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Speaker 1: It's time to catch a Cheater. Only on the Tubile Show.

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Speaker 1: Kim is on the phone today for to catch a cheater.

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Speaker 1: She's been with her husband Rob for four years, but

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Speaker 1: now she thinks something might be going on. So in

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Speaker 1: a few minutes, we're going to call and see if

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Speaker 1: we can catch him if he is cheating, but hopefully

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Speaker 1: he's not. Kim, what's going on? Why do you think

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Speaker 1: Bob might be cheating on you?

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Speaker 2: Basically, when we met, we met at a time.

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Speaker 3: When we were just kind of done with the.

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Speaker 2: Whole dating scene. Bob had actually been married before before

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Speaker 2: we met. They separated amicably. They all still keep in touch.

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Speaker 2: You know. They had met at Berkeley and they both

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Speaker 2: were kind of like weird hippie types, so they clicked. Rob,

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Speaker 2: in his own words, is kind of like grown up

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Speaker 2: since then, and he's happy where he's at. We don't

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Speaker 2: really fight much at all, and he's never really been

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Speaker 2: the laundering eye type of guy. He still is very

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Speaker 2: loving and doting and after fourty years, like he still

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Speaker 2: treats me to romantic nights out and gives me gifts

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Speaker 2: and buys me flowers. That kind of feels a little

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Speaker 2: silly that I'm even calling.

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Speaker 3: But basically.

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Speaker 2: Rob's ex wife, Emily, like I said, they still talk

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Speaker 2: a little bit. We've met a few times. She's been

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Speaker 2: our wedding. She's wonderful kids. They have a son, but

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Speaker 2: he's grown and older, and nothing like trying them.

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Speaker 3: Really together much, you know.

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Speaker 2: And also with having a son, I understand there's going

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Speaker 2: to be co parenting, there's going to be conversations together,

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Speaker 2: and so that's not a problem with me. They are

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Speaker 2: on good terms and I appreciate that. I've never felt

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Speaker 2: threatened by his relationship with her until lately. So basically

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Speaker 2: the last three weeks, it seems like they've been talking

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Speaker 2: a lot more than usual. Again, not like a big deal,

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Speaker 2: but he's been secretive about it, like when she calls,

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Speaker 2: he kind of leaves the room or text he'll like

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Speaker 2: get up and walk away. I've tried really hard not

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Speaker 2: to pry. He's a drama free kind of guy, so

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Speaker 2: he's very open and usually shares everything with me. So

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Speaker 2: I thought it was weird that he was kind of

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Speaker 2: sneaking away sim if there's anything wrong, if there was

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Speaker 2: anything I could do to help him, you know, because

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Speaker 2: he seemed a little closed off and He just basically

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Speaker 2: responded like, don't worry, I'm handling things and left it

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Speaker 2: at that. So I don't know. I just want to

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Speaker 2: know if there's something I need to worry about, if

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Speaker 2: he's rekindling something with his ex, or maybe there's something more.

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Speaker 1: I just don't know. That's something that's super vague, he says,

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Speaker 1: I'm handling it.

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Speaker 4: It makes it sound like there's a problem.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. It's not like it was an emergency situation.

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Speaker 2: It just seems like I don't know.

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Speaker 3: They're having a conversation.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't want me to see it or hear it.

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Speaker 1: And that's Yeah, it's been four years and everything's been cool,

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Speaker 1: and now you're having concerns. That means something's changed. You'd

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Speaker 1: be surprising you like your birthday son.

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Speaker 2: The other thing is, like, you know, I said, she

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Speaker 2: and I are We're not close by any means we

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Speaker 2: know each other, but it would be weird that he

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Speaker 2: would plan.

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Speaker 1: Something that'd be a strange person to plan your birthday.

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Speaker 1: Went all right, well, well, yeah, plas I come back.

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Speaker 1: You already told us what a grocery store he's a

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Speaker 1: rewards card member at, so we'll call and pretend to

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Speaker 1: be from the grocery store and say that every single month,

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Speaker 1: we choose one random Rewards card member who gets free

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Speaker 1: flowers delivered from our florial department, and we'll see if

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Speaker 1: he sends them to you or to somebody else. Okay,

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Speaker 1: sounds good, Thank you, I appreciate it. Plas on, come back,

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Speaker 1: get your to Catch a Cheater next. If you're just

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Speaker 1: joining us for today's to Catch a Cheater. Kim is

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Speaker 1: on the phone and she's been married to her husband,

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Speaker 1: Bob for four years, but now she thinks he might

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Speaker 1: be cheating. So in a second, we're going to call

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Speaker 1: him and tend to be from the grocery store that

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Speaker 1: he's a Rewards card member at, and say that every

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Speaker 1: single month, we choose one rewards member who gets free

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Speaker 1: flowers delivered from our floral department, totally free, and see

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Speaker 1: if he believes us, and if he does, see who

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Speaker 1: or to someone else. So, Kim, before we do that,

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Speaker 1: why don't you catch everybody up on your situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my husband and husband, Bob and I have been

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Speaker 2: married for four years. He was previously married to his

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Speaker 2: ex wife, Emily. They stayed in communication, but not much,

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Speaker 2: and lately he's been sneaking off to speak with her

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Speaker 2: and it's making me a question thing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, you ready? First to Colin? Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: here we go.

