1 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:05,400 Speaker 1: Man, this is going to be a good time. 2 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:10,520 Speaker 2: Hold on, let me have a sip with my girls. 3 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: We are getting y'all warmed up. Okay. 4 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:20,759 Speaker 2: Form Ministry celebrating ten years of curating connections with kicks 5 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:23,200 Speaker 2: and conversations. Now, juice a door. You're going to be 6 00:00:23,239 --> 00:00:26,239 Speaker 2: part of that conversation. I am, and this is your 7 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 2: brain child, you know, Yes. 8 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 3: Absolutely, I created a Commistry ten years ago. So it's 9 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 3: our ten year celebration where Commistry is a live event. 10 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 3: But it turned into a television show on Foxhold yep, 11 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:41,839 Speaker 3: and so we have transparent, candid conversation. I created it 12 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:44,200 Speaker 3: to have the conversation with the men, but you can't 13 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 3: have a wholesome conversation without the woman's perspective. 14 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 2: Jie, I want to say, I know your perspectives have changed, 15 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 2: but I mean that's what happens as life be lifing. 16 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 2: Our perspectives on everything can potentially change. 17 00:00:57,240 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 1: You know. 18 00:00:57,520 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 2: What's hard though, I think for you navigating to is 19 00:00:59,760 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 2: that you I have children you want to protect, yes, 20 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:04,280 Speaker 2: and so sometimes people don't think about that when they're 21 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 2: going through tough situations. 22 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: You always get me. See that's what it's like. People say, well, 23 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: why didn't you say this? Or why couldn't you share that? 24 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:15,280 Speaker 4: And it's like as transparent as I have been, as 25 00:01:15,520 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 4: much of an open book I am, as authentic I 26 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 4: have been, the world has seen literally the demise of 27 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 4: my marriage. It is me always considering my kids, right, 28 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 4: that's my heart as a mom. 29 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 1: I have to protect my babies. 30 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 4: But then at the same time, everyone's seen everything, so 31 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 4: it's just for me where I was probably the last 32 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 4: time I was here versus where I am now. Oh 33 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 4: my gosh, so much heal, so much growth, so much work. 34 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:44,960 Speaker 4: And this is like something Chanelle and I sharing all 35 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 4: the time is like, you know, really me taking time 36 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 4: to get back to my purpose and now like I 37 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 4: can come and say, okay, I dropped my album, I 38 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 4: did something for me, and oh I'm back to my movies. 39 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 1: I did something for me, and really the movie being 40 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 1: watched right now here A girl, I mean blessing, okay. 41 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 4: And that's you know, kind of just a testament to 42 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 4: when you kind of embrace a selfish season. And like 43 00:02:10,919 --> 00:02:12,960 Speaker 4: I will tell anybody now it is okay to have 44 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 4: a selfish season, to really put yourself first, get back 45 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:18,440 Speaker 4: to you. And that's just really like what I've gone 46 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 4: through and what I can say it's working for me. 47 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 2: So now, why would you say these conversations are so 48 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 2: important for our community. 49 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 3: Because so often we don't communicate. Like in real life, 50 00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 3: we don't communicate, a lot of times when situations go awry, 51 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:34,480 Speaker 3: we don't really know what happened. We just know that 52 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 3: somebody got ghosted or somebody's not communicating. So I wanted 53 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:42,280 Speaker 3: to have this platform where we could ask those hard questions. 54 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 3: Or this is the one time where men can be 55 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 3: honest and tell the truth, right, Like they don't have 56 00:02:46,320 --> 00:02:48,760 Speaker 3: to lie. You can tell me like if I'm being 57 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:50,440 Speaker 3: too much, this is the time to tell me I'm 58 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 3: being too much. Or you could just or if I 59 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 3: give you a scenario and you say what really was 60 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 3: happening in it, they could like tell us the real 61 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 3: so that we can know how to move the next time. 62 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:01,840 Speaker 2: Right knowing that there's nobody that's gonna be mad at 63 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 2: to absolutely, I know people do be feeling a way. 64 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 3: You know, but you know what, you would be amazed 65 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 3: at how people open up and become so transparent and 66 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 3: share their experiences. Most times in these events, they'll start 67 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 3: off everybody stiff, but then one person they become vulnerable 68 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 3: and transparent, and then everybody wants to talk and share 69 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:22,320 Speaker 3: their experiences. You'd be like, oh, okay, it gives you 70 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 3: a different perspective on how to handle things. 