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Speaker 1: Okay, Michelle, here's a real ass adulting question for you.

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Speaker 1: Favorite shore to do, least favorite sort to do and

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Speaker 1: why go go go.

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Speaker 2: Favorite favorite sort do is definitely cleaning the kitchen counter

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Speaker 2: and like I'm making my bed because they're very simple.

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Speaker 2: I can get it done in five minutes and it

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Speaker 2: just like makes me feel like the place is clean.

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Speaker 3: Least favorite garbage, Yeah, I'm so cue.

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Speaker 2: I went to college. I'm a black person with freckles

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Speaker 2: and I'm Caribbean. That's a big deal. I don't want

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Speaker 2: to take garbage out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that that trifecta. You don't want to deal with garbage.

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Speaker 3: That trifecta is trifling.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yet you wordplay put it on a magnet?

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Speaker 5: Do you want to ask me?

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Speaker 3: Not really? Ow? Hey, everybody, I'm a show hotel and

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Speaker 3: I'm Jordan Carlos.

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Speaker 1: I like how you said that, And welcome to adultings

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Speaker 1: for w NIS Studio.

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Speaker 2: In this episode, we hear from three really amazing people.

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Speaker 3: You have such good stories. We have Joye L. Johnson.

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Speaker 5: Indeed, we also have Julia, Rosie.

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Speaker 2: And Beggar also just FYI, guys, we talk about some

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Speaker 2: really personal stuff and yeah it might be dark. Yeah

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Speaker 2: it might be crazy, but I think everybody goes through

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Speaker 2: something and we need to create a space to talk

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Speaker 2: about it, and that's what we did in this episode.

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Speaker 6: I hope you enjoyed the rye.

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Speaker 3: I'm I'm just curious. Make some noise. If you're in

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Speaker 3: your twenties, that's.

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Speaker 5: All they can give. They're the battery is always like

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Speaker 5: they're tired of.

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Speaker 3: Paying these taxes. Y'all got to get the fun.

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Speaker 7: Together, okay, because I have a navy.

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Speaker 2: Blazer on and red lips and I'm ready to give

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Speaker 2: it to you like a Delta attendant.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, chicken a puss, some motherfucker.

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Speaker 2: I loove like Sam Jackson and Julianna Martin Lee's had

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Speaker 3: I'm like stick. So I'm fucking playing.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes when I think I've done bad in my career,

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Speaker 2: like oh I should have done this, I'm just like,

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Speaker 2: just remember Sam Jackson did Snakes.

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Speaker 3: On a plane and he was Okay, did you see it?

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Speaker 5: It was good in bad. I saw it a bunch

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Speaker 5: of times.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know me, you know what's about. Okay, So

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Speaker 3: Jordan came over this week.

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Speaker 2: He always makes fun of me because I had a

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Speaker 2: five S C phone or C S whatever the fuck

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Speaker 2: I got a new phone, And so Jordan came over

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Speaker 2: this week and it was to celebrate the new phone.

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Speaker 3: Just kidding, He's not.

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Speaker 2: I like to see my bundles of joy, and uh my,

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Speaker 2: there was laundry everywhere, and like I like to apologize

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Speaker 2: when my house is not a proper representation of who

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Speaker 2: I am.

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Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Like you can have some dishes in the sink, but

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Speaker 2: the countertop cannot be messy when something comes over, because

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Speaker 2: it's just like ew, you live like that. And I

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Speaker 2: felt bad because it was a very imprompt to visit

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Speaker 2: and I was just like, you know, like my bed

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Speaker 5: Just like there was no judgments.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you have kids, so it's like everything Like

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Speaker 1: their room was immaculate, immaculate.

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Speaker 5: It was like, so their.

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Speaker 2: Room was amazing and my room looked like the Hangover movie.

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Speaker 5: I mean that's you know what I gonna happen.

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Speaker 8: You know what?

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Speaker 3: This is like a very quick cleaning situation for me.

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Speaker 3: I stuff shipping draws.

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Speaker 5: Is that what you do?

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Speaker 2: I stuff stuff in draws? I have like seven junk

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Speaker 2: draws by accident.

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Speaker 1: Whose closet stuffer is like if you have somebody come

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Speaker 3: Everything falls out.

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Speaker 5: I was such a closet stuffer back in the day.

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Speaker 3: It's like that sounds like something else, And now I'm willing.

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Speaker 5: To come out close and stuffer. All right, that's what

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Speaker 5: I do. Stove top, stove top, all right, just water.

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Speaker 2: You know, I always felt like you could tell so

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Speaker 2: much about somebody when you go to their house and

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Speaker 2: announce and look at their bathroom sink.

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Speaker 5: Oh, has it got the Tuesday stain up top?

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Speaker 3: So many says yuck? Have you ever wiped it?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Can I see that old hair around the toilet seat?

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Speaker 3: I'm like, how do you.

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Speaker 5: Live like this?

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Speaker 3: Your animal? Your animal, especially boys on wash their no doubt.

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Speaker 5: I always bathroom clean.

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Speaker 2: If you want a dirty toilet, saint, nobody wants to

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Speaker 3: It's two minutes. You gotta clean tarlet.