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Speaker 3: Hello.

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Speaker 1: Hi, this is Corbyn calling from So I was looking

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Speaker 1: for our Rewards card member named Bob.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's me, Bob.

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Speaker 1: Please don't hang up. This is not a marketing phone call.

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Speaker 1: I'm actually calm to say congrats. Here this month's big winner.

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Speaker 3: Oh what surprise or is there? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Every single month we choose one Rewards Card member to

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Speaker 1: say thank you very much for shopping with us and

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Speaker 1: being a loyal customer. You've just won thirty six long

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Speaker 1: stem red roses, a box of chocolates, and a card

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Speaker 1: to be delivered to anybody that you want within the

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Speaker 1: fifty United States.

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Speaker 3: Oh cool, awesome.

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Speaker 1: I can take the information down over the phone.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 3: Go, I'm going to send it. This I can tell

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Speaker 1: So first I'll need the first and last name of

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Speaker 1: the person who likes to send them to.

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Speaker 3: Kim. Okay, same as mine. We're married.

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Speaker 1: Oh, your this is your wife.

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Speaker 3: In my wife? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Anything you want to put on a card.

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Speaker 3: Sure, I'll say I love you too, and we should talk.

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess you can talk to her right now,

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Speaker 1: because Bob, this is actually the Jubile Show. It's the

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Speaker 1: radio show. My name is Jubil Hi. I'm Nina Hi,

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Speaker 1: and I'm Victoria and we do a segment on the

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Speaker 1: show called to Catch a Cheater where if you think

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Speaker 1: your significant other mind me messing around, you can try

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Speaker 1: to see what they send flowers to. And your wife,

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Speaker 1: Kim is actually on the.

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Speaker 3: Phone, Taiba, see what's up? Why I'm a little bit

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Speaker 3: colls guard. Why did you set this up?

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Speaker 2: Well, I am.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't really sure what else to do.

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Speaker 2: I kind of feel like there's something going on with

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Speaker 2: Emily that you're not telling me.

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Speaker 3: You're right, yeah, are you?

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Speaker 3: I mean there's yeah. So I don't really want to

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Speaker 3: be doing this over the fun. But Emily, as I

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Speaker 3: as you have joked. She's an economic specialist, as I've

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So we've been communicating more than her we normally

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Speaker 2: Wow, I mean I believe that because I know you

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Speaker 3: That she was working for the Peace Corps.

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Speaker 2: But I still don't understand why the sinking around.

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Speaker 3: So it's pretty sensitive information, Like she didn't ever want

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Speaker 3: and I was right. She said that she still loves

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Speaker 3: that I love my wife, you Kim. Last week we

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Speaker 3: She told you that she still loves.

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Speaker 4: You, like she's just going to be working over there

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because this is kind of intense, like it's I

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Speaker 3: It is really intense. I mean the nature of her

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Speaker 3: So there is a so so of.

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Speaker 4: Course you say that you love somebody if you think

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Speaker 2: But okay, I understand that I do.

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Speaker 3: But she expressed feelings for me and we did have sex.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, whoa Okay.

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Speaker 3: I am really ashamed of it, and the it was

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Speaker 1: Is that what you said you need to talk about

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I've been planning to tell you today or

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Speaker 4: But I know I don't know a lot about the

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Speaker 4: by saying that I'm not going to see you, because

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Speaker 4: that's also really disturbing.

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Speaker 2: I I kind of don't know what to say right now.

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Speaker 2: Obviously we need to talk in person. Yeah, I just

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm going to probably come home right now

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Speaker 2: and we'll talk about them.

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Speaker 4: You're apologizing to him told you that he slept with

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Speaker 4: his ex wife, mostly.

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Speaker 2: To you guys in the listener right now that oh.

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Speaker 1: Don't apologize us to go handle your business. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's totally, totally, totally. I'm glad you found out, even

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Speaker 1: though it sounds like Bob was going to tell you anyway,

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Speaker 1: but you never know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sorry for a lot of reasons and a

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Speaker 3: lot of things, but I'm also sorry for you finding

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Speaker 3: out this way. But I'll be it. I'll be at home, okay, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, Well, kim uh, let us know if we can

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Speaker 1: help in any way.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you guys, thanks for having me on the show.

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Speaker 3: Hi, I appreciate it.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry for all of the things.

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Speaker 3: Good luck, Thank you.

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