71 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 5: Maybe I could try it the way you tried it 72 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:26,640 Speaker 5: the next time. 73 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 2: So when it's the last time you said you learned 74 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 2: something from a man that you're like, I need to 75 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 2: start doing things a little differently. 76 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 1: You know. 77 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:34,640 Speaker 3: One of the things that I'm still grappling with, and 78 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 3: this is a this is a constant debate, is dating 79 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:40,720 Speaker 3: multiple people. I do not subscribe to it, but I'm 80 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 3: told that how will you know if you don't date 81 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:46,840 Speaker 3: multiple people? I said, okay, so if I were to 82 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 3: do this two to three weeks tops, just so you 83 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:51,440 Speaker 3: can decide if this is something you want to pursue. 84 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:54,440 Speaker 3: But I'm not dating someone long term like where he's 85 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:57,839 Speaker 3: dating multiple people or other people. Like my biggest fear 86 00:03:57,960 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 3: is going being out with the girls and then seeing 87 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 3: the person that I'm saying, oh, you know, we're seeing 88 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 3: each other, he's with another female. 89 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:04,240 Speaker 5: Right what? 90 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: And Atlanta's small and very small. 91 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 3: It's like a lot of times women think they're in 92 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 3: a relationship with the man that the man is saying, 93 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:18,120 Speaker 3: I'm single, right, So now you run the risk of somebody. 94 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:20,600 Speaker 5: Approaching you saying you know you're dating my man and. 95 00:04:20,600 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 3: You're like, I didn't exactly, because that's how it works 96 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:26,600 Speaker 3: with us women. 97 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: Drew, how is it for you? You haven't dated in a 98 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 1: long time? Ten years? I'm like, what is dating? What 99 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:36,239 Speaker 1: is like? What is out here? How do you date? 100 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:39,159 Speaker 4: It's like literally starting over. And it's so different now 101 00:04:39,480 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 4: than ten years ago when I was dating. So I mean, 102 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 4: I have put myself out there a little bit. I 103 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 4: haven't been like outside outside in the streets, were like 104 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 4: on the sidewalk, like. 105 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 1: I'm outside, I'm in a restaurant, you know, a little lound. 106 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:55,000 Speaker 1: We got a lot of those in Atlanta. And I've 107 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:56,960 Speaker 1: just put myself out there a little bit. But it's 108 00:04:57,000 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 1: so hard now. 109 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 4: So I'm really just was it on me and trying 110 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 4: to get to know people, like on a friendship level, 111 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 4: Like you said, if you go out get to know somebody, 112 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 4: can we build a friendship or not? Because I got 113 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:10,840 Speaker 4: married in five months, so I'm now like, no, we're 114 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 4: gonna get to know each other. 115 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: We're gonna take her to talk about that all, yeah 116 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:19,360 Speaker 1: needs a guy. 117 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 2: Five months later, she's like, we're getting married. What advice 118 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:23,800 Speaker 2: would you give or what would you think? 119 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 1: Having gone through it yourself, what would you say? 120 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 5: Girl? 121 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 1: Don't know it? 122 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 4: Run like literally run And I don't want to be 123 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 4: jaded or bitter, right, I don't. 124 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 1: But I tell my girls, like, you know, I. 125 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 4: Find myself giving them advice based on my experience. And 126 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 4: then I'm like, but no, let me not impute that. 127 00:05:44,480 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 5: On that experiential knowledge. 128 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:46,599 Speaker 1: That's really okay. 129 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 5: So see that's why that's real. 130 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 2: You'd be like, take your time, but but I would 131 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:56,840 Speaker 2: say it worked for a long time for you beautiful kids. 132 00:05:56,839 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 2: So what I did first, you are real housewives. I 133 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:00,919 Speaker 2: was like, oh, I don't like how he doing it. 134 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:02,239 Speaker 1: I told you all that too, though. 135 00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:05,280 Speaker 2: I was like, you can't just go out of town 136 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 2: and not tell me where you're going, or like, I 137 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:08,839 Speaker 2: don't care if you're mad at me or not, I 138 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:11,599 Speaker 2: still need to know where you going. 139 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 1: Yeah hello, it was yeah right. 140 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:21,839 Speaker 2: But listen, So you've also made a mended relationship with Porsche, 141 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:22,799 Speaker 2: which is good. 142 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:23,720 Speaker 1: Go naked. 143 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 4: I'm ringing the drew wig here. She's melted today. So yeah, 144 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:29,039 Speaker 4: we're back in business together. 