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Speaker 9: You bet very clean, and you can't handle me and

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Speaker 2: Know what happened the other day. Okay, I'm just gonna

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Speaker 2: switch gears for two point two. I can talk about

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Speaker 2: cleaning all day. We have a lot of visitors dop

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Speaker 2: buy the house to like they had the babies and stuff,

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Speaker 2: and like one of my one of my friend's husbands

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Speaker 2: is like one of these like inappropriate huggers.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: Like he'll take it's like we're doing a slow dance

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Speaker 2: and he'll go and tight and hold it and I'm

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Speaker 2: like nice to the too. Yeah, the underneath he gets

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Speaker 2: like the he cups the back fat on the bottom.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, this is this is very intimate. No, I

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Speaker 2: What do you What do you do when like somebody's

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Speaker 2: boyfriend or girlfriend has just like got the wondering eye?

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Speaker 3: Do you tell them?

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I think when you have like a guy with a

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Speaker 1: wondering eye, it's important to call it out, but in

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Speaker 1: a way that it's like bulletproof where you don't get

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Speaker 1: fucked over, right, Like so maybe you could say something

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Speaker 1: like how I go like I just feel that, I

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Speaker 5: They're using I statements sometimes Gerald.

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Speaker 3: Jerald did this happen in nineteen four?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah in France.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that he isn't as respectful to you as he

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Speaker 5: All Right? That's what you do.

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Speaker 2: But that's the thing too, How could like, what is

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Speaker 2: the line between flirting and being inappropriate?

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Speaker 1: I think flirting is inappropriate, Like you don't flirt, you

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Speaker 1: don't flirt with somebody else's like yeah, yeah, friend, if

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Speaker 1: you're in a relationship.

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Speaker 5: You're not, Like I want to fuging Gerald.

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Speaker 1: This is Gerald from France who doesn't have a hold

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Speaker 1: on the English language. And it's like, you know, I'm more,

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Speaker 5: We should get this show, We should get the show start.

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Speaker 5: Are you all ready for the show? Yes?

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Speaker 2: Our first guest on this fucking episode of adulting is

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Speaker 2: so fucking I'm.

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Speaker 3: Just talking.

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Speaker 10: Podcast like this fucking ship. Please shake this person tired,

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Speaker 10: look at the It's okay, all right. Our next guest

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Speaker 10: is amazing. She's wonderful. She plays all over town. You

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Speaker 10: go full lovelhood titties as I did too.

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Speaker 5: You can't say anything. You putting me in a very

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Speaker 5: awkward position. All right, I agree with what you said.

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Speaker 11: All right, guys, let's please put your hands together. John Joy, you.

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Speaker 3: Stick here, he is your mic that's.

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Speaker 12: Joy?

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Speaker 3: Hid.

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Speaker 5: How you doing? Hey? How you doing? What? What's that?

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Speaker 3: You are a good friend to the end.

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Speaker 2: We are pretty new in our friendship, and we decided

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Speaker 2: to test our friendship. And we went to Ikea on

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Speaker 5: It was.

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Speaker 3: And we tried to get food and we just didn't

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Speaker 3: we trying.

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Speaker 2: To get food and it did feel like an episode

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Speaker 2: of Oranges and New Black. I was like, do we

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Speaker 2: We're just hold like we about to like hold fucking

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Speaker 2: we tried.

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Speaker 5: I don't know it was.

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Speaker 3: It was no, I don't need.

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Speaker 5: Did just do?

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Speaker 3: Give it up for thank you? Next, tell me tell

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Speaker 3: me a little bit about how you grew up.

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Speaker 5: How I grew up.

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Speaker 12: I grew up little girl in New Jersey, Jersey in

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Speaker 12: the hell yes people, yes, yes Jersey. I'm Jersey girl

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Speaker 12: from you in New Jersey.

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Speaker 3: And I grew up.

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Speaker 5: I actually was doing.

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Speaker 12: Going to school illegally because I grew up in the girl.

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Speaker 5: I would go too. I broke the law to go

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Speaker 12: This is what real black people do. We had the

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Speaker 12: which was the Starrs, New Jersey, and then I would

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Speaker 12: New Jersey, and I would go to school illegally.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I got caught a couple of times.

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Speaker 5: That's wow. I mean you did what you had to do. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: I did. When you when did you know you were

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Speaker 5: gonna like be a comedian? Was it in school? Were

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Speaker 5: you like cracking people up in class and things like that?

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Speaker 12: I was always the observer, so I was a sit

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Speaker 2: Should stock? That's like, that's such a stock question. Did

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Speaker 2: you know it was a lie? While you were going

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Speaker 2: gotta do, Like you knew the difference between like lies until.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was super smart, So yeah, I know. And

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Speaker 3: then how did your mom explain to you? Because your

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Speaker 3: mom's like, don't lie to me, but lie when you're

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Speaker 3: in school exactly, which.

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Speaker 5: Is why I knew.

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Speaker 12: I was like, oh, no, adults know what they're doing,

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Speaker 12: Like I knew that from a child. I was like, Oh,

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Speaker 12: everyone's just fucking shooting the ship here, troubleshooting.

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Speaker 5: So how'd you get caught?

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Speaker 3: They had private investigators that would, yeah, would follow you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 12: I've never talked about this before that's hilarious, investigator, Yeah,

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Speaker 12: I would follow you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because it's because it costs money.

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Speaker 12: So if you're supposed to, if you want to go

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Speaker 12: to a better school district, you know't live in that

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Speaker 12: school district. You got to pay money, like at a

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Speaker 12: private school. So if they suspect somebody does not live

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Speaker 3: You have friends you keep in touch with from that school. No,

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Speaker 3: did you have a crush?

