1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning. 2 00:00:10,840 --> 00:00:16,479 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: tip is to try a DIY day. If you are 4 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:25,959 Speaker 1: feeling like you need some downtime or independent fun, Identify 5 00:00:26,040 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 1: a day when everyone in your household will do their 6 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 1: own thing, and you can officially relinquish all cruise director 7 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: duties and talking with people about their time. I have 8 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: gathered that a lot of people feel like they need 9 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:44,080 Speaker 1: to spend the whole weekend with their kids or their partner, 10 00:00:45,080 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: and I get it. I like spending time with my 11 00:00:47,159 --> 00:00:50,599 Speaker 1: family too, but I also love having time to do 12 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 1: my own thing, and you might enjoy that as well, 13 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 1: So don't assume that you and your family have to 14 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:03,280 Speaker 1: spend the weekend and lockstep. You might officially designate one 15 00:01:03,360 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: weekend day as a DIY day. That is a do 16 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:15,039 Speaker 1: it yourself day everyone does their own thing. DIY days 17 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:17,039 Speaker 1: may not be on the menu if you have young 18 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:21,320 Speaker 1: kids who can't supervise or entertain themselves, but with older 19 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 1: kids or no kids, DIY days can be a doable 20 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:29,920 Speaker 1: way of giving everyone time for what they want. You 21 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: just choose a DIY day. Perhaps this coming Saturday if 22 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:37,760 Speaker 1: it's lighter, and give everyone notice that they are responsible 23 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 1: for their own fun. If there are activities to be 24 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 1: dealt with, you can at least designate certain hours as 25 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: DIY hours. It is the same thing, if a bit 26 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 1: smaller in scoop. DIY days are great for families where 27 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: people have different interests from each other. Mom can go 28 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: see the holiday lights and Dad can spend all day 29 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: out in the garage if that is what he likes. 30 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:07,639 Speaker 1: One kid can read and another can find some friends 31 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:11,320 Speaker 1: to play a game all day. I recognize that in 32 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:13,360 Speaker 1: many families what the kids are going to want to 33 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: do is be on screens all day, but if you want, 34 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 1: you can keep general limits on that. Maybe nothing before 35 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:23,959 Speaker 1: two pm if that's your usual rule, or you could 36 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: just let it go. If your kids are doing a 37 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 1: lot of sports and activities during the week. A veg 38 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:33,800 Speaker 1: out weekend day isn't going to be the end of 39 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 1: the world if it buys you time to do whatever 40 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: you want, so it is probably okay. Now, it might 41 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:48,680 Speaker 1: be helpful to give everyone some advance warning, particularly if 42 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:51,560 Speaker 1: you are not going to be available to drive, or 43 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:55,360 Speaker 1: if there is a screen free time expected and it 44 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 1: might also be nice to have some moments of togetherness 45 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 1: on DIY days. For instance, you and your partner or 46 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: kids might plan to convene at noon for lunch and 47 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: then to convene again at seven for pizza and a 48 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: movie night. But from one until seven, everybody does their 49 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: own thing. The key thing here is that I know 50 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 1: many people and particularly women, don't feel they have time 51 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:24,520 Speaker 1: for themselves. But I think that is often because there 52 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: is this assumption that weekends need to be spent with 53 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:33,840 Speaker 1: family and organizing everything for everybody. Sometimes that is great, 54 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 1: but it doesn't have to be every day. Planning a 55 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: DIY day is a way to create space to do 56 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: what you want and allow others time for what they want. 57 00:03:46,440 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 1: You aren't the cruise director, and you don't have to 58 00:03:49,640 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: coordinate activities all week and long. Everybody just does their 59 00:03:55,560 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 1: own thing in the meantime. This is long, Urah, Thanks 60 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: for listening, and here's to making the most of our time. 61 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, 62 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:20,719 Speaker 1: or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura 63 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:30,239 Speaker 1: vandercam dot com. 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