145 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:29,799 Speaker 1: I'm so excited. 146 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 2: Does that happen on the show or did it happen 147 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 2: like behind the scenes. No one had a chance to 148 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 2: see that play out. No, we actually like you will 149 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 2: get to see it this season. Okay, but then we 150 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:40,400 Speaker 2: also are promoting it on social media. 151 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:44,159 Speaker 4: But it is all because on reunion it was so 152 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:47,200 Speaker 4: amazing how Porscha just took ownership and was like, uhh, 153 00:06:47,640 --> 00:06:48,480 Speaker 4: I apologize. 154 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:50,239 Speaker 1: And I just feel like when some of the ladies 155 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 1: are able to do that in this. 156 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 4: Group, you can really just in relationships in general, you 157 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 4: can just get through things, and it really has made 158 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 4: us closer. Now we're back to laugh man having a ball, 159 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:01,240 Speaker 4: and I'm just so to have my girl back because 160 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 4: it was roughly that's good. 161 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 5: It was bad more than anything. 162 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: You forgave amen to that. Yes, ies, I did hold 163 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:12,640 Speaker 1: a grudge. 164 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 4: I mean, I'm a tourist, so we can hold a grudge. 165 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 4: But I just feel like we were both going through 166 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 4: so much pretty much the same thing at the same time. Fact, 167 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:24,040 Speaker 4: so it was like we need to be here for 168 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 4: each other. 169 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: I went through some things. Listen there the. 170 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 2: Congratulations by the way I saw the way the blogs 171 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 2: approached like your settlement and your divorce. 172 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: They were like, it's a win for Drew. Do you 173 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 1: feel like it's a win for you? 174 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 4: I mean, I feel like a divorce nobody. It's kind 175 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 4: of like getting back what I came to the marriage with, 176 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:44,720 Speaker 4: you know, like I get to keep my marriage. 177 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 1: Whoop? 178 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 4: Do you know that's what I came here with. I've 179 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 4: had my business in two thousand and five. So I 180 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 4: just feel like, absolutely, that's what should have happened. I 181 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:53,360 Speaker 4: hate that we were even fighting over it. 182 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:56,360 Speaker 1: I don't have to give alimony. Yeah, that was wild. 183 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 2: I know somebody right now in real life who's currently 184 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 2: like getting sued and their x or as soon to 185 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 2: be ex husband went to alimony and like access to 186 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 2: all of their finances and things they might have in 187 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 2: the future. 188 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, that is crazy. 189 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 2: But then on the flip side, people say women get 190 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 2: that all the time, like it's you know what I'm saying. 191 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 1: They'll be like, whomen get alimony is. 192 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, California, California, California. 193 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 1: Yah, when you get married prenup? 194 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 5: Oh absolutely? Are you serious? Yes, that is a deal breaker. 195 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 5: I'm serious. That's the only way it's happening. 196 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:36,880 Speaker 2: Because people will tell you that means that you're setting 197 00:08:36,920 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 2: yourself up for failure. 198 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:40,320 Speaker 5: Like, yeah, I just you know what my thing is. 199 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 3: I believe in whatever we earn during the marriage, the 200 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:45,920 Speaker 3: marital income, yes we can split that. But anything that 201 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 3: I work for before I. 202 00:08:47,480 --> 00:08:51,080 Speaker 5: Marry you, no, that belongs to me. And that's not fair. Yeah. 203 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 1: No, listen, it's a scary thing to me. 204 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 2: I know so many people that are going through like 205 00:08:57,240 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 2: right now, and people are scared. Even if you do 206 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:02,440 Speaker 2: have a prenup that there's a lot of times that 207 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:03,200 Speaker 2: gets contested. 208 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:06,040 Speaker 3: Change people change up on you and they don't care. 209 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 3: They just go for what they think belongs to them. 210 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, what's the longest relationship you've been. 211 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,440 Speaker 3: Girl, I have been a relationship so long. I haven't 212 00:09:14,440 --> 00:09:16,640 Speaker 3: been in a relationship in over a decade. Okay, I 213 00:09:16,679 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 3: want to say more than a decade. So she wait 214 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:23,280 Speaker 3: till somebody introduce me to somebody. 215 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 1: Now that's a whole nother A good at hooking people love. 216 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:28,600 Speaker 5: Yeah I. 217 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:33,960 Speaker 1: Think that. Yeah, I had to because people. 