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Speaker 5: Of course crushed?

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Speaker 3: What was his name?

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Speaker 12: I don't remember anyway, do you have I'm my mother's

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Speaker 12: only child, but I have half siblings instead.

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Speaker 5: Are they in comedy too or no?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so a lot of a lot of people find company.

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Speaker 3: Let's not get dark. I'm trying to keep a light.

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Speaker 12: I don't know, like how your giving spirit fingers to this.

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Speaker 5: Alone? Oh my god?

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Speaker 3: So many follow ups? Yeah, so many follows.

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Speaker 3: Talk about a therapy that I do.

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Speaker 5: But then you're like, mom, would he come and visit you?

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Speaker 5: But he didn't acknowledge me as his kids.

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Speaker 12: Oh what, I don't know how y'all started these questions,

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Speaker 3: Great idea, guys, Well I want I'm a great idea.

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Speaker 5: So did you know you always wanted to be a comedian?

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Speaker 5: She's like, no, you want to ask him dark life

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Speaker 12: It's glad I put on the waterproof mass scary.

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Speaker 3: I'm just saying, like that, has that has shaped you

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Speaker 5: I'm asking the same questions. I'm asking obvious questions.

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Speaker 12: Okay, all right, you had a shitty child.

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Speaker 5: So you can put your tears in that. Want you

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Speaker 1: That is a very powerful thing. Have you thought of

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Speaker 12: We'll talk about having a deadbeat doctor dad, which is

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Speaker 5: You know, say that for the Get that on the Netflix.

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Speaker 12: Yeah, y'all laugh in the beginning, and have you bitch

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Speaker 3: No? I mean, okay, can I ask my next question?

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Speaker 2: Yes, twenty nineteen, what's the most adult thing you want

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Speaker 12: I want to I wanna get my own radio show

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Speaker 5: Urban View Black Urban, but oh no, Urban View Black Black.

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Speaker 3: Don Will was my guest on Valentine's Day. What did

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Speaker 5: We talked about bombing. That's like one of my biggest things.

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Speaker 5: You know what a cruise? I think on the last

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Speaker 3: Last day question for sure.

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Speaker 12: Listen to Joan on What Serious ExM Channel one twenty series.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, oh my.

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Speaker 3: God, what crazy history.

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Speaker 10: Yes, he's.

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Speaker 3: Welcome back to it, don't together? And then we thought

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Speaker 2: We were in Spain, because that's what I do. We

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Speaker 2: And then he wanted to sail a boat. I was like, no, chrystals,

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Speaker 5: It was that night.

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Speaker 2: Half the time, I think he's trying to kill me

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Speaker 5: He's like de Niro and Goodfellas, just.

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Speaker 3: Exactly.

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Speaker 5: So.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he popped the question and it was like, so sweet.

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Speaker 3: I had no idea. How did you pop the question?

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Speaker 12: Oh?

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Speaker 5: We asked each other at the same time.

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Speaker 1: I was like, do you want to because she's she's

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Speaker 5: It was like will you marry me? And She's like,

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Speaker 5: it will. It was awesome.

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Speaker 3: I was so dutch. I love it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was great.

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Speaker 2: Guys, wear tell some questions about adulting. Are we gonna

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Speaker 2: answer those questions?

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Speaker 3: Bitch?

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Speaker 5: You ready?

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Speaker 8: Yes?

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Speaker 3: I can't wait?

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Speaker 1: Question time, Question number one about adulting. This is very

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Speaker 1: good at handwriting. Is getting a turtle too much responsibility

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Speaker 5: Bed a turtle. Look at that sh.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I like you.

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Speaker 5: You're interesting. You're like in this big great is sitting

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Speaker 3: Maybe this person needs like a tiny house.

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Speaker 1: I think that's great. You live in a dolls house

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Speaker 1: and I think that's awesome. It depends on the size

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Speaker 5: A sea turtle? We we're talking about a box turtle.

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Speaker 5: What the fun we're talking about? Like, you know whatever,

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Speaker 5: Let the turtle be small.

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Speaker 4: I would say, get a finicky plant first and see

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Speaker 5: Then let the turtle eat the plants, you know what

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Speaker 3: Like, that's great, And turtles are a commitment. They last

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Speaker 1: Time, Yeah, a long time. But but like I feel

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Speaker 1: sound quirky as.

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Speaker 3: Fuck and single as fuck. What's the question?

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Speaker 5: You have some more questions? You can't do it? Do

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Speaker 5: you actually need to flip a mattress? How long should

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Speaker 7: That is prime adulting questions.

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Speaker 5: Have we got a good questions? We have a question.

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Speaker 5: It's a good question. Don what's your money? What you

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Speaker 5: think about?

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 5: I think that?

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Speaker 1: Like the old school spring mattresses, you had to flip

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Speaker 5: But I don't know about the phone situation, so I

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Speaker 5: need to know about this. It's a fam mattress? Is

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Speaker 5: it a tasks? Wait? Are you making fun of me?

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Speaker 3: Or are you just saying it like that?

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Speaker 5: I kinda, but I love you. I just want to say,

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Speaker 3: Are you single? Who's helping you flip this ship?

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Speaker 5: Flip it yourself?

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Speaker 7: Yes?

