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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who talks.

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Speaker 1: What's up?

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Speaker 2: Y'all?

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Speaker 1: Is your girl a j holiday?

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Speaker 2: What's up?

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Speaker 1: Big dam damn?

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Speaker 2: What's up, y'all?

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Speaker 3: I'm miss y'all.

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Speaker 2: I love y'all so much. How was your weekend? Aj?

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Speaker 1: I can't talk about it online. It's great, so that crazy? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I had a good weekend, real good weekend, New Bay

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Speaker 1: what okay, of course not, it's all about me.

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Speaker 2: Were excellent, y'all. I did a big eye week.

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Speaker 1: No, I had a good weekend. No hanging out around town. Nice,

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Speaker 1: hot as fuck. Okay, my car is screaming. It's ninety

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Speaker 1: seven degrees outside and this only Yeah, just like having

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Speaker 1: a shower three times, just you know, natural deorderant.

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Speaker 2: It don't play well right now, it don't.

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Speaker 3: I want to be as as I used to anyway, good,

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Speaker 3: that's debatable.

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Speaker 2: I I went away, y'allf for my birthday. I was

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Speaker 2: gone for an entire week and I just had such

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Speaker 2: a good time.

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Speaker 3: I just needed that break from just everything.

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Speaker 2: And I was in the I was in Europe, and

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Speaker 2: then after I got back from Europe. I went to

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Speaker 2: New York for a couple of days and I just

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Speaker 2: got back. I left last Monday, and I just I'm tired. Now.

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Speaker 1: Don't have to do nothing right, No.

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Speaker 2: I didn't have to think. I didn't have to think

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Speaker 2: about shit. I just get pretty and show up. Oh

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Speaker 2: I just wish that could be my whole life, Like

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Speaker 2: they can just pretty to show up.

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Speaker 1: That's what we're working towards, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: But the thing is, then you be booked and busy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it just ain't never gonna be just what you want

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Speaker 1: to do. Somebody feed me grapes. I was getting foot

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Speaker 1: massage or eating grapes at the same time.

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Speaker 3: I was like, I'm a queen, Like, how do you

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Speaker 3: go back?

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Speaker 4: How do you go back?

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Speaker 3: As soon as I got back to America, it was

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Speaker 3: the bullshit.

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Speaker 2: Almost got hit by a car.

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Speaker 1: Bitch, get out the straight in New York.

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Speaker 3: I'm back planning America.

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Speaker 1: You know. I saw this video on tiktoking with some guys.

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Speaker 1: I think they might have been like I don't know, Panama.

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Speaker 1: I think maybe, but they're just saying like, how like

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Speaker 1: you know a little bit of money you know over

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Speaker 1: there you can really live like a king or a queen.

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Speaker 1: America is just fucking stressful. It's just reads right on

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Speaker 1: this planet. I swear to God when I'm in the Caribbean,

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Speaker 1: I don't have no I don't have to do none

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Speaker 1: of that shit. Just be clear, breathing shit, using the

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Speaker 1: bathroom every day. Like it's just.

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Speaker 3: Different, different, it really is. She's called in America, man,

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Speaker 3: so shout out to taking vacations. But speaking of vacation,

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Speaker 3: Malcolm Jamal Warner, y'all went to Costa Rica on vacation

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Speaker 3: and we lost him. That was like losing an uncle.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: I just don't understand, but it definitely happens.

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Speaker 2: It's just and I was just looking at the statistics

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Speaker 2: on a thousand Americans a year die on vacation annually.

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Speaker 2: Be it. The number one reason was like car accidents

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Speaker 2: but or a scooter some type of motor. But two

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Speaker 2: was drowning. That was the number two reason that people

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Speaker 2: die is on vacation.

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Speaker 3: Now, water ain't nothing to play with, y'all.

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Speaker 1: I remember there was a post where it showed like

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Speaker 1: the shoreline on back and most of the black people like,

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Speaker 1: I'm staying in the one and two, like I'll go,

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Speaker 1: I'll go out, you know what I'm saying, especially if

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Speaker 1: I got some braids, and if I got a lace front,

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Speaker 1: I'm at one and two. But if I got braids,

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Speaker 1: I'm out right.

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Speaker 2: But you gotta be careful with that for real.

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Speaker 1: No, that's what I'm saying. I got stuck on time,

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Speaker 1: so I know what that. So they're saying he got

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Speaker 1: stuck like in a ripcorn, you know, far out, and

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Speaker 1: then some bystanders did get him ashore, and then the

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Speaker 1: Costa Rican Red Cross tried to you know, revive him,

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Speaker 1: but he literally was gone right then. So he had been.

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Speaker 2: Out too long, too much water. Yep.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I remember struggling, like you know, you have

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Speaker 1: like those little snorkeling masks. But even with that, you

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Speaker 1: have to like breathe. So that's why, like breathing exercises

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Speaker 1: are real good too in cases situations like this. But

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Speaker 1: that shit makes you feel so tired trying to fight

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Speaker 1: against the current.

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Speaker 2: And then the thing is it's always the people who

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Speaker 2: are confident swimmers sometimes like confidence can be your downfall

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Speaker 2: because I ain't getting I typically don't go past ankle,

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Speaker 2: maybe I don't go in past my calf.

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Speaker 1: Really, so you don't get in the ocean then my calf.

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Speaker 1: I be like, no, I don't go I be floating

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Speaker 1: like I don't. I mean like I have went out

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Speaker 1: to where like I know, the bottom ain't nowhere to

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Speaker 1: be found. But hell no, when the water is like

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Speaker 1: you can tell when the water is crazy.

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Speaker 2: The only time is when I sit down the peek.

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Speaker 1: Girl, why are you even taking beach vacations? I'm confused now,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm even go in there to take pictures that

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Speaker 1: collects on. That's what I go for, dich. I'm a

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Speaker 1: home mermaid out here. I am going out water. I'm

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Speaker 1: going out man. I need to be able to see

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Speaker 1: my feet though, Like I'm not getting in Charleston water

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Speaker 1: past ingles.

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Speaker 2: They had this Charlotte boat weekend, and I don't know

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Speaker 2: if y'all saw the videos, y'all google it.

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Speaker 3: When it was that what's that black boat Norman?

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Speaker 2: It's either Norman or uh Wiley, I don't know which

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Speaker 2: one it was on. But first of all, these niggas

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Speaker 2: was fighting like it was a video, like one boat

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Speaker 2: you look at that, they fighting the next literally.

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Speaker 1: The boat that was Charlotte.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, in the video they was fighting the water look

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Speaker 2: all dirty and nasty, like I don't like.

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Speaker 3: It's a fun time, I imagine, but let's not video.

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Speaker 2: Let's not let people see that we out there in

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Speaker 2: that murky ass order. I'm not getting that.

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Speaker 1: That's so funny. You said that because on that same post,

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Speaker 1: I was on the phone when I saw it. I

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Speaker 1: was like, I am so sick of black people. Then

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Speaker 1: I went in the commons and I saw somebody was like,

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Speaker 1: just get old, ratchet. I'm tired of seeing this shit.

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Speaker 1: And I was, and I said to the person I

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Speaker 1: was on the phone with, like, get on, ratchet. Ain't

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Speaker 1: that bad, but just don't record it. I don't want

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Speaker 1: to see it. And I might want to be get

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Speaker 1: on a ratchet, but you will never see it on TV.

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Speaker 3: No mayn that time I had to say you for

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Speaker 3: the water, no bitch.

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Speaker 1: I was just about to say that. Y'all tell me

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Speaker 1: you had a blow birthday yacht party one time, and

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Speaker 1: I had just came back from Anguela swimming in level

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Speaker 1: twenty five. Okay, so now I'm thinking, like, okay, this

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Speaker 1: lake water, this ain't shit. The lake water is worse.

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Speaker 1: More people drowning lakes per year than in the ocean.

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Speaker 1: The current in the lake is different because y'all know

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Speaker 1: most lakes are built on top of old towns. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so when y'all hear this about Lake Norman, what's the

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Speaker 1: lake in Georgia that warbody never go to that damn lake?

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Speaker 1: Lamiir lanier la Neiir? Yeah, Lamiir is the fucking casino

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Speaker 1: in Saint Louis is it lumineer lumiir whatever? Anyway, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: lake in the mirror and Georgianire whatever niggas beginning, It's

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Speaker 1: really not.

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Speaker 2: Take so many people every year. I would never go.

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Speaker 1: To that, usually not black people, thought, so I don't.

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Speaker 1: I think black people really just don't go in there.

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Speaker 1: And then also the ancestors is probably pulling legs and

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Speaker 1: your birthday. I hopped in there, hopped in that lake

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Speaker 1: with no life that's on, thinking I could swim, And

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Speaker 1: when I tell y'all, the current was pulling.

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Speaker 3: Me under under the boat. Mind you, I was drinking too,

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Speaker 3: So just a whole thank you God moment right saving

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Speaker 3: me from myself. But y'all, you.

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Speaker 2: Definitely got to be the water, y'all.

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Speaker 3: It was not you that pulled me out.

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Speaker 4: It was a guy.

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Speaker 1: Girl. Imagine you lifting me out the ocean, out the water.

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Speaker 1: It was a dude. You might have had one of

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Speaker 1: my arms.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then I grabbed you and pulled you up.

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Speaker 1: It was definitely a whole man on the boat that

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Speaker 1: pulled me up. Shame man, you got to be careful, man, man.

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Speaker 1: Rest in peace, Malcolm and Jamal Warner. We all grew

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Speaker 1: up Austin Cosey show.

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Speaker 3: Y'allso I wren into that boat for my birthday.

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Speaker 2: I did not like there was jet skis. There was

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Speaker 2: little like looat and pat guess who didn't touch a

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Speaker 2: liquor water No.

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Speaker 1: And I was on the boat in a vest with

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Speaker 1: a captain had on. Yeah, shame.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, rest in peace, machaelm Jamal Warner, and like

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Speaker 2: life is so fleeting, like be kind to one another

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Speaker 2: and love each other because you just never know, man.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely yeah, So y'all. I don't know if Tam was

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Speaker 1: in attendance because she was in Europe, you know, this

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Speaker 1: past week.

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Speaker 3: But apparently UK's biggest sex.

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Speaker 1: Festival, swingeth On, returns with one thousand people in attendance. Bitch,

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Speaker 1: you think you swack? I was not there, So apparently

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Speaker 1: roughly one thousand thrill seekers have taken over a sleepy

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Speaker 1: Lincolnshire village for the for the UK's biggest swingers festival,

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Speaker 1: uh Dub swingeth On. The X rated three day event

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Speaker 1: is now its fifth year of drawing sexually liberated guests

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Speaker 1: from across the UK.

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Speaker 2: It's sank out there. Stay out there in tints, y'all.

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Speaker 2: It's like all kinds of tints on this big ass field,

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Speaker 2: lay out there just having sex with each other.

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Speaker 3: You probably can catch it on a porn hub.

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Speaker 2: Called the police.

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Speaker 1: I wonder if you gotta give any paperwork, like before

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Speaker 1: you come a thousand people, Like, out of a thousand people,

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Speaker 1: what is the statistics for like HIV?

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Speaker 2: And it's got to be some diseases out there.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, And I'd be thinking like sometimes like people who

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Speaker 1: partaking like risky behavior, it's probably because they ain't got

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Speaker 1: shit to lose, Like should I already got the thing,

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Speaker 1: let me write.

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Speaker 2: I might as well go to the swinger throng and

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Speaker 2: give it to everybody.

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Speaker 1: Or like I don't give a funk shit. Yeah you

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Speaker 1: want to pussy, you get to pussy my mout head, neck, airs,

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Speaker 1: just every whole that's scary to me, no, cool.

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Speaker 2: I'm not into none of that stuff. Because people be

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Speaker 2: having like parties, I'll be getting invited to like some

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Speaker 2: mild shit and I'd be like, yeah, no, that's not

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Speaker 2: my vibe. I'm scared. When I was living in the UK,

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Speaker 2: they used to have like this little swingers group on

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Speaker 2: the military base.

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Speaker 3: And on the military base yep.

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Speaker 2: Girl, they used to be into some It was. It

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Speaker 2: was the white people though, and they would this was

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Speaker 2: your sign that your home was down for the they

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Speaker 1: Well, it depends on what type of ship y'all got

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Speaker 2: Possibly listen. I was saying like, oh, yeah, I'm a freak,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not doing all that extra shit. And I

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Speaker 2: Goodness?

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Speaker 2: Ability utility.

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Speaker 1: No, it says motility.

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Speaker 3: What the fuck?

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Speaker 1: I don't know, y'all tell us anyway. The drop in

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Speaker 1: of a world filled with endocrine disruptors, environmental toxins, stress

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Speaker 1: Avoid seed oils. They basically alleviate your tescular temperature, lower

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So, oh, canola oil it said on the diagram.

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Speaker 2: So here's that part.

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Speaker 1: But this post has a whole bunch of stuff in there,

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Speaker 3: But I supposed to happen like in the Age of

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Speaker 2: Y'all. We love men, y'all know, we love y'all. We

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Speaker 4: What is it?

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Speaker 1: They would, they would, you would never ever get me

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Speaker 1: but they were. They he was He had like a

441
00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:31,960
Speaker 1: CDO license to the officer was like, yeah, I'm gonna

442
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 1: make sure I get these licenses, like so then he

443
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:36,240
Speaker 1: can't work and things like that. This is the stuff

444
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:39,399
Speaker 1: that they do to black men, right, So it is

445
00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:41,399
Speaker 1: hard for a lot of niggas not to have, Like

446
00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:45,879
Speaker 1: I know, most black men that I know, I won't

447
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 1: say most, I'll say it's like half and half half

448
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:51,239
Speaker 1: of them half criminal charges. Maybe they beat it and

449
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,639
Speaker 1: didn't actually end up at the charge. And then the

450
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 1: other half probably just some time.