218 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:35,439 Speaker 2: But you know what, I feel like, there's a lot 219 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 2: more women asking me to men right and you know 220 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:40,160 Speaker 2: what's like a lot of my women friends are like, 221 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 2: do you have anybody who you can hook me up with. 222 00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:44,840 Speaker 2: And I feel like when guys asked me to hook 223 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 2: them up with somebody, sometimes I wouldn't do that to 224 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:50,079 Speaker 2: one of my friends, right, you know what I'm saying, 225 00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 2: Like I know guys that would be like, yeah, what's up. 226 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know if I wouldn't do that 227 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:54,439 Speaker 1: to her. 228 00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:58,920 Speaker 2: Nothing to be a hater or nothing, but like, I 229 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:01,079 Speaker 2: also don't want to put you in the situation where 230 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 2: don't kill me, Mano, but like where I'm like, Mano, 231 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:08,720 Speaker 2: you know, and you like, why did you? 232 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:11,199 Speaker 5: Especially if he ain't ready to be in a relationship. 233 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, they gotta be ready. 234 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:17,680 Speaker 2: Now listen, I want to talk Drew. You've been so 235 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:23,240 Speaker 2: bucked and busy music, you know, movies you've been. Are 236 00:10:23,320 --> 00:10:25,440 Speaker 2: we going to see more of that this season because 237 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:28,160 Speaker 2: I feel like we don't get to. I want to 238 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,960 Speaker 2: see you like behind the scenes on set, Like I 239 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:31,720 Speaker 2: want to see that. 240 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:34,880 Speaker 4: I want them to show that because that's really my life, 241 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:36,760 Speaker 4: Like I did five movies last year. 242 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: So yeah, this season crazy, It is crazy, Like. 243 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:41,160 Speaker 4: When you really put your head down and get back 244 00:10:41,160 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 4: to you, it's just like unstoppable. So yeah, like I'm 245 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:48,280 Speaker 4: my next movie because I had so much success with Twin, Like, 246 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 4: I just thank everybody. 247 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 1: For streaming that watched it, that got in a conversation 248 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:54,120 Speaker 1: about it. So my next movie is with Ta Diggs. 249 00:10:54,400 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: I'm very excited about that. 250 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:58,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, is that I sew you picture with Pootau as 251 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 2: a I'm doing a play. 252 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:04,319 Speaker 1: You forgot about. It wasn't doing that you know this weekend. 253 00:11:04,080 --> 00:11:06,440 Speaker 4: If you haven't got your tickets, get your chickens and 254 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 4: so yeah, like I'm just really in my bag right now. 255 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:10,360 Speaker 1: I like that for you. 256 00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:13,920 Speaker 2: Yes, okay, and soew You've been booked in Busy Creating 257 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:16,160 Speaker 2: as a creator too. And I think we also have 258 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:19,000 Speaker 2: to commend the fact that this is ten years of 259 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 2: com ministry and these conversations and that is not an 260 00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 2: easy thing to be consistent about. But also you have 261 00:11:26,360 --> 00:11:28,680 Speaker 2: a spirit about you that draws people to want to 262 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 2: work with you and to trust that. 263 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 5: Yeah, you know what I would I say? 264 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:35,079 Speaker 3: You know, I started Comministry at the bottom, like at 265 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:38,360 Speaker 3: the very bottom, like twelve dollars an hour bottom, and 266 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:40,960 Speaker 3: I just maintained consistency. I saw the vision on the 267 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:43,600 Speaker 3: very first event, because it was an event. I saw 268 00:11:43,640 --> 00:11:47,119 Speaker 3: the television show before I was I was like five 269 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:49,720 Speaker 3: years removed from the television show, and I just maintained 270 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 3: consistency and networking with people in Atlanta. And then somebody knows, 271 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:57,839 Speaker 3: somebody knows, somebody knows somebody, and it just continues to grow. 272 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:00,439 Speaker 3: And I believe in collaboration. That's important because a lot 273 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:03,080 Speaker 3: of people don't want to collaborate. But I'm like, that's 274 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 3: how you evolve and elevate your brand. You collaborate with people. 275 00:12:07,200 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: But sometimes you collaborate with the wrong people. 276 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:14,560 Speaker 3: This is true, This is true. Absolutely. I've been blessed 277 00:12:14,559 --> 00:12:17,920 Speaker 3: to have some great partners. So, yeah, ten years, how. 278 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:20,360 Speaker 1: Is it now? Because I feel like times have changed 279 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:20,679 Speaker 1: so much. 280 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 2: There was a time when people were pouring in to 281 00:12:23,080 --> 00:12:26,240 Speaker 2: black women, and still some people do. But when it 282 00:12:26,280 --> 00:12:30,280 Speaker 2: comes to brands and partnerships like that, how has that journey. 283 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 5: Been in terms of pouring into black women? 284 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:35,359 Speaker 1: And yeah, Like financially, okay, no. 285 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:38,959 Speaker 3: I fund everything out of my pocket, like my person, 286 00:12:39,440 --> 00:12:40,200 Speaker 3: I fun everything. 287 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 5: I fun everything out of my pocket. 