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Speaker 5: I think a mattress is supposed to last ten years, right,

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Speaker 5: so it's like something like that. So maybe flipping at five?

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Speaker 5: You don't flip a five? Okay, calm damn, all right,

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Speaker 5: thank you. We got the fucking paper clip from Microsoft.

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Speaker 5: Word over here. You don't flip a houl mattress.

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Speaker 9: It's self flipping, all right, just asking goddamn, Okay, damn,

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Speaker 9: the mattress king is here?

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Speaker 3: Well the one they say Mama.

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Speaker 5: Sleepies?

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Speaker 3: Who bars for the rest of Joe.

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Speaker 5: By your death bed. Love that all right? That's sleepy,

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Speaker 5: they say, for the rest of your Okay, you know what?

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Speaker 5: Fuck yeah, I love that.

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Speaker 2: You just beat yourself up so easily. It's my favorite thing.

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Speaker 2: Now you know how women feel all the time.

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Speaker 5: Jesus. Okay, this one's interesting. Dog or boyfriend? Which is

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Speaker 5: more adulting?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 3: I say the dog?

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Speaker 5: You say the dogs?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, that dog needs you mind.

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Speaker 3: That dog depends on you, although both don't pick that

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Speaker 5: That's good. That's good. I can't top that. Should we

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Speaker 5: move on to our next guest?

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Speaker 2: She's so amazing, she's a good friend, she's a fucking

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Speaker 2: hilarious comedian actor.

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Speaker 3: Please give it up for.

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Speaker 7: Two girls high so we don't.

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Speaker 2: I've known you for a long time, so I was

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Speaker 2: just like, what can I ask you? You're like fucking anything,

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Speaker 2: and there were so many things. Okay, you're Italian, your

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Speaker 5: Yes.

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Speaker 3: In high school, you want to date a black guy?

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Speaker 3: What happened?

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Speaker 8: I was interested in a black fella in high school

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Speaker 4: Shocker, it was.

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Speaker 8: They're old and I also from the suburbs of Boston.

454
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Speaker 8: I mean, there's so many points against this whole situation.

455
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Speaker 8: Oh yeah, waiting to happen, Yeah yeah, I mean the

456
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Speaker 8: hope was that I was going to marry like one

457
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Speaker 8: of their Italian plumber friends, you know what I mean,

458
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Speaker 8: like that was to drain your pipes.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yes, very good. I'm so sorry. Yeah did

460
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Speaker 5: you date this kid on the slide though?

461
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Speaker 8: I mean I gave him a hand job and then

462
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Speaker 8: he didn't talk to me afterwards, and then I was

463
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Speaker 8: really sad.

464
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Speaker 4: And then two years later I gave him another hand

465
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Speaker 4: job and he still I was like, how many will

466
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Speaker 4: take for you don't like me?

467
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Speaker 5: Was the right hand the first time? And then like

468
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Speaker 5: the left hand the next time?

469
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Speaker 4: Or I get I get carpal tunnel, and then I

470
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Speaker 4: sometimes do like a double.

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Speaker 3: What's it like having immigrant parents?

472
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Speaker 4: What's it like?

473
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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 5: It is?

475
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Speaker 4: Well, you know, so I just learned about the term

476
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Speaker 4: third culture kids. Do you know what that means? And

477
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Speaker 4: it like really summed up not less's.

478
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Speaker 8: On the plus sized T shirt at Asos, So was

479
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Speaker 8: anyone you're raised by immigrant parents?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

481
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Speaker 4: So so third culture kids?

482
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Speaker 8: And just turned out the term and then I went

483
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Speaker 8: down a Google hole about it, and I felt so comforted.

484
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Speaker 8: So basically, and it means is like, you are raised

485
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Speaker 8: in America by one culture, but you don't fully feel

486
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Speaker 8: American because you're being raised so strongly.

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Speaker 4: By the other culture. However, then when you go to

488
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Speaker 4: that culture, you were raised. So when I go to Italy,

489
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Speaker 4: they call me American. So I kind of belong nowhere.

490
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Speaker 3: Oh I understand that. Yeah, Jamaica, I'm American. In Jersey,

491
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Speaker 3: I had the smelly lunch, yes, yes, yes. So when

492
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Speaker 3: I met you, you were out of.

493
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Speaker 2: College doing stand up and you were like you were

494
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Speaker 2: engaged for a long time, and I remember we hung

495
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Speaker 2: out and got drunk one night we just met.

496
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Speaker 3: You're like, should I get married? I'm like, bitch, I

497
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Speaker 3: don't know.

498
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Speaker 2: Yeah, But then I was like, oh I love her,

499
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Speaker 2: yeah Shamz Saez.

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Speaker 5: And when I met you, you were married, but your

501
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Speaker 5: husband was living in Boston and you were living in

502
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Speaker 5: New York.

503
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Speaker 2: Then she invited me to the whole wedding last minute.

504
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Speaker 2: We knew each other for five minutes, and I went

505
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Speaker 2: because everybody was going.

506
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Speaker 4: Over, Yeah, you're fun.

507
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Speaker 3: Why were you with? Why were you with homeboy for

508
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Speaker 3: so long?

509
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Speaker 4: So he was my college boyfriend who was my first boyfriend.

510
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Speaker 8: You know, I call him like the on paper, like

511
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Speaker 8: you know, on paper, it's like handsome, funny, smart, like

512
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Speaker 8: there was no The hardest breakups are when you have

513
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Speaker 8: no reason to break up with something.

