Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back
Speaker 1: with yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl Jess.
Speaker 2: Hilarious. What do I be doing? I'll be fixing mess.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna jump straight and we got Taylor here.
Speaker 1: You're she gonna be in and outcause she got some
Speaker 1: stuff to do today. She had a little fake busy
Speaker 1: and pregnant over there. So say hey, Taylor, Hey, all right, y'all.
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna read.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start off reading and then I'll feel you
Speaker 1: and when you come back. All right, what's popping, Jess.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start off strong. I'm a twenty seven year
Speaker 1: old lesbian who has damn Okay, all right, she did
Speaker 1: say she's gonna start off strong. I'm a twenty seven
Speaker 1: year old lesbian who has a girlfriend who sells feet picks. Okay,
Speaker 1: she hasn't always done it, but she's definitely doing it now.
Speaker 1: About three months ago, she lost her job and I've
Speaker 1: been carrying her. We also live with each other, by
Speaker 1: the way. Recently, things have been getting kind of slow
Speaker 1: because it's only one working person in the household and
Speaker 1: all my income is going toward bills and etc. So
Speaker 1: that means no extra shit been going on. Yes, she
Speaker 1: was looking for jobs, but no luck. One day out
Speaker 1: of nowhere, she just deposited thirty five hundred dollars in
Speaker 1: my account. She told me this was from the last
Speaker 1: two month's rent and she'll have another three thousand next week.
Speaker 1: So now I'm like, Okay, you found a job, and
Speaker 1: she's saying, yes, she's doing paid partnerships and collapse and
Speaker 1: it's turning out well for her. I didn't really question
Speaker 1: it too much. I was just happy that things were
Speaker 1: turning around. So a few days ago I had to
Speaker 1: pick up her phone for something and I seen a
Speaker 1: message that said you ready.
Speaker 2: In my head, I'm like, you ready for what?
Speaker 1: But I just let it play out. She didn't go nowhere,
Speaker 1: so I'm like, who could this be? That night, I
Speaker 1: decided to pick up her phone again and see who
Speaker 1: texted her. I look through the thread and she's been
Speaker 1: sending feet, picks and videos of herself to this number
Speaker 1: for the past two months. M When I say this,
Speaker 1: nigga paying hundreds of dollars for this girl's feet, he
Speaker 1: really is and her feet, not even all that. Hey, yo,
Speaker 1: you're better fucking chill. Anyways, the messages weren't crazy. It
Speaker 1: just seemed like she just sends what she sends, and
Speaker 1: he sends the funds.
Speaker 2: And that be it.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, So it's kind of platonic a little
Speaker 1: bit like as well. Not platonic because he beating off
Speaker 1: to her feet, but in a way. I mean, I
Speaker 1: ain't really doing them. I honestly don't really know how
Speaker 1: I feel about it, but I do want to say something,
Speaker 1: not gonna lie.
Speaker 2: I feel like the only reason.
Speaker 1: She hasn't said anything because she may feel embarrassed, And
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't prefer her to do that, but
Speaker 1: until she can get to where she wants to be,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna knock her. But yes, there are other
Speaker 1: ways to make money. How would you approach the situation, Jess? Honestly,
Speaker 1: it's so much of a shit. The trip about y'all,
Speaker 1: I mean, this is not one of them. I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna be completely honest with you. Y'all come to me
Speaker 1: so I can help fix y'all mess, and not only
Speaker 1: fix y'all mess based off of my experience, right, And
Speaker 1: I just don't really.
Speaker 2: Feel like it's that serious for you to.
Speaker 1: You know, I mean, you didn't say you were gonna
Speaker 1: break up with her, all right, So Taylor just joined
Speaker 1: us again, all right. So basically his girl, Oh no,
Speaker 1: she's a twenty seven year old lesbian. Yes, she came
Speaker 1: on strong, Yes, all right, my big So her girlfriend,
Speaker 1: you know, she's been them two living a house together, right,
Speaker 1: and so she had lost her job.
Speaker 2: The girlfriend lost her job.
Speaker 1: But the girl that's writing us, she uh, she'd been
Speaker 1: working and she been taking care of the household and everything.
Speaker 1: But shit just getting a little tight because it's only
Speaker 1: one person making money in the household.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: So, out of no where, her girlfriend just dropped thirty
Speaker 1: five hundred dollars in an account, right, and she like, fuck, okay, cool.