288 00:12:42,320 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 3: We did do an attempt to get some sponsorships this 289 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:48,440 Speaker 3: past year, twenty twenty five actually for this event, and 290 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:51,959 Speaker 3: I just haven't that's the one deficit. If I had 291 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:54,440 Speaker 3: to say I had a deficit in my company, it 292 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 3: would be sponsorships. I have yet to connect with the 293 00:12:56,559 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 3: right person. So if you know, somebody connecting with me. 294 00:12:58,720 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 2: And if anybody's listening and they're like, this is something 295 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:03,400 Speaker 2: that I would want to be a part of and support, 296 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 2: and I could see why this would be great for 297 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:07,560 Speaker 2: my brand to align with that. Absolutely, you know, that 298 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:10,000 Speaker 2: makes the most sense. Absolutely, all right. 299 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 1: So I've seen people talking about this is going to 300 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 1: be the year of Drew. Really, I'm like, who's said that. 301 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:20,200 Speaker 2: I've seen it on social media And when you posted 302 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:26,479 Speaker 2: Kelly's restaurant, people are like this, I mean being hungry, 303 00:13:26,559 --> 00:13:28,680 Speaker 2: but people are like, this is great promo for the 304 00:13:28,679 --> 00:13:32,080 Speaker 2: new season. Though. Okay, but she took offense to that. 305 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:35,240 Speaker 2: So where are you guys at now? Did you speak offline? 306 00:13:35,520 --> 00:13:35,640 Speaker 3: No? 307 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:38,160 Speaker 4: I mean I feel like, for whatever reason, Kelly is 308 00:13:38,240 --> 00:13:39,199 Speaker 4: just always come. 309 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:42,000 Speaker 1: At me for no reason. You know, we don't really 310 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:42,560 Speaker 1: have an issue. 311 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 4: I don't have a particular issue except for I just 312 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:46,640 Speaker 4: haven't been able to get to know real Kelly. I 313 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:49,120 Speaker 4: feel like Kelly came in hot, you know, looking for 314 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:50,840 Speaker 4: a moment, and she came for me, and I just 315 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:52,560 Speaker 4: get tired of it, you know, I get tired of 316 00:13:52,559 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 4: the girls feeling like I'm an easy target and. 317 00:13:55,480 --> 00:13:56,840 Speaker 1: Then when I stand up for myself. 318 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:59,040 Speaker 4: But in all actuality, I was genuinely going to get 319 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:01,079 Speaker 4: some chicken and waffles my kids. One thing I've always 320 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:03,200 Speaker 4: done is ate her chicken and waffles. Okay, one thing 321 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:04,120 Speaker 4: I'm gonna do was eat. 322 00:14:04,160 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 1: So that was real. But I just didn't know that 323 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:08,040 Speaker 1: it was shut down. 324 00:14:08,200 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 4: So I was like, wait a minute, I didn't get 325 00:14:10,360 --> 00:14:13,080 Speaker 4: the memout, and that's a problem. You know that that 326 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 4: was a problem. She got very rattled. So I guess. 327 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 2: People are sensitive about their businesses, especially if they're having 328 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:22,080 Speaker 2: like issues and going through it. And then I know 329 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:24,400 Speaker 2: it was you know how the internet is, then they'd 330 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 2: be jokes online. You're pretty good at handling that, but 331 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:28,840 Speaker 2: everybody doesn't have that, Like. 332 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 1: Well, in this group. You gotta be strong, you know, 333 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:35,640 Speaker 1: because she has come for my music career. 334 00:14:35,720 --> 00:14:38,760 Speaker 4: I mean she's come for literally everything of my existence. 335 00:14:38,840 --> 00:14:40,680 Speaker 4: So I just feel like, you know, if we're gonna 336 00:14:40,680 --> 00:14:43,320 Speaker 4: throw our little shady moments and whatever, you gotta be 337 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:45,000 Speaker 4: able to take it, especially if you're gonna toss it 338 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 4: out if. 339 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 2: You start dating again, would you bring someone on the 340 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 2: show or what would it take for you to be like, 341 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:51,800 Speaker 2: let me introduce them to the group. 342 00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 4: Well, I mean I have a friend that I do 343 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 4: bring on the show this season, and it's my friend. 344 00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:00,440 Speaker 4: You know, we went out on a little date. We 345 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:03,520 Speaker 4: went a little you know, a little date, and it 346 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 4: was cute. 347 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 5: You showed his face, Yes, he showed his face. 348 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:10,960 Speaker 1: You know him too. I know him, you do. I 349 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:14,200 Speaker 1: don't ask me in real life or in real TV. 350 00:15:14,400 --> 00:15:16,440 Speaker 4: In real life we'll probably both. But in real life, 351 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 4: m hmm, what city is he from? 352 00:15:20,160 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 1: Oh that's gonna give it away. 353 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:21,440 Speaker 3: Girl. 354 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:24,920 Speaker 1: But I mean, tune into the. 355 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 4: Next season and you will see me, you know, bring 356 00:15:28,040 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 4: on someone. So I mean, obviously if I have a boyfriend, 357 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 4: I will be excited to introduce him to the group. 