514
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Speaker 4: Right, there was like the floor of it all you've

515
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Speaker 4: ever lingered?

516
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Speaker 5: Yeah, you were lingered, all right, so go on?

517
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Speaker 8: Yeah, you know, so I stayed because he was great

518
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Speaker 8: and I was like, well, I'm never going to meet

519
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Speaker 8: anyone better. He's wonderful and I loved him and I

520
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:33,400
Speaker 8: couldn't find a good reason anyways, I needed to separate

521
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Speaker 8: so I could grow fly and uh yeah, and that's

522
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Speaker 8: so then you know, I goes married for I was

523
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Speaker 8: with him for nine years but only married one.

524
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Speaker 4: And I like an expensive breakup. And but that's the thing, right,

525
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 4: like you're with you're with.

526
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Speaker 2: This person forever and never never, and there's like a

527
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Speaker 2: crack in the relationship, right and then you put something

528
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Speaker 2: very crazy on top of it, and it'll just break.

529
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Speaker 4: Yeah.

530
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Speaker 8: It's like when people try to have a baby to

531
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Speaker 8: save their marriage. Like it's the same thinking, yes, you.

532
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Speaker 3: Can't have a baby to save your marriage. Even a dog,

533
00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 3: don't do that to that dog.

534
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Speaker 4: Yeah, how was dating for.

535
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Speaker 3: You when you broke up?

536
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Speaker 2: Because if you you basically grew up with this boy,

537
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Speaker 2: like you get him in college and now you're like

538
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Speaker 2: in the dating world. Well, so I was.

539
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Speaker 4: My plan was to go out and like explore.

540
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Speaker 8: But then I gotten you another relationship a month later,

541
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Speaker 8: and that was a long rebound that lasted a few years.

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Speaker 7: I remember, yeah, I know, yes, So can I just

543
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Speaker 7: say you know when.

544
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Speaker 2: You're like no specifics, your friend is with somebody and

545
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:38,719
Speaker 2: you're like okay, and you you want to help them.

546
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:40,920
Speaker 3: You want to help them, you want to like it.

547
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Speaker 7: I was so vulnerable, and I was vulnerable, and I

548
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Speaker 7: was like.

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Speaker 4: Well this new persons the opposite.

550
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Speaker 8: And if you know that bullet porrige shouldn't work, then

551
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Speaker 8: maybe this bullet porridge will be like the bears.

552
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Speaker 4: You know, you get too hot.

553
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Speaker 7: You called too hot and then and they.

554
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Speaker 8: But then after I went to that breakup, I did

555
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Speaker 8: commit to being single for a year and that was

556
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:03,640
Speaker 8: like the best year of my life.

557
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 3: Like, there's no better person to love than yourself.

558
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Speaker 7: I know, thank you.

559
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Speaker 5: I think it was Mary. How can I love somebody

560
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Speaker 5: else if I can't love myself enough to know afford

561
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Speaker 5: that song.

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Speaker 2: In closing, Julia Rossie, you have you've been through like

563
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Speaker 2: a lot of adult ship very young.

564
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Speaker 3: Uh huh, what do you.

565
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:40,159
Speaker 2: Find is the best the best situation for adulting for

566
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Speaker 2: yourself right now? Uh?

567
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:44,439
Speaker 3: Can you what do you mean to be an adult?

568
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Speaker 4: To throw to like a philosophy sort of.

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Speaker 8: Not be I think the biggest thing I've learned that

570
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Speaker 8: makes me feel like an individual and an adult is

571
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Speaker 8: uh not like live a life of shoots and instead

572
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Speaker 8: live a life of like wance and actually being connected

573
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Speaker 8: with my thoughts.

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Speaker 4: But should like should get married?

575
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Speaker 8: I should be this, I should have this job, I

576
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 8: should like all that stuff like should ruin everything?

577
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Speaker 4: So I think that's like, yeah, I.

578
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Speaker 3: Shouldn't say this.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Julie Rossi, everybody.

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Speaker 5: I love that.

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Speaker 12: Mess.

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Speaker 5: Julia ros Welcome back to adulting. That's another question you

583
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Speaker 5: want to answers.

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Speaker 3: Que should grown men play video games? Not if you

585
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 3: want to get fucked?

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Speaker 1: I think that answers that's your question. My question is this,

587
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Speaker 1: as an adult, what would you do for a million dollars?

588
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: That's literally the question, guys. It is written by an

589
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 1: eight year old boy.

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00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 7: You like going.

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00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 5: For some dead as birthcase I don't know what I

592
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 5: would do it for a million dollars A lot, a lot.

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Speaker 3: Is it ever too late to figure out what you

594
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 3: want to do with your life? Never? Never?

595
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Speaker 1: You know what? You know?

596
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Speaker 2: What really gets in my nerves though, people that talk

597
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 2: about doing ship and never do it, Shut the fuck

598
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Speaker 2: up and do it, or don't find someone else to

599
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 2: talk to you about it, because it feels like I've

600
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Speaker 2: had the same conversation for five fucking years, and I'm like,

601
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 2: I'm already doing the thing you want to do.

602
00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 3: Oh, you gotta do it.

603
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 2: Don't worry about getting it right or perfect or what

604
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 2: people are gonna say or looking bad.

605
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Speaker 3: Just fucking do it.