Speaker 1: She ain't never asked me where it came from, numb,
Speaker 1: and she was like, I'm gonna give you another three
Speaker 1: thousand next week. And so she like, oh shit, all
Speaker 1: right cool. So she just you know, just dropping money,
Speaker 1: paying bills and shit. So she like, she goes in
Speaker 1: her phone and she see that her girl been sending
Speaker 1: videos of her feet and pictures of her feet to
Speaker 1: this guy who's paying hundreds of dollars. She went up
Speaker 1: and down the thread. She and she felt like is
Speaker 1: it cheating or is it not? And then also why
Speaker 1: her girlfriend didn't say anything to her. She feel like
Speaker 1: she may be embarrassed and shit, but you know, and
Speaker 1: she was like, I don't want to knock what she do.
Speaker 1: But it's like there are other ways to make money.
Speaker 2: No, Nah, she hasn't.
Speaker 1: She said she wants to because she want to know
Speaker 1: how should she approach the situation and she's not mad
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, how are you getting the money?
Speaker 1: And she said, they ain't talking about nothing else. Literally,
Speaker 1: she sends the feet, the nigga send the funds. So
Speaker 1: there's just feet funds, feet funds, feet funds. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. That's it they ain't talking about. No,
Speaker 1: I love you, I can't wait to see you. I
Speaker 1: want to suck on your feet or whatever. He just yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a fetish and that this is not the first
Speaker 1: time I've heard of some shit, Like it's like niggas
Speaker 1: pay big bread to see bitches play with their feet
Speaker 1: on OnlyFans Like, yes, they do that.
Speaker 2: That's so weird.
Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I noticed shit getting good. But
Speaker 1: listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial.
Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen. So I don't feel
Speaker 1: like it's that. I don't feel like what I said.
Speaker 1: I feel like this. I honestly and truly feel that
Speaker 1: it's other ship to trip about in relationships.
Speaker 2: You know, shulty getting the money and she's getting it
Speaker 2: on us. She's not.
Speaker 1: It's not illegal, she ain't got to watch her back,
Speaker 1: she ain't selling drugs, she's not cheating on you, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. She don't even know the guy,
Speaker 1: never met the guy. I mean, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: If you do research to find out, you probably would
Speaker 1: find out.
Speaker 3: I mean, unless she has, unless she's a deep thinker,
Speaker 3: Like what else has she done behind my back?
Speaker 1: She surely just trying to find a way to get
Speaker 1: some bread after trying to look for a job. And yo,
Speaker 1: and then hold up the girlfriend said, And this is
Speaker 1: just crazy because like her feet ain't.
Speaker 2: Even all that Hey, yo, yes, Like why would you
Speaker 2: even do that? Like that's fucked up? You know, honestly,
Speaker 2: maybe they could go in together and be.
Speaker 3: Like, I got another feet for you, and then he
Speaker 3: gets double and he pays more.
Speaker 2: What if her feet sucked up what if she got
Speaker 2: studed feet. I don't know what stuff feet is.
Speaker 1: Hey, y'all I got I mean, I don't know what
Speaker 1: stuff you would have would have would if shorty that's rightness?
Speaker 2: What if her feet ain't all that what she gotta
Speaker 2: get it? Right? Then?
Speaker 1: Yeah, he'll said, Just tell him I got some more
Speaker 1: feet and he'll he'll pay double. You are dumb, yo,
Speaker 1: that's not how that. God, I got some more feet
Speaker 1: so you can get.
Speaker 2: More money out of it, right right?
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, that's but how she should have approached the
Speaker 1: situation here.
Speaker 2: Just sit down and talk to her about it.
Speaker 1: Honestly, I would tell her that your sneaky as went
Speaker 1: through our phone. That's it, and this is how I
Speaker 1: would do it. So you sit it down and say, look, babe,
Speaker 1: I've been carrying us and everything, and I really really
Speaker 1: appreciate you just dropping at thirty five hundred in the account.
Speaker 1: I did have some questions about where it came from,
Speaker 1: and maybe I should have asked you right then and there,
Speaker 1: but you know, I just you know, let it be.
Speaker 1: You know, you know, you gained some independence. It was cool,
Speaker 1: it was cool, but I did go.
