1110
00:53:36,239 --> 00:53:39,120
Speaker 5: very likely your dad. Do not make this the most

1111
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:44,160
Speaker 5: awkward situation of all of your entire lives. Stay out

1112
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 5: of it. Well, we watched the whole thing and we

1113
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 5: don't know if these are Dad's hands. The f good

1114
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 5: gun teld Please keep this to yourselves for you and

1115
00:53:56,080 --> 00:53:59,920
Speaker 5: your family's own good I mean, yes, My advice to

1116
00:54:00,120 --> 00:54:02,600
Speaker 5: both of you is stay out of it. There are

1117
00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:05,879
Speaker 5: a lot of possible explanations for that video. Maybe it's

1118
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:09,320
Speaker 5: your dad. Maybe your mom had an affair and already

1119
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:11,759
Speaker 5: got caught and worked things out with your dad and

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00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:13,360
Speaker 5: forgot to delete that video.

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00:54:13,880 --> 00:54:15,320
Speaker 1: Forgot.

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00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:20,760
Speaker 5: Maybe your parents are non monogamous or have an open relationship.

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00:54:20,920 --> 00:54:24,040
Speaker 5: If it's any of those, nothing good will come from

1124
00:54:24,040 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 5: bringing this up with your parents. Maybe your mom is

1125
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 5: engaging in risky behavior that could result in both of

1126
00:54:30,640 --> 00:54:35,080
Speaker 5: your parents contracting an SDI, but that seems like the

1127
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 5: least likely possibility. You really have no compelling reason to

1128
00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:42,719
Speaker 5: believe it's the case. I mean, I just say, don't

1129
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:45,640
Speaker 5: go snooping through your parents' things because you are going

1130
00:54:45,719 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 5: to find something that you don't want.

1131
00:54:48,280 --> 00:54:50,800
Speaker 7: Just like, mind your own business.

1132
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:54,400
Speaker 5: And if you do come, you know, come to see

1133
00:54:54,440 --> 00:54:58,760
Speaker 5: this revelation. Run forget about it. Yeah my mindy race,

1134
00:54:59,520 --> 00:55:01,759
Speaker 5: get it out of there, and don't dwell on it.

1135
00:55:02,040 --> 00:55:02,600
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1136
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 5: Ohp responds, my parents are definitely not monogamous. Lol. And

1137
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 5: now for another comment, why did your sister feel the

1138
00:55:12,320 --> 00:55:14,960
Speaker 5: need to investigate the video in the first place? Has

1139
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:18,000
Speaker 5: there been anything fishy with your mom in the past.

1140
00:55:18,080 --> 00:55:20,760
Speaker 5: I mean, if you stumble upon someone's private nude video,

1141
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:25,440
Speaker 5: checking for cheating is not your first natural reaction. You

1142
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:27,439
Speaker 5: could try to check the date of the file. It's

1143
00:55:27,480 --> 00:55:31,080
Speaker 5: not always accurate, might have been downloaded much later, but

1144
00:55:31,160 --> 00:55:34,520
Speaker 5: it may give you at least some clues maybe your

1145
00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:38,320
Speaker 5: parents were away on a holiday or trip around that time.

1146
00:55:38,560 --> 00:55:41,640
Speaker 5: This way, there's a chance you'll have a reasonable explanation

1147
00:55:41,760 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 5: for this sister before she decides to spill it all out.

1148
00:55:45,400 --> 00:55:48,480
Speaker 5: Oh P responds, I like the idea of sending it

1149
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:52,359
Speaker 5: to him anonymously, maybe through email or something. If it's him,

1150
00:55:52,600 --> 00:55:54,840
Speaker 5: no harm done. And if he doesn't know it was us.

1151
00:55:54,719 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 1: That seems like the worst possible option.

1152
00:55:56,840 --> 00:55:59,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, wouldn't he then start eating out? Like how does

1153
00:55:59,239 --> 00:56:00,680
Speaker 3: somebody have this video?

1154
00:56:00,800 --> 00:56:04,040
Speaker 7: It's like an extortions actor or something. It's like, all right,

1155
00:56:04,040 --> 00:56:05,080
Speaker 7: where do I drop the money?

1156
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:08,080
Speaker 5: I'm scared of how this is gonna turn out, honestly,

1157
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:11,480
Speaker 5: because it just seems like there's no good that could

1158
00:56:11,480 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 5: come up this situation, and all of the things, like

1159
00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 5: all of the ideas that they're coming up with seem

1160
00:56:16,640 --> 00:56:21,319
Speaker 5: like they're progressively getting worse. We have another comment here,

1161
00:56:21,840 --> 00:56:24,720
Speaker 5: but if it is him and you send it anonymously,

1162
00:56:24,960 --> 00:56:28,160
Speaker 5: he'll be freaking out about who has it and how

1163
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:32,839
Speaker 5: they found it. That's true. Opie responds, Okay, what if

1164
00:56:32,880 --> 00:56:35,240
Speaker 5: we go up to him and tell him there's something

1165
00:56:35,280 --> 00:56:38,200
Speaker 5: we need to show him on the laptop, and then

1166
00:56:38,680 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 5: while browsing it in front of him, we pretend to

1167
00:56:41,640 --> 00:56:44,759
Speaker 5: stumble on the thing for the first time. We can

1168
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:46,239
Speaker 5: be like, what is this?