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Speaker 5: Do that first pancake, Get it out, Get it out.

607
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 5: That's right, all right.

608
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Speaker 3: We gotta bring our last guest down. Is very exciting.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, she's wonderful and I love her. I

610
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Speaker 3: know you will too. Please give it up for.

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Speaker 4: Beg even show.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Hey, where are you from? How'd you grow up?

613
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Speaker 3: I'm from Boston and how did I grow up?

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00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 5: Yeah? Somebody said, like we have we have a spoiled

615
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Speaker 5: French prince in the audience. Take him away, Take him away.

616
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Speaker 3: I know you grew up in Boston, but I don't

617
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Speaker 3: know what point Boston is like very little Boston, I sound.

618
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Speaker 3: I try to sound tough and say Boston, but it's

619
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Speaker 3: really Newton, so it's like a right. Yeah, it's like

620
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Speaker 3: a privileged suburb. But I try to be tough about it.

621
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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah right. And what kind of kid were

622
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Speaker 3: you in high school? I just liked everyone. I liked everyone,

623
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Speaker 3: and no one liked when I got everyone together, like

624
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Speaker 3: they didn't like each other. Yeah, do you know what

625
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Speaker 3: I mean?

626
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm that person too. I have friend groups. You

627
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 2: try to bring them together and it don't work.

628
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Speaker 3: It doesn't work.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that happened to me.

630
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Speaker 1: I literally I was trying to put together a little

631
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Speaker 1: brunchy brunch and uh, two people that don't like each

632
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Speaker 1: other in the text chain, right, I was like meet

633
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Speaker 1: at this time.

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Speaker 5: They came and then they told me we don't like

635
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Speaker 5: each other, and I was like, why did you come me?

636
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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:35,560
Speaker 2: So you have she has three beautiful children, thank you? Yes,

638
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:39,480
Speaker 2: and you have two girls and a boy.

639
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 3: Yes, good, you're doing good.

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Speaker 5: What are their ages?

641
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Speaker 3: What are their names? Michelle? Stop it, no, I'm kidding.

642
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 3: What are their ages? There are seven eleven and thirteen.

643
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Speaker 2: Oh wow, Arabia, Sophie, Liam, Yes, please, my kids.

644
00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 3: Wanted to come to this show. They yeah, And then

645
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 3: Sophie was like, is Michelle going to talk about her

646
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 3: brown titties?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, bang bab brown to the tame Bag.

649
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 3: Wait, love you. This is the same one. This is

650
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Speaker 3: the same one. The other day. We're talking about peer pressure.

651
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 3: I said, what are you going to say if someone

653
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 3: offers you drugs or alcohol? And she said, that's easy, mommy,

654
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Speaker 3: I'll just tell them I can't have that. I'm pregnant.

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Speaker 5: That's good, that's what you want to do.

656
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 7: That's good.

657
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 5: That's good.

658
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 3: It's real good.

659
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So how do you go about navigating them in this

661
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 2: crazy world of having two independent, thoughtful girls?

662
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Speaker 7: Yeah?

663
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Speaker 3: Also, how do you raise a boy to not be

664
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Speaker 3: a dick? Right? Well, he's seven, so I don't know

665
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Speaker 3: what's going to happen with him. But but girls, I

666
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:01,959
Speaker 3: don't know honestly, And I'm not trying to be like cheesy.

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00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 3: I just think raise them with humor. I if someone

668
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,959
Speaker 3: doesn't have a sense of humor, something's really weird. If

669
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Speaker 3: you can't laugh at yourself, I don't know what your

670
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 3: story is. But I just think raise them with humor.

671
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Speaker 3: I give them advice I know is wrong like that,

672
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Speaker 3: I know I say it and they're like, well, well,

673
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Speaker 3: so my daughter's thirteen. And I was like, okay, you

674
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Speaker 3: have to treat your regina like it's your iPhone. Take

675
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Speaker 3: care of it like that, keep it clean, you know

676
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 3: know where it is, and don't put any dicks on it,

677
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Speaker 3: like just don't know what you got to update it updated,

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Speaker 3: gonna charge it?

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Speaker 5: Absolutely, only use your thumb.

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

681
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Speaker 3: I just feel like they take her their phone so well,

682
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Speaker 3: and I'm like, how can I get them to protect

683
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Speaker 3: their vagina like that?

684
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Speaker 5: And so that's the case absolutely.

685
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Speaker 2: I asked you before the show if I can ask

686
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Speaker 2: you anything, Yes, you can, okay, because I've known you

687
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Speaker 2: for a while and I know that this really, really

688
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 2: fucking sad thing happened to you, and I want to

689
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Speaker 2: be mindful and respectful, but I also, you know, want

690
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Speaker 2: to talk about it, especially on this platform, because I

691
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 2: think it's important to talk about things that happened to us.

692
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Speaker 2: Because for me, I had four miscarriages in two years,

693
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Speaker 2: and for someone who just like screams their feelings on stage,

694
00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 2: I felt so lonely. I had no one to talk to,

695
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:29,040
Speaker 2: which is which is important, right because even if you

696
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:31,439
Speaker 2: don't know how to talk about something with somebody else,

697
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:34,279
Speaker 2: it's like you should still listen to them. So can

698
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Speaker 2: you just tell us what you went through if you

699
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Speaker 2: feel comfortable enough.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, of course.

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Speaker 5: Okay.