Speaker 2: Through your phone.
Speaker 1: I got a little uh got a little curious went
Speaker 1: through your phone. I've seen that you be sending feet,
Speaker 1: picks and shit, and don't tell her feet ain't all that.
Speaker 1: Just just leave that part out, but tell her that,
Speaker 1: you know, be honest with it. Like, Yo, it bothered me.
Speaker 1: It kind of bothered me a little bit to see
Speaker 1: you send the pictures, like sending pictures and videos to
Speaker 1: this guy who's paying you all his bread.
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know how.
Speaker 1: You can even be honest and tell her. I don't
Speaker 1: know how I would feel about it. I don't know
Speaker 1: if I but like you're cheating. I don't know if
Speaker 1: I should be mad, angry, insecure, betrayed, whatever.
Speaker 2: I don't know how I feel.
Speaker 1: I just want to talk to you about it and
Speaker 1: you you know, and then y'all can just hash that
Speaker 1: shit out. You know. That's just what Ninety percent of
Speaker 1: a fucking you know, eighty percent of a fucking relationship
Speaker 1: is communication. You have to have communication and then you know,
Speaker 1: have sex and chill out.
Speaker 2: For the rest of the night. Here, yo, for real.
Speaker 1: So I'm moving one to another story. Tell her you
Speaker 1: can read this one.
Speaker 3: Okay, Hey, Jess, what's up? So I'm gonna get straight
Speaker 3: to it. I think I finally found the love of
Speaker 3: my life. I'm so happy with him. He's a gentleman,
Speaker 3: a family man, and romantic. We have only been together
Speaker 3: for almost a year, but I really think he's the one,
Speaker 3: Like I said, but the issue is I have a
Speaker 3: best friend who seems to be jealous of him. Now.
Speaker 3: Me and my best friend been friends for about eight years.
Speaker 3: That's my sister for real, but ever since I've been
Speaker 3: dating this guy, she seems to be a lot more protective.
Speaker 3: Anne even said when she met him she didn't feel
Speaker 3: she would get along with him, which is crazy because
Speaker 3: he's been nothing but nice to her and I'm happy
Speaker 3: with him, so I would think she'll be happy for me.
Speaker 2: Plus, she got a guy of her.
Speaker 3: Own that she claims she's happy with, but trust me,
Speaker 3: they got issues. But that's the story for another day. Anyway,
Speaker 3: she ended up ruining a surprise gift for my boyfriend
Speaker 3: and claims she told me to make sure I would
Speaker 3: like it, Like, what the fuck, it's a surprise, why
Speaker 3: would you ruin that? And she's not even being a
Speaker 3: poljectic towards it. I'm upset with her, and my boyfriend
Speaker 3: definitely is too. I just don't know what to do
Speaker 3: because I want everyone to get along.
Speaker 2: Hmm, yeah, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: It sounds like there's a bit of jealousy there actually,
Speaker 1: which is worse. I think envy is worse than jealousy
Speaker 1: because envy is when you will start being like, like
Speaker 1: the same thing. Well I kind of sad, yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: because being jealous is just yeah, like envious, I want
Speaker 1: with that person, got and I'm gonna get it type shit.
Speaker 1: Envy is more revengeful, I think, yeah, more Yeah, I
Speaker 1: want to sabotage. I want to sabotage it. Okay, I think.
Speaker 1: I mean it sounds like your friend is jealous. I
Speaker 1: won't say envy jealous. And also it is a little
Speaker 1: bit of envy there because maybe she wants what you have,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And that two things can
Speaker 1: be true at one time. All right, So like she
Speaker 1: loves you, she is your friend, yes, because I've had
Speaker 1: a situation similar like this before. But when you were single,
Speaker 1: I bet you there were no problems like when you
Speaker 1: were single, and shit, I mean that's kind of what
Speaker 1: you hint it to. Like, you know, since you've been
Speaker 1: with this new guy, she's been acting out in a
Speaker 1: way that it's just like like she's never acted out
Speaker 1: this way before, So that tells me she's used to
Speaker 1: you being one way, like sometimes your friends can't take
Speaker 1: to see you happier than they are, or if I'm
Speaker 1: saying it right, you get what I'm saying. Because when
Speaker 1: I got into my relationship and my boyfriend slash On
Speaker 1: stay like he's not my fiancee, you know, when he
Speaker 1: proposed and everything, it was a lot of people that
Speaker 1: I thought would be happy for me that was not.