1169
00:56:47,239 --> 00:56:50,120
Speaker 7: Oh, oh god it Unless you're Oscar worthy actors, it's

1170
00:56:50,120 --> 00:56:50,920
Speaker 7: not gonna work.

1171
00:56:51,200 --> 00:56:54,799
Speaker 5: If he genuinely doesn't know and says open it to

1172
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:57,879
Speaker 5: find out, it means he doesn't know about it. If

1173
00:56:57,920 --> 00:57:01,600
Speaker 5: he's like, no, don't click, that means she knows. Oh,

1174
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:07,600
Speaker 5: there isn't update. Oh god, eight days layl Yeah, things

1175
00:57:07,640 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 5: didn't go so well.

1176
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:11,440
Speaker 1: Oh my god, why.

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00:57:11,320 --> 00:57:15,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, things didn't go so well. Unfortunately, I kept arguing

1178
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:17,800
Speaker 5: with my sister. I told her, if she's so certain

1179
00:57:17,880 --> 00:57:20,760
Speaker 5: they're cheating, the least we could do is ask Dad

1180
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:23,120
Speaker 5: first if he knows about the tape, but not mention

1181
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:26,600
Speaker 5: that we've seen it. She was determined that it was

1182
00:57:26,720 --> 00:57:29,960
Speaker 5: cheating based on the hands and the feet.

1183
00:57:29,480 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 1: We have even talk about the feet.

1184
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:32,120
Speaker 5: Oh, feet are coming in.

1185
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:34,920
Speaker 3: The picture for the dogs out the dogs.

1186
00:57:35,160 --> 00:57:38,040
Speaker 7: This is getting a lot spicier than I anticipated. Like

1187
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:40,920
Speaker 7: we were talking about spicy. Now we're adding feet into that.

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00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 5: I can understand, you know, hands, but now you're gonna

1189
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 5: add feet now, I don't know. It's getting a little

1190
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:52,680
Speaker 5: too much here. What are they? What We're gonna get

1191
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:57,200
Speaker 5: a torso next? I'm scared. She was like, those definitely

1192
00:57:57,240 --> 00:58:01,800
Speaker 5: aren't dads. I told her she as creepy as f

1193
00:58:02,520 --> 00:58:05,520
Speaker 5: if that was them in the video, and god knows

1194
00:58:05,640 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 5: how many times she's watched it, even if it wasn't

1195
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:13,400
Speaker 5: our dad, it's still effing gross. She didn't care. I

1196
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:16,400
Speaker 5: told her, if I couldn't stop her, she should at

1197
00:58:16,480 --> 00:58:18,440
Speaker 5: least leave me out of it. I want nothing to

1198
00:58:18,520 --> 00:58:22,080
Speaker 5: do with it. She went nuclear. She went and told

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00:58:22,120 --> 00:58:26,240
Speaker 5: them everything and embarrassed the f out of herself. Yikes.

1200
00:58:26,880 --> 00:58:30,480
Speaker 5: Turned out her little detective work was way off. It

1201
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:35,280
Speaker 5: was dad in the video. Our dad was angry, of course,

1202
00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:40,280
Speaker 5: but mostly bewildered, but he just laughed it off and

1203
00:58:40,360 --> 00:58:44,280
Speaker 5: got over it. By the way, you can laugh it

1204
00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:47,880
Speaker 5: off but not get over us. If you like these stories,

1205
00:58:48,120 --> 00:58:50,480
Speaker 5: just go to find full episodes with stories just like this.

1206
00:58:50,640 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 5: Go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast app,

1207
00:58:54,440 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 5: iHeartRadio and search. Okay, story time, there is a relevant update,

1208
00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 5: But what are we thinking here?

1209
00:59:00,960 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 7: This reminds me of a story of someone I know

1210
00:59:04,120 --> 00:59:08,439
Speaker 7: who is similar, not quite situation. They're like digging through

1211
00:59:08,440 --> 00:59:11,400
Speaker 7: their parents stuff looking for something or other. They found

1212
00:59:11,400 --> 00:59:14,360
Speaker 7: a stash of spicy videos, not their parents. But it's

1213
00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:16,560
Speaker 7: just like, oh, and they put them back and never

1214
00:59:16,640 --> 00:59:18,360
Speaker 7: mentioned it, which is what they should have done.

1215
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:20,200
Speaker 5: That seems like a normal response to me.

1216
00:59:20,840 --> 00:59:23,040
Speaker 7: Instead, I mean, obviously they told us, but they didn't

1217
00:59:23,040 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 7: tell their parents. Yeah, they told me for.