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Speaker 3: So so I got pregnant. I'm married, so it was

703
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Speaker 3: okay I should say that first I was married, we

704
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Speaker 3: got pregnant, everything was fantastic. I went to the doctor,

705
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Speaker 3: they said he's due tomorrow. The next day was my birthday,

706
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Speaker 3: so I was like, this is amazing. Everything was amazing.

707
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Speaker 3: October eighth, thank you, she remembered, good for you, Where's

708
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Speaker 3: my gift? So so that evening I went to bed

709
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Speaker 3: thinking maybe i'd be having him the next day, and

710
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Speaker 3: I felt him moving, and I woke up and I

711
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 3: did not feel him moving. So, long story short, I

712
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Speaker 3: had a full term still birth. A lot of people

713
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Speaker 3: don't know because you think, well, you can elect maybe

714
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Speaker 3: to have a cesareans so you don't have to go

715
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Speaker 3: through labor, because I'd never been through labor, but you

716
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:34,279
Speaker 3: do have to go through labor. So that was my

717
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Speaker 3: first experience as a mom, and it was just the worst.

718
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Speaker 3: I mean, it was a nightmare.

719
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Speaker 2: I'm really trying not to cry because I have like

720
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Speaker 2: very thick Amy Winehouse eyeliner on.

721
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Speaker 3: I know it looks good.

722
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:53,360
Speaker 2: It looks good, and how has How did this shape

723
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Speaker 2: your relationship with your husband and most importantly yourself?

724
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Speaker 3: It definitely changed who I am. I don't ever one

725
00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 3: has their own experience in this room, and you don't,

726
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 3: and I know you do, and it's a different experience.

727
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 3: I think if you've been through grief, there's there's a

728
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,439
Speaker 3: thread of it that's the same, no matter what form

729
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 3: it took. So if it's your dad or your mom,

730
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 3: or a sibling or your The thing about a child

731
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Speaker 3: is that it wasn't supposed to happen. That's how it feels.

732
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Speaker 3: So it feels more natural if if you kind of

733
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Speaker 3: could see it coming at some point. So it definitely

734
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Speaker 3: changed I am. It's like the me before that and

735
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Speaker 3: then the met after that. And I liked the me

736
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 3: before that better. She was a little happier and friendlier,

737
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 3: but my husband was amazing. That's how you know you

738
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Speaker 3: married the right person when you go through something like

739
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Speaker 3: or even have the right friends yes, friends yes, or

740
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Speaker 3: even have the right parents. Yes, Oh well yeah, because

741
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Speaker 3: like I love my parents, but they were useless.

742
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: You know what, though everyone tries to make things better,

745
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Speaker 3: like stop trying to make it better.

746
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Speaker 7: Just let it be what it is like.

747
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Speaker 3: And then I had a lot of time. I needed

748
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Speaker 3: a lot of time, and I literally said to Ron,

749
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 3: if you can't wait for me to be back, then

750
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:17,759
Speaker 3: sayonara and everyone did. But you have to respect people's time,

751
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 3: their process, whatever it's going to take.

752
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:21,640
Speaker 2: Stop trying to We have to respect our own time

753
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 2: and our process, because don't we beat ourselves up and

754
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 2: we're like I gotta get over this.

755
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 3: I gotta get up. Yeah, I gotta be happy. I

756
00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 3: gotta be out in the world.

757
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:29,000
Speaker 2: And so it's like no, but you can actually like

758
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Speaker 2: stay in those sweats for like another fucking day and

759
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 2: think about shit.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think one of the good things is to

761
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,959
Speaker 1: learn that you know, you're not alone. I my wife

762
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Speaker 1: and I had two miscarriages in a year, and it

763
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 1: was like devastating. And once you start saying it, people

764
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Speaker 1: are like I had that too, you know, Like yes,

765
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 1: but people like to keep they like to do the

766
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:52,320
Speaker 1: Instagram version of life, right, the highlights of life. But

767
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:54,879
Speaker 1: you learned that the story is universal and that what's

768
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 1: presented to you by like baby magazines and shit like

769
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Speaker 1: that is just just the the only like the happy part.

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Speaker 1: So so I mean in that way, like what you

771
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Speaker 1: just said about being a different person, I definitely had

772
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Speaker 1: a like it was a watershed, like yeah, like exactly

773
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Speaker 1: like that. And yeah, I used to be a lot

774
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Speaker 1: more care free, but now I pay my goddamn bills

775
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Speaker 1: on time.

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Speaker 5: I feel I feel a lot more like grown ass

777
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 5: of a person care that. Yeah, yeah, I fill up

778
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 5: my gas tank.

779
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Speaker 2: Yeah I'm never going to divorce my husband, but if

780
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:30,439
Speaker 2: we do, it's because I got stuck on the side

781
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Speaker 2: of a fucking road.

782
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Speaker 3: Because he does not fill up a tank.

783
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Speaker 5: He does.

784
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Speaker 3: He's that ten dollars guy, right, He's a ten dollar guy.

785
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 3: And it feels parsonal.

786
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Speaker 2: You know why, because he's an attractive white male from

787
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:43,359
Speaker 2: your He thinks it's always gonna work out and people

788
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 2: got to stop on the side of road for him.

789
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Speaker 3: And it's very different when you don't have a gating

790
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:49,839
Speaker 3: hole between your legs. This she could happen to a bitch.