451
00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:58,720
Speaker 3: Yeah you know, well, I say, I know a lot

452
00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 3: that had but I feel like I know more.

453
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 2: Men right now, right, yeah, they have not been But

454
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 2: then I listened, I just skated by a couple of times,

455
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:10,639
Speaker 2: like I ain't never went to jail, but this was

456
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:12,399
Speaker 2: probably should.

457
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:16,440
Speaker 1: There are there are I forgot the number, but there

458
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:20,400
Speaker 1: are over a thousand different statutes in America. Okay, all

459
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:22,680
Speaker 1: of us has done, have done some shit where we

460
00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:24,680
Speaker 1: could have got fucked up about. Just because you didn't

461
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:27,439
Speaker 1: get caught doesn't mean you're not a criminal. Okay. My

462
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 1: stepdaddy was talking about my ex because he went to prison, right,

463
00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 1: and I said, man, you'll be at the job selling

464
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:36,640
Speaker 1: that viagra. Okay, let's be very fucking clear. If those

465
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 1: people in your job were healthy and was healthy enough

466
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:41,199
Speaker 1: for VIAGRAA, their doctors would have prescribed to them. So

467
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 1: what you're doing is drug dealing viagra pills twenty dollars

468
00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:47,359
Speaker 1: a pop at the job.

469
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 3: No, not right now, No, he's retired now.

470
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:54,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, he was doing that shit and talking about talking

471
00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: about a nigga who movement work.

472
00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 3: It's the same thing, right, you just want a smaller scale.

473
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:04,480
Speaker 1: You're just selling pharmaceutical drugs, which actually may be worse

474
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 1: because one of the guys went blind that he was

475
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 1: selling the shit too, because the nigga wasn't healthy enough

476
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 1: to be taken.

477
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 2: By blood pressure one.

478
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:14,639
Speaker 1: Right, yeah, so how much bitch is you fucking like?

479
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:16,880
Speaker 1: How long you want your dick to stay hard? My guy?

480
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 2: You know, I can concern with people who are taking

481
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 2: those like and honey packs and all that stuff and

482
00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:27,400
Speaker 2: bluetooes and all that shit, and it be young guys. Yeah,

483
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:29,159
Speaker 2: but I would be upset if I was younger. My

484
00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 2: dick win't get hard. I'd be upset if I was older.

485
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 2: My dick win't get hard, but especially as a young man.

486
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 1: But how hard they wanted, Like, it might be getting hard,

487
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 1: but in their mind is not getting hard enough for

488
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 1: I don't know what. Just just let us tell you

489
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:45,840
Speaker 1: all of the dick is hitting.

490
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 2: You gotta squeeze the balls and the dick together to

491
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 2: try to shove it in so pussy, it's not hard enough.

492
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:54,679
Speaker 1: My mama call it a wet rag.

493
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:01,159
Speaker 2: I got stuff that wet rag man, and like, So

494
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:04,240
Speaker 2: when men are angry sometimes I think that's why, like

495
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 2: if they're just always mad, And he was like, Dad,

496
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:10,920
Speaker 2: why are you just got such a unpleasant disposition all

497
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 2: the time, Because yeah, I get it, because I'll be

498
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 2: a motherfucker.

499
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:23,199
Speaker 1: Too, either it doesn't work or its little. You know.

500
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 1: I always say, like, I just pray to God please

501
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 1: let my son have like it would have to be

502
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:30,479
Speaker 1: no super big dick, just good dick, right, because I

503
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 1: just don't want to deal with a man with low

504
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: self esteem as my child. We'll we talk about this

505
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 1: week child masculinity, bitch, we talk about your niggas something more, y'all,

506
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 1: because we love y'all so much.

507
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:47,640
Speaker 3: It's masculinity in crisis.

508
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 1: And we actually have a guest of a friend of

509
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:53,640
Speaker 1: the show, friend in life on this episode this week,

510
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 1: you know, because we didn't want to be the only

511
00:26:55,560 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 1: ones talking, right, and we also want to active, So

512
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:04,119
Speaker 1: y'all be like, but just don't even know what the

513
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:08,199
Speaker 1: hell you're talking about, but we do, like we've been

514
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: dealing with y'all whole life, literally from daddy on up. Yeah,

515
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 1: I feel like I got a pH d in niggas.

516
00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:18,159
Speaker 2: Okay, No, every time I encounter y'all, I realize I

517
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 2: just don't know what the fuck is going on. So

518
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 2: we'll be right back, y'all. Thank y'all for coming back again.

519
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 1: We got a ball headed special guests.

520
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 4: Thank y'all for having me. Thank you for having me.

521
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 1: Our homeboy, mister Terry Campleton, Elsa's son, Else's son.

522
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:46,640
Speaker 2: We love you, Terry.

523
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 4: Well.

524
00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 1: Me and Terry have been friends and have known each

525
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 1: other from elementary to fucking college.

526
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 4: It's correct, okay, So if.

527
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:57,879
Speaker 1: Anybody know me, I think he might know me a

528
00:27:57,960 --> 00:27:58,399
Speaker 1: little bit.

529
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:02,399
Speaker 2: And listen, he' my friends too. They not just friends

530
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:05,439
Speaker 2: like I met hear him in college and we've been

531
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 2: friends ever since. And this is like the person I

532
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 2: go to anytime I need like relationship advice or I

533
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 2: want to talk to a get a male perspective. I

534
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:16,680
Speaker 2: always called Terry to see what he gotta say. He

535
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:18,159
Speaker 2: always gives me some solid advice.

536
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:19,360
Speaker 4: I appreciate, y'all.

537
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 2: Now, do I take it?

538
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 4: Maybe not?

539
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 1: So you want to follow up on a previous conversation

540
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 1: we had, right we were talking about it really wasn't

541
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 1: about masculinity, but somehow the conversation went in that direction, right,

542
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 1: talking about you know, women and not even about gender

543
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 1: roles just in life, like our positions, what we should

544
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 1: be doing. But today I actually want to talk about like,

545
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 1: do you think masculinity is actually in crisis mode?

546
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:56,080
Speaker 2: But what you mean by crisis though?

547
00:28:58,080 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 1: Is it under attack?

548
00:28:59,480 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 2: Is it just?

549
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 1: Is it just evolving?

550
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:02,200
Speaker 2: Right?

551
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:05,560
Speaker 1: I think women can't really define what masculinity is, right.

552
00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 1: I think I believe men should define amongst their peers

553
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 1: what being a man is and what masculinity actually is.

554
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 3: Right. But I do think it may be evolving a

555
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 3: little bit, because you know.

556
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 2: Women volving is that a word?

557
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 1: Whatever, Something's happening, right, So something is definitely happening. So

558
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 1: we don't know if it's just men, you know, having

559
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 1: more outward emotion nowadays, or sasy opinions sassy friends that

560
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 1: the men and a man expresses emotion. We calling it

561
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 1: a sassy because really, I don't want no nigga stranger

562
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 1: on the internet talk crazy to me in the comments section.

563
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,480
Speaker 3: You're a sassy, My man would never you know what

564
00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 3: I'm saying.

565
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 1: I don't really like niggas that talk.

566
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 2: I told you at the other day. Oh, like damn,

567
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 2: but nigga can't talk.

568
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 4: You see my pinion?

569
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:00,080
Speaker 1: You know he means business. That's the type of and

570
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 1: men I be liking like I like men who make

571
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 1: jokes though I like funny you.

572
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 2: Have a thought to tell a joke?

573
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 1: He do, but not too much telling joke and goes

574
00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 1: to tell and look out for me you thiggas right

575
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:14,880
Speaker 1: up my telling joke, but don't.

576
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 4: Talk to do it, but dance that I be playing

577
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 4: right To answer your question, I don't think masculinity is

578
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 4: in a crisis, but it isn't like in the red area.

579
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. We got to get back

580
00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 4: to the green area.

581
00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 2: And when you say red, what you mean.

582
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:31,720
Speaker 4: Like meaning your fingers should be on the panic button

583
00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 4: because you know, men are becoming a little more publicly emotional.

584
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 4: You know a lot of men don't have no foresight.

585
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 4: You just see men crashing out every day on the internet.

586
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,960
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. And we need to get

587
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 4: back to being men as a whole, being quiet, right, Well,

588
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 4: I wouldn't necessarily say being quiet, So what's.

589
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:56,440
Speaker 2: Wrong with being publicly emotional? Though?

590
00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 3: That's like we not like that.

591
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:02,080
Speaker 4: You know, you got a lot of men who are

592
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 4: arguing with women publicly. You know some of them are

593
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 4: actually physically hitting women, you know what I'm saying, And uh, yeah,

594
00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 4: we gotta get back to being men. And then you

595
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:15,840
Speaker 4: hear a lot of sisters say, you know, black men

596
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 4: don't protect black women. I disagree with that. I think

597
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 4: we do protect black women. It's just you know, Uh,

598
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 4: people just gotta understand when you out, you got to

599
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 4: be mindful of that because you can be harmed trying

600
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 4: to protect somebody that you don't know.

601
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 1: And if it ain't your sister, your mama correct, right right,

602
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:32,760
Speaker 1: But yeah, so.

603
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 2: So wait, if you see a woman outside getting beat,

604
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 2: you not go You're gonna film it or you gonna

605
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 2: try to stop it.

606
00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 4: Oh, I'm definitely not filming it. I'm definitely not filming it.

607
00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,440
Speaker 4: But first of all, somebody can lose their life and

608
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 4: you filming somebody, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, but

609
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 4: I would definitely, uh be mindful of the situation because

610
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 4: you gotta understand situational awareness. If you see a man

611
00:31:57,080 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 4: and a woman arguing and he start, y'all hear that.

612
00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:07,560
Speaker 2: Just burnt on the mic. Listen, we talk about masculine energy.

613
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 1: You ain't got to be a man today, okay, And

614
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 1: it's straight acid because I ain't ship.

615
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 4: Listen. But like I was saying, if you see a

616
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 4: man and a woman arguing outside across the street and

617
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 4: you're a man, don't just go over there and just

618
00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 4: try to be, you know, superhero, because you can lose

619
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 4: your life too. I've seen it. It's best to just

620
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,479
Speaker 4: call the police from where you at.

621
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 2: Niggas is calling the police.

622
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 4: Call the police from where you're at. Listen, because listen,

623
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:39,080
Speaker 4: as a man, you got to make it home to

624
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 4: your family, your mama or your woman, and your kids

625
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 4: a home after that may be, you know, so you

626
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 4: definitely got to think about that before you just go running.

627
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 4: You don't know, men know the level.

628
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 1: Other men will take it to, right, Like women really

629
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: really don't realize when their life in danger sometimes, and

630
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: I think men always like.

631
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 2: A woman would write a woman would put a man's

632
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 2: life in dan in danger unknowingly.

633
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 1: Yes the facts and I can't tell you that would

634
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 1: mind my business. If I saw a man being a

635
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 1: woman like I don't know that I would and help her.

636
00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:16,040
Speaker 4: Just call the police from across the street, Call the police.

637
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 4: I wouldn't.

638
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 2: I'm pop and the something like call.

639
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 4: The police if that's not your loved one or your sister,

640
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 4: your mom.

641
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 2: We can't be like that.

642
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 4: Yess what I'm saying. You can lose your life trying

643
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 4: to save somebody you don't know, and now your mama crying,

644
00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 4: your kids crying, your daddy crying, your aunties and everybody crying.

645
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 4: And he go to jail. And what you think she's

646
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 4: gonna be doing back when he get out, if he

647
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 4: get out, right, she's gonna be answering all them calls,

648
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 4: sending that money and you did you dead?

649
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 1: That could happen with a family member too. You know

650
00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. You could stop your family member from

651
00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 1: getting beat up by they loved the one, by their

652
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 1: boyfriend girlfriend, and it would be the same, the same thing.

653
00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: But you're more inclined to intervene in that situation.

654
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 4: Well that's another thing, right, Like I have a daughter

655
00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 4: and uh, she's only three, but if she when she

656
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:08,800
Speaker 4: gets older, right, let's just say she got a boyfriend

657
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 4: and they get into it, I would tell her before

658
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:20,440
Speaker 4: you call me. You need to think about that because

659
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 4: when I get inlved, when you involve me, that can

660
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 4: go either way. He's a man, like I'm a man.

661
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:29,440
Speaker 4: So if I come over there trying to get some

662
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 4: law in order that can go in his way or

663
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:35,040
Speaker 4: I can go on my way. But you got to

664
00:34:35,080 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 4: think about that because I know how I'm thinking, I'm

665
00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 4: coming home and he probably thinking like you know, So

666
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:45,239
Speaker 4: before anything of that that happens, just leave.

667
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:48,240
Speaker 2: But see when you say that, it makes them scared

668
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:50,320
Speaker 2: to call you, and then maybe they shouldn't, you know,

669
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 2: because like a woman trying to protect trying to protect

670
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 2: you and not protecting herself.

671
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:02,319
Speaker 4: And I hear you. If you are a family member

672
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 4: of mine and you are dating a man and y'all

673
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 4: happen to get into a verbal dispute that could possibly

674
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:15,719
Speaker 4: get physical. Right, however, that may be leave before you

675
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 4: get the other men in your family involved, because again

676
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:21,719
Speaker 4: that can go either way. When your uncle get there,

677
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 4: your brother, or your daddy get there, he a man

678
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,400
Speaker 4: like you, a man, it might not go in your

679
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 4: daddy favor. You might to whoop your daddy.

680
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:29,439
Speaker 2: Dad.

681
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 4: You ain't your daddy is going to protect their doors.

