WEBVTT - Try a DIY day

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to try a DIY day. If you are

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<v Speaker 1>feeling like you need some downtime or independent fun, Identify

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<v Speaker 1>a day when everyone in your household will do their

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<v Speaker 1>own thing, and you can officially relinquish all cruise director

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<v Speaker 1>duties and talking with people about their time. I have

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<v Speaker 1>gathered that a lot of people feel like they need

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<v Speaker 1>to spend the whole weekend with their kids or their partner,

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<v Speaker 1>and I get it. I like spending time with my

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<v Speaker 1>family too, but I also love having time to do

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<v Speaker 1>my own thing, and you might enjoy that as well,

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<v Speaker 1>So don't assume that you and your family have to

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<v Speaker 1>spend the weekend and lockstep. You might officially designate one

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<v Speaker 1>weekend day as a DIY day. That is a do

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<v Speaker 1>it yourself day everyone does their own thing. DIY days

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<v Speaker 1>may not be on the menu if you have young

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<v Speaker 1>kids who can't supervise or entertain themselves, but with older

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<v Speaker 1>kids or no kids, DIY days can be a doable

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<v Speaker 1>way of giving everyone time for what they want. You

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<v Speaker 1>just choose a DIY day. Perhaps this coming Saturday if

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<v Speaker 1>it's lighter, and give everyone notice that they are responsible

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<v Speaker 1>for their own fun. If there are activities to be

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<v Speaker 1>dealt with, you can at least designate certain hours as

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<v Speaker 1>DIY hours. It is the same thing, if a bit

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<v Speaker 1>smaller in scoop. DIY days are great for families where

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<v Speaker 1>people have different interests from each other. Mom can go

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<v Speaker 1>see the holiday lights and Dad can spend all day

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<v Speaker 1>out in the garage if that is what he likes.

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<v Speaker 1>One kid can read and another can find some friends

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<v Speaker 1>to play a game all day. I recognize that in

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<v Speaker 1>many families what the kids are going to want to

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<v Speaker 1>do is be on screens all day, but if you want,

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<v Speaker 1>you can keep general limits on that. Maybe nothing before

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<v Speaker 1>two pm if that's your usual rule, or you could

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<v Speaker 1>just let it go. If your kids are doing a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of sports and activities during the week. A veg

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<v Speaker 1>out weekend day isn't going to be the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the world if it buys you time to do whatever

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<v Speaker 1>you want, so it is probably okay. Now, it might

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<v Speaker 1>be helpful to give everyone some advance warning, particularly if

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<v Speaker 1>you are not going to be available to drive, or

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<v Speaker 1>if there is a screen free time expected and it

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<v Speaker 1>might also be nice to have some moments of togetherness

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<v Speaker 1>on DIY days. For instance, you and your partner or

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<v Speaker 1>kids might plan to convene at noon for lunch and

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<v Speaker 1>then to convene again at seven for pizza and a

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<v Speaker 1>movie night. But from one until seven, everybody does their

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<v Speaker 1>own thing. The key thing here is that I know

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<v Speaker 1>many people and particularly women, don't feel they have time

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<v Speaker 1>for themselves. But I think that is often because there

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<v Speaker 1>is this assumption that weekends need to be spent with

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<v Speaker 1>family and organizing everything for everybody. Sometimes that is great,

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<v Speaker 1>but it doesn't have to be every day. Planning a

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<v Speaker 1>DIY day is a way to create space to do

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<v Speaker 1>what you want and allow others time for what they want.

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<v Speaker 1>You aren't the cruise director, and you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>coordinate activities all week and long. Everybody just does their

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<v Speaker 1>own thing in the meantime. This is long, Urah, Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura

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