791
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:51,319
Speaker 3: Why are you not writing this down?

792
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:56,400
Speaker 5: This can't this is what you need to know.

793
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:02,120
Speaker 2: So you have, you have, you have gone through some

794
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:05,360
Speaker 2: major fucking shit and you're a boss ass bitch and

795
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:08,680
Speaker 2: you love life enough to fucking hang in there and

796
00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:13,359
Speaker 2: create more life, right, Yes, what do you want for yourself?

797
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:14,680
Speaker 3: For myself?

798
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 2: Yes, in terms of adulting or whether it's like embracing

799
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:19,920
Speaker 2: your inner child, like, what do you want for yourself?

800
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 3: I never think about myself. Fuck Like, it's always about

801
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 3: other people.

802
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 5: I know, it really is.

803
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:29,000
Speaker 3: What do I want? I just I want if they're happy.

804
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:31,279
Speaker 3: I'm happy, if my kids are happy, my husband's happy.

805
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 3: Honest to god, I'm happy. I just want everyone to

806
00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 3: be healthy. I want to be doing more. I think

807
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 3: it's important as parents that we still have our outlets.

808
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:42,320
Speaker 3: You know, we're still creative, We're still.

809
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 5: Not no.

810
00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 3: I think we still need to do things we love

811
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 3: and show our kids that you can find things to

812
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:59,360
Speaker 3: do that you love to do. Want you guys to

813
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,880
Speaker 3: be happy. I don't know what do I want to do?

814
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:05,320
Speaker 2: If you could, like like work wise, like anything anything,

815
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 2: anything it does.

816
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 3: He's not wrong, it's not right.

817
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 5: Do you know what I want to do?

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Speaker 1: Oh God, I was just gonna say I want to

819
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Speaker 1: go horseback riding that's all I want to go.

820
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Speaker 3: Your only goal right now?

821
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Speaker 5: No this year?

822
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's jeez, those Jesus So it's too tight for horseback.

823
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Speaker 5: My jeans are fine, they have give it's writing this weekend,

824
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Speaker 5: like you could, but I.

825
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Speaker 7: Don't have time.

826
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Speaker 5: I've got.

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Speaker 2: You can't judge them on like his want okay, because

828
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 2: like he probably doesn't have time to horseback, right, okay,

829
00:40:38,719 --> 00:40:39,440
Speaker 2: So what do you want to do?

830
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Speaker 3: It doesn't have to be horseback riding. I want to

831
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Speaker 3: be I want to be like, oh, I can't say it.

832
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Speaker 3: I want to be a working paid comedic writer and performer.

833
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:52,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, no money.

834
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Speaker 3: It's okay to want that. It's okay to want that.

835
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Speaker 3: There's nothing wrong with wanting. How long it took me

836
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Speaker 3: to say that didn't fucked up own it?

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Speaker 2: It's I was like, I can't tell it because there's

838
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 2: so many basic bitches would not in a fucking say me,

839
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:05,839
Speaker 2: and like, I don't want to do it this, Well,

840
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 2: what you've been through?

841
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:08,400
Speaker 3: I waited in a long line.

842
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 2: Of Starbucks, get the fuck yeah yeah yeah, And I

843
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 2: took twelve years off.

844
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Speaker 3: I know I'm leaving. I took twelve years off. And

845
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 3: Michelle was like it doesn't matter. You still are who

846
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 3: you are, and yes, lose it. She has inspired me

847
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 3: so much.

848
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:39,759
Speaker 5: Look at that show. This was a show for the ages, it.

849
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Speaker 3: Was for all ages. This is so many amazing stories.

850
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:43,880
Speaker 3: I'm very proud of this episode.

851
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 5: I am too, Yeah, Joel Johnson and Julia Rossie.

852
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:50,360
Speaker 3: And beg you Vidoccio. I learned something from people that

853
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 3: I've known for a very long time, and I feel

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00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 3: like that's very special too.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Adulting was produced by Blakeney Schick and Adanie Rubin. The

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00:41:57,320 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 2: Adulting team includes Joanna Solitariff Schumann, Joe Plored, Keecking, Zimma

858
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Speaker 2: ed Haber, George Wellington, and Irene Trudell.

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00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 3: The live show was produced by Christian Band.

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Speaker 2: Their theme music is produced by Isaac Jokes, with additional

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Speaker 2: music by.

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Speaker 5: Don Will Don well And if you liked this episode, please.

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Speaker 4: Like, rate, rate us or read review you were both.

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Speaker 3: You got options on you.

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Speaker 2: I mean, look, do you want me to put on

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Speaker 2: a plus size ten Kney from Walmart, sit down, eat some.

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Speaker 3: Chicken in a boat?

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Speaker 7: I will.

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Speaker 2: If you really want to know who I truly am,

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Speaker 2: I will do that for you, and then you could

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Speaker 2: review that, because I just want to get.

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Speaker 3: Close to you.

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Speaker 1: I see ten stars all around, and subscribe wherever you

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Speaker 1: get your podcasts so you don't miss the next episode.

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Speaker 2: That's right, And you know what, for women at least,

876
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Speaker 2: if you're wearing a bansuit, there's nothing wrong with just.

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Speaker 3: Like pulling it to the side to pink.

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Speaker 2: You don't have to pull it all the way down

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Speaker 2: because it's like very wet and sticking it hard to

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Speaker 2: pull up and down.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. Absolutely,