682
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 4: They come in with these strapped.

683
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 1: Story The one time I got hit by a man, right,

684
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: I was on some bullshit and he can't control his

685
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:44,440
Speaker 1: emotion after he'd not been on a lot of bullshit.

686
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 3: Now, all of a sudden, like my bullshit bigger than

687
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 3: your bullshit.

688
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 1: You want to hit me. And then he braced my

689
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:52,800
Speaker 1: cell phones and now and I finally like call my

690
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 1: like literally before he broke the cell phone, like be

691
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 1: driving down the street. You're like, I'm gonna put you

692
00:35:57,760 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 1: in the fucking swamp.

693
00:35:58,640 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 3: This is what he's telling me.

694
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,479
Speaker 1: I called my daddy. I'm like screaming on the phone

695
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,640
Speaker 1: like this nigga says he's gonna kill me for real.

696
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 1: So finally got me to the swamp. He didn't kill me.

697
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:10,240
Speaker 2: He took you to the swamp.

698
00:36:10,400 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 1: He took me to the projects by the swamp. Guy,

699
00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 1: you know the day gyard there in the back of

700
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 1: the graveyard is like water like waste, like like wetlands

701
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:27,719
Speaker 1: and marsh and ship like that. Yeah, he told me

702
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 1: he was about to drop me off there.

703
00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:31,960
Speaker 4: So the best thing for your daddy to do in

704
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 4: that situation.

705
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,120
Speaker 1: I say, my daddy. When I finally called my daddy, once,

706
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 1: I cal him down, like daddy, can't you now come

707
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 1: pick me up because I've since been left where I'm at.

708
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: This is like when he came and got me, he said,

709
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 1: either you're gonna stay or you're gonna leave because if

710
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 1: I get involved, somebody gonna get hurt. This was never

711
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 1: with that person.

712
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:51,280
Speaker 4: In fact, any.

713
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 2: Nigga who drop you off at the swamp, you definitely

714
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: need to where's that the in the project a graveyard? Yeah,

715
00:36:59,160 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 2: you need to go.

716
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 4: Y'all just gotta be a be mindful of certain situations

717
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:07,759
Speaker 4: because before I get you, if everybody know a man

718
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 4: who is somewhat of an abuser, even if he's physically abusing,

719
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 4: or if you verbal warning is, you know, you gotta

720
00:37:15,320 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 4: be able to peep that way before it happened. He

721
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 4: ain't just gonna come over and start smacking.

722
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:19,840
Speaker 2: You know.

723
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 4: He usually be like A I'm not abused, by the way,

724
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 4: but he usually be like A all right, keep playing

725
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 4: with me. I'm gonna show you better. I can tell you.

726
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 4: You see it all the time. I'm telling you I

727
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 4: ain't never hit no woman, And that's on record. I

728
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 4: never hit no woman. But I'm telling you that's what

729
00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:39,880
Speaker 4: it be. And then people ignore those signs and then

730
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:40,399
Speaker 4: next thing.

731
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 2: You know.

732
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 4: What, no no with me.

733
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 1: Like, I'll give y'all what I think masculinely is. I

734
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:56,280
Speaker 1: think uh, a masculine man is calculated he's calm under pressure.

735
00:37:57,680 --> 00:38:00,839
Speaker 1: He's he's a decision maker. He's not and decisive, he's

736
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:04,719
Speaker 1: very decisive. Now, all those characteristics could also be associated

737
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:07,319
Speaker 1: with women, right, So I think to be a well

738
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 1: rounded human you need to embody booth because who wants

739
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:15,480
Speaker 1: a super indecisive woman? You know what I'm saying? Who

740
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:17,880
Speaker 1: wants a woman who can't ever make a decision? On

741
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:21,200
Speaker 1: the food conversation, like how we supposedly never know we

742
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 1: want to eat. We always know we want to eat.

743
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 1: We just don't know how much y'all can afford. Okay,

744
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:28,520
Speaker 1: we just don't know where we can eat at, but

745
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 1: we always know where you know, me and my homegirls

746
00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 1: like to eat that we always know who you want

747
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 1: to eat.

748
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 2: I don't always know where I want to eat. Sometimes

749
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 2: I want you to you know you pick you.

750
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 4: Pick it well? If you if you if I know

751
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 4: you like seafood, We're gonna go to a seafoodstaurant. You

752
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 4: might not know what you want when you get there,

753
00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 4: but I know where we're going. You know what I'm says,

754
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 4: I know whe we're going steakhouse. But to me, masculine

755
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 4: that he means man. So many things they don't have

756
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 4: anything to do with being like tough and hard and

757
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 4: nothing like that. It's just a man who can, you know,

758
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 4: regulate his emotions, one who can think under pressure, and

759
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 4: one who could be vulnerable because being being vulnerable takes strength.

760
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 4: A lot of men don't realize that, like they think, oh,

761
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:25,399
Speaker 4: you know, to be all stoic and strong. No, that's

762
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:26,360
Speaker 4: not masculated to me.

763
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think a lot of men associate vulnerability with weakness.

764
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:34,640
Speaker 4: You know, it's all about it's all really, it's really

765
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 4: about being able to articulate yourself so the other person

766
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 4: understands you, and controlling your emotions. That's very masculine to me.

767
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,719
Speaker 2: Yeah. But strength don't have nothing to do with masculinity

768
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:45,920
Speaker 2: at all.

769
00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 4: Physical strength, no, no, no, But to be vulnerable takes strength,

770
00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:52,840
Speaker 4: internal strength.

771
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:53,800
Speaker 2: Like mental strength.

772
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:55,359
Speaker 4: Yeah that too.

773
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 2: Yeah hmm, I don't know because I need.

774
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:02,839
Speaker 4: Yeah, listen right, open his jar listen, Yeah, he can

775
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 4: open the jaw. That's just being strong. I don't have

776
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:08,839
Speaker 4: nothing to do with being masculinity. Being masculine. You got

777
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:11,759
Speaker 4: a guy, You can have a guy that's brawlic go

778
00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:14,480
Speaker 4: to the gym every day, super strong, but very feminine.

779
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:16,799
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, you see what I'm saying. So, yeah, they

780
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 4: don't have anything to do with strength.

781
00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 1: Why first of all, listen, this is not masculine. Why

782
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 1: your whole thigh out? The hoochi daddy short, I love him?

783
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 1: What do you want that? Yes, if you're not playing soccer,

784
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:33,959
Speaker 1: he would not want to see you with your whole

785
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:34,719
Speaker 1: thigh out.

786
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,320
Speaker 2: No, I like it because I like you're eating the legs,

787
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:40,479
Speaker 2: them strong legs like nice.

788
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:41,719
Speaker 4: I like.

789
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:44,920
Speaker 1: I do like legs. Now, you just got like a

790
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 1: little little sperm tadpole body.

791
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:49,839
Speaker 2: But I don't buy the neighborhood no fat ass though,

792
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:51,759
Speaker 2: Like I don't want his ass to be fat as mine.

793
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:55,799
Speaker 1: But I like the big legs and a nice bath.

794
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:05,480
Speaker 2: So I got a question. Is society striven men of

795
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:08,359
Speaker 2: purpose or liberating them? Oh?

796
00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 4: Man, that's a great question. Yeah. Yeah, because you got

797
00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:15,320
Speaker 4: a lot of women out here telling men how to

798
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 4: be men, you know, and social media isn't making it

799
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 4: any better. So we have to get back to being men.

800
00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:25,239
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. If you are, and a

801
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 4: lot of women always say that, oh, bring back the men.

802
00:41:27,080 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 4: You're right, we got to bring back the men.

803
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 1: But in order to bring back that mean when we

804
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:32,360
Speaker 1: say that, what do you what do I know? We

805
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 1: mean when we say that men here, what men here is?

806
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 4: Ain't no men out here good enough like our granddaddy's.

807
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 4: That's what they hear as a whole, that's what they hear.

808
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:48,799
Speaker 4: But the men out here, we just have to bring

809
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:51,239
Speaker 4: them back as a whole, bring back strong you know,

810
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:56,279
Speaker 4: men who can think, you know. But in order to

811
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,800
Speaker 4: bring back masculine, strong men who can lead, we have

812
00:41:59,880 --> 00:42:02,439
Speaker 4: to bring back the respectable, respectable women.

813
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 2: So you wait a minute now, So you don't think

814
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 2: respectable women exist, No.

815
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:12,319
Speaker 4: They're out here, it's just at a minimal they're out here.

816
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:15,439
Speaker 4: But there's a lot of disrespectful women out here that Oh.

817
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:19,520
Speaker 1: Wait, wait, you said not respectable. You mean disrespectful because respectable.

818
00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 1: That just because you are disrespectful doesn't mean you're not respectable, right,

819
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, Like you are you mean like

820
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 1: women like women respect men.

821
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 4: Who respect me? Correct, that's what we have. In order

822
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 4: for us to get back to that, we have to

823
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:41,279
Speaker 4: bring back the women who respect men. We have to

824
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:41,799
Speaker 4: bring that back.

825
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 1: So why do you think that the that there's a

826
00:42:44,040 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 1: lack of respect for men? Yeah, like, collectively why do

827
00:42:48,160 --> 00:42:52,040
Speaker 1: you You obviously feel like there's you said that there's

828
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,880
Speaker 1: a little bit of women out here who actually respect men.

829
00:42:54,920 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 1: But why why do you feel like that? And do

830
00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:58,919
Speaker 1: you get disrespected by women in your day to day life?

831
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 4: No, no, I do not, And I feel like, well,

832
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:06,560
Speaker 4: this is really a feeling, you know, in my line

833
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 4: of my In my line of work, I talk to

834
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:09,839
Speaker 4: men every day every day.

835
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 1: I mean, so he's like your barber's favorite barber.

836
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, this is your new barber right here? Yeah,

837
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:17,240
Speaker 2: he in Colombia.

838
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 4: Okay, new barber right here.

839
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, y'all more committed to like he.

840
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:24,880
Speaker 4: I don't even my barber. I don't know that negative

841
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:27,360
Speaker 4: be committed to the barber. No, I ain't gonna lie

842
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:29,240
Speaker 4: committed to barber.

843
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 2: But go ahead. What are he's saying?

844
00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 4: In my line of work, I talked to about two

845
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:38,839
Speaker 4: thousand men a year, maybe more, and they all say

846
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,880
Speaker 4: the same thing. They all say the same thing. Respect

847
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 4: is number one. I've said it. Respect is number one.

848
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:51,239
Speaker 4: Once we lost that, you lose the man.

849
00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 2: Well why do you think the women have lost respect? Though?

850
00:43:55,960 --> 00:44:01,560
Speaker 4: You know, because how the world to shape is telling

851
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 4: women who to tell men how to be men? We

852
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 4: gotta get in order for the man to come back.

853
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 4: We got to in order to bring back the real

854
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 4: strong men that we used to be, we also have

855
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 4: to bring back the women who respects those men.

856
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 2: I feel like those men were providers though they were

857
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 2: and they still are here, but it's at a minimum. Yeah,

858
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 2: that's what I'm saying, Like women minimal respect is because

859
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:30,800
Speaker 2: there's minimal providers.

860
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:34,279
Speaker 4: All right. See, the thing is about provision. I hope

861
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:40,839
Speaker 4: y'all don't think provision is just like money. No, we don't, Okay, cool,

862
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:46,919
Speaker 4: So in my opinion, providing or provision is a man

863
00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 4: who can lead you be a life manager, you know

864
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 4: what I'm saying, Like a man who can come in

865
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 4: and he can be considered of how you feel and

866
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 4: and for the batterment of the house. You see what

867
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 4: I'm saying.

868
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 2: So where they're doing that though.

869
00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 1: I'm listen, they will.

870
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 4: Men are doing it. Men will do it. I'm telling

871
00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 4: you in order for if you want a man too,

872
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:18,960
Speaker 4: and I hate to get him a man woman thing,

873
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:20,719
Speaker 4: but if you want as why.

874
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 1: Brought you here?

875
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 4: All right? If you want to know, I'm like the

876
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:27,319
Speaker 4: man versus woman. That's why you hear what's The thing

877
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 4: is right, if you want a man to move or

878
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 4: perform the way you want him to, you gotta speak

879
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:38,000
Speaker 4: that at him. I'm telling you he will.

880
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 2: Do it sometimes because listen, listen. No, let's think about

881
00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:44,400
Speaker 2: some of the guys that we know personally. I can

882
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:48,879
Speaker 2: think of one of your friends, okay, and he ain't

883
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 2: ship and he lying, he got a woman at the house,

884
00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 2: a pregnant woman at the house, and always in different

885
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:57,200
Speaker 2: bitches in box and d ms and he's just a

886
00:45:57,400 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 2: straight sociopath liar. And that's your homeboy. I'm sure that

887
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 2: woman over there is speaking all kind of life to

888
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:10,839
Speaker 2: him and he's still outside of doing the word.

889
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:13,880
Speaker 1: That's this part, right. Remember on another episode when I

890
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:17,800
Speaker 1: said that there are things that I discovered about myself,

891
00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 1: like like not being able to be as thoughtful as

892
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 1: other people are. But another is I understand that most

893
00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:28,840
Speaker 1: men like one of their major love languages is words

894
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 1: of affirmation. But for me now I give men affirmations off.

895
00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 1: I affirm men all the time. Right, But when I'm

896
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:43,279
Speaker 1: like I have struggled with a partner right who I

897
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:47,520
Speaker 1: have felt like I've been mistreated by and different things,

898
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 1: and then they would start doing well, right, I can't

899
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:52,840
Speaker 1: get into the position of like.

900
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 2: Affirming them.

901
00:46:55,239 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 1: Yes, I can't because you've broken me. I'm saying, I can't.