358 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:32,960 Speaker 1: Like this my man, y'all. 359 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 4: You know, I'm such an open book like that, and 360 00:15:35,680 --> 00:15:37,400 Speaker 4: just that's just the only one I know how to beat. 361 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 4: But even in my learning how to Date, I showed 362 00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:41,960 Speaker 4: that I opened up and showed that even though it 363 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:43,880 Speaker 4: wasn't all good, but. 364 00:15:43,880 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 1: Which is good for TV. So it was scary. I'm like, 365 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:49,000 Speaker 1: I didn't want to show that guys, but here we are. 366 00:15:49,120 --> 00:15:53,120 Speaker 2: It helps people sometimes, hopefully. Have you had to explain 367 00:15:53,240 --> 00:15:55,480 Speaker 2: a lot to your kids because I know earlier we 368 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:58,120 Speaker 2: talked about you protecting them and a lot of the 369 00:15:58,160 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 2: reasons why I didn't say this at first, I didn't 370 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:02,280 Speaker 2: say that was because you do have to think about 371 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:03,040 Speaker 2: your little people. 372 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 6: I do. 373 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:06,880 Speaker 1: And so what has that been. Have they asked you questions? 374 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:09,000 Speaker 4: Well, the thing about it is, I don't think a 375 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:10,920 Speaker 4: lot of people knew, but we have a court order 376 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 4: where we cannot talk to the kids about it. Okay, 377 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:16,680 Speaker 4: so we've had to create this world for them, you know, 378 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 4: of normalcy. So when Ralph did move into the basement, 379 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:23,119 Speaker 4: we were like, okay, he's given me more space upstairs. 380 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 4: He has to focus on work. That's you know why 381 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:28,240 Speaker 4: he's downstairs. So it wasn't the real but that's because 382 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:31,240 Speaker 4: it's a core order. So it's like, how do you 383 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 4: you know we'll be in contempt of court right exactly? 384 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 4: So that was another layer of protection. But they have 385 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 4: they see things online and they're like, well, what is this? 386 00:16:40,600 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 4: Or their friends will show them something and we're like, well, 387 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 4: you can't believe everything you read, right, and it doesn't 388 00:16:46,120 --> 00:16:46,960 Speaker 4: necessarily feel good. 389 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 1: But that's where we are. And I think the reason 390 00:16:49,280 --> 00:16:50,040 Speaker 1: is because. 391 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 4: With children, they need to feel safe, and so until 392 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:56,080 Speaker 4: things are agreed upon, we don't really have answers. You know, 393 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:57,760 Speaker 4: kids need to know where are we living, who are 394 00:16:57,760 --> 00:16:59,960 Speaker 4: we living with what, and we don't have those answers. 395 00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:01,520 Speaker 1: And that's what the judge explained. 396 00:17:01,560 --> 00:17:03,720 Speaker 2: Did you want to sell the home or would you 397 00:17:03,760 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 2: have preferred to keep it? 398 00:17:05,640 --> 00:17:08,720 Speaker 4: Well, that actually hasn't been finalized. Okay, so you know 399 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:12,199 Speaker 4: it's not over. There's a few things that have been 400 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:14,560 Speaker 4: agreed upon, which I'm so grateful. It's been three years, 401 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 4: so it's like now we're making some ways. 402 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:19,800 Speaker 2: It's supposed to be over in April, right, we'll see 403 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:20,600 Speaker 2: it was supposed to be. 404 00:17:23,320 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 4: But with divorce it becomes business, you know, it becomes 405 00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:29,880 Speaker 4: a negotiation. And unfortunately ours has been three years, so 406 00:17:30,280 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 4: we have made some headway though on a lot of 407 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:32,680 Speaker 4: major things. 408 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:35,159 Speaker 1: So I'm just happy for that. I think about how 409 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:35,840 Speaker 1: what it's. 410 00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:37,760 Speaker 2: Like when you know your kids and like what your 411 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:41,080 Speaker 2: parents are like, and how that kind of molds how 412 00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:43,679 Speaker 2: you feel about relationships, either for the better or for 413 00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 2: the worse. What was your experience like in terms of 414 00:17:47,359 --> 00:17:49,360 Speaker 2: when you were a kid like parents. 415 00:17:49,720 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 5: Wow. 416 00:17:50,040 --> 00:17:53,000 Speaker 3: So I grew up in a col parenting situation where 417 00:17:53,119 --> 00:17:55,280 Speaker 3: my dad lived in North Carolina and my mom lived 418 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 3: in Jersey, and so at five years old, I was 419 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 3: an U accompanied minor on the plane once Carolina, and 420 00:18:00,560 --> 00:18:02,720 Speaker 3: I ended up living with my dad from the age 421 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:03,880 Speaker 3: of ten all the way. 422 00:18:03,960 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 5: Well, I came back to. 423 00:18:04,840 --> 00:18:07,440 Speaker 3: Jersey like one year eighth grade and then finished high 424 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:10,760 Speaker 3: school in North Carolina. So for me, before cole parenting was 425 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:13,040 Speaker 3: even a term, it was great, okay, you know, like 426 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:16,119 Speaker 3: I would see the little arguments whenever we would all 427 00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:18,439 Speaker 3: get together as a family, but they did try to 428 00:18:18,520 --> 00:18:21,040 Speaker 3: do it. That's good for me. So for me it 429 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,159 Speaker 3: was great, you know. And I didn't I don't. I 430 00:18:23,160 --> 00:18:25,560 Speaker 3: don't feel any type of way. I don't have any resentment. 