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Speaker 1: think maybe this isn't like my guy forever, but I'll

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Speaker 1: just give it a shot. I'll be open. And I

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Speaker 1: think it's like you go and you sit and you

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Speaker 1: meet them and you just kind of know and like,

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Speaker 1: you know, that's the moment where you can be like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I trust my gut, this isn't a match, or yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'd see him a second time and give it one

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Speaker 1: more shot and see if it's more of a match

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Speaker 1: or whatever that's on the apps. The friend thing, I mean,

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Speaker 1: maybe you get a little more information. Like the drink thing,

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Speaker 1: to me is so fucking ridiculous. I'm just like, dude,

439
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Speaker 1: just buy both, Like if it was just two drinks,

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Speaker 1: just buy one more. I don't know. To me, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm forty, so maybe this is like an age thing,

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Speaker 1: but I'm like, if someone asked me on a date,

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Speaker 1: I do have this like I want to be I

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Speaker 1: want to be um taken on a date, you know.

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Speaker 1: And it's not like I won't contribute at all, but

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Speaker 1: it's just sort of like like if you can buy

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Speaker 1: one drink but you can't buy two, should we even

448
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Speaker 1: be going on a date? I sort of like, I

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Speaker 1: don't know, I just I think it's like the consideration

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Speaker 1: piece and there's something about that masculine energy that is

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Speaker 1: really attractive to us. And so if you really are

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Speaker 1: trying to like get to know a girl, that's a

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Speaker 1: good start. And it's not about they have to pay,

454
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 1: but it's just it's a nice gesture. And I mean,

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Speaker 1: I will say, if a guy did that to me,

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Speaker 1: I would be like okay, bye, like no kidding me. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Like I went on a date last week and he

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Speaker 1: paid for dinner, and um, we went and had a

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Speaker 1: drink after and he got the first round and then

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Speaker 1: I was like, we were going to get another drink

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Speaker 1: and I was like, I'll get this one. Like you

462
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:03,719
Speaker 1: end up offering because you're like, wait, he doesn't need

463
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Speaker 1: to pay for everything. But the fact that like he

464
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:10,399
Speaker 1: would have it was good, you know what I mean. Like,

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Speaker 1: but then it's like, let the girls step up and

466
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Speaker 1: do that, but I'll get your first drink and you

467
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Speaker 1: can pay for your second. It's just like a little

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00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,919
Speaker 1: bit ridiculous to me. I don't know, well, like what

469
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Speaker 1: would he have done if she had gotten up and

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Speaker 1: said no, What if she would have just been like,

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Speaker 1: you know what, I'm good, I'll get both. I'm good.

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Speaker 1: Like it's just it's like a it's a turn off,

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Speaker 1: and I'm sure there'd be men who come at me

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Speaker 1: about that one. But I just I guess I'm like

475
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Speaker 1: old school that way, where I want to be taken

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Speaker 1: on a date. Um. And then the thing about trusting

477
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Speaker 1: your gut, I do think it's like an energy thing.

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Speaker 1: You have to kind of be open if you're outdating,

479
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 1: and so like, I don't think it's bad she went

480
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Speaker 1: on this date even if she sort of had questions,

481
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 1: she just got more information and got the validation of like, yeah,

482
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:57,679
Speaker 1: this is not my guy. Like period there it is

483
00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:01,880
Speaker 1: like maybe he's too cheap for her or really focused

484
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 1: on his savings with props. Good for you, but um,

485
00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 1: that should maybe be mentioned before dating, or just don't

486
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 1: go on the date or go get a coffee. So

487
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,679
Speaker 1: it's not like you don't want to pay for someone's

488
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 1: drinks that you're not sure it's going to go anywhere.

489
00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 1: There's just lots of options you could have chosen, and

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00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like if you're asking someone

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Speaker 1: on a date, it is um kind of your responsibility

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Speaker 1: to pay. Yeah, I mean I think it was maybe

493
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:37,399
Speaker 1: a match make from their friends. But still here's just

494
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:40,639
Speaker 1: like come on, I don't know. I think it's like

495
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:43,879
Speaker 1: a weird battle between the masculine stuff because in some ways,

496
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,439
Speaker 1: guys it's like the same thing like women, you know,

497
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 1: we're like we can do it on our own, and

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Speaker 1: then we want a guy to pay for dinner, and

499
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 1: so the guys are like, well, which one is it?