Speaker 2: And this is.
Speaker 1: Close friends, like close friends, close family like oh I
Speaker 1: wasn't there and all that type of shit that but
Speaker 1: this is also the friend and family that's like going
Speaker 1: through shitting their own life, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: When I was single, everything was cool. We was kicking
Speaker 2: it and shit.
Speaker 1: Or when Chris was just my boyfriend and before I
Speaker 1: had my daughter, before I got pregnant, Like when he
Speaker 1: was just my boyfriend, it was like he was no threat,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, But he out of nowhere.
Speaker 1: It became a threat once I got pregnant. Then I'm
Speaker 1: spending more time with him. Then we got the baby,
Speaker 1: and I don't I'm not around as much and I
Speaker 1: live in Jersey.
Speaker 2: Now, and it's from the outside.
Speaker 1: Looking and it's like, Oh, you're up there with your
Speaker 1: perfect fucking family, while I'm down here, you know, still
Speaker 1: with this nigga who cheating on me? Who not you know,
Speaker 1: I don't even have you to talk to you no
Speaker 1: more because you're so fucking happy.
Speaker 2: That is projection, like shit, and friends will do.
Speaker 1: That, and that's how that's why I had to kind
Speaker 1: of explain it, because I think that's what I think,
Speaker 1: that's what she's she's going through, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: especially because like I've been in situations like that and
Speaker 1: versus like where I didn't like my friend's boyfriend because
Speaker 1: like he wasn't good for it, wasn't a great Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was you being a good friend though, Like, but
Speaker 1: I would never try to like necessarily sabotage, yeah, especially
Speaker 1: if this person really makes her happy, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like, if this person really out here making
Speaker 1: you happy, and shit, why would your friend hate on
Speaker 1: that and then telling you about the fucking surprise? That
Speaker 1: is just so wrong and insanely annoying, Like why would
Speaker 1: you do.
Speaker 2: That sure that you liked it? That's so fucking weird.
Speaker 1: And then I wonder if she's the type friend that
Speaker 1: is used to like she has to be a part
Speaker 1: of everything, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Because that that that's how I don't know.
Speaker 1: Man, he told he told your friend in confidence. He
Speaker 1: even included this bitch, and like, that's so weird. I
Speaker 1: wonder if if she's had a conversation, if you love me,
Speaker 1: you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back.
Speaker 2: So wait, what was the question? Like what should she say?
Speaker 2: She did?
Speaker 3: She wants everyone to get along. She's not apologetic about it,
Speaker 3: like she's.
Speaker 2: Oh, the friend okay, so the friend don't even care.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and the boyfriend's like it's causing a rest up.
Speaker 2: It's like it's like, come on, yo, this is too much.
Speaker 2: Shorty is weird.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you got to fall back from people, BIB like
Speaker 1: fall back if it doesn't align with your happiness and
Speaker 1: the path that you're on. Sometimes you got to be
Speaker 1: a little selfish. And I know that seems wrong to say,
Speaker 1: but nah, like you surety got to grow up. Your
Speaker 1: friend has to grow up and she has to do
Speaker 1: some inner work because that is all projection, Like she's
Speaker 1: supposed to be happy for you.
Speaker 2: You feel me. But sometimes people can't see past their
Speaker 2: own misery.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean? Has I mean, like she said,
Speaker 3: they got issues, but you have a whole relation to
Speaker 3: worry about.
Speaker 1: So why the fuck are you over here? Because ain't
Speaker 1: shit going on over there? She probably being cheated on
Speaker 1: or you know whatever, or emotionally betrayed or just whatever.
Speaker 1: They're not communicating. She's probably sexually frustrated. Anything could be happening.
Speaker 1: So projection, she's fucking projected. And then the fact that
Speaker 1: she's not apologetic about it, that's really a slap in
Speaker 1: the face to somebody who's been your friend. You feel me,
Speaker 1: So that's the reason, because you know, it's principle, it's
Speaker 1: it's principles to this shit. And the principle is you're
Speaker 1: not a friend if you don't even feel any remorseful
Speaker 1: what the fuck you did?