431 00:18:25,640 --> 00:18:27,159 Speaker 3: I mean, I was happy with both. 432 00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:29,800 Speaker 1: It gotta been like double holidays. Yeah, like if I 433 00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:31,320 Speaker 1: was here again, my guess and then good day. 434 00:18:31,320 --> 00:18:33,280 Speaker 5: That's exactly what it was. That's good to hear. 435 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 4: That is really good to hear because I always think 436 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:37,639 Speaker 4: about like how it will affect them. But that's what 437 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:40,280 Speaker 4: we're focusing on, is just building a healthy coparence. 438 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:42,520 Speaker 3: The most important thing is that you get time with 439 00:18:42,600 --> 00:18:45,960 Speaker 3: both parents, and for me, if I wasn't with my mom, 440 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,000 Speaker 3: I was with my dad and vice versa, and they 441 00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:50,680 Speaker 3: did well with that share in the holidays. 442 00:18:50,720 --> 00:18:51,840 Speaker 5: There was no friction there. 443 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 2: I now talk about this ministry event that's happening. So 444 00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:58,400 Speaker 2: what are some of the experiences that people can expect 445 00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:01,040 Speaker 2: when they come out February twenty first, right. 446 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:04,679 Speaker 3: Yeah, so we're pulling out all the stops. It's immersive events. 447 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:06,560 Speaker 3: So we're gonna have a lot of activations. We're gonna 448 00:19:06,600 --> 00:19:09,600 Speaker 3: have a perfume bar, We're gonna have a ballerina, We're 449 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:15,159 Speaker 3: gonna have the. 450 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:16,800 Speaker 5: They wanted to bring a balleringue. 451 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:16,240 Speaker 1: About to go down. 452 00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:19,160 Speaker 3: I have games like branded games, which I've had that before, 453 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:22,879 Speaker 3: but branded games like We're gonna have obviously a DJ 454 00:19:23,080 --> 00:19:25,880 Speaker 3: the Conversation Johnny Blaze is going to perform. 455 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:27,920 Speaker 5: I'm gonna perform all throughout the night. So that's gonna 456 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:28,440 Speaker 5: be exciting. 457 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:29,080 Speaker 1: Her piano. 458 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:32,359 Speaker 5: I'm gonna have her. I'm gonna have her play Hello, 459 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 5: it's me my party. 460 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:38,479 Speaker 3: You know she did, Yes, I'm gonna have her do that. Actually, 461 00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 3: I'm gonna come in on that. 462 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:45,080 Speaker 1: Got her interest down. 463 00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:48,160 Speaker 3: Kicks and conversations, so you got to wear your sneakers. 464 00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:51,800 Speaker 3: I'm a Jersey girl girl, you know. I got two 465 00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:53,879 Speaker 3: pairs because I'm gonna go out. 466 00:19:54,720 --> 00:20:01,359 Speaker 1: Yes, change because it's like a yeah, I'm going to. 467 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 3: The first I said short, so we do the conversation. 468 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 3: I don't want to be sitting down, pulling and tugging, 469 00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:07,919 Speaker 3: so I'm gonna put something longer. 470 00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:11,239 Speaker 5: Yeah. So and then this is just my opportunity to 471 00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:12,119 Speaker 5: wear my because I'm. 472 00:20:11,960 --> 00:20:14,680 Speaker 2: A sneakerhead through and through and nothing like being able 473 00:20:14,680 --> 00:20:17,280 Speaker 2: to wear sneakers at any Yes. 474 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:20,879 Speaker 5: So I'm excited. I'm excited just to see ten years. 475 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 5: You know, I don't. 476 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:25,280 Speaker 3: I didn't think when I first because I started ministry 477 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:27,680 Speaker 3: three years I mean three months after moving to Atlanta, 478 00:20:28,040 --> 00:20:29,200 Speaker 3: like literally, yeah. 479 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:32,000 Speaker 5: I wasn't but it wasn't. It was like an. 480 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 3: Idea, but I didn't have the resources. But my cousin 481 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 3: she owned Dream Cafe on Peter Street in Atlanta. 482 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:40,679 Speaker 5: So the location. Once you get that taken care of, 483 00:20:40,840 --> 00:20:42,639 Speaker 5: then you can manage everything else. 484 00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:44,359 Speaker 1: Unless me and you toasted. 485 00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:59,800 Speaker 6: Anything to see chairs, streaming movies cheery yea god willing, 486 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:03,600 Speaker 6: everything will be officially done with what do you think 487 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:05,880 Speaker 6: about dating while you're still married, because I know that's 488 00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:06,959 Speaker 6: also a conversation. 489 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:13,080 Speaker 5: Who do they give a hard time? Yes, but they 490 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:16,080 Speaker 5: let other people slot like Cardi. They give her a past, 491 00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:16,840 Speaker 5: but they don't give. 492 00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:18,520 Speaker 1: That they gave her a hard time too. I feel 493 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 1: like they would get. 494 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:23,440 Speaker 3: Clarissa and Pat Pools. They be dragging her through the mud. 495 00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:26,560 Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, Clarissa, do it with her. 496 00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:28,639 Speaker 4: I mean, I think it's scary because you never know 497 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:31,280 Speaker 4: what could happen, you know, like you know, but people 498 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:32,119 Speaker 4: can divorce and then. 499 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:32,800 Speaker 1: Get back together too. 500 00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 4: So it's kind of just like I believe in closing 501 00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:39,159 Speaker 4: a chapter because for me, it's like, Okay, maybe I 502 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:41,080 Speaker 4: like the idea of maybe starting to date, but it 503 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:43,199 Speaker 4: is scary. And then it's like I got all this 504 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:46,160 Speaker 4: I'm dealing with how can I even show up for years? 