902
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:02,840
Speaker 1: I can't. I don't even I don't know how do.

903
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:03,759
Speaker 3: I affirm ye?

904
00:47:03,960 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 4: Like, how do I? Now you don't have You don't

905
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 4: have the capability to affirm him at that moment, you

906
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:10,839
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. So you need to articulate how

907
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,560
Speaker 4: you what's going on with you so he can understand.

908
00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 4: It's just all about understanding communication. That's it.

909
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:19,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I know that's how you that's that is

910
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:21,320
Speaker 1: definitely how you get men to do well right. That

911
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 1: women are the muse right, So, like I was telling

912
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:29,439
Speaker 1: Thomas Early, like, no woman, no black women, right, because

913
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:31,719
Speaker 1: that's who we are. We are not asking men to

914
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 1: have everything together together today. We are asking you to

915
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:38,200
Speaker 1: let me see the progress. I need you to actively

916
00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:41,840
Speaker 1: be working towards some giving me the soft life. And

917
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:44,319
Speaker 1: I feel like, like I always say, there's two type

918
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 1: of men, Like there's either a man who feeds his

919
00:47:46,719 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 1: ego through how many women he can have sex with,

920
00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:50,960
Speaker 1: and then there's the man who feeds his ego by

921
00:47:51,040 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 1: how many people he can take care of. And That's

922
00:47:53,760 --> 00:47:54,600
Speaker 1: that's the man I like.

923
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:56,280
Speaker 2: Is that the only two types.

924
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:58,480
Speaker 4: See, the thing is about that second guy that you

925
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 4: just described. While that man is there making sure everybody

926
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 4: around him is straight, the kids, the woman, the in laws,

927
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 4: his mother, he filling up everybody else. Cut he has

928
00:48:12,200 --> 00:48:15,239
Speaker 4: moments where he gets weak, you know, and feel a

929
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:18,040
Speaker 4: little inadequate, you know what I'm saying. So it has

930
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 4: to be like a reservoir. Like while he's filling everybody

931
00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:22,520
Speaker 4: else up, you got to be filling him up, you know,

932
00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 4: because when he starts to lack in certain areas, you know,

933
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:27,799
Speaker 4: I got to help that brother lift him up.

934
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:28,759
Speaker 2: You know.

935
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 4: That's why, like you said, men like words of affirmation.

936
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 4: Tell him how great of a man he is. Hey, babe,

937
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 4: you know I think you are a great guy. Just

938
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 4: say it, put it right in the car. And what

939
00:48:40,440 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 4: if he has subject if.

940
00:48:41,560 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 3: He hasn't been being a great guy, That's what I'm saying.

941
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 1: So now you try, Adam, what's wrong with him?

942
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,879
Speaker 4: That's what's going on. But don't sound like his mother,

943
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:50,359
Speaker 4: you see what I'm saying.

944
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:51,840
Speaker 2: So Okay, how do you do that?

945
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:59,239
Speaker 4: Get it out, Get it out, Get it out, get

946
00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 4: it out, you know, be a woman. You are a woman.

947
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:07,279
Speaker 4: But you know that's what the femininity, that's what the

948
00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 4: femininity is.

949
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:13,719
Speaker 2: It's the second time something about me being a woman today.

950
00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:18,799
Speaker 4: Be a woman? Like, come on, man, what does that mean?

951
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 4: I can't tell y'all what a woman as y'all are

952
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 4: to you? Lester being meaning, be assertive and say it

953
00:49:29,200 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 4: with your chest. What's going on? How you feel? That's

954
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:32,120
Speaker 4: all I'm saying.

955
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:35,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, but soft though, right, soft and little tone.

956
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 4: Listen, you don't have to coddle the man. You know

957
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 4: what I'm saying. I can tell you sometimes sneak that

958
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 4: man grown you grown, Just speak. You don't curse or

959
00:49:45,840 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 4: yell at him because you're not going to get no response.

960
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:49,959
Speaker 1: You've had a conversation with somebody and you just feel

961
00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:54,440
Speaker 1: like they intentionally disagree or intentionally not to understand. Oh yes,

962
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:58,520
Speaker 1: that's when I start yelling. I do start off regular, yes,

963
00:49:59,080 --> 00:50:01,200
Speaker 1: but then when you when I feel like I didn't

964
00:50:01,719 --> 00:50:04,319
Speaker 1: repeat the same thing multiple times.

965
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:06,879
Speaker 2: And someone's committed to misunderstanding.

966
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:09,080
Speaker 1: It frustrated And now I'm screaming because I feel like

967
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:13,160
Speaker 1: you're a hell bent on misunderstands. See, some people are

968
00:50:13,239 --> 00:50:16,879
Speaker 1: not taking accountability right and I am in a place

969
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 1: now to where I'm no longer like really trying to

970
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:21,320
Speaker 1: Like we speak very broadly on this podcast, but in

971
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:24,399
Speaker 1: my personal life, I am no longer trying to force

972
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:28,319
Speaker 1: people to take accountability, right. That is not my job, right,

973
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 1: and I don't want nobody trying to force me to

974
00:50:29,960 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 1: take accountability for shit either. We should all take accountability

975
00:50:34,080 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 1: right and do the things that we know people expect

976
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:39,960
Speaker 1: of us, right, you know, especially in a relationship, you

977
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 1: know people have expectations, your partner has expectations.

978
00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:46,040
Speaker 4: It's my first time I ever hearing women say that

979
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:49,040
Speaker 4: accountability we should take it.

980
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 2: You've never heard a woman say she should take accountabilities.

981
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:55,600
Speaker 1: Terry, you lying.

982
00:50:55,760 --> 00:50:59,240
Speaker 4: Don't get out here, y'all boy, Accountability like the matrix

983
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 4: man like I.

984
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 1: Accountability look like to you.

985
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:12,160
Speaker 4: Own your ship. Listen, if we're together, it's all about correction.

986
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:14,680
Speaker 4: You can correct me, adjust me, and I can do

987
00:51:14,760 --> 00:51:17,279
Speaker 4: the same for you. It's about respect, own your ship,

988
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:18,719
Speaker 4: and we're gonna be all right.

989
00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:21,359
Speaker 2: So you feel like women never own their ship.

990
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:26,719
Speaker 1: I feel like sometimes I've never been with a man

991
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:29,800
Speaker 1: who actually like took accountability that I feel.

992
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:33,880
Speaker 4: That was a protest to the protests you know what

993
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 4: I'm saying because I let me tell you. She asked

994
00:51:36,520 --> 00:51:39,000
Speaker 4: about the women. He said, this.

995
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:42,759
Speaker 1: Is that is something that I'm working on, right, not

996
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:46,320
Speaker 1: allowing other peoples, uh what they're doing and their emotions

997
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:51,080
Speaker 1: to affect mine, right or like trying to stay even killed.

998
00:51:51,719 --> 00:51:55,319
Speaker 1: So if I'm asking, if I I feel like I've

999
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:58,520
Speaker 1: always been, uh, men want you to take accountability for

1000
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 1: your bullshit. But they they will never, like even with cheating, right,

1001
00:52:04,160 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 1: you can ask them a thousand times, Hey, you already know, right,

1002
00:52:08,520 --> 00:52:10,320
Speaker 1: did you do this? You know this girl? No? No,

1003
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:12,279
Speaker 1: they line in line, line till the bitch come knock

1004
00:52:12,320 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 1: on the door, so.

1005
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:16,120
Speaker 2: You never and the bitch standing right there she ay,

1006
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:18,359
Speaker 2: I that's not even a real bitch right there, close

1007
00:52:18,440 --> 00:52:18,719
Speaker 2: the door.

1008
00:52:19,719 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 1: They will never take accountability, so they I feel like collectively,

1009
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:25,759
Speaker 1: men are requiring something from women that they never offer.

1010
00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 4: I strongly disagree. I strongly disagree. I had a conversation

1011
00:52:29,560 --> 00:52:31,200
Speaker 4: with one of my one of my boys the other

1012
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 4: day about this, and we both said the same thing, like,

1013
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:39,360
Speaker 4: I've noticed that men actually have been taken full accountability

1014
00:52:39,440 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 4: for their actions lately, even with men men each other

1015
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:46,239
Speaker 4: all together, like men hold men accountable when you do

1016
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:50,000
Speaker 4: some goofy shit, men be like, hey, yeah, you're right, brauh.

1017
00:52:50,719 --> 00:52:52,200
Speaker 4: You know sometimes when you when you're.

1018
00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 2: Talking to one of your so why you don't hold

1019
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 2: that guy accountable that I mentioned?

1020
00:52:58,280 --> 00:53:00,319
Speaker 1: They don't hold each other accountable, not for.

1021
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:03,080
Speaker 2: Real, all right? You know what what I will say,

1022
00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 2: Like in the nineties, black men could be bad fathers

1023
00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:09,960
Speaker 2: and they will still have homeboys. But I feel like,

1024
00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 2: now you niggas ain't fucking with you if you don't

1025
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 2: take care of your kids. That is something y'all do

1026
00:53:15,600 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 2: hold each other accountable about. And I think it's because

1027
00:53:18,600 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 2: we grew up without absentee parents. A lot of us

1028
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:24,400
Speaker 2: grew up with an absentee father. So Black men are

1029
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:27,080
Speaker 2: more holding each other more accountable for that. So I

1030
00:53:27,120 --> 00:53:29,279
Speaker 2: will agree there. But outside of that, when it comes

1031
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:31,880
Speaker 2: to cheating and ship like that, y'all don't hold each

1032
00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 2: other accountable for that.

1033
00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:40,600
Speaker 1: Y'all just get warning sitting man down and say, hey,

1034
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:41,239
Speaker 1: you sucking up.

1035
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:45,279
Speaker 4: I'm telling you, I'm around the men. I'm telling you

1036
00:53:45,320 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 4: what what we're saying your mom, I'm around them. Listen.

1037
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:52,400
Speaker 4: If you got a dude who's your home boy m hm,

1038
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:54,040
Speaker 4: and he's cheating like.

1039
00:53:54,080 --> 00:53:56,920
Speaker 2: You said, right, I'm about to go ahead. I'm listening.

1040
00:53:57,719 --> 00:54:00,759
Speaker 4: If he know your woman, right, he liked her like

1041
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:02,319
Speaker 4: I like her for you. She's a sweet woman.

1042
00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:03,719
Speaker 2: Trust me.

1043
00:54:03,800 --> 00:54:05,359
Speaker 4: He's going to be like, hey, bro, you're fucking up something.

1044
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 4: You're sucking up a good thing. You're fucking up. But

1045
00:54:08,360 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 4: a lot of niggas have reasoning like, man, I'm doing

1046
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 4: it because of this. She don't give me no attention now.

1047
00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:14,959
Speaker 2: But you're not gonna not funck with a nigga because

1048
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:17,320
Speaker 2: he a cheater. You're not gonna stop being cool with you.

1049
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:19,839
Speaker 4: What will you stop sucking with your home girl?

1050
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:22,720
Speaker 2: Because she absolutely My friends do not need we're cheating

1051
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:29,839
Speaker 2: with you, man, please absolutely. First of all, I could

1052
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:31,800
Speaker 2: be appalled to hear that my friend is cheating.

1053
00:54:32,920 --> 00:54:33,800
Speaker 3: Are you talking about that?

1054
00:54:33,880 --> 00:54:35,160
Speaker 4: It's crazy with camera.

1055
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:39,360
Speaker 1: Black women don't.

1056
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 4: Cheat, alrighty, brothers don't cheat either, But no, all jo side,

1057
00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:49,080
Speaker 4: listen back to accountability, own your ship and we're gonna

1058
00:54:49,080 --> 00:54:50,600
Speaker 4: be all right. What's it?

1059
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:54,840
Speaker 2: Everybody? That's it? Just on your stick with question.

1060
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:58,040
Speaker 4: And I'm telling you from a man's response on your

1061
00:54:58,080 --> 00:54:59,960
Speaker 4: ship and we'll be alright. Same thing for the brothers.

1062
00:55:00,680 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 4: Men do hold men accountable.

1063
00:55:02,840 --> 00:55:06,360
Speaker 1: So okay, if maline, if masculinity is not in crisis,

1064
00:55:06,520 --> 00:55:10,200
Speaker 1: it obviously we said, it's like it's changing, right.

1065
00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 2: More.

1066
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:16,880
Speaker 1: And then also you have more men like having uh,

1067
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:22,040
Speaker 1: emotional intelligence? But Tammy, do you think women are actually

1068
00:55:22,120 --> 00:55:29,000
Speaker 1: ready for emotional intelligent men? Why do you know what

1069
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 1: I want?

1070
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:32,480
Speaker 2: I don't think oftentimes, no, women are not ready. But

1071
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:34,640
Speaker 2: that's because they're not used to it. You know, they're

1072
00:55:34,680 --> 00:55:36,799
Speaker 2: not used to it. I give you something, a little

1073
00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:39,759
Speaker 2: something for that, all right. And then we're quick to

1074
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:45,400
Speaker 2: call them sassy when they say when they are displayed emotionally.

1075
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:49,480
Speaker 1: Intelligent, you sassy. That's what random men. That's not for

1076
00:55:49,760 --> 00:55:52,160
Speaker 1: like men in my day to day life. A random

1077
00:55:52,200 --> 00:55:54,840
Speaker 1: man on the internet rambling like somebody, some men have

1078
00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 1: said some of the worst things to me on the

1079
00:55:56,600 --> 00:56:00,239
Speaker 1: internet out I could be your sister, your mom. I'm like,

1080
00:56:00,320 --> 00:56:03,200
Speaker 1: what if somebody else was disrespect somebody else is disrespecting

1081
00:56:03,280 --> 00:56:05,000
Speaker 1: your mom the same way you're doing me right now

1082
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:12,439
Speaker 1: for no reason, just like unwarranted unsolicited disrespect. Right. Yeah,

1083
00:56:12,480 --> 00:56:14,839
Speaker 1: but that is a small sample size of how these

1084
00:56:14,920 --> 00:56:16,880
Speaker 1: men are probably in their real lives.

