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Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back

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Speaker 1: with yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl Jess.

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Speaker 2: Hilarious. What do I be doing? I'll be fixing mess.

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Speaker 1: So we're gonna jump straight and we got Taylor here.

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Speaker 1: You're she gonna be in and outcause she got some

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Speaker 1: stuff to do today. She had a little fake busy

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Speaker 1: and pregnant over there. So say hey, Taylor, Hey, all right, y'all.

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Speaker 2: So I'm gonna read.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna start off reading and then I'll feel you

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Speaker 1: and when you come back. All right, what's popping, Jess.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna start off strong. I'm a twenty seven year

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Speaker 1: old lesbian who has damn Okay, all right, she did

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Speaker 1: say she's gonna start off strong. I'm a twenty seven

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Speaker 1: year old lesbian who has a girlfriend who sells feet picks. Okay,

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Speaker 1: she hasn't always done it, but she's definitely doing it now.

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Speaker 1: About three months ago, she lost her job and I've

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Speaker 1: been carrying her. We also live with each other, by

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Speaker 1: the way. Recently, things have been getting kind of slow

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Speaker 1: because it's only one working person in the household and

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Speaker 1: all my income is going toward bills and etc. So

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Speaker 1: that means no extra shit been going on. Yes, she

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Speaker 1: was looking for jobs, but no luck. One day out

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Speaker 1: of nowhere, she just deposited thirty five hundred dollars in

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Speaker 1: my account. She told me this was from the last

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Speaker 1: two month's rent and she'll have another three thousand next week.

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Speaker 1: So now I'm like, Okay, you found a job, and

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Speaker 1: she's saying, yes, she's doing paid partnerships and collapse and

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Speaker 1: it's turning out well for her. I didn't really question

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Speaker 1: it too much. I was just happy that things were

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Speaker 1: turning around. So a few days ago I had to

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Speaker 1: pick up her phone for something and I seen a

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Speaker 1: message that said you ready.

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Speaker 2: In my head, I'm like, you ready for what?

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Speaker 1: But I just let it play out. She didn't go nowhere,

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Speaker 1: so I'm like, who could this be? That night, I

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Speaker 1: decided to pick up her phone again and see who

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Speaker 1: texted her. I look through the thread and she's been

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Speaker 1: sending feet, picks and videos of herself to this number

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Speaker 1: for the past two months. M When I say this,

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Speaker 1: nigga paying hundreds of dollars for this girl's feet, he

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Speaker 1: really is and her feet, not even all that. Hey, yo,

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Speaker 1: you're better fucking chill. Anyways, the messages weren't crazy. It

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Speaker 1: just seemed like she just sends what she sends, and

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Speaker 1: he sends the funds.

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Speaker 2: And that be it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, So it's kind of platonic a little

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Speaker 1: bit like as well. Not platonic because he beating off

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Speaker 1: to her feet, but in a way. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: ain't really doing them. I honestly don't really know how

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Speaker 1: I feel about it, but I do want to say something,

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Speaker 1: not gonna lie.

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Speaker 2: I feel like the only reason.

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Speaker 1: She hasn't said anything because she may feel embarrassed, And

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't prefer her to do that, but

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Speaker 1: until she can get to where she wants to be,

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna knock her. But yes, there are other

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Speaker 1: ways to make money. How would you approach the situation, Jess? Honestly,

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Speaker 1: it's so much of a shit. The trip about y'all,

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is not one of them. I'm just

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Speaker 1: gonna be completely honest with you. Y'all come to me

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Speaker 1: so I can help fix y'all mess, and not only

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Speaker 1: fix y'all mess based off of my experience, right, And

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Speaker 1: I just don't really.

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Speaker 2: Feel like it's that serious for you to.

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Speaker 1: You know, I mean, you didn't say you were gonna

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Speaker 1: break up with her, all right, So Taylor just joined

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Speaker 1: us again, all right. So basically his girl, Oh no,

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Speaker 1: she's a twenty seven year old lesbian. Yes, she came

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Speaker 1: on strong, Yes, all right, my big So her girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: you know, she's been them two living a house together, right,

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Speaker 1: and so she had lost her job.

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Speaker 2: The girlfriend lost her job.

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Speaker 1: But the girl that's writing us, she uh, she'd been

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Speaker 1: working and she been taking care of the household and everything.