1218
00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:29,160
Speaker 5: Everyone in the front group, I loved to look, you

1219
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 5: know what I've been in my parent's stash. It's like, oh,

1220
00:59:32,440 --> 00:59:38,760
Speaker 5: dad's hand I think, I think is extra hands. My

1221
00:59:38,880 --> 00:59:46,320
Speaker 5: dad was three hands, all right? Our update. Our mom, however,

1222
00:59:46,520 --> 00:59:47,800
Speaker 5: didn't take it so well.

1223
00:59:47,960 --> 00:59:49,280
Speaker 3: She had a pitic attack.

1224
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:54,440
Speaker 5: Mom, She's like, no, no, she went nuts.

1225
00:59:54,800 --> 00:59:58,120
Speaker 3: She was like, what the heck is wrong with you kids?

1226
00:59:58,440 --> 01:00:00,320
Speaker 5: I try to stay out of it, but my sister

1227
01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:03,280
Speaker 5: dragged me into it and named me as her accomplice,

1228
01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:06,880
Speaker 5: even though I had warned her against it. Our mom

1229
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 5: was so hurt and upset, not only that her daughter

1230
01:00:09,720 --> 01:00:13,000
Speaker 5: would so bravely accuse her of cheating, but that her

1231
01:00:13,080 --> 01:00:17,600
Speaker 5: children had watched an explicit, spicy sleep tape of her.

1232
01:00:17,840 --> 01:00:20,840
Speaker 5: She was really traumatized. She couldn't take it anymore. She

1233
01:00:20,960 --> 01:00:24,280
Speaker 5: got up and left to her parents' house, where she's

1234
01:00:24,320 --> 01:00:27,600
Speaker 5: been there for a whole day to recuperate. She only

1235
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:30,960
Speaker 5: called our dad to speak to She won't speak to us,

1236
01:00:31,120 --> 01:00:33,280
Speaker 5: So she only called our dad to speak to She

1237
01:00:33,320 --> 01:00:36,080
Speaker 5: won't speak to us. Our dad told us to just

1238
01:00:36,200 --> 01:00:38,720
Speaker 5: give it time until she's feeling better. And there are

1239
01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:42,360
Speaker 5: some commits. Well, your sister is a crappy detective. Your

1240
01:00:42,400 --> 01:00:46,480
Speaker 5: mom needs time to distress. On another note, no, it's

1241
01:00:46,560 --> 01:00:50,360
Speaker 5: that tape no longer in your sister's possession. She seemed

1242
01:00:50,400 --> 01:00:52,200
Speaker 5: to have been obsessed with it.

1243
01:00:52,320 --> 01:00:52,960
Speaker 1: I agree.

1244
01:00:53,080 --> 01:00:55,800
Speaker 5: I would remove it from her possession and give it

1245
01:00:55,800 --> 01:00:59,360
Speaker 5: to your father before she does something even more stupid.

1246
01:00:59,600 --> 01:01:01,440
Speaker 5: Have you to talk to your dad and told him

1247
01:01:01,440 --> 01:01:04,840
Speaker 5: everything about you discouraging your sister. Make sure he knows

1248
01:01:04,880 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 5: you didn't want anything to do with your sister shenanigans

1249
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:09,880
Speaker 5: and ask him to tell your mom that, and when

1250
01:01:09,920 --> 01:01:12,920
Speaker 5: she's ready, you can speak to her directly and apologize

1251
01:01:12,960 --> 01:01:16,680
Speaker 5: on behalf of your sister. WELP don't ever leave your

1252
01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:20,960
Speaker 5: sister alone with your computer or phone or mail or

1253
01:01:21,080 --> 01:01:27,280
Speaker 5: journal or literally anything she could wildly misinterpret. Lesson learned.

1254
01:01:27,320 --> 01:01:27,760
Speaker 4: I guess.

1255
01:01:28,040 --> 01:01:30,640
Speaker 5: Oh there's more comments. I hope this is a lesson

1256
01:01:30,720 --> 01:01:33,520
Speaker 5: learned for your sister to stay the heck out of

1257
01:01:33,560 --> 01:01:36,480
Speaker 5: other people's business. Sorry, you had to be dragged through

1258
01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:38,439
Speaker 5: it all, I know. I kind of feel bad for op,

1259
01:01:38,760 --> 01:01:40,200
Speaker 5: like they really don't want to be.

1260
01:01:40,120 --> 01:01:44,520
Speaker 7: A participant, completely unwilling. She was like, stop, don't do this.

1261
01:01:45,000 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 5: Yeah, she's like just let it go, and she's her sister's.

1262
01:01:49,160 --> 01:01:50,840
Speaker 1: Like I gotta look, I gotta look.

1263
01:01:50,840 --> 01:01:54,520
Speaker 5: I gotta know, like going to the library researching, like

1264
01:01:54,880 --> 01:01:58,000
Speaker 5: really really looking at her dad's and its like that's crazy.

1265
01:01:58,720 --> 01:01:59,760
Speaker 1: You don't need to do all that.

1266
01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 5: Why does it matter? I don't know. But sorry to

1267
01:02:03,160 --> 01:02:04,920
Speaker 5: be dragged through all of it. Oh, and that's the

1268
01:02:05,000 --> 01:02:05,920
Speaker 5: end of that story.