1085
00:56:19,719 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 2: Not emotional intelligence though, that's just disrespectful ass.

1086
00:56:24,239 --> 00:56:27,880
Speaker 1: A safety by sassy like women pop off quick. I

1087
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:30,480
Speaker 1: don't expect men to just be popping off quick. You

1088
00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:33,360
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying and writing me a paragraph and

1089
00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:38,279
Speaker 1: they don't know me, Like, what's happening? Go chop wood

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00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:40,840
Speaker 1: that one, nigga, like we talk whoever he is. We

1091
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 1: need him on the show because I just want to

1092
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:44,520
Speaker 1: touch him. That man with that good here looking like.

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00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:46,359
Speaker 2: You can't eating fruit and chopping.

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00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:49,360
Speaker 1: Wood, wood biting in the watermelons, And.

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00:56:50,880 --> 00:56:51,640
Speaker 2: That's very nice.

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00:56:53,120 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 4: Go chop wood, chopping wood every.

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00:56:57,440 --> 00:57:01,000
Speaker 1: Day, niggas. I like men who chopoda.

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00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:04,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I don't know if we are ready for

1099
00:57:05,640 --> 00:57:09,720
Speaker 2: a truly and emotional, emotionally intelligent man. But that's because

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00:57:09,760 --> 00:57:10,480
Speaker 2: half the time we not.

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00:57:10,719 --> 00:57:12,200
Speaker 4: I can response to that.

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00:57:12,480 --> 00:57:13,279
Speaker 2: Go ahead, let's hear it.

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00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:22,160
Speaker 4: If a woman have never experienced that, meaning forget a relationship,

1104
00:57:22,280 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 4: if she never see her father be an emotionally intelligent

1105
00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:29,320
Speaker 4: man to her mother, or an uncle to an aunt,

1106
00:57:29,800 --> 00:57:33,520
Speaker 4: or maybe a boyfriend to assist it. She says she

1107
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:35,920
Speaker 4: wants that, but when she gets it, it can be

1108
00:57:35,960 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 4: a little bit too much. You know, Oh damn, this

1109
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 4: man really communicates, you know, he thinks he processes his thoughts,

1110
00:57:43,200 --> 00:57:46,040
Speaker 4: he cycles through all the emotions, you know, and he's

1111
00:57:46,560 --> 00:57:48,960
Speaker 4: he's coming to me. He's shooting from the hip like boom.

1112
00:57:49,320 --> 00:57:51,320
Speaker 4: That could be too much for somebody that never had that,

1113
00:57:51,600 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying. You ask for that, but

1114
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:57,640
Speaker 4: you never had another man to use as a as

1115
00:57:57,640 --> 00:58:00,200
Speaker 4: a measure into as what that is. When you get it,

1116
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:03,640
Speaker 4: it's like WHOA, this is too much, you know, so

1117
00:58:03,720 --> 00:58:07,360
Speaker 4: they might deflect or run like I don't want to

1118
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:08,880
Speaker 4: talk about it right now. It could be too much.

1119
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 4: It could be overwhelming, you know what I'm saying.

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00:58:10,480 --> 00:58:12,440
Speaker 2: Let me tell you what I do. As soon as

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00:58:12,520 --> 00:58:14,360
Speaker 2: I find like I'm talking to a man who has

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00:58:14,400 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 2: a very strong emotional intelligence, I use chat GPT to

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00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 2: give me sigres conversation. Listen, I'll write down my no, listen,

1124
00:58:23,120 --> 00:58:25,960
Speaker 2: I'll write down my feelings and then I'll go to

1125
00:58:26,080 --> 00:58:29,760
Speaker 2: chat GPT and they'll say, please write this more eloquently

1126
00:58:29,840 --> 00:58:30,080
Speaker 2: for me.

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00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:33,520
Speaker 1: But intelligence, that's not no.

1128
00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:35,240
Speaker 2: But I'm just saying, like scared of it.

1129
00:58:35,520 --> 00:58:36,000
Speaker 4: No, I'm not.

1130
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:38,880
Speaker 2: I am sad at nothing, but I'm just no. I

1131
00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:40,840
Speaker 2: know what to say, but sometimes I can't get the

1132
00:58:40,920 --> 00:58:46,920
Speaker 2: words out correctly. So chat gt wrong way so recently,

1133
00:58:47,680 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 2: So chat GPT don't help y'all express better. I used

1134
00:58:51,400 --> 00:58:52,640
Speaker 2: at all the time.

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00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:57,280
Speaker 1: Don't because if chaty, if chat GPT, if chat GPT

1136
00:58:57,560 --> 00:58:58,760
Speaker 1: is formulating your.

1137
00:58:58,680 --> 00:59:02,840
Speaker 2: Thoughts, it's not formulated my thoughts, it's just displaying it

1138
00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:04,480
Speaker 2: a better in a better way.

1139
00:59:04,760 --> 00:59:08,160
Speaker 1: It's fanasy because when you gotta have an actual conversation

1140
00:59:08,320 --> 00:59:09,080
Speaker 1: with this person.

1141
00:59:14,160 --> 00:59:16,000
Speaker 2: My thoughts, it's just said better.

1142
00:59:16,160 --> 00:59:20,560
Speaker 1: So my home girl, she rad some ship her baby

1143
00:59:20,640 --> 00:59:24,600
Speaker 1: daddy sent her, and I said, put what you said

1144
00:59:24,640 --> 00:59:27,720
Speaker 1: to him and chat GPT and see what it gives you.

1145
00:59:28,280 --> 00:59:31,880
Speaker 1: It gave his exact text message, so.

1146
00:59:32,120 --> 00:59:35,600
Speaker 2: He just had chat GPT respond for him. Yes, that's

1147
00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:36,200
Speaker 2: not what I did.

1148
00:59:36,600 --> 00:59:39,240
Speaker 1: Put her text in there and they gave it chat GPT.

1149
00:59:39,760 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 2: That's different. That's that's different. I'll I'll write my own

1150
00:59:43,600 --> 00:59:47,919
Speaker 2: message and then I'll say make this we gonna added

1151
00:59:48,000 --> 00:59:48,480
Speaker 2: that part up.

1152
00:59:48,480 --> 00:59:49,240
Speaker 1: We don't want niggas.

1153
00:59:50,520 --> 00:59:52,640
Speaker 2: Niggas already use it to communicate.

1154
00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 4: No, No, I haven't. I never. I don't even have

1155
00:59:55,360 --> 00:59:56,040
Speaker 4: that apple my phone.

1156
00:59:56,280 --> 00:59:58,400
Speaker 2: A lot of people do. You'll be surprised how many

1157
00:59:58,440 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 2: people are using the conversation to communicate their thoughts. More eloquently. Yes,

1158
01:00:03,480 --> 01:00:04,280
Speaker 2: that's I.

1159
01:00:04,320 --> 01:00:09,720
Speaker 1: Think that where we're definitely digressing as a people. And

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01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 1: if we're gonna use AI and in that.

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01:00:12,360 --> 01:00:13,680
Speaker 2: Way and they use an AI for.

1162
01:00:13,720 --> 01:00:16,880
Speaker 1: Everything, Yeah, but not to have day to day conversations.

1163
01:00:16,920 --> 01:00:21,080
Speaker 1: I'm not using AI, like, not to formulate a response

1164
01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:23,880
Speaker 1: to somebody saying something to me. I'm not even to

1165
01:00:23,960 --> 01:00:26,320
Speaker 1: say it different like I'm gonna say it how it's

1166
01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:29,360
Speaker 1: gonna be authentically me and my thoughts and my words

1167
01:00:29,440 --> 01:00:31,160
Speaker 1: when I see it too, you know what I'm saying,

1168
01:00:31,200 --> 01:00:33,800
Speaker 1: Because I feel like then you still gotta have a

1169
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:36,680
Speaker 1: real conversation with this person. So it can sound eloquent

1170
01:00:36,800 --> 01:00:39,680
Speaker 1: via text, but then you having a conversation with them,

1171
01:00:39,720 --> 01:00:40,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, who the fuck is that?

1172
01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:42,920
Speaker 2: It's not? I don't think I have to show you

1173
01:00:42,960 --> 01:00:45,240
Speaker 2: an example. Yeah, I can see it. So it's not

1174
01:00:45,600 --> 01:00:48,480
Speaker 2: like they're changing. It's the same sentence. It's just worded

1175
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:51,959
Speaker 2: in a way that it could be understanding better, maybe

1176
01:00:52,120 --> 01:00:55,840
Speaker 2: my the way I'm saying it. Like, so yeah, like

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01:00:55,960 --> 01:00:59,080
Speaker 2: we are flawed in communication, you know that, right? Even

1178
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:01,720
Speaker 2: just on this part cast today, there's things that we've

1179
01:01:01,760 --> 01:01:05,400
Speaker 2: said that may be misconstrued between just the three of

1180
01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:08,919
Speaker 2: us and sometimes using AI will help it come across better.

1181
01:01:10,240 --> 01:01:15,640
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, I don't know. I don't know.

1182
01:01:15,800 --> 01:01:16,120
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1183
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:18,000
Speaker 2: I have you have you had a I'll sell you

1184
01:01:18,040 --> 01:01:19,840
Speaker 2: an example. I did it last night. Yeah.

1185
01:01:20,600 --> 01:01:24,840
Speaker 4: I try to talk and text. How I read? You

1186
01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:28,400
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. You know how I read?

1187
01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:31,600
Speaker 2: Oh? Then, boy about the Obama's in it?

1188
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,360
Speaker 3: That's about to blow us up?

1189
01:01:38,440 --> 01:01:41,600
Speaker 2: You talk like that, Gosh, I definitely do that.

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01:01:42,080 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 4: Slow down.

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01:01:43,360 --> 01:01:47,520
Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio.

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01:01:47,680 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 1: And so are you in therapy?

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01:01:49,120 --> 01:01:52,400
Speaker 4: Yes, ma'am? I am. You said that with confidence?

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01:01:53,160 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 1: Yes, in therapy?

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01:01:55,080 --> 01:02:00,480
Speaker 4: Uh, consistently about nine months nine and strong.

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01:02:00,720 --> 01:02:03,080
Speaker 1: So what was the trigger to go to therapy? Because

1197
01:02:03,080 --> 01:02:06,840
Speaker 1: I feel like that is probably what we women work

1198
01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:09,280
Speaker 1: on their little things, right. We are working on ourselves

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01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:13,760
Speaker 1: right every day, Like you know what I'm saying. I

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01:02:13,880 --> 01:02:15,880
Speaker 1: reflect first thing in the morning, I think about the

1201
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:18,160
Speaker 1: previous day, you know what I'm saying, and then what

1202
01:02:18,240 --> 01:02:20,000
Speaker 1: I could have done different if I had a situation

1203
01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:22,320
Speaker 1: like most of my days have been stupid nowadays. But

1204
01:02:23,040 --> 01:02:26,520
Speaker 1: you know, I just do a lot of and inshrooms. Also,

1205
01:02:26,920 --> 01:02:32,440
Speaker 1: have you having a lot of introspective, introspective thinking, you know,

1206
01:02:32,640 --> 01:02:36,040
Speaker 1: talking to yourself, having a lot of conference calls with yourself,

1207
01:02:36,520 --> 01:02:39,000
Speaker 1: picking through your own mental health. So what trigger were

1208
01:02:39,040 --> 01:02:40,040
Speaker 1: you to go to therapy?

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01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:43,760
Speaker 4: What triggered me to go to therapy was me being

1210
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:48,080
Speaker 4: uncertain about me being the greatest version of myself for me.

1211
01:02:48,880 --> 01:02:50,120
Speaker 4: You know, if I can't be that for me, I

1212
01:02:50,160 --> 01:02:52,440
Speaker 4: can't be that for nobody else. So that was my trigger.

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01:02:53,760 --> 01:02:55,080
Speaker 2: How has it been going great?

1214
01:02:55,600 --> 01:03:03,720
Speaker 4: Great? I'm learning to express myself freely without wondering how

1215
01:03:03,800 --> 01:03:06,840
Speaker 4: that may make the person feel. One thing I learned

1216
01:03:06,880 --> 01:03:10,160
Speaker 4: in therapy is to never make other people problems become

1217
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:15,200
Speaker 4: your problem. Yes, because what do you mean me myself?

1218
01:03:15,360 --> 01:03:19,480
Speaker 4: My therapist said that I can be a people pleaser, right,

1219
01:03:20,000 --> 01:03:24,160
Speaker 4: Sometimes I can openly extend myself for others. And you know,

1220
01:03:24,280 --> 01:03:27,439
Speaker 4: even though I want to say no to somebody, I'd

1221
01:03:27,480 --> 01:03:29,520
Speaker 4: be like, okay, y'all, I do it because I don't

1222
01:03:29,520 --> 01:03:29,760
Speaker 4: want to.

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01:03:29,720 --> 01:03:32,520
Speaker 1: Disappoint today with this podcast.

1224
01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:35,720
Speaker 4: I didn't think when she called me that was just

1225
01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:37,360
Speaker 4: a let me think, okay.

1226
01:03:37,200 --> 01:03:41,360
Speaker 2: Do so wait when I came over your house like

1227
01:03:41,440 --> 01:03:43,640
Speaker 2: two weeks ago and I ate that food that your

1228
01:03:43,640 --> 01:03:46,560
Speaker 2: aunt made, was you just being a people pleaser, because

1229
01:03:46,880 --> 01:03:47,400
Speaker 2: you could.