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00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:55,639
Speaker 1: Like what do you want? But it's the same thing

501
00:25:55,680 --> 00:26:00,080
Speaker 1: for us. Like you know, if you guys want to

502
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:03,400
Speaker 1: take care of a woman or fall into your masculine role,

503
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 1: then you kind of got to do some of the

504
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 1: old chivalry stuff like that is that is a thing

505
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:11,440
Speaker 1: like step up because I think what women are proving

506
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:13,960
Speaker 1: is like we can do it all, but that doesn't

507
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:17,480
Speaker 1: mean we want to and we don't like need men,

508
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 1: Like I want a man in my life, you know,

509
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 1: I don't need him to pay my bills or anything

510
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: like that, but like sure there's nice things that like

511
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,359
Speaker 1: it would feel nice to feel treated to dinner and

512
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:34,480
Speaker 1: those kind of things. So anyway, I hope that helped Heather. Um.

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00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:36,480
Speaker 1: I always say trust your gut, and I also think

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00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:38,840
Speaker 1: with dating, you just have to be really open and

515
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:40,680
Speaker 1: give it a shot, and if it doesn't work out,

516
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 1: no harm, no foul. There you go. You got one

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00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:51,640
Speaker 1: free drink. I wish. I wish the story ended where

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Speaker 1: she threw the rest of her second drink in his

519
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:59,199
Speaker 1: face and stormed out. That's what would have happened. I

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Speaker 1: like that famous that's really funny. All right, Well, we

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00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 1: gotta go today. We're keeping it real short with you guys,

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00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 1: but we always love to connect at the end of

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Speaker 1: the month. But there was anything that really stuck out

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Speaker 1: for you with any of the podcast, Please let us know.

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Speaker 1: You can always email us at the Edge at velvet

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00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: edge dot com. Acceptance was a great reminder, and I

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00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:17,919
Speaker 1: think it's always something like wake up every morning and

528
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 1: think through if you can. I tried to. I really

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Speaker 1: struggle sometimes. But um, there's a lot of great guests

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Speaker 1: if you missed any sort of like the astrology talk

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Speaker 1: was about the retrogrades and why they're not so bad.

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Speaker 1: My favorite was probably in Gread Clayton this past week.

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00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 1: She was such a good conversation for me and so

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Speaker 1: helpful with narcissistic abuse conversations because I think it's so

535
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Speaker 1: oversaturated online and so it's really confusing nowadays. And she's

536
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Speaker 1: just really really clear about that what trauma looks like,

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Speaker 1: getting out of relationships, what that can look like, um,

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Speaker 1: all sorts of things. So anyway, you guys go check

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Speaker 1: out all this podcast Chip. We're gonna get you on

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Speaker 1: some A D D medicine. Um. Yeah, any any parting

541
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 1: words from you, Um, trust your gut? Oh, there you go.

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00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 1: I mean I think that's like it kind of plays

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00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:14,119
Speaker 1: into you know what I was talking about earlier to

544
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:18,199
Speaker 1: like when you know that like you need to do

545
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: something different than what you're doing, whether it's um, going

546
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:26,160
Speaker 1: on a date or losing weight, fucking listen to your gut. Yeah, yeah,

547
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Speaker 1: there you go. Dropping from the knowledge. All right, tell

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Speaker 1: people where they can find you. Um, you can find

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Speaker 1: me on Instagram at Chip Doors, which is h I

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Speaker 1: P D R s H. I mean, he really has

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Speaker 1: the mag popping today always. I'm gonna have the video

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Speaker 1: for you, guys. I am at Velvet Edge on Insta.

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Speaker 1: can email us at the Edge at velvet edge dot com.

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Speaker 1: And as you go into your weekends and you're living

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Speaker 1: real quick, we worth played a Reagan. Yeah. Have you

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