505 00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:47,240 Speaker 3: Three years? 506 00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:49,359 Speaker 4: But it's like think about going to court so much 507 00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:52,240 Speaker 4: and then like I have primary custy and then I'm working. 508 00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:55,000 Speaker 4: It's like finding time to dedicate to someone and really 509 00:21:55,080 --> 00:21:57,359 Speaker 4: be able to show up the way I would, you know, 510 00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:00,280 Speaker 4: as a single woman ready for a relationship. It's like 511 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:02,960 Speaker 4: I'm kind of gonna cut them short, you know, I'm 512 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:04,760 Speaker 4: just not in a place where I can really dedicate 513 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,679 Speaker 4: that time and nurture somebody else right now, you know, 514 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,399 Speaker 4: So I've kind of preserved my energy to just be 515 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 4: focused on my kids and work. 516 00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:14,639 Speaker 1: So now talked about dating multiple people too. What are 517 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:20,960 Speaker 1: your thoughts on. Yeah, I call my kids different names. 518 00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,439 Speaker 4: I just feel like if I can't get that straight, 519 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,600 Speaker 4: it's probably not a good idea for me, because that 520 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:29,359 Speaker 4: that could just go very wrong everything I think so 521 00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:31,720 Speaker 4: and I would be the one to just get it 522 00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:32,480 Speaker 4: all confused. 523 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:34,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I've never been that girl. 524 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,439 Speaker 4: I've always been a relationship girlly though, So I've always 525 00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:38,439 Speaker 4: focused on one person. 526 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:39,880 Speaker 1: And I'm not gonna say that works for. 527 00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:42,679 Speaker 4: Everybody, but for me, I have to really focus in 528 00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,600 Speaker 4: on that person because you got to remember and clock 529 00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:45,439 Speaker 4: everything they say. 530 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:47,040 Speaker 2: Because I gotta be able to say, oh, you said that, 531 00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:49,600 Speaker 2: there's a lot of work in a relationship. Watch this 532 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:52,320 Speaker 2: show you remember that wasn't oh girl? 533 00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,720 Speaker 1: That and that would be me. So therefore, do I 534 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:56,800 Speaker 1: think it would work for me? 535 00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,800 Speaker 2: You gotta watch Twin three times now because that's all 536 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:01,439 Speaker 2: with this pace, and now I gotta watch it with 537 00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:02,440 Speaker 2: this I. 538 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,439 Speaker 1: Just have pizza with this one. You want pizza there 539 00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:05,800 Speaker 1: and have visa and launchich. 540 00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:09,840 Speaker 4: Like, nowain a lot of things to consider, y'all. So 541 00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:11,040 Speaker 4: I don't think I could do it. 542 00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:12,760 Speaker 2: You know, me and you always talk about hanging out 543 00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,240 Speaker 2: in Chicago together. I feel like Ministry would be good 544 00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:15,960 Speaker 2: in Chicago. 545 00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:18,040 Speaker 5: It would be I would love to do a tour. 546 00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:21,119 Speaker 2: We need to take it to Chicago in the summer, 547 00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:24,360 Speaker 2: take it home and it's some of the summer outside. 548 00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:26,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, absolutely amazing. 549 00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:28,359 Speaker 2: Well, listen, how can people get tickets if they're listening, 550 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 2: if there's any there's any left that they could purchase. 551 00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:33,119 Speaker 3: Yeah, we have some tickets left. You could either go 552 00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 3: to the website at www dot com ministry dot com, 553 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:37,560 Speaker 3: or you can just go straight to even bright and 554 00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:38,600 Speaker 3: search out co ministry. 555 00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:40,440 Speaker 1: Okay, and I posted on my page. Go to my 556 00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:42,640 Speaker 1: page or directly right or. 557 00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:45,400 Speaker 5: My page the bio Instagram. 558 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:46,159 Speaker 1: Listen, so many ways. 559 00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,720 Speaker 2: Excuse I'm gonna be checking in with you weekly too. 560 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:52,359 Speaker 2: I'm gonna be like, so, what happened last night? 561 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:54,200 Speaker 1: I need to and you know I'll tell you. I 562 00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,040 Speaker 1: like literally every Sunday, you can hear me. I will 563 00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: let you know what's up. I appreciate it well. Thank 564 00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:01,240 Speaker 1: you both so much. Nella and I have some things 565 00:24:01,240 --> 00:24:01,720 Speaker 1: on the way. 566 00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:06,320 Speaker 2: Yes, I'm so excited for her well, but always so 567 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:06,960 Speaker 2: nice to see you. 568 00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:08,919 Speaker 1: I'm glad that you know that you came here. I 569 00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:12,359 Speaker 1: love seeing y'all together. I love you guys. Girls, we 570 00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,760 Speaker 1: see we girls girls. Yeah we girls girls cheers. 571 00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:19,600 Speaker 5: Yeah, that's way up.