1230
01:03:47,240 --> 01:03:48,000
Speaker 4: Have kept that meal.

1231
01:03:48,840 --> 01:03:48,880
Speaker 1: No.

1232
01:03:52,760 --> 01:03:55,720
Speaker 2: What I mean by that nobody food is your aunt

1233
01:03:55,800 --> 01:03:56,320
Speaker 2: cook today?

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01:03:59,160 --> 01:04:01,880
Speaker 4: I got two aunts that live in the city, and uh,

1235
01:04:02,320 --> 01:04:04,200
Speaker 4: one cook all the time. One don't cook as much.

1236
01:04:05,120 --> 01:04:06,800
Speaker 4: My cousin Candice do all the cooking over there at

1237
01:04:06,800 --> 01:04:13,320
Speaker 4: the house. But who's that saying? What I mean by

1238
01:04:13,400 --> 01:04:16,800
Speaker 4: that is, you know, let's say, if you say, hey,

1239
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:18,440
Speaker 4: can you take me to the airport?

1240
01:04:19,920 --> 01:04:20,240
Speaker 2: You love?

1241
01:04:20,760 --> 01:04:21,760
Speaker 1: You take them to the airport.

1242
01:04:23,000 --> 01:04:24,920
Speaker 4: I know I want to say no. I want to

1243
01:04:24,920 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 4: say no, I don't want to do it, and I'll

1244
01:04:27,720 --> 01:04:29,360
Speaker 4: just be like, all right, I got you, we'll time

1245
01:04:29,400 --> 01:04:31,680
Speaker 4: if I leave. But really I really just want to

1246
01:04:31,680 --> 01:04:34,520
Speaker 4: say no. But I'll say yeah just cause you call me,

1247
01:04:34,600 --> 01:04:36,200
Speaker 4: and I just make sure I get you there or die.

1248
01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:39,480
Speaker 4: But now I'm learning I can say no and not

1249
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:40,320
Speaker 4: feel bad about it.

1250
01:04:41,240 --> 01:04:43,840
Speaker 1: You know what, So you do you think you were

1251
01:04:43,880 --> 01:04:46,720
Speaker 1: saying yeah because you expect something from that person, like

1252
01:04:46,800 --> 01:04:51,760
Speaker 1: some type of some gratification at some point, like no,

1253
01:04:52,320 --> 01:04:53,400
Speaker 1: Why why you can't say no?

1254
01:04:53,520 --> 01:04:55,000
Speaker 4: I just used to like to be there for people,

1255
01:04:55,480 --> 01:04:57,320
Speaker 4: you know. I just used to like to be there

1256
01:04:57,360 --> 01:04:59,880
Speaker 4: for people, to the point where anyway it would inconvenience me.

1257
01:05:00,680 --> 01:05:03,560
Speaker 4: You know, I gotta get it. I gotta get done

1258
01:05:03,600 --> 01:05:05,640
Speaker 4: by the airport by two, knowing I gotta do it,

1259
01:05:06,080 --> 01:05:08,800
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying. So now I'm learning, man, Yeah,

1260
01:05:08,880 --> 01:05:12,560
Speaker 4: I'm learning now that I could say no confidently and

1261
01:05:12,800 --> 01:05:13,560
Speaker 4: not care about it.

1262
01:05:14,400 --> 01:05:17,400
Speaker 2: Yeah. I had to learn, like, because you will deplete

1263
01:05:17,400 --> 01:05:20,440
Speaker 2: yourself that way. No, it was a complete sentence, no,

1264
01:05:21,160 --> 01:05:24,160
Speaker 2: no period. You don't have to explain. Take good years.

1265
01:05:24,920 --> 01:05:28,360
Speaker 1: They songs like they just pop up like you know

1266
01:05:28,440 --> 01:05:30,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, yeah, so that's why you're calling me.

1267
01:05:30,200 --> 01:05:31,919
Speaker 1: But I'm a surprise you today, bitch.

1268
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 4: I mean, it could be different things other than just

1269
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:36,560
Speaker 4: asking for a favor. It could be like, hey, I'm

1270
01:05:36,600 --> 01:05:41,360
Speaker 4: having a housewarming. I remember one week somebody invited me

1271
01:05:41,440 --> 01:05:48,440
Speaker 4: to a housewarman, a baby shower, a kickback, A promoter

1272
01:05:48,520 --> 01:05:51,840
Speaker 4: friend of mine had an event, and then someone asked

1273
01:05:51,880 --> 01:05:56,040
Speaker 4: me to help them move all in one week. And

1274
01:05:57,120 --> 01:06:01,480
Speaker 4: unfortunately for myself, I tried to make each one of

1275
01:06:01,560 --> 01:06:06,680
Speaker 4: those things. Damn they kill myself.

1276
01:06:07,040 --> 01:06:08,120
Speaker 2: Did you go to all of them?

1277
01:06:08,960 --> 01:06:11,360
Speaker 4: Nope? But I felt bad because I didn't make it

1278
01:06:11,360 --> 01:06:13,000
Speaker 4: to one of it. You know what I'm saying. Yeah,

1279
01:06:13,080 --> 01:06:16,880
Speaker 4: So I was like, you know what, man, I ever

1280
01:06:16,960 --> 01:06:17,479
Speaker 4: had that problem.

1281
01:06:17,480 --> 01:06:19,520
Speaker 2: I don't think I ever had that problem. I just

1282
01:06:20,240 --> 01:06:20,960
Speaker 2: I'll just say no.

1283
01:06:21,080 --> 01:06:24,640
Speaker 4: With love, I do it now. Yeah, I'm learning that

1284
01:06:26,160 --> 01:06:27,240
Speaker 4: I can't. I can't make it.

1285
01:06:27,400 --> 01:06:29,800
Speaker 2: Call me for money and see what happened. Know, with love,

1286
01:06:31,000 --> 01:06:33,959
Speaker 2: I'll tell people like you know, especially if someone's close

1287
01:06:34,000 --> 01:06:37,200
Speaker 2: and I noticed urging him black, exhaust every other option

1288
01:06:37,840 --> 01:06:38,800
Speaker 2: and then circle back.

1289
01:06:40,880 --> 01:06:43,320
Speaker 4: That's cruel, terrible, that is cruel.

1290
01:06:44,000 --> 01:06:45,840
Speaker 2: But you'll get it. You'll get it. I'll give it

1291
01:06:45,920 --> 01:06:48,200
Speaker 2: to you, but you need to try every other possible

1292
01:06:48,280 --> 01:06:51,000
Speaker 2: avenue first. You know, the fuck.

1293
01:06:52,400 --> 01:06:54,240
Speaker 1: I would have played a quick game right when we

1294
01:06:54,320 --> 01:06:57,200
Speaker 1: get up out of here. So, uh, it's just a

1295
01:06:57,280 --> 01:06:59,400
Speaker 1: couple of questions and you have to tell us if

1296
01:06:59,440 --> 01:07:03,760
Speaker 1: it's massiw or not. Basically wearing pink.

1297
01:07:06,920 --> 01:07:12,000
Speaker 4: That's masculine, man. I love pink, pink, soft, pink, mauve,

1298
01:07:13,000 --> 01:07:14,760
Speaker 4: you know anything on that color color.

1299
01:07:14,520 --> 01:07:17,360
Speaker 2: Spectrum, you feel like, I don't think clothes, I mean

1300
01:07:17,480 --> 01:07:22,760
Speaker 2: like a color there's like no limitation. Yeah, but I

1301
01:07:22,800 --> 01:07:24,600
Speaker 2: don't know if I put my baby boy in pink

1302
01:07:24,680 --> 01:07:25,800
Speaker 2: though now.

1303
01:07:25,720 --> 01:07:27,439
Speaker 4: I won't put a baby, a baby boy in pink

1304
01:07:27,520 --> 01:07:29,520
Speaker 4: at that, not at that point, not until later.

1305
01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:32,480
Speaker 2: I wonder why if that's something else pink out there

1306
01:07:32,520 --> 01:07:35,680
Speaker 2: though the baby boy. You don't really see a lot

1307
01:07:35,720 --> 01:07:38,080
Speaker 2: of baby boy pink. You don't know why would we

1308
01:07:38,160 --> 01:07:40,040
Speaker 2: do it or not as a baby.

1309
01:07:40,600 --> 01:07:42,560
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Unpack that part.

1310
01:07:43,800 --> 01:07:44,800
Speaker 2: Crying during a.

1311
01:07:44,880 --> 01:07:49,360
Speaker 4: Movie that's masculine. I have cried during the movie. I

1312
01:07:49,400 --> 01:07:52,680
Speaker 4: made a Facebook movie. You know what movie I cried on.

1313
01:07:53,800 --> 01:07:56,920
Speaker 4: I don't care how hard you think you is. This

1314
01:07:57,080 --> 01:08:00,400
Speaker 4: movie will make you cry. A time to killed with

1315
01:08:00,560 --> 01:08:04,040
Speaker 4: Samuel el jam Yeah, one those two white boys raped

1316
01:08:04,080 --> 01:08:04,439
Speaker 4: his daughter.

1317
01:08:04,920 --> 01:08:07,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh my god, man, listen.

1318
01:08:08,840 --> 01:08:12,400
Speaker 4: Every time. I can't watch that movie all the way through. Boy.

1319
01:08:12,640 --> 01:08:14,800
Speaker 2: I remember I went to see Your Best Man Holiday

1320
01:08:14,840 --> 01:08:18,120
Speaker 2: with my ex boyfriend and we was in a movie theater.

1321
01:08:18,200 --> 01:08:21,840
Speaker 2: He kept on looking like you're straight.

1322
01:08:22,439 --> 01:08:26,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, like he was hard to downstairs at the sky.

1323
01:08:26,760 --> 01:08:28,559
Speaker 2: He couldn't keep new tears from following that movie.

1324
01:08:28,840 --> 01:08:31,200
Speaker 4: Find a movie that's mascular, Yeah, paid for a first

1325
01:08:31,280 --> 01:08:33,120
Speaker 4: date that's masculine.

1326
01:08:34,200 --> 01:08:36,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, So, y'all, bitches, stop going to your pocket books.

1327
01:08:36,400 --> 01:08:38,479
Speaker 1: I was like, why are you going to your purse?

1328
01:08:38,640 --> 01:08:40,600
Speaker 4: You know some woman? You know what a woman told me?

1329
01:08:41,840 --> 01:08:44,080
Speaker 4: They say they do that because that's setting up the play.

1330
01:08:44,720 --> 01:08:46,760
Speaker 1: Oh okay, yeah, the real gold Diggs do trick for

1331
01:08:47,840 --> 01:08:50,400
Speaker 1: some men are offended by that. Yeah, I'm not doing that.

1332
01:08:51,160 --> 01:08:53,479
Speaker 4: What about me leave the tip or something that's cool?

1333
01:08:54,040 --> 01:08:54,639
Speaker 1: I leave the tip.

1334
01:08:55,040 --> 01:08:55,560
Speaker 4: I shouldn't have to.

1335
01:08:55,680 --> 01:08:58,400
Speaker 2: Actually, don't walk in don't walk in dark Alley's bitch.

1336
01:08:58,439 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 2: That's to till uh be a stay at home mom, No,

1337
01:09:01,840 --> 01:09:03,920
Speaker 2: being a stay at home dad. I'm sorry. I'm so

1338
01:09:04,080 --> 01:09:04,920
Speaker 2: used to saying mom.

1339
01:09:06,520 --> 01:09:09,560
Speaker 4: All right before I say, I got to put that

1340
01:09:09,640 --> 01:09:12,960
Speaker 4: one in context because I'm a dad now right, and

1341
01:09:13,200 --> 01:09:16,439
Speaker 4: I didn't have a full understanding of what it was

1342
01:09:16,840 --> 01:09:19,040
Speaker 4: what it was like to be a parent, because kids

1343
01:09:19,240 --> 01:09:22,880
Speaker 4: is a lot, a lot, and I'm gonna have to

1344
01:09:22,920 --> 01:09:27,439
Speaker 4: say masculine, I'm telling you because people think, oh, it's

1345
01:09:27,479 --> 01:09:31,720
Speaker 4: a baby, No, you can go home. That's crazy. I

1346
01:09:31,840 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 4: made a Facebook poss about this too.

1347
01:09:35,360 --> 01:09:36,520
Speaker 2: You can be having.

1348
01:09:37,800 --> 01:09:41,600
Speaker 4: A mental breakdown. Kids doing know nothing but none of that.

1349
01:09:41,640 --> 01:09:46,400
Speaker 4: They're gonna come to you, daddy, Mama. I want a popsicle,

1350
01:09:46,840 --> 01:09:48,400
Speaker 4: take me to the park. I want to go to

1351
01:09:48,479 --> 01:09:50,120
Speaker 4: trampoline park. I want to go to this pool. I

1352
01:09:50,160 --> 01:09:53,439
Speaker 4: want you'd be like, if you know the day I had,

1353
01:09:53,439 --> 01:09:54,519
Speaker 4: you wouldn't ask me for nothing.

1354
01:09:54,800 --> 01:09:56,760
Speaker 2: I'm about to stroke out. You want to go.

1355
01:09:57,800 --> 01:09:59,920
Speaker 1: It's like your woman is working and you're at your

1356
01:10:00,000 --> 01:10:01,519
Speaker 1: I mean stay at home dad. You a woman is

1357
01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:03,880
Speaker 1: working and you're at home with the kid. That's masculine.