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Speaker 1: But shit just getting a little tight because it's only

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Speaker 1: one person making money in the household.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: So, out of no where, her girlfriend just dropped thirty

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Speaker 1: five hundred dollars in an account, right, and she like, fuck, okay, cool.

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Speaker 1: She ain't never asked me where it came from, numb,

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Speaker 1: and she was like, I'm gonna give you another three

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Speaker 1: right cool. So she just you know, just dropping money,

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Speaker 1: paying bills and shit. So she like, she goes in

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Speaker 1: this guy who's paying hundreds of dollars. She went up

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Speaker 1: and down the thread. She and she felt like is

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Speaker 1: it cheating or is it not? And then also why

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Speaker 1: she may be embarrassed and shit, but you know, and

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Speaker 1: she was like, I don't want to knock what she do.

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Speaker 1: But it's like there are other ways to make money.

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Speaker 2: No, Nah, she hasn't.

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Speaker 1: She said she wants to because she want to know

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Speaker 1: how should she approach the situation and she's not mad

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how are you getting the money?

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Speaker 1: And she said, they ain't talking about nothing else. Literally,

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Speaker 1: she sends the feet, the nigga send the funds. So

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Speaker 1: there's just feet funds, feet funds, feet funds. You know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. That's it they ain't talking about. No,

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Speaker 1: I love you, I can't wait to see you. I

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Speaker 1: want to suck on your feet or whatever. He just yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's a fetish and that this is not the first

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Speaker 1: time I've heard of some shit, Like it's like niggas

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Speaker 1: pay big bread to see bitches play with their feet

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Speaker 1: on OnlyFans Like, yes, they do that.

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Speaker 2: That's so weird.

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Speaker 1: Hold up, hold up, I noticed shit getting good. But

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Speaker 1: listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial.

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Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen. So I don't feel

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Speaker 1: like it's that. I don't feel like what I said.

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Speaker 1: I feel like this. I honestly and truly feel that

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Speaker 2: You know, shulty getting the money and she's getting it

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Speaker 2: on us. She's not.

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Speaker 1: It's not illegal, she ain't got to watch her back,

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Speaker 1: she ain't selling drugs, she's not cheating on you, you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean. She don't even know the guy,

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Speaker 1: never met the guy. I mean, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: If you do research to find out, you probably would

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Speaker 3: I mean, unless she has, unless she's a deep thinker,

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Speaker 3: Like what else has she done behind my back?

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Speaker 1: She surely just trying to find a way to get

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Speaker 1: and then hold up the girlfriend said, And this is

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Speaker 2: Even all that Hey, yo, yes, Like why would you

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Speaker 2: even do that? Like that's fucked up? You know, honestly,

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Speaker 2: maybe they could go in together and be.

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Speaker 3: Like, I got another feet for you, and then he

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Speaker 3: gets double and he pays more.

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Speaker 2: What if her feet sucked up what if she got

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Speaker 2: studed feet. I don't know what stuff feet is.

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Speaker 1: Hey, y'all I got I mean, I don't know what

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Speaker 1: stuff you would have would have would if shorty that's rightness?

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Speaker 2: What if her feet ain't all that what she gotta

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Speaker 2: get it? Right? Then?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he'll said, Just tell him I got some more

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Speaker 1: feet and he'll he'll pay double. You are dumb, yo,

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Speaker 1: that's not how that. God, I got some more feet

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Speaker 1: so you can get.

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Speaker 2: More money out of it, right right?

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, that's but how she should have approached the

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Speaker 2: Just sit down and talk to her about it.

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Speaker 1: Honestly, I would tell her that your sneaky as went

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Speaker 1: I've been carrying us and everything, and I really really

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Speaker 1: I did have some questions about where it came from,

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Speaker 1: and maybe I should have asked you right then and there,

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Speaker 1: but you know, I just you know, let it be.

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Speaker 1: You know, you know, you gained some independence. It was cool,

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Speaker 1: it was cool, but I did go.

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Speaker 2: Through your phone.

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Speaker 1: I got a little uh got a little curious went

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Speaker 1: through your phone. I've seen that you be sending feet,

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Speaker 1: Just just leave that part out, but tell her that,

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Speaker 1: you know, be honest with it. Like, Yo, it bothered me.