Speaker 2: Like I just want to say, if you liked.
Speaker 1: It, nah, bitch you this makes you feel good, like
Speaker 1: causing havoc makes you feel good. I feel like that
Speaker 1: was that was that was just bullshit for you to
Speaker 1: tell for you know, you to tell your homegirl about the.
Speaker 3: Fucking you know how she said, she said, like she's
Speaker 3: been protective over me. She's still trying to make her
Speaker 3: friends sound like she's being a good friend.
Speaker 1: I know you can't do that on her mm hm
Speaker 1: and your boyfriend, Trust me, your boyfriend definitely sees that
Speaker 1: there's some type of manipulation she you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like that shit is no, no, don't let her play
Speaker 1: on your heartstrings. And right now, yo, you happy with somebody,
Speaker 1: So I wouldn't let nothing fuck that up, you know,
Speaker 1: not even a jealous ass friend, because it's room for both.
Speaker 1: Their roles should never cross, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: That's your friend, that your man. It should be nothing.
Speaker 1: She should never even feel a certain way about him
Speaker 1: unless he is not good for you.
Speaker 2: But the way you are putting it to me is
Speaker 2: he's great.
Speaker 1: It's the best best thing that I ever happened to
Speaker 1: your ass, you know, So stick with that because it's
Speaker 1: very seldom that you find somebody out here like for
Speaker 1: you that makes you happy. You want to have a family.
Speaker 1: You trying to you know, man, you got shit to do,
Speaker 1: that shit to work on.
Speaker 2: What do you think they just stop being friend?
Speaker 1: I think she should fall back. I wouldn't say throw
Speaker 1: away the relationship. The friendship you know, obviously the girl
Speaker 1: do love her. I'm not gonna, you know, even even
Speaker 1: the jealous people, you know, even jealous friends, because sometimes
Speaker 1: you gotta knock some sense into them. Motherfuckers. They don't
Speaker 1: know all the time. And I'm not saying gonna beat
Speaker 1: your friend up. I'm saying sometimes you have to show
Speaker 1: a person a mirror because she don't know what she doing. Like,
Speaker 1: she know what she doing, but she don't really realize
Speaker 1: how fucked up she is. And this is a reaction
Speaker 1: to how she she's reacting to what the fuck is
Speaker 1: going on in her life, but she's projecting at the
Speaker 1: same time, but she don't see it like that. You
Speaker 1: feel me. She she know what she's doing, but at
Speaker 1: the same time, she don't. She don't realize why she
Speaker 1: doing this shit. And sometimes you got to turn the
Speaker 1: mirror on a person. But I think that's not your job.
Speaker 1: That's a therapist's job to do that for her, you know.
Speaker 1: So I will fall back. I will fall back. The
Speaker 1: no remorse thing is just it's that's fucked up. So
Speaker 1: sometimes you got to fall back from a person and
Speaker 1: let her come around, you know, let her come around,
Speaker 1: and let her come around. When she got some sense,
Speaker 1: and when she ready to have a real conversation and
Speaker 1: you're actually ready to sit down and.
Speaker 2: Tell her what I just told you. Like yo, you've
Speaker 2: been projecting on me.
Speaker 1: I feel like you know, like you know, you really
Speaker 1: got to have uncomfortable conversations with your friends sometimes, and
Speaker 1: that's how you really stand to see if they your
Speaker 1: real friends are not you know, friends for us. Friends fight,
Speaker 1: friends make up, you know, and friends keep it real.
Speaker 2: With each other.
Speaker 1: So I think I just think you should fall back,
Speaker 1: fix what you got at home, you know, because it's
Speaker 1: starting to be a strained. I mean, a drain on
Speaker 1: your relationship is starting to fuck up.
Speaker 2: Shit.
Speaker 1: You make sure your house is good, You make sure
Speaker 1: you and your significant other are good. Fall back from her,
Speaker 1: let her come around, you know, y'all work to repair
Speaker 1: that relationship, you know, and if she don't change, y'all
Speaker 1: just grew apart. That's you go your way, she goers,
Speaker 1: That's how that ship go.
Speaker 2: You know. Never let nobody disturb your peace. Your piece
Speaker 2: is all you got, you know. So I liked it.
Speaker 2: I love y'all.
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