1358
01:10:04,360 --> 01:10:06,439
Speaker 4: That can be masculine as well. Yes, I'm telling you

1359
01:10:06,439 --> 01:10:10,000
Speaker 4: because kids is a lot interesting, because that's a duty

1360
01:10:10,200 --> 01:10:12,320
Speaker 4: within itself. Taking care of gives at the house, it

1361
01:10:12,400 --> 01:10:12,920
Speaker 4: takes a lot.

1362
01:10:13,520 --> 01:10:18,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, So asking for emotional reassurance very masculine.

1363
01:10:19,600 --> 01:10:23,920
Speaker 4: Yes, because men are very emotional. You know, we were

1364
01:10:24,040 --> 01:10:27,360
Speaker 4: taught when we were kids, be tough, holding it in,

1365
01:10:27,960 --> 01:10:30,680
Speaker 4: don't cry, don't express yourself. And now you got men

1366
01:10:30,800 --> 01:10:35,839
Speaker 4: that are grown adults not knowing how to properly express

1367
01:10:35,920 --> 01:10:38,519
Speaker 4: himself to his woman. You see what I'm saying. And

1368
01:10:38,680 --> 01:10:43,759
Speaker 4: so he keeps everything inside, you know, he internalizes his emotions,

1369
01:10:43,800 --> 01:10:44,600
Speaker 4: how you feel.

1370
01:10:45,800 --> 01:10:48,639
Speaker 2: And then everything comes out as anger. Every emotion comes

1371
01:10:48,680 --> 01:10:49,280
Speaker 2: out as anger.

1372
01:10:49,400 --> 01:10:53,240
Speaker 4: But that's only if his talk Doune exploded. You see

1373
01:10:53,240 --> 01:10:53,639
Speaker 4: what I'm saying.

1374
01:10:53,960 --> 01:10:55,040
Speaker 2: But the.

1375
01:10:56,560 --> 01:10:59,240
Speaker 4: Trick to it is providing a safe space for a

1376
01:10:59,320 --> 01:11:03,080
Speaker 4: brother to be emotional. If you provide that, you wouldn't

1377
01:11:03,080 --> 01:11:05,760
Speaker 4: have no problem with him communicating or being expressing himself.

1378
01:11:05,760 --> 01:11:06,720
Speaker 2: And how do we provide that?

1379
01:11:08,040 --> 01:11:14,040
Speaker 4: You provide that by being a good listener, and also

1380
01:11:14,120 --> 01:11:20,960
Speaker 4: by being a good listener, also by reaffirmed, reaffirming him

1381
01:11:21,320 --> 01:11:24,800
Speaker 4: as he's communicating, you know, letting him again, letting him

1382
01:11:24,880 --> 01:11:28,560
Speaker 4: know how how much you appreciate him. Appreciation go a

1383
01:11:28,760 --> 01:11:32,040
Speaker 4: long way with men, a long way. Men don't really

1384
01:11:32,080 --> 01:11:36,840
Speaker 4: care about love like that, respect and appreciation don't care.

1385
01:11:37,240 --> 01:11:38,439
Speaker 2: They don't want to be loved, They want to be

1386
01:11:38,479 --> 01:11:39,839
Speaker 2: appreciated and respected.

1387
01:11:40,160 --> 01:11:44,360
Speaker 4: Men you love the kids. Men won't respect. Love will

1388
01:11:44,400 --> 01:11:44,920
Speaker 4: come from that.

1389
01:11:46,840 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 1: Telling you, uh, taken longer than your girl to get dressed.

1390
01:11:50,439 --> 01:11:56,080
Speaker 4: I could be very feminine. Feminine, No, I listen when

1391
01:11:56,080 --> 01:11:58,479
Speaker 4: am innute shower. I know what I'm putting on when

1392
01:11:58,479 --> 01:11:59,920
Speaker 4: I get out the shower, like I already be thinking

1393
01:12:00,000 --> 01:12:02,040
Speaker 4: about that, you know. And the men don't got to

1394
01:12:02,320 --> 01:12:05,560
Speaker 4: do all the other aesthetics to get themselves together. You know,

1395
01:12:05,720 --> 01:12:09,760
Speaker 4: sometimes our women women ugly. No, I understand. Women gotta

1396
01:12:09,800 --> 01:12:12,240
Speaker 4: take time to enhance their beauty, you know. You know,

1397
01:12:12,680 --> 01:12:13,479
Speaker 4: y'all gotta get right.

1398
01:12:14,120 --> 01:12:15,959
Speaker 2: What about meditating or journaling?

1399
01:12:18,760 --> 01:12:22,160
Speaker 4: That can be a mixture of both. That could be

1400
01:12:22,200 --> 01:12:24,559
Speaker 4: a mixture of both. In my opinion, you don't write.

1401
01:12:24,439 --> 01:12:24,920
Speaker 2: It down.

1402
01:12:28,680 --> 01:12:32,720
Speaker 4: Norogyness is what you're saying somewhat yes, because I compartmentalize

1403
01:12:32,760 --> 01:12:34,560
Speaker 4: everything like, Okay, I know I gotta do this, I

1404
01:12:34,600 --> 01:12:35,840
Speaker 4: gotta do that, I gotta do that, I gotta do that.

1405
01:12:35,960 --> 01:12:38,439
Speaker 4: I don't have to write it down for me, you know.

1406
01:12:38,479 --> 01:12:39,960
Speaker 2: And I don't you be forgetting ship?

1407
01:12:40,080 --> 01:12:42,080
Speaker 1: I might have said, do you actually be executed because

1408
01:12:42,080 --> 01:12:47,640
Speaker 1: a lot of your niggas is unetequinte yahd medicine.

1409
01:12:47,400 --> 01:12:51,400
Speaker 4: Very organized and punctual. You see, I gotta here with Tom.

1410
01:12:53,240 --> 01:12:54,040
Speaker 2: We will see sometime.

1411
01:12:54,120 --> 01:12:56,240
Speaker 1: We was letting your woman take the.

1412
01:12:56,320 --> 01:13:03,240
Speaker 4: Lead in bed in bed very masculine. We want that, yes,

1413
01:13:03,400 --> 01:13:06,560
Speaker 4: because men like to be desired as well. Yes, we

1414
01:13:06,600 --> 01:13:08,120
Speaker 4: don't always want to be not all the time. We

1415
01:13:08,120 --> 01:13:10,880
Speaker 4: don't always want to be the one to the first move.

1416
01:13:11,000 --> 01:13:14,360
Speaker 4: Sometimes come over here, Yeah, come over here.

1417
01:13:14,880 --> 01:13:16,920
Speaker 1: And what if your man say? What if your man

1418
01:13:17,000 --> 01:13:18,679
Speaker 1: be like, I don't feel like it today, Tom.

1419
01:13:19,880 --> 01:13:25,400
Speaker 4: Give me that date? How do you feel about that?

1420
01:13:25,720 --> 01:13:27,200
Speaker 4: If he said I don't feel like it today?

1421
01:13:27,960 --> 01:13:29,960
Speaker 1: Listen, I don't want to know why I have had

1422
01:13:30,000 --> 01:13:32,200
Speaker 1: it like this is this wasn't a boyfriend and I'd

1423
01:13:32,240 --> 01:13:34,360
Speaker 1: never been turned out by like a boy's right, by

1424
01:13:34,479 --> 01:13:38,640
Speaker 1: somebody I was fucking with and he told me he

1425
01:13:38,800 --> 01:13:41,960
Speaker 1: wants to be alone tonight, he wants a me time,

1426
01:13:43,040 --> 01:13:44,440
Speaker 1: and I didn't talk alone.

1427
01:13:44,760 --> 01:13:46,679
Speaker 4: Damn, the man can't have no me time.

1428
01:13:47,680 --> 01:13:50,800
Speaker 1: Hell no, because that hold on. What that means is

1429
01:13:51,120 --> 01:13:53,439
Speaker 1: you're not gonna always feel like the person you're fucking with.

1430
01:13:53,600 --> 01:13:56,080
Speaker 1: You do do it sometimes because they want to, right.

1431
01:13:56,760 --> 01:13:59,040
Speaker 1: So you mean to tell me you only gonna fuck

1432
01:13:59,080 --> 01:14:02,000
Speaker 1: with me when you feel like it, Like, that's.

1433
01:14:01,920 --> 01:14:02,800
Speaker 2: Not what's wrong with that?

1434
01:14:03,640 --> 01:14:06,720
Speaker 1: No, that means if I don't fuck Okay, obviously I

1435
01:14:06,840 --> 01:14:08,280
Speaker 1: fucked with you and I didn't feel like it at

1436
01:14:08,320 --> 01:14:11,000
Speaker 1: some point that was a personal choice. You could say that.

1437
01:14:11,200 --> 01:14:12,640
Speaker 1: That's to me. I hate when people be like, well,

1438
01:14:12,680 --> 01:14:16,040
Speaker 1: you chose to do that, because relationships is always given,

1439
01:14:16,120 --> 01:14:22,080
Speaker 1: taking people choosing and making sacrifices. So no, you can't

1440
01:14:22,120 --> 01:14:24,160
Speaker 1: tell me you feel like being alone tonight because you

1441
01:14:24,240 --> 01:14:26,280
Speaker 1: think when you call me tomorrow when you feel like me,

1442
01:14:26,320 --> 01:14:27,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna just come over there.

1443
01:14:27,400 --> 01:14:29,280
Speaker 2: But you can't say you feel alone.

1444
01:14:29,760 --> 01:14:32,280
Speaker 1: It's not if I if I like somebody, I'm not

1445
01:14:32,439 --> 01:14:34,599
Speaker 1: just trying to just we don't even have to have sex.

1446
01:14:34,640 --> 01:14:36,719
Speaker 1: We could just I like to be alone with somebody

1447
01:14:37,360 --> 01:14:37,680
Speaker 1: that's you.

1448
01:14:38,040 --> 01:14:42,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what If he said, hey, not tonight, or

1449
01:14:43,040 --> 01:14:45,519
Speaker 4: I need some time to myself, so he can.

1450
01:14:46,760 --> 01:14:49,400
Speaker 1: He just I want to be alone to night.

1451
01:14:49,520 --> 01:14:51,040
Speaker 2: What if he had something happen.

1452
01:14:51,560 --> 01:14:54,360
Speaker 1: If it's his mind, I was going to fuck somebody else. Man,

1453
01:14:54,439 --> 01:14:58,160
Speaker 1: it's okay, and listen and here's the thing, and here's

1454
01:14:58,200 --> 01:15:02,360
Speaker 1: the thing. You can do that, right. I'm not somebody

1455
01:15:02,400 --> 01:15:06,240
Speaker 1: you could just brush off like that. You can't do

1456
01:15:06,360 --> 01:15:08,160
Speaker 1: that to me. So I didn't know. I'm not holding

1457
01:15:08,160 --> 01:15:09,880
Speaker 1: a grudge against him, like I still talk to him

1458
01:15:09,880 --> 01:15:11,680
Speaker 1: when I see him and shit like that. But I

1459
01:15:11,800 --> 01:15:12,840
Speaker 1: stopped talking with him.

1460
01:15:12,880 --> 01:15:13,479
Speaker 4: That's crazy.

1461
01:15:13,800 --> 01:15:15,760
Speaker 2: Just because he wanted to be alone one night.

1462
01:15:17,400 --> 01:15:19,640
Speaker 4: Man wanted some time. Maybe he didn't feel like it

1463
01:15:19,720 --> 01:15:22,320
Speaker 4: was fair for you, to fair to you, for him

1464
01:15:22,360 --> 01:15:23,840
Speaker 4: to be in that space around you.

1465
01:15:24,160 --> 01:15:26,320
Speaker 2: Maybe he feels like he didn't deserve your energy that

1466
01:15:26,439 --> 01:15:28,519
Speaker 2: night because it's something he was going through mentally.

1467
01:15:28,680 --> 01:15:31,680
Speaker 4: But if it was some health issues, what if it

1468
01:15:31,920 --> 01:15:34,479
Speaker 4: was he I just found out some bad news.

1469
01:15:35,120 --> 01:15:38,679
Speaker 1: You had to hurt break out. Good goddamn.

1470
01:15:42,240 --> 01:15:42,479
Speaker 4: Health.

1471
01:15:42,960 --> 01:15:46,440
Speaker 1: They got a breakout, he got it somewhere life.

1472
01:15:47,760 --> 01:15:52,120
Speaker 2: Godda right, nig can't even have a bad day man alone.

1473
01:15:52,120 --> 01:15:54,599
Speaker 1: It was a Friday night. Quit playing in my face

1474
01:15:55,000 --> 01:15:57,479
Speaker 1: and then like anytime after that, you was on my

1475
01:15:57,760 --> 01:16:00,240
Speaker 1: nuts if I had some you see what I'm saying.

1476
01:16:00,240 --> 01:16:02,920
Speaker 1: So it's when I took my energy completely away from

1477
01:16:03,000 --> 01:16:06,360
Speaker 1: him because I know, first of all, this is community dick. Okay,

1478
01:16:08,160 --> 01:16:10,440
Speaker 1: all right, set up the play, set up the story's

1479
01:16:10,479 --> 01:16:12,960
Speaker 1: o community dick. And this wasn't this is this is

1480
01:16:13,120 --> 01:16:16,000
Speaker 1: just I was doing some shit because sometimes I get

1481
01:16:16,040 --> 01:16:16,880
Speaker 1: bored if I'm single.

1482
01:16:17,000 --> 01:16:17,960
Speaker 2: Okay, So.

1483
01:16:19,760 --> 01:16:24,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, like I know this person, so I know how

1484
01:16:24,400 --> 01:16:27,840
Speaker 1: he moves. So you you maybe it would have been

1485
01:16:27,880 --> 01:16:30,280
Speaker 1: better if he said, no, I'm having somebody else over

1486
01:16:30,320 --> 01:16:32,040
Speaker 1: the night. Maybe I would have taken to that more.