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Speaker 1: It kind of bothered me a little bit to see

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know how.

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Speaker 1: You can even be honest and tell her. I don't

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Speaker 1: if I but like you're cheating. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: I should be mad, angry, insecure, betrayed, whatever.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how I feel.

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Speaker 1: I just want to talk to you about it and

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Speaker 1: you you know, and then y'all can just hash that

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Speaker 1: shit out. You know. That's just what Ninety percent of

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Speaker 1: is communication. You have to have communication and then you know,

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Speaker 2: For the rest of the night. Here, yo, for real.

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Speaker 1: So I'm moving one to another story. Tell her you

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Speaker 3: Okay, Hey, Jess, what's up? So I'm gonna get straight

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Speaker 3: to it. I think I finally found the love of

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Speaker 3: my life. I'm so happy with him. He's a gentleman,

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Speaker 3: for almost a year, but I really think he's the one,

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Speaker 3: Like I said, but the issue is I have a

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Speaker 3: best friend who seems to be jealous of him. Now.

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Speaker 3: Me and my best friend been friends for about eight years.

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Speaker 3: That's my sister for real, but ever since I've been

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Speaker 3: dating this guy, she seems to be a lot more protective.

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Speaker 3: Anne even said when she met him she didn't feel

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Speaker 3: she would get along with him, which is crazy because

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Speaker 3: he's been nothing but nice to her and I'm happy

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Speaker 3: with him, so I would think she'll be happy for me.

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Speaker 2: Plus, she got a guy of her.

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Speaker 3: Own that she claims she's happy with, but trust me,

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Speaker 3: they got issues. But that's the story for another day. Anyway,

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Speaker 3: she ended up ruining a surprise gift for my boyfriend

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Speaker 3: and claims she told me to make sure I would

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Speaker 3: like it, Like, what the fuck, it's a surprise, why

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Speaker 3: would you ruin that? And she's not even being a

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Speaker 3: poljectic towards it. I'm upset with her, and my boyfriend

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Speaker 3: definitely is too. I just don't know what to do

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Speaker 3: because I want everyone to get along.

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Speaker 2: Hmm, yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like there's a bit of jealousy there actually,

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Speaker 1: which is worse. I think envy is worse than jealousy

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Speaker 1: because envy is when you will start being like, like

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Speaker 1: the same thing. Well I kind of sad, yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 1: because being jealous is just yeah, like envious, I want

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Speaker 1: Envy is more revengeful, I think, yeah, more Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: That is projection, like shit, and friends will do.

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Speaker 2: That sure that you liked it? That's so fucking weird.

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Speaker 2: Because that that that's how I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Man, he told he told your friend in confidence. He

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Speaker 2: So wait, what was the question? Like what should she say?

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Speaker 3: She wants everyone to get along. She's not apologetic about it,

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Speaker 2: Oh, the friend okay, so the friend don't even care.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and the boyfriend's like it's causing a rest up.

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Speaker 2: It's like it's like, come on, yo, this is too much.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you got to fall back from people, BIB like

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean? Has I mean, like she said,

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Speaker 1: So why the fuck are you over here? Because ain't

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Speaker 1: So that's the reason, because you know, it's principle, it's

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Speaker 2: Like I just want to say, if you liked.

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Speaker 1: It, nah, bitch you this makes you feel good, like

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Speaker 3: Fucking you know how she said, she said, like she's

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Speaker 1: I know you can't do that on her mm hm

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Speaker 1: there's some type of manipulation she you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Like that shit is no, no, don't let her play

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Speaker 2: But the way you are putting it to me is

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Speaker 1: It's the best best thing that I ever happened to

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Speaker 1: You trying to you know, man, you got shit to do,

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Speaker 2: What do you think they just stop being friend?

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Speaker 1: I think she should fall back. I wouldn't say throw

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Speaker 2: Tell her what I just told you. Like yo, you've

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Speaker 1: I feel like you know, like you know, you really

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Speaker 1: So I think I just think you should fall back,

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Speaker 1: You make sure your house is good, You make sure

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Speaker 1: let her come around, you know, y'all work to repair

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Speaker 2: You know. Never let nobody disturb your peace. Your piece

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Speaker 2: is all you got, you know. So I liked it.

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