1487
01:16:32,160 --> 01:16:35,400
Speaker 2: I don't know that you would have accepted that more

1488
01:16:35,439 --> 01:16:36,720
Speaker 2: than I want to be alone time.

1489
01:16:36,880 --> 01:16:37,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like that.

1490
01:16:39,040 --> 01:16:41,439
Speaker 2: Why would you accept that more? Because now that that

1491
01:16:41,560 --> 01:16:44,840
Speaker 2: feels like now you're choosing somebody over me. That's a

1492
01:16:44,920 --> 01:16:45,479
Speaker 2: problem to me.

1493
01:16:45,680 --> 01:16:48,320
Speaker 1: But I feel like you lied and chose somebody over me,

1494
01:16:48,400 --> 01:16:50,000
Speaker 1: which is why you don't have access to me.

1495
01:16:50,080 --> 01:16:52,559
Speaker 2: No, if it's not a lot that but what if

1496
01:16:52,600 --> 01:16:53,320
Speaker 2: it's not a lie.

1497
01:16:54,160 --> 01:16:56,639
Speaker 1: If I call, I do because I took my energy

1498
01:16:56,720 --> 01:16:58,519
Speaker 1: from him. I bet you I can call him every

1499
01:16:58,640 --> 01:17:01,120
Speaker 1: single It's when they think they some type of control,

1500
01:17:01,640 --> 01:17:02,920
Speaker 1: so I took the control back.

1501
01:17:04,040 --> 01:17:06,200
Speaker 4: You can't funk that was in competition with one another.

1502
01:17:06,720 --> 01:17:07,439
Speaker 2: That's what someone.

1503
01:17:07,760 --> 01:17:08,920
Speaker 1: I wasn't in competition.

1504
01:17:09,439 --> 01:17:10,320
Speaker 2: I wasn't in man.

1505
01:17:10,360 --> 01:17:11,320
Speaker 4: I just wanted some me time.

1506
01:17:11,400 --> 01:17:15,080
Speaker 1: And you, hey boy, fuck you going out your mean

1507
01:17:15,160 --> 01:17:18,160
Speaker 1: time and you can't never talk to me no time.

1508
01:17:20,960 --> 01:17:22,000
Speaker 4: And send the block?

1509
01:17:22,120 --> 01:17:22,439
Speaker 3: All right?

1510
01:17:22,520 --> 01:17:24,320
Speaker 2: Do you say I love you? What about saying I

1511
01:17:24,439 --> 01:17:25,679
Speaker 2: love you to your male friends?

1512
01:17:26,960 --> 01:17:29,960
Speaker 4: That has been hard for me. But I do love

1513
01:17:30,040 --> 01:17:32,080
Speaker 4: my I do love my male friends. I love all

1514
01:17:32,120 --> 01:17:32,400
Speaker 4: of them.

1515
01:17:32,640 --> 01:17:33,679
Speaker 2: But telling them is hard.

1516
01:17:34,280 --> 01:17:36,799
Speaker 1: Why you just just saying, like one of your homeboys

1517
01:17:37,080 --> 01:17:40,400
Speaker 1: been calling y'all and telling y'all how he loved y'all

1518
01:17:40,520 --> 01:17:41,080
Speaker 1: when he drunk.

1519
01:17:41,160 --> 01:17:41,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, when he drunk.

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01:17:42,840 --> 01:17:45,880
Speaker 2: But maybe that just allows him to be more more vulnerable.

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01:17:46,520 --> 01:17:54,160
Speaker 4: No, that's dangerous because you get fucked. No, don't call

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01:17:54,240 --> 01:17:56,400
Speaker 4: me when you're intoxicated. But brother, I love you. Brother.

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01:17:56,600 --> 01:17:59,000
Speaker 4: What you're about to do? Be about to jump off

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01:17:59,000 --> 01:18:02,640
Speaker 4: a bridge? No, no, what you about to do? But

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01:18:03,080 --> 01:18:07,240
Speaker 4: to answer the question, that's masculine. That's masculine.

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01:18:07,720 --> 01:18:08,800
Speaker 2: But why do you have trouble with it?

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01:18:10,840 --> 01:18:16,000
Speaker 4: Because I was never around men who said that to

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01:18:16,120 --> 01:18:19,200
Speaker 4: other men glowing up. You know, even the men didn't

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01:18:19,280 --> 01:18:22,080
Speaker 4: growing up my father. Fortunately for me, my father told

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01:18:22,120 --> 01:18:24,240
Speaker 4: me as a kid he loved me. But a lot

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01:18:24,320 --> 01:18:28,640
Speaker 4: of men in the community didn't tell other adolescents that

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01:18:28,720 --> 01:18:31,200
Speaker 4: they loved them. And hear other men tell other men

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01:18:31,280 --> 01:18:33,080
Speaker 4: that they love them, so that was always hard for me.

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01:18:34,000 --> 01:18:36,000
Speaker 4: I get it, so it's easy for me to tell

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Speaker 4: my child.

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01:18:36,400 --> 01:18:39,599
Speaker 2: But I challenge you all men listening, if you listen

1537
01:18:39,640 --> 01:18:41,519
Speaker 2: to the show, tell your friends you love them.

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01:18:41,560 --> 01:18:43,599
Speaker 4: I love y'all, man, I love each and every last

1539
01:18:43,600 --> 01:18:44,200
Speaker 4: one of you. Guys.

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01:18:44,280 --> 01:18:48,240
Speaker 2: Man, hey, man, see I love that.

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01:18:48,640 --> 01:18:49,080
Speaker 1: I love that.

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01:18:49,360 --> 01:18:53,840
Speaker 2: I tell listen. I tell our listeners every day, every episode,

1543
01:18:54,040 --> 01:18:56,280
Speaker 2: I tell them I love them because some people don't

1544
01:18:56,400 --> 01:18:56,720
Speaker 2: hear it.

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01:18:56,880 --> 01:19:00,439
Speaker 4: It's the fact I actually have friends that old me

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01:19:01,240 --> 01:19:03,120
Speaker 4: that their parents never told them that.

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01:19:03,080 --> 01:19:05,560
Speaker 2: They love exactly. You know, some people never hear it.

1548
01:19:05,640 --> 01:19:08,559
Speaker 2: They just would love for them mama, just to say

1549
01:19:08,680 --> 01:19:11,479
Speaker 2: I love you, you know. So that's why I tell you,

1550
01:19:11,600 --> 01:19:13,719
Speaker 2: because if you ain't gonna hear it, nowhere else you'n.

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01:19:14,080 --> 01:19:16,040
Speaker 1: We talk about just be telling people I love them,

1552
01:19:16,080 --> 01:19:19,480
Speaker 1: because my love comes with action. I can't just fribuously

1553
01:19:19,760 --> 01:19:26,240
Speaker 1: tell just people random people I love y'all because you don't. Yeah,

1554
01:19:26,280 --> 01:19:30,320
Speaker 1: because I don't know people right right, And it's like, uh,

1555
01:19:31,920 --> 01:19:34,519
Speaker 1: my love does not really come with conditions either, Like

1556
01:19:34,760 --> 01:19:39,439
Speaker 1: real love does not come with conditions. So I can't

1557
01:19:39,520 --> 01:19:42,240
Speaker 1: just use that word with a bunch of people that

1558
01:19:42,360 --> 01:19:44,519
Speaker 1: I don't know, because the minutes you disappoint them, they

1559
01:19:44,560 --> 01:19:46,760
Speaker 1: will turn on you and they never loved you, you

1560
01:19:46,800 --> 01:19:48,280
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. The minute you do or say

1561
01:19:48,360 --> 01:19:50,960
Speaker 1: something they don't like, they turn it on you. So

1562
01:19:51,160 --> 01:19:53,160
Speaker 1: did you ever love me for real? Or a minute

1563
01:19:53,200 --> 01:19:55,000
Speaker 1: they say you do something to you like fuck you.

1564
01:19:55,560 --> 01:19:57,519
Speaker 1: I don't really be quick to tell people I love

1565
01:19:57,600 --> 01:20:00,040
Speaker 1: fuck them? Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So I

1566
01:20:00,120 --> 01:20:04,000
Speaker 1: can't really get into what strangers like that. I absolutely

1567
01:20:04,200 --> 01:20:08,000
Speaker 1: appreciate everybody though. I have a lot of gratitude and

1568
01:20:08,479 --> 01:20:11,560
Speaker 1: thanks for everybody. But I have a real love a

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01:20:11,640 --> 01:20:15,960
Speaker 1: girl like for real, for real, and I be like

1570
01:20:16,080 --> 01:20:18,560
Speaker 1: in my feelings about shit. So if I feel like

1571
01:20:18,680 --> 01:20:23,760
Speaker 1: slighted after I had outside, oh marshmallow on that.

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01:20:23,840 --> 01:20:26,519
Speaker 2: Side, that's very See. I just id like to think

1573
01:20:26,560 --> 01:20:28,920
Speaker 2: that I walk around with Gods loving me every day

1574
01:20:28,960 --> 01:20:31,240
Speaker 2: and I want to display that and every day. And

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01:20:31,360 --> 01:20:33,840
Speaker 2: that's why I tell people I love them, because that's

1576
01:20:33,880 --> 01:20:35,160
Speaker 2: what we're supposed to exhibit.

1577
01:20:35,600 --> 01:20:36,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, I play it.

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01:20:37,000 --> 01:20:38,960
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say it. I'm gonna do you gotta

1579
01:20:39,280 --> 01:20:42,160
Speaker 1: do bo. Yeah, I'm gonna do the things to let

1580
01:20:42,200 --> 01:20:44,320
Speaker 1: you know I love you. And that is because of

1581
01:20:44,360 --> 01:20:47,160
Speaker 1: how I was raised. My mama never was just giving

1582
01:20:47,200 --> 01:20:50,120
Speaker 1: out hugs and saying I love you, But you knew

1583
01:20:50,280 --> 01:20:53,680
Speaker 1: she loved you. But the things, you know, how she

1584
01:20:53,800 --> 01:20:57,240
Speaker 1: shows up for you absolutely just raw love.

1585
01:20:57,400 --> 01:20:59,760
Speaker 4: But then you gotta look at what they heard versus

1586
01:20:59,800 --> 01:21:02,040
Speaker 4: what they didn't hear. You see what I'm saying. Did

1587
01:21:02,080 --> 01:21:04,720
Speaker 4: their parents tell them I love you? You see what

1588
01:21:04,720 --> 01:21:06,160
Speaker 4: I'm saying because I think.

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01:21:06,000 --> 01:21:07,120
Speaker 2: Hearing it is important?

1590
01:21:07,720 --> 01:21:11,920
Speaker 1: No, it is, it is important for today. I love y'all.

1591
01:21:12,720 --> 01:21:20,559
Speaker 2: Y'all right, here, we love you too, John, I got

1592
01:21:20,640 --> 01:21:22,120
Speaker 2: some love right for a second.

1593
01:21:22,240 --> 01:21:26,200
Speaker 1: No, let me tell y'all, y'all experience this love is

1594
01:21:26,240 --> 01:21:28,559
Speaker 1: gonna make you a better person. I'm telling you I create.

1595
01:21:28,360 --> 01:21:32,160
Speaker 2: God, right, Amen, Do you have a last?

1596
01:21:32,280 --> 01:21:32,519
Speaker 3: Last?

1597
01:21:33,960 --> 01:21:34,200
Speaker 1: Terry?

1598
01:21:34,320 --> 01:21:37,360
Speaker 2: Tell everybody where they can find you, follow you, support

1599
01:21:37,479 --> 01:21:38,560
Speaker 2: you all the things.

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01:21:38,800 --> 01:21:41,479
Speaker 4: Great great great. My name is Terry. You can find

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01:21:41,520 --> 01:21:46,640
Speaker 4: me on Instagram at I Am so Charleston, At I

1602
01:21:46,800 --> 01:21:50,720
Speaker 4: Am so Charleston. I A M C H A r

1603
01:21:51,120 --> 01:21:51,880
Speaker 4: l E S t O.

1604
01:21:52,160 --> 01:21:54,559
Speaker 2: N you love out the song from the West.

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01:21:55,320 --> 01:21:59,360
Speaker 4: I said so, I A M S O C H

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01:21:59,560 --> 01:22:01,640
Speaker 4: A R r l E S t O with.

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Speaker 1: Erga shame anyway, y'all. If y'all enjoyed this episode, y'all

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Speaker 1: tune in every Thursday on The Black Effect. iHeart radio

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Speaker 1: app and Kevin Heart. We need to check because he

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Speaker 1: loveed to kill Lokate. I've been buying that ship.

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Speaker 4: What is it?

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01:22:15,560 --> 01:22:18,439
Speaker 1: I can't pronounce it. It's to Kevin Heart to Quille.

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Speaker 2: It did you tell him you're nos?

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01:22:24,320 --> 01:22:26,799
Speaker 1: Aj Holiday two play on Instagram's Kicking Tam.

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Speaker 2: Y'all, It's official Tam Bam on Instagram. Remember speak now,

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Speaker 2: m And lastly.

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01:22:33,120 --> 01:22:34,479
Speaker 4: I just want to say I am very proud of

1618
01:22:34,520 --> 01:22:39,559
Speaker 4: you both. I see the progress and only God knows

1619
01:22:39,600 --> 01:22:40,760
Speaker 4: what he has the store for y'all.

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01:22:40,920 --> 01:22:42,800
Speaker 2: A man, thank you, We appreciate that.

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Speaker 3: Best. Last, Oh, it's not last.

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Speaker 2: Last, Yes, speak now, thank you, and never hold your accountability,

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01:22:49,120 --> 01:22:49,439
Speaker 2: own it.

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